Dear DAVID

QEvery year, I do the same: I make all these resolutions about exercising more, eating better, and just being an overall better person. This year, I included a resolution about not hooking up with that many guys and seeking quality over quantity. But as with every year, my resolutions don’t last for long, and I end up hating myself for not being able to keep these promises to myself. So far, I’m doing great on the exercise and diet portion, but I have had so much casual sex already. I feel like I let myself down. How can I make changes that will last?

ASo many of us roll into the new year with a list of resolutions and that “new year, new me” mindset. Never mind that the list of resolutions is the same as last year, now is the time for “new YOU!” And just as many end up letting those resolutions down and return to our old habits feeling defeated. But here’s the thing, a resolution is nothing but a decision made in a mindful moment, and that’s it. If you think of it, it’s more like a quick fix to a larger overall process in your life, and that doesn’t come as easy as making a resolution–and that’s why so many resolutions are unfulfilled! Goals, on the other hand, are much more concrete and they are not tied a particular time of year like a new year’s resolution.

When it comes to your wish to hook up less and have more meaningful connections, you may want to start with examining why you end up with casual hookups. If you start thinking of this as a process and not something to merely spring into effect because of a resolution, then you may learn to shift your focus onto self-discipline and self-awareness. There’s no way around the fact that significant self-change requires motivation and work, but that work also leads to confidence and self-improvement.

Kai Lin Art Presents Paper Boxes

@ Atlanta Eagle | January 27, 5 pm

Kai Lin Art is pleased to announce their first exhibition for 2023, PAPER BOXES: a solo exhibition featuring ten new artworks from Asheville-based artist Kevin Palme.

Heretic Harness Party w/DJ Brian Rojas

@ The Heretic | January 27, 10 pm – 3 am

Deep South and La Choloteca resident DJ, Brian Rojas, will be spinning all night at the Harness Party. Come out, wear your best harness, dance the night away to some sexy house beats.

Front Runners Atlanta Membership Drive

@ Woofs Atlanta | January 28, 2-5 pm

Want to run your first 5k, train for a marathon, or want a healthy social outlet? Come out and learn what Front Runners is all about! Join us for food, socializing, and become part of the community.

Felix’s SOUPerstar!

@ Felix’s | January 28, 4 pm

It’s cold and wintry, so let’s get some soup goin’! Felix’s is trying to find a real souperstar, so let’s keep our tummies warm and decide the winner!

Gear After Dark

@ The Atlanta Eagle | January 28, 9 pm

Come out to the first Gear After Dark in the new year and get over your MAL blues by showing off all your new gear.

Bearracuda Atlanta Winter Beef Ball 2023

@ The Heretic | January 28, 10 pm – 3 am

Bearracuda is back in Atlanta to kick off 2023!

The first Bearracuda of the year welcomes back DJ Paul Goodyear from Sydney so you can cruise and socialize all night!

Luxx Noir London at MSR

@ My Sisters Room | January 28, 10 pm

Luxx Noir London from RuPaul’s Drag Race season 15 is headlining at My Sister’s Room. Don’t miss this drag show and dance party with some of Atlanta’s best drag entertainers.

The Gaga Ball

@ The Basement | January 28, 10 pm – 3 am

A whole night of music and fashion inspired by Mother Monster herself. Calling all Little Monsters! The winter Gaga Ball is here! Let’s have some fun, this beat is sick!

Bottom’s Up! Drag Brunch with Luxx Noir London @ City Winery | January 29, 1 pm

Enjoy this boozy drag brunch featuring special guest Luxx Noir London from RuPaul’s Drag Race season 15! Tickets at citywinery.com.

Cabbage Patch

@ Wild Heaven Beer| January 29, 1-3 pm ARIES ALXNDR & the House of ALXNDR⁠ invite you to Cabbage Patch – a family-friendly drag show, open to all ages.

LET’S EAT! Queer Community Potluck

@ Neighborhood Church | January 29, 2-6 pm Southern Fried Queer Pride and Neighborhood Church invite to join the community potluck.

Dita Von Teese: GLAMONATRIX

@ Tabernacle Atlanta | January 29, 7 pm

The queen of pinup glamour and sexy burlesque comes to the Tabernacle with tantalizing show that will awaken your senses.

Atlanta All Stars Week 3

@Future Atlanta | January 31, 9-11 pm

The 7-week drag competition to name Atlanta’s top all-star is in its third week. Hosted by LaLa and judged by Phoenix, Tahjee Iman Star, and Niesha Dupree, 11 contestants will compete for the title and a cash prize of $10,000.

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