Our Hometown Chula Vista - December 2014 by OurHometownMag

RESIDENT SPOTLIGHT TOM & LORETTA HOM

BUSINESS HIGHLIGHTS DR. FIJMAN, PH.D GREAT DENTAL GROUP

It's a wonderful life DECEMBER

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CONTENTS FROM THE EDITOR Preparing for the holidays takes time. I’ve been playing Christmas music on the piano and making home-made applesauce to get ready. Soon I’ll put up a few decorations and enjoy the warmth that they bring. Holidays may be festive, but they don’t always come at the most convenient time. You’ve heard the quote, “Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.” It’s by Chuck Swindoll, who believes that attitude greatly impacts life. “Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, education, money, circumstances, failure, successes, what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company...a church...a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past, the fact that people will act in a certain way, or the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude.”

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08 NEWS On your Doorstep

12 HOUSE & HOME Christmas Tree Safety Considering Pet Adoption?

But sometimes, it’s hard to have a good attitude. Sometimes problems seem too big. Hopelessness is too real. A solution won’t come fast enough.

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We feature three families this month who have faced unthinkable challenges. If anyone has a right to a bad attitude, they do. But they have chosen to walk by faith and to count their blessings. They have chosen to look past the troubles they face and toward the security of their loved ones. They have chosen to react well to their circumstances and to remember that this is a wonderful life.

It's a Wonderful Life

18 ON TOPIC Time to Reflect and Heal The Assisted Living Conversation

20 SCHOOL CVESD Holiday Essay Winners

We are a community of diverse ethnicities, different interests, and of faith and no faith. But this holiday season we have each other in common. Humanity. Friendship. Community. Love. As Chuck Swindoll also said, “Let's face it—friends make life a lot more fun.” This month, thank those who have helped you have a wonderful life. Bless others as you’ve been blessed. Be the friend that you want others to be. And before this year closes, have a merry Christmas!

22 CALENDAR Out & About

24 BUSINESS HIGHLIGHTS Dr. Fijman, Ph.D. Great Dental Group cover & feature photos by schafer photography

26 RESIDENT SPOTLIGHT Tom & Loretta Hom

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PUBLISHER Michael Monaco

EDITOR Amber Weber

CIF Champions Eastlake High School Girls Varsity Tennis

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To JIM GEERING, who was named Acting Fire Chief of the Chula Vista Fire Department on September 5. Jim has spent his entire 29-year career with the Chula Vista Fire Department. He has held nearly every rank and position starting with fire fighter and including fire inspector, fire marshal and deputy chief, among others. Jim has been designated a Certified Fire Chief by the California State Fire Marshal. He was a founding member of the Chula Vista Firefighter's Foundation and the countywide Firefighters Advisory Council to the Burn Institute. He earned a degree in Emergency Management from California State University,

Long Beach. Jim has been active in the local community as a Board Member of the Chula Vista Boys and Girls Club and as a youth baseball coach.

DESIGNER Melissa Monroy

CONTRIBUTOR Jen Amos

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To EASTLAKE HIGH SCHOOL'S GIRLS VARSITY TENNIS TEAM for winning the CIF championship on October 31. It was a close win against Pacific Ridge High School at Barnes Tennis Center in San Diego. The overall set score was 9-9, and the total game score was also tied at 70-70. Eastlake won the tiebreaker through a 44-34 difference in doubles. The 11 girls practiced four times a week and won three games leading up to the championship. Team captain Abby Valera, a senior, says of the win, "It was an unforgettable experience and I'm proud of everyone for their determination and hard work. As a team, we worked hard to improve small things in our game such as communication and consistency, and it all paid off in the end." This is the first time a South Bay girls’ tennis team has received the CIF title. Congrats, Titans!

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BRAVO

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Left to right: Eric Hagen, Paul Johnston and South Bay Ambassadors at the Relay for Life

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To ERIC HAGEN and PAUL JOHNSTON, who were recognized at the San Diego Youth Symphony and Conservatory (SDYS)'s 19th Celebration of Music Education Concert on November 9. Eric is in his 11th year as the string orchestra director of Eastlake Middle School. He also directs the first string orchestra ever to be offered at Hilltop Middle School to continue the music education of the SDYS Community Opus Project students who are now in 7th grade. Paul has taught 36 years in the Sweetwater Union High School District, with 26 years at Montgomery High School and the last 10 years at Otay Ranch High School. Over his career he has taught concert band, symphonic band, wind ensemble, jazz ensemble, marching band, string orchestra and special education classes.

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The Celebration of Music Education Concerts are part of SDYS’s effort to build community awareness and support for music education. SDYS' Balboa Park Programs and its Community Opus Project in Chula Vista are designed to demonstrate the multiple benefits that students, schools and neighborhoods accrue through music.

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To HOFFMAN HANONO INSURANCE SERVICES for relocating to Eastlake. On October 30, Hoffman Hanono opened its new offices with a ribbon-cutting ceremony. David Hoffman, Phil Hoffman, and Ezra Hanono were joined by Mayor Cheryl Cox, clients and close friends to celebrate. Hoffman Insurance was founded in 1959 by Jerry Hoffman. His philosophy was simple: provide affordable insurance products and offer the highest level of customer service. In 1970, the name of the agency was changed to Hoffman Hanono Insurance Agency when Philip Hoffman and Ezra Hanono joined. David Hoffman, Jerry’s grandson, represents the third generation of the Hoffman family to run the insurance agency. Hoffman Hanono Insurance Services is now located at 2090 Otay Lakes Road, Suite 102, Chula Vista. 6 OUR HOMETOWN · DECEMBER 2014

To RICK LEYVA, manager of Chula Vista’s new Grocery Outlet Bargain Market. The new Grocery Outlet was celebrated in grand style on October 2 by the customary ribbon-cutting performed by Chula Vista Mayor Cheryl Cox and local dignitaries. Store manager Rick Leyva was happy to announce that the opening of this franchise is not just to grow as a business, but also to give back to the community. “The number one thing is serving my community by providing low price options for groceries of high quality,” Rick said. This new location at 1340 Third Avenue will employ 40 full-time and part-time local residents. The Grocery Outlet desires to establish partnerships with food banks and to support community needs. / This Bravo submission was written by Valerie Gonzaga, 2014 Jr. Teen South San Diego.

To the SOUTH BAY AMBASSADORS who participated in the August Relay for Life in Seaport Village and the June Relay for Life at Chula Vista High School. Their team “Queens on a Mission” held tug-of-war and pie eating contests and sold hot chocolate and coffee to raise funds. AT&T Pioneers San Diego Council helped by holding a bake sale. This allowed the Ambassadors to exceed their fundraising goal of $500.00 to $672.00. Proceeds benefit the American Cancer Society. At the 24-hour event, awards were given for top fundraising teams, the most spirited team and other fun recognition. Queens on a Mission was honored to receive the 2014 Spirit Award. Ambassadors who participated in all 24 hours include Gabriela Lucero, Jennifer Razo, Heather Costa, Joanne Hernandez, Lizbeth Jensen, Caitlin Costa and Gloria Hinds. The South Bay Ambassador Program encourages youth in community service, leadership, education, communication and teamwork. You can help the Ambassadors reach their 2015 Relay for Life goal by visiting RelayforLife.org and donating to Queens on a Mission at the Chula Vista location. / This submission was written by Valerie Gonzaga, 2014 Jr. Teen South San Diego.

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To SHARP CHULA VISTA MEDICAL CENTER for being named a “Planetree Designated® Patient-Centered Organization.” Sharp Chula Vista began working toward Planetree designation three years ago. Since then, staff, physicians and volunteers have worked to address more than 60 components of care, including patient-provider interactions, access to information, family involvement, physical environments, food and nutrition, spirituality, arts and entertainment and integrative therapies. Guided by these components, Sharp Chula Vista has implemented many initiatives to enhance experiences for the 100,000 patients it serves each year. The designation process included a site visit by Planetree representatives; focus groups with recent patients, residents and current staff; and a review of the hospital’s patient satisfaction and quality performance ratings.

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NEWS

/ On your Doorstep

New Gateway to Bayfront Opens in Chula Vista The Port of San Diego and the City of Chula Vista celebrated the completion of the H Street Extension project in a ribbon-cutting ceremony on October 30. The project created a new connection from the San Diego Bay to the main streets in western Chula Vista. The $7.2 million project is part of the Port's Capital Improvement Program. Chula Vista Mayor Cheryl Cox and Port Commissioner Ann Moore commemorated the new entryway by cutting a red ribbon, marking the opening of the newly extended roadway. The grand opening festivities also included the unveiling of a commemorative brass plaque installed in the new sidewalk. The plaque's location indicates the historical high tide line and features the names of the current Chula Vista Mayor, City Council and Board of Port Commissioners. "The H Street extension is far more than just a street improvement project," said Commissioner Moore. "It's an opening to San Diego Bay, making it significantly easier to access our beautiful Chula Vista Bayfront."

Mayor Cheryl Cox speaking at the ribbon-cutting ceremony on October 30, 2014.

The project broke ground in November 2013 and was completed under budget and slightly ahead of schedule. It extended H Street, which previously came to a dead-end at Bay Boulevard, by approximately 2,000 linear feet to reach Marina Parkway. Work included surface demolition of an area previously used by Goodrich Industries. Asphalt, concrete surfaces, utility pipes, storm drain pipes and structures were removed. New utilities were installed, including a new storm drain pipe and steel water lines. A dewatering system and new bioretention basins were also added to assist with best management practices in relation to storm water. Extension of the roadway entailed constructing a modified four-lane roadway section. A separate 12-foot wide bike lane and fivefoot wide sidewalk, street lighting and landscaping were also included. The H Street Extension is another milestone for the Chula Vista waterfront. In

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On your Doorstep

Chula Vista Library Offers "Food for Fines" in December

Save The DaTe

Friday, January 23, 2015 Presenting Sponsor: The adrian & Betsy Gonzalez Foundation Gold Sponsors: US Bank,

Barbara Legg, Realtor/ Manalo Realty

Tickets: $50 Per Person Buy 2 or More: $45 Per Person 21 & Over Only Guests will enjoy fantastic food and drinks from restaurants, wineries, breweries, and spirit purveyors. Also, live music and a fabulous live/silent auction. It will be a night to remember with many of Chula Vista’s local leaders, business owners and educators.

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Visit www.eefkids.org or Call 619.997.6470 vendors: Bay Bridge Brewing Caeser’s Chili’s Jersey Mike’s Subs Savoie Eatery Convivia, Resguardo, Origen, Zarco, Indulge CV / Chef Flor Franco Organo Gold Deckman’s en el Mogor / Chef Drew Deckman PF Changs St. Petersburg Vodka Venga Venga Cantina and Tequila Bar Via Lago Trattoria Trader Joes Vinecola Klandestina S.DE RL DE CV La Terrasse San Roman-Valle de Guadalupe

...Plus more to come! we look forward to seeing you there.

February 2013, the South Bay Power Plant was imploded in order to ready that portion of the bayfront for redevelopment. On October 14, 2014 Board of Port Commissions authorized negotiations with RIDA Development Corporation to build a planned hotel and convention center on the bayfront.

The Chula Vista Public Library is offering an opportunity to wipe away overdue fines while helping those in need during its “Food for Fines” campaign. The library is partnering with Altrusa International, Inc. of Chula Vista, and all donations will benefit South Bay Community Services to help local families in need. Bring food items to any library branch from December 1 to 24 to waive your fines. Non-perishable items such as canned vegetables, canned meats and dried pasta count for $1 worth of fines for each item. Non-nutritious items such as candy or chips, damaged containers and foods that have passed their expiration dates will not be accepted in lieu of fines. A maximum of $10 in library fines per library card will be waived in exchange for donated food. Items may be used to clear fines only—not for lost or damaged books or collection agency fees.

Those who do not owe fines are also encouraged to donate. Food will be accepted at the following branch libraries: Civic Center, 365 F St.; South Chula Vista, 389 Orange Ave.; and Otay Ranch at the Otay Ranch Town Center, 2015 Birch Road. For more information, visit any of the city’s libraries or chulavistalibrary.com.

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On your Doorstep

EastLake Village Marketplace Hosts

Free Holiday Event Come and see Santa arrive on the Holiday Express train on Saturday, December 6 at 1 p.m. Then enjoy train rides, face painting and balloon sculptures—all free! Bring your camera and video equipment to record that special moment of your child with Santa. Children ages 12 and under can make holiday backpacks at the craft area, and everyone can enjoy the musical entertainment provided by local schools from 1 to 4 p.m. EastLake Village Marketplace is located on the corner of Eastlake Parkway and Otay Lakes Road and features 30 shops and services including Target, Lowe’s, Office Depot and BevMo. For information about special events held throughout the year, visit www.ShopEastLakeMarketplace.com.

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 Nov. 28 - Dec. 21 Appropriate for all ages

Gillian is a beautiful witch living in 1950s New York City and is smitten with her handsome upstairs neighbor. She casts a little spell, and he is immediately and completely captivated by her. But Gillian must be careful—If she falls in love with him, she could lose her magical powers forever. Will she be undone by her own mischief? Bell, Book and Candle was written by John Van Druten will run until December 21 in Chula Vista. It is presented by special arrangement with Dramatists Play Service, Inc. and is appropriate for all ages.

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OnStage Playhouse Presents “Bell, Book and Candle”

General admission tickets are $17$23. Group rates are available. Reserve your seat at (619) 422RSVP (7787) or onstageplayhouse. org. Curtain times are Thursdays through Saturdays at 8:00 p.m. and Sundays at 2:00 p.m. OnStage Playhouse is located on historic Third Avenue in downtown Chula Vista, within walking distance of many restaurants for pre- and post-show dining. Parking is easily available on nearby streets or in several City lots.

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HOUSE & HOME Christmas Tree Safety As you deck the halls this holiday season, be fire smart. A small fire that spreads to a Christmas tree can become large quickly. Please follow these safety tips brought to you by the Chula Vista Fire Department.

Picking the right tree

Choose a tree with fresh, green needles that do not fall off when touched.

placing your tree

Before placing the tree in the stand, cut 1-2" from the base of the trunk. Make sure the tree is at least three feet away from any heat source such as fireplaces, candles, heat vents or lights. Add water to the tree stand. Be sure to add water daily.

Lighting the tree

Use lights labeled with an independent testing laboratory, e.g. UL. Replace any string of lights that has worn or broken cords or loose bulb connections. Never use lit candles to decorate the tree.

Students in the Chula Vista Elementary School District experience a rigorous 21st century learning environment that is rooted in effective teaching practices and high-quality instruction. We nurture every child’s imagination, intellect, and sense of inquiry. Working with stakeholders, we harness the potential of a collective intelligence rich with the imagination and creativity necessary for students to become difference makers.

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Always turn off Christmas tree lights before leaving home or going to bed.

After Christmas

Get rid of the tree after Christmas or when it is dry. Dried-out trees are a fire danger and should not be left in the home or garage or placed outside against the home. Bring outdoor electrical lights inside after the holidays to prevent hazards and make them last longer.

preparing for the christmas season Considering Pet Adoption this Christmas?

By MaryJane Garcia

Pets make a home complete. They offer companionship, comfort, an emotional connection, loyalty and even comedy with their unique personalities. Many people consider pets as part of the family and include them in everything they do. While having a pet can be very rewarding, a big responsibility goes along with the territory. If you’re thinking about adding a pet to your household, get to know the facts before adopting. Here are four fundamentals:

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Choose the right pet.

This depends on your lifestyle. Take into account the amount of time you dedicate to your work and other commitments, the size of your living space, overall noise and activity in your home, other family needs and energy level. Research what type of animal is most ideal by comparing its temperament, life stage and specific needs to what you can offer.

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Devote the time.

As you can see, pet parenthood involves a lot of considerations. If you are ready to make a commitment, the next step is to find your new friend. Please start where the need is greatest for good homes. Try local shelters such as the Chula Vista Animal Care Facility, adoption events held at Petco locations, breed-specific rescues such as It’s the Pits, organizations reducing pet overpopulation such as the Spay Neuter Action Project of San Diego or online for scores of adoptable pets throughout San Diego County. By adopting and not shopping, you save a life and create space for another animal in need. It’s a win-win!

A pet will be completely dependent on you. Establish and stick to a routine for feeding, litter box or cage maintenance, exercise, training if needed, medication and extra attention when ill, trips to the vet or groomer and quality moments together. Add pet food and other pet-related necessities to your weekly shopping list so you don’t need to make last-minute visits to the store.

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Each type of animal has a different set of expenses. A dog, for instance, runs about $1,000 per year for food, treats, routine medical care, grooming, pee pads and accessories such as bowls or dispensers, collar, leash, crate, etc. It may be wise to get pet insurance for unexpected illnesses or injuries; premiums vary based on age and health history. Don’t forget about the extras such as spaying or neutering, pet rent, additional security deposit, licensing requirement, micro-chipping or a one-time adoption fee.

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n the 1946 movie It’s a Wonderful Life, George Bailey faces tough circumstances: the loss of hearing in his left ear as a child, the death of his father on the eve of a longawaited trip, foregoing college—and his career plans—to save the family business, and spending his honeymoon savings to pacify bank patrons. The incident that takes all hope from George is the misplacement of thousands of dollars of bank funds: he faces a prison sentence, scandal upon his family and the dissolution of his business. George becomes so desperate that he decides to take his own life. In the nick of time, Clarence appears. He shows George through a series of vignettes just how beautiful his life is. At the end, George experiences unexpected generosity and love from countless friends and family members. Like George Bailey, people face the unexpected every day. They make tough choices that affect both themselves and others. They often fall into the trap of wallowing in their misery and allow hopelessness to envelope them.

Bryson and Megan Menke

But, hope lives. This December, learn about three families who have walked through valleys that were darker than anyone should travel.

they have realized—despite difficulties—that they really do have a wonderful life. But like George Bailey,

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It’s a Wonderful Life

cover & feature photos by schafer photography

n 2007, the Navy moved Bryson and Megan Menke and their little girl, Hailey, to the San Diego area. As a young couple, the Menkes made friends and found a community they grew to love. Then they learned that their daughter might die.

After getting Hailey an X-ray for possible pneumonia in 2008, the Menkes learned that their little girl was in the first stages of heart failure. She had a severe congenital heart defect that should have been found at birth and repaired by six months old. She was now 18 months. Bryson and Megan were told that Hailey might be too old to have the corrective surgery. The Menkes dove headfirst into a new world of lingo and specialists. Weeks later, Hailey was cleared to have open heart surgery. She spent 18 days in the ICU. “It was a long, scary road we were on,” said Megan. At the end of 2008, Hailey was off all medications, was doing well and welcomed her new baby brother, Max, into the world. The Menkes felt comfort when Max’s heart echo after birth showed no defects. That feeling was quickly gone when they learned four days later that his newborn screening test was abnormal. Max was diagnosed with a rare metabolic disorder, MCAD. Bryson and Megan began a new journey of a strict feeding schedule, searching for the right specialist, more new lingo and trying to understand the metabolic system. With a body that cannot digest or store most kinds of fat, Max’s body could shut down with any sickness. He wasn’t cleared to sleep all night without being awakened to eat until he was four years old.

Three years ago, Bryson and Megan had a tough conversation about whether they would let fear keep them as a family of four. If they had a third child, what if the baby had a heart defect? What if the baby had MCAD? What if the baby had both? Or what if Bryson and Megan chose to walk by faith and not fear? In 2012, Bryson and Megan welcomed spunky Mia into their family. Yes, Mia was born with congenital heart defects and spent several days in the ICU after open heart surgery. But, the Menkes wouldn't trade the journey they've been on for anything. Although it took some time, the Menkes have been able to find a peace in God's plan for their children and family. They credit their Eastlake community—the friends who are more like family—who have pulled them through the difficult years they’ve faced. They mention friends who came to the hospital with them when Hailey was diagnosed, people who donated blood for both girls’ surgeries and those who read labels to make sure Max can eat that particular food. Facebook messages, emails, phone calls and texts “to check on whichever kid currently needs the extra love” have been consistent. The heart family support group through Rady Children’s Hospital has also been a source of support. The Menkes fondly think of those who came to pray with them before Mia’s surgery and those who arrived at the hospital to sit with them during her operation. Are they still glad they decided to have three children?

“We are so lucky to have these three amazing kids—medical conditions and all!” said Megan. “We are thankful every day for these kids that call us ‘Mom’ and ‘Dad.’”

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fter honeymooning in San Diego in 1986, Russ and Lisa Michaud moved to the area in 1997. Lisa’s company had relocated to Otay Mesa, and Russ took a job as a grade checker for Hazard Construction, grading roads, parking lots and airport runways. He’d often say, “People pay big money to vacation here, and I get paid to work in this sunshine.” Russ, Lisa and their two children were at home in Chula Vista. On November 16, 2009, Lisa received a life-changing phone call. She learned that Russ, while kneeling, pounding a stake into the ground, was run over by a 10-wheel dump truck. Alive—barely—he was rushed to the hospital via helicopter, where a team of doctors and medical staff worked to repair his damaged wrist, broken pelvis and internal injuries. He spent over a week in the ICU. After five weeks of hospitalization, Russ came home on Christmas Eve five years ago. The accident turned Russ and Lisa’s world upside down. For weeks every movement was a challenge for Russ: sitting up, moving his legs to the edge of the bed, standing, sitting down. He had surgery to remove fluid in a leg and later wound up back in the ER because of a blood clot. Russ was prescribed 14 to 18 pills a day to help combat infections and pain. Russ underwent occupational therapy for his wrist and physical therapy for his pelvis twice a week. It was hard work to rebuild his muscles, but he wanted to return to his job. He got around in an electric wheelchair and by the end of January could put enough weight on his wrists and legs to use a walker. This meant that Russ and Lisa could go out without a caregiver since Lisa could lift the walker into the back of the car; she couldn’t lift the chair. Holidays marked Russ’s progress that year. On Valentine’s Day, Russ climbed the staircase in his home. “For the first time in three months we slept in the same bed on Valentine’s night,” said Lisa. By mid-March, Russ was walker free. Russ was limited to visits from only four people when he was in the hospital. Many more friends and family members wanted to see him. Lisa started a blog to keep them updated with Russ’s progress—and setbacks. These posts let their community of friends know how to pray not only for Russ, but for Lisa, too.

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She cared for him while attempting to live as normal a life as possible and relied on God to pull them both through the aftermath. In early 2011, Russ returned to work, but his injuries were too severe to overcome. His heart was willing, but his body just couldn’t keep up. At age 54 with retirement looming, this was a step back in Russ’s plan for the future. Despite Russ and Lisa’s good attitude, they received another blow in February 2012. This time Russ called Lisa with the bad news: he’d been diagnosed with prostate cancer. “It seemed unreal,” said Russ. “Like, are you kidding me?” More medical appointments ensued.

Today, Russ is cancer free and getting the hang of being retired. He and Lisa enjoy their time together and stay busy. Despite this, Russ is often faced with forgetfulness—a side effect of the medication. But, he shrugs off his poor memory. “When you get lemons, what do you do?” he asked, fullwell knowing the answer.

ichael and Veronica James married in 2005. Although they enjoyed their early years of marriage and the traveling they did together, they were excited to start a family. To their dismay, this dream seemed unobtainable. After some time, Michael and Veronica decided to try in-vitro fertilization (IVF) but these attempts were also unsuccessful. So, they considered adoption. While Michael and Veronica prepared for their last IVF cycle, they were presented with the opportunity to adopt their son Caleb two weeks before he was born. Calling him a gift from heaven, Baby Caleb joined the family. Then, to Michael and Veronica’s surprise, the last IVF cycle worked. Veronica became pregnant with twins, Alexander and Noah. Veronica’s pregnancy was difficult, and the twins were born at 25 weeks. They spent several months in the hospital.

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“We love our boys. Life is not the way that we imagined, but it is still equally meaningful and joyful…if not more,” said Michael. Alexander suffered brain damage from complications of his premature birth and was diagnosed with cerebral palsy. The Jameses were told that Alex would be mentally retarded and may not walk. As the twins grew, so did Caleb, who is just five months older than Alex and Noah. But, he didn’t crawl until 12 months and didn’t walk until 20 months. The physical therapy that Michael and Veronica arranged for Caleb helped, but blood tests confirmed that Caleb has Duchenne muscular dystrophy. The Jameses were told that Caleb, who was only three years old at the time, will be in a wheelchair by 10 to 13 years old and will live to only 20 or 30 years. He will be a quadriplegic the last few years of his life and begin to lose his strength at age five. This was a difficult burden to bear. The Jameses say they did their share of crying, but they have moved on from the sorrow and toward advocacy and enjoying life with Caleb and their family. Almost five years old, Caleb is doing well. He loves life and his brothers. Michael and Veronica are hopeful of a better future for him, but they are prepared to care for him for the rest of his life.

“We need to set the tone for our boys. If we live life like a tragedy is occurring, our boys will grow up with the same mind-set.” Michael & Veronica James The Jameses credit their faith and large extended family as their sources of hope. “Our boys have many cousins to grow up with. Our support system is strong and for that we are very grateful…We do trust God with our lives and our children. We live grateful lives and we do not enter the future with fear. We walk towards the future with faith and hope.”

As Clarence wrote to George at the end of It’s a Wonderful Life, “Remember no man is a failure who has friends.” May we count our blessings this Christmas and celebrate the joy of the season with those who give us hope and love.

And the twins? “By God’s grace and through the help of many wonderful therapists,” said Michael, “Alexander tested normal for intelligence at three years old, and he walks with a walker. He continues to talk more, and we haven’t put limits on how far he can go.” Noah has had no complications and is testing normal with his peers. He is a star in his preschool class. Alex and Caleb are in the same special-ed pre-school class. They are making progress in school and their pre-school teachers comment about their kind hearts and good behavior.

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ON TOPIC Time to

Reflect and Heal

Helping

By Dr. Luisa Fijman

By Isabel Lozano

The holidays are here.

The holiday season brings a time of reflection and planning.

This is the time of year about which many words have been written and spoken. It is the time of year where many feelings and actions are geared toward our loved ones and communities. It is difficult to resist the excitement, bright and colorful lights, cookies and chocolates, Santa Claus and Papa Noel, wonderful music and lending a hand to our fellow human beings. Yet it is also a time of stress, pain, tears and frustration. A time where expectations are dashed and many families find themselves divided and separated.

Parents Downsize

It is no different when facing decisions for aging parents.

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Still, communities, houses of worship and social groups continue to spread the message of hope and inspiration. This message comes at no better time than now. Let each of us join with neighbors, friends and family to try harder and better during the holidays and every day after. Applying meaningfulness to our actions truly facilitates empathy, well-being and the betterment of our lives. Let’s enjoy every minute of this season at hand. Happy holidays to all! 18 OUR HOMETOWN · DECEMBER 2014

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Remaining at home may include isolation, an unsafe environment or the inability to properly manage their own self care and medications. A licensed retirement community such as Westmont at San Miguel Ranch, also referred to as a residental care facility, can offer a beautiful environment with many opportunities for socialization and physical and mental stimulation. Research studies show that this promotes both health and longevity. According to Executive Director Mary Eaton Campbell, most residents adjust to their new environment in just a few weeks. “It is very rewarding to see our residents buzzing about the community, enjoying their friends and all the wonderful amenities and lifestyle activities we offer,” she said. “I had a resident in another community who has been there twenty-seven years.”

Residential care facilities offer month-to-month rentals, which make it possible to try a community without feeling obligated to a long-term commitment. Once there, most people admit that they should have made the move sooner.

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In the latter scenario, it is possible that the decision may have to be made by people other than the parents or even their adult children. If there is an illness, injury or life-changing event that makes it unsafe for aging parents to remain at home, a social worker may decide Mom or Dad cannot return home. Families may then find themselves scrambling to find the next best place without the luxury of time. The best-case scenario is when our parents recognize on their own the need to downsize and be in a safe environment.

There is no magic formula to convince parents to downsize. But it is important to keep a close eye on Mom or Dad and look for signs that tell it is time to begin the conversation.

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Trying to find the most gentle way of helping Mom or Dad transition through downsizing may not be easy. Some parents may come to this decision on their own, others may need to be gently encouraged and some may dig in their heels—even at their own expense. Then, family dynamics may come into play, making the process both a bit challenging and emotionally stressful.

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Hardly a dry eye was in the audience when Loma Verde Elementary School fifth grade student Georgia Magallan-Tejeda read her winning essay at the Marine Corps Birthday Cake Ceremony and Veterans Day event at the Veterans Home of Chula Vista on November 11. Her essay addressed the theme "Why it's important to thank our veterans."

Georgia won first place and a $40 Barnes and Noble gift card in the annual Ladies Auxiliary Military Order of the Purple Heart essay contest. Chula Vista Marine Corps League Detachment 1207 sponsored the event.

Georgia also won hearts and minds. As the nation prepared for holiday observances, Georgia called attention to the empty chair in her home. Her father is on deployment in the Navy. "The sobs at night. The empty chair calling out my father's name. Loneliness fills my house. He's not home for the holidays... I long for his humor and crazy jokes," Georgia said, reading her essay. "Our veterans are heroes. I give thanks to our veterans for serving our country and for being there when we need them," Georgia continued. "We are not alone. Thanks to our veterans our country is filled with peace and justice." The Chula Vista Elementary School District and City of Chula Vista collaborated on a Veterans Parade on Nov. 7. With festive marching bands and solemn military tributes, the "Honoring Our Heroes" Veterans Day Parade and Ceremony brought together veterans, community members and Veterans Elementary School students in a multi-generational observance of the holiday.

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p.m. every night through Dec. 24 @ Village Walk (Eastlake Parkway and Miller Drive in Chula Vista). Enjoy the community carolers, listen to holiday music and watch the snow gently fall. For more info, visit www.shopvillagewalk.com.

BELL, BOOK AND CANDLE @ Onstage

Playhouse, 291 3rd Ave., Chula Vista. Thursdays through Saturdays at 8 p.m. and Sundays at 2 p.m. until Dec. 21. Presented by special arrangement with Dramatists Play Service, Inc. and appropriate for all ages. Tickets $17$23. Call (619) 422-RSVP (7787) or visit www.onstageplayhouse.com.

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@ corner of Eastlake Parkway and Otay Lakes Road. See Santa arrive on the Holiday Express train, enjoy train rides, face painting, musical entertainment and more— all free! For more info, visit www. ShopEastLakeMarketplace.com.

LAS POSADAS @ 2

p.m. @ Foundry United Methodist Church, 861 Harold Pl., Chula Vista. See a cross-border nativity renactment that serves as a reminder that God's love transcends international borders. For more info, visit www.foundryotayranch.org.

SANTA AND MRS. CLAUS COME TO TOWN @ 12-3

p.m. @ Village Walk (Eastlake Parkway and Miller Drive in Chula Vista). Bring the family for afternoon snowfalls at 1, 2 and 3 p.m. and enjoy photos with Santa, train rides and craft activities for children ages 12 and younger. For more info, visit www.shopvillagewalk.com.

A CHILDREN'S CHRISTMAS @ 10 a.m. @ Foundry United Methodist Church, 861 Harold Pl., Chula Vista. Under Wraps takes on new meaning when viewed through the eyes of a child. Children are invited to wear pajamas to church. For more info, visit www.foundryotayranch.org.

"BIRTHDAY OF THE KING" CHILDREN & YOUTH PRESENTATION @ 10 a.m. @ Community Congregational Church (UCC). 276 F Street, Chula Vista. For more info, call (619) 422-9263.

BREAKFAST WITH SANTA @ 11 a.m.-1

p.m. @ YMCA Sports Complex, 2390 Boswell Road, Ste. 300., Chula Vista. Enjoy music by DJ JFlex, a bounce house, kids’ activities, Santa and more. For more info, visit southbay. ymca.org or call (619) 421-9622.

AUTHOR TALK BY TOM HOM @ 2 p.m. @ Bonita-Sunnyside Library, 4375 Bonita Road, Chula Vista. A second-generation Chinese-American, Chula Vista resident Tom Hom has written a memoir titled Rabbit on a Bumpy Road. For more info, call (619) 4726403 or email lorelum@aol.com.

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Community Congregational Church (UCC), 276 F St., Chula Vista. For more info, call (619) 422-9263.

LIGHTHOUSE CHRISTIAN FELLOWSHIP CHRISTMAS PROGRAM @ 9:30 a.m. and11:15 a.m. in English and 1 p.m. in Spanish @ Eastlake High School's Performing Arts Center, 1120 Eastlake Pkwy, Chula Vista. Bring the family, sing carols and feel festive. Laugh, love and live the real reason for the occasion.

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CARNIVAL @ 5 - 8

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BUSINESS HIGHLIGHTS

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DR. FIJMAN, PH.D.

The mark of a successful dental practice often comes down to the relationships between the patients, staff and professionals. In the case of the Great Dental Group, patients get a sense that the staff is more like an extended family. “We are very proud of our whole staff from the clinical side to customer service…Many of our day-to-day staff members have been with the company for over a decade,” states Hoss Said, Vice President of the Safoura Massoumi Professional Dental Corporation, operators of both the Children’s Primary Dental and the Great Dental Group in Chula Vista. The Great Dental Group’s team and its combined knowledge in adult and pediatric dentistry is second to none in San Diego County. Because of its quality of care, understanding the task at hand, and being highly self-disciplined, it is referred by happy patients who have received exceptional service. It is proud to provide employment to over 50 employees, full-time and part-time, with nine dentists on staff five days a week. On Saturdays, the staff often participates in community service work throughout San Diego.

“Failure is not an option,” Dr. Luisa Fijman states when it comes to treating her patients. “We work together to pull back the veil of secrecy and address the real issues. In turn, we can then measure our progress and success by the improvement in their quality of life.”

The Great Dental Group serves the greater San Diego area. It specializes in pediatric dentistry and is one of the fastest growing adult dental practices in the area. It accepts all major insurance carriers and is an approved medical provider by the State of California. Its mission statement reads, “Treat all patients the same. We serve a diverse ethnic group and no matter what the patient’s financial status is, our priority is to take care of their dental needs first.”

She became a dedicated student of her field by studying the practices of greats such as Sigmund Freud, Eric Ericson and Freud’s daughter, Anna. Though her field is scientific, the results are simple. She wants her patients to enjoy every minute of their lives. Her method does not focus on the spiritual, but the practical. She does encourage her patients to seek help from a spiritual leader.

The adult dental center, the Great Dental Group, is conveniently located at 1310 Third Avenue, Chula Vista. It is staffed by a hand-selected team of experienced associate dentists who are known for being trusted, honest, skilled, and effective in all adult treatments. Great Dental Group is located at 1310 Third Avenue in Chula Vista. Call (619) 425-9930 to make an appointment today.

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Dr. Fijman is a no-nonsense psychiatrist who desires to help every patient through a defined path and an accountable goal of healing. This perspective doesn’t just come from her education, but from personal experiences as well. Trained as a pathologist at Brown University and having completed her residency at William Beaumont Hospital in Troy, Michigan, Dr. Fijman was successful as the head of two labs. Then, after having children, she nurtured an interest in child development. Dr. Fijman decided to change careers and pursued psychiatry. This put her back at square one. Her training in psychiatry was at Michigan State University and Wayne State University with a threeyear internship of adult psychiatry and two years in a child and adolescent fellowship.

Dr. Fijman is a strong advocate of incorporating nutritional and integrative methods to pharmacological ones. She believes that meaningfulness applied to every-day life teaches patients resiliency and flexibility, which are paramount conditions to achieve an emotionally balanced life. Dr. Luisa B. Fijman, Ph.D. is located at 2400 Fenton St., Ste. 210 in Chula Vista and 5030 Camino de la Siesta, Ste. 308 in San Diego. Call (619) 227-6304 to make an appointment today.

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RESIDENT SPOTLIGHT Tom & Loretta Hom Thomas E. Hom is a man who lives by example. A man who believes in becoming the change you would want to see. A walk-the-walk and talk-the-talk leader that moved San Diego forward in a time when minorities were not viewed as equals. To describe the life of Thomas (Tom) Hom would take more space than this article has room for. I suggest finding a copy of his memoirs titled Rabbit on a Bumpy Road. It is an entertaining and detailed timeline of his life, full of adventure, challenges, tragedy and success. Highlighted here are a few of those accomplishments as a businessman, community advocate and a respected political figure.

In 1943 at age 16, Tom and his brothers were unexpectedly thrown into running the family produce company due to the unforeseen passing of their father. The third oldest of 12 children, Tom, with his brothers, not only continued to run the family business, but also grew it to become one of the largest in Southern California. In 1963, Tom became the first minorityelected city councilman in San Diego’s history. He served two terms and continued his public service as a state assembly member. Later, he returned to his passion of real estate and property management. Tom’s life is one for the movies. He is a tuberculosis survivor, loyal and honorable son, artist, champion for equal rights, beloved husband and father, respected and groundbreaking public servant, successful real estate broker, restaurateur and now an accomplished author. He’s even been known to give a good haircut. Today Tom lives in Chula Vista with his second wife, Loretta, after losing his first wife, Dorothy, to cancer. Loretta and Tom are both active in retirement, taking tai chi to keep fit, golfing, traveling and working with organizations like the Asian Pacific Islander American Public Affairs Association to promote civic engagement. They are also active in the Chinese Community Church in Tierrasanta and stay busy with their combined family. Tom has six children; Loretta four. They spend time with Tom’s 13 grandchildren, four more of Loretta’s, and her five great-grandchildren. Now that should make for a fun household during the holidays.

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Tom is a tuberculosis survivor, loyal and honorable son, artist, champion for equal rights, beloved husband and father, respected and groundbreaking public servant, successful real estate broker, restaurateur and now an accomplished author.