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About the Zine This zine was developed and created by Planned Parenthood Toronto’s (PPT) Supporting Newcomer Access Project (SNAP) volunteers. The goal is to inform, entertain and educate newcomer youth as well as empower them to make informed decisions about sexuality, relationships and consent. Using various mediums, the hope is that the themes of the zine will spark conversation and create opportunities for dialogue, instead of awkward onilne search histories. This zine was made by the 2017-2018 SNAP volunteers who dedicated their time, energy, passion and creativity to the project. The zine wouldn’t be possible without these amazing people: April V. Emily C. Karan B. LeroyM.

Chenthoori M. Jessiny L. Kelani B. SukhT.

Big thanks to our special contributors whose work you’ll also find in the zine: Ani B. K.C.

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