Bella Magazine February 2023

THE RED ISSUE

From jewelry to clothes to wine, everything red!

PLUS: How to move from anger to calm

“I had no idea hypnosis could do this! I went from a size 12 to a 4 in just six months!!! Hypnosis made it possi ble for me to EN JOY eating healthy, exercising, and relaxing my mind . I eat what I want, I’m not on any kind of diet, and oh my goodness I li ke being thin! ”

- Lind a J-Milton

“I feel li ke a new woman in ALL areas of my life! I have a new and “much” improved attit ude toward life, eating healthy, and exercise . Why did I wait so long to come here?”

“When I came here, I wa s a hot mess with emotional bag gage and health issues. I literally feel li ke a plug ha s been pulled out of my head to let all the garbage out I feel lighter and more relaxed ... Oh, and I’ve lost 40 lbs in 5 months! ”

- Melin da G-Pe nsacol a

- Lisa D-Pe nsacol a

Adult survivors of childhood abuse are more likely to experience mental health issues, including depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, PTSD, eating disorders and substance use disorders.

YOU HAVE THE POW ER TO CHANGE A CHILD’S LIFE. K NOW CHILD ABUSE .

If only removing emotional scars was as easy as removing paint.

from the editor

It’s finally February and we’ve all got both feet in 2023 – hopefully your year is off to a good start. To me, January is always kind of a transition month. I’m working to catch up after time off and travel during the holidays, and I often seem to get sick or dealing with a longer-term medical issue. There’s planning the calendar for the new year and looking back at the previous year to see what was accomplished, while also completing items on the to-do list like the dreaded yearend accounting and taxes.

I end up feeling like I’m facing forward and backward at the same time, which creates a sense of stasis.

But February – that’s when things really get rolling. I get to see if my new year goals/resolutions/changes are actually going to translate into new and improved habits. This is when the rubber really meets the road.

February can also be a light and fun month. There’s Valentine’s Day, which often inspires couples to focus on each other or inspires friends to gather for a “Galentine’s.” Locally, we have Mardi Gras to gather as a community and laissez les bons temps rouler.

In this February issue of Bella we are having fun with red. We’ve got red jewelry, clothes, wine, dining and even a couple of women in red Pensacon costumes (check out the story on page 34, there’s some serious artistry at work).

We also take a look at the red emotion – anger (page 28). Anger is an interesting emotion, it’s easy to see it as bad or wrong, but it is a natural emotion that we all feel from time to time. It’s how we express and manage that anger that is important. It’s also important to figure out what we really are mad about. It usually goes deeper than the fact that someone didn’t load the dishwasher right.

I hope you enjoy this issue and this month of February. I have wrapped up 2022 and am fully facing forward, and I hope you are, too!

Bella Staff

PUBLISHER / Kelly MacLeod

EDITOR / Kelly MacLeod

ART DIRECTOR / Elizabeth Meyer

CONTRIBUTING WRITERS: Liz Biggs, Sloan Stephens Cox, Bradley "Beej" Davis Jr, Kelly MacLeod, Allison McCrory, Leslie Peck, Kate Treick, Magi Thomley Williams

CONTRIBUTING PHOTOGRAPHERS

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Photo by Kate Treick Photography

MEET & MINGLE

IMPACT 100 aims to know and serve the community and provide transformative grants to nonprofits through the power of collective giving. If you’d like to make a difference in our community, please consider finding out more information and becoming a member at one of our upcoming Meet & Mingle events. Membership deadline is March 1 each year.

LINK & LEARN

100 strives to maximize the number of nonprofits submitting quality grants. Support includes nonprofit grant workshops and socials, Link & Learns, where nonprofit leaders have an opportunity to LINK to fellow nonprofit organizations and IMPACT 100 board members & LEARN relevant information about the IMPACT 100 grant process. Letters of Intent to submit grant proposals are due April 30 each year.

IMPACT

www.impact100pensacola.org

BY SLOANE STEPHENS COX / BELLAMAGAZINE.COM / PHOTOS PROVIDED

Derek Lam 10 Crosby “Maeve” trousers, $375, NeimanMarcus.com.

Marah Hoffman “Minerva” top, $375, MaraHoffman.com.

“Sparkly Mini City” bag, $89.90, Zara.com.

Marco Bicego 18k petal-drop earrings with diamonds, $7,150, JamesFree.com.

Appliquéd one-shoulder top, $29.99, H&M.

Cult Gaia “Hera” mini shoulder bag, $498, Revolve.com.

SHASHI “Tropic Floral” earrings, $98, Shopbop.com.

GB “Cozy Flare” pants, $54, Dillard’s.

GROUNDBREAKING CARE

Baptist Heart & Vascular Institute

Baptist Health Care offers groundbreaking heart and vascular care and is Northwest Florida’s largest and most experienced team of cardiovascular specialists. Collectively the group has pioneered virtually every new innovation in heart care in our region and continuously earns awards for quality and excellence. Our many convenient locations throughout the area offer easy access to the region’s top specialists.

Deeply rooted in our mission of helping people throughout life’s journey to make us – our community – better, we are continuing our legacy of transforming for the future.

Fire & ICE

Story and photos by Kate Treick

Diamonds may be a girl’s best friend, but when you add deep red rubies or garnets, the combination might win your heart. When set against glittering diamonds, rubies provide a contrast that enhance both stones’ sophistication, style and elegance. A little color can also upgrade the flare of a stylish watch. Which pieces would you choose?

Beré Jewelers

5033 N. 12th Ave., Pensacola; 850-477-6818; berejewelers.com.

• 18K white gold ring with 1.87ctw rubies and 0.46ctw diamonds by Kattan Diamonds, $8,375.

• 14K yellow gold 0.50ctw diamond paperclip link pavé heart necklace by Shy Creations, $2,690.

• Oris Watch 40mm Big Crown Automatic watch with red dial on brown leather strap, $1,750.

Elebash Jewelry Company

36 Palafox Pl., Pensacola; 850-432-5136; elebashs.com.

• 18KWG ruby and diamond ring with 1.38ct ruby and .23ct diamonds, $9,750.

• Garnet drop earrings 14KWG with 2.54ct total garnets and .53ctw diamonds, $2995.

• Ruby pendant 14KWG oval pendant with 1.65ctw ruby and .60ctw diamonds, $8,990.

Jewelers Trade Shop

26 Palafox Pl., Pensacola; 850-432-4433; jewelerstradeshop.com.

• 18K white gold diamond and ruby bracelet, $29,350.

• 18K white gold and diamond ring, $14,875.

• Open diamond heart necklace, $860, and diamond cluster heart necklace, $1,325.

Let’s play DRESS UP!

By Allison McCrory

With quarantining in the rearview mirror, women are once again embracing the fun of going out in style.

"I think a lot of people are still very excited about getting dressed up after COVID," said Laura Belsinger of Bluetique in downtown Pensacola, noting that midi and maxi dresses and skirts are customer favorites.

"Another trend that will be moving forward this spring is side cutouts in dresses," she noted.

Take your pick of colors this spring. Both ultra-bold and soft hues are trending.

"Some of the softer hues for spring are going to be lavender, light blue, ballet pink and yellow," Belsinger said. "However, we will also be seeing the other end of the spectrum as well – bright pinks, neon green and bold blues."

Look for florals and bold prints on the fashion horizon. Silver jewelry is making headway as are cuffs, bangles and stacked bracelets.

While women are dressing up, their beloved, sportier sneakers are sticking around with exposed tread. Ballet flats are a whimsical finishing touch for all of those dresses.

Belt bags, an upscale reinvention of the fanny pack, as well as oversized totes and embellishments such as sequins, fringe and feathers are popular on both clothing and small bags.

Shopping list: There’s red and there’s the fierce statement-making spirit of red, oozing from this coat and its sidekicks. Lilla P ruffle sleeve boatneck top in champagne, $175; Jude Lucia ponte pant in cream, $188; Trina Turk Dia coat in neutral, $498.

Photo by Kate Treick Photography

Shopping list: Dresses are every woman’s fashion wish with midi and maxi lengths currently leading the way. Embrace the promise of spring in this navy plaid maxi by CK Bradley,

$368.

Photo by Kate Treick Photography

Clarke Bear

Family, work, sports and the outdoors – February model Clarke Bear loves it all.

Professionally, the Orange Beach resident finds joy in assisting clients pursuing their dream homes.

“I have been helping clients sell and purchase homes, condos and land along the Alabama Gulf Coast, and all throughout Baldwin County, for approximately nine years now, and absolutely love what I do,” said Bear, mom to two girls, ages 5 and 3.

“If I’m not showing property or meeting with clients, you can find me spending time with my family on the water, boating around ‘the islands’ and at local eateries. We also love live music and try to attend as many concerts and shows as possible. Really anything outdoors, even if it’s shooting basketball, playing with our girls or grilling in the backyard – those are some of my favorite days.”

Bear, an Auburn graduate and Gulf Shores native, played volleyball, soccer, basketball and tennis growing up. She met her husband in high school, but the two didn’t socialize until 10 years ago when they reconnected, marrying in 2015. Now she’s immersed in helping her daughter pursue some of the sports she grew up playing.

“Most of my hobbies now include helping coach my daughter’s recreational sports leagues or getting her to and from those practices and games,” said Bear, who also serves on the Art for Heart leadership board for the Alabama Gulf Coast Division.

“I try to work out or play tennis from time to time, when not doing all of the above!”

Shopping list: Blazers and faux leather are all the rage. So why not combine both trends in this edgy look? This skirt by Sundays, $172, teamed with a Sundays turtleneck tank, $172, is a palette waiting for finishing. Complete the look with Emily McCarthy’s faux leather jacket in camel, $275. The shoulder interest offers extra fun!

Photo by Kate Treick Photography

Shopping list: This dress by Jude, $238, will be a staple for years. Change up the look with accessories, jackets or this Alashan cashmere luxe travel wrap, $285, for extra warmth.

Photo by Kate Treick Photography

Shopping list: This comfy outfit is a classic go-everywhere look. The Firebird oversized cowl top by Lilla P, $138, is a pretty pop against dark wash AG Mari jeans, $225. Cuff the jeans to show off everyone’s favorite footwear –sneakers.

About The Location

Supposey, 101 S. F St., Pensacola; 850-776-0553; supposey.co.

Hair & Makeup

Hair by stylist Jenine Adams, Next Level Salon, 700 Bayfront Pkwy., Pensacola; 850-438-8308; thenextlevelsalon.com.

Makeup by Melody Weber, Melody Weber Professional Makeup, 4305 Spanish Trail, Pensacola; 850-748-5651; melodyweber.com.

Clothes Compliments of Bluetique, 125 Palafox Pl., Pensacola; 850-432-1264; bluetiquepensacola.com.

Model Compliments of Izon Models & Talent LLC, 301 N. Barcelona St., Suite E, Pensacola; 850-433-2099; izonmodels.com.

Photo by Kate Treick Photography

stylingthe shoot

Photography: Kate Treick / Fashion styling: Allison McCrory Where

Creative Brazil Ibura earrings, $40. Gemma headband with pearls, $32.

FG 625 E earrings in black, $16.

Creative Brazil Hammered cuff in gold, $120. Oncept Tokyo “White Cloud” sneaker, $250.

Liz crossbody bag, $32.

to shop: Bluetique

Boulevard Kris crossbody in navy small tote with special strap, $160. cross bracelet in lapis, $88.

Alashan Cashmere Luxe travel wrap, $285.

Elyssa Bass blue topaz bezel gemstone earrings, $92.

Randi + Will II Abby “Victoria” scarf, $175.

Spartina Rene bracelet in black, $78.

Hammitt “Daniel” bag, $645.

skincare ROUTINE

By Leslie Peck

1. Never sleep in makeup. I repeat, NEVER sleep in makeup. Most people think makeup will cause breakouts – it can, if you are allergic to an ingredient. Makeup sitting on the skin night after night will build up and clog pores causing breakouts, stretching the pores and aging skin. Always wash and moisturize your face at night. Even if you don’t wear makeup, your skin is still dirty from impurities in the air.

2. Do not use too many products at once, it can cause more harm than good and clog pores. Make sure to rotate products that have the most active ingredients to reach their full potential. Once you find your go-to cleanser and moisturizer, the other products can take turns throughout the week.

3. Never leave the house without sunscreen on. It doesn’t matter if it’s sunny or not, or if it’s summer, winter, spring or fall. The damage UV rays cause to the skin is much harder to treat later on. It is always best to protec with broad spectrum SPF 30 or higher, hats and sunglasses.

4. Don’t touch your face. Many of us have habits of touching our faces in different ways throughout the day. Try to be aware of how much you touch your face and hair. Every time you do it, you are only putting germs and oils directly on your skin.

5. Leave blemishes alone. Over picking can be so tempting but it most certainly will leave a mark. Reversing the damage from scarring is painful and costly. If a pimple isn’t ready to release, leave it alone.

WHAT NOT TO DO WHAT TO DO

1. Find a cleanser that works for your skin. If you are oily, a cleanser with salicylic acid is best to clean pores and calm red, inflamed pimples. If you are dry, there are several cream and oil cleansers to choose from that will keep moisture in the skin as you cleanse instead of stripping it away. Always take time when cleansing your skin and use small circular motions.

2. Change your moisturizer as the weather changes. The weather can throw off your skin’s pH balance very quickly. In the warm months, use lighter, mattifying moisturizers to help control oil and allow your makeup to stay put. As the weather gets cold, slather on the hydration, especially at night so it can soak into the skin as you rest.

3. Clean your makeup brushes often, as least once a month. It is best to shampoo them with a gentle cleanser and rinse until no makeup is left in the brush. This will keep your makeup and skin looking its best.

4. Hydrate your body and skin. Drinking plenty of water is a staple to promote all around health. When you are dehydrated, so is your skin. Water helps the cells thrive in all parts of your body.

5. Create good skin from the inside out. Eating a clean diet with lots of green veggies, fruits and proteins can improve the texture and appearance of your skin, especially as you age. Our bodies need less sugar and processed foods. Adding more antioxidants and natural probiotics will keep your skin as healthy as possible.

Leslie Peck is a local makeup artist, aesthetician and lash artist with almost two decades of experience. She has worked 11 seasons of NYC Fashion Week as well as several beauty shoots while living in New York City. Leslie also has experience in TV, film, print and celebrity makeup in Los Angeles. She specializes in bridal makeup, skincare education and was featured on the front page of the Wall Street Journal in 2007.

Pensacola’s Queen of Hearts

Monica Sanford

By Magi Thomley Williams

Thirty-one years ago, Monica Sanford’s son was born with a severe congenital heart defect, requiring five heart surgeries before he was 10 years old. The event changed the trajectory of her life forever – from business to healthcare.

“I tell him that his life changed the purpose of my life and that he has saved so many patients through me,” said Sanford, who went to nursing school to learn how to take care of her son and is now an acute care nurse practitioner. “My healthcare advocacy stems from wanting every cardiac patient to be educated about their heart and have access to care.”

Now, her son Michael is a thriving, successful poet who sells his book “If My Heart Could Talk” on Amazon.

Sanford said one in 100 infants is born with congenital heart disease. That’s about 40,000 babies each year who will need lifelong healthcare management. Surgery is not a cure; they must be followed by a heart specialist at least every one to two years. Thanks to all the medical advancements in the last 50 years, these infants and children are thriving into adulthood. There are many minimally invasive strategies now, and even pre-procedural planning with 3D models and virtual reality – living with a “repaired” heart into adulthood is the norm not the exception. Now there are certified accredited congenital heart specialists and facilities throughout the country available for specialized care.

Sanford works closely with other champions of heart health, including

Inger Berg, local director of the American Heart Association, and Dr. Brent Videau, a cardiologist at Baptist Hospital.

“There are many social determinants of health, including transportation, insurance, geographic location and even race and sex disparities that we all fight to overcome to get these patients access to care,” she emphasized. “I am on the ACC Legislative Affairs Committee and have attended multiple ‘storm the hill’ opportunities in Florida and in D.C. to advocate for education, awareness and continued research and funding for heart disease. I have presented at local, state and national cardiology conferences and seminars teaching on blood pressure, cardiac and stroke awareness.”

As a nurse practitioner, she has served inpatient cardiology patients for almost 10 years and now works with patients at both Ascension Sacred Heart and Baptist Hospital. She also sees cardiology patients at the Health and Hope Clinic, providing access to care to the uninsured and the underserved.

“So many people during COVID lost their jobs and insurance,” she explains of the need at the clinic. “With a looming recession, some patients have to decide on food or medications. It is truly my honor to provide care.”

Sanford laments the lack of local surgical options for the youngest heart patients.

“I get calls or emails every week with a new baby being born with a heart defect requiring surgery. These patients and families must travel for the heart surgery to a large center. The nearest being about five hours by car,” she said,

• Mended Little Hearts of Pensacola: facebook. com/mlhop

• Ronald McDonald House Charities of Northwest Florida: rmhc-nwfl.org

• American Heart Association: heart.org

adding that important non-critical care resources are available locally. “I am a huge supporter of Ronald McDonald House, my family used it for my son’s first surgery.” Another local cause close to Sanford’s heart is Mended Little Hearts of Pensacola where she is the education director. This group depends on community financial support to send a Bravery Bag containing resources and support to families of children born with congenital heart defects.

To clear her head, Sanford hosts a podcast, “The Monica Sanford Show,” where she interviews local personalities about issues affecting Greater Pensacola. Sanford was born and raised in Houston until her family moved to Northwest Florida where she attended Crestview High School. Later, she lived in exciting places like Hawaii and Miami while following her husband’s military career. The family retired to Pensacola over a decade ago.

In addition to her son Michael, she is mother to Marciella, who will soon graduate with a law degree and who, like her mother, has an interest in advocacy. Sanford’s husband, David, is a retired Marine Lt. Col. who fully supports all her endeavors. Sanford will complete her doctorate degree from Vanderbilt University in April of 2023. She plans to pivot from healthcare to teaching so she can equip a new generation of heart care providers.

Magi Thomley Williams is a corporate consultant, writer, speaker, and trainer at Thomley Consulting. She can be reached at Magi@ ThomleyConsulting.com.

Photo by Kate Treick Photography

RED Seeing

Finding peace in stressful situations

By Bradley “Beej” Davis, Jr.

It’s happened. The last straw and the one that broke the camel’s back. We become flushed as our blood begins to boil. We’re seeing red. We’re angry.

Anger is a natural, biological response to stressful situations. It doesn’t matter if it’s a heated argument with your partner or it’s bedtime and you’re still wrangling rambunctious kids at 10 p.m., anger is simply a fact of life. But if left unchecked, it can take a toll on your mental and physical health as well as negatively affect your personal relationships.

Yes, there is a time and a place to be angry. Some retreat to a quiet place to reflect on what made them angry; others may use forceful words to express frustration. There’s no silver bullet for eliminating seeing red, but sometimes putting your best foot forward while handling anger means putting one foot back.

ANGER, STEP-BY-STEP

“With anger, I think it’s always important to take a step back,” said Donna Dickey, owner of Yoga Adobe. Dickey added that personally, she likes to assess a situation, whether it be a specific person or issue. Sometimes she’ll even “sleep on it” to come back with a fresh perspective.

“I feel very strongly that when you love someone, you tell them. When you are hurt, tell them, and when you’re angry, tell them.”

Dickey said she understands this can be a doubleedged sword that has the potential to create contention or confrontation, but it’s important to deal with it head on.

“A lot of people just avoid it and don’t deal with it, and that can cause anger outbursts. I’m big on going to the person if someone has angered you,” she said.

That double-edged sword is a symbol for balance that is oftentimes inexplicably influenced by how society views masculine and feminine roles and responses.

“Society’s perception of feminine versus masculine roles – the feminine is more gentle and soft,” Dickey said. “It’s as though it’s OK for the masculine to be hard or firm. Maybe that’s where it comes from: women aren’t allowed to become angry.”

Dickey said the reality is that each and every one one of us possess both masculine and feminine traits simply by being alive.

“We’re humans and we should have a healthy balance of both. As a female, I should be aware of being in touch with both my masculine and feminine (sides). But society doesn’t tell us that’s OK, but really we’re human and we’re both.” She added that this vital balance can be compared to what happens in our sky every day and night. “It’s the same with the sun and the moon. You

can’t have a full day without both.”

AND WE’RE BREATHING

Something else that occurs every day and night is our breathing. Without thinking and without fail, we inhale and exhale thousands upon thousands of times a day. Even Faith Hill told us to “just breathe.” Not only is breathing vital to a healthy body, but the actual focus on breathing is also vital to a healthy mind.

“I firmly believe when we focus on our breath, it forces us to be present,” Dickey said. “And I believe that is the best gift we can give ourselves and others.”

She goes so far as to suggest to her yoga students to physically place their hands on their bellies and just start noticing it rise and fall. It’s when we can master this simple exercise, we begin taking back control of our negative emotions, anger or otherwise. In fact, according to Dickey, anger can cause deeper issues in the body.

Additionally, some sickness and disease have a root-cause of stress, which is often caused by negative emotions.

“When we can own our breath and be in control of our breath, we have peace,” she said. “If I’m angry and I want to say something nasty or scream, I’m not in control of my breath. To take that step back is very powerful for the body and mind.”

She added that it’s important to remember that we have the power to calm ourselves down.

RED IS THE COLOR OF YOUR ENERGY

It’s interesting how we associate the color red with bold emotions like anger. Perhaps there’s a connection with the color we “see” when we get angry and the actual energy of that emotion.

“When we’re angry, you can literally think of your body as red. That anger is an energy, and that energy is present in your body now,” said holistic counselor

Ashley Pennewill. “It’s important to understand the energetic component to any emotion.”

Pennewill said that with any feeling, such as anger, that energy is present in our bodies and it’s important to develop an awareness so the emotion itself doesn’t take over. He said there’s a part deep inside that can still choose what to say, what to do and how to respond.

Admittedly, we all have our “breaking point,” whatever that may look like, and it’s certainly different for everyone. The good news is with a little work on ourselves, this point gets higher and higher, almost like raising the bar on your ability to respond to anger.

“And everybody has their bar of what it takes to get them there. And with practice, that bar raises. And it takes a whole lot more to get us to where the anger is in control,” Pennewill said. “When we’re super angry and we know we’re past that bar, past our limit, it’s essential to really learn it’s not the best time to be interacting with people, making decisions, etc. Sometimes, though, because of homelife growing up, some individuals have a skewed perception of responding to certain emotions. I’ve had clients, more than one, ask, ‘is it OK to feel anger?’”

Communication is key to dealing with anger within the confines of a relationship. But what happens when communication is hampered by cultural differences? What if there is a language barrier?

CZERWONY (RED IN POLISH)

Having lived a majority of her life in Strzyżów, Poland, Pensacola resident Kinga Switzer said the Poles don’t necessarily associate colors with emotions, such as feeling blue or the redness of anger. She does mention that the red on the Polish flag symbolizes several things like bravery, prowess and blood. When asked if there was a Polish translation similar to the term “blood boiling anger,’’ she quipped that this kind of boiling happens in the kitchen.

“We have a saying that’s more like ‘cooking with anger.’”

LUECROSSBLUESHIELD

She added, however, there’s a Polish saying that certainly can be a demotivator for showing visible signs of anger, especially for women. “When you have in your culture a saying that says, ‘anger hurts your beauty,’ basically appealing to women, saying to them they should not be angry because they will be ugly.”

Switzer recalled an argument with her new husband shortly after marrying. She explained that she was still learning English, which posed an additional layer of frustration while communicating during the exchange.

“I usually don’t use curse words in arguments, but one time I was in a heated argument with my husband and at that time my English was still pretty poor, so it was hard to have arguments because you want to express the best, but you don’t have the skills really yet,” Switzer said.

She recounts her attempt to express her counter argument by exclaiming, “(Expletive) this!” However, she accidentally blurted out, “(Expletive) YOU!”

“And my anger just disappeared and was basically replaced by the feeling of fear and worry about what just came out of my mouth,” she said. She immediately apologized and both began to laugh at the situation. “Because it was such an ‘f-bomb,’ I guess that it just diffused the situation and after that, I had to set the record straight. All of that anger just deflated.”

One principal takeaway from experiencing anger includes remembering that you are in control of your response to that anger, and that there are a number of simple practices one can implement to manage those responses. Additionally, healthy and meaningful communication can be the key to eschewing frustration and anger within a relationship. We all get angry, and it’s a normal response to stressful situations, so by arming yourself with the knowledge and awareness to overcome anger, we go from seeing red to seeing our ability to stay present and peaceful.

— Donna Dickey, owner of Yoga Adobe

local fare

the ladies of PENSACON

Colors and costumes stand out at annual event

By Bradley “Beej” Davis, Jr.

The wildly popular and successful Pensacon is finalizing preparations for the last weekend in February where thousands of costumed comic characters will gather in Pensacola for this 10th annual multi-genre cosplay event. Not only is this event an opportunity for cosplayers to celebrate their passionate and selfdescribed “geekdom,” but it also provides attendees the chance to meet and greet with a host of celebrities, writers, artists and comic vendors within the comic convention realm.

Needless to say, events like these are brimming with vibrant sights and sounds, including the conspicuous color red, which has a special place in comic fandom.

“Red is always a color that’s going to get attention,” said Pensacon executive committee member and local comic guru Juilo Diaz. “You’re always going to have colors stick out wearing red, whether it be Superman’s ‘S’ on his chest or a character like The Flash or like Deadpool.”

Bella Magazine had the pleasure of swooping in to ask a couple of local cosplayers about their decisions to be ladies in red for the sake of humanity.

Pensacon 2023

• When: Feb 24-26

• Where: Pensacola Bay Center (and various local venues), 201 E. Gregory St., Pensacola; 850-432-0800

• Cost: Three-day passes starting at $85; Single-day passes starting at $35

• More information: pensacon.com

MARCY MOON: DEADPOOL/ MANDALORIAN MASHUP

Marcy Moon’s mixture of The Mandalorian and Deadpool results in a character that is mysterious, sassy and sweet. When she’s not coaching fitness or teaching local art classes, she’s working on her own personal artwork with a portfolio featuring anime, fanart, mythological series and portraits. You will even be able to see and purchase her work at the event, as she is an official art vendor. Since Moon was a young child, she recalls being enamored with drawing, which could be one of the reasons she’s chosen a unique and creative route with her Pensacon costume.

Why did you choose this combination?

Every year I mash up Deadpool with a character.

So, a different character?

Yeah, every year. Two years ago, I did this (costume) because Mandalorian was coming out, and I wanted to build armor really badly.

Tell us a little about this armor and how you constructed it?

It’s foam, and a lot of paint and Plasti Dip, so it’s just layering stuff and forming it with heat.

About how long did it take you?

Oh, I don’t know. What do they call it when you’re hyper-fixated on something? I did it in like five days non-stop just working on it.

What is your “grownup” job?

I coach at a gym called Revolt Fitness, and then I also do some classes at Painting with a Twist – I do a couple weekends there. I also sell art.

How many years have you been attending Pensacon?

Nine years? This is the 10th year, and I missed the first year.

What is one of your favorite things about Pensacon?

The community – everybody is so nice. And what I mean by everyone is nice, it doesn’t matter if you’re in a $5 cosplay or you’ve spent hours upon hours (on a costume), everybody’s going to say ‘you look amazing.’

Photo by Kate Treick Photography

LAVONNE FRENCH: JEAN GREY

By day, LaVonne French is a professor with Pensacola State College’s Theatre Department as well as the costumer/ seamstress for all of their productions. By night, or by Pensacon rather, she’s Marvel character Jean Grey, one of the most powerful female characters in the franchise and born with superhuman abilities including telepathy and telekinesis.

French’s costume choice, which was a labor of love as she worked for several months to complete the gorgeous garnet ensemble, is from the movie “X-Men 3: The Last Stand.” She said the character as well as the costume were what drew her to Jean Grey.

Why did you choose this character?

I like this costume and love the character. She’s pretty amazing, but I like this costume, and I’ve always wanted to build it.

So, the costume is what drove you to this character?

No, I like the character, but I think this costume is really amazing.

What are some attributes of the character that you like or try to emulate?

Well, I don’t know if so much as emulate, I just think she’s a good character. She’s one of the X-Men. She’s got some power. Is costuming something you enjoyed doing growing up?

Yes, I taught myself how to sew on my mother’s sewing machine, I think I was 10. Of course, everything was textbook, but I tried to figure it out, you know? It’s just something that I love doing and it’s another way to be creative. My background is dance, but this is another area that I like as far as being creative.

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food & drink

REDHOTDINING

By Bradley “Beej” Davis, Jr.

SaBai Thai on Jefferson

130 S. Jefferson St., Pensacola; 850-741-4618; sabaionjefferson.com

Tucked away lovingly in Southtowne Apartments, SaBai Thai on Jefferson is a family owned and operated restaurant offering terrific Thai food and friendly service. What makes this spot red hot? The menu offers delectable Wok noodles, Thai curries, tangy soups, fried rice and salads, as well as authentic specialty selections and smaller-portion lunch specials. Carry out or dine-in, call for a reservation because this quaint spot fills up quickly, but you’ll always be served unique and authentic Thai fare and a remarkable dining experience.

Hot Spot Barbecue

901 E. La Rua St., Pensacola; 850-497-6060; hotspotbarbecue.com

Nothing says hot more than having hot in your name!

Opened in June 2013, this family operated spot on 9th Avenue is serving some of the absolute best Southern-style barbecue in town. On the menu you’ll find only the finest meats and ingredients, specially seasoned with Hot Spot’s special dry-rub and carefully cooked in one of the on-site, outside smokers. Positively nothing is deep fried, and you can always expect service to be friendly and red-hot fast. Fun fact: Hot Spot’s combination of recipes come directly from family members and friends. Rumor has it they also have one of the best lemon pies in existence.

George Bistro + Bar

6205 N. 9th Avenue, Pensacola; 850-912–4655; georgebistroandbar.com

Nestled just a bit north on 9th Avenue is the Southern charm of George Bistro + Bar. You’ll probably be tempted to cop a squat on the front porch swing, but upon arrival, the

true hospitality happens the minute you walk through the door. Friendly greetings and service are staples of the establishment, rivaled only with George’s respect for ingredients, which is paramount in telling the personal story of each dish. What are the stories of these dishes? Well, perhaps it’s their origins having been influenced by travels through Europe as well as the proprietors’ time living in New York. Naturally, George uses not only the freshest ingredients for their fare, but also for their hand-crafted coffees and cocktails.

Kohn’s on Palafox

34 S. Palafox Place, Pensacola; 850-912-6762; kohnsonpalafox.com

Positioned on South Palafox Place since 2014, Khon’s boasts an extensive menu. Want a hot spin on Pad Thai? It’s one of the many outstanding and consistently delicious items on the extensive menu of authentic Southeastern Asian cuisine. And don’t forget about the full sushi bar! Speaking of sushi, who’s at the helm of Khon’s creations? None other than executive chef Dot Chap who hails from Bonsai at the Hilton Pensacola Beach. Don’t worry about finding the perfect beverage to accompany your meal, as Kohn’s also offers an array of craft beer, sake cocktails and wine. Inspired by the Gulf Coast’s “relaxed vibe,” your restaurant experience takes place in a modern, welcoming atmosphere.

Restaurant IRON

22 N. Palafox St., Pensacola; 850-476-7776; restaurantiron.com

There’s a saying: “Strike while the iron’s hot,” and with its Southern flare and a contemporary twist, the Restaurant IRON dining experience elevates Downtown Pensacola’s culinary offerings to a new standard. Seasoned executive chef Alex McPhail touts the restaurant’s theme as locallysourced, hand-made and detail-focused for every recipe. You’ll often see him and his incredible kitchen team preparing your meal in the open kitchen that is then perfectly presented by a knowledgeable and professional staff in a comfortable, yet elegant, southern-inspired setting. This is certainly a red-hot dining destination for a special occasion or to simply savor one of Pensacola’s premier establishments.

Whether it’s hot food or just a general hot spot, Pensacola is home to a number of delightful dining establishments. Here are our picks for red hot dining this February.

Gaby’s Taqueria sets downtown Pensacola on fire with California-style

Mexican food

By Magi Thomley Williams

Gaby’s Taqueria is Pensacola’s newest upscale food truck experience. Gaby’s offers a different aesthetic and California-Mexican inspired food at the location at 104 East Gregory Street.

What sets this Mexican restaurant apart from dozens of others in Pensacola? Gabriel “Gabe” Hernandez, one of the owners, readily admits it isn’t the food.

“There is no new food. Gaby’s is experience-based,” Hernandez said. “The high level of service. The music. We want restaurants with cool stuff and nice curb appeal.”

Co-owners Kyle Smith, Rafael Simpson and Gabriel Hernandez have achieved their goal. The tastefully designed outdoor dining area is perfect for relaxing with family or friends. Guests can enjoy the breeze that makes banana

Gaby’s Taqueria: 104 E. Gregory St., Pensacola; 850-741-4055; gabystaqueria.com. T o go orders can be placed at 850-741-4055.

Photos by Kate Treick Photography

palms sway around the perimeter of the seating area, or they can pick up a game of corn hole or play tabletop tower games.

The simple menu is heavily reliant on Simpson’s authentic family recipes and includes breakfast fare served from 10 a.m. to 2 p.m. daily. Gaby’s Breakfast Bowl offers a choice of protein, potato, egg, black beans, pico, avocado, queso fresco and cilantro. Tacos and burritos are crafted with a tortilla, egg, choice of chorizo (Mexican pork sausage), bacon or veggie, and potato and cheese. Order a burrito bowl and get a diner’s choice of protein, choice of rice or lettuce, black beans, corn, pico and cheese. Lunch and dinner tacos include chorizo, chicken, pescado (fish) or camaron (shrimp) on flour or corn tortillas topped with Gaby’s slaw. There’s a reason the hot sauce is served

on the side – the bona fide red-hot recipe is not for delicate palates.

Gaby’s servers are friendly, energetic, speedy and happy to answer questions about the menu. The level of service is a welcome change from the usual fastcasual dining experience. A kid’s menu is available and so are tasty Aperitivos (starters/sides) including queso and chips, guac and chips, esquite (corn in a cup) or rice and beans.

Enhancing the legitimate Cali-Mex experience is the authentic Mexican non-alcoholic drink menu. Offerings include Mexican Coke (American Coke is made with high-fructose corn syrup and Mexican Coke is crafted with cane sugar, which is less processed than high-fructose corn syrup; some say the difference offers a more natural or purer taste), Topo Chico (sparkling mineral water from Mexico) and Jarrito (a fruity

Mexican soft drink).

Artisan Restaurant Group owners were inspired to bring the fresh and new dining experience to the Gulf Coast after gaining extensive corporate experience while working together at Zoe’s Kitchen. They furthered their expertise at their three popular Tacos Mexicanos restaurants located in East Hill, Downtown Pensacola and the Pensacola State College campus. The compadres continue to create additional partnerships with minority entrepreneurs who have the passion and experience to craft culturally authentic food.

More locations of Gaby’s Taqueria will be coming soon. Until then, pay a visit to downtown Pensacola and enjoy the Cali-Mex inspired cuisine accompanied by lively music, authentic atmosphere and outstanding customer service in a chill outdoor setting.

Romantic REDS

By Liz Biggs

Are you looking for that special bottle of red wine to complement your Valentine’s Day dinner? The East Hill Bottle Shop, located on the corner of 12th Avenue and Cross Street, has just what you need.

Locally owned and operated by the proprietors of The Bottle Shop Downtown and The Wine Bar on Palafox, The East Hill Bottle Shop offers more than 1,000 wine selections, 50 craft beers and plenty of free parking.

Open for over a year now, the East Hill Bottle Shop is a popular place on Wednesday nights.

For $10, you can taste wines from around the world from 5 to 7 p.m. Wine specialist Todd Vucovich shares his vast knowledge of the wines he pours, educating customers on the countries, regions and grapes they come from.

Participants receive $5 off purchases.

For Valentine’s Day, Vucovich recommends these romantic reds, all under $20!

Georges Duboeuf Pinot Noir, $16.99 Georges Duboeuf, famous for his Beaujolais wines in central France, produces this outstanding value pinot noir from grapes grown near the southern coast of France. This tastes more like an Oregon pinot noir than French with its sweet cherry and strawberry fruit, nice acidity and soft tannins.  The homerun food pairing is salmon (grilled, baked or poached) but also is a great match with duck, pork tenderloin and grilled chicken.

Photos by Kate Treick Photography

Montepulciano d’Abruzzo, $16.99

Montepulciano is the premier grape in the Abruzzo region in Italy. Lunaria has taken this a step further with this certified biodynamic and organic wine. It’s the proverbial velvet glove in your mouth with its black cherry, cocoa, raspberry and tobacco. It pairs well with bold meats such as brisket, lamb, roasted pork shoulder, cured meats or even a meat lover’s pizza.

Gran Passione Rosso, $15.99

Gran Passione or Great Passion: what better wine to enjoy on Valentine’s Day. Made in the Veneto region surrounding Venice, Italy, this wine is produced allowing a portion of the grapes to dry in the sun before fermentation, which results in a full-bodied red wine with a soft mouthfeel. Excellent food pairings include roasted red meats, game, stews and hard cheeses.

The Symington family has been producing wine in the Douro Valley in Portugal for five generations. While famous for its port, a fortified dessert wine, Portugal also produces some of the best value dry red wines in the world such as this one. This is full-bodied, showing dark red and black fruit such as plum and black cherry, but has enough acidity to keep it fresh. It pairs well with grilled meats and aged cheeses.

D’Aqui Dolce, $18.99

No Valentine’s Day would be complete without chocolate.  A great pairing with chocolate or any chocolate dessert, this sweet sparkling red wine from northwest Italy hits new heights with chocolate covered strawberries. It’s also a great addition to cocktails including a different spin on the classic Old Fashioned. See rosaregale.com/cocktails/regale-fashioned for the recipe.

Symington Altano Douro, $9.99

Banfi Rosa Regale Brachetto

Lunaria Coste di Moro

Photos by Kate Treick Photography

Todd Vucovich pours wine from around the world at a Wednesday night wine tasting as visitors browse and taste the selections.

pro tips

From in the red to RED HOT!

Business tips from successful businesswomen

Bella asked some of the area’s leading businesswomen for their best advice for professional women. Whether growing an entrepreneurial venture or climbing the corporate ladder, every woman can benefit from the wisdom and experience of other successful women. Here are some tips for taking your career or business from “in the red” to “RED HOT!”

By Magi Thomley Williams

“Trust yourself. If your passion aligns with your profession, you won’t fail.”

—

“Always build and maintain relationships! They will help you through the ups and downs of your career or business venture.”

— Kara Luckett, graphic designer and owner, BCreative Designs

Autumn Blackledge, Autumn Beck Blackledge, PLLC

“Keep good relationships. Be encouraging to other small business owners. Help them when you can.”

— Jennifer Lowry, owner, Conchitas Personal Chef and Catering

“Be willing to lose money in order to make money, but never take your eyes off your cash flow. Keep up with your books on a monthly basis, which will give you the ability to track income and expenses as well as develop the forecasting strategies your business needs in order to be profitable and successful.”

— DJ Boulangger, financial controller, Sigma Accounting & Consulting

“Always have your ‘why’ in front of you and that will help push you through the red into your red-hot breakthrough. Keeping in mind your ‘why’ has to be bigger than money because when the money is not there you have to have a reason to keep going and be consistent. My ‘why’ for helping women live to their fullest potential helped me go through the red-to-red-hot. And now I’m leading a very successful women’s empowerment company!”

“The secret to small business success is to plan everyone’s succession, including your own. Your entry level employees should see a clear path to the leadership level. Employees should be able to write a manual of their job description with illustrations and checklists to teach their replacement before promoting to the next level. Cross training is so important. Hire professionals to help you with your business. My expertise is title, so I have hired a great CPA, a great lawyer and a great janitorial service. They do what they know, which allows me to spend more time doing what I know.”

— Mia Bolden,

empowerment business coach

— Vicki Haynes Campbell, Florida production manager at First National Title Insurance Company, and District 1 board member at Emerald Coast Utilities Authority

body & soul

THE FANTASTIC SPINTASTICS

By Liz Biggs

Nonstop since 1995, Babette Bell is the driving force behind the Fantastic Spintastics, a dynamic group of ladies who have been exercising together for over 27 years. According to Ginger Holland, they are “the nomads of spinning,” starting out at Pensacourt, then moving to Tammy’s Fitness, then to Anytime Fitness and finally landing at Pensacola Fitness Club.

Initially, Pensacola Fitness Club didn’t have bikes for a spinning class but Bell was determined to keep her class together, so she brought over 20 bikes from Anytime Fitness.

Locally owned and operated by Elizabeth and Brad Taylor, Pensacola Fitness welcomed the Spintastics to their club and thankfully agreed to buy the bikes from Bell.

“Pensacola Fitness embraced us, the owners are nice people,” Holland said.

In addition to camaraderie, commitment to fitness and loyalty to their fearless leader, the group’s favorite thing about the class is the music. Bell has created over 100 playlists and never uses the same one twice. Songs from the ‘60s and ‘70s are on heavy rotation. According to Bell, music gets in your muscles and makes them move.

Ann Kleckner, a retired Navy Master Chief, will be 93 years old in July and has been a Spintastic since 1998.

“It keeps me going, my doctor says it’s good for me,” Kleckner said. “We are like family. We like each other. We hug. We worry about each other. I was two minutes late and everyone was worried!”

Jean Wallace trains and works with therapy dogs at the airport and is 87 years old. She had hip

replacement surgery but was back in class after one month.

“It is such a welcoming class; they are all so encouraging and helpful. I never feel like I’m under pressure to keep up,” Wallace said. “I quit for a while to do Kung Fu, but at 80 I decided I was too old for Kung Fu.”

Holland, who coached basketball at Pensacola Catholic High School for decades, was a runner but she is thankful that Bell “got her off the road.” Bell convinced her that low impact cycling is easier on the knees and joints.

“Babette cares about us so much. Her diligence and commitment to us is why we’re here,” Holland said. If someone misses two classes in a row, Bell will text them to make sure they are OK.

Joyce Cobb, 65, is a newer member of the group. One year ago, she had a foot injury. She joined the group and has completed 150 spins in the past year.

Beverly Vannoy, one of the youngest members of the group, had knee replacement surgery 10 years ago as well as lower back fusion five years ago.

“This class helps me maintain my mobility and keeps my energy up for life,” Vannoy said.

According to Bell, Kleckner and Holland are the glue of the class.

“They are our anchors, they hold us together,” Bell said.

Bell recently honored Kleckner with “National Ann Day”and a playlist that featured all Elvis Presley and Cher – Kleckner ‘s favorites.

Sharon Moore and Holland agreed the group is kind of like a cult.

“To get into the cult, you have to show up five times,” Holland laughed.

But get there early, for there are only 21 bikes.

INTERESTED?

The Fantastic Spintastics have been spinning together for over 27 years. Check the schedule on the website for “Cycle Class with Babette.”

• Pensacola Fitness Club, 6933 N. 9th Ave., Pensacola; 850-474-0477; pensacolafit.com.

Photos by Kate Treick Photography

CLOCKWISE FROM TOP LEFT: Kathy White and Ann Kleckner; Rose Crooke, Joyce Cobb and Stan Grossman; class instructor Babette Bell; Ginger Holland; Jean Wallace.

RICA

By Kelly MacLeod

There is much to love about Costa Rica – the food, the people, the scenery, the activities –the list is endless. What keeps people coming back for more, though, is pura vida. While pura vida does translate to pure life, it’s really more of a vibe than a phrase.

“For Costa Ricans, pura vida means enjoying life no matter what your circumstances; it’s a simple appreciation of life and the realization that life is what you make of it,” according to CostaRica.org.

I recently hopped a plane with five of my gal pals and got to experience pura vida firsthand and I promise you, it’s real.

We stayed at the beautiful Casa Chameleon at Las Catalinas located on the Guanacaste Coast. I’ve been to other areas of Costa Rica and have always flown into San Jose. This was my first time flying into the Liberia airport and staying in the northwest part of the country.

The views from Casa Chameleon at Las Catalinas are guaranteed to take your breath away and sunset is upgraded with the lighting of the torches at the edge of the infinity pool.

The hotel had a car waiting for us and after a not-so-quick visit to the duty free liquor store, we were on our way. The drive was about 45 minutes to the hotel, and it was worth every minute.

Casa Chameleon is set on a lush hillside and is a honeymooner’s dream. Yes, there were a lot of honeymooners. Our group of girls never felt out of place, though, and we didn’t mind each sharing a villa with one other person from our group. When you are at a place like this, it’s hard to mind anything. Everything about the secluded high-end resort was top notch. It helps to also travel with friends who you know you can travel with. As my friend Victoria Mullet pointed out, it’s important to be limit the number of people in your group as well as the number of days together.

“Four days is best. You leave still wanting more and not being sick of each other,” Mullet said.

Each villa has a private balcony and dip pool with amazing views of the Pacific Ocean and mind-blowing sunsets. There is also an infinity pool by the main building, which houses the open-air restaurant, bar and yoga/event space. There are private cabanas by the pool if you want to escape the sun, read a book or take a nap, and the staff makes sure you never go thirsty.

The small village down the hill from the hotel is a short walk or golf cart ride – it’s a little steep so the golf cart is a winner. You can find shopping and dining, or you can get active at the beachside, outdoor gym or by renting paddleboards or kayaks. After, you can rent some lounge chairs and relax on the beach.

VICTORIA’S GIRLS’ TRIP RULES

Four-day rule. You always leave wanting more, which is far better than being ready to get away from the group and get home. This can limit where you go, you’re not going to go somewhere too far for just four days, but you have nothing but fond memories and excitement to be together again.

Limit the number of people. Four people is ideal, six is max. Too many people is like herding cats and takes away from the spontaneity and the fun. The more people you have, the more difficult it is to make everyone happy.

Know your travel people. It’s risky to go with a complete stranger; you need to have common thoughts on spending priorities. If one person likes to splurge on food and another prefers to splurge on activities, you’re going to have conflict. You also need to make sure you like to do the same things. Do you love shopping, or hate shopping?

Do you love going on a boat, or do you get seasick? Don’t be afraid to be frank upfront about expectations.

It’s good to have someone who keeps things moving. Do you like a predetermined itinerary or fly-by-the-seat-ofyour-pants? It can be helpful if someone does some upfront planning to know what is available so precious trip time isn’t spend researching and asking, “What do you want to do? I don’t know, what do you want to do?” But don’t be too tied to an itinerary, just use it as a suggestion. It’s vacation –be spontaneous!

We found that hydrating with the fresh coconut water is a tasty and wise move. There are many activities in the surrounding area to keep anyone entertained and active. While we did venture out for a sunset sail – we loved doing the group charter and getting to meet a lot of fun people – and a couple of dinners, we didn’t fully take advantage of all that nature had to offer because we

just loved the hotel so much. The food was great – especially the breakfasts – the people were friendly, and we got enough exercise going up and down the stairs to our villas.

I definitely plan to return – possibly with my husband, or friends, either way it’s a winner – and would love to do more hiking, biking, surfing and exploring. The pura vida is calling.

The breakfasts at Casa Chameleon take fresh and tasty to new levels. The Chameleon Huevos Rancheros (top left) includes a flavorful green sauce with just a hint of spice. The granola and yogurt (top right) includes fruit that gives new meaning to fresh and flavorful. Hydration is key, right? It doesn’t get more pure and fresh than sticking a straw (biodegradable, of course) in a coconut. A favorite Costa Rican breakfast found throughout the country is the Tico (bottom). Beans and rice might not sound like a good way to start the day, but done the Costa Rican way they are a delicious way to fuel your day.

out&about

Christmas at the Clinic Gala

The Health and Hope Clinic raised $225,000 at its annual Christmas at the Clinic Gala held on Nov. 29 at the Pensacola Country Club. The gala featured beautiful trees and wreaths decorated with certificates and gift cards to local restaurants and businesses. There was a live auction emceed by Marty Stanovich and live entertainment provided by Pensacola Opera. Guest speaker Freeman Scott delivered a compelling testimonial about the compassionate and timely care received and coordinated by the Health and Hope Clinic at his time of greatest need. Health and Hope Clinic is a local, faith-based non-profit providing free healthcare, dental, mental health and pharmaceuticals to the uninsured and underserved with the help of 307 philanthropic doctors, dentists, nurses and non-medical volunteers.

Photos by Kate Treick Photography

Natasha (VJ) Sompalli and Noelle Dunbar

Sheriff Chip Simmons and Grover Robinson Colonel Ron Ross and Pat Yvarra

Michael Johnston and Anna Causey

Harriett and Bryan Wyer   Dr. Brett and Rocky Parra

Judge Gary and Carissa Bergosh

Becca McKeithen and Deborah Taylor

Grover and Jill Robinson

out&about

Wreaths of Joy Gala

The Wreaths of Joy Gala benefiting The Arc Gateway took place at the Pensacola Bay Center on Dec. 1. From the moment guests arrived they were transported into a winter wonderland. Snow fell from the entrance to the Bay Center as singers from the Pensacola Children’s Chorus serenaded. Those in attendance bid on a selection of beautiful wreaths for every season and celebration and participated in a live auction emceed by Cat Country’s Brent Lane. Guests also enjoyed a performance by the Pensacola Ballet. The event raised funds to help The Arc Gateway empower those with intellectual and developmental disabilities in our community.

Photos by Kate Treick Photography

Kris Raish, Monique LeClair, Shannon Evans, Madrina Ciano, Ricki McWilliams, Angela D’Alessandro

Carly Borden, Walker Wilson, Kierra Stover and Charles Houston

Dana Hall

Tia and Fred Robbins

Carrie Shaw, Kim Stavely, Alita Fisher

Kenon Beasley and Denni Rand

Mary Henriques and Christina Talbert

Cali Scully and Brent Lane

Christen and Stephen Rampersad

Bryan and Harriett Wyer

Above: Chase McKeithen, Becca McKeithen, Viriginia Stott, Jim Longsworth, Samantha Webster, Jay Webster, Therese Ritchie, David Ritchie.

At right: Jan Pacenta, Kristin Longley, Susan Bonsignore, Katie Kingsman

Barbra Tronu and Cindy Lenn Jan Pacenta, Brenda and Brett Vigodsky

Brigette Brooks and Therese Ritchie

her perspective

Patience is a virtue, but ain’t nobody got time for that

A friend just returned from a trip to LA and said to me, “People in LA are wound tight.”

He went on to tell me about how he was dining with friends at an outdoor café near a roundabout. The weather was nice, so windows were open. He couldn’t enjoy his lunch because all the LA drivers were constantly screaming obscenities at any driver who slowed down or hesitated in the roundabout.

I recently visited the lovely city of Boston. We rented a car and I learned firsthand the meaning of the word Masshole. Added to the Oxford Dictionary in 2015, it is defined as a term of contempt for a native or inhabitant of the state of Massachusetts.

Here are a couple of quotes from self-proclaimed Massholes: “My middle finger is my third blinker,” and “I drive like I own the friggin’ place, you got a problem with that?”

When we were stopped at a red light (with a no right turn on red sign) at a very busy intersection, I was shocked when the driver behind us honked repeatedly then jumped the curb, speeding by us on the sidewalk running over some nice bushes and barely clearing a fire hydrant. I swear I think we were the only people who actually stopped at red lights. Massholes must be colorblind.

Road rage is one thing, but grocery line rage is another. Once upon a time I was holding my toddler in the checkout line at Target. Back then, you had to electronically sign the credit card receipt. My 2-year-old said, “I wannadoit.” She was overdue for a nap, so I thought I’d let her scribble my name instead of fight about it. Big mistake – she would not let go of the electronic pen. I was holding her in my right arm

and fighting for the pen with my left hand. I didn’t win. She ripped the entire apparatus apart saying, “I wannit.”

What I remember most about this unfortunate incident is the guy behind us in line. I could feel his rage – his eyes were like daggers and the words he was shouting at us were not appropriate for a 2-year-old. I was embarrassed and apologetic but also frightened.

I asked the cashier what to do and she said I should just go, she would handle it. I was so thankful for her patience and understanding. To this day, I have a soft spot for any parent struggling with a toddler and always let them ahead of me. Nobody needs an angry, unhinged person behind them in line.

The other day I was shopping at Sam’s Club and it was unusually crowded. The parking lot was packed (walking is good for you, right?), the aisles were traffic-jammed with carts and the checkout lines were a mile long. It took me two-and-a-half hours to buy 10 items. Back in the day, when I worked full-time or when I had four kids in four different schools, I would have walked out. Ain’t nobody got time for that.

But something strange has come over me. Maybe it’s living in a slow, sugar-coated small town for all these years. Maybe it’s age and life experience – realizing my time isn’t any more precious than the human at the traffic light or in the grocery line ahead of me. Maybe it’s ADHD. Whatever it is, I’m thankful to have acquired some patience. I could have shaved 20 minutes off my time at Sam’s, but I let two people who looked upset and desperate ahead of me. I daydreamed, read a blog and deleted emails during my hour in line. Everyone around me seemed so angry and agitated but I stayed in my little happy bubble. Life’s what you make it. Why make it miserable?

Liz Biggs is a Pensacola native and mother of four. Once upon a time, she had a high-pressure career but now she has a pension and is a freelance writer for Bella Magazine. Liz enjoys music, dancing, tennis and travel and tries to find humor in everything.

March 30, 2023

9 a.m. - 4 p.m.

In-person: UWF Conference Center, Pensacola, Florida

Virtual: uwf.edu/wilc

Cost: $125 for in-person and $70 for virtual

The annual University of West Florida Women in Leadership Conference educates the next generation of business leaders destined to positively impact the state of Florida! This conference resonates with well-established career women and those just beginning their careers. Remarkably successful women will share their stories through inspiring speeches and panels dedicated to both personal inspiration and practical application.

Don’t Miss Out! Register at uwf.edu/wilc.

Deb Boelkes Author, Leadership Expert

Kara Cardona Executive Vice President of Greater Pensacola and Contact Center Operations, Navy Federal Credit Union

Nicole Villareal Bastian Lieutenant Colonel, U.S. Marine Corps

Kara Bloomberg Chief Operating Officer, LandrumHR

Sandra Donaldson President/CEO, D-Edge Consulting

Dr. Lusharon Wiley Vice President of Corporate Culture, Innisfree Hotels

Siri Lindley World Champion Triathlete, High-Performance Coach, Motivational Speaker

Leslie A. Maher Brigadier General, U.S. Air Force (Ret.)

Dr. Fran P. Mainella 16th Director, National Park Service Visiting Scholar, Clemson University

Rep. Michelle Salzman State Representative, District 1

Sandy Stosz Vice Admiral, U.S. Coast Guard (Ret.)

Kristie Tobias Change Management and Diversity, Equity and Inclusion consultant, national speaker and author