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• TAMU AND RACISM • HILL HARPER AT POTTER’S KATHLYN JOY GILLIAM HOUSE • LEGACY OF SERVICE MUSEUM TELLS STORY OF FOUNDATION ACTIVISM AND LOVE • QUIT PLAYIN’ I Messenger 320 South R.L. Thornton Freeway, Suite 220, Dallas, TX 75203 | 214-941-0110 | www.myimessenger.com • DR. THEODORE LEE, JR. • MILES JAYE
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Gilliam’s legacy shared through museum Beginning as a young mother 1960s and ‘70s -- education, civil rights and community activist --Kathlyn Joy Gilliam’s legacy spanned generations to make life constitutionally legal and better for students and her South Dallas neighbors. On Saturday, February 27th at 12:00 noon, the Kathlyn Joy Gilliam Museum officially opened. The Museum -- Mrs. Gilliam’s former home -- was designated a Dallas historic landmark in 2015. It is l o c a t e d a t 3 8 1 7 We n d e l k i n . Activities, entertainment and tours continued throughout the afternoon. The Museum features original furnishings and Gilliam artifacts. It will function as a community learning lab including a Reading Room and Debate Center to host summer reading camps, read-ins, computer literacy classes and other educational projects for young and old -- from South Dallas and communities of every background. KJGM expects to partner with a broad spectrum of organizations to educate, inform and include all citizens fully in American life learning opportunities. Scheduled guests included author/lecturer and Pastor Emeritus of St. Luke “Community” United Methodist Church, Reverend Zan W. Holmes; veteran Hollywood actor and former South Dallas teacher, Irma. P. Hall; Dr. Stanton E. Lawrence, Sr. Assistant Superintendent-Elementary School Leadership, San Antonio ISD; Dr. Harryette Ehrhardt, former Dallas ISD Trustee; Robert Price, former Dallas ISD Trustee, KJGM curator, Dr. W. Marvin Delaney, Chair, History Department, University of Texas at Arlington; performers Leo Hassan and Friends Drum Circle and local recording artist and model, Tori Cage. Though she fought for her community members who were often shut out, Kathlyn Gilliam was a fierce collaborator, crossing invisible lines and sometimes blaring signs, to enact
progressive change. She believed that in time, the majority opposition would understand and support life and education equity in Dallas -- not as her way, but the right, lawful way. Until that day, she remained a faithful activist to remind them of the change surely coming. Mrs. Gilliam passed away in December of 2011 at age 83, but not before seeing her vision - once
considered an impossible dream – become a reality. Kathlyn Gilliam’s decades-long work on behalf of underrepresented children and families - in and beyond her own community- today broaden education and life opportunities through accessibility. Her voice stood for many – in ethics, inclusion, civil discourse and lawful resolution. She opened doors. Her important work continues. Major sponsors, Collaborators, include: The Honorable Ralph White, The Foundation for Community Empowerment, ElstonAire, The United
Methodist Church. The collective of generous contributors are acknowledged on the website. For additional information, contact Constance Harris at c h a r r i s 8 3 0 @ s b c g l o b a l . n e t , Te l . 469-458-0208, or visit www.KathlynJoyGilliamMuseum.org Constance Harris, KJGM Board President, Mrs. Gilliam’s daughter “Our mother embraced life with such love and compassion for others. We will continue the community service and empowerment she so passionately modeled through the work of the Museum – with that same spirit of determination and respect, to help others.” Bob Ray Sanders, retired Associate Editor/Senior Columnist, Ft. Worth Star-Telegram; Pioneer PBS Broadcaster, KERA-TV and KERAFM "To this day, I stand in awe of the incredibly unselfish service of Kathlyn Gilliam -- my friend, my comrade and my mentor. She was one of the most dedicated individuals I have ever known, tirelessly working for the children of Dallas and the larger community. Her strength and determination made a marked difference for thousands throughout Dallas, and many of us stand on her shoulders to this day. I shall forever honor, cherish and love her." Irma P. Hall, veteran Hollywood actor and former South Dallas teacher “Kathlyn Gilliam fought extremely hard to ensure that our students could compete with any child in America. The story of her dedication to DISD lives on…a job well done. We salute you, Kathlyn Gilliam!” Robert Price, Former Dallas ISD Trustee “Mrs. Gilliam was serious about her school board work and an advocate for all students, especially those of
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African descent. We met with administrators, attorneys, organizations, constituents, parents and students so often at People's Missionary Baptist Church that local
can do anything” was her famous quote. The Museum will welcome and encourage people of all ages and backgrounds to sit and enjoy books; sponsor quarterly literacy programs,
ministers began calling it the Black DISD Administration Building. Mrs. Gilliam was well prepared at all meetings.”
read-ins, summer reading camps, computer literacy and other educational projects for young and old, partnering with city, state and national organizations. • Debate Center – The Museum will serve as a training center for debate team competitions. “It is important that children learn to think outside the box and implement critical thinking in order to succeed in life,” Mrs. Gilliam would often say. The Debate Center will encourage discussion of everyday issues and opinions, teaching youth to communicate without becoming physical or confrontational. “Our children have not mastered the art of discussion,” Mrs. Gilliam would say. Debates are a way for those holding opposing views to discuss controversial issues without descending to insult, emotional appeals or personal bias. During Mrs. Gilliam’s school years, debate team competitions were a vital part of training and educating youth. The Museum will renew this tradition.
Dr. Harryette Ehrhardt, Former Dallas ISD Trustee “Kathlyn Gilliam played a significant part in my life. As her colleague on the school board, I learned so much about the diversity of not only our schools but our community. She taught me how to value that rich heritage. As a member of the legislature, I continued to come to Kathlyn for her wisdom and experience. I am very grateful for what she meant to me and very thankful that our children of the future will continue to profit from the life of this remarkable woman.” Mrs. Gilliam’s vision continues through the work of the Museum, offering a suite of educational services catered to enriching the educational development of today’s youth: • Reading Programs – Mrs. Gilliam believed that reading was the key to success. “If you can read, you
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The Museum is curated by Dr. W. Marvin Delaney, chair of the history department of the University of Texas at Arlington. MORE ABOUT KATHLYN JOY GILLIAM’S LEGACY Before school integration, Kathlyn Gilliam served on the Dallas Colored School Board, as president of its Colored PTA, and numerous leadership positions defined and confined by her skin color. She was elected to the DISD board in 1974. In 1984, she became the first, and to-date sole, African American woman president of the DISD board. She served DISD as a trustee for an indefatigable 23 years. Post integration, Mrs. Gilliam founded Clean South Dallas, a community-based nonprofit agency focusing on community development, education, conservation and ecology. She partnered with educational and environmental groups, youth organizations, legislators and thinktanks - all to bring opportunities in learning and community engagement to South Dallas. The organization remains in operation today. In the fall of 2011, classes began at the new facility of the Kathlyn Joy Gilliam Collegiate Academy (GCA). By design, GCA targets students from low income households, students of color, English language learners and other groups historically underrepresented in college. DISD, Cedar Valley College (of the Dallas County Community College District) and the University of North Texas created this partnership with goals that students graduate with up to 60 transferable college credits from GCA academically ready for transfer into a four-year institution toward earning a bachelor’s degree. Kathlyn Gilliam lived to see this great day – opportunities for quality and higher education, open to all students.
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Fond memories of Dr. Lee I knew that Dr. Theodore Lee Jr.’s health was failing. I picked up the phone and called the Dallas Post Tribune office to have a message delivered to Dr. Lee. My call was too late, the office was closed and all I got was the answering machine. Mental note to self: Call back earlier tomorrow. The next day, my mental note did not register, but the following day it did. So I picked up the phone and called. I knew that if I got Mrs. Shirley Gray, she would deliver my message immediately. But she wasn’t in. The person at the other end of the phone line asked if she could help and I said sure, please have a message delivered to Dr. Lee and tell him that I said I love him.
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There was silence at the end of the line. Then she said, “I’m sorry, Dr. Lee died.” Somehow I wasn’t surprised. I had been receiving reports. Still that didn’t lessen the feeling of sadness and loss. Immediately I recalled the last time I talked to him. I was so glad that before I walked out of his office, I told him that I loved him. Unlike thousands of others, he was not my school principal. Instead he was my mentor, cheerleader and yes, my employer. It was the early 1980s when I first contacting him offering to turn the Dallas Post Tribune into the best paper in Dallas Yes, in my youthfulness, I was very confident! Dr. Lee didn’t have any full-time positions at the time so I said I would volunteer to proofread when I got off work from my job. He took me up on my offer and from time to time he would even give me a check. I enjoyed being around Dr. Lee because he was so passionate about so much. Every conversation with him was a history lesson. He spoke his mind and stood up for what he believed in. Although he seemed to be gruff at times and some might have found him intimidating. I saw through his tough exterior and that is why I have so much love for this man. He cared about people and he recognized the good in folks even when they didn’t see it in themselves. Dr. Lee had strong convictions and a sense of humor that was unparalleled. I really enjoyed his candor and always found something to laugh at and he would say, “Baby, I’m serious!” Most endearing for me was his compassionate nature. Sure he was tough and nononsense, but he had a heart of gold and my family members were beneficiaries of his love and generosity. He was an educator and a publisher. The Dallas Post Tribune highlighted educators, Dallas’ social scene and community events. It provided a very important part of history and Dr. Lee was committed to the very end. There are so many stories I could tell about this wonderful man and I know there are so many others with stories. I sincerely hope they had the opportunity to share their love, admiration and respect for him while he was alive. Dr. Lee was a special person! Cheryl
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Trust is a choice. Choose wisely Spiritually Speaking…. By James A. Washington
Sometimes words alone cannot convey meaning and feelings the way we’d like them to. Trust is a good example of what I’m talking about. My reference point for this is, “Trust in the lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding. In all things acknowledge Him and He will make your paths straight.” Proverbs 3:5-6. Have you ever been betrayed by somebody you trusted i m p l i c i t l y ? H o w ’s t h a t t r u s t somebody else thing working for you now? Trust is complex. See how easily misplaced trust can put you in a terribly vulnerable place? It’s uncomfortable. To some of us, it’s abnormal. It ain’t fun. Yet in this passage, we are instructed to put our trust in the Lord. The question is, can you really do it. Are you able to put trust in your heart after devastating betrayal? And my guess is, we’ve all been betrayed in one way or another; either by having our beliefs proven false or maybe your heart’s been broken. If not you, we all know someone who has been crippled by a lover, a spouse gone crazy or someone who has stumbled upon the truth in a situation where everyone else knew the real deal except them.
In the real world that stuff hurts. You see once destroyed, ‘trust don’t come round here anymore.’ But now wait a minute. Go out and trust in the Lord implicitly. You see where I’m headed? Extreme caution usually follows crippling betrayal, want to or not. New relationships end up based on mistrust and prove it to me; not blind faith and unconditional trust. Life teaches each and every one of us that only a fool allows him or herself to be misused again. Therein lies my question about trust and what it means to you. Can you deal with open trust every day; not the concept but the reality? How much of a struggle are you having trying to trust people, when people have taught you not to? Do you treat everyone this way or just those who hurt you or lied to you in the past? Can you forgive? Can you ever forget? Do you really want to? And what does all this have to do with God anyway? In this context let me ask you something. How are you treating Him in the trust area? “Now it is required that those who have been given a trust must prove faithful.” 1 Corinthians 4:2. Now exactly, who’s proving what to whom? Are you requiring God to prove something to you before you trust
Him? Are you demanding (knowingly or not) from God those same things you demand from someone, anyone before you would even consider granting him or her your love? Isn’t it so easy to require proof before love is given? It is so easy to demand the impossible from folk who can’t give it to you. The error in thinking here is your relationship with God cannot be based on those same worldly principles rooted in betrayal and disappointment. God has already proven His love for you and it is unconditional. Our obligation is to confront our demons that have plagued us for years and that includes all the pain that comes with them. The only thing that matters at that point is coming to grips with the truth of God’s trust. “Consider the generations of old and see: has anyone trusted in the Lord and been disappointed/” Ecclesiastes 2:10… I guess what I’m trying to say is God loved us first and He still does regardless of what anybody else has done to you. “For the Lord is compassionate and merciful; he forgives sin and saves in times of distress.” Ecclesiastes 2:11. Let it go. Enjoy the reality of who you really are. Trust is really not that complicated when betrayal is impossible. May God bless and keep you always.
James
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Investing in our Nation’s Progress By Congresswoman Eddie Bernice Johnson
expand access to high-quality public education for our children, and strengthen our nation’s workforce. There are a number of programs that are vital to our nation’s economic security. Social Security is one of those programs. Social Security retirement income serves as a financial safety net for millions of deserving seniors, who are able to maintain their independence and their dignity after retiring from the workforce.
As many of you know, this is an exciting time for your Representatives on Capitol Hill. During the Budget and Appropriations cycle, we have an opportunity to prioritize our investments in critical programs that will respond to our nation’s economic and security challenges, both now and in the future. Each day, we receive thousands of phone calls and meet with dozens of engaged constituents and stakeholders from our districts who are concerned with our nation’s economic progress. I have heard from thousands of District 30 residents, who have called my office, sent emails and made inperson visits my offices. I understand your concerns; I feel the passion with which you discuss the importance of creating jobs, improving schools, building communities, supporting our veterans, and protecting our environment. I agree that we should pass a budget that will encourage innovation, support the poor and middle class,
My goal is to strengthen the social security trust fund. I will fight any effort to dismantle, privatize or otherwise weaken it. The President’s FY 2017 budget includes $49 million for DART’s Red and Blue Line platform extension project which will expand capacity at these stations and reduce congestion in the DART system. In October of last year, I lobbied the Federal Transit Administration (FTA) to have the funds awarded. I will fight to ensure that full-funding for the Capital Investment Grants program, $3.5 billion, remains in the appropriations package that is adopted by Congress. Doing so will ensure that DART is able to accommodate the growing population in North Texas, while providing people with reliable transportation options. Along with the other Congressional Lupus Caucus cochairs, I have requested $6.5 million to fund the National Lupus Patient Registry Program at the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, and $2 million for the National Health Education Lupus Program at the Department of Health and Human Services’ Office of Minority Health.
For the first time, the co-chairs and I are also asking for a specific Lupus Medical Research Program under the Congressionally Directed Medical Research Programs at the Department of Defense. TIGER is an important discretionary grant program that provides federal funding for capital investments for state and local surface transportation projects. Currently, the program is funded at $500 million. Recognizing the importance of bringing additional discretionary dollars to the 30th District and the surrounding region, I will request that the Appropriations Committee match the president’s request of $1.25 billion for the program in fiscal year 2017. The growing income gap between the haves and the have nots in our country is disgraceful, and must be fixed. Since the 1970s we have witnessed a dangerous trend develop with stagnant wage growth for middle and low-income households. This is unacceptable and I will work to change it. The budget we put forth should make our nation stronger and our future brighter. It should expand opportunities for all Americans, not just the privileged few. I will not relent in our fight to safeguard these and many more necessary programs to achieve these goals. We must support efforts that will inspire our children to dream, close opportunity gaps, and support those who make incomparable sacrifices for the security of our nation.
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Growing Awareness for Women and Children in Golf Game
Dallas area golf professional Maulana Dotch's passion is to increase the awareness of golf among women and children. That is why she is hosting the Maulana Dotch Golf Classic presented by Bishop Arts CrossFit. It will be held Friday, April 22, 2016 at Cedar Crest Golf Course, 1800 Southerland Avenue, Dallas, Texas. 75203. T he tournament begins at 8:30 a.m. with a shotgun start. The event includes breakfast, lunch, golf awards, and prizes. Last year the classic was for women only, but this year everyone is welcome to play - women, men, and juniors. Maulana Dotch is the first African-American woman in Texas and the second in America to earn her Class A, PGA Membership and become certified as a LPGA Teaching Professional. In addition to teaching adults golf at Cedar Crest Golf Course, Ms. Dotch teaches boys and girls the game of golf. She conducts the Cedar Crest Junior Golf Program, the LPGA Girls Golf Program and instructs The First Tee of Greater Dallas Program. Proceeds from the tournament will provide scholarships to Cedar Crest junior golfers who are graduating seniors and donations to causes such as The Center for Empowerment and the Pink Tee Foundation "I am so committed to growing the game of golf among women and children, especially minorities," said Maulana Dotch. "I want to use this event as an avenue to grow the awareness of the game and how golf can open doors to other opportunities in life, especially for kids."
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Legacy of Service Foundation’s 28th Image Awards Celebration
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How to Talk to Your Teen About Domestic Violence By Shantella Y. Sherman Special to the AFRO ssherman@afro.com
The Legacy of Service Foundation in partnership with Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Incorporated®, Omicron Mu Omega Chapter of Dallas, Texas, will host the 28th Image Award Celebration on April 2, 2016 at the Hilton Anatole in Dallas, Texas. The mission of the Legacy of Service Foundation, a 501(c)(3) non-profit organization, is to promote education, youth development, health, community service and the arts. The Legacy of Service Foundation has gifted more than $345,000.00 in scholarships and over 1.5 million hours of community service since its inception. The effect of the foundation’s contributions has had a positive impact in the Dallas / Fort Worth Metroplex. The Image Award Celebration honors outstanding citizens who have made significant contributions in the community and serves as our foundation’s major fundraiser. This year’s theme is Pink Jazz Providing Inspiration – Nurturing Knowledge. The 2016 Image Award Honoree is Stephen L. Hayes, Professor of Music, Lecturer and Director of Choral Music at Wiley College. Mr. Hayes is a 2-time winner at the American Negro Spiritual Festival; has taken 4 choirs to perform at the White House for 3 United States Presidents; has received numerous awards in the field of music from Philander Smith College (AR), Tuskegee University (AL), LeMoyne-Owen College (TN) and Wiley College (TX); Carver High School Hall of Fame Inductee (Memphis, TN); served as a special conductor for the Longview Symphony Orchestra; performed with many international artists, including Take 6, Sounds of Blackness, and many other classic soul artists. For information on sponsorship opportunities, souvenir journal ads or t i c k e t s , p l e a s e c o n t a c t M a v i s Y. L l o y d a t legacyofservicefoundation@yahoo.com or at 469-853-5829.
Teen dating violence in on the rise across the country, with many victims too afraid to tell their parents, school administrators, or the police the abuse is taking place. (Courtesy photo) In the years since singer Tina Turner detailed the persistent physical abuse she endured by her then-husband, Ike, public awareness of domestic violence has led to the creation of battered women’s shelters, outreach programs for survivors of physical and sexual trauma, and intervention services to offer alternatives to physical violence. Still, among urban teens, the prevalence of dating and domestic violence has reached new heights, sparking renewed interests in raising awareness. February was National Teen Dating Violence Awareness and Prevention Month, but for those experiencing abuse, the message never loses potency. A Center for Disease Control and Prevention survey from 2011 found that nationwide 23 percent of females and 14 percent of males experienced rape, physical violence, or stalking by an intimate partner and that their first experiences with abuse began between the ages of 11 and 17. Moreover, approximately 10 percent of high school students reported physical victimization as well as sexual victimization from a dating partner in the 12 months before they were surveyed. Judge Herman C. Dawson, coordinating judge for juvenile causes in the Circuit Court of Prince George’s County, hosted the Prince George’s Teen Domestic Violence Summit, Feb. 20, at the Charles Herbert Flowers High School, calling the event an extension of his work for the juvenile justice system. “I see a lot of kids here and we see a lot of parents here. And what
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I would like to say to parents is many times you all have no idea what is going on with the young folks,” he told the crowd gathered at the summit. “We see it many times in court. We see it in court because our elected [Prince George’s County] State’s Attorney, Ms. [Angela] Alsobrooks, files cases involving all sorts of offenses that young folks are involved in. If we could stop a lot of these incidents, when the young folks are young, we could probably prevent a lot of this from happening as we get older.” Drew Hewitt joined other teens at the summit to determine how best to cope with the physical violence he experienced at the hands of his ex-girlfriend. For Hewitt, the typical awareness efforts tend to fall short of examining abuse at the hands of females, despite the growing issue of girl-boy dating violence. “I was reared not to hit girls, even if they are being aggressive and agitated. But walking away from a situation, got me attacked from behind,” Hewitt told the AFRO. “We have both moved on now, but I still feel some kind of way about it and when I shared what happened with friends, they almost made me regret that I had not put my hands on her.” Panelists advised parents repeatedly to become more engaged with their teens so that they are able to pick up on tale-tell signs of abuse such as depression or isolation that the child is unable to verbalize. As with the Hewitt case, neither person’s parents were aware of the incident until it was over and the school was never notified even though it happened as the school day ended. Alsobrooks charged teens with pushing to end domestic violence among their peers by learning to handle anger and disappointment in constructive ways. “You are the generation who has the power to end it, to do something about it, to step up and say, ‘not in our generation. It will stop right here,’ because it is generational. It’s cyclical. It goes from one generation to the next, and guess what? It’s time for it to stop,” she said. “I believe the young people in our community will be the generation to step forward, and to live differently, and to make different choices.”
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QUIT PLAYIN’: Why you love Donald Trump! “Caraway, who had not turned in answered. By the looks of it and by his campaign finance reports on time, own admission, Mayor Mike Rawlings did said he didn’t because he was trying Quit Playin’ what he could to help oust Commissioner to protect his supporters from Phillips John Wiley Price. Rawlings covertly and Price. “They are gangsters. They supported DC, but at least he was truthful. shot up my house, they shot up my John Wiley Price has always enjoyed high buses, they set us up at the radio favorables among Black voters, so the station, they’ve threatened us and I’m DMN summoned their Negro corps. Using going to try to protect as many fellow African-Americans to diminish people as I possibly can,” Caraway Price’s popularity gives the look and feel said. “[Price] and Micah that other of fairness and sensitivity. They trotted the guy, they are con artists and they are crew out and they did their jobs; some By Vincent L. Hall not to be trusted.” – Fox 4 News subtly, others overtly, but all with a plan February 25, 2016. and purpose. Although most assumed it was a lie from the A friend called me when they dispatched second it spilled from Dwaine Caraway’s mouth, his editorialist Jim Mitchell (aka Steven from Candy “tall tale” was meant to create a narrative. I’m Land) to come out of his Clarence Thomas-like drafting this message 36 hours in advance of the muteness. We knew then that the fix was in and the election results, but I pray and believe that “DC” will fight was on. Dwaine Caraway did a lot of be roundly defeated. We can safely say that Shonda advertising on their website and got his money’s Rimes ain’t got nothin’on Dwaine Caraway!! Can worth. you say Dramacidal? The Mayor did all he could. After all, Rawlings Don’t get it twisted, shooting at houses and cars can control Caraway. He proved that when they are the handiwork and ethos of hoods and came out together to save former DISD troublemakers. Real gangsters in this age of Superintendent Mike Miles. Most of Caraway’s communication and technology don’t threaten people constituents think the plastic bag ordinance was his or places, they control narratives. If these gangsters Waterloo. The fact that Caraway defied the can get you to believe their story, they can maintain sentiments of Black, White and Brown educators the status quo. Dallas is a Gangster’s Paradise and who wanted Miles gone looked like a sellout. That always has been. one bothered me the most. Natives like me believe that there is a triangular Big Business came through as can be detected in trade that stretches from the Dallas Morning Snooze, the long awaited campaign finance report that to the top spot in City Hall and finally fastens to the Caraway finally released. He admitted that he “business community.” The plight of Southern violated state law because he feared the goons and Dallas is made worse by the media, the mayor and gangsters would get to his contributors. I guess DC’s the money of the North. secret service and mean-mugging entourage are for Let’s start at the Snooze. They rendered some of his safety only. their best work in this race. One candidate, Micah Caraway invoked the whole notion of gangsters, Phillips, admitted during a recent interview that he but he failed to tell you that Dallas has always been a knew going in that Caraway would be given the Gangster’s Paradise. And as long as the media, endorsement. Next, the Snooze sends a White sister, mayor and money stay in lockstep, the real crimes Sharon Grigsby out to implore North Dallas to will never be reported and the South will never rise. donate money to Caraway. Those pleas were quickly I Messenger 320 South R.L. Thornton Freeway, Suite 220, Dallas, TX 75203 | 214-941-0110 | www.myimessenger.com
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concerned about keeping some medical assistance so my question is will I get Medicare too when I turn 62 next month? A - That depends; people are eligible to enroll in Medicare prior to age 65 only if they’re on Social Security Disability and have met the 24-month waiting period, or have a special condition. Check with the Social Security Administration to see when you will be eligible for Medicare. If you find that you’re not eligible for Medicare yet, then you can always visit yourtexasbenefits.com or call 2-1-1, that’s if you live in Texas, to find what medical resources are available in your area.
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West praises handling of Texas A&M racial incident
Praising Texas A&M University (TAMU) students and administrators for their responses and actions following a racial incident last month, Tx. State Sen. Royce West (DDallas) said he was satisfied with subsequent efforts to deal with hate. “One of the students interviewed is no longer on campus,” Mr. West told the media, as he talked about efforts from TAMU students, many of whom expressed displeasure that visiting students from Uplift Hampton Preparatory School in Dallas were subjected to racial slurs. Following an investigation by the TAMU police department, tne information was presented to the Brazos County Attorney’s Office. According to a statement from Lieut. Allan Baron, the County Attorney’s Office sent notification that “the case would not be prosecuted unless additional incriminating information was uncovered and formally presented. Sen. West had called for the expulsion of those involved in the incident. Senator West said that in speaking with President Young and A&M System Chancellor John Sharp, the university has been able to identify students who unprovoked, approached more than one group of 11th grade students visiting College Station as part of the Dallas charter school’s Road to College Program. The Sen. said some Uplift students have said they will still consider attending the school, located in College Station. “No one should let “ignorant behavior” deny them an education. Aaron Hopkins has a senior at Uplift who expects to be attending Southern University in Baton Rouge. Mr. Hopkins said he is pleased with the “outcome based on the Student body of Texas A&M engaging and taking a strong stance in the investigation.” “However,” he said, “I also believe that without the steps taken by the Uplift Hampton faculty that was present the day of the incident we would not have had a report of the conduct of the A&M students who were involved. I would further state that without Senator West’s involvement to apply the necessary pressure to insure that attention was given to this incident we would still be scrambling for a resolution and a response from Texas A&M. This is basically proof cultural differences between students can and will lead to racially-driven interactions.”
TAMU President Michael K. Young: I want to share with the university community the status of the investigations into the racial incident on February 9, 2016, by the Dean of Student Life and university police department (UPD). I also want to communicate some of our recent and future actions to further advance and deepen diversity and inclusion on our campus. The two separate investigations began immediately and included as extensive interviews as we were able to conduct with students, bystanders and witnesses and a review of all information that was made available to the University. The Family Educational Rights and Privacy Act (FERPA) limits what information we are legally allowed to release. The law does not permit us to publicly disclose information associated with the Dean of Student Life investigation other than to say that one of the many students interviewed is no longer associated with Texas A&M University. The case has concluded. However, if additional information comes to our attention we will further investigate and take any appropriate action. The police investigation was concluded and all information was turned over to the Brazos county attorney’s office for review. We have been informed that the county attorney has declined to pursue any action related the case. I have asked that the information associated with the police investigation be made publicly available, in accordance with both open records and privacy laws, through appropriate channel. Previously the media had reported that there was a video of the actual incident. We are not aware of any such video, nor has anyone provided us with any video. I have asked UPD to review and reopen the investigation as appropriate if additional information is brought to our attention. I also would like to repeat from my earlier message to campus that Texas A&M has the website stophate.tamu.edu available for the reporting of racially based incidents and other hateful biased-based incidents. Focusing on diversity and inclusion I would like to mention some previous actions that have taken place in this regard, as well as highlight some future initiatives we will undertake. Texas A&M significantly revised our overall diversity plan in 2010, which has been recently featured for its multidimensional approach to engaging diversity on campus. This periodic revision is an important part of our plan, though we well understand we have so much more to accomplish in order to truly make a systemic change at Texas A&M. I am engaging University and community leaders, including faculty administrators, staff, and students, in a “call to action” to review current initiatives and measures and to propose new ones, in areas such as recruitment, retention,
climate assessment and course and curricular change. Here is a list of some of the activities planned, as well as those already being undertaken. I’m particularly pleased that many of these were recommended to us by various student groups and we are delighted to work with everyone to implement them. ! Moving our STOPHATE desktop website to a mobile platform to allow easier and more timely reporting by students and the community. This should be completed in April of 2016. ! Implementing mandatory “Community of Respect” seminars for all students at New Student Conferences, beginning the summer of 2016, as well as other cultural competency training that is grounded in theory and has proven success. ! The Faculty Senate has scheduled an open forum on March 2 and 3 to hear ideas on responding to in-class incidents and how to make the required International and Cultural Diversity classes more applicable and purposeful. ! Created permanent funding for our Aggies to Aggies Diversity Peer Education Program, starting this fall. ! Created a mandatory Effective Communication Module which will be required for two or more officers of every student organization to assist in them in conducting effective dialogues and meaningful conflict resolution starting in April 2016 Working together to build a dynamic campus As we all reflect on the various events on our campus, and those around the country over the past few months, it is impossible to ignore the importance of the principles of inclusion and diversity. But despite all the headlines, it is sometimes easy to lose sight of just why it is so important to all of us here at Texas A&M. As a leading institution of higher education we are the vanguard in affecting positive change in the attitudes and actions of future generations. We are called upon to lead our communities and make a difference because the consequences of such acts are intolerable. This change is essential in our ability to thrive and grow as our world diversifies. We are launching our students into a world where they will need to work with everyone to be successful in addressing the great societal challenges that we, as a country, face. As your President, I hope I am always open to that which challenges me and makes me uncomfortable, but that I always respond with the essential core value of respect in all that I do. I hope all of you do so as well and join me in embedding all of the Aggie core values in all that we do. In this way, we can eliminate fear and lead with hope in an effort to build a nurturing and respectful environment.
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BISHOP T.D. JAKES’ RE-ENTRY INITIATIVE HELPS BRING RESTORATION POST-INCARCERATION National Criminal Justice month program to feature award-winning actor/author and social advocate Hill Harper as special keynote speaker In Bishop T.D. Jakes’ latest fi l m , M i r a c l e s f r o m Heaven, the global spiritual leader, movie producer and best-selling author helps shine a light on how individuals can move beyond their current situation into a higher level Bishop T.D. Jakes of pur pose after lifechanging circumstances occur. The Texas Offender Reentry Initiative (T.O.R.I.), is one such example in action. Since 2004, more than 10,000 ex-offenders have successfully completed the one-year program that gives them the tools and knowledge to successfully reintegrate back into society and remain crime-free. Each year, Bishop T.D. Jakes hosts a graduation service replete with cap and gown and all of the pomp and circumstance typically associated with life’s significant passages for those successfully completing the curriculum. Held during service at The Potter’s House, this year’s celebration will take place on Sunday, March 6 at 9 a.m. (CST). NAACP Image Award® winner, actor and author of “Letters to an Incarcerated Brother,” renowned social commentator, Hill Harper will serve as the ceremony’s keynote speaker as more than 120 T.O.R.I. graduates receive diplomas from County judges and elected officials as a visual demarcation that they are entering into the next stage of their recovery. Upon walking across the
stage, Harper will gift each graduate will a personalized copy of his aforementioned 2013 bestseller. “An individual isn’t simply rehabilitated by completing a course,” remarked Bishop Jakes. “As individuals graduate from one stage of l i f e t o t h e n ex t , i t ’s imperative to equip people t o c o n t i nu e o n t h e i r journey and not be bound by what’s in our past.” The unique model which T.O.R.I. implements has Hill Harper resulted in invaluable insights shared with many of the leading authorities within our nation’s justice system. The program has risen to a level of national prominence that has resulted in a partnership with the U.S. Department of Justice whereby reentry training and information is shared with leaders across the country along with invitations from the White House Office of Faith-based and Community Initiatives to participate in the 2016 National Prison Summit on Mass Incarceration in October. T.O.R.I. focuses on key areas of rehabilitation that lead to more sustainable success: employment, housing, education, family reunification, health care and spiritual guidance. With one of the largest prison populations in the United States, Texas spends $60 a day to incarcerate an individual, though rehabilitation through T.O.R.I. only costs $4 per day. Recent recidivism rates show that sixty-seven percent of former prisoners will be re-incarcerated within three years of their release—but The Potter’s House is working to decrease that number.
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WARE + ASSOCIATES: A FOOTPRINT IN FORT WORTH’S BLACK HISTORY Fort Worth, Texas) — The city of Fort Worth is rich in history, with many African Americans playing significant roles, and Wyntress B. Ware, president and chief executive officer of Ware + Associates, has done just that. In 1987, she founded the first African-American, woman-owned public relations firm in Fort Worth. Ware + Associates, recipient of the 1999 Fort Worth Chamber of Commerce Small Business of the Year Award, began as a home office with one employee and one primary goal – to deliver client messages to customers via the most cost-effective channels. Wyntress B. Ware, president and CEO of Ware + Associates “Our goal is not to become the biggest company,� Ware emphasized. “Our goal is to really make an impact in the Metroplex as the company that enhances inclusion through nontraditional public relations programs.� Today, nearly 30 years later, Ware + Associates has grown into a thriving organization, with as many as seven employees, serving an extensive client list from a variety of public and private entities including Dallas Fort Worth International Airport, Tarrant Regional Water District, Fort Worth Transportation Authority (The T), and Parkland Hospital Systems. The firm’s longevity and success is attributed to Ware’s philanthropic philosophy of service to clients and the community. “The secret to success in the public relations world is integrity and service to your clients and the ability to impact their bottom line,� stated Ware. “If you can’t do that, they’re moving on to someone else.�
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Dallas-Fort Worth Association of Black Journalists URBAN JOURNALISM WORKSHOP APPLICATIONS ACCEPTED The Dallas-Fort Worth Association of Black Journalists (formerly the Dallas-Fort Worth Association of Black Communicators) will present its annual Urban Journalism Workshop for high school and college students in 2016. This 12-week workshop is open to students in Dallas, Tarrant, Ellis, Collin and Denton counties. Students receive hands-on experience working with seasoned professionals who have gained a reputation locally and nationally, as well as internationally. The program, which emulates one started by George Curry, Gerald Boyd and other members of the Greater St. Louis Association of Black Journalists in St. Louis, has graduated students who have gone on to anchor newscasts, edit newspapers, open public relations firms and produce radio shows. Mr. Curry visits the Dallas workshop students annually to conduct his “basic training.” Mr. Boyd died of lung cancer in 2006. “We’re excited about continuing the tradition that was started almost 30 years ago,” said Eva Coleman, one of the instructors for the program. “I am looking forward to working with students this year.” Ms. Coleman, who teaches radio and television in Frisco ISD will be overseeing the radio and television segments of the workshop, pulling together experts in the field. Previous speakers have included: Dallas County Commissioner John Wiley Price, former Dallas Mayor Ron Kirk, Senator Royce West, StarTelegram editor and columnist Bob Ray Sanders, Dallas Morning News columnist Norma Adams Wade, Our Texas Publisher General Berry, PR gurus Lyria Howland and Rose Gafford, Pulitzer
Prize-winning photographer Irwin Thompson, K104’s Sam Putney, 97.9’s Gary with the T, Dallas Examiner Publisher Mollie Belt, Producer Haile Gerima and Dallas Weekly Publisher James A. Washington. Ms. Smith, who has been with the program since its inception, took over the directorship in the mid 90s and continued through 2004. Ms. Smith returned to the program as director in 2007. At the conclusion of the workshop, the students will participate in a closing ceremony where they will present a newspaper, television and radio broad-casts, a website and a special project. For more information about the workshop, contact Ms. Smith at 214-941-0110.
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DAVIS: Dear Hillary and Bernie Dear Hillary and Bernie; In the words of the great Stevie Wonder, “When the summer came, you were not around Now that summer’s gone, and love cannot be found Where were you when I needed you, last Winter...” I say, “Kiss my shrimp and grits!” (playfully indignant.) How can you, in good conscience, bargain for Black endorsements, solicit Black support and campaign shamelessly for Black votes with cold coffee and stale donut promises, hoisting banners of “You know me!” and “After all I’ve done for you...” I say, “Where were you when we needed you...” I admit that there are those like Spike and Morgan who are all-in but I feel about that the same as I did when the brothers Johnson (Magic and Bob) supported you over a brother named Barack. An even bigger concern is Blacks pledging their loyal campaign support to Teflon Don John! Donald’s middle name is John and aside from his charismatic “charm”, all I can make of it is some of us Black folks do love our Red Kool-Aid. (Come on now... Red states, Blue states.) Foghorn, Leghorn said: “I say, I say, I say, pay atenshion... ” Now, anthropologists dating back to Nazi Germans and Fascist Italians feuding over diabolical principles of Nordic Aryan superiority remind us of loud mouth rantings about a superior race--a blond haired, blue eyed Super Race. Pay close attention now: there’s only one blond haired, blued eyed candidate in either party, spouting off about Mexicans and Muslims, China and South Korea-declaring everyone is our enemy. Arguing, our President is incompetent, we never win, our country is in decline and guess who’s gonna make it all better. Sound familiar? Only the little mustache is missing and for you Kool-Aid fans, I’m sure the Donald “loves” Black folks, about as much as Donald Sterling loves the NBA Clippers.
Now Uncle Bernie, either you and Aunt Hillary are too self-invested or too afraid to sound the clarion call like Paul Revere and brother Wentworth Cheswell did to warn us of a clear and present danger. The stakes are as high as they’ve ever been, so I’d rather you did. I’d rather Spike and Morgan add their voices with, “Any Chump but Trump!”, “Any Chump but Trump!” Anyway, I’m an iced tea man myself, so I avoid the Kool-Aid altogether. The fact is, what I’ve found conspicuously absent from the process is diversity on the Blue team. Seven years have passed since Barack Obama’s historic victory in which time several young vibrant minority prospects--male and female--could have been recruited and groomed to compete in the Presidential election. Do you really want young Black participation in the process? Then give them a candidate. Stop paying for million dollar ads attempting to make yourselves look youthful, relatable and relevant. Give us a candidate that IS youthful, relatable and relevant! Like who? I’m so glad you asked Uncle B. How about a brother named Bakari Sellers for one. Recognize that name Auntie? You should, he’s on your team. What are his qualifications? Let’s see: He’s a former South Carolina State Representative; a candidate for Lt. Governor of South Carolina and a Morehouse graduate. He’s a bright, articulate CNN contributor and did I mention he’s a young Black man--a most critical millennial? Voter turnout would be seismic! Now this may sound crazy but I bet for every Bakari there are two, maybe three young sisters equally qualified and eligible for grooming for such high level politics if the opportunity were made available to them. How many Shirley Chisholm’s and Barbara Jordan’s can we afford to pass up Auntie? Getting back to Gwendolyn and Cleveland’s boy Bakari. How about that name, Auntie? You want to continue the legacy of a President named Barack, how about a President named Bakari?
Crazy huh? I know, I tend to lean in that direction. Seriously, for those of you unfamiliar with the Sellers’ legacy, do yourself a favor and Google Bakari’s dad Dr. Cleveland Sellers. Mr. and Mrs. Cleveland’s son has the perfect poise and pedigree to make that seminal DNC speech like the one that catapulted Senator Obama into the national limelight. “If you’re going to play the game, you’d better know every rule.” Barbara Jordan Bottom line: It may be too late for this election, but it’s time to bolster and excite the Blue team with brilliant, talented, visionary, youthful applicants for the job of President. A diverse group who by their very view of the world will unify rather than divide and bring substantive change rather than protect the status quo. Applicants who by virtue of who they are, are naturally predisposed to intolerance of those who would prolong and profit from our systemic racial inequalities and racist policies. Students of the game who understand the cycle of poverty, poor education, heavy policing yields private prisons with high occupancy and high recidivism rates. They understand that xenophobia (fear of strangers or foreigners) only makes for a more dangerous world. They and their generation know and believe that music and art and love and forgiveness and tolerance bring people together. They are tired of being told that tolerance, forgiveness and diplomacy are signs of weakness and render us vulnerable to those that hate us. They want to sleep well at night and safeguard their loved ones like anyone else so they appreciate strength of will but they are not belligerent by nature. My novel character “Margerette” will run for President, perhaps in book #3, but for now I’m writing in Bakari Sellers for President. (You can still write in a candidate can’t you?) BTW... I included a copy of “Margerette” along with my letter to the President. Amen! Keep striving for justice, peace and love! M
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Bennett College celebrates 90th Anniversary as a Women’s College
Bennett College has had 17 presidents in its history. From left to right are: President Rosalind Fuse-Hall, J.D., the current president of Bennett College, and former presidents: Dr. Gloria Scott, Dr. Julianne Malveaux, and Dr. Johnetta B. Cole. Bennett College celebrates its 90th anniversary this year as a women’s college and has a series of events scheduled to mark the milestone. “Here at Bennett College we develop young women into future teachers, scientists, journalists, entrepreneurs, social workers, and the list goes on-because we go on,” said Bennett College President Rosalind Fuse-Hall. “As we celebrate 90 years of Bennett College, we also celebrate 90 years of sisters who have come together on this campus, sisters who developed into more than just graduates and achievers. Bennett Belles know that there is no limit to what they can do, because no does not mean never.” Bennett College was founded in 1873 by emancipated slaves in the basement of Warnersville Methodist Episcopal Church. Seventy young men and women started a school of elementary and secondary level studies. In 1874, the Freedmen’s Aid Society took over the school which remained under its auspices for 50 years. In 1926, Bennett College was officially named a Women’s College. Although Bennett College is a historically Black college, the college has both faculty and students who are from very diverse backgrounds.
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I will always be the daughter-in-law! Dear Alma: I was married for 12 years. I raised our son and his twin daughters from his first marriage. When we separated and divorced I was Ask Alma heartbroken. But all By Alma Gill the children via George Curry Media remained with me. They are adults now, all finished college, married with children and living wonderful lives of their own. I’ve never remarried. Recently after all these years my ex-husband married a very young woman. It works well for the local political life that he lives. He has a high-ranking position with the city and is constantly busy and on the go. Because of his career, I’ve always remained close to his mother, who is in her late 80’s, a widow, who raised her only son and everyone else on the block. She’s the nicest woman you could ever meet and has helped single mothers in our area with childcare for years. I lost my mother when I was young, so I’ve really enjoyed the bond that we share. She recently told me that, “I’ll always be her daughter-in-law (DIL) no matter what.” I’ve always shopped, cooked her meals and taken her to her doctor appointments, but I understand this has to stop. My ex and his new wife should take care of her now, although I don’t see that happening. My problem is, now that my ex is remarried, I want to step out of the way when it comes to my mother-in-law (MIL). How do I get them to recognize their responsibility to step up and start taking care of his mother? — Robin
Dear Robin, I hear you Robin, but I don’t believe you. You don’t wanna let go, nor should you. You love your MIL like you would your birth mother, and that’s fantastic. What a blessing you two are for one another. Sadly, your marriage didn’t last but your obligation to family remains unmovable. Maintaining your role as a stepmother and DIL was not an easy task, I’m sure. There’s a reason you did and it’s bigger than you and your exhusband. Listen, the truth of the matter is the new DIL is not interested in caring for her MIL or she would have stepped up or paid someone to do it by now. In the same breathe, your ex couldn’t find his mother in the forest for the trees and that ain’t gonna change any time soon. When and if your ex and his new misses want to make a change, they’ll let you know. I’m sure both don’t find it broken, so there’s no need to fix it, at least not for now. Not to mention, your MIL probably wouldn’t welcome the change anyways. That’s why she told you your role, in her heart, will remain the same. I say, continue to be her caregiver. I know this isn’t ideal, but it’s doable. Do it out of love for family, not as a favor to your ex. Your MIL is in her 80’s, commit to loving her delightfully for the rest of her days. I promise you, your heart will be glad you did.
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IN LOVING MEMORY OF AN OUTSTANDING EDUCATOR & FRIEND...
Nov. 22, 1987 - February 11, 2016 Justin Manning was born to the parentage of Dave and Venus Manning (Bullard) and Blynithia McGilbra (Collier). He received his education in Dallas County. Justin graduated from Molina High School in 2006. During his time at Molina, he played football where he led the position of safety. He also held the school league record for holds on the Molina Wrestling Team. He went on to Abilene Christian University where he studied Financial Accounting, focusing on Managerial Economics and Business Strategy. Justin was a loving, caring, funny, charismatic and amazing young man. He was known for bringing joy and warmth to everyone’s heart just by his beautiful smile and caring ways. Justin leaves to cherish his memories: his father(s) Norman McGilbra (Alisha), Dave Manning; his mother Venus Bullard (Clarence); his brothers David, Norman, Jr., Keith and Jason; his sisters Monya’, Davit, Taryn, Taylor, Paige, Diamond, Kristen, Jaylon, Nicholas, Nori, Krystal, Teighlor, Taker, Suzie Jean; his grandmother Ruby Jones.
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WAKE: Friday March 11, 2016 7:00- 9:00 PM Marsalis Ave Church of Christ... 2431 S.Marsalis Ave Dallas Texas 75216 Funeral: Saturday March 12, 2016 11 AM Marsalis Avenue Church of Christ 2431 S.Marsalis Ave Dallas Texas 75216 Golden Gate Funeral Home In lieu of flowers please send donations to the Dr. Theodore R. Lee Jr. Scholarship Fund @ UNCF 501 Elm Street, Suite 700 Dallas, TX 75202
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16th Annual Destiny Awards Luncheon Benefiting St. Philips School & Community Center Friday, March 4, 2016; 11:30 am. Viola Davis, star of “How to Get Away With Murder” is the special guest. For ticket information, contact St. Philips School at 214-421-5221. Dallas Police Department’s Coffee with Cops Friday, March 4, 2016; 11:30 am – 1:30 pm, McDonald’s; 3802 Gaston, 75246; and 4 – 6 pm, McDonald’s @10320 Lake June, 75217, and 310 W. Kiest, 75224. No agenda. Just a chance to sit and talk about whatever concerns you. For more information, call Police Community Affairs at 214-671-4045.
March 5-6 BOOM! Are you ready? Cynthia Oliver and Leslie Cuyjet are going to take us on a true sister journey as they perform this dancework choreographed by Oliver. 8 pm South Dallas Cultural Center Theater 3400 S. Fitzhugh Ave. Dallas, Texas 75210 For more information call 214-939-2787
March 5 The South Central District of the National Association of Negro Business & Professional Women’s Clubs, Inc., will hold their 2nd “We Speak Your Name & District Awards Luncheon” in the Malachite Showcase Ballroom of the InterContinental Dallas Hotel, 15201 Dallas Parkway, Addison, TX 75001, on Saturday, March 5, 2016, at 12 noon. Wendy Calhoun is the speaker.
Great Texas Warrant Round-Up
MARCH 4, 2016 Saturday, March 5, 2016. If you have a warrant for your arrest, you have until March 5, 2016, to pay; otherwise, officers will begin showing up at your home or work place to arrest you. Citations may be paid at the City’s Municipal Courts Bldg, 2014 Main Street, Mon. – Sat. Go to: www.courts.dallascityhall.com to find out if you have a warrant. In Dallas, there are 265,000 outstanding warrants totaling $76 million.
March 8 South Dallas/Fair Park Trust Fund Grant Application Meetings Tuesdays & Thursdays, March 8 – 24, 2016 at 6 pm. Martin Luther King, Jr. Center, 2922 MLK, Jr. Blvd, Dallas 75215, Bldg A. The Trust Fund will hold public information meetings to explain its grant application processes on Tuesdays and Thursdays between March 8-24, 2016. Learn more about the three types of grants available for nonprofit organizations. For more information, contact Leo Hicks at 214-670-8268. Fellowship of Professional Women Marti Martin knows first hand about letting go of childhood scars, coming from a very difficult and humble beginning, including childhood domestic violence. 11:45 AM to 1:15 PM CST Park City Club 5956 Sherry Lane 17th Floor Dallas, TX 75225
March 11 Neighborhood stories @ The SDCC You're invited to the free screening of the latest film in our "Neighborhood Stories" program. This film explores the Bonton and Ideal neighborhoods in South Dallas. Initially it was a series of segregated developments built for black Dallasites The Panelists will be: Milton Baker, former Bonton resident, H.I.S. Bridgebuilders Gerald Britt, former Ideal resident, CitySquare Sherri Mixon, Ideal resident, T.R. Hoover Clifton Reese, Bonton resident, H.I.S. Bridgebuilders Craig Weflen, Filmmaker, bcWORKSHOP Moderator - Vicki Meek @ 7pm South Dallas Cultural Center Theater
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March 10-13 SAVE THESE DATES! March 10 - 13, 2016 Friends of the South Dallas Cultural Center cordially invites you to celebrate the retirement of Vicki Meek Thursday, March 10, 2016 Preview Opening Reception: T Vasquez and Montoya Williams show All artists who have shown in the gallery during Vicki's tenure. Free- Open to the public Friday, March 11, 2016 10:00 am Paul Quinn College 10am - Vicki Meek: Black & Blue: Cultural Oasis in the Hills A part of the Nasher XChange 2013 Exhibition 10:15 am - Artist Talk Free- Open to the public Lunch - TDB South Dallas Cultural Center Wonderful Weekend at the Center 7pm – 8:30pm Film Screening “BONTON + IDEAL” – A Dallas Neighborhood Stories Film by BC Workshop Narrated by Vicki Meek Jammin' @ the Center Jazz Jam Session 12midnight -3 am Free- Open to the public Saturday, March 12, 2016 5 -7pm - Arthello Beck Gallery Opening T Vasquez and Montoya Williams Free- Open to the public 8pm Dinner – La Calle Doce Lakewood Jazz Karaoke TBD Sunday, March 13, 2016 Vicki Meek 365 CELEBRATION! City Performance Hall 4pm - 6pm Ticket information to follow
March 12 MaDea’s on the Run - Two shows 3p.m. And 8p.m. At the Verizon Theatre in Grand Prairie. Call 888-929-7849 Community United Methodist Church at 4501 S. Marsalis Ave. in Dallas, 75216, hosting a FREE health and wellness fair this spring and I'd very much appreciate promotion of
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March 13 Vicki Meek Cultural Icon Retirement Celebration Sunday, March 13, 2016 City Performance Hall 2520 Flora St. Dallas, TX 75201 5pm Free RSVP Required To RSVP Call 214-871-5000 http://www.ticketdfw.com/whats-on/2016/vicki-meekcultural-icon-celebration/
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MARCH 4, 2016 "Losing Ground" Hey Film Lovers! You're invited to our FREE screening of "Losing Ground" - a groundbreaking film by Kathleen Collins.....It's a comedy-drama about a Black American female philosophy professor and her insensitive, philandering, and flamboyant artist husband who are having a marital crisis. Well when the wife goes off .........You'll just have to see for yourself :-) March 18th & 19th at 7:30 pm. #sdcc365 #filmscreening #moviescreening #dallasculture #free #thingstodo #dallas #comedy #drama
March 19 2016 National Women’s History Month Program Women’s Education – Women’s Empowerment 12:00 Noon Black Police Association of Greater Dallas,211 Centre St, Dallas, TX 75208 $10.00 per Person
March 20 In The Words Of Sistah: I Am Here The longest running all female poetry/spoken word show of its kind. Poetry lovers are invited to celebrate 9 years of finger snapping and spoken word that Touches, Moves, and Inspires! Featuring: Anita Crethers, Barbara Audacity, Eden The Enchanted, Elle Davis, Emotion Brown, Jessica Velasquez Jus Tay, Lady Caress, ReviveAll Special Guest Performance by Rage Almighty Music by Lyn Lyric Smith Dance by Day Hall Hosted by B Randall Sunday, March 20, 2016 5:00 PM to 7:00 PM South Dallas Cultural Center - 3400 S Fitzhugh Ave Dallas , Texas 75210
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WHEN: Thursday, March 24th, 2016; 5:30 pm-7:30 pm WHERE: Tarrant County College - Trinity River Campus Join us for a night of networking, learning how to #BeHeard & celebrating Women's History Month. ************
March 27 We Takin' It To The Roots Y'all! Michelle Gibson is a force of nature and her latest dancework, "Takin' It To The Roots" will take you on a journey to Second Line country like none you've ever experienced, we guarantee! Co-commissioned by South Dallas Cultural Center and Ashe Cultural Arts Center in New Orleans, "Takin It To The Roots" includes original music by Brent Nance & Jason Davis, videography by Bart Weiss and script by Jonathan Norton. March 25-27, 2016 8pm & 3 pm South Dallas Cultural Center Theater 3400 S. Fitzhugh Ave. Dallas, Texas 75210 For more information call 214-939-2787 https://www.eventbrite.com/e/takin-it-to-the-rootstickets-22138641272 53rd Annual V. Alyce Foster Trailblazer Awards Luncheon Theme: Lifting Others As We Climb" Date: Saturday, April 16, 2016 12:00 Noon Hilton-Anatole Hotel, 2201 N. Stemmons Freeway, Dallas, TX 75207 Imperial Ballroom Ticket Price: $60.00 per Person
April 2 28th Image Awards Celebration on Saturday, April 2 at the Anatole at 7:00 p.m. This year’s theme is Pink Jazz - Providing Inspiration – Nurturing Knowledge. Our 28th Image Award Honoree is Steven L. Hayes, Professor of Music, Lecturer and Director of Choral Music at Wiley College.
An Evening With Great Women
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