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From the Editor
-Amber Weber
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06 community On your Doorstep
12 cover story Butterflies and Boys Men Man of the House Who are They?
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Everyone has had people of influence in their lives. Sometimes these influencers are negative. Sometimes they’re positive. Sometimes they’re women. And sometimes they’re men. Our June issue looks at the positive influence of men in our community, on our children, and in our own lives. You’re probably familiar with some of these quotes: “The greatness of a man is not in how much wealth he acquires, but in his integrity and his ability to affect those around him positively.” “The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.” “Every father should remember that one day his son will follow his example, not his advice.” No man is perfect—any wife can attest to that!—but many men in Chula Vista are men of integrity who make our community a wonderful place. How do they get that way? How can they influence others to become great? And how can we help the boys in our community grow up to become great men? These are some of the questions addressed in this special Father’s Day issue. Now, I am blessed to have a great dad. Growing up, he had a habit of quoting famous authors to encourage me to do more and be more. “Time and tide wait for no man” and “Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself” were frequent recitations. Perhaps most often, though, I heard him say, “The world steps aside for the man [woman] who knows where he [she] is going.” The product of this was an ambitious daughter. But more important than all he had to say were his actions. Dad, like all men, isn’t perfect, but he earned the respect of his family by loving and leading us, earned the respect of his colleagues and clients by treating them fairly and honestly, and earned the respect of his community by setting an example of how he would like to be treated. Why would I settle for anything less in a husband? Having a great dad motivated me to marry a great man. To the men out there, you are an example, for better or for worse. Make it for the better.
Grandma’s Recipe for Good Boys
20 education Preparing Students for High School
22 calendar Out & About
24 business highlights RE/MAX Praecelsus Lighthouse Christian Fellowship
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BRAVO To the Chula Vista Fire Department (CVFD) for obtaining a donation of 60 combination carbon monoxide/smoke alarms from Kidde Fire safety. Kidde Fire Safety donated 250 additional smoke alarms through a partnership with country star Craig Morgan. In turn, the CVFD partnered with Chula Vista Rotarians and participated in their 2014 Rotary at Work Day. The Work Day is when the Rotarians "roll up their sleeves and physically give back to the community." It was a win-win for all. On April 26, 2014, the Rotarians and CVFD installed 70 smoke alarms for residents of the Trailer Villa Mobile
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Home Park, located at 288 Broadway, Chula Vista. The event was such a success that the Rotarians made a return visit to install eight additional alarms. Through the Rotary at Work Day, the CVFD was able to spread the message that "early detection saves lives." The remainder of the smoke alarms will go to the Burn Institute to help other cities with similar efforts.
To the supporters of the Chula Vista Public Library Foundation’s 2014 Bon Appétit fundraiser. Close to 300 guests, volunteers, vendors, and board members enjoyed a wonderful array of wine, craft beer, premium vodka, hard cider, tequila and the event’s signature almond champagne. Delicious samples from some of the South Bay’s favorite restaurants and food purveyors were also present. Many thanks to the Silver Sponsor, Sprouts, and Bronze sponsors: The Chula Vista Woman’s Club, Michael Meacham and James Nothnagel. The outstanding food vendors that made this a great event include Bay Bridge Brewing, BJ’s Restaurant, BullChicks,
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Casa Bella, Chili’s Dolphins, Edible Arrangements, El Cartel Tequila, Jersey Mike’s, Nestle Toll House Café, Nothing Bundt Cakes, Panera Bread, PF Chang, Romano’s Macaroni Grill, Rubio’s, Savoie, St. Petersburg Vodka, Trader Joe’s and Vermont Hard Cider Company. More than 60 local businesses and individuals contributed to the exciting silent auction. Funds raised will enable the opening of “The Hub,” a community space next to the Otay Ranch Library for community meetings, small performances, tutoring and after-school homework help, wifi for quiet study and reading, a passport acceptance office, and many other library and community programs and activities.
To the City of Chula Vista’s CLEAN Champion Award winners who help achieve clean air, clean water, and clean land within Chula Vista. After receiving nominations from the public and City staff, the Resource Conservation Commission selected the following award winners: CLEAN Air Award: MAAC Project for improving air quality and reducing GHG emissions, CLEAN Water Award: Harry Orgovan from Chula Vista Kayak for improving water quality and lower water use, CLEAN Land Award: Gracia y Paz Covenant Church for improving habitat quality and reducing waste, CLEAN Youth Award: Julian Estrada for the environmental leadership of an individual under 18 years old, and CLEAN City Employee Award: Jose Dorado, Project Coordinator, Housing Division, for contributing to improving the City’s sustainability. The Resource Conservation Commission recognizes the awards program as an annual tradition that both celebrates local environmental champions and inspires others to keep Chula Vista CLEAN. More information on the City of Chula Vista’s environmental programs and services can be found at www. chulavistaca.gov/clean.
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To projeCt pie, a Carlsbad-based pizza chain, for recently opening its second Chula Vista restaurant at 2260 Otay Lakes Road in the Eastlake Village Center. The Eastlake location is the company’s third in San Diego County, following earlier openings in Hillcrest and at the Chula Vista Center on Broadway. Both Chula Vista locations are owned by franchise partner Brian Mills, a 25-year restaurant industry veteran. Company officials said Mills plans to develop as many as 20 Project Pie restaurants in San Diego County, with a third South County location to open in late 2014. Photo courtesy of Heather Martin To kiDs on the go for celebrating its ribbon-cutting ceremony and open house on Friday, May 2. Supporters, friends, staff, and the families and children they serve gathered around and cheered as the ribbon was cut. Mayor Cheryl Cox opened the festivities by welcoming the new family service center to the Otay Ranch Town Center. Mayor Cox’s speech reminded everyone of the importance of educating and encouraging young minds. Then, owner and founder Lynn Twork gave her opening words. She thanked the 100+ people in attendance for their support. Most importantly, Lynn thanked the children and staff for helping to make the grand opening possible. Kids On The Go is founded on the belief that family services and childcare should cost less and accomplish more. Learn more about Kids On The Go at www. kidsonthegochildcare.com or by calling (619) 407-7756.
The fast-casual restaurant lets customers custom-design their pizza with an array of toppings that they can choose from, which are then fast-baked in a high-temperature oven in approximately two minutes. The eateries also offer salads and desserts, such as its famous Nutella and banana dessert pizza. Project Pie was founded in 2012 by CEO James Markham, an industry veteran who previously launched concepts including MOD Pizza in Seattle and Pie-ology in Fullerton.
To seven schools in the Chula Vista Elementary School District, arroyo Vista Charter, joseph Casillas, DisCoVery Charter, lilian j. riCe, rosebank, silVer wing, anD sunnysiDe, for their strong commitment and innovative approaches to improving student academic achievement. The 2014 California Distinguished Schools program focuses on California students’ right to an equitable and rigorous education and recognizes those schools that have made progress in narrowing the academic achievement gap.
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U.S. News & World Report names sweetwater sChools among best oF 2014 In its annual ranking of schools, U.S. News & World Report has named the best schools in the nation. Seven of the 12 comprehensive high schools in the Sweetwater district were named medal winners, placing them among the top 12 percent of over 19,000 eligible schools in the U.S. Olympian High School was named a Gold Medal winner, placing it among the top three percent of all high schools in the nation. Schools were also ranked within each state. The seven Sweetwater Schools that received rankings were among the top 16 percent of California schools.
U.S. OLYMPIAN HIGH SCHOOL AMONG TOP 3% OF ALL HIGH SCHOOLS IN THE NATION The Sweetwater high schools ranked were Olympian (#93 in C.A. and #445 in the U.S.), Otay Ranch (#134 in C.A. and #668 in the U.S.), Eastlake (#137 in C.A. and #678 in the U.S.), Bonita Vista (#241 in C.A. and #1,113 in the U.S.), San Ysidro (#272 in C.A. and #1,261 in the U.S.), Sweetwater (#299 in C.A. and #1,361 in the U.S.), and Hilltop (#326 in C.A. and #1,469 in the U.S.).
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U.S. News's comprehensive rankings methodology is based on the key principles that a great high school must serve all of its students well, not just those who are college-bound, and that it must be able to produce measurable academic outcomes to show that the school is successfully educating its student body across a range of performance indicators. For more information about U.S. News’s list of America’s Best Schools, visit www.usnews.com/education/ best-high-schools.
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A Water Safety “WARN”ing
The lightness of summer turned dark in 2007 when three children were involved in drowning incidents in Chula Vista pools in the four-week period surrounding Labor Day. These unfortunate tragedies prompted the Chula Vista Fire and Recreation departments to launch a campaign to educate citizens about the dangers associated with swimming pools and other bodies of water. Drowning is the leading cause of accidental death for children under five and is 100 percent preventable. The safety campaign WARN—Water Awareness in Residential Neighborhoods— continues this spring and summer. Residents may notice signs around town, wrapped on fire engines or at information
booths at public events conveying the message that drowning is preventable. The WARN campaign teaches residents the "SAFER 3" model: safer kids, safer pools and safer response. “Safer kids” promotes teaching children to swim at an early age and having a responsible adult provide constant and uninterrupted supervision while children are in or near a swimming pool. “Safer water” means that swimming pools need proper fencing, gates and alarms that restrict unsupervised access to the water. “Safer response” means that parents need to learn CPR, first aid and water-rescue techniques.
Don't miss this upcoming event:
August 16 Water Safety Festival Parkway Family Aquatic Center -Free swim lessons -Water-safety demonstrations -"Hands-only" CPR class -BBQ lunch More information at: watersafety.chulavistaca.gov
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This year’s Summer Sundays at Village Walk at EastLake will feature a different band and car club each week. This popular event will also offer a craft activity, face painting and balloon sculptures for children. Complimentary food and product samples will also be available from Village Walk merchants.
is a fun, uplifting band of career musicians that mixes classic sixties and seventies rock sounds with the musical styles of the Caribbean islands. Anticipate hearing “Sittin' on the Dock of the Bay” in a reggae style, Buddy Holly's “Everyday” as a calypso, or Van Morrison's “Moondance” as a cha-cha.
JUne 15: navy Band southwest Destroyers, a contemporary entertainment ensemble, upholds the pride and professionalism displayed throughout today’s U.S. Navy. Its performance will include high-energy songs such as “Raise Your Glass” by Pink, “Forget You” by Cee Lo Green, and “Just The Way You Are” by Bruno Mars.
JUne 22: Y3K, meaning "Year 3000," is a dance band specializing in familiar, fun, live dance hits from the 80's, 90's and today—not just the classic oldies. With four-part harmony, male and female vocalists, keyboards, guitar, bass, drums and percussion, Y3K gets everyone to join in the fun.
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JUne 29: graceland is an Elvis Presley tribute band. The audience will be treated to the closest thing to a performance by the King of Rock and Roll himself. Fronted by the talented Todd TNT Torres, the group pays strict attention to detail by presenting a true-to-life show. This is the most soughtafter Elvis tribute in Southern California. JULY 6: the earthmovers Featuring Lady J will close out the performance schedule. This dynamic blues band is comprised of some of San Diego's most talented, versatile and inspired musicians. Led by the powerful, soulful vocals of their lead singer, it performs songs such as “At Last,” “Something's Got a Hold on Me,” “Stormy Monday,” and “Down-Home Blues.” all performances will begin at 5 p.m. and continue until 7 p.m. village walk at eastlake is located at the intersection of eastlake parkway and miller drive at 878 eastlake parkway, chula vista, ca 91914. For additional information, including a list of participating car clubs and the free weekly craft activities for children ages 12 and under, visit shopvillagewalk.com.
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Dreams do come true. That is, for 425 students with special needs.
“A Night to Remember” p r o m
On May 2, the fourth annual “A Night to Remember” prom took place at Eastlake Church. Imagine the scene: You pick out your very own prom dress or tuxedo; have a professional team of volunteers tailor your dress, fit you in a tux, do your hair and makeup; and even ride in a limousine. As the honored guest, you exit the limousine with your student host, a local youth volunteer, and are greeted by hundreds of fans and paparazzi as you stroll down a 250foot red carpet.
This is your moment; this is all for you. Thanks to the efforts of Rob and Cheryl Shields and their dedicated children Caroline, Zach and Hannah, this prom was a wonderful success. They organized help from friends and family, made and answered countless calls and worked deep into the night making gift bags for just one purpose: to witness the pure and priceless joy on the faces of students with special needs. This event could not have happened without the generous support of the following local businesses: Chick-fil-A, Eastlake Church, San Diego Padres, Proflowers, Sid’s Carpet Barn, The FotoBox, Paul Mitchell: The School and Marinella School of Beauty, and Mike V. from 98.1FM. If you or your business would like to contribute financially or donate a service for next year, please email Cheryl Shields at cheryl@anighttorememberprom.com or visit ANightToRememberProm.com.
ACCELERATING INNOVATION THROUGH THE INTELLECT
Students in the Chula Vista Elementary School District experience a rigorous 21st century learning environment that is rooted in effective teaching practices and high-quality instruction. We nurture every child’s imagination, intellect, and sense of inquiry. Working with stakeholders, we harness the potential of a collective intelligence rich with the imagination and creativity necessary for students to become difference makers. CVESD is frequently honored for student academic achievement, high performing schools, and quality instruction.
Enrolling now for 2014-15
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the first day of summer break. The kids are sleeping in, the birds are chirping and the sun is shining. All is quiet as you sip your traditional morning beverage. It’s so tranquil knowing there are no sack lunches to make, no last-minute school projects or homework to check. What a start to a perfect day… The kids finally come down and finish their breakfast, and then it starts. You hear those dreaded words: “I’m bored,” “What can I do?” or “There’s nothing to do.” Now you think that summer break can’t end fast enough. For some, there’s summer school. Yeah right, just try selling that to your kids. Don’t stress. Here are some fun ideas to help, such as sending your kids on
a day trip. is a family service center that offers turnkey, all-inclusive, daily activities like going to the San Diego County Fair, the beach and bowling to name a few. Whether you need year-round childcare from 6 a.m. to 6 p.m. or just a few hours of dropin care, it has it all. Fun, summer activities and programs can also help keep your child engaged, not just academically, but socially and physically, too. This can be a good time for your child to try a new activity without other obligations or distractions. teaches self-defense, confidence, self-
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esteem and discipline, all in a safe and positive environment. Your child will also learn self-control and camaraderie, skills useful in their dayto-day interactions centered on respect, courtesy and integrity. Chula Vista has an abundance of outdoor activities, too. One of the most popular growing sports for youth is golf. Check out ’s Nike Junior Golf Camp where players of all levels are provided with the environment and tools to learn the game of golf. This is one of the most popular camps for kids in San Diego County. It offers plenty of
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golf instruction with an emphasis on fitness, health and discipline. If you’re looking for a wide variety of affordable activities, check out the . The Y is a great starting point for youth to learn about becoming and staying active plus developing healthy habits they will carry throughout their lives. The benefits are far greater than just physical health. When kids play sports or learn to swim, they can build confidence, discover their personal best, have fun and be a part of a team. Knowing how hot the summers can get, you’ll also find the best of both
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worlds at . Set in a night club-style environment, kids and adults alike are motivated to jump as well as dance to the music playing through the club-grade sound system in an air-conditioned warehouse. Offering the latest in lighting equipment and state-of-the-art inflatables, it’s perfect for jumping and rocking all day.
Chula Vista Mayor Cheryl Cox accepted a donation of $45,000 from the Friends of the Chula Vista Library at the City Council meeting on Tuesday, April 8. The monetary gift will be used to purchase new books for the library, according to Library Director Betty Waznis. The donation is the result of a variety of Friends of the Library sales, fundraisers, membership dues and more.
As you can see, these ideas may help you get the tranquil summer you've been hoping for. Plus, your kids can stay active and have fun. Sit back, enjoy that cup of coffee, juice or tea and know this is going to be your family’s best summer break ever.
“The Friends of the Chula Vista Library are honored to support the Library with this $45,000 donation,” said Shauna Stokes, President of the Friends. “These funds are thanks to the hard work of our Library Friends who volunteer at our bookstores and book sales, along with sales of books online. Also, we couldn’t raise these funds without the generosity of our library patrons who donate their used books, DVDs, CDs and magazines for our sales, and who attend the sales and frequent our bookstores.” Stokes added that additional funds were provided by two endowments at the San Diego Foundation, established from past contributions and a bequest from late longtime Friends volunteer Marge Clark. “Our Friends of the Library perform a vital service for us,” said Waznis. “Their commitment to raising funds and raising public awareness of the importance of the library enriches our entire community.” Those interested in joining the Friends of the Chula Vista Library can visit any of the three branches– Civic Center, South Chula Vista or Otay Ranch–or call (619) 691-5069.
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Butterflies and Boys Men / Written by James Grogan, Eastlake Church Pastor / Photos by Schafer Photography
After picking up my 9-year-old daughter, I engaged in the usual after-school conversation. “How was school?” you mean?”
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“The circle of life is cruel.” /
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two things: the differences between girls and boys, and
As soon as we let them go, a bird swooped in and ate one. All the girls screamed!”
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man up As a boy, I liked adventure books and movies like Tom Sawyer and 20,000 Leagues Under the Sea. As a teenager, I was moved by some of the best actors in my generation such as Steven Seagal and Jean-Claude Van Damme. I mean, have you seen Hard to Kill or Blood Sport? They’re pure cinematic masterpieces! And now as a man (husband and father, too) I think Step Brothers is as funny as it gets. If Bruce Willis makes another Die Hard, you know I’m going to see it. But being a man is about much more than enjoying top predators on Animal Planet and awesome explosions. I believe every man has a calling to be a great man. I define great men not by their personal or professional accomplishments, but by their character and care for others. I believe we live in a great community which is filled with great men and women. It is a sense of connectedness that makes a community a great place to live. When you feel connected to a community, you will naturally care about it and others in it. Think about people who are your true friends. When they are in need, do you find it hard to serve them or be involved in meeting their needs? No, they are your friends. It is natural to care for and serve them when they are in need as well as receive help from them when you are in need. This mutual attitude of care backed by people of character is what makes relationships rich and communities thrive. Allow me to offer two ways to be great men who help make great communities:
¹ Be connected.
² Take time to care.
Generally, men struggle with being connected to others more than women do. Think about this: most boys’ friendships are forged around an activity as a youth. We were on sports teams, in Boy Scouts, or we’d go over to a friend’s house and do something— perhaps more sports or explore the closest canyon or trail. Girls do all those things as well, but it’s been said that women are “face to face” while men are “shoulder to shoulder.” In other words, women can just be together and connect with each other while men need to accomplish something to connect.
I moved locally this past summer from one part of our community to another. I remember when we first looked at our house before we decided to purchase it. As we walked outside of the house, two of the guys from the neighborhood engaged my wife and me in conversation. They saw we had three younger kids (and I’m sure they noticed the sweet mini-van we pulled up in) and told us all about the street and those who lived on it. Looking back, I realize they were as much “interviewing” us as offering us information.
Our American culture is very good at trying to keep us apart. We rush from our jobs to our homes to our personal activities. Living like this gives us little time or inclination to reach out to others. This is great for personal accomplishments but bad for communities and humanity.
Most men’s friendships are forged in the trenches, in the struggle to accomplish something. As we work together, we learn to be grateful for others’ contributions and their perspectives. As we get to know them and they get to know us as we struggle, we learn and grow toward our destination.
Before you stop reading, guys, I’m not asking you to text your buddy three times a day to ask how he’s feeling! I’m simply talking about slowing down your pace of life occasionally to be aware of others and the needs around you. This is another action step that makes our community great.
I also recall, as we moved in those first days, that several other neighbors came by, introduced themselves, offered to help and brought by some food. Within the week, we were invited to meet others on the street, sit and have drinks while the kids played and even go to a cookout. We now call these neighbors our friends. Isn’t that what makes a community great?
Here is my challenge to all the men: Join an activity or start an adventure with other men. Join a cycling or running club, train for a triathlon with a group of friends, coach a local kids’ sports team with a group of dads or simply invite some guys to help you with a backyard project while you supply the beer and fire up the grill after completion. Find a way to be more connected.
Live more aware and acknowledge everyone. When you acknowledge people, you recognize their value and importance. Say “hello” and “good morning” in your neighborhoods and when you’re out in our great community. Ask another “how are you doing?” and actually want to know. Make an effort to be present in the moments you engage with others. The ultimate present you can give another is your presence.
Men, turn on some Animal Planet and laugh at the circle of life, go see an action movie with some epic explosions, have a cold one with some friends, and in the process do some connecting and caring. It’s what helps make our community great.
Man of the House By Karra Dumlao
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There is a very dangerous idea circulating in our society which involves the erosion of the need for a father. Fertility treatment now includes artificial insemination, sperm donation and even artificial production of sperm (no man needed!). Media belittles the roles of fathers in cartoons such as The Simpsons or as Phil Dunphy in Modern Family, in which fathers are depicted as buffoons rather than leaders. Further, our family courts are sometimes biased toward mothers when awarding more responsibility for children. Few people doubt the importance of mothers, but our society increasingly casts doubts on how important fathers are in healthy childhood development. David Popenoe, professor of sociology at Rutgers University, argues, “The massive erosion of fatherhood contributes mightily to many of the social problems of our time. Fatherless children have a risk factor of 2-3 times that of fathered children for a wide range of negative outcomes including dropping out of high school, giving birth as a teenager and becoming a juvenile delinquent.” Fatherhood is important now more than ever as a cornerstone for social stability. In my work as a marriage and family therapist, I witness how critical fathers and stepfathers are to the healthy development of children and teenagers, and the impact when they are unavailable to children and teens. Father are not mothers. Fathers play a different role in parenting children. A mother’s role is primarily caretaking, while, from birth to adolescence, fathers show more tendency to engage in play with their children. Why is this play so critical? It helps them develop core concepts and values including teamwork, competition, accepting challenges, testing abilities, risk taking and independence. Ultimately, the outcome is better emotional management, higher intelligence, better academics, increased self-control, increased quantitative and verbal skills and developing empathy. Fathers are also role models for how to act in relationships. Fathers teach sons how to treat their future wives, and daughters how they ought to be treated by men in relationships and marriages. Fathers are vital in giving mothers much needed respite from all the caregiving required. Mothers often report feeling increased anxiety once entering parenthood, which includes worrying about their child’s well-being, health and safety. Fathers play a big role in reducing this anxiety by providing support, safety and protection to the family. When fathers are healthy and stable, their children know whom to emulate and whom to choose in their peer groups, both male and female. Children who are fathered have better self-esteem, stronger core values, more discipline and more love. Fathers are necessary, and it is clear that when they are not available, children and teens suffer in multiple areas.
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Sigmund Freud said, “I cannot think of any need in childhood as strong as the need for a father’s protection.” Indeed, the man of the house is not optional, but necessary.
This Father’s Day, please acknowledge not only the importance of fathers, but also men who have stepped up in various ways: stepfathers, grandfathers, uncles, male friends, male mentors and neighbors in their roles to assist when a father is not available.
All can be helpful in filling a father’s void for a child or teen. If you know of a mother who could use some help, consider offering your support when it is needed. Strong, caring, responsible men are critical in helping children and teens, but also in creating a better community for all of us. Happy Father’s Day! Kara Dumlao, LMFT is a counselor specializing in working with children, teens and families. In 2012, she opened her own practice, Grow Through Life Counseling, in Eastlake with a mission to improve the lives of families in the surrounding communities. Grow Through Life Counseling offers individual therapy, group therapy and family therapy. Kara Dumlao can be reached at growthroughlifecounseling@gmail.com, (619) 549-0329, or at growthroughlifecounseling.com.
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Who are They? / Written by Michael Monoco / Photos by Schafer Photography
Dan Mahaffey
is a man’s man. He’s a serious cyclist, custom-boat builder and extreme outdoorsman. The greatest attribute about this guy is that when someone needs help, “no” is not a word in his vocabulary. Dan is an excellent example of a true friend, someone who often thinks of others in need before himself. He is also a devoted husband and father of two grown daughters. Those who know him would all agree that he is a man of many talents, and he’s not afraid to share them. By the way, if you ever need his help, consider offering him one of his favorite beers: Racer 5 IPA.
Doug Lawson Remember Wilson from the TV sitcom Home Improvement? He was the neighbor who always had good advice and the right tool to fix any problem. Now meet Doug Lawson. Every neighbor-
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hood should have a “Doug,” the go-to guy who seems to have endless knowledge and patience, and who is a home-improvement mentor to anyone who asks. If you have a “Doug” in your neighborhood, introduce yourself, make a friend and let him know how important he is in your community.
Ty Valkanas Every once in a while you meet someone unique, a person who speaks volumes just with his presence. It doesn’t take long to come to the conclusion that this man has lived a powerful and impactful life. Maybe it’s his time serving as a Navy Seal, or perhaps as a Chula Vista police officer. Maybe it’s his passion for mixed martial arts, as he is the 2013 IBJJF World Champion for age and rank. Those would all be great guesses. To know Ty Valkanas is to know a man you can’t define. He’s a father of four young men in a blended family with
man up wife Bobbie. He’s a community leader, a great husband and a loved father and stepfather. You could say he’s the total package.
Rob Shields
Remember that famous poem by Robert Frost, “The Road Not Taken”? You would think it was written with Rob Shields in mind. It tells of a man with a life-changing decision on his journey in life. A choice that spells out his future. For those who know Rob and were to spell out in a single word the definition of his life, it would be selfless, “a man after God’s own heart.” Rob doesn’t see problems; he sees solutions. Often those come from taking chances. Learn more about Rob and his family in this issue’s Resident Spotlight.
Christian Dement Nothing turns a man’s world upside down faster than a new baby, especially when it’s your first and a boy. Add the fact that you’re building
a new church, volunteering in countless community activities and still making time to be a loving and supportive husband. Meet today’s superhero. Christian would humbly say, “Oh, it’s not that hard,” or “It’s really not that much.” Of course any superhero would say that. As dads, there comes a time when our children really believe we are a superhero, and in that moment we can do anything. Welcome to fatherhood, Christian.
Doug Luffborough knows the meaning of faith. Raised by a single mother and sometimes homeless, you might think he had no faith. That was not what his mother thought. She saw greatness in Doug and his brother. She had faith he would do great things, and mothers know best. Through a series of divine interventions, Doug was accepted to Harvard. If getting in wasn’t hard enough, he knew he needed to stay in and graduate. That’s just what he did. Now he is a Chula Vista Elementary School District board member and a soughtafter motivational speaker. Doug’s story is powerful; just spend time with him and see.
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If you can enjoy a great laugh with milk bubbles and straws, rubber spiders in your bed, and camping under the stars, have as many boys as possible.
If you grew up in a home with two parents who loved and respected one another, you could probably stir-fry and raise your boy with your eyes closed. But most of us grew up with lots of imperfection, so it is best to give your son some solid values and ideals through religious instruction, positive role models in Scouts, or watching reruns of Father Knows Best. Speaking of fathers, if you did not stay with his, never ever say one negative word about his dad—even if the guy is a convicted bank robber. Most boys identify with a male parent, even an absent one, and need a mother who is able to separate her own challenges in life from those her son may need to endure. If you are able to give your son the feeling that parental problems are things that parents are handling, it will do him a great service. If you want to serve up a good son to the world, hold back on giving too much to him materially, but give him lots of hugs when he refrains from bonking his sister when she teases him. Focus on a picture in your mind of the future man you want him to be. Would you want him to be a grown man who plays video games all day or a fellow who works hard to provide a home for your future grandchildren? Demand from your son respectful words and polite manners from the outset, so he knows only to swear like a sailor with his male buddies in private. Be a healthy feminine role model yourself so he will search out a woman like you someday. Most importantly of all, find some really good men in your community and, if you can, have a talk with their mothers!
lindy robbins, lcsw is a psychotherapist with over thirty years of practice. her son is happily married and raising a daughter. when he was young, he never won a sports trophy or did much homework until he went to law school. now he participates in ironman events, runs his own law firm, and produces and hosts a television show on investigation t.v. best of all, she says, he's a darned good guy!
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education preparing students for high school Incoming Seniors: Finalize your college list. Select 5 to 10 colleges. Be familiar with the admissions requirements and tests needed to apply to each institution. Know when the application filing period opens and when the deadlines are. Know what is required for the application, such as the application fee, letters of recommendation, essays, etc.
Get a copy of your transcript from your school registrar. Make up any “D” and “F” grades that you need for graduation and college admission requirements. If you need help, contact your school counselor right away.
Take the SAT and/or ACT if you have not done so already.
Know the application filing periods for university admissions.
The last test date for admission is in October for SDSU and December for other CSUs and UCs.
CSU’s is October 1, 2014-November 30, 2014, UC’s is November 1, 2014November 30, 2014. The application filing period for private colleges and universities varies. Check each private school you’re interested in. The application filing period for community college has no deadline.
Attend the Sweetwater District College Fair. Over 60 colleges and universities will be available for you to learn about their institution. The fair is October 6 at Montgomery High School’s new gym from 5 - 8 p.m.
Attend the Senior Parent Night. Get important information about graduation, college admissions, etc.
Attend the Financial Aid Night. Scheduled at your high school during the months of January and February, financial aid application filing opens January 1, 2015. Priority deadline for CAL Grants is March 2, 2015.
Incoming Juniors: Get a copy of your transcript. Talk to your school registrar and make up any “D” and “F” grades that you need for graduation and college admission requirements. If you need help, contact your school counselor ASAP.
Make a list of the colleges and universities you are interested in. Know what their admissions requirements are and what SAT/ ACT scores are needed. There are several websites to do college searches: www.CSUMentor.org, www.bigfuture.org and www. collegeboard.org.
Sign up for the PSAT.
Take the SAT and/or ACT by the end of your junior year. Visit www.collegeboard.org or www.act.org for available dates, and sign up.
Attend the Junior Parent Night at your high school. Visit colleges and universities. Attend the Sweetwater District College Fair. Over 60 colleges and universities will be available for you to learn about their institution. The fair is October 6 at Montgomery High School’s new gym from 5 - 8 p.m.
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when students attend schools on a year-round calendar, finishing the school year means that entering a new grade level is just around the corner. here are some helpful hints for students entering 9th, 10th, 11th or 12th grade as they navigate the new year.
IncomIng soPHomores & FresHmen: be familiar with the A�G classes. Take challenging courses.
Get a copy of your transcript from your school registrar.
register for the PSAT.
Make up any “D” and “F” grades that you need for graduation and college admission requirements. If you need help, contact your school counselor.
Start writing down the colleges and universities you are interested in and visit campuses when you have a chance.
Participate in school activities, volunteer activities and community service hours.
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calendar 06/ 3 primary elections Get out and vote!
5, 12 Eastlake Youth Football & Cheer Registration Verification at 6 - 8 p.m. @ Eastlake Middle School Library. County registration is now open for all Eastlake athletics and cheer. Computers and staff support will be available to complete the online registration process. For more info, visit eastlakeyouthfootball.com.
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Chula Vista Community Series at Petco Park Padres vs. Nationals @ 7:10 p.m. Get a free Padres beach towel and save up to $10 per ticket. Use promo code CV2014 at www. Padres.com/ChulaVista. For more info, email PadresChulaVista@cox.net.
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Out & About
June 12
chula vista chamber mixer at 5:30 p.m. – 7:30 p.m. Mix, mingle, and meet future business partners. $10 for Members and $20 for Nonmembers. Hosted by Black Angus Steak House, 707 E Street in Chula Vista. For more info or to RSVP, call (619) 420-6603 or email info@ chulavistachamber.org.
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EASTLAKE HIGH SCHOOL FOOTBALL BOOSTER CLUB 11TH ANNUAL GOLF TOURNAMENT Shotgun start at 12:30 p.m. @ Salt Creek Golf Course, 525 Hunte Parkway in Chula Vista. Door prizes, longest drive and closest-to-thepin contests. Entry fee of $100 per person or $375 per foursome. For more info, contact Caroline Hernandez at (619) 847-6707 or Alex Fernandez at (858) 682-1132.
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free mammogram at 10 a.m.-2 p.m. @ 959 Lane Avenue in Chula Vista. No insurance required; no appointment necessary. For more information, contact Bertha Tiznado at (619) 5088088, bertha@wesupportu.org or www.wesupportu.org. Se habla espanol.
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22 Chula Vista Community Series at Petco Park Padres vs. Dodgers @ 1:10 p.m. Bring the whole family for Kids Fest at the Park and save up to $10 per ticket. Use promo code CV2014 at www. Padres.com/ChulaVista. For more info, email PadresChulaVista@cox.net.
28 Chula Vista solar program luncheon at 11 a.m. - 12 p.m. @ Veteran's Park Community Center, 785 E Palomar St. in Chula Vista This informational presentation will cover solar technology, rebates, incentives and the new Clean Energy Chula Vista Program, offered exclusively through the City of Chula Vista to provide property owners the opportunity to go solar for $0 down and make new solar payments through property taxes. Call 1.800.SULLIVAN to RSVP.
29 4TH ANNUAL MISS SOUTH BAY CYE SCHOLARSHIP PAGEANT at 3 p.m. @ The Venue at Eastlake, 871 Showroom Place, Suite #104, Chula Vista. Say goodbye to the 2013 and say hello to the 2014 Miss South Bay Ambassadors. Tickets are $25 through June 20 or $30 at the door. A light meal will be provided. Contact Angelica Wallace at MissSouthBay@cox.net or (619) 772-2054 to reserve your tickets today. Limited seating; reserve early.
Eastlake Business Association every Monday @ Oggi’s Eastlake; 11:30 a.m.-1 p.m. eastlakebusiness.org Farmer’s Market Tuesdays @ Otay Ranch Town Center; 4-8 p.m. Thursdays @ Third Avenue Village Association (Third Ave. & Center St.); 3-7 p.m. Kids Ready To Read Interactive storytime program every Thursday @ Otay Ranch Branch Library; 11:15 a.m. chulavistalibrary.com
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lighthouse Christian Fellowship Pastor Sam and Angie Mascareno are the leaders of a vibrant, growing church named Lighthouse Christian Fellowship. Pastor Sam’s inspired worship and energetic preaching have led hundreds of people into a new walk with God and a fulfilling life of purpose. He and Angie have been in ministry for 16 years, while serving in multiple leadership positions. As lead pastor, Pastor Sam conveys the vision for the church, disciples, trains and equips all members to “real life faith.” He also works as a tax partner with a leading international professional services firm. It is this balance between his spiritual and secular life experiences that provides him with a special ability to teach and preach in a way that is relevant, passionate and practical to everyday life. Angie has coordinated numerous ministries; she currently serves in the Lighthouse administrative staff and is part of the Women of Virtue planning team. This dynamic duo has lovely twin daughters named Emily and Samantha. As loving, family-oriented parents of two and symbolic paternal figures to over 1,000 church members, they understand the importance of helping families restore. Both have a heart to reach out to the city. Consequently, they have created numerous ministries that meet the needs of the community that are designed to help people connect with others and grow individually. Lighthouse Christian Fellowship offers three identical services every Sunday at its Eastlake and Chula Vista campuses. Childcare and children’s programs are available at both campuses. Visit the Eastlake campus on Sundays at 9:30 a.m. at Eastlake High School’s Performing Arts Center, 1120 Eastlake Parkway, Chula Vista, CA 91915 or the Chula Vista campus on Sundays at 11:00 a.m. and 12:45 p.m., Spanish service at 2:30 p.m., at 630 Corte Maria Ave, Chula Vista, CA 91910. Call (619) 427-9700 or visit www.gotolighthouse.org for more information.
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photo by schafer photography If you’ve read this issue from front to back, you’re probably familiar with the Shields by now. So what more can we say? A lot. Even if you know the Shields, there’s so much about them to discover. For example, Rob and Cheryl met online… in 1997! Rob knew after just one date that Cheryl was the one. He was finishing law school in Chicago, Illinois and Cheryl was a corporate trainer living in San Jose, California. After a three-month courtship, Rob proposed. I’m sure Rob would say that the hardest case he ever had to present was getting Cheryl’s father’s blessing. He was no pushover. As a respected pastor of a large church, he wasn’t easily swayed. However, from his pastoral experience, Cheryl’s father also recognized true love and witnessed it in Rob. Cheryl and Rob married, and after a few years in Chicago, Rob accepted a job with Wilson, Turner, Kosmo, a corporate defense law firm in downtown San Diego. Planning on making roots in the area, they bought a home in Eastlake in 2000.
Having a family proved to be a challenge, but with a ton of prayer and the help of in vitro fertilization, Cheryl became pregnant and gave birth to triplets, Caroline, Zach and Hannah, in 2003. Now 11, they keep Rob and Cheryl very busy. All three are 5th graders in the Spanish immersion program at Arroyo Vista Charter School. Caroline and Hannah are active in Christian Youth Theatre, and Zach has played ball for Eastlake Little League for the past seven years, six of which he was coached by his dad. Zach also participates in the Arroyo Vista Robotics Team. As a stay-at-home mom, Cheryl is very involved in the community and in her children’s school, serving as a PTA board member. The family attends Eastlake Church where Cheryl also sings on the worship team, and Rob is a past elder. Together they are the founders of “A Night to Remember” Prom, a non-profit 501c3 event they started in their home. The depth of the Shields’ character has yet to be found, as they’re just getting started.
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HERE’S TO ALL THE DADS WHO PLAYED CATCH UNTIL AFTER DARK Sunday, June 15 is Father’s Day and it’s our chance to say thanks for teaching us to ride a bike, to understand the importance of honesty, and why it’s important to be nice to mom. And that’s why we’re celebrating you today. We’d also like to invite you to join us for a special message called A Father’s Heart. We’ll be talking about discovering tools for life and what makes a real man. It all adds up to a good way to celebrate before your kids give you that new tie.
Come to church. Dress casual. Come as you are. Enjoy life.
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