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WHAT’S PARAGON STYLES MANAGING life and ministry

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The How

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Words: Justin Hayes

Changing Culture: Words: Pastor Darrell Patrick

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Paragon Styles aragon: a word used to describe the Paragon: a word used to describe the model of excellence, and is the heart and soul of our existence. Simply put, our job is to beautify the outward appearance of the Kingdom of God.

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Our magazine, which was conceived in the spring of 2010, is a fashion forward source for Christians who not only want to look good, but who want to reflect the character of holiness while doing so. We’ll show you how to dress-up your Sunday’s best, transcend your professional dress, and redefine your urban expression. It is our belief that the child of God is marked with distinction of respect in every area of their public life.

But it isn’t just fashion, Paragon Styles is a lifestyle magazine covering various topics that include health, beauty, finance and cooking. Another focus of the publication are youth and young adults. It is our endeavor to write articles that will not only empower today’s youth, but instill in them a sense of pride of who they are and what they represent to God and the body of Christ. We’re all about living to a more excellent standard and a victorious life in Jesus Christ.

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Hear; for I will speak of excellent things; and the opening of my lips shall be right things. -Proverbs 8:6

the beauty of holiness: it’s a character not a religion

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In Paragon Styles you’ll be exposed to the latest fashion tips for both men and women, learn who we are and what we’re all about, and find inspiration to help you live a more fulfilling life in the Kingdom of God. The long and short of it is we’re simply all about style, and that covers every aspect of your life from your eating habits, to your disposition and of course, your appearance. But not only that, we believe the beauty of holiness shines from the inward out, so expect to read spectacular articles that offer advice of literally every area of your life. Yes, even those complicated situations we sometimes find ourselves in from time to time. There’s a life and a standard of consecration that we want youth to dedicate back to God. If the youth of today only knew the lifestyle that God intended for us to live by, they would see God’s glory show up in a more greater way in their behalf. Because holiness is truly a character, not a religion!

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Fashion tips and advice for youth and young adults

Giving your gift back to him Building your life with the father

Eating in style

The beautiful thing about being young and saved

Managing life and ministry

And the Lord answered me, and said, Write the vision, and make it plain upon tables, that he may run that readeth it. Habakkuk 2:2

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God began to give me a vision, but He used B.J. (Burt Jones) to charge me to do it.” Thus a partnership was formed.

Darnell DARNELL JACKSON is the founder and chief executive officer of Paragon Styles magazine where he runs the day-to-day operations of the company and oversees the visual art of the magazine. Growing in New York City, the fashion capital, Darnell couldn’t help but surround himself in the glamour of a trendy culture where he developed an avant-garde eye for detail. But it was actually his aunt, whom he grew up with, that ignited his passion for fashion.

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“She would always tell me, whenever you dress, you dress to impress. It’s not about what you have on, but it’s how you put it together,” Darnell said about his aunt. He’ll freely admit that he’s a brand-name fanatic, but he has a mature approach to style that mixes the old with the new that creates a unique eclectic niche of dress. His only fashion icon: Farnsworth Bentley. “I love the way he puts together unlikely pairs… colors and patterns that you wouldn’t think would complement each other. He blows my mind every time because you never know what he’s going to do and it’s totally unexpected and upscale,” Darnell added. At the age of 18, Darnell realized his calling and began making strategic steps toward learning the fashion industry. In 1998 Darnell accepted Christ while attended church with his grandparents in Jamaica Queens. “My grandpa would always say it’s good to know the word of God. But I wanted to know more than just His word, I wanted to

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know who this God was that my grandfather had so much confidence in,” said Darnell. People would often compliment Darnell on his clothing and consult him for fashion advice. “To be honest, I enjoyed dressing people. I could talk to a person and based on a few things observed about their personality, I could create a tailor-made look just for them,” he said. But it wasn’t until someone put the idea of a magazine in his head that he considered using his gift for the kingdom. “God began to give me him a vision, but used B.J. (Burt Jones) to charge me to do it.” And thus a partnership was formed. With this magazine, Darnell hopes to inspire youth to walk in a more excellent way in every area of their lives, especially in their dress. It is also his endeavor that this magazine becomes an advocate for youth, by breaking down social and spiritual barriers that would prevent this generation from being a mighty church with power and class. Darnell believes holiness is truly a character, not a religion!

Burt BURT JONES, or B.J. as he is affectionately called, is the editor in chief of Paragon Styles magazine where he manages and directs editorial content for the publication. His editorial vision for the magazine covers topics that intimately affect the social and personal sanctification of youth and young adults. It is his endeavor to publish articles that are “real” and that teach young Christians how to “deal” with the pressures of life. B.J. is passionate about self expression and open communication. The young aspiring editor’s own gift for writing was inspired by an unlikely source: iconic rapper Tupac Shakur.

Calif. native. But once B.J. accepted the Lord Jesus as his savior, he discovered the rapping mogul hadn’t always lived the hard life that everyone thought, “he just talked about what he saw and understood. So when God saved me, He showed me how to use my gift of writing for Him,” he said. Today, B.J. expresses himself through inspirational and uplifting essays, and like his former music idol, he captures the essence of hope through poetic testimony. Most of his writings are inspired by stories and wisdom learned from his mother and things he’s experienced. “My mom lived through a lot and never sugarcoated the truth. She gave me the wisdom of the streets, ‘raw and uncut’, she often said. I didn’t always listen, but she encouraged me to stay in school and get my education,” said B.J. Through many hard-knock lessons, he discovered that his mother was in fact telling the truth about the streets, which caused him to humble down to her advice and wisdom. “Always app to teach, she seemingly had a quote and wise counsel for everything,” B.J. added about his mother. B.J.’s love for fashion also comes by way of his mom, who taught him how to mix and match styles and colors. He describes his own personal style as urban conservative wear, primarily because he puts an urban twist to a preppy look. He lives his life by a paraphrased quote from social reformer Frederick Douglass: No struggle, no progress. Hoping to turn other at-risk youth around via the court system, B.J., who is currently a criminal justice student, hopes to one day become a Judge and advocate for misguided youth. “Yes, teens and young adults need rehabilitation, but too many of them are being lost in the ‘system’. I don’t think every young person deserves to go to prison, some of them just need a little guidance and offered the support that they are obviously not getting in their immediate environment,” said B.J.

MEN in STYLE for SPRING Justin Haynes, CEO of JU S10H, takes us inside to what men look like in the spring.

Photography by Ivan of New York City (Darnell), and Yahya Abdul-Matee (Burt)

“Growing up I always had a lot to say, but didn’t know how to say it. And like many young people, I idolized Tupac for his insightful lyrics on life, he had successfully unmasked the art of writing,” said B.J., an Oakland, 8

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WHAT’S IS STYLE? Style is an elegant, fashionable, or luxurious mode of living: a distinct Characteristic mode of action or manner of acting. Men have a higher mark to reach when it come to style. Its takes double the effort for true style to come out in some males appearance. We Lived in world were following the hottest trends and styles was what’s fashion was all about. However, Today in 2011, You style is what You make it. MEN, HOW CAN YOU BE IN STYLE FOR SPRING? Spring is a Transitional season. Transition from winter into spring. From heavy weight clothing to your light weights and short sleeves. From heavy boots, to your loafer, converse, and rain boots. Chinos, Light to medium washes of denim, polo’s, light weight sweater vest, oxford button downs in solid or prints, are Great Casual looks for Spring. Colored chinos, poplin suits, blazers, madras Jackets and pants, seersucker, novelty prints in pants, belts and ties are Great dress looks All photos for this article taken by Christine White Montanari Make up by LUXE Beauty Boutique

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for spring. This is the season to mix those patterns and prints together. Keeping your Warm and cool colors together. Warm being your reds, oranges,browns, pinks, tans, and yellows. Cool colors being your blues,blacks, grays, greens and white. Can Warm and Cools Colors every be combine? Absolutely, Knowing How to bring the two together is the key. Balance makes a world difference. Ex: If you have to warm colors, attach with 2 cool colors to build the contrast. Three warm and One cool will not build contrast and will make one color stick out more than the either. You want them to mesh together. My motto is.. THE WORLD IS A RAINBOW~ REMEMBER MEN: Everyone has there own style and Look that they are creating. A lot of been successful. There is no right or wrong any more. Boundaries are the key. Staying within each seasons boundaries, with excellent grooming and neatness, you cant go wrong! YOU ARE YOUR OWN WALKING ADVERSTISENT.....MAKE IT YOUR OWN~SELL YOUR STYLE!

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Growing up without a FATHER By Ryan Ray

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Life doesn’t always deal you a fair set of cards. Sometimes you’re shy a few cards from the deck, other times you’ve got a full hand but the wrong set of card to win at life’s cruel game. Whatever the situation, you’ve got to make the most with what you have. I was raised in a traditional “nuclear family” where both parents were present. My father was the sole breadwinner, but my mother worked as well. I was given the responsibility of being a role model to my younger sibling. It sounds like an ideal family situation, right? But there was a dark side to the situation. My father was a heavy drinker, which led to frequent attacks of verbal and mental abuse. These episodes caused a shadow of hatred and resentment to fester toward my father. My parents recently divorced after 25 years of marriage. My father’s alcohol abuse was the fundamental root to our family’s dysfunctionality. It created an unstable developmental environment chock-full of neglect and violence. For me, the mental abuse that existed sent a wave of insecurities, uncertainties, and out-right gripping fear for me during my adolescent years. These event obviously caused me to mature at a much faster rate than my counterparts. I often times felt my life was on hold because I had to be the protector of my family. Even though my father was physically present in the home, I still felt his presents was lacking. I learned a lot from him, but I didn’t feel as if he offered much guidance. The natural wisdom you’re suppose to get from a father was simply absent in our relationship Through those trying times, I began to develop a very serious prayer relationship with God. I prayed often for the protection and freedom of my family. I became very familiar with the word of God, and there I found peace and a refuge to my chaotic world. In 2007 Darnell (Ryan) Ray graduated from the University of Toledo in Ohio; majoring in Computer Science and Engineering Technology. Ryan has worked for the Department of Commerce, Johnson & Johnson Co. and currently IBM. Ryan is a member of the First Baptist Church of Glenarden in Upper Marlboro, MD where he works the youth education ministry. Ryan is also very active his community by mentoring students, volunteering at food pantries or sharing time whenever he can. In his spare time Ryan enjoys kick boxing, running, watching football and basketball and loves to travel.

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oo many times we as a people are trapped by what we see and don’t go beyond the vision of our physical abilities. But there are possibilities that are true realties for everyone who reaches for them. This section is designed to motivate, inspire, and to help readers get a better grasp on their hopes and dreams. We do this through essays, articles, poems, inspirational quotes, theological messages and interpretations. With this tool, readers can gather a wealth of wisdom, knowledge, understanding, love, kindness, forgiveness and discretion that can be applied to their own lives for measurable success. I know that good itself does not dwell in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. For I do not do the good I want to do, but the evil I do not want to do this I keep on doing. - Romans 7: 18- 19 www.paragonstyles.com 13

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The beautiful thing about being young and saved is that you represent a light and strength that seems to puzzles those of the secular world. Interestingly enough, they secretly want what they see and wonder how you became the person you are today. What they don’t realize are all the sacrifices you made along the way that brought on this marvelous change and light that they envy. While running this race, I hit a major roadblock that was temporarily stunting to my spiritual growth. I like to think of it as a breach in communication between God and I. But I essentially discovered that there were two separate agendas going on, mine and His, which were clashing big time. I’m reminded of an exploit that concerned the disciples in the book of Acts. Jesus was setting the foundation for a spiritual kingdom on earth that He was entrusting to His disciples to fulfill. The problem was that the disciples didn’t quite grasp the master’s vision as pointed out in Acts 1:6 which says, “…Lord, wilt thou at this time restore again the kingdom to Israel?” The disciples translated Jesus’ restoration to mean that God was going to deliver Israel from its Roman oppressors, which wasn’t a bad idea. However, what Jesus really meant was He was restoring mankind from their sins for the

greater good of salvation. Their restoration wouldn’t come as a result of chastising and ruling over their enemies, but restoration would come to Israel by everyone taking up their own individual crosses and following after Him. DON’T

BE DISHEARTENED WHEN YOU ASK HIM... Sometimes we have to take a step back and realize that everything that’s on our own agenda may not be on God’s list, at least not how we’ve specified it to go. I wanted to be married by age 25, have five children, and live a normal relaxed life. But God had a different plan. He wanted to develop my character by serving on the praise team, traveling with the ministry, finishing school, and learning business and entrepreneurship. He kept me center stage in front of people to get fear and fretfulness out of me, which has proven rewarding. Not only do I have employable skills, but I work closely and confidently with business and corporate executives. As a young Christian who has gone through a few courses on my own, I would advise you not to expect God to sign off on every permission slip and release form you put before

Him. You’ll go through a range of emotions. I can testify about the days I’ve spent upset because I felt restrained as if life was passing me by. But I’ve learned to embrace Luke 21:19 that says, “In patience possess ye your soul.” In time, you’ll learn why the sacrifices are necessary and your true identity and purpose will unfold. If you try to force things and buck up against God’s will for your life, things will be much harder and will put you behind schedule. Your plans do matter to God, but allow Him to be your guide, not your cosigner. Don’t be disheartened when you ask Him, “Lord, can I do thus and thus,” and He responds, “Not at this time,” as He did His disciples. Put Him first before your plan and it will save you a lot of disappointments. Every day you have a choice. You can either do what everyone else does, covet after what everyone else wants and lose focus of your goals. Or, you can be the difference and impact your generation. The decision is yours. The price is heavy, but the reward is even heavier. Check out Faith’s blog at faitheslounge.blogspot.com

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OVERVIEW By Darnell Jackson

Changing culture, building lives; one brick at a time came to me in the year of 2010. I was in a service in New York City where a pastor was talking about how it’s something when the men pray God’s ears open up to them -- Why? because we are builders. You may be young and asking how are you a builder? Builders don’t have an age or gender. Men can be builders in so many ways. You can be a son, husband, father, pastor or even a CEO of a business. Women are builders too. They are mothers, wives, daughters, pastors, teachers, and CEO’s too. As a young man myself, I know first hand that there are times that I don’t feel like I’m strong enough to be a builder. So how do we become strong? How do we become builders in our everyday lives, homes, churches and schools? I believe, it’s by giving your all to God and coming in to the power of prayer, having good teachers (pastors & guardians), and good friends that will tell you the truth. In 1 Tim 4:12 it says, “Let no man despise thy youth; but be thou an example of the believers, in word, in conversation, in charity, in spirit, in faith, in purity.” There are things in life that we have done that we are not so happy about, but we cannot change the past, all we can do is move into the new place God has for us. As young people we sometimes like to do things our own way. Coming into the Kingdom of God, sometimes we feel 16 www.paragonstyles.com

like we are not strong enough to build things up in the kingdom, or even in our lives. We wonder are strong enough to have a family, go to school, own our own things or just doing the will of the Father. Psalm 31:34 says, “Remember not the sins of my youth, nor my transgressions..” We can’t let the devil talk in our ears. That’s why we must believe and walk in the power of God, that He has given us as young people. The bible says, He called us because We are strong. The bible says in Psalms 136:12, “With a strong hand, and with a stretched out arm: for his mercy endureth for ever.” Good and bad seeds are planted in young people;sometimes the bad can overpower prayer and even overpower the good. God has called us as youth, and even when we get older, to live a rejoicing life, a life of power, prayer and love. The bible says in Ecclesiastes 11:9, “Rejoice, O young man, in thy youth; and let thy heart cheer thee in the days of thy youth, and walk in the ways of thine heart, and in the sight of thine eyes...” So be sure and know that He has called us into a place, city and a kingdom called “Strong.” 36:12, “With a strong hand, and with a stretched out arm: for his mercy endureth for ever.” Photography by Ivan by New York City

The HOW

By Darryl M. Stackhouse II

‘Those who know their God shall be strong and do might exploits.’ We the people of God have been called to do great and mighty things for the Kingdom, but in order to accomplish something’s we need an education. For the Word of God also instructs us, ‘Wisdom [is] the principal thing; [therefore] get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding.’ As we get an understanding we have to learn how to have a great presentation. My Pastor, Rev.Andre Cook always tells our church, ‘you are always on an interview.’ With that being said, not only do we have to dress well, but also have to have our body language and our articulation up to par. I worked as an Admissions Counselor for two years, and it broke my heart to see saved African Americans not being able to articulate and present themselves in a manner worth noting in regards for respect and attractiveness. When I speak of attractiveness, I don’t mean in features, but in your overall presentation. If people don’t find you attractive, people are more likely not to give you the time of day. There were times I would go to college fairs with an open mind to receive students from all walks of life, but when they opened their mouth it spoke so much volume to how much they were not ready for higher education. Beyond your

grades, and beyond your academic achievements your in person presentation will always be what people remember from you. There were times I would go to college fairs and prospective students would come up to me and say, ‘yall got sports?’ Now just by that statement there is so much that can be said. First off, I can tell you don’t have an manners. Secondly, you use of the English language is not up to par. So what makes you think I would get you accepted into a school where you not only need to articulate, but where you need to convey on paper what you are verbalizing. The way that people speak is the same way that people write. Lastly, overall I can tell that you are unprepared to for higher learning because your presentation tell me your not serious. As an Admissions Counselor/Recruiter, keep in mind they have the ability to push your acceptance or denial. Not only that, but they can also assist in your institutional aid. Another issue I ran into were email addresses and facebook pages. Just so you know, your college is watching you. It was such a deterrent when I would see a prospective student put bootielicious or playboy. Don’t get me wrong those names should have its place in your personal fun life, but professionally speaking it doesn’t

look good next to your name. Most of all as Saints of God, we need to have more self-worth and value than to use such names.

Facebook will either be your best friend or your worst enemy. Literally, I would personally go through each students profile to observe if the student would make a good fit for the college. If you don’t want your college to see it, make your page private or just don’t post your party pictures. Here are some key things to remember when applying to colleges: 1. Your in person presentation will speak louder than what’s on paper. 2. Remember you are always on an interview. 3. Don’t just dress to par, be a master at articulation. 4. When you articulate well, you’ll be able to write well. 5. Take your self serious… If you don’t no one else will. 6. Speak highly of your self without being conceited. 7. Be confident in who you are and what you want to become. 8. Be persistent, but not overbearing. 9. Remember this is an four year lifetime investment. 10. ALWAYS PREPARE & BE PROFESSION

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MANAGING life&ministry By Anthony Estes

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Christine White Montanari

Currently, I do the work of an evangelist, an office God has me in while He shapes and forms my pastoral ministry, a calling I’ve known about since childhood. I also work in my local church, Shalom Fellowship International in Detroit, where I serve as the minister

of music as well as an associate pulpit minister. I’ve been in church all of my life. I can’t help it I’m a church baby as the saying goes. If I wasn’t playing bishop in children’s church, or traveling with the ministerial team, I was serving in the music department. When I started high school, I took my first church job playing at one of Bishop Clarence Haddon’s churches in Detroit. Since then, music ministry has been my life, but my passion is and will always be preaching. I have several other passions in life. However, I don’t feel like my life outside of the ministry is truly separate. I don’t believe the ancients would totally understand this modern day distinction. You are who you are. You either follow Christ or you don’t. There isn’t any duality. At any rate, I love music. As a musician, I hear music everywhere. Music, sacred or secular, is a great method of expression. I like to hear how different artists create. I like to know what their process is. I started singing “art” music in high school and continued in college. So, I can appreciate the classical form of Bach as well as Fred Hammond. I do this thing called a “Tony Day.” This day typically involves a little retail therapy, buying or settling down with a good book, a really great meal at a nice restaurant, and a movie. So much of my life revolves around people it’s nice to minister to myself by myself. I enjoy just being left to the silence. My friends don’t understand that, but I value quiet time. You can think, you can meditate, you can worship...silence is conducive to so much relaxation and productivity in my life. But sometimes this classifies me as anti-social, which

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My story is a lot like Jeremiah’s. I was called from the womb. A powerful mother in Zion, Mother Estella Boyd of Detroit, Mich., prayed over me while I was yet in my mother’s womb. When I was born, I think everyone knew I was called to do something great in the kingdom. I started preaching when I was just five years old, not entire sermons of course. But I began exhorting in public while I was still very young, under the supervision of my parents and the approval of my pastor, the late Bishop Jesse T. Stacks, Sr. also of Detroit. Because I was so young, newspapers all across the country have written stories about me being a child prodigy of preaching. Since the beginning, my mother was always concerned about balance and instilled that value in me. It’s great to realize and actualize the call of God on your life when you’re young. However, it’s a great tragedy to forget that you’re also young. You only have one life to live and so you should live it with that in mind, a revelation I understood later in life.

A powerful mother in Zion, Mother Estella Boyd, prayed over me while I was yet in my mother’s womb.

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isn’t true. I just cannot have a good time with friends if those friends cannot respect the fact that I’m more than just my clerical collar. I don’t want to have to be in ministry mode all the time. I like to laugh and crack jokes and enjoy some Starbucks without it being more than what it is. Sometimes, a cup is just a cup. Consequently, I hang out with people who are in ministry and understand this need for the “off-switch.” I also hang out with friends who I’m just “cool people” with, who sometimes don’t fully understand or realize the depth of my spirituality, not that I hide it. It’s just that these people in my life are probably not meant to know that aspect of me. Although I try to have a real “Tony Day” every few weeks, most of the time I just use Monday as my personal Sabbath, where I don’t do anything. I try not to respond to emails, phone calls, text messages, or handle preaching requests. Mondays are about me, and relaxing and chilling out. Next to ministry is family. I have a big family, consisting of three younger sisters, my dad, my twin niece and nephew, and my rather large extended family. Right now, I’m playing the role of super uncle while helping out my sister and her children, and I love it. I consider it good practice for when I start a family of my own. My family understands that I am a minister and respect my calling. But sometimes I don’t feel they fully comprehend the rode God has for my life. My family members know Jesus. But knowing of Him and being an actual disciple are two distinct walks. Most of my family members are somewhere in between. So most times, it’s me that regularly goes to church. I’m ok 20 www.paragonstyles.com

with that. I’m not overzealous with them. The best way to minister Christ to them is to be Christ among them. If I continue to glorify God with my life and with my actions, they will see the light and come to know Him for themselves. We sometimes have Bible studies at the house and I pray with them often. We talk about issues going on in their lives and we discuss it with the scriptures. If they are meant to be disciples, as I believe they are, they will start that journey in God’s due time. The scripture tells us that one will plant and another will water, but God gives the increase. Do I feel like I’m missing out on things? Honestly, sometimes I do. However, the feeling doesn’t even last an entire second. Abundant life is in Christ. Scripture says, “Happy is the man whose trust is in the Lord.” I think what I am missing out on is the living with a sense of abandonment. People in the world seem to live without a care. It doesn’t matter if their lights are off, they’re going to go out to enjoy themselves with music and dancing. Am I saying that the saints of God should be doing the Dougie? No. What I am saying is that we should live life in a way that brings glory to God and allows us to enjoy the faculties that God gave us. Again, it’s a matter of balance. I meet people who are so “sanctified” they forget to live down here on earth. I meet other people who are so worldly-minded, that their concept of God and spiritual growth is underdeveloped because they don’t consume enough spiritual meat to grow. Ecclesiastes brims with references about balance. It is a modern day treatise to young Christians to measure everything. Be not overly righteous (Ecclesiastes 7:16).

My days as a single, young man should not be sorrowful. Instead, the writer admonishes me to rejoice. “Rejoice, O young man, in thy youth: and let thy heart cheer thee in the days of thy youth, and walk in the ways of thine heart, and in the sight of thine eyes: but know thou, that for all these things God will bring thee into judgment” (Ecclesiastes 11:9 KJV). Holiness is indeed a lifestyle. However, living holy is not about what you don’t do. Instead, holiness is about something that you consciously and actively do. You allow the Holy Ghost to live holy within you and your actions will always be in reverence of a Holy God.

Holiness is indeed a lifestyle. However, living holy is not about what you don’t do.

make the faith my own. By making it my own, I mean that I learned to discern and read the scriptures for myself. I’m thoroughly convinced that God is not all who any of us have made him out to be. Instead, he is the totality of all our experiences and even more. It is our experiences that bring character to the tapestry of faith. If you don’t experience anything, you don’t have much to contribute. Live holy everywhere and every day. Just don’t forget to laugh, cry, dance, sing, create, write, make a mistake, correct yourself and try again in the process.

There is a technical term that ministers use to describe wanting to give up, or take a break, or just tired of the routine demands of ministry. That term is called burnout. Eventually, the rigors of ministry and the level of consecration it demands to maintain will take its tollphysically, emotionally, mentally, and even spiritually. When I get to this point, depending on the type of trauma I feel, I will do one of these things. I will rest. I just collapse into bed and try to stay asleep until I feel better. Emotional trauma is one of those things God has to handle. Now, in the spirit of honesty, I will not tell you that it is easy for me to be single. It’s difficult, but not for the obvious reasons. Marriage affords the opportunity of a more fulfilled companionship. There is something about knowing that I can come broken and my wife will be there to bring healing with her words, her care, her compassion, and perhaps, her cooking. The wife is there when nobody else is, and I think that’s refreshing all on its own. For a mental remedy, I will go off the grid and relax. A Tony Week as it were. Spiritually, I will go visit another church. I am a preacher, and sometimes that gift is rejuvenated by hearing someone else preach. I need to know that there are ministries out there who are just as passionate about the Kingdom as I am. That tells me that I’m not alone, and it also presents an opportunity for friendship and dialog. Living life as a disciple of Christ is the only thing I know how to do. I don’t have a dramatic conversion story. All I’ve ever known was the church. Eventually, I came to www.paragonstyles.com 21

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singing By Donella Harris

All I could say was “WOW”. When you’re about to give up, God will send a word that will reassure you that He is with you. According to the word in Jeremiah 29:11, the things we do concerning Him and walking in His will is not in vain. It was in that moment that I knew I had to keep pressing with this gift that He entrusted to me. You can’t always predict how your gift will be used or when He will use it to encourage someone in need. Sometimes people come to the house of God with a hung-down head or in low spirits. Your song may be the one thing that touches their heart or give that individual the strength to hold on, and that’s nothing to take lightly. I’ve found joy in singing it sometimes gets me through the hardest situations in life. I’ve learned not to sing for a tune, but to sing from the heart and unto Him. As much as I have progressed vocally, I’m still learning because no matter what your gift is there are higher heights and deeper depths to be achieved in God. There isn’t a day that goes by that our God is not glorified with the instrument He has given me. It’s euphoric and it’s therapeutic in a sense. I’ve realized this is the route that He has chosen for me to get breakthroughs, encouragement and strength.

Part of getting through and overcoming the obstacles in life is helping someone else get their breakthrough. I am willing to put time toward helping a person who really wants to do something, which doesn’t always have to be related to singing. It’s important to push others in whatever they aspire to do. Matthew 7:12 says, “Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets.” When I think of a character in the Bible who inspires me, I think of Miriam. When the Hebrews crossed the Red Sea to escape the Egyptians they were led by Moses, Aaron, and their sister Miriam, who when they crossed, led them in songs of victory, which they composed on their own. There’s nothing like singing about your own testimony, it’s personal, and no one can take it away from you. Like Miriam, I am grateful that God has chosen to use me as a vessel to lead the saints in victorious praise and worship. I am simply an imperfect being operating in His perfect will. I enjoy what I do and I wouldn’t trade it for the world. As long as I can be a minstrel to touch someone and build God’s kingdom I will keep pressing on.

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Sometimes we don’t recognize a gift until it’s pointed out to us. Ever since I was 9 years old I’ve heard plenty of compliments regarding my singing voice. And yes I must admit, I thought I was pretty good, that was until last summer. As a singer, you’re constantly challenging yourself to hit new notes, master new styles and capture unique tones. And even though I had progressed in my singing ability it seemed as if I had hit a vocal glass ceiling. I was so frustrated and seriously considered calling it quits. This singing thing just wasn’t my cup of tea anymore. Then one day, I got a phone call from a friend to do praise and worship at her church. I didn’t want to go, but out of respect and obligation for my friend I went. Not knowing what would happen, the spirit of God fell heavy on me and took over in the service. He really used me for His glory. So much so that a woman in the audience later came up to me and spoke to me as if God was speaking through her concerning my doubts and my gift. She said to me, “Don’t stop singing. Your tone and the way you sing is like you feel every word. You encouraged me tonight and if you had recorded music with you I would have purchased it.”

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What is Spring? Spring is

a transitional season. It transitions you from winter to summer, but its more than that. From your heavy winter coats to light weight jackets. From heavy wool thick sweaters to light weight sweaters, sweater vests, causal button downs, and polo’s. From heavy wool pants and cords to chinos, denim, seersucker and novelty pants/skirts. From heavy winter boots to rain boots, loafers, pep toe shoes,sneakers and of course, Converse. We never want to confuse Spring with Summer. We Spring into Summer, with our shorts, t -shirts, tank tops, strapless shirts and dress,halters, flip flops, and sandals. Never mistake these items for spring.

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“A Spring Look”, is what we look for in this season. Before I go on, You may ask, What is a Look? A “Look” is something that is put together to be seen by all, your own personal style, something you create as an individual. Not just for this season, but every season. It is another word for “outfit”. A “Spring Look” consists of bright colors, fun classy trends, with a host of prints, patterns and of course accessories.. Its a time you can wear a skirt and do away with wonderful tights and stockings, and let those wonder legs show.

Lets not forget your the time to pull out your WHITE, which included shoes, bags, suites, etc. Lots of these trends are and will always be classics for spring. However, in 2011, Your style is your style. What was a no no or a must, Is no longer. Long as you stay in season boundaries, You can do almost anything. From Warms colors of Red, Orange, Pink, Brown, yellow and tan. Cool colors of Blue, purple, green, navy, white and green. these colors can work all year round with the right “SPRING LOOK”.

Before, when you thought of spring, you thought of Easter. With the pastel trends of color,chinos,novelty bottoms, madras, floral print dresses, and of course, seersucker.

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Pastor Darrell Patrick

believes that his life’s mission is to help people, young and old, to unlock and reach their destiny spiritually, financially, and emotionally. But he acknowledges that God must be the middle man in order for one to be built up and pushed to reach their next level. “God is always in the middle because He is the bridge builder, the priest, the “go between” between God and us,” says Pastor Patrick. So one might be wondering, how do they reach their next level, their God-given destiny? According to Pastor Patrick, “you can’t reach that next level unless someone introduces you to it.”

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So one might be wondering, how do they reach their next level, their God-given destiny? According to Pastor Patrick, “you can’t reach that next level unless someone introduces you to it.” He says everyone is a bridge builder in some aspect of life. If there were no KKmime, miming would not be so popular in the church. Even Tiger Woods, he bridged the gap between the Professional Golf Association and African Americans. “I personally believe that our lives are the sum total of other people’s decisions. When you find one specific person that helps you in one area of your life, that is a blessing, but I don’t believe one specific person can bring you to one level. It is the sum total of everyone,” says Pastor Patrick. So, who are the people that have added to Pastor Darrell Patrick’s life through the years to make him who he is today? He says his grandparents played a very significant role in making him the man he is today.

“My grandmother domesticated me to do things on my own, to assist in and around the house during marriage” Pastor Patrick says. Meanwhile, his grandfather taught him a lot about being a provider. Although his grandmother passed in 2004, and his grandfather is now ill, their struggles as a married couple have inspired Pastor Patrick in his marriage today. “People don’t let you see them struggle anymore, but my grandparents struggled and still stayed together.” says Pastor Patrick Pastor Patrick is married to his lovely wife I’wanna. The two have been married since July of 2004. He admits marriage is a constant adjustment of two individuals, and believes it takes two to make the marriage work. “We’re always going to be adjusting,” Pastor Patrick says. “However, both people must be in agreement of what their marriage is going to be until the day they die.” He loves her for willingness to submit as priest in their house, but acknowledges that they both submit to one another. His advice to young couples looking to get married: “Make sure you know what you’re doing when you choose to get married, otherwise it can be a collision of two histories. Marriage is what you make of it; it’s hard work and it takes time to adjust. Remember, what works in one household, may not work in yours.” When Pastor Patrick is not at home with his wife, he is on the road ministering through his business ventures. He is a highly sought after speaker, with a thriving business as an event coordinator. Although he has

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relinquished his duties as a pastor, he still serves Christ centered ministries. His company provides media marketing, as well as, staff development and training seminars; transforming churches and assisting Pastors in their quest to accomplish their God-given purpose.

“I personally believe that our lives are the sum total of other people’s decisions.” Pastor P, as he is known to some of his confidants and colleagues, has worked with some of the most renowned organizations in the country, including but not limited to Bishop TD Jakes, Bishop Noel Jones, and Hezekiah Walker. In 2010, his company helped coordinate the Potter House of Dallas under Bishop Jake’s leadership. Pastor P says he learned a lot from Bishop TD Jakes from a distance, but “working up close with Bishop Jakes is priceless.” Pastor P is currently affiliated with the Potter’s House Pastoral Alliance. (To read more of his biography, go to www.darrellpatrickministries. com). “African American youth need to know and understand their Black History, but not limit themselves to where they miss their destiny!” In the early part of his call to ministry, Pastor P was a former youth pastor under Reverend Kenneth Fairley at Mount Carmel Baptist, in Hattiesburg Mississippi. Pastor P says, “The youth today only see the glory of where a person is, but not the struggle it takes to get there.” As far as he’s concerned, there are no more excuses for the Black youth.

“President Obama was the last person to kick the crutches of excuse,” says Pastor P. He strongly believes that youth can be anything they want to be, they can be president, doctors, lawyers, engineers, and so on. He feels the youth should never give up on learning, because when learning is stopped, growth is stopped also. Pastor P exclaims, “One of the best teachers in life is LIFE. What you don’t learn in a school or university, you will learn through personal experience” But he admonishes the young people to get a good education so they can get a good so they can get a solid foundation underneath them. Who are the forefathers, the builders of the church? To Pastor P, this great accolade cannot be placed on a few individuals. “It takes a village to really raise a child, to raise a church, to build up a house,” says Pastor P. There have been some bridgebuilders in his life that he holds in great regard. Martin Luther King Jr., Bishop TD Jakes, Noel Jones, Rev. Jackie McCullough. But Pastor P doesn’t stop at this list, he says, “all those in front of where we are today, in their own respective places have made a difference.” How does the older generation play a role in the lives of the youth? After careful thought, Pastor P says, “Our forefathers did the best they could with what they had. If they knew better, they would have done better.” However, the older generation today needs to understand the times that this younger generation is faced with today. “Parents have to communicate better with their kids. Know the traps set out there in the world and on the

web. They need to know about more about computers and all social media, for example, Facebook and Twitter.” Pastor P feels the children of today need chores because it instills in them values and shows them that nothing is free in life. “Everything costs something, even our salvation, Jesus paid the ultimate price by laying down His life,” says Pastor P. He firmly believes that it takes all of us helping each other to continue to be bridge builders in our own respect. “A bridge builder is someone who helps you get across your obstacles everyday,” says Pastor Patrick. “Our lives are patterns, generally what we see others do, we do. The Word of God is our pattern of how we should live and govern our lives,” says Pastor P.

“Delight thyself in also in the Lord; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart,” – Psalms 37:4 Pastor P believes that whatever you desire in your heart God has given you. He acknowledges that Christ has and is his solid foundation today. To the young looking to become bridge builders, to the old who already know the way, Pastor P says, “bridge builders are also culture changers. They affect culture. When you affect culture, you can change anything else. You can even change the world!”

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Your “city” is where ever you spend a good portion of your time, and the people you cohabitate with. It’s your home, job, church, family & friends. In your city you have everything you love to do, and the people you enjoy doing it with. So what we try to do is, we try take them with us in life and where God is trying to take us, because they hold a special place in our hearts. Just like Lot’s wife! He loved his wife and he was trying to take her where he was going in God. However, she was not ready naturally or spiritually. As a result, she looked back because she did not get what was going on. She didn’t know Why they were running from the city.

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Can I Come By Darnell Jackson

One spring day I was on the train coming home from work. I was a little down from thinking about my family & friends, and how I see so much greatness in them. I try to bring them with me in life & the things of God, but they don’t understand what’s going on. But in that little of time me thinking, God began to show me, you can’t take everyone with you in life. There are times in life where we love our family & friends so much that we feel that we must take them with us. But I began to see that’s not so. I’m not saying forget or look down on 30 www.paragonstyles.com

them, but let them see what God has for them on their own. There is a saying, “you can take a horse to the water, but you can’t make them drink.” Genesis 19:24-26 talks about how the Lord rained over Sodom and Gomorrah and overthrew the cities. Then the scripture goes on to say that Lot’s wife looked back from behind him, and she turned into a pillar of salt. Now let’s relate this scripture to today.

When you’re in a lifestyle that’s not of God, you tend to pick up habits from people and places that you frequent the most. But when you fully give your life over to God, there is a class called “cutting away,” that you must walk through. I’m walking in that class every day, and I am a witness that, if you don’t do that cutting away, He will do it for you. Proverbs 3:5-6 says, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will make your paths.” Sometimes what we forget is that everyone’s courses in life is not the same and not open to a change. So when God starts to pull and separate you from your “city,” your family, your friends, those memorable places, trust Him, and don’t look back.

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When I was asked to commentate on relationships, I eagerly accepted the task, thinking it would be an easy task. Boy, was I wrong!! I began to explore the different components which make up relationships, and was overwhelmed. The world of relationships is so vast in definition because it ranges from friendships to dating relationships. I will try to cover as much ground as I possibly can. A Friend..

RELATION

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In this day, we are very quick to call anyone who we spend any amount of time with a friend. Because of this, we place expectations on them that they have not even agreed to. When those expectations are not met, it leads to disappointment, and ultimately if not dealt with, resentment. So let’s take a moment and define what are the characteristics which makes someone a friend.. -Real friends help and encourage us (Proverbs 17:17, 27:17). As a friend, you should be able to freely assist one another, without looking for anything in return. A friend will also be honest with you, which is something we don’t necessarily like to always deal with. But in your best interest, you need someone in your life that will tell you the truth about YOU and still love you regardless. The mutual affection and concern that you have for each other, will let you know that the honesty is not coming from a

negative place, but out of love. -Real friends understand the importance of discretion (Proverbs 16:28) There is nothing worse than sharing with someone you confide in your private matters, and while they are pretending to hold it in confidence, they are secretly spreading it to others. That will make the closest of friends separate! That is a trust that had to be earned firstly, and once it has been compromised, it will take time to regain. -Real friends are willing to experience loss or sacrifice (John 15:13, Phillipians 2: 3-8). Just as Jesus gave up his life for us, because he calls us friends, a real friend puts their needs and ambitions to the back at most times. Selfless love is what keeps a friendship going. In other words, “I will go without, just so you can have..” is the attitude that friends have. However, if you are the only one in the friendship that is doing this, you have some things to figure out. Though it may be true, that one may not be able to sacrifice the same things as the other, but there should be some acceptable level of sacrifice coming from each party.

part it helps if who you are dating you develop a good friend base with them. Now, there will come times when friction comes in the relationship. When they are not dealt with immediately, you cause the risk of things becoming larger than what it was. Anytime you face friction you must: -Go directly to your friend and discuss it. Even if it’s “simple” make sure the air is clear. After all, real friends are hard to come by these days! -Keep the matter between yourselves if it doesn’t involve anyone else. Never share disagreements with outside people, something “simple” can escalate into a catastrophe!! -Forgive like you would want to be forgiven.

Speaks for itself.

In closing, remember relationships are best kept when there is a mutual respect. Anyone who uses manipulation and mind control just to keep friendship is not a real friend. If you want friends, BE A FRIEND!!!!

These are a few basic things to look for when defining your friends. They also come in quite handy when dating. Normally, most successful dating relationships stem from great friendships. There are some exceptions however, but for the most

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Leadership By Isis Snow

There I stood before the congregation waiting for the music to start. I was going to do my first solo in the ministry of dance. My stomach was twisting and turning due to my nerves. If it hadn’t been for the encouragement of my dance director, I don’t think I would have ever stepped out there, which would have definitely delayed my destiny. Leaders should be able to see and encourage the gifts in you. Now that I am the dance director and youth leader at my church, Praise Tabernacle International, I try to help cultivate the gifts I see in the young people that I come across. Leading is a joy that lights up my heart, especially when I can see the completion of a specific assignment God has given our team to minister to His people. It gives me great joy to know that I am following after His will. When God gives me a song for the group to minister I meditate on the message given in the song. I allow the song to minister to me first and then it can minister to the group as we go over the choreography. Being the leader of a dance ministry is a serious assignment. We as worshipers, are the front line of defense, and need to be able to hear God clearly. I enjoy working with the youth to foster the relationship between them and God. As I look back to my childhood and more recently, I can see how God has caused me to be a magnet for those in 34 www.paragonstyles.com

need of guidance. He has allowed me to give a word of encouragement or insight into the situations that people around me were going through, some of them simple others complex. Just recently, my pastor asked me to speak about becoming God’s friend. In my research, I found that a good friend not only needs to be a good listener, but also needs to be trustworthy, approachable, selfless and sensitive. These are qualities that also make a good leader. I feel I display these, and I pray that the Lord continues to develop them in me. But the word says the anointing flows from the head down. We are so blessed at my church to have leaders that exhibit examples of good leadership and reflect God to us thru their daily living. It is an honor to follow in the steps of great men and women of God. As I continue to strive for perfection, I think of leaders in the bible such as David. Even in his youth the hand of the Lord was upon him. Just as David defeated Goliath against all odds, so shall we do these things and greater. Like David, I want to be bold in the name of Jesus, quick to repent, forgiving, and most of all loving. The word says in 1 Corinthians 13:13, “These three things remain: faith, hope, and love. But the greatest of these is love.” I know that the Lord will use my life as a testimony for those who I will lead and come in contact with. The Lord said that by our testimony we

overcome. Even as we go through the process and transitional stages, we need to remember the youth are looking to us for guidance. In Genesis 1:27 the word reads that “God made man in his image”, and as leaders we need to reflect God to those who are under our leadership. Paul says in 1 Corinthians 11:1, “imitate me as I imitate Christ”. A leader needs to live a life outside of church that our youth would be able to imitate. I try and integrate ideas from the youth as well as my own to embody our collective creativity. I encourage the youth to give input in choosing garments and in choreography. We collaborated on our Christmas Extravaganza and it was anointed and fun and I feel it pleased God. We as leaders must encourage the youth to get involved. Leaders must also have spiritual sight and keen discernment. In John 4:24 the word says “God is spirit, and His worshipers must worship him in spirit and in truth.” We must be able to see the gifting that God has placed in those under our leadership and nurture it. We all need to remember the days of our youth and be current on events in order to relate to the youth. This is a great tool in opening the door to minister to them. My prayer is that my leadership style encourages them to be great leaders as well. We must remember that the youth are our future, and we must teach them to be effective leaders for Christ Jesus our Lord and Savior.

Almond Croissant Bread Pudding

INGREDIENTS: 6 large croissants, cut crosswise into 1/2-inch thick rounds 6 slices of day old bread separated into pieces 8 large eggs, beaten slightly 1 cup granulated sugar 3 cups of carnation evaporated milk 1 tablespoon amaretto 2 teaspoons vanilla extract 2 cups of fresh blueberries 2 cups of Nestle White Chocolate morsels 1/4 cup almond paste, cut into bits 1 cup almonds, slivered PREPARATION: Butter a 13 x 9-inch pan and place the smallest croissant rounds in a layer at the bottom, then top with a layer of the larger ones. Whisk eggs and sugar well together, then add milk, amaretto and vanilla extract, mixing well. Pour over croissant rounds. Add fresh blueberries, white chocolate morsels and ½ cup of almond slivers into the mixture blending well with a large spatula. Sprinkle with almond paste and push down with a spoon so that the bread absorbs the liquid. Let set for 10 minutes at room temperature. Sprinkle remaining ½ cup of almonds all over the top and bake at 350ºF for 35 to 40 minutes or until golden and puffed. Serve warm or room temperature. Dish by Vaughn Moor

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THANK YOU THANK YOU We’d like to personally thank all of those who participated in the production and making of Paragon Styles Magazine. e pray that all those who read, hold or simply peruse through the magazine feel the love, joy and happiness that went into making this issue a reality for our viewing audience. With sincerest appreciation, we’d like to thank:

THANK YOU Cover Pastor Darrell Patreick - Sacramento, Calf. (Featured Writer) Ann Chadwick Williams - Sacramento, Calf. (Photographer) Photography Yahya Abdul-Mateen - Oakland, CA. Christine White Montanari- Springfield, MA. Ivan McCartney - New York, NY.

THANK YOU Make Up Styles LUXE Beauty Boutique- Springfield, MA. Writers Donella Harris- Brooklyn, NY. Anthony Estes- Detroit, MI. . Justin Haynes- Springfield, MA. Darryl M. Stockhouse II- New York, NY. Ryan Ray Faith Glenn- Detroit, MI. Isis Snow- Tamarac, FL.

THANK YOU THANK YO Cooking Chef Vaughn Moor- Queens, NY.

Photography by Christine White Montanari Make up by LUXE Beauty Boutique

Layout / Design Erica Rossum - Upper Marlboro, MD. Men & Women Fashion Justin Haynes- Springfield, MA. Editor Daniel Wallace- Detroit, MI. Lakisha Bostick- Queens, NY.

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