PITTSBURGH
Complimentary issue from your CatholiC Community newspaper
Catholic
MAGAZINE
Featuring:
Healthy Spirit, Mind & Body Getting into shape | Prayers and priorities w w w. p ittsburghcatholic.org
Cholesterol Blood Pressure Vision Hearing
T T T T
Older adults can be screened for hearing loss using simple methods, and effective treatments exist and are available for many forms of hearing loss. Don’t miss the sounds of spring or the conversation, schedule an appointment with our Doctors of Audiology at any of our five convenient locations. Call Today For An Appointment: 412-741-2221 or 1-888-933-7755
Dr. Catherine Mitchell Audiologist
• ELLWOOD CITY HOSPITAL • Sewickley • Beaver • Ohio Valley Hospital • Green Tree
Dr. Brandy Parsley
Audiologist MITCHELL DR. CATHERINE Audiologist
2 Pittsburgh Catholic Magazine
Call Us At:
1-888-933-7755
VOTED BEST AUDIOLOGIST bywww.associatedhearingaids.com the Readers of the NEW CASTLE NEWS
www.associatedhearingaids.com
Healthy Spirit, Mind and Body 2011
pg
8
pg
6
16
pg
Inside this issue: 6 | Getting your body in shape:
A former personal trainer offers advice.
8 | Fan or fanatic?:
The point when a zealous interest in sports may raise some serious red flags.
10-12 | Life after divorce:
Finding your way back from the pain to a fulfilling life.
14 | Travels with Mom:
A daughter recounts some of the best times with her favorite traveling companion. Healthy Spirit, Mind and Body 2011
16 | Why Mary is my spiritual guide:
Thomas Rutkoski, in an excerpt from his book, explains how the Mother of God impacts his life.
20 | Making a difference:
Many participate in a ministry of hospitality to local people in need.
22 | The spiritual connection:
A campus minister urges college students to have an active faith life if they are to succeed.
24 | Social media:
What parents can do to safeguard their children. Pittsburgh Catholic Magazine 3
PITTSBURGH
Catholic MAGAZINE
pg
22
135 First Ave. • Suite 200 Pittsburgh, PA 15222 1-800-392-4670 www.pittsburghcatholic.org Vol. 2, No. 5 Publisher | Bishop David A. Zubik
24
pg
pg
28
26 | Dad’s gift:
A son tells how his father’s example showed him how to live his Christian faith.
28 | Finally saying ‘yes’ to that retreat:
Spending some time with God can change your life for the better.
A serious discussion about the questions that revolve around the bioethics of death.
32 | How hate can make you sick:
A brief encounter at a gas station moves humanity’s worst to center stage.
34 | Real but unseen:
m your issue fro paper ntary Complime Community news CatholiC
Catholic
INE MAGAZ
:
Featuring
On the cover...
We have emphasized that health in the Christian perspective means wholeness — not only physical and emotional, but also spiritual and social. Health has to do with more than strictly medical concerns. The restoration of health and maintenance of good health are not solely the responsibility of doctors, nurses and other medical professionals. We all bear a responsibility in this regard, both as individuals and as y ind & Bod Spirit, M members of larger social and religious institutions. Healthy “Health and Health Care,” a pastoral letter of the American Bishops (Nov. 19, 1981). Getting
| into shape ww w.p itts
and priori Prayers
bur ghc
ath olic
Operations Manager | Carmella Weismantle Associate Editors Phil Taylor (Special Projects) Chuck Moody (News) Senior Staff Writer | Patricia Bartos Staff Writer | John W. Franko (Healthy Spirit Project Editor)
Director of Advertising | John Connolly Account Executives Michael A. Check | Paul Crowe Michael Wire Circulation Mgr./Parish News Coord. Peggy Zezza Administrative Assistant | Amanda Wahlen
A doctor writes about the power of the Divine Physician.
H
Editor | William Cone
Graphic Designers David Pagesh | Debbie Skatell-Wehner
31 | ‘A good death’:
RG PITTSBU
General Manager | Robert P. Lockwood
ties
Office Assistant | Caitlin Arendash
� Pittsburgh Catholic Magazine is a complimentary publication of the Pittsburgh Catholic Publishing Associates, available at all 209 Catholic parishes in the Diocese of Pittsburgh.
.org
Cover design by Debbie Skatell-Wehner
Advertising: ads@pittsburghcatholic.org Editorial: editor@pittsburghcatholic.org
Fair Oaks of Pittsburgh
A Retirement Community
Fair Oaks offers quality apartments for independent and assisted living in Southwestern Pennsylvania. Social & Recreational Activities
Quality Private 1 or 2 Room Apartments with Modern Amenities
All Utilities
Kitchenette/Stove, Sink & Small Fridge
17 Acres of Beautiful Landscaped Grounds
Private Air-Conditioned Suites
Walking Track in Gazebo Park
Catholic & Protestant Services
24 Hour Security and Management
Emergency Call System
Craft Room
Registered Nurses on Staff
Fitness Room
Licensed Practical Nurses and Certified Nurses Aides Physician on Site Weekly Personal Care Plan for Each Resident 24 Hour Emergency Nursing Professional Therapy Room Country Store & Gift Shop 3 Delicious Meals Prepared Daily by Professional Chefs 3 Beautifully Decorated Grand Dining Rooms & Lounge Areas Weekly Housekeeping Weekly Laundry Expanded Cable Service
For information and to arrange a tour with complimentary lunch...
412-344-9915
220 West Liberty Avenue Pittsburgh, PA 15226-1597 www.fairoakspgh.com Healthy Spirit, Mind and Body 2011
Pittsburgh Catholic Magazine 5
In addition to nutrition, exercise is important to achieve better health. It really does not matter what type of exercise you do, as long as you consistently participate in daily activity.
Tips to remember when getting in shape By ROBERT J. NAILL Spring is almost here, and your wonderful New Year’s resolutions have gone by the wayside. Everyone always does their best to follow the “lose weight, go to the gym and eat healthy” type of resolution, but life seems to get in the way, doesn’t it? Well, I am going to give you some advice on how to keep, or at least modify, your resolution so you can become a better you. In the past, I was an International Sports Sciences Association certified personal trainer who helped people get started with an exercise program and educated them on healthy eating habits. Although I am no longer a personal trainer, I continue to
6 Pittsburgh Catholic Magazine
recommend the benefits of exercise and eating right. To become a healthier you, there are three areas you need to focus on: eating right, exercising and maintaining mental well-being. Eating right is the first step to becoming a healthier you. I am not going to promote one diet program compared to another, but I will advise you to watch what you eat and control portion sizes. Examine restaurant portion sizes and compare them to what was served 10 years ago. Portion sizes have definitely increased over the years, and Americans are always looking for the best deal. While you may be getting the best deal, the larger portion sizes are detrimental to your health. For example, an average person should
consume about 1,800 to 2,200 calories a day to maintain a healthy weight. If you have an active career, you may need to consume more than 2,200 calories a day compared to someone who has a sedentary job. Individuals who change from an active to a sedentary job probably notice some weight gain since their bodies no longer need as many calories and began storing them as — you guessed it — fat. If you are one of these individuals and do not like the weight gain, it is time to make some changes. It is up to you to determine the optimum number of calories your body needs each day. Eating five or six smaller meals every three hours can be an easy and effective way for the body to maintain a constant
Healthy Spirit, Mind and Body 2011
blood sugar level, reducing spikes in insulin levels that can lead to you feeling tired. The food you consume provides your body with proteins, fats and carbohydrates to fuel your body. Each of these fuel sources requires a different amount of energy for your body to break down, and the human body is going to break down the easiest type first. Carbohydrates are the simplest to break down, and are necessary to provide glucose (a simple sugar) to “feed� the brain. If carbohydrates are not available, the body begins using proteins that require the same amount of energy to break down as carbohydrates. However, proteins are the main component of muscles, and when the body does not have carbohydrates, it is going
to eat away muscle tissue. Remember, the more muscle you have, the more calories you can burn, allowing you to eat more food. Fats, which protect major organs, are also a necessary dietary requirement and are the last source
of energy the body will utilize. It takes more than twice the amount of energy to burn 1 gram of fat compared to 1 gram of either carbohydrates or proteins. Why do I bring this up? My hope is that people will begin reading food labels and comparing different foods to see what is best for them. In addition to nutrition, exercise is
important to achieve better health. It really does not matter what type of exercise you do, as long as you consistently participate in daily activity. For some people taking walks is enough, while others need to go to a gym or participate in aerobic classes to achieve results. Any form of exercise is better than being sedentary, so get out and move around with a spouse, child or pet and become a healthier you. Everyone gets stressed out due to the way we live our lives. We are constantly on the go, without any time to relax. You must make relaxation and mental well-being a top priority. When most people experience high levels of stress, it affects them in many negative ways, including illnesses, gaining weight or not being able to focus. Too much stress can lead to poor eating habits, prohibiting you from reaching your healthy potential and keeping your resolution. Hopefully, this short article will motivate you to change your life for the better, making you more productive, healthier and less stressed. Naill teaches chemistry at Woodland Hills High School and is a former personal trainer.
BLESSED ARE THOSE WHO SHARE Celebrate First Communions at Buca Buca di Beppo is the perfect place for celebrations. Great atmosphere, fun people and authentic Italian food served family-style, meant to be shared.
Group menus and banquet packages available for groups of 15 or more Visit bucadibeppo.com for locations and reservations
ROBINSON TOWN CENTRE 6600 ROBINSON CENTRE DRIVE 412.788.8444
Healthy Spirit, Mind and Body 2011
STATION SQUARE 3 STATION SQUARE 412.471.9463
Pittsburgh Catholic Magazine 7
fanatic : FAN orSporting events and our mental health By KIMBERLY FLAHERTY With six Super Bowl rings, five World Series championships, three Stanley Cups and a decadeslong tradition of winning college football and basketball teams, western Pennsylvania has a rich sporting history. In addition to the all-star legends and Hall of Fame members who have played for Pittsburgh teams, numerous professional athletes were either born or raised in this area. Our region has produced such a multitude of NFL quarterbacks, it’s been dubbed the “Cradle of Quarterbacks.” Pittsburgh often shows up on lists of “best sports towns.” Most recently, in 2009, Sporting News named Pittsburgh “Best Sports City,” harkening back to the 1970s when we earned the nickname “City of Champions.” It’s more than on-field performance that make us champions. Factor in fan fervor. We Pittsburghers love our sports teams. When they win, we feel like winners. When they lose, we feel like ... well, like losers. Following any competition of consequence, you can sense a change in the atmosphere in Pittsburgh. With victory comes a communal euphoria. With loss, a palpable feeling of melancholy hovers over the city like a dark cloud. Are such emotional reactions to sporting events real or imagined? More importantly, are they healthy?
A positive attitude is contagious Sporting events provide a few hours of escape, a healthy release of emotion, an endorphin rush, the opportunity for social interaction and the chance to live in the moment. When you’re intently focused on watching a game, you’re likely to forget about the rude driver who cut you off in traffic yesterday and the commitments you face tomorrow. Strong affiliations with sports teams also help us forge a sense of community. “Sports are something positive to rally around,” according to Curt Constant, therapist and adult behavioral services director for Mercy Behavioral Health, part of the Pittsburgh Mercy Health System and sponsored by the Sisters of Mercy. “When we’re wearing black and gold or waving our Terrible Towels, we see what is similar in one another rather than notice our differences,” said Constant. “That common bond brings together people from all backgrounds and walks of life.” Even the anticipation leading up to a game has benefits. “In the days before a big game, people tend to
8 Pittsburgh Catholic Magazine
be upbeat,” notes Constant. “Conversation in your neighborhood and at work centers around the upcoming game. People look forward to it in the same way they might look forward to a big family celebration. “Plus, the economic impact of hosting important sporting events boosts the general good mood of a city.”
Fan or fanatic? People who watch professional and collegiate sports range from casual spectators to zealous fanatics. A person whom you might classify as extreme on game day may be the woman next door or your co-worker. Painting your face in team colors and taking road trips aren’t necessarily an indication of the state of your mental health. They may simply reflect the intensity of your interest and how you choose to demonstrate your passion for the sport. However, it is possible to go overboard. An extreme example is when passion turns to violence. Many studies have shown a link between sports and aggression. Adding alcohol or other drugs to that mix can exacerbate the situation. “Alcohol is initially a stimulant, then later is a depressant,” explains Constant. “It can certainly fuel aggression in fans.” That’s why the city takes extra precautions following major sporting events, particularly in neighborhoods known to be post-game gathering places like Oakland and the South Side. As long as you are enjoying yourself and are not causing any harm to yourself or others, says Constant, nearly any level of enthusiasm for sports is acceptable..
a season, it’s natural to feel let down after a big loss,” explains Constant. “It can be hard to let go.” Following a loss like the Super Bowl, people may describe themselves as feeling “depressed.” According to Constant, it’s more likely “disappointment” that a healthy person is experiencing. “Fans may go through a kind of grieving process,” he continues. “A healthy person will accept their team’s loss, move on and look forward to the next sporting event or season.” What if you have trouble moving on? Constant notes some warning signs. “When your obsession with sports — or anything, for that matter — keeps you from fulfilling your responsibilities to yourself, your family or your employer, that signals a potential problem,” he says. Other red flags that your fanaticism may have gone too far: you can’t function or think clearly for an extended period of time after your team loses. You’re going into debt over tickets, travel expenses or gambling, and not meeting other financial obligations. All of these indicate potential problems that should be addressed. According to Constant, there is one upside to losing. “A loss brings people together to commiserate, so it’s not all bad,” he says. And there’s always next year. Flaherty is public relations coordinator for Mercy Behavioral Health.
The agony of defeat No one enjoys seeing his or her favorite team lose. “If you’ve invested a lot of time and energy over the course of
People who watch professional and collegiate sports range from casual spectators to zealous fanatics. An extreme example is when passion turns to violence.
Healthy Spirit, Mind and Body 2011
DIFFERENCE 12
#
LIVE THE GOOD LIFE SOONER
The good life can be yours, sooner, with a custom-built Champion Patio Room TYPICAL CONSTRUCTION DISRUPTION
THE
GOOD LIFE
In just a few short weeks, you and your family could be enjoying a beautiful, brand-new Champion Patio Room. Or choose a typical room addition and for a few grueling months you could be living with the chaos of traditional construction. WINDOWS
SIDING
TAKE THE GUESSWORK OUT OF HOME IMPROVEMENT BEFORE
AFTER FREE computer Visualizer™ imaging of your home with Champion products. Instantly see what your home’s transformation will look like before you buy!
When you compare, and choose Champion, you win every time!
Free in-home estimates
1-888-586-5755 ChampionFactoryDirect.com Call Today for an Extra 5% OFF existing sale prices!
Visit Our Showroom:
4700 Campbells Run Road Pittsburgh Hours: M-Th 9-8, F-Sa 9-5, Su 10-5
Healthy Spirit, Mind and Body 2011
In Home Financing Available
Applies to Champion vinyl replacement windows & patio rooms
HIC PA 12579 ©Champion Window Mfg. & Supply Co., 2011
OFFER CODE: 6900
Pittsburgh Catholic Magazine 9
By RALPH JOY Divorce may be the most awful event that a person can experience in their lifetime. Not only does a person suffer many losses (e.g., trust, identity, friendships, financial well-being, etc.), but these losses are coupled with the excruciating hurt and pain that comes from the tearing of the “….one flesh” (Genesis 2:24) that is created when a marriage takes place. So, it’s easy to understand why people who experience divorce wonder whether they will ever be truly healthy and fully recovered again. Is it possible to fully heal from divorce? Absolutely! Most importantly, take hope in the fact that God has a plan for all of us and that his plan is intended to prosper us and to give us hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11) and that with God, all things are possible (Matthew 19:26). In fact, with faith in the Lord, we can become even better after the divorce than we were before. In addition to having faith in the Lord’s plans, there are practical things that folks should and should not do to effect a healthy recovery from divorce. But, please understand that healing is a process, and, according to the experts, it may take up to one year for each four to five years of marriage for a person to truly recover and heal
Attention All Businesses Publishing April 2011 Don’t miss this opportunity to reach out to seniors, promote your business, increase sales and become part of the Pittsburgh Catholic Magazine’s GUIDE to Senior Services issue. Advertising space is limited and the deadline is quickly approaching.
Our readers can become your most faithful customers. Call John Connolly to place your order today! 412.471.1253 10 Pittsburgh Catholic Magazine
Healthy Spirit, Mind and Body 2011
not mean that you condone their actions. You say the Lord’s Prayer ( “… forgive us ... as we forgive those who trespass against us”). Do you mean what you say? Pray that the Lord makes you willing to forgive. • This last tip is probably the one that should be first on your list. Join a divorced and separated support recovery group. Christian divorced and separated groups can provide you with a safe and confidential environment where you can talk with and get support from others who truly understand the pain that you are experiencing. You will also gain insight and get practical advice on how to heal and recover from real experts. In the Diocese of Pittsburgh, you can find a list of such groups at http://www.diopitt.org/education/supportgroups. htm or you can search online for “divorce recovery support.”
from divorce. So, the tips offered below are NOT quick fixes and healing from divorce is not a speedy process.
Tips for coping with and healing from divorce • Feelings of anger, loneliness and depression are normal and are often a result of the losses that accompany divorce. You need to identify your losses and grieve each of them. It’s not uncommon to experience many emotions of grief (e.g., confusion, anxiety, sorrow, resentment, rage, etc.) simultaneously. It’s also natural to be “ambushed by grief,” i.e., you think that you have grieved a loss and moved on, but then something reminds you of what you’ve lost and you feel grief once again. These feelings will lessen over time. • You should expect your spiritual, mental and physical energy levels to be diminished relative to the emotional energy you are expending. You can rebalance emotionally with the help of family (not your children!) and same-sex friends. Others can help you to stabilize emotionally by holding you accountable, encouraging you to get moving and by challenging the mythical thinking that divorced folks sometimes engage in (e.g., “I’m no good; no one loves me anymore”). You should also consider seeking professional counseling with a good Christian counselor. • Reset your expectations: you have to accept the fact that you are not superman/woman and that making progress may mean that you got the laundry folded. • God’s love is the one thing in your life that is unwavering and unconditional. Renew or develop your relationship with our Lord. Talk to him in prayer and be honest with him. He knows what you’re thinking, and he understands what it feels like to be abandoned and alone (Matthew 27:46). • Do NOT enter into a new, opposite-sex relationship. According to experts, entering into a new relationship too soon is a recipe for disaster. Right now, you need to take time to heal and to stabilize emotionally. If you’re an emotional mess, why would you want to bring this mess into a new relationship? Still don’t believe it? According to divorcerate.org, 67 percent of second and 74 percent of third marriages end in divorce. • Do NOT use your children as weapons. This means, among other things, that you should not use your children as informants or restrict their access to their mother or father. And, do NOT use your kids as your confidants. Stay involved in your kids’ lives and set an unwavering moral and ethical example for your children. Be forewarned: It may take decades for you to see the positive impacts that will result from these tips, but you will be glad that you stayed the course. • In order to fully heal, you will eventually need to forgive your ex-spouse. Understand that forgiveness is not an event; it’s a process. You have to will yourself to forgive. Your heart will follow
your mind. Remember, forgiveness is primarily for your benefit and forgiving the other person does
Healthy Spirit, Mind and Body 2011
Joy is a retired banker and member of SS. John and Paul Parish in Franklin Park/Marshall Township.
Pittsburgh Catholic Magazine 11
Wading through the pain of divorce By MARIANNE UFFELMAN It has been 20 years since my experience of separation, divorce and annulment. Less than two years ago, around Pentecost, I responded to a request in our church bulletin. It was a challenge from our new pastor to assess our God-given talents and abilities and to use those fruits of the Spirit to serve our church community. Supported by this energetic pastor, I became a Divorce Care leader, part of a special group of people whom God has chosen to minister to those suffering from the pain of separation and divorce. I have learned much through my experience and through the
A neighborhood nursing home full of quality, compassion and genuine friendliness.
Call or stop in for a tour! Specializing in: • Recuperation • Rehabilitation • Residential Living • Respite
800 Elsie Street, Turtle Creek, PA 15145
412-825-9000 www.lgar.org
12 Pittsburgh Catholic Magazine
sharing of the members of our Divorce Care groups. We expect to feel anger and sadness when we go through divorce; we are grieving the loss of life as we knew it. We may be surprised, however, by the sporadic highs and lows, anxiety to the point of panic, fear and loneliness. There are times when we don’t recognize ourselves because these emotions seem to take over our personalities. Through my own experience of divorce, I chose to embrace the truths and promises of Scripture. John 10:10 spoke to me, “I came to give you life and to give it most abundantly.” Whenever the anxiety and the fear of the unknown would take over, I would let my personal vision of the “abundant life” get me Talking to friends when we feel lonely. Findthrough each particular storm. I would then ing time for silence and solitude. Listening recite a litany about courage, starting with to music. All of these the death of Moses practical actions can when the Lord said help us realize that here are times when to Joshua, “Have we are called to be we don’t recognize I not commanded the body of Christ; you? Be strong and eventually we will feel ourselves because courageous. Do not called to reach out to these emotions seem be terrified, do not others who are feeling be discouraged, for pain. to take over our the Lord your God will The ongoing jourpersonalities. be with you wherever ney is from fear to you go.” trust. This faith and There are other trust in God is what practices that can help us through divorce. “the abundant life” is really all about. We must Journaling can be very powerful to healing. implement the elements of structure, comSimply write down the negative feelings and munity and purpose in our lives, and view this events that occur each day and find some- loss as an opportunity to redefine ourselves. thing positive in each day to record as well. We can do that if we draw closer to God. PerThis helps build a sacred consciousness by haps, in years to come, we can see that the helping us to observe and recognize our feel- divorce was the turning point that brought us ings, build a vocabulary for those feelings, see more deeply into the heart of Jesus, where the relationship between thoughts, feeling we can clearly see our own goodness and the and reactions, and we actually start to believe goodness of others. that all the people and events in our lives are intended to help us grow in character and Uffelman is a family therapist and addiction holiness. specialist with her own practice in Bridgeville. She is Simple exercise such as walking can help. a member of St. Bernard Parish in Mount Lebanon.
T
Healthy Spirit, Mind and Body 2011
Spiritual support: Praying ourselves through the day Never underestimate the power of prayer By FATHER SCOTT SEETHALER I hear one universal complaint from Catholics as I travel throughout the United States in my itinerant preaching ministry. With sadness, concern and remorse, people are saying, “I can’t find time to pray.” Most of them are quite sincere and would like to pray more. Their schedules are taking a toll on them. At the end of the day, they find that they have hardly communicated with God other than whispering “help” a few times. Finding time to pray is a real problem. It is the biggest challenge facing contemporary Catholics. Many people no longer pray the rosary and other devotional prayers. Very few Catholics can attend daily Mass. There is a vacuum in people’s lives. They are looking for ways to pray throughout the day, and yet are uneasy about praying prayers that are repetitious. I believe that most of us can pray
CNS file photo There is nothing special about prayer. We pray to stay in touch with God and to receive the blessings we need to remain faithful.
throughout the day. We don’t need a lot of books, time or quiet places. We can pray on the run.
Although there is no such thing as a typical day, there are certain similarities in all of our lives. My suggestions on how to pray throughout the day will revolve around these similarities. They are based on the maxim: “If you hem your day in with prayer, it is less likely to unravel.” Here is how we can fulfill Jesus’ desire that we pray throughout the day. • We begin with an act of faith. When the alarm goes off in the morning, our thoughts usually jump to the things we have to do that day. So before you lift your head off the pillow, say a prayer attributed to an old preacher: “God, help me to remember that nothing can happen to me today that you and I can’t handle.” • After you shower and begin to dress for the day, it would be helpful to say the serenity prayer, or at least the first three lines of it: God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to
See
PRAY on page 17
I NEED HELP TAKING CARE OF MOM! What Services Does SeniorLIFE Provide?
SeniorLIFE is a program designed speci�ically to sustain independence among seniors by coordinating and providing a comprehensive range of support services all through a single network. Our dedicated, quali�ied health professionals will get to know you personally and meet your individual needs.
SeniorLIFE Services Can Include:
*Physician Services *Home Care Services *Nursing *Medication Monitoring *Therapies *Meals & Nutritional Counseling *Transportation *Social Services & Counseling *NonEmergency services must be approved by SeniorLIFE.
To qualify, you must be 60 years of age or older and live in an area served by SeniorLIFE.
(724) 2225433 1877998LIFE Healthy Spirit, Mind and Body 2011
Call today to determine if you are �inancially eligible to receive services at no cost, are medically eligible and determine if you are able to be safely served in the place that you call home.
Tour our new stateoftheart LIFE Center, near The Wild Things ballpark, at 2114 N. Franklin Dr., in Washington! Serving Washington, Fayette and Greene Counties Transportation Provided!
Pittsburgh Catholic Magazine 13
My travel companion, my mother, my friend By PEGGY ZEZZA Airport security, traffic and delays develop the idea that traveling is a stressful activity. When traveling in North America and Europe, I have found those problems are forgotten as you travel and encounter new experiences in life. The Roman philosopher Seneca said, “Travel and change of place impart new vigor to the mind.” As you travel, you are making memories of happy times and peaceful moments. Fortunate for me, my memories are shared with another. One of my earliest memories was in 1993, my mother and I were traveling along the Pacific Coast Highway in California. A fellow traveler approached us and said, “It is so wonderful to see a mother and daughter traveling together. I wish I had that relationship with my daughter.” Since then I have appreciated more the times my mother and I traveled together. We were able to make a lifetime of memories and forge a relationship that is bonded in friendship.
The big cities We have found ourselves in many cities, like Chicago, San Francisco, Vancouver and more. Each had a unique flavor and way of life. In each city we sample the local cuisine, attend theaters, visit tourist sites listed in the travel books and shop for souvenirs. O n e o f o u r favo r i te cities is Seattle, for its relaxed atmosphere, the famous Pike’s Place market and being able to drink great cappuccino while admiring the beauty of the mountains that surround it. Boston was another favorite. It offers a combination of history and fun. We spent a day in the historic North End, where the city’s Little Italy is located. It is also known for its cannolis. Toronto is another great city and easy to get around because of the subway system. It boasts so many great restaurants and theaters that one trip is not enough to see everything.
Beauty of nature On our travels we have found the world has so much natural beauty to offer. To behold such sights is not only impressive, but it makes you take a moment to thank God for all he created. One particular memorable time was on my mother’s birthday, which found us sharing a bag lunch atop an outlook at the Grand Canyon’s southern rim. Its vastness is overwhelming. A ride on the Margaret Todd schooner at
14 Pittsburgh Catholic Magazine
sundown in Bar Harbor, Maine, was another memorable experience. To feel the peace of the water, while watching the sun set, was simply breathtaking. Visiting Alaska found us surrounded by natural beauty. For us, the most impressive time was cruising the Hubbard glacier, and the only sound you could hear was ice from the glacier breaking off into the water. A photograph could never capture the beauty of the reflection of the blue water against the ice.
Spiritual journeys
Our travels have brought us to some remarkable religious sites. We went twice to Quebec, Canada, and made sure to visit the Catholic shrine of St. Anne de Beaupre, located near Montmorency Falls, about 30 miles outside of Quebec City. There is so much to take in at this site, and many places for prayer and reflection. Aside from the main basilica, there is the modern Chapel of the Immaculate Conception, and the outside Way of the Cross. The reason for our visit was the Scala Santa (Holy Stairs), which is a replica of the staircase Jesus climbed to gain access to the pretorium of Pontius Pilate. Pilgrims venerate at each step. For us, the climb was in prayer for a dear friend suffering with cancer. A site we stumbled upon was St. Francis C hapel, located in Boston’s Prudential Center. We were able to pray in this spiritual oasis that rests in the middle of a busy tourist and business center. Of all the spiritual sites we visited, the one that tops the list — literally — was the Shrine of La Sallette, about 50 miles from Grenoble, France, where it is reported that the Virgin Mary appeared. The shrine is impressive in its location at an altitude of 6,000 feet in the Alps. My mother commented that it feels like you reached the top of the world.
Christmas shopping No trip is complete for us unless we bring home a souvenir Christmas ornament. One of our favorite shops was Kris Kringl in the town of Leavenworth, Wash., nestled in the Cascade mountain range. The quaint town of Niagara on the Lake in Ontario, Canada, has many shops, with Just Christmas being the standout. The ultimate Christmas store is Bronner’s Christmas Wonderland in the charming Bavarian town of Frankenmuth, Mich. The store advertises itself as the world’s largest Christmas store. Give yourself plenty of time for the visit, and have a cell phone handy, because we lost each other
Peggy and Regina Zezza stand in Harvard University’s Old Yard in Cambridge, Mass., where tourists touch the foot of John Harvard, the university’s first benefactor.
several times. Be sure to take time and visit the store’s “Silent Night” memorial chapel, a replica of the chapel in Oberndorf, Austria.
Fun places My mother and I share fond memories of enjoyable places we visited, including numerous trips to Walt Disney World and the Toronto Film Festival. The highlight would be a ride on Epcot’s Test Track. For my mother, it was a dream come true, having aspired to be a test-car driver for General Motors as a teen. Her smile from the thrill was something I will always remember. There are so many more stories to tell about the people we’ve met, fun times we’ve had and even times we got into trouble. A closet filled with travel albums and framed photographs throughout the house bring back the memories of quality time I’ve spent with my travel companion, my mother, my friend. Zezza is circulation manager and parish news coordinator of the Pittsburgh Catholic.
Healthy Spirit, Mind and Body 2011
C
M
Y
CM
MY
CY
CMY
K
Healthy Spirit, Mind and Body 2011
Pittsburgh Catholic Magazine 15
Why Mary is my spiritual guide By THOMAS RUTKOSKI
So with my bishop’s blessing, I went on the road for God! That introduced me to a third obstacle. As a photo journalist, I was somewhat accepted in my witnessing. I guess it was a novelty to have someone from the television industry come to a church and tell of how the Lord changed his life. But now I was proclaimed “Catholic evangelist!” When I told people of my new profession, they said, “You’re a what? A Catholic evangelist? Never heard of it!” So many times I would hear in the homilies at Mass that we were called to spread the word of God, but the instant reaction when I actually tried to do it was, “Yes, that is true. But don’t do it here.” I was not welcome. God knows that I was persistent. I did not take no for an answer. I went to any place that would let me speak and tell my story. Where they wouldn’t let me speak in their churches, I spoke in their hotels and city parks. And, at times, I spoke at Protestant facilities. Does that make me an apostle of light, an “Apostle of the Last Days?” Well, I am certainly tryCNS photo/Crosiers A mosaic of Mary is displayed in an outdoor chapel in Lourdes, France.
I
have consecrated my life to the Blessed Virgin Mary and to the Most Sacred Heart of Jesus through the St. Louis de Montfort consecration. I lay my life at her feet to be transformed, through her Immaculate Heart, into something pleasing to her Son. I commit myself to the school of Mary, God’s most perfect creation, that I may follow her example in being a more Godly person.
16 Pittsburgh Catholic Magazine
Do You Have Chronic Lower Back Pain?
ing to be brighter than I was before, and I do believe we are in the end times, as did the original apostles. Whatever I am, let God decide; let his will be done. I have consecrated my life to the Blessed Virgin Mary and to the Most Sacred Heart of Jesus through the St. Louis de Montfort consecration. I lay my life at her feet to be transformed, through her Immaculate Heart, into something pleasing to her Son. I commit myself to the school of Mary, God’s most perfect creation, that I may follow her example in being a more Godly person. To what is it God is calling me? Perfection! He is calling all of us to perfection. We are to get the plank out of our own eye and then work to help others get the speck out of theirs. Through this process, the Lord draws us to his perfection. Why is the world in such darkness? Because there are not enough people stepping forth to be light, Apostles of Light, and so the world grows dim. This article is excerpted from Rutkoski’s book, “Apostles of the Last Days,” published by Gospa Missions, 230 E. Main St., Evans City, Pa. 16033 (www.gospa.org). The author is founder and president of Gospa Missions.
WHAT DOES
Are You 65 Years Old or Older? If so . . . • Take part in one of two programs teaching health promotion or a special kind of meditation called mindfulness meditation, both taught by trained staff. • Participate in eight, 90-minute weekly sessions at the Center for Research on Health Care in Oakland. • Receive up to $275 plus cab fare or parking for your participation.
MEAN TO YOU? x x x x x x x
Finding a Job Recreational Activities Spiritual Growth Finding a New Hobby Exercising & Healthy Cooking New Assistive Technology Local Outings and More!
No Request is Too Small or Too Large!
• There is no cost to you. If you are interested, please call the research study at 412-586-9638.
This research study is being conducted at the University of Pittsburgh.
CALL 1-877-TO-LIV-WELL 1-877-865-4893 • TTY 412-371-6230 Visit www.LivingWellWithADisability.org
Healthy Spirit, Mind and Body 2011
PRAY
from page 13
change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference. I encourage families to bless each other as they depart for school, work and other duties. Making a little sign of the cross on each other’s forehead can be a source of strength and support. We never know if we will return home at the end of the day. Rather than worrying about our safety, we can bless each other as we leave the house. • As you prepare to leave in your car, I suggest that you pray before you start your engine. Bless yourself and say: “God, help me not to hurt anyone, and don’t let anyone hurt me.” • While you are at work, or shopping, at school, or waiting at the doctor’s office, you might pray: “Help me to act justly, love tenderly and walk humbly with my God” (Micah 6:8). • As we return to our homes after a long day, it is important to pray for patience. Things may have happened to us during the work or school day that have made us very upset. We are tempted to take out our frustrations on the ones we love.
• Eating together is a great time to give thanks. Everyone can thank God for big and small blessings. • As the evening draws to a close, we begin to clean up and prepare for bed. Say an act of contrition. Say it in front of a mirror. Look yourself in the eye and say you are sorry for your faults. • Finally, as you turn off the light, repeat the words Jesus said from the cross: “Father, into your hands I commend my spirit.” Let go of the day with all its burdens. There is nothing special about prayer. We pray to stay in touch with God and to receive the blessings we need to remain faithful. Praying ourselves through the day keeps us from being overwhelmed by our human condition. Some people are afraid that God is not pleased with their prayer life. That is not true. God is very pleased every time we take time to talk or listen to him. Especially when we are busy. God doesn’t want prayer to be a burden but a pleasure. St. Paul tells us in his Letter to the Ephesians what can happen if we become men and women of prayer. We will become filled with the utter fullness of God.
CNS file photo Praying ourselves through the day keeps us from being overwhelmed by our human condition. This article is excerpted from Father Scott’s book, “Pray Always and Never Lose Heart.” A Capuchin Franciscan, the author conducts retreats and often speaks publicly.
PITTSBURGH
2011 Wedding Catholic
Reserve your ad today. Become an essential part of their momentous occasion. Contact John Connolly
412.471.1253 Healthy Spirit, Mind and Body 2011
PITTSBU
8, 2 1-24
2:1 sis
sha ll
become one fesh.
en e
t he
Space is limited. 99
dt ...an
Guide
wo
G —
2011
Catholic RGH
Wedding G u
ide
Pittsburgh Catholic Magazine 17
18 Pittsburgh Catholic Magazine
Healthy Spirit, Mind and Body 2011
SPECIAL FEATURES FOR YOU SENIOR LIVING March 25, 2011 issue of the Pittsburgh Catholic
PARISH TRIDUUM & EASTER MASS SCHEDULE Apr il 15, 2011 issue of the Pittsburgh Catholic GUIDE TO SENIOR SERVICES End of Apr il CATHOLIC FAMILY LIFE MAGAZINE May 19, 2011 PARISH FESTIVALS/ FAMILY FUN GUIDE May 20, 2011 WEDDING GUIDE Last week of June
Healthy Spirit, Mind and Body 2011
Pittsburgh Catholic Magazine 19
my
saturday family
Hospitality ministry builds community unity by reaching out to others
Patrick Haver has directed the First Food and Friends program for the past 18 years. Photos by Chuck Austin
By JOHN FRANKO Patrick Haver wears a wide smile as he welcomes his guests. He springs from table to table, patting people on the back and exchanging quick stories. The things you do when you welcome your family to a meal. For the past 18 years, Haver has directed the First Food and Friends lunch for the needy on Saturdays at the First United Methodist Church of Pittsburgh in Shadyside. In that time, the lunch has been served every Saturday except one — the day after the February 2010 snowstorm that paralyzed the region. And Haver has been there every time. “To know that I’m responsible to make sure it happens is an onus of responsibility that I take very seriously,” he said. He performs the ministry in addition to his job as a senior inside sales manager at Gexpro on Pittsburgh’s South Side. Haver is compensated for his ministry work, but he pointed out that it goes far beyond a job. It is a passion. The name “First Friends” has a special meaning. “Over the years they have become my friends,” he said. “My Saturday family.” Haver is assisted by Ralph Jackson. First Food and Friends is operated by First Charities, Inc. It serves the neighborhoods of Pittsburgh’s East End, including Bloomfield, Garfield, Lawrenceville, Shadyside, the Hill District, East Liberty and Morningside. Some 6,860 meals were served last year, an average of 131 people a week. It is the only program to provide Saturday meals in the city’s
20 Pittsburgh Catholic Magazine
East End. The First United Methodist Church of Pittsburgh provides pantry storage space and refrigeration, kitchen, utilities and dining space at no cost. A few groups bring their own food, but most is purchased by Haver and Jackson. It comes from a variety of sources. The bulk of it comes from the Greater Pittsburgh Community Food Bank in Duquesne. The ministry also benefits from donations from various churches, Giant Eagle, a community development block fund
“It’s essential to me that we serve one person one meal so that they know the meal was made for them.”
— Patrick Haver
grant from the city of Pittsburgh and individual contributions. On this day, Stefani Pastor, a teacher and campus minister at SetonLaSalle High School, has brought seven students from its Rebels Reach Out service group. The group helps out at the lunch once or twice a month. It is important, she said, that the students have the opportunity to not only serve meals but to “serve” people.
Healthy Spirit, Mind and Body 2011
“It’s a completely different experience,” she said. “The students really have the opportunity to meet them face-to-face.” All of the students from the Mount Lebanon school have served at the lunch before. They pointed out that the experience was different — and better — than they had expected. “They’re really nice and appreciative,” said sophomore Amanda Soltis, of those they serve. As Haver led a brief prayer before the meal, Pastor reflected on how Haver’s energy drives the gathering. “He doesn’t know how to treat people, except with love,” she said. “He is a completely loving individual.” Mark Lutz, youth minister at New Life Christian Ministries in Saxonburg, led a group of about a dozen teens. He pointed out that the opportunity for them to serve people from many faiths and backgrounds was a profound lesson in service to those in need. “It helps them (teens) grasp a stronger feel for what the kingdom of God is all about,” he said. “They’re here to serve others, not serve themselves.” Lutz shook his head as he watched Haver bound around the hall. “He has a heart for this,” he said. “You couldn’t do it for Seton-LaSalle students, from left, Brian Siegfried, Maria Sporcic, Emily Columbus and as long as he has without a heart for it, and a passion, and Amanda Soltis make sausage patties for the meal. a drive and a love for people.” As a member of St. Elizabeth of Hungary in Pleasant meal was made for them,” he said. Hills, Haver reflects the non-denominational flavor of the In recalling how one ministry. He noted that the experience of serving in “God’s kitchen” helps break down barriers of background, race and age for those not woman reminds him that this is the only place she familiar with inner-city life. But with the poor economy, he said, young people are much more ever gets waited on, he aware of the needs of the poor. They know that even if they cannot give added, “That is purpose alone right there.” money, they can give their time. Blood pressure “That is what I need,” he said. “Volunteers and their hands mean more screenings and referrals than if someone gave me money.” Haver point- for basic health services ed out that it are offered monthly i s i m p o r t a n t by professionals from that guests are First United Methodist m a d e t o fe e l Church of Pittsburgh. Volunteer support special and that t h e y m a k e a from individuals, church work teams, youth difference. It would be groups, youth sports easy, he noted, teams and university stufor the servers dents is always welcome. For more informato bring out plates two at a tion on First Food and time, but they Friends, or to volunare instructed teer, call 412-580-1522. t o b r i n g o u t Individual donations are a lifeblood to the only one. Danielle Schultz of Seton-LaSalle High “It’s essential ministry. They may be School prepares eggs for the meal. t o m e t h a t made to: First Chariwe serve one ties, Inc., 5401 Centre p e r s o n o n e Avenue, Pittsburgh, Pa. 15232-1621. Students discover there is plenty to do when they sign meal so that up to help for the lunch on Saturday. they know the Franko is staff writer for the Pittsburgh Catholic.
Healthy Spirit, Mind and Body 2011
Pittsburgh Catholic Magazine 21
ARE YOU 60 OR OLDER?
ARE YOU A GOOD SLEEPER?
CNS file photo Student members of the Catholic campus ministry at Columbia University in New York raise their arms in prayer during a rally for seminarians and young people.
do not have trouble sleeping
g n o r t s h t i a f g n i e g e l l Keep o c g n i r u d can help By LINDA DONOVAN
For more information, please call, toll free, 1-866-647-8283.
22 Pittsburgh Catholic Magazine
Entering college is a time of transition where students move from the safe world of the family home to the exciting, yet unknown world of new friends, new freedoms and new experiences. There are daily choices to make without parental advice or supervision. Since so many things begin to change, it is important for young adults making this transition to practice their faith. Keeping strong connections to one’s faith tradition can be the one sure thing a college student can depend on when so many other things associated with their lives are changing. It can make all the difference in making the transition easy or making it more difficult. College can actually be a time of great spiritual growth. Students are strongly encouraged to seek a faith-based group that suits their individual needs. Those enrolled at secular universities will find campus ministry or Newman Centers offering Scripture studies, small faith-sharing communities and service opportunities to put their faith into action. Catholic colleges are especially rich in providing students with everyday opportunities for liturgy and liturgical ministries. I asked some students to share why keeping faith in college was important for them:
Alex, a junior health management major said: “College is a crucial time in our lives when we place particular significance on discerning what the mission is that God has given us. Keeping our faith helps us to stay centered on Christ, who is our center, and to keep our focus on our ultimate goal — building his kingdom on earth, and one day, entering his kingdom in heaven.” Elle, a sophomore majoring in international relations: “I think it’s always important to have faith, not just in college, but I think that during some periods in our life we turn to our faith more often than others. College may be one of these periods. College is a big adjustment for everyone. You’re leaving home, academics may be more difficult, you need to make new friends, adjust to new routines, etc. But most of all, I think college is a time where we all grow. Now, more than ever, we try to define ourselves and figure out who we really are, what choices am I going to make in life, what views do I have, what do I support, what do I not support? When searching for oneself, one is also searching for God because God is a part of each and every one of us. What we choose to believe in has an impact on who we are and who we become. College, I think, is for many that crucial time in which we decide who we really are, and faith is important to have when we do that.” Emily, a sophomore chemistry major: “College
Healthy Spirit, Mind and Body 2011
is a time where you begin to live on your own and face different challenges for the first time, so it is important to hold on to your faith, not only to get you through those times, but to practice living out what you believe. “ Mary, a sophomore math education major: “College is the first time people really have the chance to live on their own and make important decisions for themselves. I believe that religion is one of these important decisions. Many people may have followed the religion of their parents as they grew up, but once they are in college they have to make the decision to continue it on their own. I choose to continue my faith because there are a lot of temptations in college and I don’t think I could resist all of them if I didn’t have a strong faith background to hold on to. I would much rather have this faith when I face a crisis than be without it.” God works through students like these who know the importance of keeping faith strong, and students like these can be an inspiration to their friends. From my perspective, when students on college campuses are confronted with a multitude of world views and opinions, new social situations and different lifestyles along with a tough schedule of academics — a strong faith in God is necessary preparation for their future as well as
CNS file photo Catholic colleges are especially rich in providing students with everyday opportunities for liturgy and liturgical ministries.
the guidance, comfort, strength and the spirit that nourishes their soul and their life.
Donovan is a campus minister at Duquesne University.
DUQUESNE UNIVERSITY Center for Healthcare Ethics MCANULTY COLLEGE AND GRADUATE SCHOOL OF LIBERAL ARTS
The David F. Kelly Bioethics Lectures presents
The David F. Kelly Bioethics Lectures The David F. Kelly Bioethics Lectures invites nationally and internationally prominent scholars to lecture at Duquesne University each fall and spring semester on current and emerging topics in bioethics. The purpose of the series is to provide ethics leadership on the crucial issues in health care today. For more information, contact Glory Smith at 412.396.4504 or visit www.duq.edu/chce
Healthy Spirit, Mind and Body 2011
¸4LKPJHS ,[OPJZ PU HU ,YH VM )PVL[OPJZ¹ Thursday, April 28, 2011 | 1:00 p.m. Power Center Ballroom
Edmund Pellegrino, MD
Professor Emeritus of Medicine and Medical Ethics, Center for Clinical Medical Ethics, Georgetown University Medical Center
>>> +<8 ,+< */*, Pittsburgh Catholic Magazine 23
iscover your St. Joe�s
Saint Joseph High School
Achieve Academic Excellence Earn Up To 39 College Credits Prepare For The Future Take Courses in Robotics, Web-Design & Chinese Explore New Opportunities Participate in Art, Athletics & Co-Curricular Activities Join us for a tour or visit for a day and “Discover Your St. Joe’s” Contact the Admissions Office at
724-226-4932 Makeup Placement Test Saturday May 7th, 9:00 a.m.-12:00 p.m. Call to schedule your Shadow Day
800 Montana Avenue Natrona Heights, Pennsylvania 15065-2094 724.224.5552 (tel) • 724.224.3205 (fax)
www.saintjosephhs.com 24 Pittsburgh Catholic Magazine
Parents must manage kids’ use of Internet and social media By MIKE CLARK “Daddy, what was your screen name when you were a kid?” That’s what my daughter asked me a few years ago when she was creating her first e-mail account with me. I explained to her that Daddy didn’t have a screen name when he was a kid because there were no computers and no Internet when Daddy was a kid. She thought I was pulling her leg, of course, and went screaming to her Mom, saying that I was teasing her by not telling her my childhood screen name. Danielle and I can joke about that now. She knows that I am old. But in all honesty, there is a lot about our brave new world that scares me to death. Our lives are filled with screen names, passwords, social media websites and online commerce. And just like in the real world of good guys and bad guys who we can see — there are countless good guys and bad guys online. The frightening thing about the bad guys who are online: we can’t see them targeting us. And preying on our children. Online security is a hot topic in the news. People are getting ripped off every day by identity thieves, who steal users’ passwords and drain their bank accounts. Other crooks steal credit information and charge thousands of dollars on their victims’ cards, or open new accounts with their personal information. There are plenty of horror stories where families’ financial lives are ruined. There are also people falling victim to fraudulent businesses. Consumers are going online to buy products, only to find they are on a bogus website, buying knock-offs and other fake items, or no items at all. Even worse than financial loss is the loss of innocence and the crimes against children. The story of the Pittsburgh-area girl who was taken away with a man she met online is a chilling reminder of how quickly and easily predators can take our children right from our homes. Nine years ago, Alicia Kozakiewicz was a teenager who was taken to Virginia, tortured and held captive by a man she met online. The young victim was rescued from her abductor and has become a powerful spokeswoman on Internet dangers, teaching kids and their parents how to stay safe. She has testified before Congress, asking for severe penalties for online predators. That’s why parents and their children have to come together to form a prevention plan and adapt to our rapidly changing information technology that can cause pain and loss in families. This is not the time to fall asleep and
CNS photo by Martin Lueder The story of the Pittsburgh-area girl who was taken by a man she met online is a chilling reminder of how quickly and easily predators can take our children right from our homes.
simply think that firewalls and software programs alone can protect our kids. We have to ensure we have a mutual respect about the privileges of having our kids taking part in our cyber society. We have to respect their world of participation. They have to respect our rules and regulations. And make no mistake about it, we parents rule their cyber participation. I like what first lady Michelle Obama said recently about why her daughters do not have a Facebook page: “They don’t need one,” she said. Period, end of discussion. Well, even though we don’t have teams of Secret Service agents backing us up, we have to have that kind of resolve and choose for ourselves when to allow our kids to enter into social media participation. Be strong. You only have one chance at this parent job. Go with your gut, and make rules to guide their way. Limit the hours when they go online. Make sure they know we can check up on what they’re doing online at any time, who they’re talking to, texting, tweeting, friending, Skyping, etc. Don’t be their wishy-washy friend and give them unfettered access. Be their parent and make sure they stay inside your wellestablished guidelines. In addition to the safety aspects and crime
Healthy Spirit, Mind and Body 2011
prevention, there is another broad reason to team with our children when it comes to the Internet. The spiritual side. We are on a journey with our children 24/7. The Internet is one of the many interesting parts of our journey with our kids. Media sites, music, movies, Youtube videos, interactive games ... they all attract our kids’ attention. The media blitz can get in the way of our journey as Christian moms and dads, leading them to follow the path of Christ. The Internet provides us a great opportunity to point our young boys and girls to a stronger relationship with Jesus, helping to bring them closer to God. Culture and society is always changing. What will always remain the same in a Christian family is how parents are called to live holy lives and encourage their children to strive to do the same. It is the same call to discipleship Jesus offered to his friends. What a powerful tool we have in the Internet. Pope John Paul II knew how social communications can transform the world. He traveled to every corner of the earth, proclaiming the Gospel messages of faith, hope and love. And what he taught us about spreading peace through telecommunications, we can offer our children similar opportunities by using the Internet to deepen our knowledge of the Gospel and the
CNS photo/Nancy Wiechec Social media and the church was a topic of discussion during the U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishops fall meeting last year.
teachings of Christ. The Vatican, as far back as the early 1970s, stated that social media are “gifts from God” because of the potential to unite people, helping them to cooperate with God’s plan for their salvation. I guess that’s why the Holy See just approved the new app for confessions. Not to replace the priest in a confessional, but to meet people where they are in this world. The bridge
that Pope John Paul talked about, where faith and culture intersect. This new computer application gives us a helpful tool to prepare to make a thoughtful, reflective confession. Again, to strive to live a holy life in order to achieve salvation. One year before he died, John Paul called the Internet a risk and a richness for families. In our duties as parents, we will be wise to look at the Internet in the same ways. The Holy Father said, “People grow or diminish in moral stature by the words which they speak and the messages which they choose to hear.” As we continue to adapt to the high-tech tools, and keep up with our children, may we continue to be guided by words that bring us all as one family in Christ into a closer relationship with God our Father. I will end my thoughts with this final sentence from John Paul’s message on World Communications Day in 2004: “... may families always be able to find in the media a source of support, encouragement and inspiration as they strive to live as a community of life and love, to train young people in sound moral values, and to advance a culture of solidarity, freedom and peace.” Amen. Clark is a morning television anchor for WTAE-TV in Pittsburgh.
IT’S HARD TO PREPARE FOR THE FUTURE USING TOOLS FROM THE PAST. At Seton Hill University, we believe a 21st century education requires 21st century resources. That’s why all first-year undergrad students receive an iPad and 13” MacBook Pro laptop as part of our Griffin Technology Advantage. The initiative gives students high-speed Internet access, blanket Wi-Fi coverage, on-campus Apple support and faculty trained in the use of advanced technologies. It’s just one of the ways we’re using real world technology to prepare our students for, well, the real world. To learn more, visit setonhill.edu.
Healthy Spirit, Mind and Body 2011
Pittsburgh Catholic Magazine 25
Dad’s example influenced son’s faith
By FRANK BALESTRIERI
O
ver the past few years or so in the Catholic Church, there has been a movement to get men more involved in our faith, and in the development of the children in the church. One of the examples of this in the Pittsburgh area is the Catholic Men’s Fellowship meeting held every spring at the Palumbo Center at Duquesne University. In my family, this was never a problem. My dad, Mario Balestrieri, did not sit out our
B
Special Care...Making Life Easier
Care Solutions
of Pittsburgh, Inc.
We’re here for your comfort at home.
412-341-7780 www.caresolutionspgh.com
26 Pittsburgh Catholic Magazine
s )N (OME #OMPANION #ARE
ut he was not satisfied in just being there. Some of my earliest memories were sitting in the choir loft at Mary Immaculate Church watching him sing in the choir.
s -EAL 0REPARATION s 0ERSONAL #ARE s ,IGHT (OUSEKEEPING s 'ROCERY 3HOPPING s 2ESPITE 2ELIEF &OR &AMILY s !CCOMPANY 4O !PPOINTMENTS
religious upbringing. Along with my mother, my dad was with us in church every Sunday. But he was not satisfied in just being there. Some of my earliest memories were sitting in the choir loft at Mary Immaculate Church watching him sing in the choir. He was also an active member of the Holy Name Society. When it came time for me to start school, we joined Nativity Parish, now
Healthy Spirit, Mind and Body 2011
part of Incarnation of the Lord Parish on Pittsburgh’s North Side. Again, my dad joined the choir. My mother would sit in the pews with my sisters, Mary and Rosalia, while I again was allowed to sit in the loft with Dad. My dad was also a member of the Men’s Club. When the choir did not sing, my dad would often usher. The 1960s was a time of growth and change for the Catholic Church. With the changes in the Mass, a new ministry was started, that of the lector. My dad was in the first group of church members to be chosen. The only microphone available was in the choir loft. Whenever my dad would read, I again was allowed to go with him to the loft. As I got older and entered the fifth grade, there was a chance to join the Boy’s Choir. Most of my life I always saw my dad in a church choir. Me joining the choir just
seemed to be the thing to do. The real highlight was that at Easter and Christmas, the two choirs would join to sing together at the midnight Mass. I was now participating with him. My dad also was a 50-year retreatant at St. Paul of the Cross Retreat Center on Pittsburgh’s South Side. I remember as a young boy him coming home Sunday afternoon from his retreat. He always brought back books about saints for my sister and me. My own interest and devotion to the saints comes from these books. In later years, I also became a retreatant. With my father’s encouragement, I have become active in retreat promotions. In later years, my father would lead the Miraculous Medal novena at our parish each Tuesday night. As he got older and his health began to fail, he had to give up lectoring and singing in the
choir. One day while taking him for a haircut, he mentioned that he hated that his health kept him from being active in the church. I told him not to worry, that I would continue in his footsteps. He seemed pleased. Whenever people ask me why I am now as involved in the church, I simply say, my dad would expect nothing else. Balestrieri is on the promotion committee for St. Paul of the Cross Monastery and retreatant volunteer.
J. Mark Prybyl, DDS Cosmetic and Family Dentistry
“DENTIST WITH THE ANGEL’S TOUCH” USES MODERN TECHNOLOGY FOR PAIN-FREE DENTISTRY Selected as one of Pittsburgh Magazine’s Top Dentists 2007, 2008, 2009 and 2010 Included in “Guide to America’s Top Dentists” by the Consumers’ Research Council of America, 2011
11676 Perry Highway, Suite 1202 Wexford, PA 15090 Phone: 724-935-0160 www.prybyldds.com Emergencies accepted. Conveniently located at the corner of Route 910 & Route19 Healthy Spirit, Mind and Body 2011
Pittsburgh Catholic Magazine 27
CNS file photo In a world that ties personal achievement to human value, it’s important to step away once in awhile and give control back to God.
Retreating to move your life forward
O
By JACK MILLER
nce each year, from 1979 to 1992, a good friend invited me to attend our parish retreat, and each year I’d tell him that when the retreat center got a TV I’d reconsider attending. It didn’t help that the parish retreat was on Super Bowl weekend. Then, on a Friday late in 1992, I lost my job. Suddenly, I wasn’t in control. The next day, that same friend was at Mass and once again invited me to join him on retreat, admitting that there was still no TV at the retreat center. I attended that retreat and it changed my life.
28 Pittsburgh Catholic Magazine
That year, I was one of 15 men from Nativity of Our Lord Parish who traveled to St. Paul of the Cross Retreat Center on Pittsburgh’s South Side to join men from several other northern parishes. Upon arrival late on Friday, we were welcomed by a greeter and given the weekend schedule. Mass was then followed by dinner and a conference for first-time attendees. One of the great things about a retreat is that you don’t have to do anything. While conferences are offered on a variety of subjects, and numerous opportunities are presented for prayer and the sacraments, the weekend is really about getting closer to God. What I learned during that first retreat included: • 150 men with poor voices sounded beautiful when singing together; • My problems were insignificant
compared to others’ struggles; • Christ was present in each person who I encountered there; • Control is best handed over to God if you want to lead a peace-filled life. • Listening to God is a lot more effective than praying at him; and • Meaningful prayer is developed over time. Since that first retreat nearly 20 years ago, I have attended with my father and son. The attendees from other parishes have become like extended family. I have been guided through personal and family tragedies and enriched by the gifts God has shared with me through retreat staff and attendees. Perhaps the most touching part of the retreat is the final reflection session where those willing reflect on the impact the weekend has had on them. The most
Healthy Spirit, Mind and Body 2011
CNS file photo Perhaps the most touching part of the retreat is the final reflection session where those willing reflect on the impact the weekend has had on them.
Miller is a member of Incarnation of the Lord Parish. He has attended every annual parish retreat at St. Paul of the Cross Retreat Center since 1993. He credits those retreats with helping him discern a call to the permanent diaconate. He is scheduled to be ordained in June.
memorable reflection came one year when a man got up and told us he had purchased a gun a week earlier with the intention of taking his own life, but the retreat had given him hope. In a world that ties personal achievement to human value, it’s important to step away once in awhile and give control back to God. It is only then that we recognize that our value comes in being made in his image and likeness, not in how much money we make or how many employees are under our control. What a fool I was thinking television had more to offer than a retreat. Spending time
T
he most memorable reflection came one year when a man got up and told us he had purchased a gun a week earlier with the intention of taking his own life, but the retreat had given him hope. with God changed my life and it can change yours. All you have to do is say “yes” when you receive your invitation to attend. By the way, while a retreat center will request a donation to cover the cost of the meals and housing for the weekend, everyone is welcome regardless of their ability to pay.
Healthy Spirit, Mind and Body 2011
My
Home Sweet Home The Community LIFE Program will be a bridge between, and a resource to traditional and new forms of health care, by becoming a model provider of comprehensive health and social services, integrated acute and long-term geriatric care, and coordinated, person-centered services. ¾ Prescriptions & Medications (at no additional costs) ¾ Transportation ¾ Specialist Services ¾ Primary Medical Care ¾ Podiatry ¾ Audiology/Hearing ¾ Lab Tests/Radiology ¾ Dentistry/Optometry ¾ Physical & Occupational Therapy
Call - you’ll be glad you did!
Contact us at
1-866-419-1693 www.commlife.org
Pittsburgh Catholic Magazine 29
Music of passion at a Passionist retreat center By HENRY CARUSO In no higher sense does music carry out its purpose, perhaps its mission, than musicâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s role in church music: Giving praise to God with music. This statement is not to undermine musicâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s other roles in fun, recreation, dance, therapy and other secular events and celebrations. But sacred music is where music finds its highest purpose and passion. This passion, realized through the millennia by the many Psalms written, as well as other scriptural references that directly point to music. Both in singing hymns and other inspired songs we should, in fact, â&#x20AC;&#x153;praise him with timbral and dance.â&#x20AC;? Pastoral music has also been guided through the years by the churchâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s documents. The 1975 â&#x20AC;&#x153;Music
in Catholic Worshipâ&#x20AC;? and its revisions, as well as the 2007 document â&#x20AC;&#x153;Sing to the Lord,â&#x20AC;? are well thought out statements and convictions of music stating its role in Catholic worship. The Congregation for Divine Worship said, â&#x20AC;&#x153;No less role does music have than to assist the assembly, the worshipping body, and the community of Christ toward a path of full, conscious and active celebration.â&#x20AC;? Yes, celebration â&#x20AC;&#x201D; dignified, sacred celebration. Music on the South Side Slopes, both at the monastery and retreat center, would not reach its passion without the enthusiasm and cooperation of retreatants and the weekly church-going community of the monastery. I receive both gifts in every retreat that I and my ensembles accompany. We often raise the roof, and not with sheer volume.
Henry Caruso believes sacred music is where music finds its highest purpose and passion.
Passionate music, well practiced, rehearsed music with the assembly, is integral in the liturgy, never meant to be icing on the liturgical cake. Our sacred music practice is built right into the retreat schedule. And this assists retreatants at St. Paul of
Brrrâ&#x20AC;Ś
Think summer all year long Conley Resort
Indoor Pool & Pirateâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Cove Waterpark t 5XP 4MJEFT t 4IBMMPX 1PPM
t 4BVOB BOE )PU 5VC t 1BSUZ 3PPN XJUI (BNFT BOE 4OBDLT
Open Year Round ! Perfect for Birthday Parties and Weekend Getaways!
,)% E^iihWjg\] GY GdjiZ - Â&#x2122; 7jiaZg! E6 &+%%'
724-586-7711 t t XXX DPOMFZSFTPSU DPN 30 Pittsburgh Catholic Magazine
T
his passionate expression can be reached, perhaps deepest, by human musical effort and the grace that truly gives music its â&#x20AC;&#x153;pride of placeâ&#x20AC;? in Catholic Liturgy. the Cross to form a unified chorus in spoken dialogue and the many opportunities we are blessed to sing in our Catholic Mass. This passionate expression can be reached, perhaps deepest, by human musical effort and the grace that truly gives music its â&#x20AC;&#x153;pride of placeâ&#x20AC;? in Catholic liturgy. To God be all the glory and honor that our lives and music can bring him. Caruso is music director at the St. Paul of the Cross Retreat Center on Pittsburghâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s South Side. He and his wife, Christine, are co-owners of Carusoâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Music Store in Carrick. Christine manages the store.
Healthy Spirit, Mind and Body 2011
Euthanasia and bioethics: The real questions revolve around a ‘good death’ By DR. HENK TEN HAVE Euthanasia meant an easy, quick and painless death, frequently associated with falling asleep in ancient Greek culture. Medical intervention was not needed, and little was available then. Nowadays, euthanasia has a different meaning: the ending of somebody’s life at his or her request. There are two possibilities of medical intervention: euthanasia, the active administration of the lethal drug by a physician, and assisted suicide, with the physician prescribing the drug but the patient deciding when and where the lethal drug will be taken. All of us will confront the issue of euthanasia. We all will die. Death can be painful, with unbearable suffering and in undignified circumstances. At the same time, we want to use all possibilities for treatment, so medical interventions continue until the last moment. However, medicine can go too far in trying to postpone death. Because of anxiety about painful dying, the issue of euthanasia has emerged. People want more control over their last stage of life. So euthanasia is a real issue — but it is the wrong answer to the universal problem of how to have a good death. Euthanasia assumes that we can fully control and manage death. Euthanasia involves a confrontation between two ethical traditions: the liberal tradition of the right to die and the religious-oriented tradition that life is given by God and cannot be taken away by humans. The liberal tradition argues that if medicine and modern technology save lives, patients should also be allowed to actively end their lives. This perspective sees the individual patients as the owners and masters of their lives. The tradition based upon religious belief such as Christianity deems that life should be preserved even at the price of suffering. Human life has an intrinsic value, and suffering may have meaning. This tradition focuses on the moral principle of dignity of life. Life is bestowed upon people and they have stewardship over it. We should, therefore, try to preserve human life if medically possible. Still, medical intervention has clear limits. Some values are higher than human life. Sometimes, medical treatment can cause more harm than benefit and will not result in improvement. For example, artificial ventilation only prolongs death. Disconnecting mechanical support means accepting that the patient is dying. We are not killing the patient. We end the intervention that is delaying death. It is not unjustifiably ending life
but justifiably ending futile treatment. It is also justifiable to alleviate pain and suffering, knowing that medication may shorten the patient’s life. It is, however, never allowed to actively and intentionally end a human life. The question of how to have a good death has different answers. One is to stop medical interventions when they no longer contribute to improving the patient’s condition but merely prolong the dying process. Another is to provide palliative and hospice care, improving the quality of life in its final stages. With present pain management, nobody needs to suffer unbearably. By paying attention to physical symptoms and the patient’s psychological, social and
Healthy Spirit, Mind and Body 2011
spiritual needs, palliative medicine may help avoid the perceived need for euthanasia. Instead of discussing euthanasia, we should address the problem of a good death — especially for people of faith, for whom death brings the patient to God. Have is director of the Center for Healthcare Ethics at Duquesne University, and is a physician and philosopher with an international reputation. He most recently served as director of the United Nations Educational, Scientific and Cultural Organization’s Division of Ethics of Science and Technology.
The Catholic Funeral Plan™ The Secure, Sensible Choice for the Future
What is the Catholic Funeral Plan™? It is a faith-based planning alternative for Catholic families who wish to make the decisions about their funeral ahead of time. The planning assures that your decision will be carried out in the manner you requested and in the Catholic tradition.
The Catholic Funeral Plan™ Difference. Unlike other plans, you maintain control of your money and know where it is until it is needed for your funeral. You choose the funeral home. Payment is made only when the funeral is delivered. The choices you make today can be changed at anytime without penalty or obligation. Before you pay for your funeral, find out more about the advantages of the Catholic Funeral Plan™. “We now have peace of mind knowing our wishes will be carried out the Catholic way, and our family will not be burdened with these decisions in the future!”
To receive a free copy of the pre-planning guide, Call 877-886-7526 or visit us online at www.cfppgh.com Mail to: The Catholic Family Security Association, 2201 Babcock Blvd., Pittsburgh, PA 15237 Yes . . . with no obligation I would like to receive information about the advantages of the plan and receive my free copy of the NEW Catholic Emergency Record File. Name ______________________________________ Phone ________________ Street ____________________________________________________________ City __________________________ State __________ Zip __________________ Email
____________________________________________________________
PCMAG-3.11
Pittsburgh Catholic Magazine 31
Illustrated by David Pegher
An encounter with By PHIL TAYLOR It was an unusually sunny day for late winter, fortunately with no snow. I was preparing to leave my former hometown of Lexington, Ky., and head back to the ’Burgh, where my wife and then-pee-wee daughter were waiting for me. My brothers and I pulled into a small gas station. I was driving my wife’s car. It was deliberately willed to her by her father, Jack. It was understood before he left this Earth that he didn’t want just anyone fooling
32 Pittsburgh Catholic Magazine
around with his wheels. He knew she would take good care of the car — or at least her
I
n my mind I could see him poring over the computer visiting hate-filled anti-Semitic websites. What a sickening thought.
husband would. As I pulled into the small station, a man in his late 50s greeted us. He was stocky, his gray hair styled in a buzz cut. “How you doin’, boss?” he asked with a crisp Southern accent. “Fine,” I said. “Caddy, huh boss?” “Yep,” I said. “Can you fill her up?” “Sure, boss,” he responded, making his way to the back of the car, making note of my license plate. “Pennsylvania, huh boss?”
Healthy Spirit, Mind and Body 2011
“Right,” I said. It then occurred to me that he might take me for someone from up East. Aware of my surroundings, I quickly dropped my practiced general American speech, reverting back to my Southern roots. “I’m a homeboy ... born right on Montgomery Street.” That seemed to slow him down a bit. “Where in Pennsylvania, boss?” he said with renewed curiosity as he started filling the tank. “Pittsburgh! Steelers country!” I proudly piped up. “Pittsburgh, boss?” He then paused for a short while in thought. His next question was truly a surprise. “Lots of Jews in Pittsburgh, huh boss?” This time I slowed down a bit. What was he getting at? I quickly made a decision to carefully weigh my response to his unusual question. “Yes, we have a sizable Jewish community in Pittsburgh.” He sucked in his teeth, and with a sizable smirk said, “Is that right, boss?” I nodded my head. “Yes sir, we sure do.” Our encounter was over — in more ways
than one. I paid him and he politely wished me a good day. As we pulled out, I told my brothers of the encounter. It didn’t take long for us to all agree the man was an unabashed bigot.
D
iseases of the soul are more dangerous and more numerous than those of the body.
—Cicero
In my mind I could see him poring over the computer visiting hate-filled anti-Semitic websites. What a sickening thought. Can racism make you ill? Worry, jealousy, hate, ill will, grudges, vindictiveness, resentment, depression, anxiety and guilt — ouch! They all have a negative effect on your health. They are
Healthy Spirit, Mind and Body 2011
proven gateways to sickness and disease. Dean Ornish wrote in Newsweek (2008) in an article titled “The Toxic Power of Racism”: “All divisions are man-made. In an era in which war and terrorism — at home and abroad — are often based on racial, religious and ethnic differences, rediscovering the wisdom of love and compassion may help us increase our survival at a time when an increasingly divided country and world so badly need it.” As the miles gave way before us, I thought of that disgusting creep giving out-oftowners — my Lexington — a bad rap. In fairness to the city, just maybe he was something of an anomaly. He probably had no idea how humanity is connected so intricately on so many different levels. It wasn’t long, however, before my anger gave way to feelings of pity. What a living, sad commentary he was of things that are wrong with the world. “Boss,” I thought, I bet you’re just totally clueless. Taylor is an associate editor of the Pittsburgh Catholic.
Pittsburgh Catholic Magazine 33
The real but unseen
POWER of
spirituality
By DR. KURT WEISS While on retreat at St. Paul’s Monastery on Pittsburgh’s South Side, I was approached to share some thoughts about spirituality and healing. Specifically, I was asked to address the importance of spirituality in the healing process. Immediately, I felt a strange mixture of authority and inadequacy. On one hand, I possess a fair amount of experience in human suffering, both my own and that of others. I am a cancer survivor and lost my right leg due to complications from bone cancer. I have sustained numerous other physical, mental and spiritual amputations along the way, the scars of which are variably obvious. Additionally, I am an orthopaedic oncologist, which is an orthopaedic surgeon who specializes in the treatment of cancer on and around the skeleton. There is no shortage of suffering in my office. On the other hand, I am not a philosopher and certainly no theologian. Sure, I am the grateful recipient of a Catholic education, having been taught by the Benedictine nuns at St. Teresa in Perrysville. I completed the required CCD classes in high school and fulfilled my obligatory six credits of theology at Notre Dame where I majored in premed and history. These are hardly the credentials of a spiritual literatus. So here goes nothin’. I think it is logical to begin with some observations on sickness and physical suffering.
34 Pittsburgh Catholic Magazine
My personal and professional experiences have taught me that medical problems are an unavoidable aspect of being human. Sickness comes to us all at one time or another, despite our best efforts to take care of ourselves and live healthy lifestyles. Sooner or later, even a
P
erhaps the greatest benefit of a spiritual life in the face of sickness is hope. As far as I’m concerned, hope is more powerful than any chemotherapy, radiation, or even a well-done operation. Ferrari is going to break down. Hardships seem to arrive with little or no warning and at the least convenient times. Cancer, in particular, is never a welcome guest. Oftentimes my patients, regardless of their spiritual heritage, immediately look for answers. “How could this have happened?” Or in the case of shocked parents, “What did we do wrong? Should we have brought our child in
sooner?” All are reasonable, intelligent questions. Unfortunately, I seldom possess the answers that my patients and their families desire. Part of my professional life is spent in research. I direct a molecular/cell biology laboratory wherein I try to unravel the process of metastasis, which occurs when cancer cells leave one part of the body and migrate to another location. Despite all the breakthroughs in medicine and science that have occurred over the past decade, what we know is vastly overshadowed by the mysteries that continue to elude us. Often the most honest answer to patients and their families is that there is no answer. I can only offer the assurance that they have not done anything to cause their loved one’s sickness, and I pray that they believe me. As sickness is unavoidable, I believe that our response to physical suffering plays a pivotal role in the healing process. In other words, our power to keep infirmity at bay is limited but our attitude in response to sickness is entirely up to us. That’s where spirituality comes in, and I think provides several huge advantages that help us on the road to recovery. The first advantage is acceptance. The necessary initial step toward healing is recognizing that there’s a problem and accepting that reality. Our human nature with its inherent illusions of invincibility and control fights against this, but our spiritual life teaches us to accept our crosses and move forward. Nobody likes crosses, but we
Healthy Spirit, Mind and Body 2011
strive to be imitators of Christ and embrace them as “part of the deal.” This is difficult to do in the face of unwelcome news, especially if a loved one is hurting. As a medical professional I seek to form a team with the patient and their family. This is absolutely impossible if we ignore or deny the problem. Our spirituality gives us the strength to take a deep breath, place our trust in God, and ask, “OK, what do I/we do now?” It’s no coincidence that in the popular vernacular we use the expression “I went through this” when describing an illness. There’s no going around sickness and suffering. The only way to the other side is to pass through it. Another advantage is perspective. Our spirituality enables us to take a difficult problem and turn it on its head. It’s the whole “lemons and lemonade” thing. Obviously nobody is ever excited to get sick or witness the sickness of someone they love. I certainly don’t enjoy delivering bad news or causing my patients pain. Our faith teaches us that suffering presents an opportunity to participate in the sufferings of Christ crucified and deepen our relationship with Jesus. Being sick isn’t quite as rotten if we can find a way to put a positive spin on it and use illness as a means to deepen our trust in God. Popular culture calls this crazy talk and would have us believe that there is no benefit
to suffering whatsoever. In reality, to live is to suffer and occasionally get sick. Our faith teaches that Jesus suffers with us and we never carry our burdens alone. How do people make any sense out of sickness and suffering without the perspective of Christ’s own trials? Perhaps the greatest benefit of a spiritual life in the face of sickness is hope. As far as I’m concerned, hope is more powerful than any chemotherapy, radiation, or even a well-done operation. At our core we are a hopeful people, and we proclaim it at every Mass. “Christ has died, Christ is risen, Christ will come again.” We Christians are pathologically optimistic and are taught from the beginning of our spiritual formation to keep our eyes on the goal of heaven. There are scores of reports and anecdotes to suggest that optimistic, cheerful people heal better and have superior immune systems. Some physicians say that possessing a hopeful attitude is helpful to the healing process. I submit that being hopeful is essential to the healing process. It is easy to fall into a negative, pessimistic attitude when you’re not feeling well. The hope our spiritual life imparts gives us the expectation that better days lie ahead. Hope in and of itself makes us feel and heal better. This doesn’t mean we should view the medical
world through rose-colored glasses. When delivering bad news such as a cancer diagnosis I’ll often say something like, “This is a terrible day for you. It might be your worst day ever. But I had a terrible day several years ago, too. Getting through this illness is not going to be fun or easy, but if I can get through it, so can you. We will fight this together.” Even at the worst of times, hope gives us the ability to lift each other’s spirits in tangible ways. That’s my (very) abbreviated, novice outlook on healing and spirituality. Our spiritual lives play a critical role in the way we deal with sickness, both in ourselves and our loved ones. A healthy spiritual life can support physical healing on those occasions when our bodies fail. Personally, I’m not nearly the Catholic, husband, parent, doctor or scientist that I want to be — not by a long shot. I can’t imagine getting better at any of it without lots of help from the Divine Physician. Luckily, he makes house calls in our hearts. Weiss is assistant professor, UPMC Department of Orthopaedic Surgery, Division of Musculoskeletal Oncology.
Need help providing care? Want quality care for a loved one? Care that’s affordable and reliable? Call the Catholic Youth Association
412.621.3342 CYA has provided Adult Daycare and other services for 75+ years. Call us to learn how Adult Daycare helps people mentally, physically and financially. www.AdultDaycare.CatholicYouthAssociation.com
Healthy Spirit, Mind and Body 2011
Pittsburgh Catholic Magazine 35
Catholic
Your Catholic Community Newspaper: In Continuous Operation Since 1844
PUBLISHING DATE: FRIDAY
T PY GE CO H C ! UR UR EK YO CH WE AT RY E EV
PITTSBURGH
Editorial Deadline: 11:00 a.m. Friday Advertising Deadline: 11:00 a.m. Wednesday
Don’t be out of the Loop . . .
Each week the Pittsburgh Catholic Newspaper delivers news & information that Catholics don’t want to miss. 1-800-392-4670 • www.pittsburghcatholic.org
Flexible advertising programs to suit everyone’s budget . . . Call John Connolly @ 412-471-1253
First Avenue, Suite 200, Pittsburgh, PA 15222 • 1-800-392-4670 • Read135Your Catholicwww.pittsburghcatholic.org Community Newspaper Every Week! 36 Pittsburgh Catholic Magazine
Healthy Spirit, Mind and Body 2011
How many of these St. Patrick's Day words and phrases can you unscramble? 1. ahMcr______________________________________ 2. dogo kucl_ _________________________________ 3. oabrniw____________________________________ 4. enrge______________________________________ 5. cmhrakos___________________________________ 6. pto fo dglo_ ________________________________ 7. evlorc______________________________________ 8. leardnI_____________________________________ 9. camgi______________________________________ 10. iswh______________________________________ 11. aurnclpeeh________________________________ 12. gpsrni_____________________________________ 13. tasni______________________________________ 14. igj________________________________________ 15. reBnaly otnSe______________________________ ANSWERS
What is out on the lawn all summer and is Irish? Paddy O’ Furniture Why do frogs like St. Patrick’s Day? Because they are always wearing green. What does it mean when you find a horseshoe? Some poor horse is going barefoot.
Knock Knock Who’s there? Irish! Irish who? Irish you a Happy St. Patrick’s Day!
1. March 2. good luck 3. rainbow 4. green 5. shamrock. 6. pot of gold 7. clover 8. Ireland 9. magic 10. wish 11. leprechaun 12. spring 13. saint 14. jig 15. Blarney Stone
WIN TICKETS TO A PIRATES GAME!!! Submit this coupon to be entered in a drawing for a chance to win 4 tickets to a Pittsburgh Pirates Game. Name Address City
State
Zip
Phone #
RULES/DISCLAIMER: To enter, complete the entry form here and mail it no later than Friday, April 1, 2011, to: PIRATES CONTEST, PITTSBURGH CATHOLIC, 135 FIRST AVENUE, SUITE 200, PITTSBURGH PA 152221513; FAXES ACCEPTED AT 412-471-4228. Employees of the Pittsburgh Catholic Publishing Associates and Diocesan headquarters are not eligible. One entry per household.
Healthy Spirit, Mind and Body 2011
Pittsburgh Catholic Magazine 37
Eliminate the stress of filing tax returns By JEFF TUREK Once again tax season has arrived and for some taxpayers the stress related to filing income tax returns is too much to handle, causing them to procrastinate. The following tips can save you time and ensure that your return is accurate and complete. In the end, you may realize you’ve saved yourself some money as well. • Organization – Allow enough time to get all of your tax documents together in one place. But remember earlier is always better when preparing your taxes. Early filers get their refund faster. • Categorizing expenses – if you are in sales or are self-employed and have business expenses, categorize your expenses and keep a spreadsheet during the year to eliminate having to add up all those expenses at year-end. • Check your withholdings – If you owed taxes last year or got a large refund, you may want to adjust your withholdings. Owing too much may warrant estimated payments. • Mileage – Keep a written log of mileage, business travel, meals and entertainment. The more
38 Pittsburgh Catholic Magazine
documentation you have the better off you will be if you are audited by the IRS. • Higher education credits – The American Opportunity Credit or Lifetime Learning Credit is available for those who are paying higher education costs. Also don’t forget about those student loans. • E ar ned Income Tax Credit for certain workers – This is a credit for individuals who work but do not earn high incomes. If you qualify and claim the credit, you could pay less federal tax or maybe get a refund. • Itemized deductions – In addition to the standard deductions for taxes, mortgage interest, medical expenses, charitable contributions and unreimbursed job expenses, other deductions for union dues, invest-
ment custodial fees, moving expenses, casualty and theft losses, certain legal and accounting fees, and gambling losses to the extent of gambling winnings are deductible. • Refinancing your home – If you refinanced your home you may be eligible to deduct some costs associated with your loan, including qualified mortgage insurance premiums. • Filing an extension – If you cannot meet the April 15 (April 18 this year) deadline, you can get an automatic six-month extension. Keep in mind that the extension will give you extra time for the paperwork, but it does not extend the time you have to pay any tax due to the IRS. Finally, paying a professional to prepare your tax return is a small investment in the long run. You will be sure that all of the deductions and credits have been taken advantage of and your return will be correct and accurate, especially since the IRS has discontinued mailing forms and instructions. Turek is a partner for Kuchar Turek & Associates LLP, an accounting, tax and consulting firm in Ross Township.
Healthy Spirit, Mind and Body 2011
Healthy Spirit, Mind and Body 2011
Pittsburgh Catholic Magazine 39
open
fall
HOUSE sunday
april10 Located along the scenic Lake Erie bayfront in Erie, Pennsylvania, Gannon University provides a quality education at an affordable price. Nearly 100 undergraduate and graduate degree programs are taught in small classes by dynamic professors who love what they do. Visit us on April 10th and see why Gannon has been ranked for seven straight years as a top tier university, and is also listed in the Great Schools, Great Prices category by U.S.News & World Report.
Open House Opportunities • Admissions and Financial Aid Presentation • Conversations with Faculty, Administrators and Coaches • Academic Presentations • Campus and Building Tours • Trolley Tours of Downtown Erie
ed edge.gannon.edu
gannon.edu/facebook
gannon.edu/twitter
gannon.edu/youtube
GANNON.EDU/OPENHOUSE 1-800-GANNON-U