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Post-Election Holiday Survival Guide p. 23

Trans Day of Remembrance p. 14

Thoughts of a Trans Man p. 16

4 Annual Appeal 6 From the Editor 8 News Briefs 10 Calendar 12 Transosaurus Rex 12 Poetry by Felicia 14 Transgender Day of Remembrance 15 Providence Trans March of Resilience 16 Thoughts of a Trans Man 17 TGI Network 20 Out on the Town

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22 Sojourner House Masquerade Ball 23 Post-Election Holiday Survival Guide 24 Here’s Where I Stand 27 Just When You Were Beginning to Feel Safe 28 AIDS Care Ocean State 26 AIDS Project RI 30 Some Truths About Sexually Transmitted Diseases 31 Resources

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From the Editor Dear Reader, Originally, we planned on focusing this issue on the local transgender community by including stories that highlighted trans community members, identity discussions, the progress we’ve seen with antidiscrimination laws, and the Transgender Day of Remembrance. While the issue certainly achieves our initial goal, we felt it was important to work in some editorial pieces that addressed a major event that happened since we last published; the election. The 2016 Presidential election took the country by surprise as we watched Donald Trump become our President-elect. Many watched his win of the Electoral College unfold and asked “How could this be? How could an individual who so strongly stood against what we believe in win the election?” After seeing so much progress over the past decade, we are now again at a point where many in the community are scared, confused, upset, and worried about our future. While Options can’t solve every problem on our own, we can, and do, provide a space for our community to discuss, learn, and react to the world around us. In the pages that follow, you’ll learn about the history of the Transgender Day of Remembrance and hear from several trans community members about the state of the trans community within the state. Nicole Nelson shares her thoughts on how to survive the holidays post-election, while one of our regular contributing writers, Bradford Greer, provides commentary on the status of our community’s fight toward justice and equality.

We are now in a time, where we can’t sit down and remain quiet. We must continue to get up, and take a stand! As so eloquently sung in Hamilton, “Rise up! When you’re living on your knees, you rise up. Tell your brother that he’s gotta rise up. Tell your sister that she’s gotta rise up.” Consider using your voice by contributing a story or letter to this publication. If you find the content we publish each month to be valuable to you and the community at large, I’d also encourage you to make a contribution to our annual appeal this holiday season. It costs more than $108,000 to publish, print, mail, and distribute Options each year. Your investment in our nonprofit publication will ensure that 2017 is our best yet!

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Researchers Exonerate ‘Patient Zero’ from AIDS Origin Story While genetically sequencing samples from people infected with AIDS during its infancy, scientists have determined when and where the virus first took hold in the United States. In doing so, they have cleared the man accused of bringing the epidemic stateside.The man, who was referred to as Patient Zero and vilified in the 1987 book And the Band Played On: Politics, People, and the AIDS Epidemic, by journalist Randy Shilts. A team of researchers at the University of Arizona sequenced the HIV virus sampled from Gaetan Dugas and found that his blood looked too similar to other patients’ samples from around the same time to be the first case in the U.S.A. “The virus got to New York City pretty darn early,” Says Michael Worobey, an evolutionary biologist leading the study. “It was really under the radar for a decade or so.” The recent research shows that by the time Dugas caught HIV, there were already many people-- possibly even thousands –

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already infected with HIV. Dugas was far from the villain he was made out to be: he was known by those close to him a kind and charismatic person who volunteered at a nonprofit to help others infected right before his death in 1984. “To me, there’s something nice about going back and correcting the record,” says Worobey. “He has been blamed for things that no one should be blamed for.” Queer Tours of London Slated to Begin in 2017 An activist group in London has organized a walking tour of queer culture landmarks around the city in order bring to light the history that is often overlooked or intentionally overwritten. Although the tours don’t kick off officially until February 2017, a select group of activists from Russia and other parts of Europe were treated to a preview. Dan Glass, the tour guide treated his first group to a history of London’s queer dive bars, old cruising bathrooms and electroshock clinics. The queer tour crew estimate that one-third of London’s queer spaces have been closed in the last two years alone with more locations slated to be closed down in upcoming years. Because London has no queer museum or dedicated queer center, its history must be shared or else it will be completely forgotten. This queer tour aims to educate and enlighten those interested in order to keep London’s vibrant history alive. Nonprofit LGBT Tech Group Opens First Branch in Boston “Out in Tech”, a New York City-based nonprofit seeking to relieve some of the seemingly inevitable alienation members of the LGBT community can face while working in the tech world, has launched their Boston branch with a recent kick off mixer in Downtown Boston. The launch had over 50 attendees gathered in a modern event space, sipping complimentary beverages and contributing sticky notes to idea boards set up by Out in Tech organizers Alexis Schuette, Cole Dachenhaus, Lakshmi Kannan and Michael Powers. “The vision of Out in Tech is to provide a place where people in the queer community can be visible and encourage each other,” Schuette said, “while providing a space where we not only can gather and

discuss issues … but also give back to the community.” Other than networking event, the organization, that also has branches in Los Angeles and San Francisco in addition to NYC and Boston will offer career development resources, web services and youth outreach programs in addition to mixers and networking events. “We want to show folks that there are queer people actually working these jobs,” Schuette said, sounding hopeful. “A lot of us wouldn’t be here without someone pulling us up with them or sending the elevator down for us.” Providence Gay Couple’s $250,000 Wedding Now that President-elect Donald J. Trump is in America’s immediate future, LGBT couples are flocking to the alter. When Trump said in a “Fox News Sunday” interview last January that, if elected, he would “strongly consider” appointing U.S. Supreme Court justices who would overrule the decision allowing samesex marriage, he ruffled more than a few feathers. Couples like Providence’s Patrick Cheeseman and Matthew Adey, have made the decision to go all out on their weddings just because they still have the freedom to do so. The couple spent a reported $250,000 dollars on their wedding last month. The celebration, meticulously planned by the grooms and Boston wedding planner Nicole Simeral, included a giant imported candelabra, a string quartet, a bagpiper, a five-star menu and 81 hotel rooms for their guests, among other luxuries. The extra frills were an expense that guests no doubt appreciated in a time when the few privileges that the LGBT community has amassed could be waning. “It’s almost like a little black cloud,”Adey said. “It makes you realize that about half of our country supports a man and a running mate who don’t support my rights as a gay man.” The grooms, like so many other couples getting married before Trump’s reign begin, believe that hate can never hinder the bonds that have already been forged within their communities. “I just hope that it renews folks’ hope and faith that love is going to prevail and we’re stronger together,” said Cheeseman,“and to celebrate the love that two human beings who happen to be gay are sharing.”q

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CALENDAR OF EVENTS DECEMBER

Thu. 1 World AIDS Day Event, 9am9pm. Barnes & Noble, 1350 Bald Hill Road, Warwick. Featuring readings and signings with local authors, free and confidential HIV testing, a performance by the Providence Gay Men’s Chorus, and a 2:30pm press conference. Up to 20% of all sales will be donated to AIDS Care Ocean State. For more information, GeorgeM@AIDSCareOS. org or 521-3603 ext. 117. Sat. 3 Youth Pride Inc. Holiday Open House, 2-5pm. 743 Westminster Street, Providence. Community Awards presented at 4pm. Free. All, including families, are welcome.

Wed. 7 SalsaConSoul night by TeamFusionRI, 8pm-1am. Aurora, 276 Westminster Street, Providence. Open to dancers of all levels of experience. No partner needed. $15 cover, includes a lesson. $10 after 10pm. For more info, facebook.com/SalsaConSoul. Thu. 8 The Providence Gay Men’s Chorus “Naughty Or Nice” Concert, 7pm. Beneficent Congregational Church, 300 Weybosset St, Providence. Tickets are $25, $20 for seniors, and can purchased at www.provgmc.org. Thu. 8 Sweet Little Variety Show, 8pm. Aurora, 276 Westminster Street, Providence.A queer-produced potpourri of entertainment, featuring comic Rich Hite, musician Lara Herscovitch, Kristen Minsky and the Tropigals, and more. $7. Find Sweet Little Variety Show on Facebook. Fri. 9 The Providence Gay Men’s Chorus “Naughty Or Nice” Concert, 7pm. Beneficent Congregational Church, 300 Weybosset St, Providence. Tickets are $25, $20 for seniors, and can purchased at www.provgmc.org.

Sun. 4 Trans Swim Night, 4-6pm. McDermott Pool, 975 Sandy Lane, Warwick. Sun. 4 Rocky Horror Picture Show & RKO Army shadow cast; 7pm doors, 7:30pm pre-show, 8pm movie. Aurora, 276 Westminster Street, Providence. $10 benefits RI Pride. For more info, www. prideri.com.

Sun. 11 RI Prime Timers, 4:30-7pm. Social, dinner, and networking group for older gay and bi men on second Sundays. For more info,www.riprimetimers.org or call Steve at 996-3010. Mon. 12 Coppola-Turner Overdrive, 8pm. The Village, 373 Richmond Street, Providence. $5. Reservations can be made at www.thevillageri.com or 2287222. Wed. 14 Pride RI Holiday Party, 7-9pm. Pride Center, 1055 Westminster Street, Floor 2, Providence. Beverages and hors d’oeuvres provided, though you are welcome to bring a dish to share. Wed. 14 Headmaster Magazine Holiday Bowl, 8-11pm. BreakTime Bowl & Bar, 999 Main Street, Pawtucket. Free to party and $20 for an hour lane rental, which can be reserved at headmastermagazine.com. Thu. 15 Drag Bingo: Xmas is a Drag Bingo, 6-9pm. Riviera Bingo Palace, 1612 Elmwood Avenue, Cranston. $20 gets you in all games with over $2,000 in cash and prizes awarded monthly. Hosted by Haley Star and LaDiva Jonz. All funds raised benefit AIDS Care Ocean State and AIDS Project RI.

Sat. 3 In My Own Little Corner, 2pm. A solo cabaret performance by Brennan Srisirikul, a gay 25 year-old man with cerebral palsy. Paff Auditorium, URI Providence Campus, 80 Washington Street. Free and open to the public. For info, contact Steven at 277-5206 or uri. artsandculture@gmail.com. Sat. 3 VulGarrity, 8pm. The Village, 373 Richmond Street, Providence. $5. Reservations can be made at www. thevillageri.com or 228-7222.

4pm. Beneficent Congregational Church, 300 Weybosset St, Providence. Tickets are $25, $20 for seniors, and can purchased at www.provgmc.org.

Fri. 9 Comedian Kristen Becker, 8pm. The Village, 373 Richmond Street, Providence. $10. Reservations can be made at www.thevillageri.com or 2287222. Sat. 10 The Providence Gay Men’s Chorus “Naughty Or Nice” Concert, 7pm. Beneficent Congregational Church, 300 Weybosset St, Providence. Tickets are $25, $20 for seniors, and can purchased at www.provgmc.org. Sun. 11 The Providence Gay Men’s Chorus “Naughty Or Nice” Concert,

Fri. 16 SAGE LGBT Café, noon-2pm. Church of the Transfiguration, 1665 Broad Street, Cranston. A delicious, low-cost lunch in a gay-friendly setting sponsored by Meals on Wheels, the Department of Elderly Affairs, and SAGE-RI. Programming after lunch. A $3 donation is suggested for LGBT people 60+ and people with disabilities; a $6 donation is suggested for all others. Reservations required: Call Pauline at 351-6700. Fri. 16 Rock & Trivia Night with Babies for Us, 7-10pm. Indigo Pizza, Coventry. Featuring live music with Pearl Band, three rounds of trivia with prizes, and pizza buffet included. Benefits a lesbian

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needed. $15 cover, includes lessons. $10 after 10pm. For more info, facebook. com/SalsaConSoul.

Sun. 18 Interweave Potluck Dinner and Programming, 5:30-8pm. Parish Hall of Channing Memorial Church, 135 Pelham Street, Newport. Interweave is a group for LGBTQ people and allies. Bring a dish to share. For more information, contact Rex at 595-9068 or rex88296@ yahoo.com.

Sun. 8 RI Prime Timers, 4:30-7pm. Social, dinner, and networking group for older gay and bi men on second Sundays. For more info,www.riprimetimers.org or call Steve at 996-3010.

Wed. 21 Queer Book Club, 7-9:30pm. Books on the Square, 471 Angell Street, Providence. Reading: American Savage by Dan Savage. Discount if book is purchased at Books on the Square. For more info, email queerbookclub@gmail. com.

Fri. 23 Chris Harris’ Twerkalicious Birthday. Club EGO, 73 Richmond Street, Providence,

Thu. 12 Sweet Little Variety Show, 8pm. Aurora, 276 Westminster Street, Providence. A queer-produced potpourri of entertainment celebrating its 7th anniversary. $7. Find Sweet Little Variety Show on Facebook. Sun. 15 Interweave Potluck Dinner and Programming, 5:30-8pm. Parish Hall of Channing Memorial Church, 135 Pelham Street, Newport. Interweave is a group for LGBTQ people and allies. Bring a dish to share. For more information, contact Rex at 595-9068 or rex88296@ yahoo.com. Wed. 18 Queer Book Club, 7-9:30pm. Books on the Square, 471 Angell Street, Providence. Reading: Under the Udala Trees by Chinelo Okparanta. Discount if book is purchased at Books on the Square. For more info, email queerbookclub@gmail.com.

Sat. 31 New Year’s Eve @ Club EGO, open ‘til 4am. 73 Richmond Street, Providence.

sponsored by Meals on Wheels, the Department of Elderly Affairs, and SAGE-RI. Programming after lunch. A $3 donation is suggested for LGBT people 60+ and people with disabilities; a $6 donation is suggested for all others. Reservations required: Call Pauline at 351-6700. Sat. 21 Bachata/Kizomba Fusion Night by TeamFusionRI, 8pm-2am. Aurora, 276 Westminster Street, Providence. Open to dancers of all levels of experience. No partner needed. $20 cover, includes two lessons. $15 after 10pm. For more info, facebook.com/SalsaConSoul. . Regularly Scheduled Support Groups: ACOS (HIV/AIDS): youth, Tue. 4pm/gay males, Wed. 1:30pm LGBT Alcoholics Anonymous: Tue. 7pm PFLAG (parents, friends, allies): 1st & 3rd Wed. 6:45pm TGI Network (trans): 1st & 3rd Tue. 7pm/Sat. 1pm TransFamily New England: 2nd Mon. 6:30pm YPI (youth): Way Out, Thu. 4pm/Gender Spectrum, Tue. 4pm/youth 13 and under: Thu. 5pm See Resources on page 30 for more info.

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Fri. 20 SAGE LGBT Café, noon-2pm. Church of the Transfiguration, 1665 Broad Street, Cranston. A delicious, low-cost lunch in a gay-friendly setting

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TRANSGENDER DAY OF REMEMBRANCE:

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On November 20th, we memorialized the vast number of individuals who were murdered just because they were transgender. In this country alone, we lost twenty-three trans women, all women of color. This number rises with each passing year. This also doesn’t account for all the people who were “only” beaten or otherwise assaulted. It also doesn’t account for all the people who were killed where their status as transgender went unrepor ted. This is how it began. On November 28, 1998, a 34-year-old trans woman of color by the name of Rita Hester, was murdered in Allston, MA. She was the four th victim of a spate of hate crimes on transgender people in the Boston area. Her murder is still unsolved. This made national

news, not because the woman was transgender, but rather because of the number of victims. In 1999, a trans woman in California, Gwendolyn Ann Smith, star ted the first Transgender Day of Remembrance to honor Rita and all the other transgender people who were killed the previous year. Her actions drew a line in the sand, where enough was enough; the community has gotten to that “We are not going to go quietly anymore” attitude. These were crimes against people whose only offense was and is trying to live their lives authentically. This sentiment rings true as much today as it did then. Gwendolyn Ann Smith said it best.

violence. I am no stranger to the need to fight for OUR rights, and the right to simply exist is first and foremost. With so many seeking to erase transgender people, sometimes in the most brutal ways possible, it is vitally impor tant that those we lose are remembered and that we continue to fight for justice.” We have come a long way. We here in RI are celebrating 15 years of some of the best anti-discrimination laws in the country. But it is far from over. We are but one of the 19 states with any anti-discrimination laws. We still have 31 states to go. We still have violence and bigotry, hatred and ignorance. This is one fight we CANNOT lose.q

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TRANS LIFE IS RESISTANCEThe Providence Trans* March of Resilience By Steve Ahlquist

The Providence Trans* March of Resilience is “a way to honor those who have lost their lives, especially trans people of color, our community, and ourselves,” say organizers from Brown University’s LGBTQ Center and the Providence Youth Student Movement (PrYSM). About 150 people gathered at Knight Memorial Library on Broad St in Providence in advance of the short march, which took about twenty minutes in the brisk and windy morning air. When the group arrived at PrYSM’s space, there were “speakers, community partner resources, self-care activities, and an open mic space for storytelling and community building.” The march is held in conjunction with the Trans Day of Remembrance, an annual day of observance to remember the lives that have been lost to anti-trans violence, oppressive systems, and suicide.q

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Thoughts of a Trans Man Written by an anonymous community member When I first sat down to write this, I focused my attention on the topic of male privilege from the trans male experience. As I began to write, there was something else pulling at me. It was a louder voice drawing my attention. What was the voice telling me? You have something else to say. Love and hate; violence and compassion; fear and peace; anger and understanding for the human condition. These are the feelings that have been occupying my mind most as a trans man. This is the reality that surrounds me, my loved ones, and friends more than ever. I found myself reminded of a part of my past I thought had laid to rest. Living as a man, I am now whole. The shell, my outer presentation, is now my physical self. My core, the person I have always been on a mental, emotional, and spiritual level, is now complete. Now both shell and core can continue to grow as the transformation has brought peace to the inner turmoil, calmness to the anxiety, and more self assuredness to the fears. I now stand up straighter, walk with more confidence, speak with a growing

awareness of who I am; and the world sees the same. No longer will the employee at Home Depot try to persuade me to purchase a certain model cordless drill because, “It’s more petite and will fit in your hand better.” Now I am offered the biggest, most powerful, bad-ass drill on the market! Mind you, neither scenario is particularly appealing to me. I’d prefer they see me as a human being first and guide me in a direction that is most relevant and useful. No longer am I asked at the automotive store, “Did your husband send you to get this?” Now, I am shuffled along by the sales associate to what I need, out the door, and on my way. No longer am I mis-gendered in line for coffee, in a restaurant, or paying for a pack of gum. The things, people, and places I had previously avoided out of fear, shame, and acute anxiety, I can now navigate with reasonable ease. Maybe it’s just me, but I suspect others can relate. Maybe only another transgender or non-binary person can relate to that moment when

you are recognized as an “IT”. I know that moment—the look of confusion on a stranger’s face when they can’t quite figure out if “Hey buddy” or “Excuse me, ma’am” is necessary; all too frequently followed by a disturbed, even angry “What are you?!” That unwanted attention of passersby, drawn in by curiosity, gawking and wanting to get their fill of gossip. “Yeah, what is it?” No longer does that humiliation haunt me. And thankfully, no longer am I cornered in a women’s bathroom with a broken bottle held to my throat by an ignorant person, demanding I tell everyone in the crowded nightclub bathroom what I was. A boy or a girl, live or die. Those were my options. What makes the situation even more disturbing was that it came from my own community, in a gay bar. Now, while I can confidently enter a men’s bathroom, do my thing and leave, I am leery of what the future may hold for me and my community. But that is another story. So instead of a piece on male privilege, I had to tell my story.q

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n November 20th, TGI Network hosted our annual Transgender Day of Remembrance service. Over one hundred people came together at Beneficent Congregational Church in Providence to honor the lives of those killed this year throughout the world. Once again, we find ourselves with a record number of murders here in the United States. Twenty-four transgender people, all but one women of color, were murdered in our country alone. Overall, ninety-six people were honored at the event. Monique Paul served as emcee and offered a history of TDOR to kick off the evening. We welcomed Mayor Elorza, who shared his thoughts in suppor t of the transgender community and reassured everyone that despite the uncer tain future we face politically, Providence is committed to protecting us. TGI Network was also honored to feature three keynote speakers at the event: Tatiana Jones, a Trans Peer Outreach Worker for Project Weber/RENEW; Valerie Larkin, a technologist, scientist, and writer ; and August Guang, a PhD candidate at Brown University and committed fighter for queer & trans liberation. Rev. Dr. Gwendolyn Howard also spoke, offering a powerful benediction. Speakers shared about their personal experiences while also discussing the impor tance of working together towards transgender equality. They reminded us that the personal is political and urged community members to adopt a critical eye and a passion for collective justice. TGI Network stands behind the words of August Guang, who called for the passage of the robust Community Safety Act, and we urge our community members to encourage their city council representatives to suppor t the initiative. It is clear that we are entering a period of uncer tainty, but, as a community, we are well acquainted with struggle. It is imperative that we continue to work together to protect and secure our rights. TGI Network is committed to our mission of serving the needs of our community. q Incorporated in 2011, TGI Network of Rhode Island is the only statewide organization providing support and advocacy for the TGI community in Rhode Island and surrounding areas. Our mission is to serve the needs of the transgender, gender-variant, and intersex (TGI) communities in Rhode Island and surrounding areas through support, advocacy, and education. We seek to be a resource for TGI people navigating their life journeys as well as the legal and medical systems through our own programs and through collaboration with other organizations. In addition, we seek to serve as a resource to professionals working with the TGI community and as a liaison between the TGI and LGB communities, as well as the community at large. To learn more, please visit tginetwork.org.

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Sojourner House’s 6th Annual Masquerade Ball

RAISES OVER $75,000

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he Providence Biltmore was transformed into a Cuban tropical paradise on Friday November 18th for Sojourner House’s 6th annual Masquerade Ball fundraiser. Over 350 guests came dressed in their best Cuban attire, and enjoyed Havana Mojitos and Cuban sliders. The evening featured Cuban music from the band Infusion Evolution, entertainment from Chifferobe’s TropiGals, and Salsa dancing performed by Sydonee Harris and Hector Solis. DJ RedDawn closed out the evening with music and dancing.

community members is critical to fulfilling our mission and serving victims and survivors. 2016 was a great year for us. Havana Nights gave us the opportunity to thank all of our supporters and celebrate the year’s successes with them. This was our largest Ball yet, and we were able to raise more funds that ever before. We are so grateful to our supporters. With their support, we will be able to continue to offer programs and services to victims and survivors of domestic and sexual violence, including our programs dedicated to victims who identify as LGBTQ+.”

Lulu Locks once again hosted the evening, and Rhode Island’s most beloved drag queen, Miss Kitty Litter, came out of retirement for one night only to host the Ball’s live auction. The live auction raised $17,000 in funds from individual donors. A Disney vacation package was raffled off, and twelve prize packages were included in the evening’s silent auction. In total, the event raised over $75,000 for Sojourner House’s programs and services dedicated to serving victims and survivors of domestic and sexual violence in Rhode Island.

“At the heart of Sojourner House’s mission is to provide culturally competent services that meet the needs of victims and survivors, including victims who identify as LGBTQ+. Programs specifically dedicated to the LGBTQ+ community include one-on-one advocacy, support groups, prevention education, sexual health advocacy, shelter and housing, and work with local school-based gaystraight alliances. It was great to see such a large representation from the LGBTQ+ community at our annual Masquerade Ball. Support for our programs is critical now more than ever. We are so grateful for the support from the LGBTQ+ community and we are proud of the work that we do to advocate for individuals who identify as LGBTQ+ everyday.” q

Sojourner House’s Executive Director, Vanessa Volz, stated “Our annual Masquerade Ball is a great way to raise support for and awareness of Sojourner House. Support from donors and

Sojourner House is a comprehensive domestic violence and sexual assault agency. Founded in 1976, Sojourner House’s mission is to promote healthy relationships by providing culturally sensitive support, advocacy, and education for victims and survivors of domestic and sexual violence; and to effect systems change. Sojourner House is a member of the RI Coalition Against Domestic Violence and provides safe shelter, transitional housing, permanent supportive housing, the Providence metro area’s only drop-in advocacy and resource center, Rhode Island’s only shelters for male victims of domestic violence and for victims of human trafficking, support and advocacy for children who witness domestic violence, immigration advocacy, free HIV testing and support, and prevention education programs for students. For more information, visit www. sojournerri.org.

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Post-Election

Holiday Survival Guide

By Nicole Nelson

The election may be over but the holidays are just beginning and that could mean tense family parties for those of us in the LGBTQ community. Since you’re reading this you at least made it through Thanksgiving (kudos!) but we still have Hanukkah, Christmas, New Years and probably countless other holiday parties to get through between now and January. The holidays can be a difficult time for many reasons, like budgeting, health and travel stressors, never mind having to sit across from an intolerant family member who may or may not have voted against your rights and wellbeing as a queer person.

While Trump is getting acclimated in Washington many of us are slowly conceding to our new reality while also being expected to carry on with holiday merriment. If you are fortunate, you are moving through this holiday season with love and solidarity from your family. If you are not so lucky, you may be roasting chestnuts with relatives who voted for a man who ran a campaign on fiercely racist and homophobic platforms. Even if those relatives are adamant that they did not vote for him because of his racist, homophobic or sexist views, they voted for him anyway. So how do you make it through the gift grabs and ugly sweater parties?

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You have two options: You can attempt to maintain the peace and just make it through till dessert, or you can spend some energy this holiday pushing back against the blind or overt homophobia that may be seated at the table with you. Keep your mental and emotional welfare in mind as you decide how much energy you want to put into the political conversations this holiday. Here are some tangible strategies you could use so you can still enjoy your holidays whether you are confronting Trump supporters or just quietly sipping your eggnog.

• Before the festivities even get underway, ask the group to refrain from political talk. Your second cousin who had a Trump sticker on the back of his truck since 2015 may balk at the request but you’ll be doing everyone a favor. Everyone will likely appreciate the time where they’re enjoying each other’s company before alcohol starts to flow and tensions may start to rise. • If you want to have the political conversations, make time and space for them later, like after dinner or while the kids are outside playing. Before jumping in on the Clinton vs. Trump debates, accept (as best you can), that it is unlikely that these conversations will change the opinions of the opposing side. We sometimes enter these arguments with the intention of drastically changing minds and that’s just

not realistic. A lone conversation over pumpkin pie with your relative is not going to suddenly convert them to your way of thinking or point of view; be cognizant of that before entering those talks. • Take your emotional temperature. If you notice yourself becoming angry or frustrated it may be a good time to take a break from the conversation or switch topics. Often our most unproductive conversations occur when our emotions are running high. Go outside or find a supportive relative to help blow off some steam. •Give yourself permission to leave early or not to go to the holiday party at all. Your self-care and mental health are important things to prioritize, especially during holiday time. If you feel that going to your in-law’s is only going to bring you stress and frustration, perhaps it is best to find an alternative. Holiday time is supposed to be about fun, food and quality time spent with loved ones; it’s okay to go to the relative’s or friend’s house that will be most enjoyable. Wherever you end up this holiday season and through whichever ways you choose to tackle the tumultuous political talks, I hope safety, allied loved ones, fortune and of course great food follow you there. Take care of yourself out there, friends. q

Here’s Where I Stand By Brennan Srisirikul

I am Asian. I am a member of the LGBTQ+ community who identifies as gay. I am disabled. I have used a wheelchair my entire life. I know all too well what it’s like to feel marginalized and belittled for these attributes that I did not choose. I have been an afterthought of the system and society more times than I can even remember.The hard truth is that if I accepted things the

way they are I would still be in an institution. I and so many others continue to be denied justice even in times that are thought to be more progressive.

Our world is ever-changing, but one constant still remains: a person’s need for acceptance and inclusion. Inclusion is the celebration of all communities together.

My candidate for president was defeated. Mr. Trump has shown himself to be a bigot time and time again. He has mocked my communities and other minority groups publicly and unapologetically. So many people’s basic human rights are on the line. As I write this, hate crimes are on the rise.

In the past twenty-five years, I have heard more than my fair share of talk about inclusion, but we need action. Inclusion is practiced most efficiently, in my opinion, at the crossroad of access and action, the thought and practice of equality. We are the game changers, a responsibility we cannot take lightly. We have the power to continue to build a world where equality is not a question but an answer; a world where everyone is welcome to celebrate their differences and embrace their unique qualities.

Given my physical limitations, my thoughts, my words and my voice are my primary means of expression. To me, words are not just words; sometimes they’re all that I have. Now more than ever I realize their importance. I will not be silenced in this time when so many are yearning to be heard. I will not be bullied into fear. I will fight for what’s rightnot what’s easy. I will be a voice that reflects our diverse population. I will be an ally for those minority groups that I don’t belong to. I will lead by example.

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JUST WHEN YOU WERE BEGINNING TO FEEL SAFE By Bradford Greer

ust when you thought it was safe to be yourself. To hold your head up and be the best you could be…. cue the music to “Jaws,” you discover discrimination is on the rise. Or maybe it is the same level of discrimination but has stopped whimpering and is now rearing its ugly head and trying to roar. An AFRICAN AMERICAN became president of the United States and one would be hard pressed to remember a president treated with such widespread disrespect and disdain. Women are still being attacked sexually and disrespected personally and professionally. Muslims have been attacked and may be denied entry into the country and the undocumented threatened with indiscriminate deportation. A county clerk actually went to jail rather than to do her job and issue licenses for same sex couples to marry. “Fag” has been heard louder in the most disparaging way. Because of the gay rights movement which began with the Mattechine Society in 1950s, and the gay rights movement that accelerated in the 60’s, we have begun to move more freely around in public. We gained a seat at the table. And were finally being heard. We changed the perception of the homosexual from only Hairdresser/fashion designer/interior designer/ women’s gym teacher/ softball coach to include football player, news

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commentator, CEO, attorneys, politicians and everything in between. So many have become enlightened. We could assemble in public without harassment. We no longer had to search for love in the bushes and men’s rooms and behind secret doors without names. We can now use our own names without fear of publicity, family disownment, reprisal and discrimination.

fanned. There has been a return of the self centered intolerant by convincing them that they are the “Forgotten Ones” who are apparently the victims of the liberal politicians and politically correct media. Are you feeling safe? Comforted? Embraced in the bosom of humanity? Currently, we are still fighting for trans people to be able to use the rest room they are comfortable with.

Did discrimination actually go away? No. It didn’t. In certain areas of the country, gay people were and still are vilified There is still violence against any perception of homosexuality. Politicians are still fighting against the laws of a progressive society even while they themselves are secretly engaging in same sex relations.

It is up to us to continue the drive to move society forward that was begun by our predecessors. Do it in your own way. Every pebble in the water creates a ripple. Stand up to those who would rescind the freedoms we and those before us have fought so bravely and risked so much for. Stand with those who are embracing you in the struggle heading our way. There’s a new LGBTQ Center that will need your help. Resist Hate RI is forming with another meeting on December 10th. Who knows what you can do? Even if all you can do is wear a safety pin to indicate you are a safe harbor in a potentially rough sea, do that. Holly Near sang “We are singing for our lives.”That’s not all we’re doing. We’re not going to just step aside and allow this to happen. And anyone who thinks we will clearly doesn’t know the gay community from Rhode Island.q

Look at the progress we have made. We are no longer a mental disease, deficiency or aberration of the universe or any spiritual deity or second class citizens. We can marry each other, raise children and speak openly about our lives in the work place. We can serve openly (by law) in the military, the operating room, the police and fire departments and the classroom. We don’t have to hide anymore. No one can take that away from us. Not now. Not ever. As it turns out a great many people in our country see red when others are radically “Other”. That flame has been

ACOS Launches

Annual Giving Campaign By George Evans Marley AIDS Care Ocean State’s (ACOS) Annual Giving Campaign will assist more than 500 Rhode Islanders living with HIV/AID this holiday season. AIDS Care Ocean State was thrilled to start this year’s Adopt a Family campaign with an incredible donation of 75 Turkeys from The Make A Difference Foundation, who has donated Turkeys to ACOS for more than 10 years! Also, a generous donation from Stop and Shop and Dave’s Marketplace, guaranteed every family was able to have all the traditional Thanksgiving Fixins’.

in purchasing a gift for one of the families in need this year, they can visit one of the many giving trees across the state including, BankRI on Park Ave in Cranston, Dino’s Salon & Spa and Legend’s Sports Bar in Warwick and The Eagle, The Stable and The Alley Cat in Providence. Gifts can also be purchased by visiting AIDS Care Ocean State’s Amazon.com Wish List.

Our Toy Drives were kicked off at November’s Drag Bingo when over 100 bingo guests chose an ornament from our giving tree which included the ages of the children ACOS serves along with a toy or gift card they are hoping for, for Christmas.

Gifts of cash are always welcome and can be made at AIDSCareOS.org “A gift of $50.00 will ensure that a family, right here in Rhode Island, will have food, warm clothes, heat for their homes & a gift under the tree.” Said George Evans Marley Director of Development and Commutations at ACOS. Marley continues “This year’s donation to ACOS allows us to provide services to the more than 500 men, women, and children who are affected by or at risk for HIV infection.”

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to providing quality housing, case management, medical and nursing care, and prevention to adults, families, adolescents and children who are affected by or at risk for HIV infection. AIDS Care Ocean State will act as an advocate for individuals and families at risk while providing those support services needed to ensure and maintain a high quality of life for the people we serve. For more information about AIDS Care Ocean State’s Adopt-aFamily campaign, please contact George Evans Marley at 401-5213603 orGeorgeM@ AIDSCareOS.org. q In photo: ACOS Director of Development and Communications, George Evans Marley and Make a Difference Foundation Director, Shannon Russell (seated) alongside volunteers of The Make a Difference Foundation.

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AIDS Project RI Introduces

New Holiday Ornaments

By Stephen L. Hug

AIDS Project Rhode Island is pleased to introduce two new collector's edition holiday ornaments.

porcelain with 24 karat gold accents and shows a child opening a gift.

"These ornaments will raise greatly needed dollars for the fight against HIV/AIDS and, we hope, will raise spirits and give hope during a season that can be a trying time for many," said Stephen Hourahan, AIDS Project Rhode Island's executive director.

"Gathering of Hope 2016" features a winter scene with angels around a tree. It is also fine porcelain with 24 karat gold accents.

He noted that AIDS Project Rhode Island's ornaments have been collected by many people for years. "This year we're offering two new ones to add to collections. If you've been a collector, don't miss out. Plus we offer earlier ornaments for sale as well at a reduced price." "Gift of Hope 2016" was inspired by the graffiti-art style of Keith Haring, a celebrated New York City-based artist. He was diagnosed with AIDS in 1988 and died of AIDS-related complications in 1990 at age 31. "Gift of Hope 2016" is fine

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The ornaments will be available at Drag Bingo on December 15 at the Riviera Bingo Palace at 1612 Elmwood Avenue, Cranston, starting at 6 p.m. Drag Bingo is a fundraiser for AIDS Project Rhode Island and AIDS Care Ocean State. More information about Drag Bingo is available at www.aidsprojectri.org or www. aidscareos.org More information about buying the new ornaments is available by calling John Fruscella at AIDS Project Rhode Island at 8315522 or visiting www.aidsprojectri.org. q

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SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED DISEASES by Chloe Pearson, Consumer Health Labs

Many healthcare centers--including those on university campuses--have made an effort to be more inclusive where the LGBTQ population is concerned. Nowadays, it’s much easier for people in the gay community to seek help regarding sexual health, but there are some things you can do to ease the process along. Good sexual health starts with being knowledgeable about risks and behaviors and what to expect. Some of the biggest myths surrounding STDs in the LGBTQ community involve the way sexually transmitted diseases are spread, and who is at risk. These myths include: • HIV affects only gay men • Lesbians are unable to contract an STD • STDs are transmitted only between people who have many different partners • Hepatitis C is covered by a vaccine • Condoms prevent all diseases HIV and STDs can affect anyone of any sex who is sexually active. Always use protection and don’t rely on a simple blood test conducted during a routine checkup to detect an STD, as some of them require a special test.

It’s important to remember that disease can be spread at any time where sexual activity is concerned, and because gay men are at highest risk for STDs, it’s imperative to be tested often. Every six months is usually the recommended frequency for regular testing, but it may depend on your individual situation. If you have a very active social life, you may benefit from more frequent testing, like every three to six months. Make sure your partner has been tested--even if you are in a committed relationship or have had just a few partners. If you’re in a long-term committed relationship, you should both continue to get tested regularly as some STDs can be spread passively. Commit to making sexual health a priority in your relationship. Using protection is necessary for any sexual activity, but keep in mind that while condoms are highly effective, they don’t protect against disease 100% of the time. This is because the condom may not cover all of the infected area, and skin-to-skin contact is sometimes all that is necessary to transmit disease. While there is a vaccine for Hepatitis A and B, there is NOT one for Hepatitis C, which is the most serious of the three. If you have been vaccinated for Hepatitis, keep in mind that you are not protected

from Hep C, which attacks the liver. Because substance abuse can also lead to the spread of disease--mostly through shared needles--it’s important to know your resources for help. Addiction can lead to depression, loss of friends and family members, or even more devastating results, so don’t be afraid to reach out and let someone know you need assistance. The GLBT National Hotline offers free, confidential counseling and can provide local health and wellness resources. One of the most helpful things you can do before seeking sexual health resources is be prepared. Often in clinical situations, it can be overwhelming to try and remember dates and facts, so write down any concerns you have, the number of partners you’ve had and when, and important dates. This can help both you and your healthcare provider when it comes time to assess your health. If you don’t currently have a regular physician or are unable to seek testing from yours, the Centers for Disease Control can help you find a testing site near you. Finally, be open and honest with your partner, and remember that it’s okay to expect the same in return. q

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RESOURCES Options originated in 1982 as the offical newsletter of the Rhode Island Gay Task Force. Editor Jos Fayette explained, “The RIGTF wants to make the homosexual community aware of their options as gay men and women in Rhode Island. And it’s only because we live, work, love, and play in this state that there are such a large number of options available to all of us.” Options has always, and will continue to print LGBTQ resources so that you can, as Fayette went on to say, “Exercise your OPTIONS today to make positive changes in your life tomorrow.” Help us help you! Email info@optionsri.org if you come across a resource listing that needs updating. New, updated, and featured resources are highlighted. Phone numbers are in the 401 area code and addresses are in Rhode Island, unless otherwise indicated.

Addiction Support Groups

AA Brothers in Sobriety: Saturday 7:30pm. 372 Wayland Avenue, Providence. 751-9328. AddictionCenter.com: Web information guide for addiction resources nationwide. Or call 1-877-830-2915. Alcohol/Drug Helpline: RI Council on Alcoholism & Drug Dependence. 24hr. (866) 252-3784. RI LGBT AA Group: Tuesdays 7 -- 8 pm Bell Street Chapel, 5 Bell St., Providence, 273-5678. All are welcome. Seven Hills Behavioral Health: Addiction support services and Narcan. 1173 Acushnet Avenue, New Bedford, MA, 508999-4159. 310 S. Main Street, Fall River, MA, 508-235-1012. Leonard Amaral, Program Manager, lamaral@sevenhills.org. Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous: 12-step program. Fridays at 7pm. Providence Presbyterian Church, 500 Hope Street, Providence, side entrance, downstairs to the left. Gay, but all are welcome. Young People’s Sexual Diversity meeting of AA. Fridays at 7pm at Center for Sexual Pleasure & Health, 250 Main St., Pawtucket. 489-5513.

AIDS/Health Resources

Afia Center for Health & Wholeness: Meals, food pantry, HIV support groups, recreational and social activities. Sponsored by AIDS Project RI. Free to clients.. Wed. and Thurs. 12 -- 3pm. 134 Mathewson St., Providence. John Fruscella, 831-5522, Ext. 3835. AIDS Action Hotline: MA only. (800) 235-2331. www.aac.org. AIDS Care Ocean State: Confidential HIV & Hep C testing, safer-sex supplies, case management, emergency funds, clinical services, assisted and supportive housing for people living with HIV/AIDS, street outreach, ENCORE, HIV+ support groups. Speaker’s Bureau, 18 Parkis Ave., Providence. 521-3603 (call 781-0665 to schedule an appointment). www.aidscareos.org. AIDS Project RI: Division of Family Service of RI. Case management, buddies, COBRA and dental services, emergency fund, mental health counseling, nutrition support, assessment and referral, wellness programs, advocacy, strength training, prevention education, HIV testing. 9 Pleasant Street, Providence. 831-5522 www.aidsprojectri.org.

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AIDS Quilt RI: Displays local AIDS memorial quilt panels, panel-making programs including Anna’s Workshop, HIV/AIDS education for young people. PO Box 2591, Newport. 434-4880. admin@aidsquiltri.org. www.aidsquiltri.org. Brown University AIDS Program: Clinical trials, public policy, research, lectures, conferences, patient and community education. 121 South Main Street, Second Floor, Providence. 863-6790. brunap@brown.edu. brown.edu/Departments/ BRUNAP. Community Care Alliance: Case management, support, personal care items for people living with HIV/AIDS in northern Rhode Island. 245 Main Street, Woonsocket. 235-6092. lcohen@famresri.org. Comprehensive Community Action Programs: Medical, mental health, dental, social services, LGBT outreach. 311 Doric Avenue, Cranston. Also Coventry, Pawtucket, and Warwick. 467-9610. Gabriel Care, LLC: Nursing/social worker case management and financial compensation for assistance and supervision for those living with HIV. MassHealth funded for MA residents. 376 South Main Street, Fall River, MA. Contact Jenn, (508) 678-1002. HIV Antibody Testing: Anonymous. Free or sliding scale. RI Department of Health. Providence, Newport and other locations. 222-2320. Home and Hospice Care of RI: Medical care management for HIV/AIDS. 24hr nursing staff for treatment. 1085 North Main Street, Providence. Referrals: 782-0725. Bereavement groups: Contact John Charette, 727-7079. Main Office: 415-4200 or toll-free 800-338-6555. www.hhcri.org. House of Compassion: HIV/AIDS housing. 2510 Mendon Road, Cumberland. 658-3992. LGBT Caregiver Online Support Group: For LGBTs caring for someone with chronic health problems. www.caregiver.org Luis E. Martinez House CHS, Inc.: Supportive, permanent housing for 10 adults living with HIV/AIDS and/or substance abuse. New Bedford, MA. Contact Joe Taylor. (508) 984-7514. Partners in Learning About AIDS: Outreach to minorities, women of color, and LGBT community at clubs and other locations. North Providence office provides free condoms and information about STIs and post-exposure prophylaxis for HIV. 1006 Charles Street, Suite 5, North Providence. 484-7523. info@plaidsproject.org. www.plaidsproject.org.

Planned Parenthood of So. New England: Confidential, low-cost, same-day & walk-in STD and HIV testing. Commonsense approach to health. 111 Point St., Providence. 800-230-7526. www.ppsne.org. Prima CARE Transgender Clinic: Fall River, MA. Counseling, hormonal reassignment, referrals for surgery. Kishore Lakshman, MD. 508-235-0481. Project Weber: Services for male sex workers. Drop-in center, support groups, HIV and Hep C testing, clean needles. 383-4888. www.projectweber.org. Seven Hills HIV Prevention & Screening: TWIST program, HIV and STI prevention and testing,partner care.1173AcushnetAvenue, New Bedford, MA, 508-999-4159. 310 S. Main Street, Fall River, MA, 508-235-1012. Contact Leonard Amaral, lamaral@sevenhills.org. SSTAR (Stanley Street Treatment & Resources): Counseling, drug treatment, detox, domestic violence programs, free and confidential HIV, HEP C, and STD testing, education, case management and support. MA and RI locations. 386 Stanley Street, Fall River, MA. (508) 679-5222. Project Aware (HIV/HCV); (508) 324-3561. Family Healthcare Center; (508) 675-1054. www.sstar.org. Steppingstone, Inc.: Welcome Home Medical case management program. One-on-one peer support in Somerset to Wareham area. HIV support groups available. Free and open to any HIV+ person 18+. 5 Dover Street, New Bedford, MA. (508) 984-7514. www.steppingstoneinc.org. Tranquil Mind & Wellness: Counseling, alternative healing, yoga, Pilates, meditation.109 Rhode Island Road, Lakeville, MA. (508) 947-1683. www.tranquilmind.net. Thundermist Health Center: Provides HIV/AIDS services including medical care and treatment by an HIV specialist, dental care, behavioral health counseling, nutritional assessment and counseling, pharmacy consultation, free and confidential HIV testing. 450 Clinton Street, Woonsocket. Contact Philip Kane. 767-4100 ext. 3516.

Information/Education The Center for Sexual Pleasure & Health: Education, pleasure, health, advocacy. Tues. -- Sat. 12 -- 6 and by appointment. 250 Main Street, Unit 1, Pawtucket. 489-5513. www.thecsph.org. Fenway Community Center LGBT Helpline: Support, information and referrals. Fenway Community Health Center, Boston. Open daily 6-11pm. (617) 267-9001 or 888-340-452 Foster Parents needed for newborns to age six. Visit www.chidrensfriendri.org or call Joyce, 276-4318. GLBT National Help Center Hotline: Local resources nationwide provided by social services agency. 888-843-4564. www.glbtnationalhelpcenter.org. Newport Out: LGBT website for Newport. www.newportout.com. RILGBT-News: Low-volume email distribution list for LGBT & AIDS news from RI. Not a discussion list. To subscribe: tinawood@cox.net. South Coast LGBTQ Network: Information & advocacy network for individuals of all ages. 774-371-0711. info@ sclgbtqnetwork.org. www.sclgbtqnetwork.org. United Way of RI Referral Line: 2-1-1 on your telephone.

Nightlife

The Alley Cat Providence: Downtown neighborhood bar. Monday-Thursday 3pm-1am, Friday 3pm-2am, Saturday 2pm2am, Sunday 2pm-1am. 19 Snow Street, Providence. 272-6369. Bobby’s Place: Dancing, pool, video lounge, karaoke. SundayWednesday 5pm-1am, Thursday-Saturday 5pm-2am. 62 Weir Street, Taunton, MA. (508) 824-9997. www.bobbysplacema.com. Brooklyn Coffee Tea House: 209 Douglas Ave., Providence: public/private venue for music, art, film screenings, weddings, showers, etc. RHODYWOOD@yahoo.com; 359-0192. Club Body Center: Gay men’s sauna. Membership required. One-day pass available. Open 24hr. 257 Weybosset Street, Providence. 274-0298. www.cbcresorts.com. The Dark Lady: Downtown bar and nightclub. TuesdayThursday 9pm-1am, Friday & Saturday 9pm-3am, Sunday 9pm1am. 17 Snow Street, Providence. 272-6369. EGO: Providence’s newest gay nightlife performance/event space. Sunday and Thursday 9pm-1am, Friday and Saturday 10pm-3am, 73 Richmond St, Providence. 383-1208. www.egopvd.com. Indigo Lounge: 599 Tiogue Ave, Coventry RI 02816. Breakfast buffet, specialty pizzas, T Dances, live entertainment, karaoke Thurs. Hours vary, closed Mon. www.indigopizza.com. Mirabar: Downtown bar and nightclub. Monday-Thursday 3pm-1am, Friday and Saturday 3pm-2am, Sunday 3pm-1am. 15 Elbow Street, Providence. 331-6761. www.mirabar.com. Providence Eagle: Leather, Levi, bear cruise bar. MondayThursday 2pm-1am, Friday 2pm-2am, Saturday-Sunday 12pm2am. 124 Snow Street, Providence. 421-1447. The Stable: Downtown video bar. No cover. Monday-Thursday 2pm-1am, Friday 2pm-2am, Saturday 12pm-2am, Sunday 12pm1am. 125 Washington Street, Providence. 272-6950. The Village: Downtown Providence’s newest LGBT owned and operated restaurant and live entertainment venue. Lunch & dinner Wednesday through Sunday for varying hours. 373 Richmond St. 228-7222, www.thevillageri.com

Political & Legal Groups American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU): 128 Dorrance Street, Suite 220, Providence. 831-7171. riaclu.org. Amnesty International OUTfront: Program to campaign globally for LGBTQ human rights. (212)807-8400. Cvohs18904@yahoo.com. www.amnestyusa.org. Brown University Queer Alliance: Student advocacy and support organization. queer@brown.edu. Gay & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders (GLAD): LGBT/ HIV legal info hotline. Weekdays 1:30-4:30pm. 30 Winter Street, Suite 800, Boston, MA. (617) 436-1350 or (800) 455-GLAD. gladlaw@glad.org www.GLAD.org. Lambda Legal Defense & Education Fund: 120 Wall Street, Suite 1500, NY. (212) 809-8585. www.lambdalegal.org. Lawyers for Equality and Diversity (LEAD): Advocates for LGBT causes. lawyersforequality@gmail.com.

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National Lesbian & Gay Journalists Assoc./New England: Works for fair and accurate media coverage of LGBT issues. info@nlgja.org, www.nlgja.org. The Next Thing (TNT): Political and support group for queer people of color located at Brown University. 863-3062. tnt@brown.edu. RI Commission on Prejudice and Bias: Hate crime awareness training program. www.hatecrimeri.org. RI Socialist Action: 952-5385, adgagneri@gmail.com. Spanish: 351-3514, walsil@cox.net. RI Human Rights Commission: Anti-discrimination law enforcement agency with jurisdiction in employment, housing, public accommodations, and credit. 180 Westminster Street, 3rd floor, Providence. 222-2662 TTY: 222-2664, richr.ri.gov. Scouts for Equality: An organization composed largely of Boy Scouts of America alumni dedicated to ending the BSA’s ban on gay members and leaders. Contact Carol Crowther. ccrowther1@gmail.com. Facebook.com/riscoutsforequality. Servicemembers Legal Defense Network: Serving LGBT military personnel and veterans. PO Box 65301, Washington DC. (202) 328-3244. or (800) 538-7418. sldn@sldn.org. www. sldn.org.

Religious & Spiritual All Saints Memorial Church: 674 Westminster Street, Providence. 751-1747. asmcri@verizon.net. www.allsaintsmemorial.org. Amicable Congregational Church: UCC. Open & Affirming. Pastor William Sterrett. Sunday 10am. 3736 Main Road, Tiverton. 624-4611. amicablechurch@aol.com, www.amicablechurch.org. Association of Welcoming & Affirming Baptists: robin@awab.org, www.awab.org. Barrington Congregational Church: UCC. “The white church.” Sundays 10am. 461 County Road, Barrington. 246-0111. office@bccucc.org, www.bccucc.org. Bell Street Chapel: Unitarian Universalist. A Welcoming Congregation. Rev. Margaret Weis. Sundays 10am. 5 Bell Street, Providence. 273-5678. www.bellstreetchapel.org. Beneficent Congregational Church: UCC.An Open & Affirming congregation in the heart of Providence. Sundays 10am. 300 Weybosset Street, Providence. 331-9844. BeneficentChurchUCC@ gmail.com, www.beneficentchurch.org. Berean Baptist Church: A safe and welcoming place for all God’s children. Sunday 10am. 474 Chapel Street, Harrisville. 568-5411. bereanbaptist@verizon.net. www.bereanri.net Calvary United Methodist Church of Middletown: LGBTQ early dementia support group. Contact Amy. Sundays 10:30am. 200 Turner Road, Middletown. 847-6181, www.middletownmethodist.com. Central Congregational Church: UCC. An Opening & Affirming Congregation. Sundays 10:30am. 296 Angell Street, Providence. 331-1960. www.centralchurch.us. Channing Memorial Church: Unitarian Universalist. A Welcoming Congregation. Sundays 10am. 135 Pelham Street,

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The Chapel of the Holy Spirit: Independent Old Catholic. Fr. Jakob Lazarus. Sunday 9am and 6pm. 155 Douglas Avenue, Providence. 413-4821. www.holyparaclete.org. Charter Oak Grove ADF: An Open and Welcoming Congregation of Neo-pagan Druids in CT. charteroakadf@gmail.com, www.charteroakadf.org. Christ Church in Lonsdale: Episcopal. 1643 Lonsdale Avenue, Lincoln. Services 8am and 10:30am. 725-1920. office@christchurchlincoln.org. www.christchurchlincoln.org. Church of the Ascension, 390 Pontiac Ave., Cranston, RI 02910. Sundays at 10am. 461-5811. www.ascensioncranston.org. Church of the Epiphany: A diverse Open & Affirming Episcopal congregation. 1336 Pawtucket Avenue, East Providence. 434-5012. info@epiphanyep.org, www.epiphanyep.org. Church of the Redeemer, a Welcoming Episcopal church. 655 Hope St., Providence. www.redeemerprovidence.org. office@ redeemerprovidence.org. Rev. Patrick Campbell, 331-0678. Concordia Center for Spiritual Living: A diverse community welcoming all spiritual paths to God. Sunday Celebration 9:15am. 292 W. Shore Rd., Warwick. Rev. Ian Taylor, 732-1552. info@concordiachurchri.com. www.ConcordiaCSL.com. Edgewood Congregational Church: UCC. Open & Affirming. Service 10am. 1788 Broad Street, Cranston. 461-1344. office@edgewoodchurchri.org. www.edgewoodchurchri.org. Emmanuel Episcopal Church: Sundays 8 and 9:30am. 120 Nate Whipple Highway, Cumberland. 658-1506. office@emmanuelri.org. www.emmanuelri.org. First Congregational Church in Bristol: An Open and Affirming Congregation. Skip Macaulay, Interim Pastor. 281 High Street, Bristol. 253-7288. www.fccbristol.org. First Unitarian Church: A welcoming congregation. Sunday 10:30am. 1 Benevolent Street, Providence. 421-7970. admin@firstunitarianprov.org, www.firstunitarianprov.org. First Unitarian Church: Service 11am. 71 8th Street, New Bedford, MA. (508) 994-9686. admin@uunewbedford.org, www.uunewbedford.org. First Universalist Society: UU. Welcoming congregation. Samegender weddings. 262 Chestnut Street, Franklin, MA. (508) 5285348. fusf@verizon.net, www.fusf.org. Foxboro Universalist Church: UUA. Service 10am. 6 Bird Street, Foxboro, MA. 508-543-4002. chair@uufoxborough.org. www. uufoxborough.org. Grace Episcopal Church in Providence: 175 Mathewson Street, Providence. 331-3225. hello@gracechurchprovidence.org. www. gracechurchprovidence.org. Hopedale Unitarian Parish: Sundays 10:30 am. 65 Hopedale St., Hopedale, MA. www.hopedaleunitarian.org, 508-473-0745. Rev. Tony Lorenzen. Immanuel Lutheran Church: A Reconciling in Christ congregation. Pastor Sandra Demmler D’Amico. 647 North Main Street, Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-2898. www.immanuellc.org.

Interweave at Channing Memorial UU Church: Organization for the spiritual, political and social well-being of LGBTQ persons, and their allies, confronting oppression. 135 Pelham Street, Newport. 846-0643. Lutheran Church of the Good Shepherd: A “Reconciling in Christ” congregation (Welcoming). 3383 Old North Rd., Kingston, RI. Sundays 9 am. Pastor Mary Hansen-Joyce. 789-7776; office@ goodshepherdri.org Mathewson St. Church: United Methodist. 134 Mathewson Street, Providence. 331-8900. MathewsonStUMC@gmail.com. Mercy of God Community: Christian, inclusive religious order. mercycomm@yahoo.com, www.mgc.org. Murray Unitarian Universalist Church: Marriage and commitment ceremonies for all. Rev. Bob McKetchnie. 505 North Main Street, Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-0505 www.murrayuuchurch.org. Newman Congregational Church: Open & Affirming. 100 Newman Avenue, Rumford. 434-4742. www.newmanucc.org. Newport Congregational Church: UCC. Open & Affirming. Rev. Hayes and Rev. Baker. 73 Pelham Street, Newport. 849-2238. Park Place Congregational Church: 71 Park Place, Pawtucket. 726-2800. office@ppucc.necoxmail.com, www.parkplaceucc.com. The Pub Church: An Open & Affirming church that meets in a pub. Location may change. Saturday 5pm. The Dugout, 722 Commonwealth Avenue, Boston, MA. thepubchurch@gmail.com. Pilgrim Lutheran Church: An inclusive congregation. Sundays 8 and 9:30am. 1817 Warwick Avenue, Warwick. 739-2937. parishasst@pilgrimlutheranri.org, pilgrimlutheranri.jimdo.com. Pilgrim United Church of Christ: Open and Affirming. 635 Purchase Street, New Bedford, MA. (508)-997-9086. Riverside Church: UCC.15 Oak Avenue, Riverside. Service 10am. 433-2039. www.rcc-ucc.com. St. Augustine’s Church and Episcopal Center at URI: 15 Lower College Road, Kingston. 783-2153. Sundays 8am and 10am. StAugustinesChurch@necoxmail.com, www.staugustineuri.org. St. James Church: Episcopal. 474 Fruit Hill Avenue, North Providence. 353-2079. St. Martin’s Episcopal Church: Sundays 8 and 10am. 50 Orchard Avenue, Providence. 751-2141. StMartinsNB.Secretary@gmail.com, www.stmartinsprov.org. St. Martin’s Episcopal Church: Welcoming Church. Monthly LGBT Eucharist. 136 Rivet Street, New Bedford, MA. (508)9948972. stmartins1887@comcast.com, www.stmartinsma.org. St. Paul’s Episcopal Church: Sundays 9am. 50 Park Place, Pawtucket. 728-4300. office@stpaulspawtucket.org, www.stpaulspawtucket.org. St. Paul’s Church: A welcoming Episcopal church. Sundays 9am. 2679 East Main Street, Portsmouth. 683-1164. stpaulsportsmouthri. org. St. Peter & St. Andrew’s Episcopal Church: 25 Pomona Avenue, Providence. 272-9649.stpanda25@verizon.net. www.stpeters-standrews.org. Saint Therese Old Catholic Church: Open & Affirming. Fr. David Martins. Sunday 10:30am. 1500 Main St., W. Warwick, RI 02893. 680-9076. stocc134@gmail.com,

www.saintthereseocc.org. Second Congregational Church of Attleboro: UCC. Open & Affirming. 50 Park Street, Attleboro, MA. Sunday 10am. (508) 2224677. office2nd@verizon.net. www.attleborosecondchurch.org. Seekonk Congregational Church: Open & Affirming. Sundays 9 and 10:30am. Rev. Joy Utter, 600 Fall River Ave., Seekonk, MA. (508) 336-9355. sccucc@verizon.net. www.scc-ucc.com. Soka Gakkai: Buddhist association for peace, culture, and education. Contact for weekly meetings in Providence. 930 Commonwealth Avenue, Boston. (617) 264-2000. www.sgi-usa.org. Temple Agudas Achim: Reconstructionist congregation. 901 North Main Street, Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-2243. office@agudasma.org, www.agudasma.org. Temple Beth-El: Rabbi Sarah E. Mack. 70 Orchard Avenue, Providence. 331-6070. info@temple-beth-el.org, www.temple-beth-el.org. Temple Emanu-El: A welcoming Conservative congregation. Rabbi Wayne Franklin. 99 Taft Avenue, Providence. 331-1616. info@teprov.org, www.teprov.org. Temple Habonim: A warm, Welcoming Reform congregation. Rabbi Andrew Klein. 165 New Meadow Road, Barrington. 2456536. office@templehabonim.org, www.templehabonim.org. Temple Sinai: A Welcoming Reform temple. Rabbi Jeff Goldwasser, 30 Hagen Avenue, Cranston. 942-8350. webmaster@templesinairi.org, www.templesinairi.org. Unitarian Church in Fall River: Sunday 10:30am. 309 North Main Street, Fall River, MA. 508-678-9700. office@unitarianchurchfr.org, www.unitarianchurchfr.org. Unitarian Universalist Society of Fairhaven: Service 10:30am. 102 Green Street, Fairhaven, MA. (508) 992-7081. www.uufairhaven. org. Unitarian Universalist Congregation of South County: 27 North Road, Peace Dale. 783-4170 or Val 789-7282. uucscri@ yahoo.com. www.uusouthcountyri.org. United Congregational Church, 524 Valley Rd., Middletown RI 02842. A Welcoming congregation. Sunday, 10 am. www.UCCMiddletown.org. 849-5444. Westminster Unitarian Universalist Church: A UUA Welcoming Congregation. 119 Kenyon Avenue, East Greenwich. 884-5933. www.westminsteruu.org.

Social Organizations

Bisexual Resource Center: PO Box 170796, Boston, MA. (617) 424-9595. brc@bicresource.net www.biresource.net. Biversity Boston: Mixed-gender social events for Boston and the surrounding area. (617) 424-9595. biversity-subscribe@biversity.org, www.biversity.org. Boston Bisexual Women’s Network: Social activities including monthly brunches, coming out groups and quarterly newsletter “Bi Woman Quarterly.” www.biwomenboston.org. Cape and Islands Gay & Straight Youth Alliance (CIGSYA): 56 Barnstable Road, Hyannis, MA. (508) 778-7744. info@cisgsya.org, www.cigsya.org.

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Communisong: For unity through song. Non-performance monthly singing session. www.communisong.net. CORISMA: Potluck get-togethers for couples from RI and southeast MA. corismainfo@comcast.net, www.corismagroup.org. Gay Men’s Social Group: First Tuesdays, 6 -- 9pm, Seven Hills Behavioral Health, 1177 Acushnet Ave., New Bedford, MA. Refreshments. Info: Lenny Amaral, 508-999-4159 or lamaral@sevenhills.org. Imperial Court of RI at Providence: Drag and non-drag performers raise funds for local charities. All welcome to general membership meetings on first Monday at Dark Lady, 17 Snow Street, Providence. icri.prov@gmail.com. www.icriprov.org. Mixed Borders Gardening Group: Gardening and more. Monthly meetings, all welcome. Mixedborders@cox.net. www.mixedborders.com. Opera Club: Enjoy hearing and attending. Last Sunday of each month at 1pm. BrettCornellpi4@aol.com. Providence Gay Men’s Chorus: New season rehearsals begin in January and August. Singers and non-singing volunteers welcome. Monday 7-9:30pm. Beneficent Church, 300 Weybosset Street, Providence. www.provgmc.org. Queer Book Club: 3rd Wednesday, 7pm. Books on the Square, 471 Angell Street, Providence, queerbookclub@gmail.com. RI Association of Gay Professionals: Networking and philanthropy. www.riagp.com. RI Parents Pride: Gay parents socializing together with their children. Contact Melanie. 464-2288. saphicangel120@yahoo.com. RI Pride: Open house 4th Wednesdays. Festival & Parade 3rd Saturday in June. Office: 1055 Westminster St., Providence 02903. Mail: PO Box 1082, Providence, 02903. 467-2130. info@prideri.com, www.prideri.com. RI Prime Timers: Social and networking group for older gay and bi men. Second Sunday. Call Steve, 996-3010. www.riprimetimers.org. RI Skeptics Society: Yearning to talk with someone rational? Refreshing discussion. Fourth Saturday. East Providence restaurant location. www.meetup.com/skeptics-133/. RI Women’s Association: Lesbian social group. 21+. Dances & events. www.riwa.net. SAGE/RI (Services & Advocacy for GLBT Elders): Advocacy, education and social events for LGBT seniors. SAGERI at CareLink, 1 Virginia Ave., Providence, RI 02905. 443-4451. sageriinfo@gmail.com. www.sage-ri.org. SEMASSMEN: Social group for GBQ men of southeastern MA & RI to foster strong friendships. Semassmen-subscribe@ yahoogroups.com. rlevass@yahoo.com. Smart Monkey Gay Men’s Support Group. Meets twice monthly in Cranston to learn about integrity, intimacy and male roles. Write Paul (ctripaul@yahoo.com) or Steve (43dadzone@gmail.com).

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South Coast Social Club for Gay & Bisexual Men: Social and networking opportunities for gay & bisexual men in S.E. Mass. www.southeastsocialclub.com. Yankee Lambda Car Club: Regional club for GLBT vintage and specialty car enthusiasts. www.yankeelcc.com.

Sports & Recreation PrideSports Boston: Network of twenty-plus gay sports leagues/teams in Boston area. www.pridesportsboston.com. Boston Gay BASKETBALL League: ksg.bgbl@gmail.com, www.bgbl.com. BOATING: Yankee Cruising Club, New England’s club for LGBTQ boaters. www.yankeecruising.org. yankeecruisingclub@ gmail.com. Keith (508) 423-6123. Big Gay Al’s Duckpin BOWLING League: Proceeds benefit AIDS causes. Tuesday 6:30pm. 1463 Atwood Avenue, Town Hall Lanes, Johnston. Contact Frank Ferri. 831-6940.www. bgalbowling.com. www.townhalllanes.com. FIELD HOCKEY: Teamworks Somerset, 732 Lee’s River Ave., Somerset, MA. New season every 10 weeks. (508-676-3956) info@teamworkssomerset.com GALA Bowling League: Sundays 5:50 p.m., E. Providence Lanes, 80 Newport Ave., E. Providence. Season begins in Aug. View us on Facebook or email galabowling1990@gmail.com. FLAG (For Lesbians And Gays) FOOTBALL: Bostonbased recreational football club. All skill levels are encouraged to participate. Saturday mornings in the fall and spring. www. flagflagfootball.com. Boston Pride HOCKEY: www.bostonpridehockey.org. Rondeaus KICKBOXING: 272-5425. www. rondeauskickboxing.com. Main Street MARTIAL ARTS: Non-profit. Welcoming dojo and community center. 1282 North Main Street, Providence. 274-7672.www.mainstma.org. Chiltern Mountain Club: OUTDOOR recreation club in New England. events@chiltern.org. www.chiltern.org. Boston Gay ROWERS: Worldwide online community for gay and lesbian rowers, coxies, coaches, and race officials. www.glrf. org. Boston Ironsides RUGBY Football: www.bostonironsides. org. Providence Women’s RUGBY Club: Competitive and recreational. www.providencerugby.com Frontrunners Rhode Island RUNNING Group: Running and walking group. Newcomers welcome. Meet at the end of Blackstone Boulevard at Hope Street, Providence. Thursday 6pm. Contact Brian. 751-7643. bripm@cox.net, frontrunnersri@ gmail.com Frontrunners Boston RUNNING Group: Morning walk/ run along the Charles River. Saturdays,10am. Club Cafe, 209 Columbus Avenue, Boston, MA. www.frontrunnersboston.org. OutRyders SKIING: New England’s largest gay and lesbian ski and snowboard club. www.outryders.org. Boston Strikers SOCCER Club: Non-profit social organization to learn and improve soccer skills in a relaxed, congenial environment. www.bostonstrikers.com.

Renaissance City SOFTBALL League: New players and boosters always welcome. www.providencesoftball.org. Beantown SOFTBALL League: Friendly competition. 27 teams in four divisions of play: competitive, intermediate, and recreational. (617) 297-7490. www.beantownsoftball.com. LANES (Liquid Assets New England SWIMMING): Fitness and/or competition. (617) 937-5858. www.swim-lanes.org. TENNIS-4-All: Boston area tennis organization. www. tennis4all.org. Cambridge Boston VOLLEYBALL Association: Players of all skill levels welcome. secretary@cbvolleyball.net www.gayvolleyball.net. Ocean State Pride VOLLEYBALL League: Adult coed indoor league following USVBA rules. No try-outs. Fee applies. Kent County YMCA, 900 Centerville Road, Warwick. ospvolleyball@gmail.com. East Coast WRESTLING Club: (617)937.5858 x6. ecwc@juno.com. www.eastcoastwrestlingclub.org.

Students & Youth Bristol Community College The Lambda Connection: (TLC@BCC) Rober t Delaleu, Advisor ; BCC-G118, 777 Elsbree St., Fall River, MA (774)357-4056. Brown University Queer Alliance: Umbrella organization at Brown University for LGBTQ groups. 863-3062. queer@ brown.edu or lgbtq@brown.edu. CCRI Triangle Alliance: an LGBTQQ student-run group at CCRI, on the Flanagan, Liston, and Knight campuses. www.ccri.edu/triangle/. LGBT National Youth Talkline: 800-246-7743. Private one-to-one chat and info on local resources. Peer Listening Line: Youth-staffed hotline for GLBT youth. Suppor t, info and referrals. 5-10pm. Fenway Community Health Center, Boston, MA. (617) 267-9001 or (800) 399PEER. www.fenwayhealth.org. Queer & Trans Thursdays: 6-8pm. Space for LGBTQ and heterosexual youth (24 and under) of color to foster coalition-building and organize to address intersections of oppressions. 669 Elmwood Ave., Rm. B7, Providence. www.prysm.us. 383-7450. Salve Regina University â&#x20AC;&#x201C; The Alliance: 100 Ochre Point Avenue, Newpor t. Contact: Benjamin Mead, benjamin. mead@salve.edu S.H.E.P.A.R.D. (Stopping Homophobia, Eliminating Prejudices and Restoring Dignity): Providence College, 1 Cunningham Square, Providence. 865-1631. shepard@providence.edu. The Trevor Project: The only nationwide, around-theclock crisis and suicide prevention helpline for LGBT youth. Also offers social networks. (866)4-U-TREVOR (866-4887386). thetrevorproject.org.

University of RI LGBTIQ2: Alumni association. 874-5808. gsimonelli@uri.edu. URI LGBTQ Center: A cultural depar tment for students, faculty and staff. Florence Badejo. 874-2894. Youth Pride Inc.: Suppor t, education & advocacy for LGBTQQ young people ages 13--23. Tues. -- Fri. 2 -8pm. The Way Out peer suppor t group Thurs. 4pm. Gender Spectrum suppor t group Tues. 4pm. Visit our website for full calendar of events. 743 Westminster St., Providence. 421-5626. info@youthprideri.org. www.youthprideri.org.

Support Groups & Social Services Abuse Victims and Survivors: Support on phone for LGBTQ victims & survivors of partner abuse. Confidential peer-led groups. Hotline: (617) 742-4911. TTY: (617) 2274911. advocate@tnlr.org. Adoption Options: Non-sectarian help. Jewish Family Service, 959 North Main Street, Providence. Contact Betsy Alper. 331-5437. www.adoptionoptions.org. Child & Family Services: Counseling, young parent support, adoption, more. LGBT groups beginning July. Open six days. 66 Troy St., Fall River, MA. (508) 676-5708. www.childfamilyservices.org Community Care Alliance: Stipend, assistance, training provided by Family Resources Community Action. 235-6095. www.famresri.org. Foster parents needed: For newborn to age six. 276-4300. www.childrensfriendri.org. Family Service RI: Training, stipend, support provided for nurturing families. Family Service of RI. Contact Gregary Wright. 331-1350 ext. 3305. www.familyserviceri.org. Seven Hills Behavioral Health: HIV Prevention and Screening. 310 South Main Street, Fall River, MA. (508) 2351012. T.W.I.S.T. (508) 672-0378. Blackstone Valley Advocacy Center: Offering resources for victims of domestic violence. 723-3057. www.bvadvocacycenter.org. Compass: FTM trans info, support and social group. Boston first Thursday 7-9pm. compassftm@gmail.com. www.compassftm.org. Crossroads RI Hotline: (800) 367-2700. Day One: Counseling & legal aid for victims of sexual assault/ abuse & incest. 24hr hotline. (800) 494-8100. 421-4100. www.dayoneri.org. Domestic Violence Resource Center of South County: Support, court advocacy, counseling, safe home, info for women and men in abusive or controlling relationships. 24hr free and confidential helpline. 782-3990 or toll free 800-4948100, www.dvrcsc.org.

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Gay Fathers of Greater Boston: Support. 738 Main St. #323, Waltham, MA. (781) 333-8429. info@gayfathersboston. org, www.gayfathersboston.org. Gay Men’s HIV+ Social Group: Third Tuesdays, 6 -- 9pm. Refreshments. Seven Hills Behavioral Health, 1177 Acushnet Ave., New Bedford, MA. Info: Lenny Amaral, 508-999-4159 or email lamaral@sevenhills.org. Gay Officers Action League (GOAL)/New England: Law enforcement officers (sworn & civilian), fire, rescue & publicly employed EMS. Confidential. P.O. Box 171587, Boston, MA 02117. www.newenglandgoal.org. On Facebook at NewEnglandGOAL. Gay Share: Coming Out? Gay men’s support group. No fee. Wednesday 7:30pm. Contact Tom or Mike. 369-9448. info@ gayshare.org, www.gayshare.org. LGBT Grief Support: Meets regularly at Hope Hospice, 2085 N. Main St., Providence. Rebecca Sizelove, 415-4301. Helpline for LGBT Youth: Trevor Helpline and social networks for crisis and suicide prevention. 24/7. (866) 4-U-Trevor. HIV+ Gay Men’s Support Group: Refreshments served. AIDS Care Ocean State, 18 Parkis Avenue, Providence. 5213603. New members contact Scott. 640-3108. Kathys’ Group: Free support group for lesbians with cancer or any life-threatening illness. Partners and caregivers welcome. Meets monthly in Providence. 888-5KATHYS. Mantalk of S.E. Mass: Socializing and discussions for gay, bi and curious men. Confidential. Drug and alcohol-free. 18+.Thursdays in Taunton and first Tuesdays in New Bedford. 7-8:30pm. mantalksouthcoast@yahoo.com. MentalHelp.net: National directory of inpatient treatment options for those with substance abuse problems. www. mentalhelp.net/care/substance-abuse/ri/ Partner Support Group at Fenway Health: A ten-week support group with the purpose of building community and connections for anyone who identifies as non-trans, ages 18+, and is in a relationship with a trans* person(s). 1340 Boylston Street, Boston, MA. Contact Sarah Eley, LICSW. 857-313-6551. seley@fenwayhealth.org. PFLAG (Parents, & Friends of Lesbians & Gays): Attleboro Chapter serves Southeast Mass. Third Wednesday 6:45 p.m., Second Congregational Church, 50 Park St. (side door). email pflagattleboro@gmail.com. Greater Providence Chapter serves all R.I. First Wednesday at 6:45 p.m., Met School, 325 Public St., Providence. 751-7571. PFLAGprovidence@gmail.com. www. pflagprovidence.org. Rape Crisis Center for S.E. Mass: New Hope, Inc. Advocacy, shelter, services for domestic abuse survivors. Hotline (800) 323-HOPE. Office (508)226-4015. Project RENEW: Support, employment services, HIV prevention for male and female sex workers. Amos House, 415 Friendship St., Providence. 272-0220. Trans support group meets Thurs.

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Info: transoutreachpwr@gmail.com. Queer & Trans Thursdays: Space for LGBTQ and heterosexual youth (24 and under) of color to foster coalitionbuilding and organize to address intersections of oppressions. 6-8pm. 669 Elmwood Ave., Rm. B7, Providence. www.prysm. us. 383-7450. RI Coalition Against Domestic Violence: 24hr helpline: (800) 494-8100. 467-9940. RI Rainbow Support Group: For people with disabilities who identify as LGBTQ. Last Tuesday. 98 Rolfe Street, Cranston. 6-7:30pm. Contact Ken Renaud. 785-2100. Samaritans: 24hr hotline for suicidal, lonely, despairing, depressed. (800) 365-4044. 272-4044 (RI only). www. samaritansri.org. Sexual Health Education & Advocacy Program: HIV, sexual wellness, domestic violence risk reduction. Free, confidential, bilingual (Spanish). No caller ID used. Calls blocked for safety. 861-6191 ext. 121. Sojourner House: Call for confidential support group. Support, shelter, advocacy and information for people in abusive relationships. Including specific LGBT services. No caller ID used. Outgoing calls blocked for safety. 24hr helpline. 765-3232. 861-6191. Office 861-6191. www.sojournerri.org St. Mary’s Home for Children: Sexual abuse treatment for children. 450 Fruit Hill Ave., No. Providence. www.smhfc.org. Adam Cable, 353-3900. Straight Spouses: Groups and online support. www. straightspouse.org. TGI Network of RI: Support, advocacy for transgender, transsexual, gender-variant and/or intersex people. Borderlands peer group 1st & 3d Tues. and 1st & 3d Sat. of the month. Location & information: 441-5058. info@tginetwork. org. www.tginetwork.org. Transgender legal resource: GLAD helps trans New Englanders get free legal aid to update birth certificates, driver’s licenses, passports, other legal documents. www.glad. org/ID; email gladanswers@glad.org; or call 800-455-GLAD. Trans* Partners New England: Gives romantic partners of transgender people a confidential, safe space to explore the impact of a loved one’s gender identity on their relationships, and to connect with other loved ones of transgender people. First Wednesday 6:30-8:30pm. Providence. Location unpublished for privacy. partners@tginetwork.org. Trans* Youth Family Allies: Support for gender-variant and transgender children ages 3-18. info@imatyfa.org, www. imatyfa.org. Transgender American Veterans Association (TAVA): Growing organization to address the concerns of fair treatment of transgender veterans and active duty service members. www.tavausa.org. Women’s Resource Center of Newport and Bristol Counties: Offering services to victims of domestic violence. 846-5263. www.wrcnbc.org.q

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