PRIDE & Equality magazine's 2017 Pride issue by PRIDE & Equality

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Cleve Jones

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Continuing to be a strong activist in the Community 2017

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Cleve Jones continues to be a strong activist in the LGBTQ community and shares what we need to do to win the fight.

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the naked truth

CLEVE JONES

STACIA VISAGE

The LBGTQ activist has etched his name in the history books. He shared how he feels about it.

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How did you get involved with the LGBTQ community? I got involved with the community shortly when I came out at the age of 18. Not knowing gay people my age a friend introduced me to a program called MPower now known as NMPower. There I met many friends that I have till this day. In June 2005 at age of 21 I then discover the nightlife of Albuquerque where I was introduced to drugs, drinking and partying. In 2008 I decided that I wanted to make a change in my life from the partying, drugs and drinking that I soon was introduced to ABQ Pride who was in the process of bringing back the AIDS/HIV walk. From there I got involved with giving back to my community through the art of drag. Tell us about your history. What was life like when you were a youth? Early on of my young life I had the normally childhood a father, mother a sister. Like most families there were many secrets that my family had and kept. My father was a womanizer, alcoholic who would get into arguments and physically and mentally abuse my mother so that he had a reason to leave. In the fall of 1992 my mother made a decision to no longer be a victim but to be a survivor and she left my father and moved my sister to a small town outside of Pecos. Growing up I went through many struggles from starting a new school, being sexually molested to being teased and being called Homo, Faggoit. I found myself keeping to myself isolating myself from friends, family, At one point when well in Junior high I even had suicide thoughts. What

was the changing moment in your life that led to you

wanting to make a difference and live life as the real you?

Community Honoree

Josh Garcia/ Seliah DeLeon

Ms. New Mexico Pride

The changing moment in my life that made me wanting to make a difference and live life as the real me as in my mid-twenties that I was partying, drinking and using drugs. It became so bad that I was blacking out and not remembering what happened the night before. One day I woke up naked in the middle between two guys not knowing where I was or what I had done. I left right away and throughout that whole week it really bothered me on how my life going and where I was heading. I looked into ways to get involved with the community and use my time to give back. I saw on Facebook that an organization by the name of Albuquerque Pride where they were looking for volunteers to help bringing back the HIV/AIDS walk. I thought why not I had been part of the MPower program and thought it would be a great way to get involved. Little did I know that would be the start with me being involved with the community. Shortly after volunteering with the gay community a friend of mine past away from HIV. Losing him in such a short time frame and fast made me want to become more of an advocate with our community. What piece of advice would you give todayâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s LGBTQ youth? The advice that I would give to the young LGBTQ youth is be yourself never let anyone bring you down. Just like the rainbow flag we are all different and embrace that. P&E

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TeeN’MPower: An ally for LGBTQ Youth

IMPORTANT? The organization is important because it provides youth a safe place to be who they are in a judgement free zone

ur youth are in need of guidance and a safe place to be themselves. TeeN’MPower is making that a

reality.

TELL ME ABOUT TEENN’MPOWER. Teen’MPower is for teens between 13-18 who are bi, gay, trans, questioning and their allies. We provide a safe place to teens to be themselves. We educate teens on HIV/STI prevention and also things that are happening in teens lives like bullying, personal space etc WHY IS THIS ORGANIZATION SO

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HAVE YOU SEEN TEEN’MPOWER BECOME A STRONG SUPPORT SYSTEM FOR THOSE THAT DON’T HAVE ONE? Yes we have we seen teens come to us shy and timid as time has gone by they improved in their social skills and event in the studies. We have had teachers and GSA advisors said that since the teens have stated attending Teen’MPower it’s been like the whole new student WHAT CAN WE AS A COMMUNITY DO TO HELP BUILD UP THE ORGANIZATION? I think Inform the teens about programs like Teen’MPower and the under 21 group. At times we as a community focus on the adults and what resources are out

there for them that we forget about our youth and the needs for them ANY UPCOMING EVENTS YOU WANT TO PROMOTE? The hours are changing for Teen’MPower are now going to be Monday, Wednesday from 5-8 and Fridays 5-7. Pride would be our biggest event coming up P&E - Teresa Ewers

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Collateral Damage is Just the Price of Making America Macho Again

he politics and administration of the Trump phenomenon are a fullblown affirmation of what’s now called “toxic masculinity.” Observers point out that it’s both an appeal to men (mostly white) who feel that their and America’s masculinity is threatened as well as a glorification of the masculine gender conditioning that’s been part of American society for generations. Calling it “toxic masculinity” makes it sound as if it’s something other than what it actually is: the full living out of a generations-old American male gender role that many thought was waning. It’s none other than our culture’s dominant definition of masculinity out in full force. There are many elements of this role such as the putting down of anything judged feminine or just not masculine enough while promoting a female role that makes women trophies and support personnel for the macho ego. Those elements have been called sexist and misogynist for they invoke the stereotypes of frat boy references to women as sexual objects and body parts. Look at those men and women who laugh at Trump and company’s “boys will be boys” stuff as if it’s a joke to be hu-

mored and dismissed. They excuse, and even adore, it as if we shouldn’t expect better. Look at how the solution to international problems is blowing something up or showing off American muscles (“Feel my guns.”). Nuance and extensive negotiations with world leaders that treat them as equals go out the window when every international disagreement feels like a man-on-man bar fight to prove that this president (and country) is the king of the hill (the effective meaning of: “Make America Great Again”). Look at how the way to deal with issues involves blasting one’s strength whether through tweets or military displays. Look how the President courts those leaders in the Pentagon who represent the military’s embodiment of “real” manhood where teamwork is a group of men working together to beat, defeat, or kill other men while there’s the “collateral damage” of others that masculinity says is just the way it must be. But behind getting the country to bet on this conditioned version of masculinity and the belief that it’s how real manliness should express itself, is the central tenet that we’ve got to take our little boys and

rid them of any emotions that would keep them from being victorious Captain America type warriors. Since boys are born, like girls, with their full humanity intact, the relentless conditioning process that’s still in place today must get them out of touch with an array of human emotions. For some it starts earlier than others, but most boys can recall the ridicule, rejection, threats, and even violence that include calling a boy “cry baby,” “sissy,” “wuss,” or “gay” and those playground penalties for just coming across as weak. When an elementary school boy is bullied with gay slurs, it’s really about him not performing this male gender role well enough. A boy soon learns that real men don’t hurt, show fear, or admit to confusion. He also learns that his manhood will never be questioned if he substitutes for these “feminine” emotions by hiding in cold reason, intimidation, bullying, anger, and violence. And the more he accepts this, the more unconsciously he’ll just flip into “manly” responses. A boy learns not to pay attention to his hurts – in fact, he should “play hurt.” That will eventually keep men from going to the doctor, much less a counselor, soon enough

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minor details to prevent them from dying earlier than women. And when someone is out of touch with their own hurting, it becomes more difficult to recognize that they’re hurting others. They might even counter complaints with: “That doesn’t hurt” or “It’s your own fault.” But literal violence is usually not the way conditioned masculinity’s suppression of feelings plays out. Take our newest Supreme Court justice who was nominated by President Macho-Image and approved by his most conditioned political followers. He’s a prime example of going with a principle and his worked-out rational mental system rather than recognizing that, as a result, a human being will die. Senator Franken called it “absurdity,” but it was conditioned manhood and its inability to see that it’s hurting another human being on display in its more genteel, privileged, aloof, sophisticated, and, therefore, more dangerous, way. In a court case under discussion, Judge Neil Gorsuch opted for his self-understanding of cold hard law while the other two judges on his 10th US Circuit Court panel found a clause that would prevent the death of a freezing truck driver. The infamous case was TransAm Trucking v. Administrative Review Board, popularly known as the “Frozen Trucker Case.” In sum, when a trucker in extremely below zero temperatures found his brakes frozen on an interstate highway and the truck’s cabin heat broken, could no longer feel his feet, and had no help for 30 minutes after he called in, the trucker unhitched his trailer and

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drove to safety. The trucker was fired and the case eventually came to Gorsuch’s court. His one-man dissent effectively concluded that the trucker should have just frozen to death because that is in keeping with the consistent way that Gorsuch sees jurisprudence. After all, we can’t set a bad precedent here or make an exception just because someone is going to die! The trucker is just the collateral damage of enforcing the law in this manner. In this he is the spitting image of his predecessor, Justice Antonin Scalia. If he were still alive, Scalia would still be using his religious and legal justifications (he hid behind the trope that he was just a consistent originalist) to justify discrimination against LGBT people and other minorities while golfing with rich buddies who shared his justifications. It’s not that they couldn’t be appropriately emotional people when it came to their friends and family. It’s that their public presentation in their profession must be rational rather than personal. So just buck up, buddy. It’s merely more collateral damage from conditioned masculinity.. P&E Robert N. Minor, Ph.D., Professor Emeritus of Religious Studies at the University of Kansas, is author of When Religion Is an Addiction; Scared Straight: Why It’s So Hard to Accept Gay People and Why It’s So Hard to Be Human; and Gay & Healthy in a Sick Society. Contact him at www.FairnessProject.org.

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Why Albuquerque?

Amiga Mejor Albuquerque is my best friend! She can be a little rough around the edges, but has big brown eyes that can soften all those she looks at. Her heart beats to the rhythm of native drums and you can see it in her swagger as she walks on legs covered in dust and clay. Her hair flows like the Rio Grande down her back and is pinned up by turquoise barrettes! She likes to climb the trees in the Bosque and run the streets of the valley. She hikes the invisible trails of the foothills and speaks the language of the Petroglyphs.

very New Mexican who has traveled outside the borders of our great state has been greeted with the same question…”Oh you’re from Mexico?” It’s fun to play with these geography- challenged people once in awhile, but can get old fast. Yet, it is the question I get at when I’m in my chosen city of Albuquerque that intrigues me the most. When I tell any new acquaintance I meet about my travels across the world, my hobbies and projects, and most importantly, my dreams and passions, they always get a confused look on their face, a look that’s a cross between confusion and disbelief mixed in with a little skepticism. Then, the inevitable question is asked…. “So, why Albuquerque?” Growing up in New Mexico almost guarantees that children hear a lot of negative things happening around them. The news is rampant with reports of what is wrong, and rarely what is going right. This creates an environment and society were the citizens themselves have few beautiful truths to share with each other, let alone travelers who incorrectly identify us as our neighbor to the south. Answering the question “Why Albuquerque,” is always easy for me. I grew up in a country where green foliage is not in scarcity, but a liability. Forgetting to cut grass is more damaging than forgetting to water a cactus in the Albuquerque desert. It is the contrast of wet and dry, dense population

and small town feel, and sandy beaches to sandy desert that makes life more interesting and delightful. After all, to know what you really want, you must first know what you don’t want. New Mexico is the land of contrasts. The people here go loco for the spicy red and green chili, but first, drizzle sweet honey on their fresh sopapillas. They enjoy the simple stroll of Old Town and the fast pace of Downtown. We love new shops that come in and stay true to the local restaurants. There is a constant clashing of ancient traditions and new ideas. Preservation of the land, culture, and historic buildings is just as important as advancing technology and building new programs like Innovate ABQ. Acoma Pueblo and Sandia Labs exists alongside each other. We dig into the Earth to understand our past and we fly in hot air balloons and build planes to our future. And somehow, Albuquerque brings all these thing together into this contradicting and beautiful and delicious mixture of contrast. The harmony is almost as magical as the sunsets so many that live here take for granted. I am reminded of the beauty whenever I take clients from out of town to see homes and I turn to see their jaw-dropped, their face in awe, and you just know the beautiful of Albuquerque, New Mexico, is forever etched into their memory. Why Albuquerque? Because it is a perfect place to have it all! P&E - Khoi Le

She sits with her Abuela every morning and they talk about their heritage. The mix of her blood. Of ancestors who were dancers, healers, farmers, soldiers, and slaves. In the afternoon, she sits with the children and they play with flour and water and she teaches them of fry bread and sopapillas, and their connection to the earth. In the evening, she sits with her back to the setting sun so that she can watch the Sandias change color to a brilliant pink which reminds her of watermelon juice running down her arms as a child. At night.... She dances. She dances a dance of power and sadness of hope and remembrance and as she spins… she makes circles in the dust that mirrors the Sun that gives Albuquerque her power! - Van Overton Jr.

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Cleve Jones

remember feeling such excitement when I learned I would have the opportunity to meet Cleve Jones at the annual AIDS Walk back in 2010. I also found myself frustrated when many people in the community had no idea who he was. Jones worked with the likes of the late Harvey Milk and Gilbert Baker, created The Names Project, presented the AIDS Memorial Quilt all over the world, and helped shape the history of the Gay Rights Movement. Jones is still going strong as an activist and is receiving national praise, as his book When We Rise has been turned into a well-received miniseries on ABC. Jones has educated new generations of not only his story, but of the stories of other LGBTQ activists still fighting the good fight and making Gay Pride celebrations possible. When I asked Jones what it was like having his name etched in the history books, the humbled Jones just chuckled and said, “Americans have little regard for history, so I 18 I

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don’t know how much that’s actually worth.” Jones continued by saying, “I love what I do. People thank me, but I just love doing the work. I find it fun, and it connects me to wonderful people. It’s kind of wonderful to see some of my friends being remembered who might have been forgotten.” Those friends were not forgotten in this mini-series. When We Rise focuses on the stories of Cleve Jones, Roma Guy and Diana Jones, Ken Jones, and Cecilia Chung, and the struggles they went through to see change become a reality in the LGBTQ community. Jones shared that the experience was one that he wasn’t sure would happen. “The fact that ABC was willing to do [the show] was remarkable. What many people don’t know is ABC already committed to doing this before they contacted Lance Black or heard about my book. Usually in a situation like this, network guys would be pitched. So it’s pretty remarkable that ABC, owned

by Disney, of course, would take this on, and I think it was good. There are parts that are jarring because they are so inaccurate, but I think it remains truthful, if not exactly accurate.” When We Rise covers the Gay Rights Movement through the eyes of these activists from 1972 to current. In the show, Guy Pearce, as Cleve Jones’ character, delivered this line to the generation before Barack Obama was elected: “How does it feel to be the first generation to not fight for anything?” That line hit home for many people, even today, who are trying to get this generation to get involved. “It was a time that the generation of gay men, in particular, were not interested in people with HIV. There is always a danger of the younger generations not knowing their history, and,even as much as I would like them to take their rights and freedom for granted, I don’t think we’re there yet. So, it always worries me when people think, ‘Oh the fight’s been won, we won our

rights,’ and now w e see our rights are very much under attack again. But I do see an awful lot of young people accepting that challenge and taking responsibility for continuing the fight. So, I don’t give up on young people.” And the fight continues. Our current administration, causing many to rise up in protest, seems determined to extinguish rights that had advanced the community through the Obama administration. Jones is witness to the fight with the rest of the country and has his take on what the biggest fight in the community is now. “I think the LGBTQ community needs to understand that we are part of the larger movement and that the entire movement is under attack. What we need more than anything is solidarity—solidarity between men and women, solidarity between people of different colors and ethnicities, solidarity between the generations, because everything is at stake right now. Whether you care about the environment or voter’s rights or reproductive rights...if you care about democracy, if you care about any of this, you need to be involved and engage and participate.” The pain could be heard behind

Cleve’s voice as the interview continued. He shared that he was still grieving the loss of his good friend and long time activist, creator of the Pride rainbow flag, Gilbert Baker. Baker’s death was acknowledged on social media and with a candlelight vigil in the Castro under the flag he helped create. I asked Jones if he wanted to share his memory of his friend. “[Gilbert] was a very compassionate man,” Jones shared while holding back tears. “He was a drag queen. He was a veteran. He was a seamstress. He could be quite imperial, but he was very intelligent and very compassionate—a sweet and kind and gentle soul who wanted to move us forward. He dedicated his life to this, so here’s an example of a person who had an idea but also was also going to work hard, persevere and persist and end[ed] up literally touching the hearts and minds of hundreds of millions of people all across the planet. So I hope anybody reading this, knowing of this story, would think, ‘Hmmm, wonder what I could do?’” When it comes to this fight, it will take all of us to make a change. Jones shared some advice that can be applied to everyone. “I just want them to know that they’re not powerless. No one is powerless. Sometimes we spend the most energy wondering what is the most effective tactics, and being in a room with a bunch of LGBTQ people arguing...can be quite exhausting. The reality is whether you’re turning out voters, writing letters to the editor, protesting, marching, engaging in civil disobedience—all of these tactics can be effective. My advice is to find a way to participate that also brings you some pleasure. I truly enjoy the PRIDE & Equality • Pride 2017 I 19

work that I do, and that’s why I’ve kept doing it. We’re all familiar with the phenomenon of burn-out, and it’s very destructive, especially right now when the when the stakes are so high and the danger is so grave. So, find a way to participate that brings you some joy, that connects you to other people with whom you can work over a long period of time, because this problem isn’t getting fixed anytime soon.” Jones has created a legacy for himself with the actions he chose to set in motion. But he still sees himself as an “ordinary person,” hoping that folks will take the same kind of action he did. But when it comes to how people will see him once he’s gone, he looks at his greatest achievement. “I was very lucky with the people that I met and the events that I witnessed. But I’m not special. I think my greatest achievement is that I’m still happy,” Jones says with a laugh. “That’s my greatest achievement. I’m 62, and I’m still doing this. I’m in love, and I’m happy, and I survived. That’s possibly my greatest achievement.” For many, that is an achievement to look forward to. P&E - Teresa Ewers Inserts: Jones with the AIDS Quilt, Cover of Jones’ book When We Rise; Cleve Jones speaks outside the Supreme Court in June 2013. (Hachette Books)

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the latest trends

steemed makeup artistry brand Make Up For Ever and R&B sensation KEHLANI team up for a global artistic collaboration, revealing the launch of two new, high performance, long-wear, waterproof color collections for the eyes. AQUA XL COLOR PAINT cream eye shadows and AQUA XLINK LINER liquid eyeliners, available worldwide May 2017. The artistic collaboration, which includes the launch of two collections within MAKE UP FOR EVER’s AQUA XL franchise, provides KEHLANI with makeup artists and makeup for all her artistic endeavors, including tour dates and shoots. KEHLANI stars in the 2017 AQUA XL campaign visual and videos, produced in partnership with Make Up For Ever. “Make Up For Ever makes me feel powerful on stage because I feel like I look good - like I look like myself, so I can be confident and have fun. I also know MAKE UP FOR EVER makeup is not going to melt or come off while I’m performing, so I don’t have to think about what’s happening with my makeup,” said KEHLANI. “I feel very honored to be part of the close-knit Make Up For Ever community. This is my first artistic collaboration with any brand and I am so happy to be in this amazing group of people who inspire me daily with their passion for makeup and for this awesome brand.” Inspired by performers’ and backstage makeup artists’ needs since its 1984 beginnings, Make Up For Ever develops products to meet harsh environmental demands of discerning makeup users, and AQUA XL is no

exception. The AQUA XL franchise, known for its extra-long wear, extra-pigmented colors and extra-easy glide, is tested on stage and in extreme conditions to ensure that color stays on until you take it off. The new AQUA XL COLOR PAINT, a versatile color cream eye shadow, and AQUA XL INK LINER, a rich, liquid eyeliner, are available in several vibrant and neutral shades with maximum color intensity and 24 hour wearing power. “We consistently support the creativity and artistic spirit of charismatic talents with bold personalities,” said Nicolas Cordier, CEO, Make Up For Ever. “KEHLANI embodies the beautiful fearlessness of her generation. She is the perfect performer to represent the new AQUA XL product collections’ with high performance formulas that never quit.” An accomplished dancer with boundless energy and irresistible talent, KEHLANI epitomizes the spirit of the vibrant, unstoppable AQUA XL franchise. The two-time GRAMMY® Award-nominated has written several critically acclaimed tracks such as “Gangsta,” featured on SUICIDE SQUAD: THE ALBUM, “CRZY” and “You Should Be Here.” KEHLANI recently released her full-length debut album, SWEETSEXYSAVAGE, with great success. Make Up For Everis proud to welcome KEHLANI in the #iamanartist call to action, encouraging people everywhere to reveal their inner artist, and to join her in all of her performances and artistic creations throughout the year. Visit www.makeupforever.com - Elaine Funnell of PR Newswire

We want to see you in next year’s PRIDE & Equality! Contact Teresa Ewers at (505) 450-4706 for more information.

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p&e picks

Strike A Pose strikes strong emotion

Below Her Mouth

ne of the boldest and sexiest dramas of O the year, April Mullen’s Below Her Mouth tells the story of an unexpected romance

between two women whose passionate connection changes their lives forever. Below Her Mouth is a rarity in more than one way: it’s a narrative shot with an entirely female crew, and it’s an uncommonly frank look at the all-encompassing nature of attraction — the good, the bad, the ugly, and the transcendent. www.belowhermouth.com

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ogo Documentary Films has presented its first documentary titled Strike a Pose. The film catches up with seven young male dancers who made it big as featured dancers on Madonna’s acclaimed and controversial tour, Blond Ambition, followed by her titillating documentary Truth or Dare. The dancers, Oliver Crumes III, Carlton Wilborn, Luis Camacho, Salim “Slam” Gauwloos, Jose Gutierrez and Kevin Stea (with discussions about the late Gabriel Trupin, another fellow dancer), during this time unwittingly become icons for gay rights and sexual freedom. Twenty-five years later, they share their experience during and after the tour including secrets they’ve kept to themselves. The critically acclaimed documentary, from filmmakers Ester Gould and Reijer Zwaan and the Emmy Award-winning Logo Documentary Films, was an official selection at the

2016 Tribeca, Berlin and Hot Docs Film Festivals. “These seven dancers from the Blond Ambition tour inspired a whole generation. From the halls of the ballrooms to center stage, their bold self-expression was a true pop-culture inspiration,” said Taj Paxton, VP of Logo Documentary Films. “We’re proud to showcase the men behind the woman and to stir the next generation of leaders and tastemakers in the LGBTQ community.” This film captures such raw emotion as you drive into the backgrounds of six individuals who were not prepared for what fame would bring them. The “Truth or Dare” section of the reunion dinner was emotional and gave you a closer glimpse of the Madonna boys who are now men. Strike a Pose is available for download on Itunes. P&E - Teresa Ewers

Flames

ilmed over five years, Flames follows reallife couple Josephine Decker and Zefrey Throwell from the white-hot passion of first love to the heartbreak of the bitter end. High on their intense connection, the pair of artists document their relationship’s every beat, from their adventurous sex life, to their performance art collaborations, to a spur-ofthe-moment getaway to the Maldives. But when the romantic vacation doesn’t exactly go as planned, the now-former couple are left to decide what to do with their film-inprogress, and for these two filmmakers, the end of the relationship isn’t the end of the story. www.flamesthemovie.com

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et us introduce you to your new guilt pleasure! Claws is a wickedly dark and hilarious look at sisterhood of ladies set in a Central Florida nail salon. Claws follows the rise of five diverse and treacherous manicurists working at the Nail Artisan of Manatee County salon, where there is a lot more going on than silk wraps and pedicures. At the center is salon owner Desna (Niecy Nash, Getting On, The Soul Man), who lives with and cares for her mentally ill twin brother, Dean (Harold Perrineau Lost, Oz). Desna’s staff includes best friend Jennifer (Jenn Lyon, Justified), a tenuously sober exparty girl raising two children from previous relationships; Quiet Ann (Judy Reyes, Scrubs), Desna’s enigmatic driver who also provides security for the salon; Polly (Carrie Preston), a mild-mannered preppy who recently served time in prison for identity theft; and Virginia (Karrueche Tran), who makes no effort to hide her boredom and impatience with her job. Adding chaos to the mix is Roller (Jack Kesy, The Strain), a gangstered-out redneck who runs a barely legal pain clinic and uses Desna’s nail salon to launder their obscene profits; Bryce (Kevin Rankin, Dallas Buyers Club), Jennifer’s husband who is also newly sober and trying to stay legit by working as an abundance coach; Dr. Ken Brickman (Jason Antoon), a bona fide doctor at a decidedly un-bona fide drug clinic; and Uncle Daddy (Dean Norris, Breaking Bad), a dangerous Dixie Mafia crime boss who is deeply Catholic and actively bisexual. The show is a high-energy, laugh riot that draws you in and leaves you wanting more. Claws premieres on June 11th on TNT. P&E - Provided by TNT

Watch the Trailer at: https://www. youtube.com/watch?v=8V-zp5oO9jc

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stop look & listen

Photo credit: Brad Walsh

rey Pearson new music video “Silver Horizon,” directed by Stephen Cone, marks the release of his first music video since coming out of the closet when he was frontman of Christian rock band Everyday Sunday. Speaking about the video, Trey said “Sometimes we hang onto what we know with everything we have, even when it’s not what’s best for us, because we’re scared of what is on the other side. Silver Horizon is about a different kind of light, that we can only experience on the other side of the dark, once we have gone through the pain. This music video is about that light, and freedom, that comes with authenticity and being your true self.” “What I hope this video reflects is that we may finally be at a point in history when faith and love can commingle and merge, and the doors can open wider towards a loving, revolutionary acceptance of LGBTQ people.” said Stephen Cone, director of “Silver Horizon”, “Every living soul deserves a path to transcendence.” “Silver Horizon” is Trey Pearson’s debut solo single. He will be releasing his debut solo album later this year. View the video at https://youtu.be/T9uosNEjGzs - Adam Kersh

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n support of her soon-to-be released record, Pussycat, Boston-based singersongwriter Juliana Hatfield kicked off a national tour on April 22nd in New Haven, CT. The brand new video for the song, “Short-Fingered Man,” can be seen online. Juliana is looking forward to the tour and playing the new songs in front of a live audience. About her forthcoming record, she says, “I wasn’t planning on making a record,” In fact, she thought her songwriting career was on hiatus, and that she had nothing left to say in song form; that she had finally said it all after two decades as a recording artist. But then the presidential election happened. “All of these songs just started pouring out of me. And I felt an urgency to record them, to get them down, and get them out there.” Hatfield produced and played every instrument other than drums-bass, keyboards, guitars, vocals. From start to finish-recording through mixing-the whole thing took a total of just twelve and a half days to complete. “It was a blur. It was cathartic,” says Hatfield. “I almost don’t even understand what happened in there, or how it came together so smoothly, so quickly. I was there, directing it all, managing it, getting it all done, but I was being swept along by some force that was driving and controlling me. The songs had a will, they forced themselves on me, or out of me, and I did what they told me to do. Even my hands-it felt like they were not my hands. I played bass differently-- looser, more confident, better.” The tour kicked off on April 22nd in New Haven, CT and will make stops in Cambridge, MA, Philly, Virginia, NYC, Cleveland and Columbus, OH and Chicago. More dates to be announced. Pussycat is available for pre-order on iTunes, with an instant download of the song “Wonder Why.” - Kiva at The Press House

the book review

emember The Ladies explores the many obstacles encountered on the rough road to suffrage, and also places the movement in the context of the other social and political upheavals unfolding during the decades. Dodson recounts how women hoped in vain that their considerable contributions to the war efforts during the Civil War and World War I would gain them the support they needed to win the vote. She looks at schisms within the movement that sometimes set back the cause, including the ideological conflict that arose between abolitionist and women’s rights faction when black men who had been slaves gained the right to vote but women, both white and black, did not. Resentment only grew when a wave of uneducated immigrant men had the right to vote as naturalized citizens while educated native-born women did not. A new approach, shifting the efforts to gain the vote to a federal rather than merely at the state level would be a key development. REMEMBER THE LADIES: Celebrating Those Who Fought for Freedom at the Ballot Box by Angela P. Dodson Center Street/May 2017/$26.00

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MONEY, MURDER, AND DOMINICK DUNNE https://www.amazon.com c.2017, University of Wisconsin Press 352 pages

ith a combination of practical advice and warmly helpful personal insights, The Broken Heart Toolkit sets out a step-by-step guide to building a long-term, self-help program like no other in this field. With so many self-help books on the market promising to ‘mend’ a broken heart, it’s difficult to know where to turn. The Broken Heart Toolkit makes no such promise to. There is no quick-fix solution to ‘mend’ anything. If only it were that easy! Award-nominated journalist Paul Thorn brings his considerable personal experience of loss, self-hating, self-examination and self-helping to The Broken Heart Toolkit. It presents a set of practical tools and a Method to address how to get from one to the other in a proactive way.

weeping in scope and intimate in tone, Hofler’s biography explores Dunne’s closeted (for most of his life) sexual identity and his many relationships and affairs, including his 40-year partnership with the artist Norman Carby. The book also documents Dunne’s rise and fall as a TV and film producer and his reinvention as a bestselling novelist, TV show host and Vanity Fair journalist covering the lives—and crimes—of the rich and powerful, including the trials of O.J. Simpson and the Menendez Brothers. Hofler also shares the details of Dunne’s close friendships with (and suppressed scandals about) Elizabeth Taylor and other celebrities, as well as Dunne’s intense rivalry with his brother and sister-in-law, John Gregory Dunne and Joan Didion, which became even more painful after the murder of Dominick’s daughter, Dominique.

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the final word

Unity in a Tumultuous Time

ride is upon us again, and in a time of turmoil for our community “Unity” takes on a new meaning. It feels like a lifetime since the 2016 election, yet we still don’t know what it means for us and our families. I have been an organizer and leader in the LGBTQ+ community for 19 years. I’ve seen new meds for HIV/AIDS patients that ended the “death sentence” and Gay-Straight Alliances become commonplace in high schools. I’ve seen New Mexico ban workplace discrimination and a nation legalize Marriage Equality. It’s been a great time to be queer in New Mexico, but the cloud over these feelings is especially heavy during Pride Month. This year there is even more of a reason for us to look at Pride not only as a time of celebration for our fabulous queer community but also as a rallying point to re-energize for the fight. A fight that now, especially, is about us coming together with other communities to protect each other We know that attacks on organizations like Planned Parenthood are about shaming of sex; which is also the root of attempts to strip LGBTQ folks of their access to healthcare through so-called Religious Freedom Laws. The attacks on our immigrant brothers and sisters, especially Mexican and Muslim Immigrants, is about stigmatizing those not like us, much like regulating bathrooms based on body parts is about stigmatizing our Trans-siblings for being different. Our opposition is the same, whether we are looking for access to abortion care or trying to just pee in peace, whether we want to make a better

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life for our children in a new land or we just want health insurance that covers our HIV meds. And make no mistake that opposition is emboldened, they are excited, and they are fighting to take us back into a terrible time! We cannot let them win this battle, but we can only beat them as a unified community. It is time for us to stop working on “our issues” and work on an overall unified social justice front. To come out for marches and phone banks, for rallies and Legislative Hearings and to remind leaders – but more importantly ourselves and our communities – that Immigrants and Trans folks are not scapegoats, that women and HIV+ gay men are worthy and deserving of care with dignity and free from judgment. It is time for the LGBTQ+ community to act united, to unify our whole communities to fight back and resist. We are Queer immigrants, we are Trans HIV+ people, we are bisexual women who need abortions and we are gay men of color who fear police brutality – and we know these issues are all part of who we are, and we will fight them all together! This pride will be our chance to share a new message of unity – and I hope you’ll join me in spreading that message – we will resist! P&E - Marshall Martinez Director of Public Affairs – New Mexico Planned Parenthood of the Rocky Mountains Planned Parenthood Votes New Mexico

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