Just Being Ruthful*

BY Ruth McDonald

I find that many Christians don’t have a lot of unsaved friends, and that makes sense. We naturally love to hang out with people who share our faith. During my years in Japan, I was surrounded by people of different—or no— faith, so I got pretty comfortable having friends who were “not yet believers.” I’m finding, though, that’s it not so easy in my new routine in the U.S. I know, though, that I still want to share the gospel and impact those around me who don’t yet know Jesus.

We hear a lot about “gospel conversations” these days. I don’t know what that phrase means to you, but I think of it as a dialogue with someone yet unsaved that points them to Christ. It doesn’t necessarily have to include the entire Romans Road or end with an altar call, but it is a friendly, non-threatening opportunity to bring someone closer to the cross.

A few things to consider:

1.) Don’t be shocked at sinful behavior. People without Christ live like… well, people without Christ. They cuss, cohabitate with their significant others, drink excessively, and behave like sinners. Try to tell your face to behave and listen for the heart needs behind the sins.

2.) Express interest in them. I have yet to find anyone who doesn’t want to tell me about their tattoo… you don’t have to approve to ask them about it. After all, they felt so strongly about it as to have it permanently and painfully stamped on their flesh. Hearing what they’re passionate about shows that you care about them and helps you understand who they are. Show that you’re interested in their story and not just in telling yours.

3.) Find a connection. Though challenging, to be sure, you can usually find something in common with almost anyone. Buying the same product? Waiting in the same long line or lobby? Enjoy the same sport or hobby? Do both have kids or grandkids?

4.) Be a signpost to point people to Jesus. Tell a story that includes something God has done for you, being careful not to preach. Being sensitive to the response helps us sense how the Holy Spirit is working in this person’s life. I have found that trying to force open a heart that is not ready can be detrimental.

5.) Pray over the things you have learned during the encounter. Salvation comes through the Holy Spirit’s work. “Not by might nor by power, but by My Spirit,’ saith the LORD Almighty.” Ask God to be at work between now and your next conversation.

Look forward to your next conversation as the Spirit leads.

As we continue our “Faith in Culture” theme this year, I am praying for every one of you that God will open doors for you to engage in gospel conversations. Let’s pray that the Lord would bring many to faith through our collective witness.