Avoid communication failures and improve your relationships

noticed that the dishes are still on the counter, and you told me that you would load the dishwasher after dinner. It bothers me because this might interfere with our plans later. Could you have it done within the hour please?

Example of criticizing: The dishes are still on the counter after you told me that you would load the dishwasher after dinner. You always let me down. You’re so lazy!

You’ll notice that criticizing often involves name-calling and labelling the other. Words like “always” and “never” are dangerous because you imply that they are not capable.

2. Contempt Contempt is the most destructive to a relationship, as it means having resentment, disrespect, and even hostility towards another. It can take the form of saying direct, hurtful statements. However, contempt can also be subtle, when jokes and humour are used that are condescending and insulting. Often, when a person has facial expressions that include sneers and rolling their eyes, it is an indication of contempt.

Often, when one has contempt for another person, they discount the positive and only focus on and remember the negatives. This can lead to the conclusion that the other person is the cause of all their misery. This is hardly ever

Filipino community are natural selling points. This mission is an important step to highlight all that we have to offer, to attract new talent and add capacity, and contribute to our health-care workforce of the future.”

Deb Elias, chief executive officer and registrar of the College of Registered Nurses of Manitoba said the college, “will be providing resources and information to applicants and recruiters while seeking further improvements to ensure qualified applicants get to work as quickly as possible.” accurate. Contempt should be eliminated at all costs. This takes time and a lot of effort by both people in the relationship. One way to do this is to create an atmosphere of gratitude. Count and list all the things, no matter how small, that you appreciate the other doing or saying. Tell them when you notice something positive that they are doing and say thank you.

Manitoba previously announced support for IENs living in Manitoba, including clinical competency assessments, bridge training, living allowance, transportation and childcare, as well as access to caseworkers to help navigate the licensing process.

Last August, the Manitoba government was the first province in Canada to remove its requirement that internationally educated nurses already licenced in other jurisdictions be subject to further testing if they are trying to be accredited in Manitoba.

To date, 23 nurses have joined Manitoba’s health-care system as a result.

For more information about the recruitment mission and the Manitoba government’s efforts to recruit nurses from the Philippines, visit: https:// healthcareersmanitoba.ca/ buildyourfuturemb.

3. Defensiveness

Many people engage in this common communication pitfall. When another person expresses a complaint (or worse, a criticism) about us, we can feel attacked and then need to defend ourselves. We explain what we are doing, why we are doing it, and why the other person is wrong. Often this involves repeating the same thing over and over again. In the end, you do not hear what the other is saying.

A way to stop this cycle is to resist the urge to defend yourself and simply say, “I understand. What can I do to make this better?” You will then be more likely to look at your own actions and words and see how this contributes to conflict within the relationship. If you make positive changes, it will change your relationship for the better.

4. Stonewalling Stonewalling occurs when one person refuses to respond to an issue or walks away. This can leave the other feeling angry and ignored. Although it can be good to leave for a quick time out when things get heated, it should not be left unaddressed for very long. Stonewalling may start out with good intentions (i.e. “I won’t say anything because I don’t want to argue,”) but what tends to happen is that you don’t let it go. Resentment starts to build up until a later time when there is an explosion of emotions, complaints, and criticism.

To avoid stonewalling, the issue should be addressed shortly after the issue comes up, in a respectful way. Emotions should be part of the dialogue, which has the effect of softening the impact of words. For instance, “I felt hurt when you didn’t ask me if I wanted to help plan the birthday party,” rather than, “You never ask me to be a part of your life. You’re so insensitive!”

Addressing the other person’s behaviour in a calm, respectful manner can have a positive effect on relationships. Making the effort to change the way you speak to others in your life can go a long way towards improving your own wellness.

After all, do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy?

Cheryl Dizon-Reynante is a licensed therapist with the Canadian Counselling and Psychotherapy Association.

There is no question that Canada is desperately seeking internationally trained nurses (ITN) to work in Canada. All provinces are facing a severe shortage of registered nurses and they are working to remove obstacles for nurses trained abroad.

The College of Registered Nurses of Manitoba announced in November 2022 that they would accept applications from those who do not have landed status in the country. This opened opportunities for nurses currently inside the country on temporary immigration status, visitors, students, and overseas foreign workers to start the process of obtaining the necessary license to work as a registered nurse inside the province. The provinces are currently offering cash incentives up to $10,000 to induce nonpracticing registered nurses back to the workplace.

British Columbia recently announced that it is removing some of the barriers for internationally trained nurses to register with the province. BC is no longer requiring application fees and providing new financial support to nurses returning to practice after an absence. The province will now cover application costs and assessment fees, which can cost more than $3,500 as well as up to $4,000 per applicant to cover assessments and travel costs for returning nurses.

“Supporting nurses is key to our work to making health care accessible to all British Columbians. Still, the demand for nurses is outpacing the supply,” said Premier David Eby. “There are talented and skilled nurses with the right experience who want to