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Features MAY/JUNE 2o21

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40 A Look Back

The prolific architect designed many of the most iconic buildings in our area at the turn of the century.

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From the Editor

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he year was 1912, and Eugène-Édouard Monod and Alphonse Laverrière, both of Switzerland, were vying for the podium. They were competing in the Olympics, held in Stockholm that year. At the time, the Olympics was still in its infancy (the modern Olympic Games only starting 16 years prior), but the pride of nations was still very much on the line.

Events at the Games included many that you would expect: fencing, equestrian, tennis, cycling and track.

And a few that may come as a surprise, like tug of war (the host nation won that one, Great Britain got the silver), as well as the event Monod and Laverrière competed in, and went on to win without breaking a sweat. They won for “Building Plan of a Modern Stadium,” taking home the gold in the first ever architecture event at the Olympics.

Pierre de Coubertin, the father of the modern day Olympics, always intended to include the arts as part of the Games but it would take 10 years before his vision became reality. In 1906, he introduced the arts competition, which would include five categories: architecture, literature, music, painting and sculpture. Called the “Pentathlon of the Muses,” competitors, like the athletes, were intended to be amateurs.

This left turn into competitive arts as part of the Olympics isn’t without precedent. The original Olympic Games included events in music, singing and heralding (public speaking). In announcing the additional events to the Games, de Coubertin said, “In the high times of Olympia, the fine arts were combined harmoniously with the Olympic Games to create their glory. This is to become reality once again.”

Entries for the arts events were supposed to be original works inspired by sports, and the intent was for artists to submit works that had not been previously published, performed or exhibited. Monod and Laverrière’s entry was a sports complex design that included a stadium, marina, pools, tennis courts and playing fields.

At the same Olympic Games, an American, Walter Winans, won gold in the sculpturing category for his work “An American Trotter,” a bronze sculpture of horse and rider on a sulky. He was inspired by the harness racing he had watched in England. In fact, Winans is the only Olympian in history to win gold in the arts competition and in the sporting competition. He won several gold medals in shooting.

By the 1940s, the Olympic arts competition reached its popularity zenith. The events attracted thousands and many of the artists were able to sell their works from the Games. By the end of the decade, however, the spirit of the arts competition began to see cracks as it became harder to define who was an amateur artist. The 1948 Olympics was the last Games for the arts.

We highlight the life and work of Aymar Embury II in one of our features this issue. The preeminent architect of the Sandhills in the early 20th century, Embury’s designs helped define our area for more than a century. He is, in many ways, our own Olympian of architecture.

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The Architecture

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The Architecture of Aymar Embury II Story by Ray Owen Images courtesy of the Moore County Historical Association

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n the first half of the 20th century, Aymar Embury II was responsible for designing the buildings in the Sandhills that provide the backdrop for daily life while setting us apart from any other place. These structures define our towns and are enduring expressions of the architect and the age in which he lived.

From 1912–1940, Embury was involved in more than 30 projects that were conceived as a cornerstone of civic development. His work represents a conscious effort at crafting a regional style, and his impact cannot be overestimated in the creation of our resort atmosphere.

With clarity of purpose he set about designing buildings worthy of a great society. Columned porticos, arching lattice-glazed windows and thoughtful details characterize his work. The public face he created was deemed essential in light of what good architecture would build for us.

As a trend-setting New York architect, he was responsible for numerous public buildings, swimming pools and playgrounds, and hundreds of estates outside the city. Noteworthy examples of his work are the Central Park Zoo and the Triborough, Henry Hudson and BronxWhitestone bridges.

His arrival in the Sandhills was prompted by a series of catastrophic fires, the first being in 1910 when the Piney Woods Inn—the grand hotel of Southern Pines—burned to the ground in less than an hour. Another fire swept through downtown in 1921, destroying nearly the entire commercial district.

With so much hanging in the balance, Embury had an opportunity to establish a new building heritage. The community’s native style was that of a rural forest society, and he looked beyond this for more suitable precedents to facilitate the growth of our budding resorts.

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understanding of historic architecture from years of study in early Carolina towns. Informed at least in part by buildings in New Bern, Embury reached into the past to launch a consolidated reinvention, picking from history the parts that fit best.

Rather than replicate existing structures, he felt it important to use past examples as points of departure, adapted to modern needs. His buildings represent a series of compromises between practical considerations and harmonic layout.

Embury saw himself as crafting the stage on which people lived, essentially art you could walk through. Upon entering his rooms, you see him clearly aiming for the light, ever mindful of the play between shadow and illumination.

Nowhere is his skill more apparent than at Weymouth, the estate of writer James Boyd and the largest of his residential projects in Southern Pines. The design centers around a great room, the focal point being a mantel salvaged from a local antebellum home, complemented by paneled walls, fine moldings and doorways with fluted pilasters on either side.

In 1911, the Boyd family commissioned Embury to design the Highland Pines Inn, once situated on Massachusetts Avenue in Southern Pines.

The inn featured three main entrances with tall columned porches and contained 100 bedrooms and an array of public rooms, with amenities such as world-class golf, horseback riding, fox hunting and tennis.

It is hard to imagine that the social hub of Southern Pines was once located in what is now a quiet residential neighborhood. The guest book read like the society pages of The New York Times, including literary giants such as F. Scott Fitzgerald and Thomas Wolfe.

Embury was a pleasant man, aristocratic with a commanding presence.

Always in a tailored suit, smoking a

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cigarette, he was forever looking like the guy in charge. With a twinkle in his eyes, he was quick with a joke and good at making others laugh. He particularly enjoyed the married state and made the trip down the aisle four times.

Born in New York in 1880, he was no stranger to wealth and privilege.

Educated in Germany, he developed an interest in architecture during European tours, entered Princeton University at age 15 and received his master’s degree before age 21.

Following graduate studies, he taught at Princeton while working for various New York firms. Nearly starving as an apprentice, he was fired from his first job after asking for a raise. Fashionably thin, he had enough clothes left over from better days to look well dressed on his ascent up the corporate ladder.

At the time, firms operated on a studio system that was highly competitive and based on scholarly study. Classical designs were analyzed first, followed by an exploration of all styles. The atmosphere was tempered by a need to succeed financially. Embury flourished in this environment, developing the discipline that would mark his success.

Opening spread, clockwise, from top left: Loblolly home, Southern Pines; Mid Pines Golf Club, Southern Pines; Southern Pines streetscape; and the Theater Building, Pinehurst Opposite page: Aymar Embury II / Above: Southern Pines School / Below: Highland Pines Inn, Southern Pines

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The Architecture of Aymar Embury II For 12 years after college, Embury never took a single day off, including weekends. He began drawing plans of small houses that proved popular. His homes increased in size and importance, earning him a reputation as a society architect for the wealthy.

He ultimately published several books on architecture and his designs were reproduced nationwide. His study of New Bern from the White Pine Series of Architectural Monographs was an important work that informed projects in the Sandhills.

In Southern Pines, the Highland Pines Inn served as the springboard for his career. The Boyd family subdivided 500 acres east and south of the inn, forming Weymouth Heights. Embury began designing residences in the subdivision for those who wanted to use the resort facilities but have a private home.

Before his arrival, most local carpenters had never seen a blueprint. They were keen to learn and Embury taught them skills to carry out his designs. He also imported contractors for the more exacting commissions. Some of the contractors stayed on, contributing to a building renaissance.

Loblolly was a pivotal Embury design in Weymouth Heights that had a profound effect on regional taste. Built in 1918 for Mrs. A.P.L. Dull, the structure features an irregular profile with a combination of loosely connected rooms oriented horizontally, accentuated by multi-pane casement windows and adorned with brick checkerboard patterns.

At Loblolly, Embury varied surfaces to capture the appearance of a place that had evolved over time. He was most concerned with the building’s outlines and shadows, and used exterior treatments that emphasized lines of tension, almost suggesting bones under skin.

In 1925, Embury created an “ideal house” in Pinehurst, built to serve as a prototype for residential design and showcase the quality of local craftsmanship.

Trade vendors constructed the house as a cooperative venture and the model remained open throughout the 1925–1926 season.

His work was appreciated for its beauty and usefulness in increasing property values. The Southern Pines mayor suggested, not completely in jest, that the town allow no buildings except those designed or approved by the architect.

It is impossible to know what the Sandhills would have been were it not for Embury. He left an enduring mark, creating buildings that shaped us as a people. By the time of his death in 1966, he was considered one of the foremost architects in the country. Inscribed on his gravestone are the words “After me cometh a Builder. Tell him, I too have known!” PL

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In Bloom Story by Greg Girard Photos courtesy of Marissa Podszus, Kate & Gray Photography

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n the perfect symbiotic relationship between art and nature, impressionist Claude Monet’s passion for flowers was mirrored to perfection in his works. His life was a measured balance between his painting and his flowers. “I must have flowers, always, and always,” he said. His gardens at his home in Giverny, France, inspired many of his works and he once

commented, “My garden is my most beautiful masterpiece.”

There is, as Monet insightfully points out, something about flowers. It would take a hard heart not to stand in awe at the tulip farms of the Netherlands, the poppy fields of Belgium or the spring explosion of azaleas in the Sandhills.

Flowers inspire emotion, and it’s one of the reasons Sarah Mergen established the Little Way Flower Farm in Aberdeen.

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“Every day, I’m

learning more and more. There are lots of life lessons in the garden.”

“I grew up in my mom’s flower gardens,” says Sarah.

“I’m from a really small town in Wyoming—13 kids in my graduating class—so everybody in town would walk by our house to look at Mom’s flowers. I just always have had flowers in my life. When we moved to the Sandhills, I grew flowers in our backyard in Pinehurst. I was giving them away and I was quickly running out of room. So I started to think, maybe I should try this on a larger scale.”

Friends with acreage in West End offered some of their land for Sarah to experiment on and the rest, she says, was history. Last year Sarah, her husband, Ryan, recently retired from the military, and their three boys moved onto five acres in Aberdeen and Little Way Flower Farm was born.

The farm, at the moment, is not very large but certainly at a size that would have outgrown any backyard project. It’s early spring, so Sarah points out rows of tulips, daffodils, ranunculus and anemone that have bloomed or are on the cusp. Other rows lay dormant, ready for different seasons: zinnias, sunflowers, snapdragons, dahlias and more. There’s plenty of space to expand and Sarah shares they have a realistic, and patient, plan for the

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business to grow. For now, it’s about understanding the land and how the different flower varieties will respond to the climate and soil. As noted on the farm’s website, “Our emphasis on regenerative and sustainable farming practices is reflected in everything we do.”

She says: “No surprise, it’s a bit sandy here but, honestly, I would rather work with sandy soil than compacted clay. With the sandy soil, we add organic material to give it a little bit of girth so the water’s not just draining away. We grow without any chemical interference. We don't fertilize with chemicals. We have a huge pile of compost, organic eggshells and other organic material. And so we broad fork that in with some leaf mulch. And then to fertilize, we spray our plants with a fish emulsion, which is exactly what it sounds like. It smells disgusting but it’s great for the flowers—everybody on the farm hates fish emulsion day. We also use a little bit of bone meal. All organic.”

At this point in the farm’s genesis, it’s still a healthy dose of trial and error, especially on land she hasn’t had much experience working. “There are a lot of things that probably won’t work out and we just plan for that,” she

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says. “Twenty-five percent of what we try to do is probably not going to take and I just keep notes so that when I feel like I want to grow that same flower next year and I’m trying to convince myself to do it, I can check my notes that said, ‘Don’t do that! It didn’t work.’

“Every day, I’m learning more and more. There are lots of life lessons in the garden. So it's been good for us and something to do as a family, too. We wanted something that we could call ours, that the kids could grow up doing. Literally and figuratively grow something together. And truly, I think we’ll do this forever no matter if we continue at a large scale or just for ourselves.”

Last year wasn’t the most ideal time to start a flower farm business. The flower industry was particularly impacted by the pandemic as shutdowns in the northern hemisphere occurred during wedding, event and hospitality season. Globally, the cut flower industry is an $18 billion juggernaut and Europe alone saw the market lose $1 billion during the first six weeks of the 2020 shutdown. U.S. cut flowers sales fell dramatically as well.

Sarah’s not fazed, though, and she points to the power of the local community. “Flowers are a part of our life,” she says.

“Ultimately, we want to bring locally grown flowers to Moore County because the people who live here love and support local businesses. When people in Moore County want flowers, I want them to say, ‘Let’s go to Little Way Flower Farm.’ This community is incredible and it’s just–—the possibilities are really endless.”

Little Way Flower Farm sells flowers to local florists, through subscription boxes via their website (littlewayfarms. com) and you’ll often see her bouquets for sale at Against the Grain in Southern Pines.

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SundaySupper

by ROBERT NASON

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mericans have been experiencing some form of Mexican food for centuries, well before most of the Southwest was divided into states. In the early 20th century, the Mexican Revolution caused a wave of refugees to venture north, introducing a plethora of dishes from Mexico, particularly from southern Mexico, like the taco.

Tex-Mex, which introduced our palates to popular plates like burritos, fajitas, chimichangas and nachos, originated in the U.S. around the 1940s. Relying more on spices like cumin, heavier cheeses and meats, Tex-Mex is now often considered part of the Mexican restaurant experience.

Today, Mexican restaurants are as ubiquitous to our ethnic dining experience as Italian or Chinese, but the

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debate that often arises is what constitutes authentic Mexican cuisine. Can the food offered at more than 6,000 Taco Bell restaurants be considered “Mexican”? What about your local Mexican restaurant? How traditional is their menu?

Purists note: To experience truly authentic Mexican, one should find dishes that include spices like coriander and epazote, maize and wheat soft tortillas, white cheeses, and fresher, healthier ingredients. One expert on the evolution of Mexican cuisine in the U.S. suggests looking on a menu for a dish that’s only in Spanish. He says odds are it will be a more authentic Mexican dish and will be worth a try. To follow are a few authentic recipes to try at home.

Mexican Cuisine

Fresh Salsa

mexicoinmykitchen.com / Yields 3 cups

Ingredients

1¼ pounds ripe tomatoes, about 3 large tomatoes or 5 Roma tomatoes ¼ cup chopped onion, about ¼ of a medium onion 2 jalapeño peppers chopped

1 garlic clove small 1/3 cup cilantro finely chopped 2 tablespoons onion finely chopped (for garnishing) Salt to taste

Directions

Roughly chop the tomatoes, onion and peppers to get them ready for the blender.

Place the garlic, chopped tomatoes, onion and peppers into the blender. Process for about 1 minute or less until you have a salsa that still has some texture to it.

Place the salsa in a large bowl, season with salt and stir well. Garnish with the chopped cilantro and onion. You will never buy store-bought salsa again!

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SundaySupper Churros thebossykitchen.com / Serves 4–6

Ingredients ½ cup water ½ cup milk 1 tablespoon neutral oil like canola ¼ teaspoon salt 1 cup all-purpose flour

1 large egg, room temperature ¼ teaspoon grated lemon zest Additional oil for frying ½ cup sugar ¼ teaspoon ground cinnamon

Directions In a large saucepan, bring the water, milk, oil and salt to a boil. Add flour all at once and stir until a smooth ball forms. Transfer to a large bowl; let stand for 5 minutes.

Beat on medium-high speed for 1 minute or until the dough softens. Add egg and lemon zest; beat for 1–2 minutes. Set aside to cool.

In a deep cast-iron or heavy skillet, heat 1 inch of oil to 375 F. Insert a large star tip to a pastry bag; fill with dough. On a baking sheet, pipe dough into 4-inch strips.

Transfer strips to skillet and fry until golden brown on both sides. Drain on paper towels. Combine the sugar and cinnamon; sprinkle over churros. Serve warm.

Oxtail Beef Stew with Poblano Peppers mexicoinmykitchen.com / Serves 6

Ingredients TO COOK THE OXTAIL 2½ to 3 pounds beef oxtail Salt and pepper to season the meat ¼ medium-size white onion 1 bay leaf

2 garlic cloves 4 cups of water FOR THE SAUCE 2 poblano peppers

4 large plum tomatoes, about 1 pound 2 garlic cloves peeled and chopped 2 tablespoons of olive oil ½ medium-size white onion, julienned

2 serrano peppers, cut into strips.

4 tablespoons tomato paste or ½ cup tomato puree Salt and pepper, to taste ¼ cup chopped cilantro, to garnish

Directions Season the oxtail meat with salt and pepper. Place meat, onion, garlic and bay leaf in a stockpot along with the 4 cups of water. Cook the meat for 40 minutes or until tender and can be easily separated from the bone. Remove the meat from the bones.

While meat is cooking, roast the Poblano peppers by placing them directly over a medium flame. Turn them to have an even roasting, making sure you don’t burn the peppers. Remove them promptly, and place inside a plastic bag for 5 minutes. Meanwhile, roast the tomatoes.

Place the tomatoes on a hot griddle to roast, turning once on every side until it has roasted; you will know it is ready by the formation of a large brown spot. After they are roasted, remove from griddle.

Remove the charred skins from the poblano peppers by rubbing your finger against their skin (if you can’t remove all the skin, that is ok; the roasted skin

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adds more flavor to the dish). After discarding the seeds and removing the veins, cut the peppers into strips and set aside.

Chop up the roasted tomatoes and place them in a blender along with the garlic cloves and 1 cup of water. Process until you have a chunky sauce.

Heat the oil in a large skillet over a medium-high heat. Stir in the onion, sauté for one minute, and then add the serrano pepper strips. Keep cooking for one more minute. At this time, pour in the blended sauce, 1 cup of the oxtail broth and the tomato paste. Stir well and cook for 5 more minutes.

Finally, add the meat and poblano peppers, season the sauce with salt and pepper. Keep cooking for 8 more minutes in a gentle simmer. If the sauce needs more liquid, add more of the oxtail broth. To serve, garnish with the chopped cilantro.

Notes: If you don’t find serrano peppers, use 1 jalapeño pepper.

Tinga de Pollo thebossykitchen.com / Serves 4–6

Ingredients 3–4 medium size chicken breasts 4–5 tablespoons of oil 1–2 large onions, sliced 4–5 medium Roma (plum) tomatoes 1 can of Chipotle chiles in Adobo 2–3 garlic cloves

1 ½ teaspoon salt, or to taste ¼ teaspoon Mexican oregano ¼ teaspoon dried thyme ¼ teaspoon dried marjoram ¼ teaspoon black pepper

Directions

Bring a pot of salted water to a boil and add the chicken breasts to cook. Let the chicken simmer until cooked through. Make sure you skim the foam that forms on top of the water as it starts bubbling.

While the chicken is cooking, place the tomatoes in a medium saucepan, cover with water, bring to a simmer over medium-high heat and cook for 8 to 10 minutes, or until the tomatoes are soft and mushy but not falling apart.

Slice the onions thinly. Heat the oil in a large pan(skillet) and add the onion. Cook the onion until soft and translucent for about 5–6 minutes.

In a blender, throw the tomatoes, garlic, salt, pepper and 2–3 chipotle chiles from the can. Be careful with the chiles, as they can be very spicy.

Note that the original Mexican recipe calls for the entire can of Chipotle.

After blending the ingredients, taste the salsa for salt and pepper, and adjust if needed.

Pour the salsa over onions. Add oregano, marjoram, thyme and pepper. (Be careful: The sauce will steam and bubble.) Simmer the sauce, stirring occasionally, until the sauce deepens in color, becomes darker and less soupy, about 7–8 minutes.

Take the chicken out of the broth and with two forks, shred the meat. Add it to the sauce and mix well to incorporate the chicken. Let it simmer for only a minute and serve over rice or on warm tortillas.

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In Vino, Veritas

Wine Haven

By Sassy Pellizzari

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o you dream about a building a fabulous wine cellar in your house? Maybe you have a coffee table book that you ogle at … Living With Wine or The Most Beautiful Wine Cellars in the World.

Maybe you envision it as a tranquil, crypt-like sanctuary, where you can go to find peace and study your wines on your palate. Or maybe you dream of it more as a party space meets tasting room, a place to host guests with not only great wine, but a fun area with fabulous lighting; surround-sound music; a long, elegant table and prosciutto hanging from the ceiling. Or perhaps you already have your dream cellar. Or you prefer your wine in your kitchen, easier to grab when you’re cooking or your kids are fighting.

There is an aura so artistic and luxurious about a wine cellar, it is hard not to be enthralled by them. Some of my most memorable travel memories were visiting wine cellars around the world, and this was even before I cared about wine.

The infamous Antinori family created a magnificent, modern wine cellar literally carved into the side of a hill in

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San Casciano, Tuscany. Designed by a premier Florentine architectural firm, dreams became reality as huge terracotta wine vaults are concealed beneath a vineyard, which flourishes literally on top of the winery. Despite years of problems during construction, from landslides to bureaucracy, it is now open for tours and dining, when at the restaurant. (Note: Add this to your bucket list.)

Then, there was the private home that I visited in Lebanon, with the wine cellar built into the hill of AlAshrafiyyah (East Beirut). You could see the sparkle of the Mediterranean Sea’s turquoise water as you slowly descended the circular iron steps into the ancient limestone walled vault. Since the ambiance and the experience was so incredible, I can’t even recall what wines were stored there.

Right here in Pinehurst, we have friends with a stunning cellar where we have made many great memories together. Valuable bottles line the walls, encased in glass for optimal temperature control. A long and welcoming tasting table is surrounded by the columns and rows of bottles. The design creates an elegant yet casual and

friendly feeling, which sets the stage for a delightful evening.

Wine cellars can really be anything your imagination, contractor and budget can realize. There are a few must-haves for storing wine, however, if you do intend to actually drink it and not just enjoy the space.

The first is lighting. Wine, like the stars in the sky, needs darkness to shine. Light can ruin not only the color of wine, but also the aromas. This is why wine cellars are, well, cellars: a room built in the ground where sunlight cannot reach.

Another important factor for storing wine is the position of the bottle. If you intend to wait a year or even a few months to drink the wine, you should not leave it in the vertical position. The perfect position is horizontal, especially if it has a pure cork tap. The liquid should stay in contact with the cork, which avoids excessive oxygenation that damages wine.

Humidity is not a bad thing, but too much humidity is. It is fundamental to find an optimal balance of humidity for conserving wine. If the air is too dry, you risk that the cork dries out, which allows oxygen to pass through to the wine. On the other hand, if the humidity is too high, you could create mold, which is what gives corks that “tapped” smell.

Experts say that the perfect humidity for storing wines is between 75 and 90 percent.

Have you noticed how, when descending into a cellar, you feel slight chill and suddenly need a light sweater? The best conservation temperature for wine is actually between 52 and 59 degrees, give or take a few degrees. It also depends on the wine: some whites prefer to stay under 52, while other reds age better slightly above 60 degrees. It is fundamental to keep the temperature consistent. If it is too cold, the natural aging of the wine may be obstructed, while if it is too hot, the heat will accelerate the aging process of the wine, risking to ruin it.

Finally, wine needs a calm environment with no distractions. This means no strong odors, no vibrations such as from the street or appliances, and good air circulation.

Just like us, in order to age gracefully, wine needs the perfect conditions. Adding all the bells and whistles makes aging gracefully more enjoyable along the way. PL

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Life Under Pines

From House to Home

By Sundi McLaughlin

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nless you have been living in a very dark cave in the middle of a beautiful forest, most of us have witnessed—and have been astonished by—the real estate boom in our area. Houses are selling quicker than they can get on the market. With all of this opportunity, many of us who are lucky enough to own a home in the area have perhaps considered putting our own house on the market, however the obvious problem is that, unless you are relocating to a land far, far away, you still have to buy another house with the same elevated price.

This sudden change of circumstance has caused me to sit back, reflect and take stock of our home. When my man and I moved to our house over a decade ago, it was a real fixer-upper. We tackled a lot of projects immediately, but the less emergent projects we’ve

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completed at a slower pace. Every year we will choose a project or a corner of our property to tackle and then proceed to kill ourselves accomplishing the work. Will there be hollering? Yes. Will there be hurt feelings (mine)?

Absolutely. Will we finish the project over budget? One hundred percent of the time. Will we be proud as punch when it is completed? No question!

When you are in a home for a while, like we have been lucky enough to be, it isn’t just how many bedrooms or bathrooms you have, but the memories attached. Like the time I almost got heatstroke putting in that rock patio or got stuck on the roof when an angry swarm of bees attacked the ladder. The baby and wedding showers we have hosted. The time I came home from work to find a fine dusting of drywall everywhere when

my dude ripped out the drywall in our loft because we wanted to build bookcases instead. Or the memory of our neighbors standing beneath us while we were on the top rung of our ladders as they wondered aloud how we could be certain of getting the circular window perfectly centered in the front of the house.

Each project, no matter how hard, always brings us such a sense of accomplishment. Every time we do a project it marries us just a little bit more to our home. After so many years there isn’t a wall, floor, cupboard or fixture we haven’t touched. Maya Angelou believed spaces held memories of feelings, and I hope that is true.

When we inevitably have to move on, I hope whoever buys our house can feel the love and laughter, the parties and milestones celebrated. Have there been

tears? Of course, but luckily there has been more joy than sadness.

Celebrate your life by living in a home that is authentic to your tastes and individuality. I want to be able to walk into a home and get a sense of who you are and what inspires you to be your best self. Now if you are a slob, keep that to yourself please, but if you are obsessed with cats and want a kitty cat portrait wall, I am all about it!

Have your home be a reflection of your best self and I think it will inspire you to strive to be that very thing. We all have our own idiosyncrasies and peccadilloes that make us who we are and hopefully we are always learning and striving to our best selves.

So wake up every day and make your bed and just like that, you have accomplished your first thing and when you come home after a long day of work and you flip the lights on in your room it actually does make you feel better to see your room tidy and bed made with that cute duvet you had your eye on.

Trust me, it is the accumulation of the little meaningful things which make the difference. As someone who has struggled with anxiety and depression my whole life, I have found a few life hacks which help me stay in the light. It is very easy to find the darkness and almost impossible to find

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your way out. My passion for helping people find their personality and joy through decorating has come from years of searching for my own little rays of sunshine. My goal for our home is to be calm and peaceful and for me that is achieved through home design, colors and finishes. Someone else might need energy and movement with bright colors and bold pieces, while others feel at home with all things midcentury: whatever your thing is do it and have fun. If you get stuck or need someone to help you from getting overwhelmed, that is what people like me or a dozen other great designers or decorators in this area are here for: The goal is always to bring out the best in you and your home.

Whenever I am asked to help decorate a home I love getting to know the person and celebrating and elevating what makes them who they are: • Traveled the world? Wonderful! Let’s get those things you’ve had in boxes out on the shelves.

• You don’t use your dining room but love old ’80s video games? Let’s bring them in!

• Want to polish and showcase Grandma's silver collection? I am pumped!

Your house should embody your individuality, not the fad of the moment, even if there is always room for both. Now when you go to sell your house, yes the arcade will have to go into storage and we will bring in a gorgeous dining room table, because selling a home is about allowing someone else to see their future beneath that roof and not be reminded of someone else’s past.

Living in a home that is yours and staging a home for sale are very different beasts. While a staged home may look beautiful, I sincerely hope that we are all living in homes we love—homes that are just as unique and wonderful as each of us … right here Under the Pines. PL Sundi McLaughlin is a proud military wife and small-business owner of Mockingbird on Broad in Southern Pines.

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The Garden

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Beneficial Bugs

BY DOLORES MULLER

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e get hundreds of questions each year at the Moore County Agricultural Extension office asking, “I have insects eating my plants, so what can I spray?” The average backyard is home to thousands of insects, but only about one-tenth of these are destructive.

Most are either beneficial or harmless, and if you don’t know what insect is causing the problem, you will probably be killing more good bugs then bad by spraying. Insecticides indiscriminately kill off many of our helpful insects. Additionally, birds feed mainly on insects, so a backyard with insects will attract more birds.

Good insects fall into three categories: • • •

Pollinator: We depend on these insects to pollinate our fruits and vegetables.

Predator: They eliminate pests by eating them.

Parasite: They lay their eggs on or in the bad bugs. When the eggs hatch the larvae feed on the host insects, eventually killing them.

At least 80 percent of our world’s crop species require pollination to set seed. An estimated one out of every three bites of food come to us through the work of pollinators. That is why it is so important to know the good bugs from the bad bugs in our gardens. I personally do not spray any chemicals. Pesticides are not beneficial to our environment, water supply or us.

One of the most familiar good bugs is the ladybug. A ladybug larva can eat up to 40 aphids

an hour! Despite their delightful name and appearance, ladybugs are ferocious predators!

Other good bugs include adult green lacewings.

They feed on pollen and nectar, but their larvae suck the juice from many soft-bodies insects, including caterpillars. Wolf spiders, while not insects, are beneficial pest controllers. And ground beetles are predatory as adults and as larvae.

They will eat a wide range of insects including nematodes, caterpillars, thrips, weevils, slugs and silverfish. Soldier beetles are an important predator of Mexican bean beetles and Colorado potato beetles.

If you grow tomatoes you should welcome the Brachonid wasps. They lay their eggs on the backs of tomato hornworms, forming those white cocoons you see on the worm’s back. You should leave these parasitized worms alone as the wasp larvae will take care of them by eating the worms from the inside out.

Beneficial insects need water, food and shelter.

By providing these things, your garden will be an inviting home for them. Also, a diversity of plants will attract a wide range of insects. Here is a short list of plants that will invite the good guys: alyssum, cilantro, cosmos, dandelion, dill, echinacea, fennel, hyssop, lupin, marigold, milkweed, nasturtium, parsley, Queen Anne’s lace, rudbeckia, sunflower, wildflowers, yarrow and zinnia.

If you must spray, first identify the insect you are trying to eliminate then use the appropriate insecticide and spray when it is most effective. PL

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A Look Back

Map of Vineland, the initial town name of Southern Pines. Inset, early photo of Southern Pines.

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The Streets of Patrick’s Folly

By Ray

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t was a wild world John T. Patrick entered at Manly Station in 1881: a dusty timber, tar and turpentine industry outpost just north of what would become Southern Pines. If you were looking for trouble, this is where you went to find it at more than a dozen bars lining the tracks—feuds and fights were common, with a shooting almost every Saturday night.

In isolation they forged a unique brand, these original Tar Heels, their forest ageless and endless, pillared with longleaf, cut off from the outside world until the railroad came through in 1876, confronting them with a new way of being.

Patrick was one of them but different, a young man in his late 20s, newly appointed as Commissioner of Immigration for cash-poor North Carolina and paid next to nothing to visit every county to foster economic opportunity.

Born in Wadesboro in 1852, as a teenager he traveled the country presenting magic lantern shows, a combination of projected images, narration and music. By 1878, he owned a general store, was proprietor and editor of the Pee Dee Herald, and served as a captain in the State Guard. He also was selling property in Wadesboro and arranged the first annual fair in the town.

Recognizing his community would appeal to outsiders, he began distributing press releases in national newspapers pointing out the availability of inexpensive land. This effort resulted in around 200 families purchasing 20,000 acres.

News spread fast that a dollar invested with Patrick always turned a profit. This earned him the respect of powerful allies, and in July 1883, he was appointed head of state immigration.

His task was to generate wealth, so he devised a plan that was known for a time as “Patrick’s Folly.”

His study of census records showed a steady flow away from crowded northern urban centers headed west. North Carolina suffered from a population and monetary deficit, and the number of people with cash leaving the North could more than address the state’s shortfall.

Patrick’s concept was to divert the westward flow of immigration into the heart of North Carolina to fuel the growth of the rail system. We had no real roads so this was economically critical. Railroads required travel and commerce to sustain their existence and so did the state.

He was applauded for his grasp of the issues, but condemned for his remedy, locating the first Yankee settlement in southern Moore County, which was considered “a place where the pea vine will not grow and a grape vine will not sprout.” This was a realistic assessment, there being few trees, most having been cut for lumber or scarred by the turpentine industry.

Not to be deterred, in 1884 Patrick used his own resources to purchase 675 acres on Shaw’s Ridge at the crossroads of two aboriginal trails, the Pee Dee and Yadkin. Here, he laid

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Left, the Southern Pines Singing Society. Top, John T. Patrick, founder of Southern Pines. Top right, early Southern Pines. Bottom right, the Patrick Hotel.

out a town intended as a health resort, first called Vineland but soon renamed Southern Pines, a place with no real existence beyond his fertile imagination.

The proposed resort crystallized into map form with a gridiron pattern of 35 blocks east of the track and 100 west, totaling 3,240 lots. Each block was traversed by two public alleys crossing at the center with a small park in the middle.

A hastily built structure was erected to serve as a hotel, the only existing buildings being the workers temporary log camp, a shed train depot and a few scattered farmsteads. The streets were deep with dust and you might trip over a sleeping hog when you went for your mail or be chased by an angry bull if you had on the wrong color shirt.

Patrick began circulating advertisements in northern publications to promote the Sandhills, followed by tours of Pennsylvania, New York and Boston, where he gave talks on the virtues of Southern Pines against the backdrop of a live minstrel show.

A critical hurdle for establishing a northern village in the South was

overcoming concerns about “rebel retribution” and the stability of Southern society. The nation had just survived a terrible war and many were fearful. Patrick understood that, for his plan to work, he would need to demonstrate to outsiders that they would be well received.

“Let harmony and good feelings prevail,” said Patrick. “We have had enough dissension. The differences engendered on account of the late war must be forgotten. No more malice or hatred, but love one another. We could cut for ourselves a garment of splendor which would be made up by people of worth, culture and thrift.”

Such inducements sparked interest and he was soon arranging train fares for parties of prospective settlers. Patrick enlisted a gospel choir called the “Singing Society” to serenade the incoming trains and he rallied scores of representatives from local immigrant Scottish Highland clans to provide a warm welcome.

Visitors were invited to tour the countryside. Offering included a ride to Carthage to witness court in session, religious services at white and Black

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churches, banjo picking, dancing, barbecues, hunting excursions, woodland rambles and sightseeing at a turpentine still.

The Tar Heels charmed their guests and by 1886, more than 2,000 people had entered the Sandhills, bringing with them an aggregated wealth of around $2,000,000. For whatever purpose they came—in search of health and fortune—creating a foundation for what was perhaps the first Mid-South resort established after the American Civil War. Patrick consciously branded the concept of Northern and Southern reconciliation onto Southern Pines by naming the avenues after the Northern states that had supplied so many of its settlers and the streets for friends and local heroes.

Before his death in 1918, Patrick acquired 800 acres west of Southern Pines for a group of Japanese merchants from San Francisco and Belgian painter Valentin Henneman, who was invited to establish an “artist colony.” The plan was to sell artwork in a shop at the corner of Pennsylvania Avenue and Bennett Street—the project cut short by Patrick’s passing. PL

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Books

Life and Loss

By Robert Gable

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art of living your life means dealing with loss along the way. Whether it’s the loss of a loved one or the loss of a dream, life goes on. Oftentimes we’re left to deal with loss on our own, though some ways of dealing are not as effective as others. Richard Ford deftly explores these themes in his latest collection of nine short stories, Sorry for Your Trouble.

In Ford’s stories, we’re parachuted down into the middle of a situation in some part of the world. The characters unveil what they’re thinking, what they’re feeling and their backgrounds. Then you piece together what is happening, and you learn from the story. Part of the challenge is he keeps you guessing. What exactly is going on? What are these people doing, and why are they acting this way? He also has an ear for dialogue that rings true. You listen in on the people as they’re talking, trying to come to grips with an issue.

Ford’s prize-winning writing style is lean and his sentences are crisp. He reveals the story’s situation in concise terms, letting your imagination fill in the rest. He paints the picture with a few deft strokes and doesn’t leave you awash in words.

He explores the complex interactions between the characters with well-placed words that get to the crux of the story.

For instance, in “Jimmy Green—1992,” a man in Paris wants to do something different on election night. On a lark, he asks the French woman at a nearby art gallery to join him at an election party. She says yes, but strange happenings make Jimmy’s high hopes for the evening go completely awry. At the end he wonders what happened and thinks, “Though being here, in the freezing night, this bit of misery—he could never have imagined. Here, of course, was never precisely the point you’d attained (a view he’d often reminded himself). Here was a point you’d passed already but didn’t realize.”

In “The Run of Yourself,” a husband is trying to make sense of his wife’s suicide. Sick with recurring cancer, she wanted to end her misery. He didn’t see the signs that she was preparing to go. Two years later, he is still trying to figure out how he missed the signs, wondering if he could have changed the events if he had been aware of her intent.

In “Nothing to Declare,” two people meet again, 20 years after their brief college affair. He has gone on to a marriage and a law practice in New Orleans. She has drifted through

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Sorry For Your Trouble

By Richard Ford 258 pages, HarperCollins Publishers / $27.99

a few marriages and wants to catch up with him. When she drops in unexpectedly, he finds old feelings, buried and almost forgotten, come rushing back as she says hello. The encounter leaves them both wondering, what might have been?

Some common themes run throughout Ford’s latest collection. Just like reality, events don’t always go as planned.

As with, “Man proposes, God disposes,” unforeseen twists come out of nowhere. This happens to all of us; in many cases it’s only in retrospect that we recognize the hints, the initial signs of the train that was barreling down on us. At the time, though, the train’s lights were shaded, indistinct and blurred behind a mist we couldn’t quite see through.

Usually a loss of some kind has the characters trying to make sense of where they currently find themselves. Widowed or divorced, that sense of loss finds many of the characters close to being broken—but they’re learning how to bend to keep from breaking. Their children aren’t exactly friendly or happy—nor are they easy to get along with. For these characters, change is the price of survival. Through no one’s fault, their lives get complicated, confusing, and off the rails in a hurry. Knowing and world-weary, humbled yet hopeful, the characters aren’t giving up, though they may be despairing, and somewhat bewildered. All is not lost. Not yet.

These are enlightening stories, worthy of re-reading and further refection. Ford doesn’t sugar-coat loneliness or the disoriented feeling that can come from a sudden change to an ordered world. He has a masterful way of showing, when it comes to the interactions between people, no one really knows how things are going to end. In a nod to everyday life, the ending might not be neat and tidy. The ending may be one we didn’t see coming—nor one we would have preferred—yet we keep on trying, just like the familiar adage, “While I breathe, I hope.” PL Robert Gable worked in book publishing for 18 years before going into the golf industry. He lived and worked in Pinehurst for five years and still misses it. He currently lives in Queens and works as an assistant golf pro at Metropolis Country Club in White Plains, New York.

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Healthy Choices

Seasonal Senses By amelia kirkland

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pringtime can be the best of times and the worst of times. Warming temps and blossoming trees give us a sense of growth and renewal, but springtime can also bring about trepidation and dread in some people.

While we love the idea of spending more time outdoors in fewer layers of clothing, we might ask ourselves, “How am I going to look in shorts after hiding behind jeans and leggings all winter?” or “Will I be able to take long walks through Weymouth without ending up a sneezing, watery, itchy mess?”

We are here to unpack these conundrums with useful tips on how to make the most of springtime while mitigating some of its pitfalls.

When the weather turns warm, people want to get outside. Stay-at-home orders in 2020 brought about many more home gardeners. I am in great hopes that this trend continues into 2021. When done responsibly, gardening is great for the soil and environment, but it is also great for you. It provides physical exercise, mental challenges and a healthy dose of vitamin D.

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One thing to remember when gardening, or engaging in any outdoor activity, is to remember your sunscreen. CDC statistics show North Carolinians to be at moderate risk for skin cancers. In 2017, 25.5 new cases of melanoma were reported per 100,000 people in our state.

Late spring/early summer planting is exciting. We really get into the “meat” of summer fruits and veggies around this time. Some favorite crops to grow during this timeframe are tomatoes, eggplant, peppers of all kinds, zucchini and yellow squash, and even celery. These are what we think of on a blue plate special in the South—you know, those plates that are filled with summer veggies that your Grandma grew.

We are between planting zones 7 and 8, so we can use the planting guide from either of these zones, allowing for plenty of yummy things to grow!

Even if you’re not so much of a gardener, you can still reap the benefits of fresh, locally grown produce by visiting the farmer’s market or subscribing to Sandhills Farm 2 Table. Mandy Davis, director of Sandhills Farm 2 Table,

says May will bring lots of strawberries and spring onions, and by month’s end we will start to see blueberries.

By the beginning of June, yellow squash and zucchini will be coming in. This provides us with freshness throughout the spring. And Mandy’s best advice: “Eat with the seasons.”

Spring, of course, is also allergy season. For many, that can mean irritated eyes, sneezing and rashes— starting as early as late February, with allergies in full swing come May. There are plenty of over-the-counter pharmaceuticals to battle seasonal allergies, but there are some good all-natural remedies as well.

Did you know, for instance, that diffusing essential oils can combat seasonal allergies? Synergistic combinations, or blends that work more effectively together than singly, such as lavender, peppermint and lemon, can benefit the respiratory system. According to local massage and bodywork expert Kacey Graner, tea tree oil, cypress, rosemary, eucalyptus, chamomile and frankincense can be helpful too.

Local honey is also a wonderful combatant for seasonal allergies. Local bees make honey from nectar of native plants, some of which may be causing your sneezing. So when you consume local honey, you are treating the allergy symptoms to allergens specific to our locale.

Seasonal allergies can cause inflammation and swelling of the lining of the nose and the protective tissues around the

eyes. Honey is known to have anti-inflammatory properties, so one theory about honey is that it combats seasonal allergy symptoms by reducing inflammation.

Honey is also known for its antimicrobial properties, so it’s great for staving off a spring cold. My grandmother used to mix honey with a little lemon juice and vinegar, offering antimicrobial properties. She would mix these ingredients with a little hot water and drink it every day. As a tonic or tea, I like to add ginger to this concoction; it creates a warming sensation in my throat, heart and mind.

Spring is a fabulous, uplifting time of year. Hopefully, we’ve provided you with some tips and tricks to make yours even more pleasurable.

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Amelia Kirkland has been an advocate for good health for more than 30 years. She is the founder of The Helpful Plate (thehelpfulplate.com), a company committed to empowering people to lead fulfilling, healthy lives. She is an avid cyclist, runner and student of Pilates.

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On the Buckle

Covid Competition, Near and Far

By Whitney Weston

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or many horse and rider teams who have been training for years, the future during COVID looked bleak as competition after competition was canceled. Then the unthinkable happened: the Olympics were canceled! At that point, equestrians knew they were in for a long ride back to normalcy.

For the past year, competitions have been slowly getting back into swing. There are directives given from our national equestrian governing body, the United States Equestrian Federation, that have helped keep our community as safe as possible during competition. Everyone on showgrounds must wear masks, keep social distancing and sign waivers upon entering. There is typically a volunteer at the entrance gate who receives the signed waivers, and gives the competitor a wristband to wear during the show. While there are still no spectators allowed, there is one loophole to seeing these great competitions … volunteer! We would not be able to hold horse shows without volunteers. You generally do not need horse experience, and will be taught everything you need to know for your shift. Often volunteers receive “swag” and food and drink! To volunteer, go to carolinahorsepark.com/support/volunteer. For other venues, check in

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with the show manager for volunteer opportunities or visit their website.

The Carolina Horse Park in Raeford is our local competition venue. It draws competitors from all over the country for competitions in several disciplines, including dressage, driving, eventing and hunter/jumper. Every March, the Carolina International is held, where teams from all over the country come to compete against the nation’s best in eventing. This is followed up by one of my favorite series, the War Horse Event Series, which kicks off in May and ends with the Championship in November. Here you will see the entire range of horses and riders, from kids and ponies jumping small logs to Olympic hopefuls training their mounts for the next big event.

This year, we are very excited to see a new partnership with Sedgefield Show Series at the horse park. Sedgefield has managed a large series of hunter/jumper competitions for the past 15 years at the Greensboro showgrounds. They have since outgrown the facility and plan to hold 12 competitions this year at CHP! This allows for more competitors to test their skills in the ring on the hunter/jumper circuit, but as an eventer, I am thrilled for the opportunity for my students and me to cross-train.

Since the sport of eventing involves three phases (dressage, cross-country and show jumping), these added competitions will allow us to practice our show jumping over striped and different colored poles in the arena, without the distraction of dressage and cross-country on the same weekend.

I encourage students to pick apart the triathlon that is eventing, master each phase separately, then put them all together for a successful weekend of eventing.

And a true sign that we can see the light at the end of the tunnel: The Tokyo Olympics are back on! They will now run July 24 to Aug. 7.

Most of the equestrian action will be held at the Baji Koen Equestrian Park. Built in 1940 and used for the Tokyo 1964 Olympic Games, it is situated just west of Tokyo and will stage the dressage and jumping competition.

The eventing cross-country element will take place at Sea Forest Cross Country Course in Sea Forest Park, Tokyo Bay. The Olympics is a goal many riders set their sights on. The first Olympic Equestrian event was held in 1900. There have been many changes in the disciplines and rules of these sports over the past century, but the equestrian games still retain a uniqueness that separates them from all other Olympic sports. The Olympic Equestrian competitions are the only ones that involve animals. Equestrian is the also the only Olympic sport that has men and women competing against each other.

The next time you see horses being ridden on the trails as you drive by or at a competition, it’s amazing to think that men and women all over the globe are riding horses as well. We are able to speak to horses, even though we might not know the owner’s language! PL Whitney Weston is a professional horse trainer with more than 30 years of riding experience and competing at the international level of eventing for 15 years. She trains out of her Southern Pines farm through Valkyrie Sporthorses, and runs Southern Pines Riding Academy.

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On the Green

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Worth the Wait

by Helen Ross

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ost PGA Tour fans probably know Joel Dahmen as the guy who wears that white bucket hat. If they know him at all, that is.

You see, guys like Dahmen, who is midway through his fifth season on Tour, can get lost in the shuffle in a game where the spotlight shines so brightly on the Rory McIlroys and Dustin Johnsons and Bryson DeChambeaus of the world.

And that’s a shame. Because there’s so many reasons to cheer for the affable 33-year-old from the Pacific Northwest who won his first PGA Tour event on the last Sunday in March at the Corales Puntacana Club & Resort Championship.

Dahmen, who learned the game from his dad, Ed, wasn’t an All-American in college. In fact, he dropped out after a year at the University of Washington, in which he says he partied too much and skipped too many classes.

Dahmen now admits to being a “pretty lost kid there for a couple of years.”

The lack of direction was understandable, though.

When he was 17, Dahmen lost his mother, Jolyn, whom he calls his best friend—the schoolteacher who drove him to Tournaments in the summer and sometimes caddied for him—to pancreatic cancer. And four years after their

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mom died, his brother Zach was diagnosed with testicular cancer, although this time, the treatment was a success.

Dahmen was 23 when he also found a lump in his scrotum—the same thing that had prompted his brother to go get checked. He says he was in denial for days but finally went to see the doctor two weeks later. Before the examination began, Dahmen told him that he had testicular cancer.

The doctor “kind of laughed at me,” Dahmen recalls, but it turns out he was right. Adding to his anxiety, Dahmen had no health insurance, but a sponsor paid for the treatment that included surgery to remove his testicle and several weeks of chemotherapy.

Dahmen came back more determined than ever to play golf.

“It was important to get it removed to have the chemo and just get healthy again to where they said I was going to be OK,” Dahmen told me in 2019. “And I truly believe that. I think there’s two stories: There is ‘the doctor tells you,’ but then truly believing in yourself.

“So, my motivation was to just get healthy and to play golf again for sure.”

But Dahmen, who wears the MD Anderson strikethrough cancer logo on his trademark bucket hat and

serves as their ambassador, was hardly an instant success.

He came up through the ranks, playing the MacKenzie Tour-PGA Tour Canada and Korn Ferry Tour before finally getting his Tour card.

Now that he has playing privileges on golf’s biggest stage, though, Dahman has proven he had staying power.

In five seasons competing against the likes of McIlroy and Johnson and DeChambeau, among others, he has managed to make more than $6 million.

But he came to the Dominican Republic having missed an uncharacteristic six cuts in his last seven starts, and he knew he needed to clear his head. So, he spent the previous weekend at a friend’s bachelor party in Las Vegas where he relaxed, played golf with his buddies and hit the reset button.

“I just was totally checked out from the whole thing, so when I showed up in Puntacana on Monday, it was kind of a fresh start for me,” Dahmen said. “Very relaxed feel down there obviously, kind of the island life, and the Dominican was a blast. My wife was there and you just kind of see the blue ocean waves, you eat some good food and you hang out. It was a good full reset for me.”

When it was time to get back to his job, though, Dahmen was ready. He trailed by a stroke each of the first two rounds, then was tied for the lead with local favorite Rafael Campos, who is from Puerto Rico, heading into the final 18 holes. He ended up winning by one in what was his 111th start on Tour.

His caddie, Geno Bonnalie, the childhood friend who officiated Dahmen’s wedding, wrapped his arms around his boss and dissolved in tears. Dahmen’s wife, Lona, the woman who once managed a clothing store by day and worked as a cocktail waitress at night to support the couple, soon made it a jubilant group hug.

“She gave up her dreams to fulfill my dreams and help me out,” Dahmen said. “There was some lean times, for sure, but she believed in me. I don’t know if our dreams were ever this big, per se. Making it five years on Tour, getting a first win—just, it’s pretty special.

“And for Geno, I mean, two dudes growing up together who were golf dorks (and) somehow winning on the PGA Tour. I planned the celebration so many times in my head, it didn’t quite go as I expected. I couldn’t believe he was crying, I thought he’d be the tough guy, but he’s put in a lot of time and effort and he’s believed in me when no one else did.

“I’m so lucky, he cares more about me than any golf shot I’ll ever hit. Just to be able to do that together was pretty darn cool.”

And well worth the wait. PL

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May/june 2021

CALENDAR OF EVENTS Dates and times subject to change. Check directly with event organizers before making plans.

MAY 5.1.2021 St. Gang: How We Got to Sesame Street Sunrise Theater 250 NW Broad St. | So. Pines Cost: $10 | 4 p.m.

Contact: 910.692.3611, SunriseTheater.com 5.1.2021 through Winter 2021 The Lure of Southern Pines in Early Postcards Southern Pines Planning Office 180 NW Broad St. | So. Pines Cost: FREE | 8:30 a.m. – 5 p.m.

Contact: 910.692.2051, moorehistory.com 5.7.2021 Mama Mia! (2008) at the Sunrise Outdoor Theater Sunrise Theater 250 NW Broad St. | So. Pines Cost: $10 | 8:15 p.m.

Contact: 910.692.3611, SunriseTheater.com 5.8.2021 Marketplace on the Sunrise Square Sunrise Theater 250 NW Broad St. | So. Pines Cost: FREE | 11 a.m. – 4 p.m.

Contact: 910.692.3611, SunriseTheater.com 5.8.2021 Mama Mia! (2008) at the Sunrise Outdoor Theater Sunrise Theater 250 NW Broad St. | So. Pines Cost: $10 | 8:15 p.m.

Contact: 910.692.3611, SunriseTheater.com 5.9.2021 The Sound of Music (1965) Sunrise Theater 250 NW Broad St. | So. Pines Cost: $10 | 2 p.m.

Contact: 910.692.3611, SunriseTheater.com 5.15.2021 MET Opera - Gershwin’s Porgy & Bess Sunrise Theater 250 NW Broad St. | So. Pines Cost: $22 – $27 | 1:30 p.m.

Contact: 910.692.3611, SunriseTheater.com

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5.20.2021 MET Opera - Gershwin’s Porgy & Bess Sunrise Theater 250 NW Broad St. | So. Pines Cost: $22 – $27 | 1:30 p.m.

Contact: 910.692.3611, SunriseTheater.com 5.21.2021 Ghostbusters (1984) at the Sunrise Outdoor Theater Sunrise Theater 250 NW Broad St. | So. Pines Cost: $10 | 8:30 p.m.

Contact: 910.692.3611, SunriseTheater.com 5.22.2021 Marketplace on The Sunrise Square Sunrise Theater 250 NW Broad St. | So. Pines Cost: FREE | 11 a.m. – 4 p.m.

Contact: 910.692.3611, SunriseTheater.com 5.22.2021 Ghostbusters (1984) at the Sunrise Outdoor Theater Sunrise Theater 250 NW Broad St. | So. Pines Cost: $10 | 8:30 p.m.

Contact: 910.692.3611, SunriseTheater.com 5.28–30.2021 Sandhills Motoring Festival Village of Pinehurst | Pinehurst Cost: FREE | Various times Contact: sandhillsmotoringfestival.com JUNE 6.12.2021 Marketplace on The Sunrise Square Sunrise Theater 250 NW Broad St. | So. Pines Cost: FREE | 11 a.m. – 4 p.m.

Contact: 910.692.3611, SunriseTheater.com 6.18.2021 ARF! The Musical - Sunrise Children’s Theater Performance Sunrise Theater 250 NW Broad St. | So. Pines Cost: $5/adults, Under 18/free | 5:30 p.m.

Contact: 910.692.3611, SunriseTheater.com

6.18.2021 National Lampoon’s Vacation (1983) at the Sunrise Outdoor Theater Sunrise Theater 250 NW Broad St. | So. Pines Cost: $10 | 8:30 p.m.

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6.19.2021 ARF! The Musical - Sunrise Children’s Theater Performance Sunrise Theater 250 NW Broad St. | So. Pines Cost: $5/adults, Under 18/free | 11 a.m.

Contact: 910.692.3611, SunriseTheater.com 6.19.2021 National Lampoon’s Vacation (1983) at the Sunrise Outdoor Theater Sunrise Theater 250 NW Broad St. | So. Pines Cost: $10 | 8:30 p.m.

Contact: 910.692.3611, SunriseTheater.com 6.25.2021 Tweet! The Musical - Sunrise Children’s Theater Performance Sunrise Theater 250 NW Broad St. | So. Pines Cost: $5/adults, Under 18/free | 5:30 p.m.

Contact: 910.692.3611, SunriseTheater.com 6.26.2021 Tweet! The Musical - Sunrise Children’s Theater Performance Sunrise Theater 250 NW Broad St. | So. Pines Cost: $5/adults, Under 18/free | 11 a.m.

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6.26.2021 Sunrise Theater Singer/Songwriter Concert Sunrise Theater 250 NW Broad St. | So. Pines Cost: $20 | 7 p.m.

Contact: 910.692.3611, SunriseTheater.com VIRTUAL Ruth Pauley Lecture Series North Carolina Cost: FREE | 7:30 p.m.

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Top, from left: MaKenzie & Lauren Locklear; Cathy Pierce, Priscilla Robinson and Kassie Thompson / Bottom, from left: The Market; Sundi McLaughlin of Mockingbird on Broad; and Nina Kniesz with John Brock.

St. Patrick’s Day Warm Up Dinner To Go Weymouth Center Southern Pines March 14

Top, from left: Kathy & Cas Krull with Callie, Delaney & Patrick Stich; setting up / Bottom, from left: Cynthia Davis, Barb Keating, Pat Gleisner and Katie Wyatt; Betty Whittle, Maria Lalic, Meagan Peters and Penny Stuckey; and Steve Grasso of Broad Street Bakery.

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Sandhills Sightings Carolina Philharmonic 6th Annual Golf Tournament Benefiting the Carolina Philharmonic Orchestra Pinewild Country Club Pinehurst March 22

Top, from left: Kathy Wilford and Walt Hess; Michael & Marcia DeBolt with Maestro David Michael Wolff / Bottom, from left: Vivek Tandon, Rocky Rhodes, Toliver Parks and Charles Gragg; Peter & Gaja Bliudzius; and John Bouldry, Rick Riordan, Skip Kendrick and Bill May.

Jude Winkley Art Exhibit “All That Jazz” Artists League of the Sandhills Aberdeen April 2

Top, from left: Artist Jude Winkley; Pam Griner, Krista Singleton and Mary Duffy / Bottom, from left: Liz Polston and Fred Hoffecker; exhibit pieces; and Floyd & Courtney Herndon with Brian Montgomery.

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Lunch n’ Learn “All About the Sunrise Theater” Sandhills Woman’s Exchange Pinehurst April 8

Top, from left: Nancy Mack and Woman’s Exchange president Barbara Summers; Sharon Lawson and Elizabeth Fisher / Bottom, from left: Marilyn Powers, Diana Plys and Jean Davis; Guest speaker MaryBeth Poplyk, executive director of the Sunrise Theater; and Lori Lee and Carol Duffy.

Palustris: Celebrating Longleaf Through the Arts Arts Council of Moore County Campbell House Gallery Southern Pines April 9

Top, from left: Katherine MacRae, Nanette Zeller and Kate Curtin; Donna & Bill May / Bottom, from left: Beth & Ted Stevens with Barbara Sherman; Jim & Linda Dalton of Dalton’s pottery; and turtle illustrations.

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Sandhills Sightings Pinehurst Farmers Market Tufts Memorial Park Pinehurst April 14

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sightings@ pinehurstlivingmagazine.com Top, from left: Ronnie & Gina Kreidt; Cimmy, Hunter & Troy Hagen / Middle, from left: Helen & Burt Ozment; Maudin Cattle Co. selling beef; Sue Huston and Claudia Watson / Bottom, from left: Martha Mirman and Joe Bologna with John Carter of Ithaca Acres Creamery; and strawberry season.

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Last Impression

A Pleasant Afternoon photograph courtesy of Moore County Historical Association

An unidentified Southern Pines woman, circa early 20th century, relaxes on the wisteria-covered porch of her cottage. It’s possible she is Ellenore Eddy Smith’s mother. Smith’s father, E.C. Eddy, a photographer, opened a studio in Southern Pines. His postcards record the history of the town around the turn of the century. Smith still resides in Southern Pines today.

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Youth and love and a summer day— What fairer gifts could the gods bestow?

Ah, could the golden time but stay, Of youth and love and a summer day!

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– Jean Wright, The Golden Time

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