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John Strickland, the new mayor of Pinehurst, shares his vision of the future.

20 Picture Perfect

Tips and insights for finding the right wedding photographer.

26 Smooth Ride

There are a plethora of options for wedding transporation. Make sure you find the right ride.

30 Weddings

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44 Vocal Support

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48 Trending Traditions

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54 Honeymoons

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80 On the Green

58 Pick of the Pines

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ne byproduct of creating a Wedding Issue each year is that we get unique insight into the hopes and dreams of today’s brides and grooms. While much has stayed the same for generations, there are a few modern-day tweaks that can make our most recent nuptial celebrations shine.

One such alternative to the traditional wedding is the destination wedding, which is touched on in a bit more detail within these pages. If we had to do it again, both my wife, Heather, and I would have strongly considered a destination wedding over our traditional affair. Don’t get me wrong, the antique car, Scottish bagpiper and awkward first dance were all part of a wonderful day with family and friends, but there is something about a peaceful, simple ceremony on the beach or in the mountains that seems just about right.

This destination idea got me thinking about the actual destinations and how it may add something unique to your wedding to incorporate the locale’s traditions. For instance, in the Sichuan Province of China, 30 days before the wedding, the future bride spends one hour each day crying. After the first 10 days, she’s joined in the crying by her mother. And for the last 10 days, her grandmother takes part. Tears of joy, I’m sure.

If you’re thinking a castle in Scotland would be the perfect place for your special occasion, you may want to participate in the Blackening of the Bride. This fine tradition has the bride and groom covered with any nasty substance the wedding party can find.

Rotten eggs and fish, curdled milk, dirt, old vegetables are all game. The happy soon-to-be couple are then paraded through town as well-wishers yell at them. Originally, the idea was to ward off evil spirits so their marriage will be happy and fruitful, but now it seems like a little revenge for putting up with the bride and groom leading up to the wedding.

Fathers of the bride can use the Kenyan Massai people’s tradition of giving away their daughter. Rather than walking your daughter down the aisle, you can simple spit on her head and breasts to bless her before she walks away with her husband. And while walking away, the daughter does not look back for fear of turning into stone.

The Greeks, on the other hand, only pretend to spit on the bride and groom to help keep away evil spirits. And pretending to spit three times will give the best of luck. The Greeks also have a tradition where the bride writes the names of all her single friends on the bottom of her foot, believing at the end of the night, the names that have been rubbed off are next in line to wed.

Then there’s the French, who, after the reception, as the new couple are sent to bed, the bridal party cleans up, dumping all the leftover food and drink into a chamber pot.

The bridal party then barges into the couple’s room and makes the couple drink from the chamber pot. The idea behind La Soupe is to give the couple “fuel to have sex.” Ah, the French. Today, the tradition carries on but the bridal party is kind enough to fill a new and unused chamber pot with chocolate and champagne.

In another part of China, the groom will shoot the bride with several tipless arrows (we hope!) and then will break the arrows to ensure everlasting love. In Russia, the bride and groom each take a bite out of a sweetbread called karavay. Whoever takes the largest bite is considered the head of the household.

Just maybe adopting one of these rituals with international flavor will start a new tradition for your family. A bit of advice for fathers of the bride, though—think twice before spitting on anyone.

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On Dec. 2, John C. Strickland was sworn in as the new mayor of Pinehurst.

Elected in November with 63 percent of the votes, Strickland’s passion for our small town under the pines goes back generations. Pinehurst Living sat down with the mayor just a few days before he took his oath of office.

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By GREG GIRARD

You say you’re a “third-generation resident of Pinehurst” but where did you grow up?

I grew up in Michigan. The third generation references my grandparents coming here in the 1920s and ’30s. My grandparents were members of the Detroit Golf Club and the pro at the Detroit Golf Club was Alex Ross, Donald Ross’s brother, and Alex Ross did a pretty good job of encouraging Michigan folks to try the new Pinehurst.

So my grandparents started coming here in those days as a vacation place. They eventually owned a home here starting in the early ’40s just before World War II, but didn’t live here until the ’50s. I was 5 years old when I first came with my parents. My parents retired here in 1970, and my children and I have been visiting here since, so I’m the third generation.

Any memories of Pinehurst when you visited growing up?

The earliest memories I have were being at my grandparents’ house and going up to the hotel to play Bingo. In those years, when the Tufts owned the resort, the hotel was a big social gathering place for visitors as well as for residents. It was usually on Saturday nights that we would go up to the hotel, and it’s where I learned how to play Bingo. It was 50 cents or a dollar a card, and so I enjoyed that. When I got older and I attended college at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, I would visit my grandparents quite a bit here and then I would go play Bingo by myself. I also remember going out to the Dunes Club. You may not even know about the Dunes Club …. … We did a story on the Dunes Club, so I am familiar with it. Some good parties there.

So my grandmother’s birthday was March 31, and

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in my college years, I would come down to her birthday party, which was always at the Dunes Club with a group of friends. I never knew that if you went to the right inside the door you went to the gambling room. If you went to the left you went to the dining room where there was a comedian or music.

And then, of course, being on the golf courses with my grandfather and my dad and uncles. We moved here in 2005 when I retired and I’d certainly visited Pinehurst in those years leading up to that and had come to know

No. 2, as it was in the ’90s and 2000s. I had forgotten what it was in ’50s, ’60s and ’70s, but when Pinehurst No. 2 was completed by Coore and Crenshaw, and I went out to play it for the first time, I said, “This is the way I remember the holes to have been.”

So before moving to Pinehurst permanently, where were you during your career?

After earning an MBA from George Washington University after my degree from UNC and being in the Army a couple of years, I started to work in Chicago in corporate banking and corporate finance.

I was responsible for a group of about 35 multinational companies that were headquartered in the Midwest that did business with Barclays Bank around the world, including in the U.S. Then we moved to New York and I did similar things in New York City with them for many years. But the last seven years of my career I was with JPMorgan Chase working in the New York and New Jersey markets, principally with small and midsized companies.

What prompted you to get involved in politics when you came down here?

I had a history here and a flavor of things, I just got interested in it. What drove my involvement here was getting to know other people who were involved in village government—former mayors Ginsey Fallon and Steve Smith, in particular. I felt I had something to add because I did know a lot about the area, I had a feeling for what Pinehurst was and all of our different neighborhoods.

The first thing I was involved in was the Neighborhood Advisory Committee, which then-Mayor George Lane started. It was his idea to have representatives from different neighborhoods across Pinehurst advise the mayor and the Village Council on issues in their neighborhoods.

So that got me involved in what’s going on around town.

Then I joined the Historic Preservation Commission through the Village Council’s nomination. I was on that for several years, then I was part of the 2010 Long-range Planning Commission, and then I ran for office in 2011 and had the council term for four years.

How have those experiences prepared you for being the mayor?

I think that kind of experience has allowed me to understand how village government operates, not only at the Village Hall level but throughout our neighborhoods as well. During my campaign, I talked a lot about the quality of our neighborhoods and the variety of our neighborhoods, whether they’re gated communities or open communities that have been there for 100 years or 20 years.

So the experience when I was on the Council and now being back on the Council as mayor really helped me

understand issues, what problems exist and how we can solve them.

Growth of our area is of course a big topic on people’s minds. There’s good and bad with growth, right? What are your thoughts on growth? How do we manage the popularity of our little village?

We need to coordinate and find ways to cooperate with our sister communities around us. There will be some differences of opinion on what kind of commercial, residential and other development each community may wish, but we do need to recognize the fact that there’s a lot of strain on the infrastructure of southern Moore County right now. I define that very broadly to include not just county roads and village roads but the police department, fire department, EMS, water, sewer, all that—how that’s going to be affected in the area.

Now, growth is a good thing if it’s well-planned and well-managed and if municipalities understand what their infrastructure will support. We need to really think about how much growth can we support at the current level and what does it mean if we have to increase our infrastructure expenditures.

Then we need to ask, Is this what citizens want? What’s it going to cost in the long term? We can always look at what it costs to build a new sewer line or add a fire truck or add staffing to our police but what’s the cost over time of that? And how do we support that? Are people looking to the long term and what the cost will be of projects and growth so we don’t outrun ourselves.

So that’s the challenge in today’s political environment, right? It’s difficult to take an honest look to the future.

This came up pretty clearly in the current campaign— people feeling the impact of growth. Not just the physical impact but potentially the financial impact. How much my taxes need to go up and do we need this facility or that facility and how are we going to manage that?

Or are there ways that we can share with our communities around us to provide all the services our citizens want but maybe have the burden not always be on one town or another town. Maybe there are some things we can do to share as we go forward. That’s a little bit theoretical but I think it’s in people’s minds that they want to have Village Councils think through those issues and come up with reasonable and well-explained and welldocumented answers to the questions of growth and the cost of growth over time.

Staying on growth, what are you looking at first?

Well, of course, the village has approved a new longrange plan and the new council will be responsible to evaluate that plan and then identify what parts will get implemented.

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MR. MAY R What I hear from residents as I talked to them over the last few years is that they want to retain the rural nature of our surrounding area, including in our extraterritorial jurisdiction (ETJ). We already have zoning in place but most people don’t want to see that become denser. The current zoning should apply and in fact, the long-range plan pretty much has adopted that concept. So using the zoning that we already have for most if not all the parcels across the village is where people’s mindsets are and so that is what the Village Council needs to assure is met.

John Strickland, with wife, Cynthia, being sworn in as mayor.

Part of the long-range plan identified the top 10 strategic opportunities. Broadly speaking, how do you prioritize those?

I think the categories that were approved match up very well with the things that I have been talking about for some time, especially in this campaign. Among those are encouraging our local business community and taking advantage of our National Historic Landmark status and our historic legacy from Donald Ross and Frederick Law Olmsted.

But a part of all that gets back to the ETJ and our rural surroundings and the longleaf pine ecosystem that we haven’t heard a lot about but is on the minds of a lot of folks. What’s going to happen to our water supply, our rivers, the longleaf pines? People want to see that protected and so that means we have to be very careful about how we grow, where we grow and what sort of new construction happens.

You mention the National Historic Landmark status. What value is that to the village if it’s never marketed and many residents don’t even know it exists?

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resort sought this national landmark status, they didn’t just come down and give it to us. We sought this status over several years of time and a lot of hard work. It was finally approved in 1996, but the applications were submitted in ’93 or ’94.

So when you say what is the value of it? Yes, it’s hard to put your finger on that, but on the other hand, we’ve never tried to take advantage of it. So I think it’s something that just hasn’t been used as well as it could.

We’re held to a high standard by the National Historic Landmark status and I think that’s a good thing. It keeps us thinking about how will this change affect the overall look of the village and the overall reaction of residents and visitors.

The village has made some changes over time that maybe we should have asked permission or gotten the park service involved in but didn’t. But I also think the Department of Interior needs to understand we are a living community and there are very few national landmark properties in the department’s system that are like Pinehurst. In fact, there’s only one other that I’m aware of. So we need to find ways to have the park service understand there are going to be changes we have to make for safety and security and improvements.

What I’d like to try to do as mayor and with the Village Council is to find ways to market that concept a little more and educate people who come here about what it is.

In terms of traffic, you had mentioned during your campaign there are smaller, more reasonable fixes that could occur in a quicker timetable. What are some specifics?

Because the big projects have been put aside for now, like the restructuring of Highways 1 and 15/501 through Aberdeen and Southern Pines and some of the improvements to Highway 5, I think there are some left turn lanes, right turn lanes and controlled intersections that could be adjusted that would do a lot to smooth traffic on some of our busier roads.

The intersection of Highway 5 and Morganton Road, for instance. You’ve got a traffic light crossing and also a crossing for golf carts. If you’re headed south on Highway 5 and you come to Morganton Road and you want to turn left, there’s a very short left turn lane, which backs up everybody else.

Two things can happen to help that; one has already happened and the other we’ll have to work on. The one thing that has already happened is extending the left turn signal for a certain number of seconds where we now get 10 or 12 cars going through as opposed to the five or six we used to get.

The other idea is to expand the left turn lane a little bit to the north to let more cars queue up, relieving the back up in the right lane. So things like left and right turn lanes

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MR. MAY R and/or signals would be a way to improve traffic flow and not have a large expenditure that might not be able to get funded by the state right now.

On the campaign trail, you talked a lot about the essence of Pinehurst. What do you mean by that?

Our architectural heritage is one. The variety and quality of our neighborhoods is another. A third is the strong financial position of village government with a low tax rate but with a high delivery of services.

Another is our business community, and by that I’m really talking about the small, independent retailers as much as I’m talking about the hospital or the resort.

I remember when we had a whole variety of different, independent retailers in the core village of Pinehurst, as well as in the other retail areas that we have around us. I would like to try to find ways to expand those opportunities for quality retailers to be here—independent retailers. It’s a combination of what landlords need, who’s got the business experience, what the product is. If we could resolve that I think it would be very helpful to the village. We need to find ways to deliver products and services for some of the day-to-day or week-to-week needs of our existing residents, not solely for our guests and hotel visitors who come through town.

So I’d like to find ways to encourage and make it known the Village of Pinehurst is a place to do business, as well as for people to shop.

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So how do we encourage that independent retailer philosophy?

There is an ordinance that specifically indicates if the first floor space vacated was retail space it has to become retail in its new life, whatever period of time that takes.

And if a financial institution or a professional office is vacated and not filled, after 60 days it then reverts to retail space.

Now, for a variety of reasons, that may not have been as well enforced or implemented under village policy, but I think, to the degree we can have more space available for quality retail shops, then we’ll be able to help draw the quality retailer here. The landlords are an important part of the equation but, of course, if you’re a landlord you want to maximize your profitability, so I’d like to find a way to try to make it work for the retailer, as well as the professional businesses.

Are you happy with the course that we're taking with green ways and accommodating golf carts, walkways and bike paths? Or can there be more that can be done?

I think there’s more that can be done. We have a greenway plan that is only several miles completed, of at least twice that many miles that were initially planned.

We haven’t expanded the greenway trail so much in the last few years as village resources have been put to some improvements of other things, like our sidewalks. But it’s occurred to me that, given the population growth and therefore the traffic growth as we’ve talked about, the connectivity among neighborhoods becomes ever more important.

As we look to the future and work on ways to reduce vehicle traffic, cars and trucks, maybe there’s a way to affect traffic problems by allowing golf carts or other connections, like bicycle lanes, from certain areas into the village or out of the village or among the neighborhoods.

So I would like to think about that.

At the end of your term, what would you like the village to look like?

I would like to see the traffic flowing better on Highway 5. I would like to think that people in all of our neighborhoods feel that there’s still a very high quality of service being delivered to them in public services, but that the quality of life in their neighborhood is there and even improved. And I would like to think that we’ve done something to make sure we’re maintaining the ETJ and ecological and rural nature of the areas around us. And I would like to think that the residents of Pinehurst feel that the cultural offerings that we have and the opportunities have been maintained and increased from what we do today—and we certainly have the space and the ability to do that. PL

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capturing the big day

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of the most exciting moments of your entire life, and now that you have a ring, the planning process starts. There is so much to do: the venue, the date, the dress, the photographer. Asking the right questions will help you find the perfect person to capture your big day. Here are a few tips to finding the perfect photographer as well as the right questions to ask before making a decision.

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Venue Experience Find out if your photographer is familiar with your venue. By no means is it bad if they say they aren’t. If they have shot at your venue, then they may have prints, canvases or even a wedding album they can show you of photos taken there. This will give you an idea of the style of photos you will have.

Second Shooters Ask the photographer if they shoot with a second shooter. And if they have a team of shooters, will you be one of the shooters at my wedding? I have spoken with photographers who may have a team of seven to 10 photographers contracted under one main person. If you are expecting the main photographer, be sure to ask. I make sure my clients know that I will be there with one of two second shooters I work with and trust.

Low Lighting Experience There are many locations that have low lighting. I have shot in dark cathedrals, barns with minimal windows, basements, etc.

It is important to feel confident that your photographer can capture the images you love, even if the lighting isn’t optimal. Find out if their camera works well in low lighting.

If not, there may be lots of grain or noise in your images. I have learned to love the light I can bring to create the light and airy, the beautiful and back lit, and to capture all of the moments using off-camera flash. When light isn’t there, we bring the light!

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Hours and Packages If you want any particular shots, be sure to ask. Have a shot list well in advance of the wedding day. It does not have to be an all-encompassing list, just be sure to make a list of the special shots and family pictures that you need. But also trust your photographer and the creativity they will bring to the photos.

Also, ask your photographer if they have any recommendations on what is the typical amount of hours covered. I have captured the full day to include 3 hours of dancing and other times. We’ve also done a faux exit so more people can participate in the sendoff (then go back and dance the night away). Make sure you know how many images are included in your package. Throughout the course of a day, a photographer could take more than 2,000 images (plus the images from the second shooter).

Your photographer will sort through, edit and deliver the best images. It’s important to find out how many you should expect to receive once edited.

I average at least 100 high-quality images per hour of photography.

If there are more that I edit, I will deliver those as well.

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Final Product Ask when you will receive your final images and in what format.

Depending on the photographer, this can take anywhere between two to eight weeks. They will usually tell you a range depending on the season of your wedding and the number of weddings they have. When you hire your wedding photographer, they should explain the process for image delivery. Are they high-resolution images or web-sized? (Please make sure they are high resolution.) If it is an online gallery, can others view it as well? Do you have to order prints through them or do you have print rights? I keep all of my galleries on a host call Pass Plus. They guarantee storage for up to 10 years. Also consider your own cloud storage and download the images shortly after getting the link just in case.

Emergency Back Up Plans Having a back-up plan is oh so important. So ask your photographer if they have one.

Experienced photographers will have a plan. I have a group of photographers I trust in the event of an emergency. So for peace of mind, it’s a good question to ask.

References Get in touch with other couples who have used this photographer to make sure they were happy with their photos, the photographer on the day and the photographer’s staff.

Our website has a review section on their profile page where you can read feedback and quotes from couples.

Deposits and Due Dates Find out the payment terms and how much you require to pay to book them. Wedding photographers can be booked up to two years in advance, so ensure you get your photographer booked as soon as you can.

Remember that anyone you choose for your wedding day should be able to answer your questions and you should feel good about their answers. You should feel confident in their work, comfortable with them personally and trust they will capture one of the biggest days of your life. If you love their work and feel comfortable with them, then book them!

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After more than a century of historic moments, Pinehurst is the perfect choice for your dream wedding. You and your guests can relax and experience everything from the Groom’s Golf Outing to the Bride’s Spa Day to the Rehearsal Dinner to the big event in one unforgettable location. Let our expert caterers, florists, designers and planners handle every painstaking detail of your destination wedding – so you can enjoy every second of it.

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Get Me to the h C urch on iT me Emiline thaxton, Director of weddings & events, kirk Tours & Limousine

“You’re going to the chapel, and you’re going to get married,” but wait, how are Mom or your bridesmaids getting there? Or your fiancé, for that matter? And just as importantly, how are your guests getting to the ceremony, reception and then safely home? Unless you have a personal fleet of cars, it’s time to work out some wedding transportation logistics.

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It’s a good idea to ask your guests whether they will need or be interested in transportation; you can do so on your invitation or your wedding website. Just like booking a block of rooms at a hotel, you can often request a discount for your guests to use the same transportation company for services other than to and from the wedding, like airport shuttles and taxis. Prepare a sample timeline of the events and when you will need transportation and for whom. Keep in mind that not all transportation companies are the same—some may provide logistical support and managers on-site, while others may require you to provide a timeline, map, directions, etc.

In most markets, it is a good idea to book your transportation at the same time as your ceremony and reception venues. And be aware of seasonal demands: In our market, wedding season is from March to October, so plan to book well in advance.

WHO NEEDS TRANSPORTATION Start with the most important: The bride and groom, the wedding party, immediate family and grandparents. Consider providing transportation for all of your guests if the following apply: • The travel time between the hotels, ceremony and reception is more than 20 minutes. In our area, 2–5 miles could mean a 10–15 minute drive.

This especially matters when you are considering large or specialty vehicles, as drive time will increase.

• Your location is in a smaller city or is a “destination wedding.” In the Sandhills, we have seen that private transportation or rental cars are your best options for your out-of-town guests, as there are not enough reliable or abundant ride-share options.

• Your venue is hard to reach or hard to find and requires a detailed map or directions.

• Your ceremony and reception are in different locations or the venue doesn’t have adequate parking nearby.

In these instances, providing transportation for your guests is key to them having a great experience.

HOW TO MAKE IT ALL HAPPEN The Ceremony: Traditionally, the bride rides with parents to the ceremony. To stay on budget, try using the same car reserved for the getaway. This same tactic can be employed with the bridesmaids and groomsmen by using the same vehicle arriving at different times. For guests, one shuttle may seem ideal, however not everyone will be ready at the same time.

Multiple shuttles, therefore, might be a better option than a single departure time.

The Getaway: After the ceremony is a perfect opportunity for the new couple to take a few minutes for themselves, ride around the block and have a photo op with a special vehicle. Use this time for your “Grand Exit” so all of your guests can be present for great daytime photos.

The Reception: Transportation needs to begin as soon as the first guest needs to leave, whether those guests are parents with young children or your great-grandmother.

Have shuttle service available for guests an hour after dinner.

The After-Party: A rising trend that shouldn’t be left out of your transportation plans is the after-party—and after the afterparty. The bride and groom, wedding party and select guests may want to continue the celebrations through the night, so it’s best to be prepared with transportation once everyone does call it a night.

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FUN AND FANCIFUL TRANSPORTATION Some unique options we have provided and seen over the years include: • Antique car: Check for working A/C or heat and make sure to take into account the size of the wedding dress.

• Horse-drawn carriage: Location is key, as these run about 5 minutes per mile.

• Stretch limo or a town car: A classic option for just a few people.

• Party bus or stretch SUV: For your bigger wedding parties and larger-than-life personalities.

• Bus or mini-bus: Practical for getting from A to B in style but won’t break the bank.

• Trolley: Made for short distances, smooth roads and cooler days; our personal favorite for our sweet little town.

• Golf cart: Requires the right location; we might be biased, but this is perfect year-round.

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River Pines Venue The best views in Moore County

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BROOKE & JASON

The Couple: Brooke & Jason Proskovec Wedding Day Location: The Wallace Florals: Fallon’s Flowers Photographer: Mollie Tobias Photography Makeup: Danielle Meza Delventhal Hair: Danielle Meza Delventhal Caterer: BH43 BBQ Sauces & Smoke Cake: Lowe’s Food DJ: Jonathan Brooks Dress: Oak City Bridal Men’s Suits: JoS. A. Bank

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ALEXANDRA & GILL

The Couple: Alexandra De La Cruz & Gill Cacho Wedding Location: 305 Trackside Day of Wedding Coordinator: Wedding Day Rescue Photographer: Pinehurst Photography Florals Johnson Florist DJ: SpaceAge Cake & Caterer: Kaid Ghanayem Gown: Southern Alternative

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SARAH & JAMIE

The Couple: Sarah & Jamie Thomas Wedding Day Location: Rubicon Farm Wedding Planner and Florals: Kim Thomas, Kim’s Creative Hair Photographer: Jennifer B. Photography Makeup: Lisa Chan, Bamboo Salon Caterer: Lynn Wittig, City BBQ Cake: Kristy Hansen, Cake NC DJ: Micheal French, Complete Weddings and Events Dress: New York Bride & Groom of Raleigh Men’s Suits: JoS. A. Bank

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COURTNEY & EZEQUIEL

The Couple: Courtney & Ezequiel Garcia Wedding Day Location: Southern Pines Chapel Reception Location: 305 Trackside Wedding Planner: Meredith Ward, Ward Productions Photographer: Mollie Tobias Photography Florals: Carol Dowd, Botanicals Hair & Makeup: Jaime McGill, Studio Elite Caterer: Valenti's Italian Restaurant Cake: Dulce Antojo DJ: Jonathan Ward, Ward Productions Dress: David's Bridal Men's Suits: Men’s Warehouse

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MAGGIE & JOHN

The Couple: Maggie & John Miller Wedding Day Location: Painted Pony Vineyards Photographer: Jennifer B. Photography Videographer: Perry, Davis Video Productions Officiant: Robert Curry Thomas Florals: Ben Brock Hair & Makeup: Retro Studio Bar Caterer: Kinlaw's BBQ Cake: Karen Williams, Cakes By Karen DJ: Jamie Oxendine Dress: Morilee Transportation: Mikes Reserve Limo

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SARAH & KENNY

The Couple: Sarah & Kenny Hancock Wedding Day Location: The Scituate House,Village of Pinehurst Wedding Planner: Ward Productions Photographer: Pinehurst Photography Florals: Margaret Smith, Maggie’s Farm Floral & Events Makeup: Brittani Baca Hair: Lauren Williams Caterer: Mission BBQ Cake: Costco Dress: Allure Bridal Men’s Suits: Men’s Warehouse

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MARIA & MEAGAN

The Couple: Maria Lalic & Meagan Peters Wedding Day Location: Congregational Church of Pinehurst Photographer: Pinehurst Photography Florals: Maggie’s Farm Floral & Events Hair: Famous Hair Caterer: Philippines Best Cake: The Bakehouse DJ: Mack Sanford Dress: David’s Bridal

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ELYSE & JACOB

The Couple: Elyse & Jacob Guillaudeu

DJ: Jonathan Ward, Ward Productions

Getting Ready Location: The Jefferson Inn

Caterer: Orlando Jinzo, The Leadmine

Wedding Location: Sunrise Theater

Desserts: C Cups Cupcakery & Duck Donuts

Reception Location: 305 Trackside

Videographer: Ed Ricker, Sandhills Videography

Day of Wedding Coordinator: AnnMarie Canna

Gown: New York Bride & Groom of Raleigh

Photographer: Jennifer B. Photography

Bridesmaids Dresses: Birdy Grey

Florals: Leslie Habets, Jack Hadden Floral & Events

Men’s Suits: Men’s Warehouse

Hair & Makeup: Retro Studio Bar

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WEDDING DIRECTORY Accommodations Hampton Inn & Suites Homewood Suites The Magnolia Inn Springhill Suites Attire Harley’s Tuxedos and Gifts Lucy’s Bridal and Formal Knickers Beer, Wine and Spirits Bacco Selections Southern Pines Brewing Company Starrlight Mead Triangle Wine Co. Cakes

Duck Donuts The Bakehouse C. Cups Cupcakery

Catering and Dining Elliott’s Catering Co. Filly & Colt’s The Market Place Restaurant Rocky Top Catering Two Brothers Catering White Rabbit Catering

Cruise and Honeymoon Be Our Guest Travel Company

Health and Beauty Blue Water Plastic Surgery Pinehurst Surgical Clinic Plastic Surgery Center Jewelry Framer’s Cottage Gemma Gallery Hawkins & Hawkins Jewels of Pinehurst The Jewelsmithe Paul Harkness Jewelry Design Photographers/Videographers Brandie Ballard Photography Eden Holt Photography Jennifer B. Photography Joe Payne Photography Lisa Whitemore Photography Oh Snap Photo Booth Photography by Collette Pinehurst Photography ProFish Media Stay Focused Media Mollie Tobias Photography Rentals Indigo Earth Creative Richmond Rentals Ward Productions Stationery The Desktop Diva

Dance Instruction Carolina DanceWorks

Transportation Kirk Tours & Limousines

Entertainment/DJ All Events DJs Eryn Fuson Music Sandhills Strings

Venues 305 Trackside Camp Monroe The Fair Barn Forest Creek Golf Club Given Book Shop King Fisher Society & Events Mid Pines Inn & Golf Club Painted Pony Vineyards Pinehurst Resort and Country Club Rubicon Farm Village of Pinehurst Arboretum The Wallace Wedding & Event Venue Weymouth Center

Wedding Planners Daybreak Ceremonies Vision Events Wedding and Event Planninig Wedding Day Rescue

Florists Botanicals Hollyfield Design Hillside Florist Jack Hadden Florals and Events Johnson Floral Maggie’s Farm Floral & Events Second Act Floral & Events

Hair and Makeup The Village Fox Karma Beauty Spa Lounge Sapphire Hair Studio

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In Vino, Veritas

A local, international wine

By Sassy Pellizzari

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hen Massimo Piccin purchased the land on Giglio Island in Tuscany, he was so in love with it that he slept outside under the stars in the vineyards the first few nights. Piccin—who is not unlike many other winemakers— produces first and foremost because of his passion for wine. Lucky for him, his great passion is matched with impeccable talent.

Piccin, originally an engineer from the Venice region, had a dream when he visited Tuscany’s Bolgheri region in 1999 and purchased 20 acres of land.

He worked with Italy’s top enologist, Carlo Ferrini, and planted cabernet sauvignon, cabernet franc, merlot and petit verdot.

Today he has nearly 100 acres of land and his wines, under the label Podere Sapaio, have been included in the Wine Spectator’s Top 100 Wines in

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the World multiple times.

You may recognize his labels with the hand-drawn purple or red crown, which is the logo of Podere Sapaio. This crown pays homage to the nobility of the wine and the territory. It is also rather ironic because the Bolgheri region has many noble families, but Piccin is not part of any of them.

Piccin’s wine has the highest standard of quality, so much so that he only produces a very small quantity, much less than he could. He chooses a certain amount of his grapes—only those ripened to his standard of perfection—and the remainder he sells to other farmers.

When we starting bringing Podere Sapaio wines to North Carolina, we were pleased that it was so greatly received—it is a wine that was literally liked by everyone. But we recognized the need to import a more “everyday”

Bolgheri. So we asked Piccin if he would begin producing a wine, similar to his others but at a lower price point, just for our company, Bacco Selections, using the grapes that he would usually sell to other farmers. We were delighted when he agreed. “Pappolo” was born.

He designed the label to represent the Tuscan land: there are four bees, placed in a compass design (north, south, east and west), and he used the colors of the Podere Sapaio crowns, which also represent the colors of wine: purple and red. The name Pappolo, like Volpolo and Sapaio, are names of ancient indigenous grapes that are now extinct.

As with everything Piccin does, he produces Pappolo with the same quality and care as he does for its two big brother Bolgheri wines, Volpolo and Sapaio. He jokes that it is so good that it is starting to compete with his other wines. We are currently producing 5,000 bottles of it a year, and it sells out quickly.

This wine can only be sold through Bacco Selections in Pinehurst, so it is truly a special collaboration, and we are proud to consider it an internationally local wine. Piccin has been several times to Pinehurst and will be visiting again in March 2020 for local wine events.

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Surprise your guests with a special favor from The Purple Thistle. Choose from gifts like artisanal honey, hand-poured candles or small-batch sriracha sauces in the perfect favor size that your friends and family will use and remember long after your special day. From packaging and label design to delivery to your reception venue, we can help create the perfect wedding favor from start to finish.

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Sassy Pellizzari lived in Italy for more than 13 years, where she developed a passion and knowledge of Italian wines.

She and her husband, Paolo, are the owners of Bacco Selections, a Pinehurst-based company specializing in fine wine importing and distributing.

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A WellPrepared Toast Matthew Mastalski, Triangle Wine Company

At a celebration, great toasts can be heartfelt, witty, humorous and occasionally embarrassing. Whichever direction they turn, they are always memorable. Over the years, as I have witnessed friends and family tie the knot, the inevitable toast has become my favorite wedding tradition. It is a unique opportunity to learn how the bride and groom’s closest friends and loved ones see them and how they perceive the love they share for one another.

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Although the extemporaneous toast can be the most enlightening or funny of the bunch, as a party guest you should always be toastprepared. Whether you are a member of the wedding party, a friend, a distant relative or the random wedding crasher, you may be the one who has to come to the rescue and make a toast, or—surprise!—you may be volunteered.

If you like to live on the edge and speak from the heart, great! Or for those of you who are planners, I applaud your diligence and preparation. Whichever you are, here are some suggestions for great toasting beverages that skip Champagne all together and leave a lasting impression.

FOR THE PLANNERS • Rondeau Bugey-Cerdon Sparkling Rose: Bugey is known for making a number of sparkling wines from grape varieties other than those used in Champagne. The wine is bottled partway through fermentation and is allowed to finish at its own pace. For this reason, the residual sugars can vary but are always balanced by striking acidity and a persistent effervescence. Each sip of this wine reminds me of berries and cream and is a delight to toast with.

• Ruby Port: A toast is all you need. With a high percentage of alcohol and ripe, rich red fruit flavors, this fortified wine is ideal for a quick knock-back when toasting loved ones.

Additionally, it is a wine that shares the spirit behind a toast—it withstands the test of time.

FOR THE EXTEMPORANEOUS • Mezcal tequila: Because, well, why not? The smoky, earthy flavors and aromas of mezcal will stand out at any wedding and make the toast memorable. A fraction of the cost of a smoky Scotch and with a high alcohol content, a little will go a long way.

• Sho Chiku Bai Shirakabegura Kimoto Junmai: Sake is a crowd-pleaser. A high-quality sake is delightful and exhibits light, fruity, floral aromas and ends with a smooth, clean finish.

This spirit is more akin to beer than it is to wine or a distilled spirit but packs a pleasant punch and is highly quaffable.

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Bailey Grinde, Wedding Catering Sales Manager at Pinehurst Resort e start of 2020 is the start of a new decade and even newer ew dding trends! Here are some of the most ebuz d-about details ew see making a big impact on the new year.

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ALTERNATIVE DESSERTS

Why limit yourself to just cake? So many couples are opting for additional sweets to accompany their cake, including mini dessert bars, donuts galore, fresh pies, macaroon and croquembouche towers—the list goes on and on. Or perhaps try a new spin on the traditional buttercream cake: a crepe cake, made entirely out of fluffy, French crepes, with your choice of filling.

FUN FOR ALL

Now more than ever, couples are focusing on the guest experience. According to The Knot, the word “fun” is the No. 1 descriptor brides are striving for in their wedding day. Although photo booths are still a solid staple, couples are upping the ante for their guests from the time of arrival to exit. Whether it’s a thoughtful welcome bag awaiting them at their hotel, a live painter during the ceremony to capture the moment, beloved pet-inspired signature drinks passed around during cocktail hour or giant printed faces of the bride and groom to dance the night away with, there are more options than ever to grab and keep your guests’ attention. Even simple polaroid cameras with hand-crafted backdrops can be a nostalgic and cost-friendly way to encourage some extra shenanigans for your guests.

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SEEING DOUBLE

We are not referring to your vision after all those signature cocktails, we are talking about double-sided head tables! As the average age for marriage increases, so does the percentage of bridal party members that are already married or even have children. Bridal couples want to sit with their besties still, but don’t want to alienate their friends from their significant others.

In comes the double-sided head table: You’re still able to sit among your other guest tables to be more in the action and less aloof, with the added bonus of being able to hold twice as many people as a traditional single-sided table. This allows all your bridal party, their spouses and even the immediate family to sit with the bride and groom on their big day. Not to mention the sight of the long greenery trailing along the center of your big, beautiful table.

THE AMERICAN DREAM

Destination weddings have always been in. But now you can have the destination weekend you have always dreamed of without the necessity of a passport. Many couples are opting for a destination wedding while staying on American soil, featuring their big day in funfilled places like Charleston, Asheville, New Orleans, Atlanta or Pinehurst. Start the weekend off right with a welcome party for all of your out-of-town guests and finish it off with a farewell breakfast after the wedding day. Couples are able to spend more quality time with their guests and really soak up every precious moment.

LATE NIGHT BITES

Late night snacks are becoming more popular than ever, often served in the last hour of your reception. As you and your guests drink the night away, everyone needs something to soak up those extra libations and cure any munchies. Couples are continuing their customization down to the items served for the late night snack. Perhaps the groom’s greatest love is mac and cheese, so fried lobster mac and cheese croquettes are passed around. Or the bride and groom are both sports fans from rivalry cities, so they have a Detroit vs. Chicago dog station to show off the family pride. Or to bring a little of the South home, how about chicken biscuit sliders with hot honey as a grab-and-go treat before you hit the door? What a way to finish the night!

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Drum & Quill Cocktails + Kitchen

Arnold Palmer & Bob Drum 1960

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idden among the golf courses and tall pines of Old Town Pinehurst is a storied authentic American tavern - Drum & Quill. “Drum” represents famous golf writer Bob Drum and the “Quill” pen was what he used to immortalize Arnold Palmer as they founded Golf ’s Professional Grand Slam.

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ith one of the area’s largest spirits collections paired with casual dining favorites, the authentic pub atmosphere is a cozy place to settle down with friends to enjoy a classic cocktail or a bite to eat.

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f you like your casual dining served with something shaken, stirred or on tap head to Drum & Quill.

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Honeymoons

By Krissy Yoder, owner, be our guest travel company

Planning a wedding can be stressful, but honeymoon planning? Now, that’s fun!

Whether you want to relax, be adventurous or both, your travel adviser will work with you and make recommendations so you start your “happily ever after” with a honeymoon that you’ll always remember!

OVERWATER BUNGALOW RESORTS

In your own bungalow, you can enjoy pristine water views, outdoor showers, glass bottom floors and your own ladder with direct ocean access. There are options in the South Pacific as well as the Caribbean—so your overwater bungalow might not be as far away as you think! We are big fans of the over-the-water bungalows at Sandals Southcoast, and our brides and grooms continuously give us rave reviews of their honeymoons here.

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SAIL INTO THE SUNSET

With all the work that went into wedding planning, you’ll be relieved to see how relaxing cruising can be! Whether you’re dreaming about relaxing on a quiet beach, exploring a city you’ve always wanted to see, or enjoying spa treatments and delicious food onboard, a cruise can be the perfect honeymoon vacation. Many honeymoon couples like to splurge and sail Suite Class with Royal Caribbean or you can consider a smaller ship that’s ultra-luxurious, like Silversea.

NOTHING SAYS HONEYMOON LIKE YOUR OWN PRIVATE PLUNGE POOL

If it’s privacy you seek, your very own suite with your own pool will make your honeymoon one to remember! You can go straight from your bed to the pool—no swimsuit required! Our personal favorite plunge pool is at Sandals Grenada: the in-room sky-high infinity-edge pool will definitely give you the wow you’re looking for! Don’t quite have the budget for your own private plunge pool?

How about a tranquility soaking tub for two right on your balcony or patio?

THE MOST MAGICAL PLACE ON EARTH

The most popular domestic honeymoon destination is … you guessed it, Walt Disney World Resort in Florida. Beyond the Mickey ears, you have delicious dining, fantastic entertainment and, of course, fireworks! If Disney’s not your style, many couples love to visit The Wizarding World of Harry Potter at Universal Orlando Resort and enjoy a more adult atmosphere, beautiful resorts, as well as thrilling roller coasters!

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YOUR OWN CASTLE TO CALL HOME

Many brides have dreamed of spending their honeymoon in a castle, and there are many options throughout Europe that offer incredible scenery and elegantly decorated accommodations. Is your soon-tobe a Game of Thrones fan? You can even stay in one of the castles filmed in the series and live out a Games of Thrones fantasy. Castle Leslie Estate near Dublin is one locale that is perfect for a destination wedding or honeymoon.

A WHOLE WEEK OF MEMORABLE MOMENTS!

Instead of one special day to celebrate your marriage, how about a whole week? Destination weddings are truly the hottest trend for brides and grooms today, with one in four couples choosing this option for their nuptials. Surprisingly, the average cost of a destination wedding is less than the cost of a traditional wedding ceremony and reception. We suggest the couple take a two-night “test drive” to check out a resort and meet in person with the wedding coordinator. From there, your travel adviser will work to make sure your destination wedding is exactly what you dream it will be. Also, many resorts, like Sandals and Beaches will include a free wedding and reception with a three-night or longer stay.

Still unsure about where to honeymoon or do you need to work with a specific budget or timeframe? Make sure to enlist the help of a travel adviser who can work with you and take all the stress out of vacation planning. They’ll take care of every detail for you, and they’re always just a phone call away.

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Life Under Pines

Unwanted Wedding Advice ... from your village elder

By Sundi McLaughlin

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s the town elder (selfproclaimed!), I feel it is my duty to share/force my opinions on weddings, marital philosophy and etiquette during our wondrous Annual Wedding Issue!

Some of what I am about to say may sting a bit. You might disagree (you’d be wrong, obviously), but listen, dear children, I have been around a wedding or two in my time—including my own—and it has taught me the value of being humble, loving and tolerant. It has also taught me how to manage my occasional blind fury, how to deal with drunken guests and finally how to swing a mean right hook. I doubt we’ll have time for those last two.

First of all, brides, please stop calling it “Your Day.” Your mom and dad have been thinking about “Your Day” and walking you down the aisle

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since the moment they brought you into this world. Your parents may even have a hand in paying for the cost of “Your Day,” so be mindful and respectful of your tired ol’ folks—Lord knows you owe them after the hell you put them through during your high school years. Not to mention the groom’s parents. They get the shaft every wedding as their opinions are at best politely considered and, at worst, ignored completely. They are only asked to serve a nice prime rib and a toast at the rehearsal dinner.

Some practical advice: Make a list of the photos you want taken. Your photographer isn’t a mind reader and at the day of the event you are going to be so frazzled you won’t know what to do … So bring a list with you.

Beware! Are there any folks in your wedding party who are at odds with

one another: exes, spiteful cousins, bratty ring bearer? Honey, if the priest can’t help them by the time the wedding rolls around you’ve got two choices—keep them separated, heavily medicated … or both.

Make sure you both eat. There is nothing worse than a sloppy bride.

You’ve gone to all the trouble to buy a pretty dress, get your hair, nails and makeup done … don’t disgrace Grandma by tripping on the dance floor and going down like a shot buffalo. One time I attended a wedding where the bride got so drunk she belligerently insisted on doing a keg stand. The groomsman were even gentlemanly enough to hold her dress up around her ankles once she launched herself up and onto the keg … Clutch my pearls!

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Stay present. You have done all you can to make the event just right, now enjoy. Give your parents a hug, thank them for all they have done and sacrificed for you Kelli Wofford, VMD Erin Barney, DVM throughout the years. Tell your grandparents you love them. Dance with your spouse without worrying how silly you look. Be grateful, be humble and smile.

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Now, onto more of a delicate matter. For those of you that have done this or would like to do this, I know you have given this a lot of thought and I am sure you have your reasons, but can we please be done with destination weddings? Is it not enough that your guests have gone to your registry and bought you a lawnmower, soup tureen, a George Foreman Grill and maybe a nice envelope of cash.

They probably even bought a new dress or tie, taken time off of work and used a vacation day to happily attend your nuptials with love in their heart and a skip in their step.

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The Garden

Hellebores

BY DOLORES MULLER

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hat gardener doesn’t want a plant that blooms in the depths of winter. I certainly do, and if you’re like me, I would suggest planting hellebores.

Known by several names: hellebores, Lenten Rose (H. orientalis) or Christmas Rose (H. niger), these evergreen plants flower through the winter and into spring and are hearty in Zones 4 through 9. The bloom time describes the plant: Lenten rose blooms around the Christian celebration of Lent. The Christmas rose blooms at Christmastime.

Legend says it sprouted in the snow from the tears of a young girl who had no gift to give the Christ child in Bethlehem.

Hellebores illuminate the shady garden with charming, unique blooms. They prefer a rich, highly organic soil that is moist but welldrained. They are fantastic planted with hostas and ferns. They thrive in half shade to full shade, grow about 12–18 inches tall and wide, and they come in many colors: white, green, pink, apricot, yellow, black and purple.

One isn’t limited, however, to this rainbow of solid colors. Hellebores can also have beautiful picotee edges of a different color than the rest of the flower or veining to adorn the outside of the bloom. Inside, they can have spotting or a dark center that draws your eye into the flower. The varied offerings extend to the shape of the flowers as well. In addition to single, double and star-shaped flowers, hellebores can have an anemoneflowered form, which looks like something between a single and a double.

The plants are toxic to deer, rabbits and other animals. Research suggests that plants can be toxic to humans, too, if ingested, but no modern incidents of poisoning has been documented. As a rule, it’s probably not a good idea to randomly eat plants anyway.

I am looking out my window and enjoying my blooming hellebores as I write this article. Since hellebores are in bloom, this month is a great time to select the plant so you can choose the flower configuration and color you like the best. PL

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A Look Back

By Ray

Owen

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OLD At the foot of

Mount Helicon

THE REGION OF MOORE COUNTY, 1747 TO 1847, COURTESY OF UNC LIBRARIES

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LD BETHESDA PRESBYTERIAN is among our most notable historic places, located on N.C. Highway 5 in Aberdeen. Metal arches span the roadway announcing entrance to the site, its roots reaching back to the Scottish immigrants who began populating the section in the mid-1700s.

Prominent members of the early community were Highland Scots, who established their first colony in the Sandhills in 1739. The most celebrated group sailed to the Americas aboard a ship called the Thistle, arriving to what is now Wilmington, North Carolina, at the mouth of the Cape Fear River after a three and a half month voyage. Most of these passengers came from Argyll in southwest Scotland.

When they reached the Sandhills, they found a land quite alien to them. Gaelic writings of the period often refer to America as the “land of the never-ending forest.” Not only was the landscape different, at times the colonists who settled before them—English, Germans and others—were similarly foreign and unwelcoming. The Scots were further set apart by the fact that the vast majority remained loyal to the British government during the Revolution.

The Highlanders ultimately comprised one-third of the population and the district became known as the “Valley of the Scots.”

Clan-conscious, they clustered together, forming the strongest cultural presence due to their ties of kinship, custom and Gaelic language. By late 18th century, thousands of acres had been granted to them, centering on a ridge above Old Bethesda that the settlers called Mount Helicon.

Mount Helicon, known today as Paint Hill, was the highest geological point in all the Sandhills. It was named for the mountain in Greek mythology that was sacred to the Muses, the inspirational goddesses of literature, science and the arts. According to legend, there was a spring on the mountain created when the winged horse Pegasus struck his hoof on a rock with such force that water sprang forth.

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Four main roads of the budding colony skirted Helicon Mountain. The Yadkin Road from Fayetteville to the northwest crossed the upper end of the ridge at the gap at Manly and Morganton Road, two miles west, topped the summit at Weymouth Heights. The Yadkin Road, on the north side of the ridge, crossed over to the head of Little River, and the Morganton road, on the south of the ridge, continued to the fords of Drowning Creek.

At the foot of Mount Helicon, worshipers established a “brush arbor meeting,” an outdoor sanctuary at place called the “solemn grove of pines” near the headwaters of Rockfish Creek. The congregation eventually moved south to build a church at a site they named Bethesda, derived from a Hebrew word with two meanings: “house of mercy” and “shame.” This dual meaning may have been thought appropriate, since the location was seen as a place of healing by divine intervention.

Around 1788, they constructed a log meetinghouse, followed in 1832 by a more substantial sanctuary where the old church stands today. The current sanctuary was built in 1860, surviving as their central edifice, a rectangular clapboard structure resting on massive hewn timbers,

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underpinned by tall stone piers. Above the main entrance a bell tower rises in quick determination, capped off with an upward-thrusting arrow. Tall thin windows light the building through wavy squares of glass—the interior with a simple pulpit reared up in front the rows of long heart pine pews. Five doors open into the sanctuary with a proper entry for ladies at the rear left side and a corresponding door on the right side for gentleman, men and women being segregated on opposite sides of the hall during services. Near the building front of each flank, a doors open to stairs leading up to a gallery above, men and women separated—above as below.

There were three main pillars in their way of life: religion, education and subsistence. Church records reveal the trials and tribulations of the congregation, Bethesda being not only a religious body, but also a center for civic life. There were trials for fighting, profane swearing, drunkenness and adultery, with some women tried for slander or for being overly contentious. Among the worst things that could happen would be banishment from the fold. One can grasp what the church meant to the hardy settlers with the understanding that such means could control them.

According to some accounts, Reverend Colin Lindsay served as Bethesda’s first pastor and tradition relays the remarkable circumstances of his birth. His mother had become very ill, lapsed into a coma and was pronounced dead. The night after her funeral service, grave robbers exhumed her coffin to steal her wedding ring, but she sat up in her coffin, frightening the robbers away.

Returning home in her grave cloths, her husband rejoiced and nursed her back to health. Reverend Lindsay was apparently born a few years later.

Surrounding the church, hundreds of graves are scattered across the distance with an evergrowing crop of polished stones marking the new arrivals. Behind the sanctuary is the earliest part of the graveyard, located on the slight ridge just west of the road. A walk deeper into uneven rows leads to the site of the original log chapel at Bethesda.

Among the gathering of stained and broken monuments are a few made of aging cypress. Many of the stones are weathered but others are inscribed in fine thin letters with names of Aberdeen’s founding Presbyterians. Carvings of birds and flowers or religious symbols adorn a number of rough markers, and some bear remnants of poignant verse.

Traveling the uneven mossy field, the mix of leaning slabs seem animated in back-and-forth or sideto-side movement, as the sinking stones of pioneers yield their outposts. With few exceptions, everyone in the old lot was buried facing the rising sun; since the colonists believed at the end of time they would rise from their graves to greet Jesus, who would come from the east to meet them.

Today, Old Bethesda continues to serve its members for special meetings, including an annual Homecoming Service on the last Sunday in September. Always on such occasions, the community is welcome to gather with the congregation among the cedars—transported for a moment to the bagpipes and plaids of those resting at the foot of Mount Helicon. PL

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Books

Digging Deeper

By Robert Gable

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hat is the best way to approach people we’ve never met? And how do we judge their intentions?

Sometimes we can trust a stranger, other times we instinctively distrust them. This is a problem humanity has faced ever since we ventured away from our respective home villages. Malcolm Gladwell has thought through the many ways modern humans have tried to deal with other groups of humans. Talking to Strangers is his exploration of how quickly we can botch things with other people, and how we can do better.

Gladwell got the idea for this book after the Sandra Bland case. Bland was arrested and jailed for a minor traffic infraction and she killed herself in her cell three days later.

Gladwell decided to analyze how the interaction between the police officer and Bland got derailed so quickly. It then led him to examine other high-profile incidents where one person sorely misjudged another.

As in his previous books, Gladwell zeroes in on a single case history, then makes his point while explaining its subtle nuances. Along with the Sandra Bland incident, he examines Fidel Castro placing moles inside the CIA; how Neville Chamberlain was hoodwinked by Hitler; the way Bernie Madoff schemed people out of their life savings; the sexual assault cases of Jerry Sandusky, Brock Turner and Larry Nassar; Amanda Knox’s murder trial in Italy; and the interrogation of terrorist Khalid Sheikh Mohammed, Al Qaeda operative of 9/11.

Gladwell explains what happened, what most people think happened, and then what his own exploring reveals about the cause of what happened. He writes, “In all of these cases, the parties involved relied on a set of strategies to translate one another’s words and intentions. And in each case, something went very wrong …. I want to understand these strategies—analyze them, critique them, figure out where they came from, find out how to fix them.” You might not always agree with his assessment. But the case he assembles is always reasoned, meticulous in its approach and thought-provoking.

He also uncovers unexpected layers to each case history.

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Talking to Strangers

By Malcolm Gladwell 386 pages, Little, Brown and Company / $30.00

inept but that Castro got away with it because of basic human nature. When talking to another person, we tend to assume the other person is telling us the truth—we “default to truth.”

The main operative at the CIA dealing with Cuba was a woman who everyone admired and thought they knew. In a few instances her actions seemed shady, but the other agents dismissed their doubts because she seemed so trustworthy.

Only when enough doubts and suspicions piled up over the years did the other agents say wait a minute, she’s lying.

We also tend to think talking face to face will give us a better understanding of someone, like a judge looking the defendant in the eye to determine if the truth is being told.

Gladwell argues that we tend to make just as many mistakes about a stranger’s intentions whether or not we look them in the eye. “If I can convince you of one thing in this book, let it be this: Strangers are not easy.”

We default to truth because society couldn’t function if we were paranoid all the time. The only person who saw through Bernie Madoff from the start was Harry Markopolos, who is somewhat paranoid. Instead of defaulting to truth, his default position is that everyone is out to cheat and steal.

He had Madoff’s scheme figured out years before anyone else suspected what was happening. But he felt he couldn’t give his findings to anyone because his paranoid worldview kept him from calling the Manhattan district attorney. Why? He was sure the DA was in on the scheme, too.

Gladwell has a knack for being intriguing and illuminating at the same time. He shows how it’s worthwhile to look at a historical event for a second time and find something hidden in the initial assessment of the event.

Gladwell shines when he offers a new assessment and offers it in such a way that you think, “That’s something I didn’t see the first time around.” PL Robert Gable worked in book publishing for 18 years before going into the golf industry. He lived and worked in Pinehurst for five years and still misses it. He currently lives in Queens and works as an assistant golf pro at Metropolis Country Club in White Plains, New York.

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On the Buckle

Winter Riding

By Whitney Weston

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rowing up in Oregon, the most traditional winter experience I had was a dusting of snow and tons of rain. Riding outdoors was not an option as the clay becomes slippery and unsafe even at the walk! Being an eventer, with most of our riding outdoors, galloping through the countryside, I found winter to be a sad season.

Fast forward a decade or two: I moved to Southern Pines and discovered the beauty of winter riding in the Sandhills.

No more slipping and sliding due to the sandy footing, and still hardly a snowfall to stop us! The huge network of trails and paths protected and maintained by the WalthourMoss Foundation and the Weymouth Woods ensured I had miles and miles of good footing to ride and train on, just by walking off the farm! I had never seen this type of extensive trail system. Where I’m from, if you wanted to ride off your property, you had to trailer up and drive away. We are so lucky to have these winter conditioning options to prepare for an early southern competition season.

These new winter riding experiences have been fantastic over the past five years, but I did need to learn some do’s and don’ts of outdoor winter riding. Here are a few things I’ve learned: When accessing public trails, riders need to be wary of obstacles they may encounter. Riding in an enclosed arena is safer and much more predictable than out in the open. On the hack to the trails, riders will need to navigate busy roadways, objects that may spook the horse as you hack past other

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horse farms and houses, carriage-driving and buggies, and potentially the Moore County Hunt.

I once had a horse that was scared of HVAC units. Often we would be passing by a farm and the AC or heat would kick on and the horse would exit stage left. Even horses spook other horses! The rider must be prepared and ready. Make sure all your equipment is secure and your girth is tightened before leaving the farm, and stay alert! I advise my riders to have a neck strap they can grab onto if the horse spooks. A neck strap is basically a leather belt that fits loosely around the horses neck like a necklace. Horses are beautiful and majestic creatures. But when ancient instincts kick in, well, they turn into 1,500-pound toddlers. There is nothing a human can do to prevent it other than being prepared.

Many different horse sports share the trials on the foundation. Be ready to come across driving carriages, which are scary if your horse has not seen one. I recommend befriending one of our lovely local drivers and ask to spend some time around the carriage at a later date in order to acclimate your horse to the buggy. Once your horse is calmly able to understand the situation, it’s rarely an issue in the future.

From Thanksgiving to spring, the Moore County Hounds are out on the Foundation on Tuesdays, Thursdays and Saturdays. This large group of horses and hounds can disturb a horse that is not used to the sight. If you encounter them on the trails, stay out of the way! Hunt horses are on the job

and most likely not able to stop from a full gallop in time to avoid a collision.

Riding out on other days of the week will help you avoid an incident.

For equipment, wear reflective or bright colored clothing. I like to have a runner’s reflective bib in the tackroom to throw on over my jacket before venturing out. Automobile drivers will be able to see you more easily.

Although it may be cold, do not wear a scarf. If a scarf becomes untucked, it can easily whip through the air and startle your own horse, or get caught on branches passing by. Instead, wear a balaclava or infinity scarf to protect the face and neck. By not having loose ends on your clothing, you will be much safer. And ride with cell phones for emergencies or if you get lost. The trails are very extensive and all trees look the same to a newbie! Make sure your phone is in an easily accessible pocket or cellphone boot holder.

Lastly, just a brief note for auto drivers when they encounter a horse on the road: Slow down and give the horse plenty of room when passing. If you have the music blaring, turn it down (even if your windows are closed, horses can hear the bass and become startled). And please never drive fast past horses or honk (even in a friendly way). When horses are startled, there is no telling how fast or in what direction they will bolt. Horses have been known to, unfortunately, bolt into oncoming traffic.

We have a rich history with equines in the sandhills. They have always been a large part of the community.

With respectful sharing of roads and understanding from all parties, we will have a rich and beautiful equestrian community for years to come. PL

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Perseverance

by Helen Ross

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little over a year ago, Brendon Todd found himself meeting with his financial manager to discuss the pros and cons of opening a pizza franchise.

His golf game had gone south as he battled the ballstriking yips for the second time in his career, and he’d lost his PGA Tour card for the third straight season. So, as much as he hated to admit it, maybe it was time for a change.

Turns out, though, Todd and his agent never got past the talking stage. And in a comeback story worthy of one of those “Rocky” movies that he loves to watch, Todd enters 2020 ranked No. 1 in the FedExCup after picking up consecutive victories in November.

The first came at the inaugural Bermuda Championship, where he birdied nine of his first 10 holes on Sunday to shoot 62 and win by four. The second was a one-stroke nail-biter at the Mayakoba Golf Classic that lifted him to the top of the FedExCup standings.

And Todd, who had regained his playing privileges through the Korn Ferry Tour Finals, actually was poised to make it three in a row at the RSM Classic in November.

He took a two-stroke lead into the final round there but a 72 on Sunday stopped his string of rounds in the 60s at 12 and he settled for fourth.

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Suddenly, in the span of a month, Todd’s goals for the rest of the year changed dramatically. He went from looking for job security—he’s now fully exempt through the end of the 2023 season—to having a legitimate chance to win the FedExCup’s $15 million bonus.

Webb Simpson, who grew up in Raleigh and competed against Todd regularly after he moved from Pittsburgh to Cary at the age of 11, couldn’t be happier for his long-time friend. The two—who teamed to win the 2001 N.C. FourBall Championship and did battle each December in the Donald Ross Junior at Pinehurst—played in the final group together on Sunday at Sea Island, too.

“I think besides the Player of the Year, I mean, his story could be the biggest story of the year just, you know, where he was, to come back,” Simpson said. “Even this year he started out, missed his first few cuts and he goes and wins and then he wins again.

“I think that just proves what kind of guts he has inside of him to not give up or throw in the towel. I was really happy for him, because I’ve struggled. I think it’s fair to say everybody’s struggled, but mine was for a long period of time and his was, too. So, it’s remarkable what he’s done.”

Todd remembers distinctly when those struggles began, too. He was playing with Jason Day and Daniel

Berger in the final group of the third round 2015 BMW Championship when his 4-iron on the fourth hole strayed 50 yards right of the green and into some bushes. He went on to make a triple-bogey 7.

“And then the shot kind of kept reappearing throughout the fall schedule there,” Todd recalled. “... I mean, I lost golf balls, I was hitting in hazards and hitting it right. A lot of it was mental, some of it was the fact that I changed my swing and I basically battled that scary yip right feeling all of ’16.

“And even if I had a tournament where I didn’t hit it, I was so scared of hitting it I would hit it to the left and I would chip and putt my way to 72 and I missed a thousand cuts.”

Actually, it only seemed like 1,000. But Todd did miss the cut in 33 of his next 39 starts leading up to that heart-to-heart in the fall of 2018 about the pizza business. He had fallen to No. 2,043 in the world during that stretch of futility and once went 828 days without breaking 70 on the PGA Tour or Korn Ferry Tour.

In late 2018, though, Todd went to see Bradley Hughes, a former Tour pro turned teacher. The Australian, who played in the 1994 Presidents Cup, gave him some drills that Todd did in his basement during a six-week break from the game. He said the work with Hughes “freed” him up.

Todd also started working on the mental part of his game with Ward Jarvis, a former caddie turned performance coach. Among other things, Jarvis, who has overcome stuttering, encouraged Todd to read The Phenomenon: Pressure, the Yips and the Pitch that Changed My Life by former St. Louis Cardinals pitcher Rick Ankiel.

“He basically just fell off the map with pitching, had to reinvent himself as an outfielder,” Todd said. “It was a book about the yips. I read it. It kind of helped. And then I just continued to work with Ward and Brad on my game.”

The three certainly have proven to be a formidable team.

“It was just a matter of figuring it out,” Todd said simply. “Sometimes the game just throws challenges at you and you’ve just got to work your way through it.”

Now that he has, no telling where Todd can go. PL

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CALENDAR OF EVENTS Dates and times subject to change. Check directly with event organizers before making plans.

1.1.2020 First Day Hike - Boyd Tract Weymouth Center | 555 E Connecticut Ave. | So. Pines Cost: FREE | 9 a.m.

Contact: 910.692.2167, ncparks.gov

1.5.2020 The Gibson Brothers Aberdeen Annual Poplar Knight Spot | 114 Knight St. | Aberdeen Cost: $35 - $40 | 12:46 p.m. & 6:46 p.m Contact: 910.944.7502, theroosterswife.org

1.1.2020 First Day Hike - Weymouth Tract Weymouth Woods | 1024 N Fort Bragg Road | So. Pines Cost: FREE | 1 p.m.

Contact: 910.692.2167, ncparks.gov

1.6.2020 Take Your Oil Painting to the Next Level ART Works Vass | 129 Main St. | Vass Cost: $79 | 9 a.m. - 4 p.m.

Contact: 910.245.4129, info@artworksvass.com, artworksvass.com

1.1.2020 First Day Hike - Paint Hill Weymouth Woods | Stoneyfield Drive | So. Pines Cost: FREE | 3 p.m.

Contact: 910.692.2167, ncparks.gov 1.1.-9.2020 Little Women Sunrise Theater | 250 NW Broad Street | So. Pines Cost: $8 | see website for times Contact: 910.692.8501, sunrisetheater.com 1.2.2020 Story Time Given Memorial Library | 150 Cherokee Road | Pinehurst Cost: FREE | 10:30 a.m.

Contact: 910.295.6022, giventufts.org 1.3-31.2020 Art Exhibit: Small Treasures Campbell House Galleries | 482 E Connecticut Ave. | So. Pines Cost: FREE | see website for times Contact: 910.692.2787 | mooreart.org 1.4.2020 Given Kids Saturday - The Hobbit & Winnie the Pooh Given Memorial Library | 150 Cherokee Road | Pinehurst Cost: FREE | 10 a.m. - 12 p.m.

Contact: 910.295.6022, giventufts.org 1.5.2019 Amazing Adaptations Weymouth Woods | 1024 N Fort Bragg Road | So. Pines Cost: FREE | 3 p.m.

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1.6.2020 Set Your Intentions - Handmade Journal Making ART Works Vass | 129 Main St. | Vass Cost: $39 | 6 - 9 p.m.

Contact: 910.245.4129, info@artworksvass.com, artworksvass.com 1.7.2020 Stained Glass Crescent Moon & Star ART Works Vass | 129 Main St. | Vass Cost: $39 | 5:30 - 8:30 p.m.

Contact: 910.245.4129, info@artworksvass.com, artworksvass.com 1.8.2020 Babies, Songs and Read-A-longs Given Memorial Library | 150 Cherokee Road | Pinehurst Cost: FREE | 9:45 - 10:15 a.m.

Contact: 910.295.6022, giventufts.org 1.9.2020 Story Time Given Memorial Library | 150 Cherokee Road | Pinehurst Cost: FREE | 10:30 a.m.

Contact: 910.295.6022, giventufts.org 1.9.2020 Snow Scene Landscape - Decorative Painting ART Works Vass | 129 Main St. | Vass Cost: $39 | 1 - 4 p.m.

Contact: 910.245.4129, info@artworksvass.com, artworksvass.com 1.9.2020 Gathering at Given - Celebrating Scottish Poets Given Memorial Library | 150 Cherokee Road | Pinehurst Cost: FREE | 3:30 p.m.

Contact: 910.295.6022, giventufts.org

1.10.2020 Mini Masters - Van Gogh ART Works Vass | 129 Main St. | Vass Cost: $15 | 10:30 - 11:30 a.m.

Contact: 910.245.4129, info@artworksvass.com, artworksvass.com 1.11.2020 Paint Pouring Kids Class ART Works Vass | 129 Main St. | Vass Cost: $19 | 9 - 11 a.m.

Contact: 910.245.4129, info@artworksvass.com, artworksvass.com 1.11.2020 Make Your Own Glass Paperweight STARworks | 100 Russell Drive | Star Cost: $65 | 10 a.m. - 3 p.m.

Contact: 910.428.9001, starworksnc.org 1.11.2020 MET Opera in Cinema: Wozzeck Sunrise Theater | 250 NW Broad St. | So. Pines Cost: $27 | 1 p.m.

Contact: 910.692.8501, sunrisetheater.com 1.11.2019 Paint Pouring Adults Class ART Works Vass | 129 Main St. | Vass Cost: $29 - $39 | 4 - 6 p.m.

Contact: 910.245.4129, info@artworksvass.com, artworksvass.com 1.12.2019 Backyard Birding Weymouth Woods | 1024 N Fort Bragg Road | So. Pines Cost: FREE | 3 p.m.

Contact: 910.692.2167, ncparks.gov 1.12.2020 The Kennedys in Concert Poplar Knight Spot | 114 Knight St. | Aberdeen Cost: $20 - $25 | 6:46 p.m. - 9 p.m.

Contact: 910.944.7502, theroosterswife.org 1.13.2020 Travel Series - Explore Your World “Baby It’s Cold Outside” Given Memorial Library | 150 Cherokee Road | Pinehurst Cost: FREE | 6 p.m.

Contact: 910.295.6022, giventufts.org

1.13.2020 Wood Burning for Beginners STARworks | 100 Russell Drive | Star Cost: $50 | 6 - 8 p.m.

Contact: 910.428.9001, starworksnc.org 1.14.2020 Stained Glass Star ART Works Vass | 129 Main St. | Vass Cost: $39 |5:30 - 8:30 p.m.

Contact: 910.245.4129, info@artworksvass.com, artworksvass.com 1.16.2020 Story Time Given Memorial Library | 150 Cherokee Road | Pinehurst Cost: FREE | 10:30 a.m.

Contact: 910.295.6022, giventufts.org 1.16.2020 Be the One to Stand Against Human Trafficking Sunrise Theater | 250 NW Broad St. | So. Pines Cost: FREE | 4 p.m.

Contact: 910.947.3333, friendtofriend.me 1.17.2020 An Evening with Chris Smither Poplar Knight Spot | 114 Knight St. | Aberdeen Cost: $30 - $35 | 6:46 p.m. - 9 p.m.

Contact: 910.944.7502, theroosterswife.org 1.18-20.2020 Jingle Jangly - Precious Metal Clay Bracelet ART Works Vass | 129 Main St. | Vass Cost: $499 | Sat. & Sun 9 a.m. - 4 p.m. | Mon. 9 - 1 p.m.

Contact: 910.245.4129, info@artworksvass.com, artworksvass.com 1.18-19.2020 Les Miserables Sunrise Theater | 250 NW Broad St. | So. Pines Cost: $15 | 3 p.m.

Contact: 910.692.8501, sunrisetheater.com 1.18.2020 Carolina Philharmonic: The Silver Screen Owens Auditorium | 3395 Airport Road | So. Pines Cost: $30+ | 7:30 - 9:30 p.m.

Contact: 910.687.0287, carolinaphil.org

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1.19.2019 Fire in the Toolbox Weymouth Woods | 1024 N Fort Bragg Road | So. Pines Cost: FREE | 3 p.m.

Contact: 910.692.2167, ncparks.gov

1.23.2020 Les Miserables Sunrise Theater | 250 NW Broad St. | So. Pines Cost: $15 | 10 a.m.

Contact: 910.692.8501, sunrisetheater.com

1.19.2020 Tire Fire, Stoll Vaughn opens Poplar Knight Spot | 114 Knight St. | Aberdeen Cost: $20 - $25 | 6:46 p.m. - 9 p.m.

Contact: 910.944.7502, theroosterswife.org

1.23.2020 Story Time Given Memorial Library | 150 Cherokee Road | Pinehurst Cost: FREE | 10:30 a.m.

Contact: 910.295.6022, giventufts.org

1.20.2020 Hand Built Pottery Trays & Bowls ART Works Vass | 129 Main St. | Vass Cost: $39 - $69 | 9:30 a.m. - 12:30 p.m.

Contact: 910.245.4129, info@artworksvass.com, artworksvass.com

1.24.2019 Walk Like the Wildlife (For Wee Ones) Weymouth Woods | 1024 N Fort Bragg Road | So. Pines Cost: FREE | 10 a.m.

Contact: 910.692.2167, ncparks.gov

1.21.2020 Pruning Workshop Ball Visitors Center | 3395 Airport Road | Pinehurst Cost: FREE (reservations required) | 12 p.m.

Contact: 310.692.3882, landscapegardening@sandhills. edu 1.21.2020 Hand Built Pottery Trays & Bowls ART Works Vass | 129 Main St. | Vass Cost: $39 - $69 | 5:30 - 8:30 p.m.

Contact: 910.245.4129, info@artworksvass.com, artworksvass.com 1.21.2020 Wine Tasting - From Bubbles to Bold Reds Given Memorial Library | 150 Cherokee Road | Pinehurst Cost: FREE | 6 - 8 p.m.

Contact: 910.295.6022, giventufts.org 1.22.2020 Babies, Songs and Read-A-longs Given Memorial Library | 150 Cherokee Road | Pinehurst Cost: FREE | 9:45 - 10:15 a.m.

Contact: 910.295.6022, giventufts.org 1.22.2020 Let’s Paint “Cheeky Pig” ART Works Vass | 129 Main St. | Vass Cost: $29 | 2 - 4 p.m. & 6 - 8 p.m.

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1.25.2019 Wildlings: Winter Wing Watching Weymouth Woods | 1024 N Fort Bragg Road | So. Pines Cost: FREE | 10 a.m.

Contact: 910.692.2167, ncparks.gov 1.25.2020 Make Your Own Glass Mini Bowl STARworks | 100 Russell Drive | Star Cost: $75 | 10 a.m. - 3 p.m.

Contact: 910.428.9001, starworksnc.org 1.26.2020 Bolshoi Ballet in Cinemas: Le Corsaire Sunrise Theater | 250 NW Broad St. | So. Pines Cost: $12 - 25 | 1 p.m.

Contact: 910.692.8501, sunrisetheater.com 1.26.2019 Hike for Your Health Weymouth Woods | 1024 N Fort Bragg Road | So. Pines Cost: FREE | 3 p.m.

Contact: 910.692.2167, ncparks.gov 1.26.2020 Cliff Eberhardt with special guest Louise Mosrie Poplar Knight Spot | 114 Knight St. | Aberdeen Cost: $20 - $25 | 6:46 p.m. - 9 p.m.

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1.27.2020 Advanced Wood Burning STARworks | 100 Russell Drive | Star Cost: $50 | 6 - 8 p.m.

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2.1.2020 The Kruger Brothers in Concert Poplar Knight Spot | 114 Knight St. | Aberdeen Cost: $35 - $40 | 12:46 p.m. & 6:46 p.m Contact: 910.944.7502, theroosterswife.org

1.28.2020 Stained Glass Heart ART Works Vass | 129 Main St. | Vass Cost: $39 | 5:30 - 8:30 p.m.

Contact: 910.245.4129, info@artworksvass.com, artworksvass.com

2.1.2020 MET Opera in Cinema: Porgy & Bess Sunrise Theater | 250 NW Broad St. | So. Pines Cost: $27 | 1 p.m.

Contact: 910.692.8501, sunrisetheater.com

1.29.2020 NC Archives “19th Amendment” Display Southern Pines Public Library | 170 W Connecticut Ave. | So. Pines Cost: FREE | 10 a.m. - 4:30 p.m.

Contact: lwvmc.org, lwvmcpres2@gmail.com 1.29.2020 Iron Jawed Angels Sunrise Theater | 250 NW Broad St. | So. Pines Cost: FREE (tickets required) | 2:30 - 4:30 p.m.

Contact: lwvmc.org, lwvmcpres2@gmail.com 1.29.2020 Suffragist March & Reception Sunrise Theater | 250 NW Broad St. | So. Pines Cost: FREE | 4:45 p.m.

Contact: lwvmc.org, lwvmcpres2@gmail.com 1.30.2020 Story Time Given Memorial Library | 150 Cherokee Road | Pinehurst Cost: FREE | 10:30 a.m.

Contact: 910.295.6022, giventufts.org 1.30.2020 Stacking Chickens - Decorative Painting ART Works Vass | 129 Main St. | Vass Cost: $49 | 1 - 4 p.m.

Contact: 910.245.4129, info@artworksvass.com, artworksvass.com 1.30.2020 NC Symphony: Grant Conducts Britten and Elgar Lee Auditorium | 250 Voit Gilmore Lane | So. Pines Cost: $18 - $51 | 8 - 10 p.m.

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2.2.2020 Weymouth Chamber Music Series - Lyricosa Quartet Weymouth Center | 555 E Connecticut Ave. | So. Pines Cost: $25 member/$35 nonmember | 2 - 4 p.m.

Contact: 910.692.6261, weymouthcenter.org 2.4.2020 Abstract Art - Fluid Acrylic Pouring Method Ball Visitors Center | 3395 Airport Road | Pinehurst Cost: $45 members/$50 nonmembers | 10 a.m. - 12 p.m.

Contact: 310.692.3882 2.7-28.2020 Art Exhibit: Neuvirth & Jakob Campbell House Galleries | 482 E Connecticut Ave. | So. Pines Cost: FREE | see website for times Contact: 910.692.2787 | mooreart.org 2.8.2020 Chocolate Festival Pinehurst United Methodist Church 4111 Airport Road | Pinehurst Cost: FREE | 9 a.m. - 2 p.m.

Contact: 910.215.4559, pinehurstumc.org 2.8.2020 Hot Glass Fundamentals STARworks | 100 Russell Drive | Star Cost: $200 | 10 a.m. - 4 p.m.

Contact: 910.428.9001, starworksnc.org 2.9.2020 The King & I: From the London Palladium Sunrise Theater | 250 NW Broad St. | So. Pines Cost: $15 | 4 p.m.

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2.13.2020 The King & I: From the London Palladium Sunrise Theater | 250 NW Broad St. | So. Pines Cost: $15 | 10 a.m.

Contact: 910.692.8501, sunrisetheater.com 2.15.2020 Make Your Own Glass Valentine STARworks | 100 Russell Drive | Star Cost: $70 | 10 a.m. - 3 p.m.

Contact: 910.428.9001, starworksnc.org 2.23.2020 Bolshoi Ballet in Cinemas: Swan Lake Sunrise Theater | 250 NW Broad St. | So. Pines Cost: $12 - 25 | 1 p.m.

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2.28.2020 Lunch & Learn - Beneficial Insects Ball Visitors Center | 3395 Airport Road | Pinehurst Cost: FREE (reservations required) | 12 p.m.

Contact: 310.692.3882, landscapegardening@ sandhills.edu 2.29.2020 MET Opera in Cinema: Agrippina Sunrise Theater | 250 NW Broad St. | So. Pines Cost: $27 | 1 p.m.

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Sandhills Sightings

January February 2020

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41st Annual Holly Arts & Crafts Festival Pinehurst October 19

Top, from left: Camie Marion, Tammy Stroupe, Cristin Bennett and Marianne Nugent; Julia, Christine & Hazel Cornwell. / Bottom, from left: Linda Zampa, Darlene Wilhelm and Dawn Pschak; Jessica Steger of Custom Wild Ponies; Mark & Marian Satterfield with Mike & Barbara Stefanowicz; and Kim, Tim & Gabe Grant with Bailey.

Sand & Pine Magazine’s 5th Anniversary Southern Pines October 26

Top, from left: Hannah Brittnacher, Amanda Jakl and Amanda Oden; Nate Pierce & Kat Coutier. / Bottom, from left: Greg & Heather Girard with Julia Brokmeyer and Myra Marks; Iris & Frank Voelker; Dan Briggs & Wendy Smyth; and Elena Calcett and Debbie Bowman.

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Sandhills Sightings Low Country Boil and Halloween Party Benefiting Given Memorial Library and Tufts Archives Pinehurst October 31

Top, from left: Jim & Audrey Moriarty with Giff Fisher of White Rabbit Catering; Lori Wright & Melissa Bielby. / Bottom, from left: Dave & Judy McCaffrey; Barbara & Kruno Huitzingh, Rosie & Jeff Heitz and Babette & Frank Glauner; Mary Leahy and Suzanne Faker; and Debbie & Mike Riggins.

Artist League’s 25th Annual Fall Show and Sale Aberdeen November 7

Top, from left: Bonnie Wolfe with Ron & Lucie Saylor; Barbara Brando with her painting “Love in Bloom”; Artists Deane Billings and Kathy Petz. / Bottom, from left: Alicia Strother, Kathy Leuck, Susan Lockley and Diane Ellis; Artist Betty Hendrix; and “Foggy Night in Charleston” by Dan Conrad and “Glacial Tranquility” by Carol Gradwuhl.

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Sandhills Sightings 23rd Annual Festival of Trees Benefiting Sandhills Children’s Center Pinehurst November 19–24

Top, from left: Rob & Katie Barrett with event director Teresa Copper; Carol Johnson and Carol Pierce, designers of the Fresh Market tree. / Bottom, from left: Vic Perreault, Tiffany Evans and Chuck Davis; Brian & Kate Canfield; some of the trees; and Larry & Joyce Harter.

Oh! The Places You Will Go Benefiting Companion Animal Clinic Foundation of the Sandhills Southern Pines November 22

Top, from left: Bobbie Mudge, president, Betsy Best event chairman and the Companion Animal Clinic board; Donna Verrilli and James & Lucille Buck. / Bottom, from left: Cathy Maready, Punkie Mudge, Mike Bissict and Tet Van Blissingen; Leigh & Tom Velevis; and Vernon Glenn with Jean Rae & Hugh Hinton.

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Santa Visits the Cabin Sandhills Woman’s Exchange Pinehurst November 23

Top, from left: Santa with Conner & Walker Jones; Vincent, Noah & Antonio Hernandez. / Bottom, from left: Kathleen Causey, Kathy Newcomb and Valerie Mountcastle; Kameron Kujawski & Adeline Derespino; John Luke, Amber & Jon Cole; and the Strickland family.

Garden Club of the Sandhills’ Magical Mystery Holiday Tea Pinehurst December 5

Top, from left: Marilyn Grube, Donna Verrilli, Mitch Capel and Dolores Muller; Rita DiNapoli, Victoria Adkins and Marilyn Grube. / Bottom, from left: Pat Rudovsky, Sharon Lawson, Victoria Adkins, Elaine Porzio and Pat Welch; Ellen Hamilton, Marilyn Grube, special guest storyteller & poet Mitch Capel, Char Rohr, Cav Peterson and Jan Hamilton; and Nancy Howe and Martha Vance Thornton.

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Sandhills Sightings Fabulous 40 Gala Celebrating 40 years of the Weymouth Center Southern Pines December 7

Top, from left: James Daunheimer, Jamie McDevitt with Cynthia & Steve Davis; Cindy Edger, Ry Southard and Wendy Bowen. / Bottom, from left: Entertainment during the cocktail hour; John & Kathryn Talton; and Richard & Anne Agnew with Sue Huston and Barbara Cohen.

Tea Time on the Train Benefiting the Sandhills Woman’s Exchange Pinehurst December 8

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sightings@ pinehurstlivingmagazine.com Top, from left: Tea servers: Nancy Knowlton, Beth Palmer, Faith Clayton, Kathleen Causey and Christine Scott.; Train owners Rob & Rita Menzies; Helping chef Katrina Talyor are Marie Carbrey, Barbara Summers and Anne Wright. / Bottom, from left: Diane & Jim Wiltjer; and Tony Elms, Camilla Rothwell, Jane Casnellie and Joyce Reehling.

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Last Impression

Welcome Inn photograph and caption courtesy of Moore County Historical Association

The Magnolia Inn in 1905. The inn was the largest boarding house in the early village.

It featured steam heat, electric lights, open fireplaces and running water.

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“If I could only remember that the days were, not bricks to be laid row on row, to be built into a solid house, where one might dwell in safety and peace, but only food for the fires of the heart. �

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