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1 Letting Go Of People-pleasing RECLAIMING INNER SOVEREIGNTY..

by Persephone Kianka

Like many people in the spiritual community, I naturally tune in to how others are feeling and assume this strange responsibility for their emotions. I anticipate how what I say or do could negatively affect someone and adjust my expression accordingly. Of course, we should consider how our words and actions impact other people but only to a point.

When our Soul is yearning to express its Truth, boundaries, dreams or desires, and we hold back, that is people-pleasing, what I’m trying to leave behind.

Just the other day, I was texting my best friend, Amy, about her upcoming party, and I told her that I wasn’t planning to drink. It was such a subtle way of people-pleasing that I didn’t even catch it until she replied:

“Of course Persephone! Don’t ever feel like you need to disclaim that :0 You can drink or not drink till your heart’s content, it’s all about what makes you comfortable and what makes you happy :-) Why did I get so sappy there? xD”

Her “sappy” message touched me and reminded me that the people who matter just want me to be happy. If someone feels uncomfortable or “hurt” when I act in alignment with my Truth, they probably don’t belong in my life anyway.

Though I know this deep down, I still catch myself reverting to my peoplepleasing tendencies. If I felt the need to notify my best friend that I wouldn’t be