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It has been a delight to watch the girlfriends ministry at Cathedral literally explode since the spring of 2008. My wife, Dean, and the ladies in the leadership team take Proverbs 17:22 seriously: “A joyful heart is good medicine, but a broken spirit dries up the bones.” Every time these ladies get together or host an event, they deliver a mega-dose of joy and fun. Their desire to expand the reach of this ministry outside the walls of the church inspired the creation of this magazine. Its purpose: bringing you the best of what women want and need - spirit, soul and body. I’ve witnessed firsthand their masterful blending of the spiritual and the practical: from line-dancing, a chili cook-off, and the spawning of a coupon-clipping frenzy that’s overwhelming local grocery and drug stores, to moments when women are deeply moved because they finally found a friend and were able share deep heart issues. That’s why I’m confident that this magazine will serve you and the women in our community well. So sit back, get yourself a cup of coffee (or tea, if you’re so inclined) and enjoy a few moments just for you. We trust that you’ll find something useful and meaningful! Because your life matters,
Mike Lewis Senior Pastor, Cathedral of Praise
FALL 2009
Welcome to the first issue of pointe! The vitality and energy you see on these pages reflects the way the women of Cathedral of Praise approach life as homemakers, wives, mothers and women in the workplace.
CONTENTS
Introducing pointe!
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A Real Class Act......................................... 15 Having a Better Husband............................. 30 Coming Full Circle...................................... 32 Power of Words.......................................... 33 Borrowed Treasure...................................... 34 Sidewalks.................................................... 36 Small Groups.............................................. 37
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Steamy Soups.............................................. 10 Dress Your Slimmest................................... 16 Homemade Halloween Costumes................ 22 5 Reasons I’m Thankful for Exercise............ 25 Colorful Fall Weddings................................ 29
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A Girlfriends Guide to Football................... 26 Author Biography: E. Otto Tilley................. 27 Poem: I Am Just Their Teacher.................... 35
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What’s In Your Purse?................................. 18
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Editors Lori Stephanoff Wanda Litchenberg Brooks Hearn ADVERTISing Cara Adams
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What is Coosaw Pointe? —Brooks Hearn
By now, you have probably noticed that the area surrounding the intersection of Dorchester Road and Ashley Phosphate Road is called Coosaw Pointe. What led to the naming of this area that previously lacked identity? The Coosaw Pointe Business Association, which is presently made up of 29 businesses, is working to promote activities and marketing strategies that will give this area a “brand” and a sense of community. Additionally, the association has sponsored service projects and has other plans in the works. Vickie Waller, president and founder of the association, believes that helping others “is what community is all about.” Pointe! Magazine spoke with Vickie about the formation of Coosaw Pointe, its future directions, and her experiences with creating an organization.
Q: How long did it take to develop the Coosaw
Pointe Business Association and, ultimately, Coosaw Pointe?
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was incorporated three months later in August, and then became a nonprofit. It took just about a year to get approval for the signs on Dorchester Road, because it is a state Department of Transportation right-of-way. State Representative Annette Young put in the bill that became an act, and we now have signs.
Q: What are some upcoming projects
A: The money raised through our events or goals for Coosaw Pointe?
Q: How would you encourage other women to take A: Look and see what’s out there, and how you
action on a community issue they find important?
can make an improvement upon what exists. When forming the Coosaw Pointe Business Association, I called every business association I could locate in South Carolina to figure out how they do it. Ours is unique because it is heavily web-based. It is also important to find a strong support network. I got started with this organization because I wanted to help a group of business owners that I knew from church growing up. Now, it is bigger than I ever expected. For more information on Coosaw Pointe, visit www.coosawpointe.com.
and projects goes back into the community. Farmers’ Market: We are working on adding a farmers’ market that will most likely take place on Wednesdays. Right now, we’re finalizing the details of a contract on eight acres off Ashley Phosphate Road.
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Tough economic times have caused many to find ways to stretch their dollars and pinch their pennies to make ends meet. Many are turning back to clipping coupons. Couponing works. But sometimes it can seem very overwhelming without a little guidance. Since May 2009, over 400 women have attended couponing workshops at Cathedral of Praise.
Matching coupons to the weekly sale items has turned the “dreaded trip to the grocery store” into an adventure filled with eager anticipation of filling the grocery cart to overflowing without overspending.
“I got $85 worth of groceries for $23!”
Now the sounds of Sunday afternoon in many area homes include sales flyers flippin’, scissors snippin’, and binders zippin’ as families (men are getting into this couponing wave, too) prepare for their weekly grocery shopping.
“I only paid $9 and took home $36 worth food!”
Be sure to catch this coupon wave and sign up for a workshop at www.cathedralofpraise.org. Participants learn how to access the internet, print free coupons and combine the two for savings of 40 – 75 % off their weekly grocery bill.
“My bill was $300, but I only paid $100 after coupons!”
You’ll find yourself clinging to coupons as the register starts ringing, but you’ll leave the store singing about your savings!
—Susan Weathers
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Soup is like a hug that wraps around you, melting your heart into a puddle of nostaliga. If you grew up with homemade soup you’ll know exactly what that means. There’s nothing like coming home to a hearty bowl of vegetable beef or the soothing classic quality of chicken noodle soup. Here are 3 scrumptious soups that will melt your heart and have your family licking their lips when they’re done.
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1 pound stew beef Dried onion Garlic powder 1 (8 ounce) can zesty tomatoes 1 (8 ounce) can tomato soup 2 cups water 2 teaspoons beef bouillon 1 (14 ounce) bag frozen mixed vegetables ¼ cup dry onion soup mix 1 teaspoon sugar
2-3 chicken breasts, cooked and cubed 1 can white hominy 2 cans Ranch-style beans (with chopped sweet onion) 2 cans Fiesta corn 2 cans diced tomatoes (seasoned with garlic and onions) 2 cans mild diced tomatoes with green chilies 1 package Buttermilk salad dressing mix Tortilla chips Cheddar cheese shredded Sour cream
In a large Dutch oven, over medium high heat, sauté stew beef, onion and garlic until browned. Add remaining ingredients. Stir well. Bring to a boil; reduce heat to low. Cover and simmer 30 minutes. Serves: 6
Open all cans and dressing mix; add to chicken and stir well. Heat thoroughly. Serve with tortilla chips, cheese and sour cream.
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1½ sticks butter 2 tablespoons onion, chopped 1 cup flour 8 cups chicken broth 2 (6.2 ounce) Uncle Ben’s fast cooking long grain & wild rice Chicken, cooked and chopped Ham, cooked and cubed 1 shredded carrot 1 quart half and half
In large Dutch oven, sauté onion in melted butter. Add flour and broth; bring to a boil and boil 1 minute. Add rice, chicken, ham and carrot; bring to a boil, lower heat, cover and cook 5 minutes. Stir in half and half; heat through, stirring well.
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A fun fall puzzle! Can you find the 15 differences between these two images?
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It’s been 10 months, and I’m 100 pounds lighter. When I look back, I can’t believe I’ve come this far. My life has completely changed. What an amazing journey it has been. THE GAIN Being overweight my entire life, I knew nothing else. As I got older, losing weight was something that I wanted so badly, but I thought that it would just happen on its own. After trying numerous weight loss diets and programs, I became very discouraged. My weight gain continued. During my sophomore year of college, at age 19, I tipped the scale at 238. I knew something had to happen; a change had to be made.
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—Stephanie Aleixo
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WEIGHT WATCHERS? It all began one weekend when I ran into a friend who had lost a significant amount of weight. I was so impressed with her accomplishment. When I asked her how she had done it, she told me that she had been doing Weight Watchers for several months. Having never heard of Weight Watchers before, this sparked my interest. She and another friend ended up asking me if this was something I was interested in or would be willing to try. At that time, I was very skeptical, but appreciative for their invitation. I was so scared of failing at it, disappointing them and letting myself down. I finally broke down and decided that this was something I HAD to do, for myself, and for my health.
although He wants us to enjoy the things we eat, we are also called to respect our bodies and to take good care of them by eating healthy and exercising. To abuse anything is wrong and that includes food.
So there I was, not knowing what I was getting myself into, but completely committed, with two people supporting me all the way. I was so nervous, but oh so ready. I had made up my mind; I was going to do it. Little did I know that this would be the start of something amazing. Nothing could have prepared me for what was to come.
This is just the beginning. Now the story begins. My life starts here!
THE CHANGE September 16, 2008 marked my first day of Weight Watchers. I even remember how hard I thought it was going to be, and how easy it actually was. After my first week, I had lost five pounds and was so EXCITED that it was really working. Every week that passed, I would lose more and more. Nothing was going to stop me; I was really doing it. THE LIFESTYLE Realizing that this was not a diet but a lifestyle change was key in figuring out how to still live my life but not feel deprived. I slowly learned to make better decisions about what I put into my mouth and how much. I also began regular activity, whether it was going to the gym or taking part in an aerobics class. I did my best to make it as fun as possible without becoming bored or tired. Don’t get me wrong, it was extremely hard work, but yet so rewarding. THE REWARD I could never have imagined how amazing this experience would be for me. Being able to now help and give advice to people around me that are struggling with the same thing has been so rewarding. I never realized the kind of impact my life could have. What started out as my journey turned into my accomplishment and success and now my ministry. I know that the Lord has used me to reach others struggling with the same thing. Through this the Lord really opened my eyes and showed me that I was not glorifying him by the things I was putting into my mouth. He says in 1 Corinthians 6:20 that we were bought with a price and to glorify God in our bodies. Our bodies are His temple; and
THE CHALLENGE “Time is going to pass, either you’re going to be losing weight or you’re not.” This statement profoundly impacted me at the beginning of my weight loss journey. So what is stopping you? Now is the time to take charge and make a change. I am so thankful for all my friends and family for support, but ultimately God has given me the strength and the drive to push through and accomplish the unthinkable. Philippians 4:13 reminds me, “I can do all things through him who strengthens me.”
I DID IT! You can, too! Practical Tips:
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A REAL ACT —Dana Stokes
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As a young child, one of my favorite things to do was to spend time with my Granny. She let me fix her hair, paint her nails, make mud pies on her driveway using her tired muffin tins and the vegetables that were too ripe to eat. She seemed to enjoy every bite of mud pie that I put on her Frisbee.
Going through her purse was another favorite pastime. I can still smell the Freedent chewing gum. There was always at least a half stick. Looking back, I know why there would be a half stick because she would make sure there was something sweet for me to find in her pocketbook. I can close my eyes and see the items in her purse right now. Her wallet and checkbook, to which a writing pen was always attached, an emery board, a grocery list, gum (of course), every now and then a bottle of clear fingernail polish, and pictures of her beloved grandchildren. Sometimes I’d find neatly folded greenback stamps or a bit of paper money. My mom taught me that it wasn’t polite to go through someone’s purse, but I knew Granny didn’t mind. Over the years, Granny changed purses many times, and I inspected every one. Then one day I noticed the same little piece of newsprint, folded ever so neatly, was always kept in the portion of her wallet designated for paper money. My interest in the clipping was stronger than my need for gum this day. I had learned to read, and it was time to finally find out what this obviously important piece of paper said. Carefully, I took out the little piece of paper yellowed with time and read the following:
What is Class? —Ann Landers Encyclopedia
“Class never runs scared. It is sure-footed and confident in the knowledge that you can meet life head on and handle whatever comes along.” “Jacob had it. Esau didn’t. Symbolically, we can look to Jacob’s wrestling match with the angel. Those who have class have wrestled with their own personal angel and won a victory that marks them thereafter.” “Class never makes excuses. It takes its lumps and learns from past mistakes.” “Class is considerate of others. It knows that good manners are nothing more than a series of small sacrifices.” “Class bespeaks an aristocracy that has nothing to do with ancestors or money. The most affluent blueblood can be totally without class while the descendant of a Welsh miner may ooze class from every pore.” “Class never tries to build itself up by tearing others down. Class is already up and need not strive to look better by making others look worse.” “Class can ‘walk with kings and keep its virtue and talk with crowds and keep the common touch.’ Everyone is comfortable with the person who has class because he is comfortable with himself.” “If you have class you don’t need much of anything else. If you don’t have it, no matter what else you have, it doesn’t make much difference.”
It is certainly fitting that Granny would keep this valuable bit of wisdom where money is usually kept. You don’t have to have money to have class. And when the money is gone you still have the class. My Granny was a very classy lady and it was no act. She was the real thing. That piece of tattered newsprint carried more value than any amount of money the purse could ever hold. www.pointemag.com { 15
Have you ever tried on an outfit that seems to fit just right? How about all the other times when everything else in your closet seems to add ten more pounds to your figure that you don’t need? Well, fear no more. Here are some ways to dress to make you look your slimmest.
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Match up your dark colors like black and dark brown with light colors such as tan or beige. Please note: If you carry more of your weight in your hips, thighs, or legs, then wear light colors on top. If you carry more of weight on top, then vice versa. If you want to minimize your bust or hide your stomach, then try wearing a vest. You’ll be surprised by the results. Dark hose, especially sheer ones, are very slimming to larger legs. Plus, they go great with dark skirts. If you want to go with the leaner and longer look for your legs, try matching your hose with your shoes. Pants or slacks. Wearing cuffs will give the illusion that your legs are shorter than what they really are. On the other hand, high-waisted slacks will slenderize and make your legs look longer.
Dress Your Slimmest This Fall —Toia Thompson
Did you know some accessories are great for shedding off a few pounds? Check out these options.
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The Y-necklace has the great ability to elongate your figure. Its length creates a vertical line. If possible, stay away from chokers, especially if you don’t want your neck to appear thick and bulky. A slim, but chic, heeled ankle boot not only adds to your height, but gives a slenderizing look to your gorgeous silhouette. Under no circumstances should you wear heavy shoes or chunky heels. They will add pounds to your frame, which is an undesired effect. A dazzling and stylish scarf around your neck gives you a slenderizing vertical line as long as it falls straight down. Problem areas such as the waist, mid-section, or bust can be covered with the assistance of a scarf. Medium, narrow heel shoes or low-cut pumps can make your legs appear lean and long.
Fall Fashion Trends —Brooks Hearn
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Plaid appears on expected pieces, like business suits and button-down shirts, but also featured pops of bright, unexpected colors. Tweeds and houndstooth checks showed up on more than a few runways. The little black dress is as stylish as ever for special occasions. This season’s runway collections added interesting details like origami pleating at the neckline or ruffled skirts. Shades of hot pink and yellow turn up in surprising ways. These bright hues are not limited to spring and summer attire in 2009. On the opposite end of
the spectrum, gray and black ensembles appeared in several designers’ collections. Layering is a common theme throughout the fall 2009 trend forecast. The layered look is great for fall in the Lowcountry, where temperatures may change unexpectedly. Scarves continue to appear in a multitude of colors and fabrics. Tall boots are big for fall 2009. In order to keep the look classy, avoid miniskirts - hemlines should fall approximately two inches above the knee. Of course, looking great this fall (or any season) does not equal spending lots of money on a new wardrobe. Even a new accessory, like a scarf, can brighten up an outfit. Some improvements cost nothing at all. Walk confidently, smile, and have a fabulous fall 2009! www.pointemag.com { 17
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Purses are a reflection of your personal style. They vary in shape, size, and functionality. But, the contents of your purse should not be overlooked either. What’s in your purse says a lot about you - your personality, your lifestyle, how you spend your time. With that in mind, pointe! posed this question: What is the one item in your purse that you won’t leave home without?
What’s in your purse? —Brooks Hearn
“I absolutely LOVE my keychain Sharpies… the little minis. I have an initial keychain just for them with the letter Y. When I pull the set of markers out, I can hold up the keychain and whoever I’m with will say ‘Y?’ and my response is, ‘Because I can!’ It is amazing how often you can use a Sharpie when you have one handy… especially in so many colors. Right now I only have 3 on my ring – turquoise, magenta and blue!” —Debra Malone “My wallet. It has everything I really need – driver’s license, debit card and checks – notice no credit card!” —Sherry Gooding “I know it sounds crazy, but because I love to wear heels, I always try and have a good, comfortable pair of Rainbow flip flops in my purse (when you have a baby, the purses get bigger and bigger!) because you will never know when you are gonna HAVE to walk a mall or search a sale! Or, eat at a nice restaurant downtown and walk the Battery afterwards!” —Megan Turner “I ALWAYS have my Bath and Body Works anti-bacterial hand sanitizer! I pretty much leave one in all my purses, just in case it gets missed in the switchover.” —Virginia Williamson “Other than the obvious cell phone and keys, I guess it would have to be a compact with cream to powder foundation - Revlon medium beige. Great for touch ups. Kinda boring, but necessary!” —Laura Rust
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Thanksgiving is a time steeped in tradition and family memories. Whether you spend the day at grandma’s house or with family and friends, it is an opportunity to create treasured memories filled with warmth and celebration.
Thanksgiving Traditions
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Wishbone Wishing I alw ays looked forward to breaking the wishbone wit h my Dad. Each year, he would hold out the wishb one. SNAP! I’d always hav e the largest piece! After I was married and moved away, we went home for Thanksgiving. Daddy cal led me into the kitchen. He had the wishbone. I took hold and wished. SNAP ! Did he purposely snap his side short? As I looked up, his mouth barely cur ved, but his eyes told the truth. –Wendy Housel
es: croquet, corn a fun day of gam an Pl s, n Fu ily m Fa lf, BB gun target darts, frisbee go g, ll on -p ba et ng sk pi , ba le a ho cess to . If you have ac er cc to so e iv or at is, rn te nn te stive al -R-K-E-Y as a fe ead hoop, play T-U n make gingerbr ca ds ki l, ea m e th r corating. H-O-R-S-E. Afte art Christmas de st to n tio ira sp to houses as an in kids will pass on itions that your ad tr ey th ily e m fa tim e e th ak M love at will make them th d an an ds ah ki r on ei M th family. –Meranda spend with the
Games for the long car rides to grandma’s! Sometimes, long car rides can be the height of boredom for kids. When boredom rolls around, headaches are likely for parents. These games are not only great for kids, but for any age group looking for some entertainment on a trip. 20 }} pointe! 20 pointe!
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for license plates • Look – try to get all 50 states. game – name an • Animal animal that starts with the for certain cars like • Look letter “a.” Each person yellow cars, Corvettes, or Hummers. See who can find 10 the fastest.
game – look for • Alphabet signs along the way that
start with the letters of the alphabet, A-Z.
takes a turn. Players are eliminated if they cannot think of an animal. Play continues with ‘“a” until only one player is left. Start over with all players with the next letter.
Fruit Gobbler Stabilize the melon body by cutting a shallow slice off the rind to form a flat base. Using a section of bamboo skewer, attach a Bosc pear head to the melon, as shown. Cut a cheese triangle beak and red pepper snood. Attach both, along with raisin eyes, to the head with sections of toothpick. Cut red pepper feet and set them in place. For tail feathers, skewer cheese cubes and grapes, then insert the skewers as shown. Pin pepper side feathers in place with toothpicks. —As seen in Family Fun Magazine, photo & re-creation by Stephanie Gammons
Gobble ‘em Up —Karie Calhoun Use a chocolate cake mix to make 24 cupcakes. Use red icing (icing recipe below) with Tip #97 to create a half circle fan on the top side of the cupcake. Follow with a half circle of orange, then a half circle of yellow. Use Tip #12 and light brown icing to form the face and body. Use Tip # 7 for the white eyes followed by Tip #4 for the black part of the eyes. Use Tip #66 for the nose & wattle. Turn the cupcake on its side and place on a tray. Then use Tip #7 to create the feet with a wiggle motion back and forth with the icing bag. Homemade Icing Recipe Yields: 3 cups white icing ½ cup solid vegetable shortening ½ cup butter 1 teaspoon clear vanilla extract 4 cups sifted confectioners’ sugar – 1 lb 2 Tablespoons milk Add food coloring to get the different colors needed. Wilton Tip numbers are specified.
{Sing-a-longs} —As seen in Family Fun Magazine
Smells Like Thanksgiving (Sung to “Frere Jacques”)
On Thanksgiving Day (Sung to “Mary Had a Little Lamb”) Turkey is so good to eat, Good to eat, good to eat, Turkey is so good to eat On Thanksgiving Day. Friends and family gather round, Gather round, gather round, Friends and family gather round, On Thanksgiving Day. For all these blessings we give thanks, We give thanks, we give thanks, For all these blessings we give thanks, On Thanksgiving Day.
Smells like Thanksgiving, Smells like Thanksgiving, Mmmmm, so good, Mmmmm so good. I can smell the turkey, I can smell the pies, Mmmmm, so good, Mmmmm so good.
Thanksgiving Time (Sung to “ The Farmer in the Dell”) Thanksgiving time is here Let’s give a great big cheer For food and friends and family. Thanksgiving time is here.
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Hallapalooza Cathedral of Praise’s Fall Family Festival provides a safe and positive atmosphere for children and their families to have a fun evening together on October 31. We’re taking back the night without breaking the budget. So get creative with your costumes and bring the kids, and their friends, for a great night of games, food, and more. And, yes, there’ll be lots of candy!
Make your own Face Paint 6 tsp cornstarch 3 tsp water 3 tsp cold cream Mix and separate into small cups. Add food coloring to make desired color.
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It’s made my heart strong.
At the age of 56, my father suffered his first heart attack. That is only five years away for me; but, according to my doctor and my most recent medical exam, I have practically “wiped out my chances” of coronary heart disease because of my active lifestyle! Even a small amount of exercise is better than none, and more is better than less. Exercise lowers our bad cholesterol, the kind that clogs arteries. It also reduces your blood pressure, relieving stress on your heart.
It’s helped me stand up straight! Being a small-boned person, I am at a higher risk of developing osteoporosis as I age. Exercise, together with a healthy calcium intake, builds strong bones. Studies show that weight-bearing exercises, like running, walking and weight-lifting, help reduce your risk of getting osteoporosis as you grow older.
It’s kept me from losing my mind!
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Reasons I am Thankful for Exercise —Vicki Heath
For years I exercised for vanity, but now I exercise for sanity! Exercise is God’s natural tranquilizer for the body. There have been many times in my life that I have been burdened down with problems and cares of this world and have headed out the door to get outside, enjoy the fresh air and sunshine. I come back home with a much better outlook on life and a clearer perspective on the particular problems that might be plaguing me. It’s true: exercise counters stress and depression. Mood improvements may occur due to the increased secretion of endogenous (internal) opiates, e.g. endorphins. Psychological changes may occur because of changes in norepinephrine, dopamine and serotonin, all hormones which can affect mood and anxiety levels.
It’s helped with four pregnancies.
Although exercise might be risky in some cases, the benefits of exercising during pregnancy generally far outweigh the risks. During all four of my pregnancies, I was able to exercise almost up to the last trimester. I walked every morning with two of my dear friends during my last pregnancy. We would walk the same route every day, making friends along the way. One morning, an elderly gentleman whose sweet greeting we always anticipated, just couldn’t resist saying, “You girls sure are working hard. It seems to be working for two of you, but that one in the middle just keeps getting bigger and bigger!”
It’s given me fitness friends!
I have made friends all over the country because of speaking opportunities for exercise. Over the years, exercise has introduced me to some of the most outstanding athletes in the world - from aerobic friends in Nairobi, Kenya, to walking buddies in Ohio, kayaking friends in Mississippi, dancing friends in DC, running buddies in Houston, and weight-lifting friends at Cathedral of Praise! Exercise has truly enriched my life in more ways than one! I am thankful everyday that I don’t HAVE TO exercise, I GET TO exercise!
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l l a b t o o F o t e id u G s ’ d n ie r f l ir G A
– Brooks Hearn
Fall means that school is back in session. The weather is (sometimes) cooler, and football season is here! Even if you don’t love the sport, football games can be a great way to enjoy food and friends. If you want to impress those around you with your knowledge of the game, or if you just want to understand what everyone else is yelling about, read on.
Offense
Extra point
The team that has possession of the ball. The goal of the offense is to move the ball to the end zone (where touchdowns are scored) by running or passing the ball.
One point (kick) or two-point conversion (running or passing the ball into the end zone)
Defense
Field goal
The team that does not have possession of the ball, but is trying to regain possession and/or keep the offense from scoring.
Kicking the ball between the goal post for 3 points
Touchdown
Safety
Six points
When a ball carrier is tackled by a member of an opposing team in his own end zone
When a team is on offense, its object is to gain at least ten yards in four downs while moving toward the end zone. If the offense reaches fourth down, it can kick a field goal or kick off to the opposing team. However, the offense can avoid reaching fourth down altogether by gaining yards and staying within a first, second, or third down. Each side, offense and defense, has a “line.” The offensive line helps protect the quarterback and other offensive players from the defense. The defensive line tries to break up the offense’s passing and running attempts.
Game day tips: Dress for the weather! Some ladies (including me) opt to wear sundresses to games in the early fall months, particularly for college games. Dresses are often cooler and more comfortable than other wardrobe options. Just leave the heels at home - cute sandals or flats work best. Speaking of weather, check the forecast. Many stadiums do not allow umbrellas. If rain is likely, carry a rain jacket or poncho. Don’t forget sunscreen for sunny day games. It’s possible to get sunburned, even on a cool November day. Most college and professional stadiums will search your purse as you enter, so it’s best to carry a few small items (i.e. lip gloss or money) in your pocket if you don’t want the extra holdup at the gate. In the event that you need to visit the ladies’ room, go before or after halftime. The line is usually longest then, but not as bad while the game is in progress. Unless you have box seats, your seats will most likely be uncomfortable. Bring a seat cushion to spare your backside! Tailgating is a fun alternative to concession stand fare. My family has established many tailgating traditions over the years, not including the time that someone dropped an entire bucket of fried chicken in a parking lot, brushed it off, and served it to the rest of the (unknowing) family members! We always set aside food for tailgating after the game in order to avoid sitting in the inevitable post-game traffic. Coolers are recommended, especially for hot day games.
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Imagination Author Biography: E. Otto Tilley
“Searching” is a fitting word for how a lot of us spend our lives, and mine is no different.
was born in July of 1965 on Travis AFB in California. By the time I was two, my family was stationed in Charleston, SC where I currently reside with my own family. I married my high school sweetheart 19 years ago, and we have two amazing young teenagers, one boy and one girl. I can remember, as a little boy, always wondering about the supernatural. I would often think about what happens to us when we die. I remember asking my mother what was going to happen to me when I died because I feared just ‘not existing.’ My imagination was very vivid and active as a young boy, and I spent lots of time in the woods near our home ‘pretending’ of far away mythical places. I was always the hero, what little boy wouldn’t be, and I was always conquering some terrible supernatural foe. With sword in hand, and riding on my trusty steed, I would gallop into the heat of the battle, defeat the evil monster, and then rescue the beautiful damsel. I did all of this before the street lights came on, which was when I had to be home for dinner. Then I grew older, and the imaginations became juvenile, so I put them to sleep like an unwanted pet. “Grown-ups don’t have time for imagination.” I became part of the productive status quos and did what all maturing students do. I went to school, and within one class of graduating with an Associate’s Degree in Electronics Engineering, stopped, because I didn’t want to be that. So I returned to my Alma Mater, Goose Creek High School, and helped coach the JV and Varsity football teams while pursuing a degree in Math from The College of Charleston. But like all maturing young adults, I changed my mind again. This time I was offered a job working for the Charleston Naval Shipyard as a Marine Electrician. My high grade on an entrance exam had prompted them to call me and offer the golden ticket of working a civil service job where I would certainly retire 50 years later. Four years later, The Charleston Naval Shipyard was put on the Government’s “Base Closure List,” and I was once again searching. “Searching” is a fitting word for how a lot of us spend our lives, and mine is no different. Many years of exploration passed as I looked for significance in anything other than what I could see, taste, touch, or smell. I believe this trilogy is a supernatural ‘gift’ that I have been given to share with others who find themselves wondering about the mystery of life. This book is my journey, fictionalized and brought to life by that wonderful gift I had as a young boy, Imagination. My vivid, childlike, imagination has been resurrected, and I have fully embraced what I once deemed “fit to be put away.” There is, in every one of us, something that is much bigger than ourselves; a dream, an imagination, a passion, something that unlocks the great sleeping giant within. I believe this trilogy is the story of your life, and I hope that within its pages you will find the secret that will awaken you to who you really are. www.realmstrilogy.com
What is real and what isn’t? That’s just one of the questions E. Otto Tilley asks in his edge-of-yourseat sci-fi adventure. Realms: The Awakening. Ecel and his wife are living deep in the forest when they suddenly find themselves thrust into a great war between the Forces of Glodoria and Dakaria, a supernatural battle for the planet of Evanescia. It is foretold that a Great Awakening will expose the supernatural and signal the beginning of the battle for Evanescia. Gorgeously written and powerpacked with plot twists, turns and challengers, Realms is as provocative as it is entertaining. Tilley has filled his pages with characters so alive they seem to jump from the page, and with villains so evil, readers will be suddering. A probing examination of realms we cannot see, and a fabulously thrilling read. www.pointemag.com { 27
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Fall Weddings —Tracy Perrine
all is quickly becoming one of the best wedding times. Not only do you miss the spring wedding rushes, but guests are also much more likely to travel during the fall season. The number one thing that I can tell you about fall weddings is “don’t be afraid of color!” Take your cues from fall foliage and all those beautiful leaves. Why not use those reds, oranges, and yellows in your fall wedding? Some of the best wedding pictures I’ve ever seen have been ones where the bride was not afraid to using eye-popping color. Color brings cheer and memory to your wedding. Choosing your colors. Let the color wheel help you select gorgeous wedding decor. The traditional school of thought is to pick three colors in a row on the color wheel: red, orange and yellow fit that thinking. Another is to pick two colors that are next to each other on the color wheel and a color across the wheel, e.g. orange and yellow with lime green. Most importantly, be sure your wedding reflects your personality and style. It’s your day. Make it beautiful, just like you!
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3 Steps to Having a Better Husband Influencing Your Man to Be His Best
Women have an incredible influence. You have the ability to make the lives of those around you better or worse just by your very presence. I’ve been thinking that some women have no clue how much actual influence they hold and then proceed to destroy their husbands without thinking. In Four Pillars of a Man’s Heart, Stu Weber says, “A woman can so easily crush a man’s spirit. With a look. With a word. With a shrug of indifference…” Some women are aware of their influence and use it for controlling purposes. But then there are other women who know the influence God has placed in their femininity, and they make a choice to use that influence only for good. They remind me of the woman described in Proverbs 31:12, “She will do him good, not harm, all the days of her life.” Women have asked me a variation of the same question, “How can I fix my husband?” They say something like, “How can I get him to spend less time with sports or on the computer?” or “How can I get him to control his anger?” or “How can I get him to talk to me more?” Here’s a question for you: Can a woman change a man? And all the men say, “No way.” While you may not be able to change a man, you certainly have the God-given ability to influence and motivate your hubby in ways that could amaze you! In fact, your God-given capacity to influence your sweetheart is one of the most impressive forces on earth. If you want to be truly effective, you must understand how and why your influence works. Here are some key points for influencing that man you love.
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Adjust your attitude
It’s almost impossible to influence your man to spend quality time with the kids, to help you with house chores, or to eat healthy if you’re remembering and rehearsing all the ways he has disappointed or frustrated you. I remember when my husband, Bo, was in his medical training program and working long, stressful days while I was taking care of the children and home front. I tried everything from lecturing, complaining, nagging, being pitiful, and arguing to motivate him to change his hours. Trying to change a man that way is exhausting, and it doesn’t work. Finally a wise woman told me that I needed an attitude adjustment! After getting over the initial insult, I knew she was right. So instead of harboring nippy feelings that turn into cold wars with disrespectful words and actions, what about spending some time in your prayer closet with Father God, the lover of your soul? Philippians 4:8-9 still works wonders. Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. I give God all my hurt feelings and allow Him to do a healing work in my soul, and He gives me a peace and new attitude. Now with a God-filled attitude I can see and encourage the positives in my wonderful man. A good-hearted man will respond to the positive tone of your voice and happy look in your face.
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Appreciate and affirm
Men like to make women happy and to do things for them; but if their efforts to please their wives are not noticed or appreciated, the gas in their helping tanks runs out quickly. No one likes to be taken for granted. If you want to influence your man to become your knight in shining armor, then begin to appreciate every good thing you catch him doing, and he will want to do more. I was reminded of the importance of this principle last weekend when Bo and I were playing with three of our grandchildren at the beach. Even though Bo said he would play in the ocean with them, I felt anxious that they were getting out too far. I proceeded to yell my instructions and warnings to him, at which point, he said he would be happy to watch the children, but he felt he was being criticized and his efforts were being micromanaged. Ouch! Now the truth is that he is trustworthy, and he loves the grandchildren and was watching them carefully. I can influence him more by appreciating what he is doing and he will want to do more.
Believe in Him
Having a woman believe in him is a powerful need in a man’s life. When you believe in your husband, it motivates and inspires him to greater achievements, to be all God has called him to be, to believe in himself. Remember, Girlfriends, to speak words of belief in your husband when he’s doing something new or challenging, when his work is stressful, when he has been successful, or when he’s made a mistake. Every man needs his own personal cheerleader. God will gift you with the influence to inspire your hubby when you choose to believe in him, believe that his intentions are good, and believe that he is a good man. Words that communicate belief are, “I trust you, you are so good at ______, you can do it, even though it’s difficult, you can figure it out, I’m proud of you, I like to be with you.” When Bo and I started speaking to marriage groups 13 years ago, I had some experience in teaching, but this was new for Bo. Because I knew Bo and believed that he had a wealth of wisdom and experience that would greatly benefit the men in the marriage groups, I began to consistently speak words of encouragement in his ability to do this. When he heard my belief in him, he trusted me and successfully ventured into new areas of ministry. I believe influencing your husband is a role God has given to you. By choosing to live this role, you will not only bless your husband, but you will be blessed and bring pleasure to God.
Coming Full Circle —Lisa Spellman
Our family has been very blessed throughout the seventeen years that we have been at Cathedral of Praise. We have built strong relationships with families and individuals who were older than us and with those much younger than us. When we first started attending the church, we had a one year old baby and one on the way.
For many years, we played with, loved on and prayed for many of the children and teens that are now grown up and serving in the children’s and teen ministries themselves. Those are the leaders that are now playing with, loving on and praying for our own four teenage children. (Obviously, our family grew a little more over the years!)
We soon started serving in the children’s ministry. After several years, my husband moved to the teen ministry. During that time of our life, we met many people who have become lifelong friends. Over the past seventeen years, these friends have shared many good times with our family, and walked and counseled us through a few dark times, as well.
Some of these leaders even have children of their own now. And guess what…OUR children are now playing with, loving on and praying for those precious little ones. (Did I mention that the one year old I had when we first started attending Cathedral is now attending college and serving in the teen ministry?) We planted seeds into the youth around us. Now they are doing the same for our children who are passing the same tradition of service, love and friendship down to their children. That’s FULL CIRCLE.
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Wherever you are, always remember to pray for and encourage the people who have chosen to serve in ministry over your children. They are planting seeds in them that, if nourished properly, will produce some amazing fruit.
Our children’s future depends on what we do today. Let’s help make their generation great!
Power of Words —Nancy Strickland
Remember when a dear friend said something so encouraging that you asked her to say it again just so you could hear it one more time? Or has something ever slipped out of your mouth that you wished you could take back?
Death and life are in the power of the tongue. — Proverbs 18:21
Most people do not realize the power of words. Do you know that the words that come out of your mouth affect the atmosphere around you and can even set the course of your life? For God to create, He had to speak. Nothing happened until God spoke. “Then God said, ‘Let there be light,’ and there was light” (Genesis 1:3). Creation took place through God’s spoken words. When God created mankind in His own image, He established in us His way of operation. Since we reflect God’s likeness and His way of doing things, our words are intended to produce, as well. Our confession (what we say) must bring our words into agreement with God’s Word. We never rise higher than our confession. If our words line up with God’s, they will produce the results we desire. Jesus never spoke a word that the Father did not say. “For I say only what I have heard from the one who sent me, and he is completely truthful” (John 8:26). Many examples throughout the Bible remind us of the importance of confession. Look at Mary’s response to the angel’s message that she would be the mother of Jesus: “Let it be to me according to your word” (Luke 1:38). Mary did not go by her feelings; instead, she began to speak in agreement with the promises made to her. Nine months later, the Word became reality. If we can make a large horse turn and go wherever we want by means of a small bit in its mouth, or take a tiny rudder and make a huge ship turn wherever the pilot wants it to go, surely we can apply God’s Word to any
problem - no matter what it is - and turn around any circumstance in our lives. Isaiah 55:10-11 states that the Word of God does not return void but shall accomplish its purpose. Whatever your situation, find God’s promise in the Word, and let it roll off your tongue. Quit speaking the problem or even praying the problem. Instead, speak and pray the promise. What you talk about most is what gets magnified in your life, either good or bad. Magnify what brings life. John Eldredge tells the story of a sea lion that had “lost the sea.” He lived in a country called the barren lands. High on a plateau, far from any coast, it was a place so dry and dusty that it could only be called a desert...Of course, it must seem strange to you that such a beautiful creature should wind up in a desert at all. He was, mind you, a sea lion. But things like this do happen. How the sea lion came to the barren lands, no one could remember. It all seemed so very long ago. So long, in fact, it appeared as though he had always been there…But as you know, once you have lived so long in a certain spot, no matter how odd, you come to think of it as home.” I, like the sea lion, lived in the desert for way too long, paralyzed by fear that would try to keep me hostage in my own home. I stayed in that desert for twelve years, letting fearful words fill my prayers and speech. Then, like Job, I received the revelation of the power of my words as referenced by the powerful statement, “How forcible are right words” (Job 6:25). Job asked God in the same passage, “Is there wrong on my tongue?” As I began to speak God’s truth, faith replaced the fear, and I found freedom. So, what kind of words are you speaking these days? Words of fear or words of faith? Remember, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue” (Proverbs 18:21). By your words, you can change the course of your life. What you say has influence. Speak LIFE.
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Borrowed Treasure — Faith Hobbs
My story begins just over 13 years ago. I was a young woman just beginning to outgrow her impoverished childhood. In a miraculous moment of grace, I was given a vast treasure – the likes of which I never dreamed to one day possess. Unfortunately, in my youthful ignorance, I failed to fully appreciate its value. I had no clear understanding of how to best invest this wealth, so it began to dwindle away with time. Though it was a gift to me, my blessing was not intended to be mine alone. After just nine short years, I found myself in tears, wondering if there was a way for me to salvage my investment, to regenerate its growth and refocus its return. Just over 13 years ago I became pregnant with my incredible son Ethan. I was young, having just graduated high school. I was unmarried and not in the least bit prepared to be a good steward of this treasure I was lent. Yet through God’s grace, the opportunity was extended. It was never His will for me to be in this situation; I brought it on myself. However, His desire was to bless me exceedingly, abundantly above that which I could
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imagine. Having been the product of an impoverished, welfare-dependent, single parent home myself, I was terrified. I had spent my whole life in judgment of my mother’s choices. I was determined to see my child have the advantages I never knew. I worked hard. So hard, in fact, that by the time I was 23, I was well on the way to success, making great achievements in my field. At 28, I was a Regional Director of Sales, managing millions of dollars in revenue, earning what could be considered a very good salary. I had not settled for welfare dependence. I was able to travel with my son. He had nice clothes, shoes, and was able to participate in things I never could. He never had to worry about food, electricity or bills like I did in my youth. I was feeling pretty accomplished until it became evident that something was not quite right. Ethan, a very intelligent boy, began failing in school. Once an overachiever, he was now simply content with survival. Honestly, I was not thriving as everyone perceived me to be. I realized that in my quest to care for him, I was leaving him alone. On the outside, my life looked good, but the inside was a mess. I had to
counsel with my advisor. I am not talking about Charles Schwab here; I cried out to God. I decided to quit my job, leaving behind my aspirations of conquering the hospitality industry. I focused instead on being a good steward of my borrowed treasure. I took a job that paid less but was less stressful, giving me time and energy to focus on my son and our life together. Ethan had my attention more completely than ever. He did not have to compete with all the other things in my life. Since that defining moment, I have seen wonderful changes in Ethan. He is a well adjusted young man today. And I am now happily married, with another son, Jaron, who is a joyful little boy. As I write this, I am just days away from giving birth to our third child, my first daughter. I recognize that my children are a gift, a borrowed treasure, given to us for only a short time. I trust that God, through His grace, will continue helping me parent my children wisely so that I’ll see a great return on each of my investments.
I Am Just Their Teacher —R. Keith Brown, Head of Schools, Cathedral Academy
I am just their teacher, what can I possibly do, To help these kids learn what they need, Lord, help me make it through. Got educated and investigated, by Profs. and FBI, Did practicums and internships, set goals and visions high. I coordinated the mandates, can regulate with the best, Anticipated the trouble spots, and remediated the rest. Got evaluated, got agitated, often things get complicated, Was disaggregated, felt devastated, and sometimes really frustrated. I hurried-up, rushed around, and scampered here and there, I ran to here and flew to there, seemed to never get anywhere. Turn this in by Tuesday, and Friday that thing is due, My lesson plans are due on Monday, so they can be reviewed. I am just their teacher, what can I possibly do, To help these kids learn what they need, Lord, help me make it through. Freddy asked a question today, “How could that answer be 4?” See Freddy is a quiet kid, who has never talked before. Andy wrote a paragraph, this morning...all by himself, Then raised his hand to read aloud, before the “Show and Tell.” Tom and Bill got mad today, I thought they’d come to blows, But Tom told Bill, “Let’s work this out; it’s a better way to go.” Tanya dropped her food at lunch; she slipped and almost fell, But no one laughed, instead they stopped, and three kids rushed to help. Laney usually gives me trouble, makes noise and all kind of stuff, Today I let her be in charge, and she couldn’t learn enough. Cindy is really quiet, a loner through and through, But suddenly she’s stepping out, to lead a devotions group. The trials and tribulations, they’re stressful every day, But the little things are paying off, somehow...some way. You see I’m just their teacher, “What can I possibly do?” Love and Prayer… it made a difference, Lord, thanks, I’ll make it through with You.
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Sidewalks — M. Linda Ensor
Will future historians look back on the 60’s, when sidewalks began to disappear, and say it was the beginning of the end of civilization as we knew it? Years ago, sidewalks served as the neighborhood lifeline. Kids rode their bikes on them, roller skated on them, and walked to school on them. In the course of a day spent playing on sidewalks, kids met their neighbors, learned acceptable (and unacceptable) social behavior, and boundaries. They also learned responsibility. Sidewalks were for trick or treating. You knew whose doorbell you were ringing because you’d seen those folks your whole life. And they knew who you were, as well. They had seen you just about every day out on the sidewalk, where moms pushed baby carriages for miles and miles, giving toddlers their first look at the world. Kids didn’t have weight problems then because they were getting exercise a dozen different ways, many of them connected to the sidewalk that ran from their house to their school, their friend’s house, or the ball field. Sidewalks provided an opportunity for kids to earn some extra money. Up North, kids got paid $5 to shovel sidewalks. Sometimes it was easy; sometimes hard. But if you didn’t take care of it, the elderly lady next door might fall trying to get to her mailbox. Down South, kids got paid to weed and sweep grass off their neighbors’ walks. And sidewalks weren’t important just to kids. Adults used them, as well. They walked safely to church, and to the corner store for a newspaper or a quart of milk. Along the way, they paused to catch up with the neighbors, swap stories, or listen to the local gossip. Sidewalks allowed you to take your elderly dad for a walk around the block in his wheelchair, giving him some much needed fresh air, sunshine, and a feeling of belonging. Ultimately, sidewalks meant face to face contact with people. Even now, it’s hard to walk past someone else coming toward you without acknowledging them in some way; a smile, a nod, or ‘morning.’ You don’t have to do that when you rush past cars doing 50…or even when you’re stopped at a red light. You can look straight ahead and not even acknowledge them at all. Possibly even more than television, eliminating sidewalks has changed the face of American society. It’s not too late to bring them back. If you don’t have them in your neighborhood, campaign for them. Make your voice heard. YOU can make a difference. Who knows what would change if we all started using our sidewalks. We might even meet the neighbors on our block and rediscover a sense of true community.
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—Kathy Martinez
There is a fear factor attached to the thought of attending a small group. Perhaps you have never gone to one, or you may have had a bad experience. I remember walking into the room, looking around at the six women in the group, and thinking, “What am I doing here? I can’t open up in here, because I don’t know these women.” I kept everyone at arm’s length for quite some time. Bad day, bad mood, bad attitude – it didn’t matter, as long as I showed up. I eventually opened up and made some friends. Since that first group, I have been in support groups, fun groups, home groups and Bible study groups. Now I love walking into whatever group I am in and knowing that the others are glad to see me. A couple of years ago, I heard a guest speaker talk about groups. “There is a group for everyone. If you have something you are passionate about, instead of saying, ‘We need
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I remember going to my first small group in April 1994. It was a tough time in my life. While my husband and I were in a counseling session, the counselor suggested that I go to a small group called “The Door of Hope” for women who had been sexually abused. I remember very clearly saying, “I’ve already dealt with all that stuff, and I am fine.” Truthfully, I was broken and lost; so I ended up going. It was the first of many groups.
a group on this,’ why not start a group around your passion?” I remember asking myself, “What am I passionate about?” I discovered that my passion is helping other women experience what I have in small groups – building relationships with other women and with God. Giving women a place to come and feel welcomed and cared for, where they encounter the presence of God. I love watching women find healing and discover the passion of God’s love for them through His Word, the Bible. Now I am an advocate for small groups, leading groups and women who lead women’s groups. So I ask you this, What is your passion? Are you in a small group? Are you leading a small group? Are you reaching outside your circle to embrace new people? I would encourage you to find a small group to join. Or begin considering what group you could start. I know that life is very busy, but it’s worth the extra effort. You’ll end up gaining more than you give away. When you have good things to celebrate or bad things to work through, why not be around people who want to love and care for you? Most people are in a group because they choose to be. They come back looking for the same thing each week: a place to connect. Groups are where healing happens, friendships happen, relationships happen, and life becomes a journey you no longer take alone. ...continued on next page
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What women are saying: “Joining a small group is one of the most rewarding things I have ever done at Cathedral. I never really felt I connected or quite fit in anywhere until I joined a small group. I not only became closer to God but began to feel more a part of the Church as a whole. I have made some wonderful friends that I know I will have for life.” —Joann “Don’t get disappointed if a group is not giving you what you need or you’re not connecting. Try other groups. It’s sort of like buying a pair of shoes. You keep having to try different ones on until you find the pair that fits perfectly, and then you love wearing them all the time.” —Betsy “Small groups at Cathedral have helped me to connect to caring, loving women. The groups and studies have helped me grow stronger in my daily relationship with God. Today, small groups keep me connected and give me the opportunity to share how God’s unconditional amazing love has transformed my life.” —Bonnie Visit our small groups online: www.copsmallgroups.org
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