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Charlotte’s African-American Magazine

Women’s Issue

Pride turns the spotlight on 51 powerful black women Affordable-housing project incorporates environmental stewardship As health care reform stalls, African-Americans watch and wait

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Departments 10 F rom the CEO 12 Business Spotlight Taylor Starling 13 Book Review ‘Push’ 34 By Faith A time to grieve 35 Parenthood Corner Single, with children 36 Creative Arts Romare Bearden Society 38 Green Movement African Americans have a stake 39 Healthy Lifestyle Take care of yourself 40 Style Profile

72 Notable Names

73 Calendar

Business 62 Budget Survive, recover from a layoff 64 Buying a home Women hold key to the market 66 Valuable Stash Look for source of income

68 Personal Finance Saving requires deliberate action 70 Supplier Diversity Perspective on women

71 Small Business Entrepreneur turns to Internet

Health 46 Personal Training Want to change your body? 48 Integrative Health Coping with catastrophe 50 Hormone Replacement Hormone makeover may ease symptoms

Features 14 U p in the air As health care reform stalls, African Americans and others watch and wait 18 5 1 powerful black women Pride Magazine turns spotlight on leaders who make a difference 26 A step ahead Studio instructs students about much more than song and dance

52 Eye Care Help for skimpy eyelashes

32 L ights! Camera! Action! Pride Magazine’s publisher to serve as guest host on new local talk show

54 Body Sculpting Lasers help trim the fat

44 T he other silent killer High-cholesterol levels jeopardize health; here’s how to combat the risk

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Stepping out of my zone by Dee Dixon

ello, everyone! It’s been a long time since I’ve had the opportunity to write the Pride column. Some people think I actually retired after passing the publisher torch to Torrey! (Torrey is my son, for any of you who are new to Pride.) What a joke! There is no rest for the weary. Anyhow, I’m writing for March because I made a deal with Torrey. Since he spent almost a whole day helping me with my new iPhone (yes, technology is one of my challenges in life) I agreed to write the column this time. I don’t mind really, because the Women’s Issue always energizes me. Plus, this gives us a chance to catch up.

Food for thought May I first share some recent statistics about women? Did you know that women now control more than 60 percent of the nation’s wealth and that 68 million women are working full time? And did you know that women account for almost 47 percent of the labor force? I didn’t realize this until I read a press release in December from the Cali Pearl Corp. in Greensboro. (Cali Pearl is a North Carolina registered investment advisory firm.) The Cali Pearl release further cited the evolution of gender roles, stating that “women are becoming the breadwinners as they are quickly surpassing men on the nation’s payroll for the first time in U.S. history.” Unbelievable! This trend is sure to give women more power, right?

In this issue Speaking of power, I love our feature on 51 Powerful Black Women. We truly have some outstanding, accomplished, awesome women in our town. Some of my roles models are included: Dr. Paula Newsome, Thereasea Elder and Sonja Gantt, just to name a few. If you were not listed among these ladies this issue, promise me you won’t be offended. We’ll get you next time, OK? (Whew! I know what a feature like this can do to the psyche of a woman.) Our cover story on BB Dance is long overdue. Vernonica Badgett Perry has run a successful program of excellence for our girls for many years and we are thrilled to give BB Dance the cover this time around. A final comment on this issue: I’m thrilled about the new Romare Bearden Society headed up by Rubie Britt-Height of the Mint Museum of Art. Please read the Arts Column by LaTonya Mason (page 36) for more details. I’m pleased to be one of the founding members of this historic organization. Bearden’s life and connection to Charlotte is fascinating and I challenge you to get involved along with us.

Stepping outside my zone Diana Floss and the Chicken Supremes perform at the 2010 Pride Awards.

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OK, let’s catch up now. I want you to know that 2010 is a year for me to step outside my zone. I want to reach higher, achieve greater, earn more, give more and just enjoy life more. As I continue to care for my elderly mother, I’m reminded on a daily basis that life is short and “old” is right around the corner. So, it started with the Pride Awards. Yes, I put on a Diana Ross wig and sang “Stop in the Name of Love.” That was really outside the box for me as I cannot carry a straight tune. But it was so much fun! See the remainder of the Pride Awards photos on page 40 and you might be able to Diana “Floss” on Youtube. Next up, I’m running for the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society Woman of the Year. This involves raising money to fund research toward cures for blood cancers such as leukemia, lymphoma and myeloma. This is going to be a grueling ten-week campaign with very stiff competition. Why am I doing this? (1) To bring awareness to the African-American community about this disease. Did you know that leukemia is the seventh most common cause of cancer deaths in males and the eight most common in African-American females? And in children, the highest incidence rates of non-Hodgkin lymphoma are in African-American children from 15 to 19 years. (2) Because I have never participated in a campaign like this and it is sure to take me outside of my zone. Please support me in this endeavor. I need your help to win! Log on to www.wnc.mwoy.llsevent.org/dixon and make your pledge today.

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Did you know that the African-American population is at a higher risk of blood cancers such as leukemia, lymphoma, myeloma and sickle cell than other ethnic groups? If you are like me, this comes as a surprise because when I think of diseases that disproportionately impact African Americans, I automatically think of stroke, diabetes and hypertension. Don’t you? Well, it’s time for us to think again. As many of you know, I am a huge advocate of “good health for African Americans.” We have provided our community with articles on proper nutrition, fitness, disease prevention and the elimination of health disparities for many years. “Awareness” is our goal. With this said, I feel compelled to bring awareness regarding the devastating impact blood cancer diseases have on our community. When Jane Weaver and Kristen Mihaljevic of the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society talked to me about running to become the 2010 Woman of Year, I couldn’t say no to them. This event will be a competitive but fun 10-week campaign to raise money to find a cure for blood cancers and to assist families and patients as they battle these awful diseases. Every dollar I raise is a vote for me and a vote to cure cancer. I am asking you to join me in this ambitious campaign that ends May 15th. I thank you in advance and truly appreciate your support. Remember, our greatest wealth is our health.

Leukemia

• Between 2002 and 2006, African Americans who were diagnosed with leukemia between the ages of 25 and 64 had a higher death rate than whites from the disease. • In 2009, approximately 1,830 African Americans (970 males and 860 females) are expected to die of leukemia. • Leukemia is the seventh most common cause of cancer deaths in African-American males and the eighth most common in African-American females.

Lymphoma

• Non-Hodgkin Lymphoma is the seventh most common cancer in males and females in the United States. • African Americans, from the mid-late teens to mid-50’s. have higher incidence rates of NHL than whites. • In children, the highest incidence rates of NHL are in African-American children from ages 15 to 19 years. Please send in your contribution today.

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BookReview

‘Push’ by Angela Haigler

“

ush” by Sapphire received critical acclaim for its first printing in 1996. The book garnered numerous awards, from the Book-of-theMonth Club Stephen Crane award for First Fiction to the Black Caucus of the American Library Association’s First Novelist Award. Today the book has been reprinted to coincide with “Precious,” the film based on Sapphire’s original work. If you’ve seen the film, you might wonder why you should read the book. The answer is because the book is a treasure that provides insight the film couldn’t capture due to its brevity. Sapphire, born Ramona Lofton, gives us a voice weaved into a poem weaved into prose that is both harsh and delicate. Through the prose and on the very first page we are thrust into the world of Precious Jones, an abused, 16-year-old overweight girl. It’s not easy to inhabit Precious’ world because it is a world of incest and degradation. If you can look beyond Precious’ pain and tragedy, you’ll find a story of personal triumph, friendship and perseverance. There was something about Precious’ spirit, that no matter what insults her young body endured and despite the indignities she suffered, that spirit, that inner light, refused to be doused. We trust Sapphire’s telling of this tale; her writing has a certain authority. Somehow she knows that participation in an “alternative school” or a school that teaches young women to read can make a

If you’ve seen the film “Precious,” you might wonder why you should read the book. The answer is because the book is a treasure that provides insight the film couldn’t capture due to its brevity. tremendous difference in their lives. Sapphire taught at such a school and she also worked as a social worker. It’s a story for educators, those who inspire and those who don’t have time to figure out that a student can’t read. “Push” goes further than the movie to explore much more deeply the lives of the other female participants who attended the alternative school with Precious. Each young woman overcame her own horrific circumstances that led her to find herself on the steps of the “Each One Teach One” school. Each story is almost just as compelling as Precious’ story. Each is a rich, fragrant poem reminiscent of Ntozake Shange’s play, “For Colored Girls Who Have Considered Suicide When the Rainbow Is Enuf.” As each of the women finds peace with her situation and handles it in her own way, we are incredibly saddened by their struggles as we also celebrate each of their triumphs. P March-April 2010 | Pride Magazine

by Kevin Caston photos by Tye Feimster

IN THE

AIR

As health care reform stalls, African Americans and others watch and wait

James Pettis, now uninsured, worries about what will happen if he falls ill.

Despite losing his job at Wachovia several months ago, James Pettis isn’t too worried these days. He’s collecting severance pay from the bank, at least until this fall. Occasionally, he surfs the Web looking for work but isn’t in any hurry to find a job. The only thing that worries the 27-year-old Huntersville resident is the sniffles. 14

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Usually a runny nose is the first sign of a cold. And for Pettis the possibility of catching a cold frightens him. That’s because he’s among the tens of millions of Americans without health insurance. In the past, when Pettis had employeeprovided health care, he’d go to the doctor and get a prescription for the cold or flu and in a few days would be back to normal. Now, relief must come from over-the-counter medication. “At times I’m frightened because I never know when something is going to happen,” says Pettis. “I’m the type of person who goes to the doctor for anything. But now I can’t do that. I have to be really careful not to get sick.” Aside from doing without his frequent trips to the doctor, Pettis also has to miss his six-month dental checkup and his annual eye exam.

Least likely to be insured Millions of Americans are facing the same fate as Pettis. Some 86 million Americans went without health insurance at some point during 2007-2008, according to Families USA, a nonprofit group that advocates for affordable health care for all Americans. The group found that low-income people of color are more likely to be among the uninsured than white Americans. For example, one-third of Hispanics and one-fourth of African-Americans are likely to be uninsured compared to one-fifth of whites. For groups like Families USA and people like Pettis, health care reform is critical. As of this writing, Congress is debating whether to pass sweeping legislation that would overhaul the current health care system. The legislation has been the centerpiece of President Obama’s domestic policy agenda along with reviving the economy. In December 2009, the Senate passed an $871 billion bill that would expand coverage by making more lower-income people eligible for Medicaid, and by offering subsidies to help moderate-income people buy insurance. That bill, along with a similar plan passed in November by the House of Representatives, would also prohibit insurance companies from denying coverage for pre-existing conditions, and

Dr. Karen Butler

According to Families USA, low-income people of color are more likely to be among the uninsured than white Americans. would create insurance exchanges, or new government-regulated marketplaces, where individuals and small businesses could come together to buy coverage. The House and Senate bills passed along party lines. All 60 Senate Democrats voted for the bill while all 40 Republicans voted against it. The House bill also received a majority of democratic support. Some sticking points in both bills included placing restrictions on abortion funding and a debate over whether to expand Medicare to cover more Americans. A proposal to place a 40 percent excise tax on high-cost health plans, referred to by some as “Cadillac plans” is also a source of contention.

Watered-down versions of what Obama intended Dr. Karen Butler, professor of health education at Johnson C. Smith University,

called the bills “watered-down versions of what Obama intended.” Butler said the government should ensure that every American has access to affordable health care. “We Americans think of health care as a privilege instead of a right,” she says, adding that “a healthy society will make us all healthier.” The debate over health care has stoked emotions in both houses of Congress and throughout America. It’s constantly been a hot topic on talk radio and cable news channels. Some conservatives have vilified health care reform, likening it to a government takeover of health care. Some have even claimed that the government will set up death committees that will have the final say on matters of life or death involving terminally ill, elderly patients. Meanwhile, the insurance industry has poured millions of dollars into defeating health care reform by producing a stream of emotionally charged TV ads warning Americans that the government was trying to take away their health insurance. Instead, any health care reform that’s passed will mean little to the 160 Americans and their dependents who already have health insurance.

History repeating itself in 2010? At the outset of his push for reform, Obama declared to the uninsured that, “If you like your health plan, you can keep your health plan.” For the past 75 years several presidents and members of Congress have tried to create a national health care system only to be thwarted, mostly by the insurance lobby. The last attempt led by the Clinton administration failed miserably in 1994, doomed by an onslaught from lobbyists. A likely centerpiece of any legislation that finally passes is the guarantee that Americans would still be able to have affordable coverage should their employment circumstances, such as a job layoff or firing, change. That’s something Americans like Pettis can use. “Something’s got to be done,” says Pettis. “It’s needed.” P March-April 2010 | Pride Magazine

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Pride Magazine turns the spotlight on leaders who make a difference

MOSTPOWERFUL

WOMEN When you think of powerful African-American women, names like Oprah Winfrey, Cathy Hughes and Michelle Obama might immediately jump into your head. While these household names are recognizable on a national, even global, scale, we are surrounded by women who are making a difference here in our own corner of the universe. For this year’s Pride Women’s Issue, we decided to spotlight some of the African-American women who are having the greatest impact on the Charlotte community. Whether they have ascended to the pinnacle of their professional careers or are pounding the pavement at the grassroots level to effect positive change, we want to recognize them for their efforts. To assist us in formulating this list, we asked members of our community to help with the selections. While there are many African-American women in our community who are qualified for this recognition, time and space constraints only allow us to present some of them to you in this issue. These women are smart and successful, independent and influential. As we enter this new decade, Pride Magazine is proud to present 51 of Charlotte’s Powerful African-American Women (in alphabetical order). For more information on these 51 women, visit our Web site at www.pridecommunicationsinc.net, and please feel free to share your thoughts.

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Brenda Anderson

Founder, president and chief executive officer of The Galilee Agency Inc.

Terri Avery

Operations manager/program director for WBAV FM 101.9 and WPEG FM 97.9.

Tanya Blackmon

President, Presbyterian Hospital Huntersville.

Linda Lockman Brooks

Angeline “Angi” Clinton Senior vice

Dr. Valencia Covington

Okeatta Brown

Antoinette Cody

Mary C. Curtis

Dr. Ophelia Garmon Brown

Debbie Kwei Cook

Founder and president of Lockman-Brooks Marketing Services LLC.

Vice president of Wells Fargo corporate supplier diversity and chair of the board of directors of the Urban League of the Central Carolinas.

he first female T African-American resident at Charlotte Memorial Hospital (now Carolinas Medical Center).

Debra Campbell Director of the CharlotteMecklenburg Planning Commission.

president of enterprise operations services for Duke Energy.

President of the Charlotte Alumnae Chapter of Delta Sigma Theta Inc.

Vice president/ general manager for WQNC Q92.7 and WPZS Praise 100.9.

Stephanie Counts

CEO and co-founder of Women’s Inter-Cultural Exchange.

Medical director and primary care physician with C.W. Williams Community Health Center.

Award-winning journalist who contributes to PoliticsDaily.com, National Public Radio, TheRoot.com and Creative Loafing.

Janine Davis

Founder of Girl Talk Foundation Inc., and former morning radio personality on WPEG 97.9.

Dee Dixon

President and CEO of Pride Communications Inc., parent company of Pride Magazine, Pride PR, Pride Awards and the Sunset Jazz Festival. She is co-founder of and the Women’s Inter-Cultural Exchange.

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MOST- POWERFUL WOMEN Sonya Dukes

Felisha Fletcher

Thereasea Clark Elder

Shirley Fulton

Vice president and Wells Fargo Bank corporate supplier diversity director.

Lifelong educator and health care advocate.

Retired North Carolina Superior Court judge and partner in the law firm of Tin, Fulton, Greene and Owen. She is chair of the board of trustees at the Charlotte School of Law and owner of the Wadsworth House in historic Wesley Heights.

President and chief executive officer of Todayâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Woman Inc., a publications firm for area magazines that publishes Todayâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Charlotte Woman.

BridgetAnne Hampden

President and CEO of JHR & Associates LLC. She is currently a North Carolina Education Lottery commissioner.

Cheryl Emanuel

Glenda Gabriel

Senior vice president of Neighborhood Lending, Consumer Real Estate at Bank of America.

President and chief executive of Carolinas Minority Supplier Development Council Inc.

Judge Yvonne Mims Evans

Sonja Gantt

Venessa Harrison

Community health administrator/ division manager for Mecklenburg County and a community activist.

Resident Superior Court judge for District 26.

Owner of The IT Factor Media Group, an event lifestyle company, and senior publicist for The 909 Group.

Belva W. Greenage

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Broadcast veteran since 1997, she is currently a weekly anchor a WCNC-TV.

Robyn Hamilton

Director of legislative and external affairs of AT&T, North Carolina.

Eddyce Hobson Lowe’s Home Improvement and Pride President of the

Vilma Leake

Cynthia Marshall

Carol Lilly

Felicia H. McAdoo

Member of the Mecklenburg Board of County Commissioners former This year’s theme, ”Design.Build.Live,” will and Charlottespotlight achievement in Charlotte’s real Mecklenburg Board of Education member.

Magazine are Chapter pleased to announce the Charlotte of The Links Inc. award recipients for the January 17th gala.

State president of AT&T North Carolina.

estate and construction arenas. The winners are:

Carlenia Ivory

Education and community activist, she performs community relations and outreach for Charlotte-Mecklenburg Schools, Community Partnerships.

President and CEO of Lil Associates, a construction consulting firm.

Harvey Gantt

Roger Parham

Carol Lilly

Designer Extraordinaire

Dream-Maker

Legacy Award

Chief Deputy Sheriff of the Mecklenburg County Sheriff’s Department.

Timothy Johnson Stepping Stone (Youth Award.)

Tiffany Chiquitha Lowe’s Home Improvement will again Jones Lloyd serve as this year’s title sponsor. In addition, Administrator Founder of Digital the Minority, Divas Inc., a supporting sponsors include Bank of America,of Women and boutique event planning and media Goody’s Headache Powders, Wachovia, Coca Small Business Enterprise consulting firm. for CharlotteCola Consolidated, Inc., Food Lion, Duke Mecklenburg Energy, Edifice, Turner Construction, The Schools.

Alisa McDonald

Vice president of foundation and community affairs at Duke Energy.

Charlotte Observer and News Channel 36. This year’s event will benefit Community Link, aDonna non-profit organization dedicated to Vi Lacey enabling individuals and families obtain and Alexander Executive director/ Lyles sustainprovider safe and affordable housing. at Project Director with The HealthShare Inc./ Lee Institute and The Charlotte purpose of the Pride Awards is to former assistant Volunteers in city manager of recognize achievement in Charlotte’s African Medicine Clinic. American community, to promote diversity throughout the city and to raise funds for a

Charlotte.

Carolyn Mints

Senior director of operations of the Harvey B. Gantt Afro-American Culture and Art Center.

worthy cause. Please call 704-375-9553 to learn more or log on to www.prideawards.net. March-April 2010 | Pride Magazine

MOST-POWERFUL WOMEN r. Paula R. D Newsome

Marilyn B. Richards

Joy Paige

Saundra Scales

The first AfricanAmerican woman optometrist to open a private practice in North Carolina and owner of Advantage Vision Center.

Vice president for institutional advancement at Johnson C. Smith University and president of the Crown Jewels Chapter of The Links Inc.

Lifelong educator and champion for equality. She participated in the initial desegregation of Charlotte-Mecklenburg schools.

Geraldine Sumter, Esq.

President/CEO of First Legacy Community Credit Union.

A partner in the legendary law firm of Ferguson, Stein, Chambers, Gresham and Sumter P.A.

Nettie Reeves

T ami Simmons

Bea Thompson

Wilhelmina Rembert

Sarah Stevenson

Fitness expert and owner of N’ Shape with ’N, a health and fitness business.

Partnership Specialist for the Census Bureau, Charlotte Region, and Congressional District 9 commissioner N.C. Social Services Commission. She is a former Mecklenburg County commissioner.

Regional development director of the United Negro College Fund Inc.

Daisy Stroud

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Senior vice president of corporate philanthropy and environmental affairs at Wells Fargo.

A community and civil rights activist, she was the first African-American woman on the Charlotte school board. She co-founded the Tuesday Morning Breakfast Forum.

The first AfricanAmerican female anchor in Charlotte. She is the news and public affairs director of WBAV 101.9 FM and host of “The Front Page with Beatrice Thompson” and “Straight Talk with Bea Thompson.”

Mary Wilson

Director of the Mecklenburg County Department of Social Services.

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eronica Badgett Perry started taking dance lessons in the third grade when her grandmother enrolled her. By middle school, she had decided that dance would be her career. By high school, she was teaching classes. She always knew she wanted her own dance studio one day. However, it wasn’t until Perry left the studio where she was teaching professionally that the idea began to take shape. “Once we parted ways, I had quite a few parents to ask me to teach their kids, and that’s how I ended up with my business,” Perry explains.

Founded in 1991, BB Dance Productions teaches ballet, tap, gymnastics, hip-hop and lyrical dance to 2 ½-year-olds through high school students. The studio has grown steadily from about 20 students at a community center to the now 300 students enrolled at its current 5,000-square-foot space. Despite its large size, BB Dance holds true to the culture that has been built up there for almost two decades: its approach to fostering each individual student’s total well-being. “We focus on the whole student, and it’s not just always about dance,” Perry says. “It’s about the overall child and how they develop.”

Studio instructs students about much more than song and dance

Veronica Badgett Perry is the owner of BB Dance.

Her dance studio is a result of chance. Her passion for dance is not.

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BB Dance Productions embraces different body shapes and molds, instilling a sense of personal pride and self-esteem in the girls.

From left: Veronica Perry, Tiffany N. Hilliard, Natasha T. Little, Danielle Terrell, Natasha Ridge, Angela Cunningham, Kelli Embler and Robin Shore.

Perry says students at BB Dance learn life lessons such as accountability, responsibility and how to work with a team. Former BB Dance student Tayla Cunningham agrees. “Being at the studio didn’t only teach me how to dance, but it taught me a lot of discipline and respect, and it’s like another family,” says Cunningham, a Charlotte native and sophomore dance team member at N.C. State University. “Veronica is like a second mom to me. She really embraces every student that comes here. It’s really a great studio.” Though she is a human biology major and plans to be a dentist, Cunningham says dance will remain a part of her life. The dean’s list student says she will always be involved with the studio because of the “great impact” it has had on her life. “They grow up to be such nice young ladies, and I’m so proud of our program there that we talk to them about that and we support their academic endeavors,” says Robin Shore, who teaches competition ballet and competition gymnastics at BB Dance. “Dance helps you develop that responsibility to take care of everything and being dependable and holding up all your responsibilities.” With more than 26 years of teaching experience and training, Perry knows a thing or two about the art form. The Reidsville native earned a bachelor of science degree in dance education from UNC Greensboro and worked as a choreographer for the NBA Charlotte Hornet Honey Bee dance team as well 28

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as coach of the UNCC 49ers dance team for 13 years, during which time they won two national championships. Perry also taught dance education in the CharlotteMecklenburg school system for 11 years. In fact, most of the teachers at BB Dance work at CMS, which Perry says makes them “very aware of what (the students’) needs are.” “I think that one of the best things that Veronica does is she has certified educators in her classroom . . .” says Shore, who has taught middle school in CMS for 15 years. “We write a curriculum for dance just like we were teaching a North Carolina standard course of study,” she shares.

Focus on the fundamentals of dance Much like in a school classroom setting, the staff at BB Dance approaches teaching dance by imparting the fundamentals of the craft from the time the students take their first classes because it lays a foundation for what they are going to learn years later. “Not only do we have that dance background, but we know how to teach. We know how to guide students toward a final outcome, and it’s real important to Veronica that she have that education part in her program as well,” says Shore. While the field of dance is traditionally very particular in accepting certain body types, Perry says BB Dance Productions embraces different body shapes and molds, instilling a sense of personal pride and selfesteem in the girls. “I think it gives them an opportunity to see themselves; whereas, if they walk into

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‘They grow up to be such nice young ladies’

most studios, they are the minority,” says Perry. “So, with that in mind, I think it also gives them the confidence that they are capable of competing on that same level…” Capable indeed.

‘Proud to be a former BB Dance student’ BB Dance students are not just regulars on the competition circuit; they are consistent winners. The studio is split between students who take dance for recreation and those who are on the

Competition Team. Students audition at the beginning of the year to determine who will participate in competition. Beginning in March, BB Dance competes in four regional competitions each year against studios from all over the United States. From there, dance teams have the opportunity to qualify for national competitions in the summer. Last year, the studio went to a national competition in Charleston, S.C. BB Dance has earned the title of overall winners several times at regional competitions, which are held in cities such as Greensboro, Asheville and Durham, and national competitions, such as Star Quest,

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Robin Shore

Show Biz and Encore. The studio has performed at Walt Disney World near Orlando, Fla., as well as the famed Apollo Theater in Harlem. “It’s really a privilege,” Cunningham says. “I’m very proud to say I danced at BB Dance Productions. It has a very good name in Charlotte and at all the competitions that we go to. I’m very proud to be a former BB Dance student.” With all of BB Dance’s success, Perry has naturally considered the future of the studio, admitting that while franchising is a possibility, she is hesitant. “I think it’s really hard to keep quality when you get too big,” she says. One obstacle to growth is the difficulty in finding good teachers, Perry explains, but she praises her current staff, most of whom have been with her for more than eight years. “It’s hard to do because, as teachers, we have busy schedules. You have to find a unique person that just loves dance… and she works really hard to do that,” says Shore who has taught at BB Dance for 15 years. That type of longevity helps breed the familial atmosphere, which Shore says so many of the students and staff hold dear. “It’s a strong family unit there, just like a second home for them,” she asserts. “They grow up together.” “Most rewarding for me has been the opportunity to see my girls start from very little… and just seeing how focused they can be,” Perry concurs, citing Cunningham as an example. She started with BB Dance at just 2 ½ years old and now regularly

returns on her college breaks to visit students, support their competitions and assist Perry. “That’s sort of the type of girls we try to groom and push them farther,” Perry says. “When I say it’s more than the dance, they’re able to take on more responsibilities in life and deal with the good and the bad…”

Dispensing criticism and praise when warranted The ability of BB Dance students to learn that sense of balance stems from the fact that the studio does not shy away from giving the girls constructive criticism when needed while bestowing praise where earned. “I think that goes back to that educational part of it. It’s better to be told you’re not doing something right than not to be noticed at all,” Shore explains. “Even for the kids who aren’t going to keep dance in their lives, that’s just part of being a good studio — is paying attention and noticing what’s going on.” In 2006, Perry created The Irene Bradley Dance Scholarship, named after the grandmother who started her in dance. Through this effort, the studio partners with Hidden Valley Elementary School where at-risk and transitional students are given the opportunity to take classes. BB Dance provides transportation to the studio and purchases all of their dance attire and lessons. Perry says this has been the biggest year for the scholarship program with 11 girls and, for the first time, nine boys participating. “We’re putting ourselves out there in the community, trying to make sure we’re doing some things that are positive and giving those kids the opportunity that wouldn’t have it,” Perry says. No doubt her grandmother would be proud. P

Veronica Perry praises her current staff, most of whom have been with her for more than eight years.

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Pride Magazine’s publisher to serve as guest host on new local talk show

ride Magazine is stepping from behind the pages and in front of the camera. On Feb. 15, 2010, WCNC-TV launched a new lifestyle talk show titled “Charlotte Today,” and Pride Magazine’s publisher, Torrey Feimster, has been tapped to occasionally guest host. In this role, Feimster provides personal commentary for the program and interviews individuals from feature stories of each issue of Pride. WCNC-TV news anchor Colleen Odegaard hosts the program, which focuses on women and features topical issues, and entertainment, gardening, fashion and 32

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food segments. The hourlong show airs daily at 11 a.m. Dressed in a chic, Kelly-green belted dress and trendy black, ruffled peep-toe booties, the effervescent Odegaard recently sat down with Feimster to talk about her experiences in Charlotte over the past 11 years, competing in her first triathlon and her vision for the program. The following interview was edited for brevity and clarity. T.F.: I learned a lot about myself when I was training to compete in a marathon, so how did training for a triathlon impact your life outside of getting fit? C.O.: That’s a great question. Well, it taught me that I’m a tough cookie, and I’m a bad mamma jamma! I mean that’s how I felt afterward. I was like, “Oh my gosh, I’m a triathlete!” It felt a little funny saying that, but it just taught me that I’m a lot tougher than I thought I was, and it did sort of give me that feeling of “Wow, what else can I do?”

When I signed up to do this triathlon, I could only doggie paddle. That was it. I did not like swimming, and I did not own a bike… So it was a big deal for me to go and make that commitment and learn to swim and get on my bike. Really I didn’t know that I could ever do something like that. So it was that feeling of, “If I can do this, gosh, just think what else is possible.” T.F.: What advice would you give to working mothers who might have that desire to do a marathon or a triathlon but who might not have the support or the time? C.O.: Sure. I do believe that a lot of things are possible. You just have to make it a priority. I have found people do what is important to them, and because I decided this triathlon thing is important to me, I made exercise a priority. And I think it’s the first time in my life that I ever did that… So my advice would be decide in your heart of hearts is this really what I want to do, and you have to make that commitment…

Certainly having the support of your family helps tremendously. There were days I had to get baby sitters, and I had to figure out another plan. But I say go for it! The rush and the feeling I had were incredible. T.F.: OK, so you’ve been in journalism for 17 years, and you’ve been in Charlotte for over 10. So, you’ve seen a lot of changes in Charlotte. What are you most proud of and what are you least proud of? C.O.: Well, I think what I’m most proud of is watching the city grow as a whole. When I moved here 11 1/2 years ago from California, I thought, “Wow. This is really different.” Where I’m from in California, it’s a melting pot. It is. I love how I think we’ve grown in that regard because to me it’s a whole lot more diverse now, and I love seeing that because it makes me feel like I’m at home… At the same time, we can still have more growth. That sounds contradictory… but yes, do we have further to go? Sure we do, and I don’t know that that’s unique to Charlotte. I think that’s everywhere. T.F.: It’s an exciting time for you with the show. I’ve been reading and hearing a lot. Tell me who are your television personality influences. What shows do you watch? C.O.: Easy! “The Oprah Winfrey Show.” I know that sounds cliché, and everybody does… but I watched that in I high school and remember watching her as a teenager and thinking, “Wow, that’s cool, and I want some of that. I want some of what she

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does…” I love Katie Couric because she’s a newswoman, but I loved her when she was on “The Today Show,” and she was the perfect balance to me of asking tough questions and being a journalist but also could let her hair down… I’ve met her twice and she was delightful… I like to say Katie and I are good friends! But we really did connect, and she was so kind and so sweet and I love her. T.F.: What would be you favorite show, though? C.O.: Well, I liked “The Today Show” more when it was Katie Couric! I don’t know why, but I did! Favorite shows: Oprah, (“The) Ellen (DeGeneres Show”) and I like (“Live With) Regis and Kelly.” Those three shows make me happy, and I learn something, and I feel better off for having watched them. Whether it might just be I got a laugh. Usually from Oprah I learn something.

T.F.: And with Oprah, I cry a lot, too! C.O.: Me, too! T.F.: Well, what will make this show unique and different from any other local lifestyle program here in this market? C.O.: Well, I think that nobody in Charlotte is doing this kind of a show or has done this kind of a show, and that in and of itself makes it kind of unique. We are committed, wholeheartedly committed, to making the show (pointing) for you, and you, and you. I mean. It’s for viewers. It’s not my show. People keep saying “Oh, congratulations on your show.” Your show. And I say, “No, it’s not my show. It’s your show.” Tell me what you want to see. These are your airwaves. I want this to be about you, and this gives me chills because I believe this and feel this so passionately. It really is for people, and I want it be what they want to know about… I want to answer people’s questions, and I want people to really know what it means to live in this community and get what they want. I think a lot of people feel like, “I’d like to be more involved in the community and volunteer projects.” But they don’t even know where to go. They don’t even know how to start. This is where you’re going to find out. We’re going to tell you how… T.F.: A resource… C.O.: Yes! As a resource for people who live here to find out more about their town and the beautiful people who make it up. That’s what I want the show to be and that’s why I think it’ll be unique… That’s our goal. I hope that we can deliver. T.F.: Well, we’ll help you! C.O.: Thank you!

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A time to grieve by the Rev. Dwayne Bond

oss is painful, but tragic loss is unexplainably overwhelming. My parents’ battle with cancer was full of highs and lows and spanned many years. Was it less painful because of the lengthy span in which death could have been inevitable? No! I struggled throughout their illness. I didn’t know whether to pray for their healing or prepare my family for their death. Needless to say, in my times of grief, I honestly wavered in believing whether God was going to heal them or whether it was his will for them to die. At times I found myself in grieving and emotionally battling the guilt of hopelessness. Every person experiences losses in life as well as miss something that they thought would last forever. How do we make sense of our many, many losses as they continue to accumulate? Here are a couple principles we need to understand about grief. Grief is experienced by real people and is biblical (Jeremiah 8:18; John 11:35). In John 11:35, Jesus lost a dear friend and grieved. All death is a loss of a relationship. Genesis 2:24 says, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” Cleaving means to adhere tightly, similar to the way muscle adheres to our bones. The ongoing grief from divorce is a byproduct of tearing muscle from the bone. A divorce tears apart a relationship intended to last forever. A grieving divorced couple is expressing the natural outcomes of a death. Grieving teaches us that we 34

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There’s much to learn when confronting losses in life “need again” and eventually turns us to trusting in new and different ways. Grief awakens our sometimes dormant trust in others. In relationship, we grow satisfied with life but grief recalibrates our need to trust. If we don’t experience grief from loss then we are prone to needing no one. Loss is the natural result of our mortality. Grieving reminds us that we aren’t self-sufficient with life all together and mastered. It proves to our self-will that God’s grace is needed for our life’s sustainability.

No perfect response to loss Faith is a critical factor in determining the degree and direction of our grief. Grieving is normal, necessary and important. The apostle Paul in 1 Thessalonians 4:13 says, that we are to “grieve not as those who have no hope.” Does this mean the Scriptures teach us to not grieve? No! The Scriptures teach us that a key component of “healthy” grieving is the presence of hope, which comes through faith. Having faith in Jesus Christ allows for a cushion and companionship so grief doesn’t completely overwhelm a person. Faith journeys with a person through the uncertain terrain of grief ensuring that there is an end in sight. Paul encourages the Christians at Thessolonica to respond to their grief based on the hope of their belief. He says since you believe that Jesus died and rose again, know that through Jesus your love ones who are dead will be with him. Paul reminds them to not respond like the pagan who has no sustainable faith in Jesus. Instead, Paul suggests

There’s much to learn when confronting losses in life.

journeying through grief rooted in faith. How do we assist the griefstricken in facing their losses? There are four major pitfalls to avoid when dealing with people. First, don’t withdraw from them. Second, don’t compare, evaluate or judge the person for his or her responses to the loss. Recognize that loss is normal and there is no perfect response. Third, don’t center the conversation on your own grief. Force yourself to stay in the moment, allowing the other person to take center stage. Immediately talking about oneself creates barriers that fuel distance. When talking to a grieving person, here are a few things to avoid saying: n I don’t understand why you are still crying. Life goes on, you know. n God is so good, have faith. n Look, you only lost your stepfather. n Don’t you appreciate what you have left? n Don’t cry! n Be brave. n You’ll get over it in a couple of weeks.

n You shouldn’t feel that way.

After all, you have the Lord. n It’s time to pull

yourself together. n At least he/she didn’t suffer. n Everyone dies sooner or later. n The children need you

to be strong. What can you do to bless the grieving? First, accept what has happened and how the person is responding and understand that we aren’t the boss over their responses. Second, give them the freedom to express their emotions. Third, touch them if they don’t mind. Your touch reminds them that they aren’t alone. Fourth, listen to them. And finally, try not to say too much … understand that your presence speaks volumes. As we seek to serve the hurting, let’s feel the freedom to process our own grief and create the atmosphere so that others may process their grief. Let’s collectively introduce them to Christ’s grace so they can grieve with hope. P The Rev. Dwayne Bond is lead pastor of Wellspring Church.

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Single, with children Y ou might be a solo parent, but you are not alone

ccording to a report by the Census Bureau in August 2007, there are 13.6 million single parents in the United States, and those parents are responsible for raising 21.2 million children. When I first met Syreeta, she shared with me that she was a single mother. As we got to know each other better, I came to appreciate her strength, her compassion, her strong work ethics and her faith. Syreeta and I eventually got married and we’re now blessed with a wonderful family. You might be a single parent or you might not be. Regardless, you will definitely benefit from

the following four insights. Feel free to share these insights because there’s tremendous power when you help others be their best. Give us your feedback and participate in our blog discussions at www.marlonandsyreeta.com.

Celebrate who you are It doesn’t matter how you became a single mother. What matters is that you have been blessed to create life and now you have the opportunity to nurture, protect and care for a child. Find the positive in being a single mother and don’t focus on the negative aspects of it. You

have the power to define what it means to be a single mom from your perspective. Instead of allowing someone to label you, determine your own measure of success as a parent.

Empower your children You are the world to your children. Make the most of your time with them. Set the example by showing your children how much you value education. Schedule time to take them to the library and read books. Get involved with their school. Attend school events, PTA meetings and teacher-parent sessions. Go to the museums. Have family time where the TV, radio and computer are

You are the world to your children. Make the most of your time with them. Set the example by showing your children how much you value education. Schedule time to take them to the library and read books. Get involved with their school.

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turned off and allow your child to pick a topic to discuss. Your children are watching you all the time. Reinforce these habits now and your children will grow up, understanding the importance of an education and the value of learning new things.

Network with others for support Meet other parents at your child’s school. It’s likely that there are other single moms with children attending your child’s school. Exchange phone numbers so you can create a support network. Many churches have youth programs, parent prayer groups and family activities. Get involved with these activities because it’s definitely true that “It takes an entire village to raise a child.”

Make time for you In the midst of all that is happening in our busy lives, do not forget about yourself. Mothers, in particular, tend to take care of everyone else, pouring so much into their children and making sure everyone around them is OK. And with all that mothers give, it’s easy to forget to take care of themselves. On a regular basis, do something nice and special for you because in order for you to bless others, you must first recharge your energy or else you may one day suffer from overload and stress. Remember this: For you to be able to water other people’s lives, you must continue to replenish your own well. P Marlon and Syreeta Smith are with Covenant Keepers Inc.

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CreativeArts by LaTonya Mason

Buzzing about Bearden

Society honors famed collagist’s works, mission to help other artists

Rubie Britt-Height

Edmund Barry Gaither, executive director of the National Center of Afro-American Artists and guest lecturer for the Mint Museum’s exhibit, “Lois Mailou Jones: A Life of Vibrant Colors,” chats with Kali Ferguson while signing exhibition catalogues.

pringtime has ushered in more than the bees; if you listen carefully you’ll hear a perpetual buzz about the new Romare Bearden Society. Spearheaded by the Mint Museum’s community relations director, Rubie Britt-Height, the society is honoring Bearden’s work, supporting emerging artists and engaging the African-American community at the Mint. 36

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and he and his wife serve as members. Thus far, BrittHeight’s enthusiasm about the society has been matched by the community. “The response from the community has been extremely positive. We’ve garnered the support of local and national art enthusiasts, as well as organizations like the Gantt Center. We claim Bearden as our own. This is where he started.”

Tributes all over the city Mecklenburg County Park and Recreation will open the Romare Bearden Park on South Church Street next year. A street named in his honor, Romare Bearden Drive, intersects West Boulevard, right by the public library. The Mint Museum has a gallery dedicated solely to his work. And the society is the only one of its kind in the country. Bearden embraced emerging artists and served as a mentor to many. Through the society, his mission continues through Artcentrics, which showcases young visual and performing artists as it hosts fund-raisers, and attracts young enthusiasts. “Art isn’t only for the mature 50- to 60-year-old crowd anymore, those who are able to collect. Artcentrics is our platform for developing young enthusiasts who will become the mature art collectors. Through social programming

with an educational twist we’re creating a groove throughout the city for the twenty-tothirty-something year-olds.” Britt-Height is confident the society will become a national organization; it already has members from New York and South Carolina. While Britt-Height believes she’s only scratched the surface, the buzz created thus far has proven to be as sweet as honey for the place Bearden first called home. For more information about the Romare Bearden Society, visit www.mintmuseum.org. P

Below: The Memories of Mecklenburg House, also known as the Bearden House, at ImaginOn. Bottom: Ervin Gourdine, Gwendolyn A. Brooks, Bernard Brooks, Patti Tracey and Jonathan Stuhlman at a champagne brunch to open the Mint Museum exhibition “Lois Mailou Jones: A Life in Vibrant Color,” co-sponsored by the Romare Bearden Society.

Photo by De’Angelo Bethune

Romare Bearden was born in Charlotte in 1911 and was raised on Graham Street by his grandparents. He captured memories of his childhood in his work, “The Mecklenburg Series.” He became a nationally renowned artist whose work still brings recognition to Charlotte. Regarded by many as America’s greatest collagist, Bearden received the National Medal of Arts from President Reagan. His legacy continues through the New York-based Romare Bearden Foundaton, a nonprofit organization that serves as his official estate, and was established in 1990, two years after his death. E.T. Williams, chair of the foundation, granted BrittHeight permission to use Bearden’s name for the society,

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Crucial support by Jonathan Pullin

he Green Movement is here to stay and African-Americans must embrace this change. This is key because of changes to our global climate, national security, the increasing population, the rising cost of power, dwindling sources of fossil-based fuels and limited areas for exploration for natural resources mandates.

African Americans have a stake in joining the ‘global green movement’ In December 2009, world leaders met in Copenhagen to discuss how we can slow global warming and delay the impending results of our misuse of the earth’s natural resources. During a speech at the event, President Obama stated that the United States intends to reduce its greenhouse gas emissions in the range of 17 percent below 2005 levels

If we do not change the way we use and manage the earth’s natural resources, our environment will be in serious trouble.

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by 2020 and 83 percent by 2050. This commitment to the international community is a major step in convincing other countries to follow his lead in trying to prevent unnecessary destruction to the planet. Some of the catastrophic damage we could see include an increase in the number of hurricanes, intensely hot summers and much colder winters.

Critical need to find alternative sources of energy The security of our nation and access to resources are other reasons we must seek alternative sources of energy. It is well known that many of those providing the United States with petroleum are not our allies. Furthermore, China and India’s populations are growing at a phenomenal rate and require additional sources of power and energy; however, they have an abundance of coal to burn, should petroleum resources become scarce. Remember that the burning of coal, for the production of power and energy, is a major source of greenhouse gas emissions. Our nation is currently looking for fossil-based energy in the oceans (particularly off the coast of North Carolina) and in the Alaskan National Wildlife Refuge. The primary arguments for exploration in these undisturbed areas include job creation, minor impact to the overall local environment and revenue generation. All of these issues underscore the importance of the green

revolution. If we do not change the way we use and manage the earth’s natural resources, our environment will be in serious trouble. Implementing renewable or clean technologies will enable us to move to use our limited natural resources more efficiently and effectively, while saving the earth. The question now becomes, “What can I do to help save our environment?” Maybe you can find a niche within the green movement that interests you and consider implementing it into your household. Such steps include household recycling, household energy conservation, using biodegradable cleaning materials, purchasing biodegradable eating utensils or using compact fluorescent light bulbs. Also consider purchasing more fuel-efficient vehicles, or installing photovolatics (solar panels), geothermal systems or wind turbines where appropriate. Once you find your niche, have a conversation with your family and ask for their opinions. Your enthusiasm and sincere effort to move the household toward a “green” pathway will inspire your family and friends to do more to help save our planet. My challenge to you is to make your “green” choices sustainable over time. As leaders within the community and at home, you can begin to effect change from a grassroots level and develop a progressive “green” movement where you live. P Jonathan Pullin is president /founder of The Environmental Group of the Carolinas.

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Strong survivor

Always taking care of others? First, make sure you take care of yourself

Whether it is daily devotional, walking, massage therapy or getting a manicure/pedicure, rejuvenating your spirit will make you a better person.

licia Keyes wrote a song titled “Superwoman.” The chorus states, “’Cause I am a Superwoman/ Yes I am/ Yes she is/ Even when I’m a mess/ I still put on a vest/ With an S on my chest/ Oh yes/ I’m a Superwoman.” Black women all across America seem to playing this role of superwoman. They place everything before themselves and put on this brave front like nothing is wrong. Statistics, however, show us something is wrong: The number of AfricanAmerican women dying from diabetes in North Carolina is two times higher than the number of Caucasian women. We also have higher death rates for stroke and heart disease in the state. Obesity rates, diagnosed hypertension, fibroids, infant mortality all disproportionately impact African-American women across the nation. The numbers are not in our favor, but there are things we can do to better take care of health. First, learn your family history if you can. Investigate what diseases run in your

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family. Do not be afraid to ask questions. Ask more than one person; your aunt might be able to give you insight that your mom has not provided. Second, get a primary care physician and a gynecologist. A primary care physician is great, but sometimes we need a separate doctor to properly address gynecologic issues. Be your own advocate at the doctor’s office; tell the doctor all of your symptoms and ask about treatment options. And if you do not like what the doctor is telling you, get a second opinion. Third, take time for self. In all the things that we have to juggle (work, school, family, kids), we sometimes forget to take a moment and just breathe. Try to do something that makes you happy on a regular basis and not just once in a while. Whether it is daily devotional, walking, massage therapy or getting a manicure/pedicure, rejuvenating your spirit will make you a better person. Finally, utilize legitimate resources available to learn more about health. Two suggested Web sites are www.womenshealth.gov and www.cdc.gov/women. African-American women are powerful and amazing. We have seen that time and time again. We also know knowledge is power. Doing some of these simple things mentioned above will give us the power we need to continue to wear an “S” on our chest and not be a mess. P Antonia S. Mead is assistant professor of health education at Johnson C. Smith University.

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t’s been a cold winter here in the Queen City, but that hasn’t stopped Charlotteans from styling and profiling. First there was the annual Jazzy event at the Harvey B. Gantt Center, held on Dec. 5, 2009. This ’70s-inspired party was well attended, the band was amazing and people danced the night away in their afros, bell-bottoms and platform shoes. Then we brought in the new year in style at Suite 2010 at Grand Central. This red carpet affair was hosted by Digital Divas (that’s me) and Herb and Felicia Gray. More than 400 age 30-plus professionals celebrated a night to remember. From short to long and from sequins to satin and lace, the ladies were definitely styling in fashionable dresses. And the fellas, let’s just say they were profiling in their festive suits, velvet and satin sports jackets, and even a few tuxedos. Everyone looked fabulous. Last but not least was the 2010 Lowe’s Pride Awards held Jan. 16 at The Westin Charlotte. This year’s event focused on “sustainability for all” and the honorees included Dr. David G. Jacobs, Jonathan Pullin and Sydney Steward, a senior at South Mecklenburg High School. In addition, Goodwill Industries of the Southern Piedmont was recognized for its dedication to the community. After the awards ceremony, guests stayed on for dessert, a little karaoke and dancing. The party continued for several hours after the event. P

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PrideHealth The other silent killer High-cholesterol levels jeopardize health; here’s how to lower risk

Mind over matter Change your mind, change your body

Coping with catastrophe Stress disorder can linger a long time

In a state of flux? Hormone makeover might help

Pump up the volume There’s help for skimpy eyelashes

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Open wide First dental visit is crucial for establishing good health

The intent of Pride’s health section is to provide information only. The publisher and writers are in no way offering medical advice and the information herein should not be used for medical decision making. Any fitness or diet program should be started upon the advice of a physician. The reader bears sole responsibility for any action taken based on the contents of this magazine and the publisher/owner and writers disclaim any implied or expressed liability. March-April 2010 | Pride Magazine

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The other silent killer High-cholesterol levels jeopardize health; here’s how to combat the risk

Kim Sbardella conducts a cholesterol workshop at the Johnston YMCA. Participating: Napolean Walton, Kimberly Sbardella, Evonne Leak, Mary Fairlone, Patricia Alexander.

Kim Sbardella

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hen it comes to cardiovascular health, the statistics can be sobering. Consider these stats, shared by Kim Sbardella, a Carolinas Medical Center nurse at the Johnston YMCA: Heart disease is the No. 1 cause of death in the U.S. This year alone, 700,000 people will have strokes and 170,000 of those will die. As many as onethird of Americans have high blood pressure and don’t know it. Left untreated, elevated blood pressure and cholesterol can take up to 20 years off someone’s life. “High blood cholesterol and high blood pressure are major factors for heart disease, but there are no symptoms,” explains Sbardella. “They truly are silent killers.” Furthermore, the American Heart Association states that high cholesterol affects

45 percent of non-Hispanic black men and 46 percent of non-Hispanic black women. These facts are incentive to take action. Carmen Roberts, a clinical dietician with Johns Hopkins Bayview Medical Center, advocates cutting calories and becoming physically active. “Even before you talk about food, if you’re overweight and can lose weight, that can be a first step. Plus, physical activity will help increase good cholesterol,” she says. “But diet is still key.”

The lowdown on the numbers

Just what is good cholesterol? A total lipid panel includes total cholesterol; the level of high-density lipoprotein, or HDL (good) cholesterol; low-density lipoprotein, or LDL (bad) cholesterol; and triglycerides, which are fats in the bloodstream. “Look at those four

things together to see if you’re at high risk for heart disease,” explains Roberts. For total cholesterol, a level under 200 is desirable. Between 200 to 239 is considered borderline, and anything above 240 puts you at higher risk for heart disease. There are no upper limits on HDL, but if you have a low HDL, that also puts you at risk. For women, an HDL less than 50 is considered high risk, and for men, it’s less than 40. The higher the LDL, the higher the risk for developing heart disease; a level less than 100 is ideal. Finally, triglycerides should be less than 150.

Cholesterol-friendly foods

Research that shows certain foods can help reduce bad cholesterol, including fish rich in omega-3 fatty acids, such as salmon, trout and herring. Just remember to broil, bake or steam the fish; don’t fry it. Soluble fiber has also been proven to have an effect on high cholesterol levels, so stock up on oatmeal, oat bran, beans and legumes, strawberries and citrus fruits. Fiber as a whole is beneficial, so insoluble sources of fiber work well, too: whole wheat and whole grains, cabbage, beets, cruciferous vegetables and carrots. “Eat both, but particularly soluble fiber,” says Roberts. “Even popcorn is good for fiber. There are also packaged breakfast bars that have up to 10 grams of fiber, but choose one with low sugar and calories.”

The skinny on fat

Not surprisingly, experts advise limiting fat intake, particularly saturated fat and trans fat, as both can increase cholesterol levels. In fact, trans fat can lower the good cholesterol in addition to raising the bad cholesterol. Trans fats are found in foods made with hydrogenated oil, such as solid margarines, Crisco, french fries and various baked goods. Saturated fat comes from animal products, so cut back on foods that are high in animal fats, including full-fat dairy products. Choose lean meats, including poultry without the skin, and prepare them without added fats. And take heart: Chicken breasts aren’t your only option. “Pork tenderloin is just as lean as boneless, skinless chicken breast,” explains Roberts. “Anything from the loin or the round tends to be the leanest, so look for that as a label.” Roberts recommends limiting fat to no more than 30 percent of your total diet but acknowledges that it can be difficult to gauge. To assist you, here are some basic, nonpercentage-based guidelines that will help you get healthy. Increase “good” fats, which Tracy Fox, coordinator of culinary programming for the Morrison YMCA, specifies as various oils (coconut, olive, fish and flax oil), avocado,

Tracy Fox

walnuts and almonds. Also, she says, “Make sure you are getting enough water in your diet. Take your body weight and divide by two for the minimum number of ounces you need per day.” Other suggestions? Limit refined sugars, like white rice, and fill at least half of both your lunch and dinner plates with some source of plant food. Knowing your cholesterol numbers and checking them frequently are key. The YMCA, through a partnership with CMC, does its part by offering community blood pressure and cholesterol screenings. Additionally, the Morrison YMCA opened a new teaching kitchen in October of last year, and offers classes such as “Whole Foods 101” to raise awareness of cholesterol as it relates to diet. “The teaching kitchen is whole-food based, which basically means we’re eating real foods,” explains Fox. “We stay away from anything processed. We’re eating like our great-grandparents and grandparents did.” “Overall, the take-home message is that small changes in your diet can make a difference,” concludes Roberts. “Tweak your diet to make it healthier and you can see a big difference.” P

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PrideHealth Personal Training

by Nettie Reeves

Mind over matter Want to change your body? Start by changing your thoughts

The body is a very powerful machine and the mind is the driving force. Replace the negative thought with a positive one each time a negative one enters your mind.

hen asked about the parts of your body that you’d like to change, what is your reply? Usually, people want to change the stomach, the thighs, the arms, the back. Usually people think that changing the body involves changes in fitness levels and nutrition. Well, that’s true, to a degree. But the first step in making changes to your body is changing the one part of your body that you cannot see: your mind. Many women have been on the roller coaster of losing weight only to gain it back. We beat ourselves up over and over again because whatever we did worked temporarily. Each time it happens, it puts us deeper into a psychological rut. Our minds get tired and we feel like giving up. This is often the point when potential clients turn to me. They are

at their wits end and don’t know what else to do. During our consultation I listen to all the superficial changes that they want. Then I ask, “What will you have to change inside of you to obtain these outer changes?” One must change the mind in order to change the body. The body is a very powerful machine and the mind is the driving force. So how do you change your mind when it comes to food and fitness? By controlling your thoughts. Here are some simple exercises you can do to get your mind ready to change your body. nP ositive thinking. It’s no secret that when we think positive, we reap positive. So instead of telling yourself that you’re going to be too tired to workout after work tonight, tell yourself that you’re going to workout no matter what. Replace the negative thought with a positive one each time a negative one enters your mind. n Envision success. Seeing is believing, so see yourself the way you want to be seen. When you think of the way you look or feel, see that beautiful person you think of and see yourself doing fun and exciting things. nG et fed up. Being sick and tired can be a good thing. Realizing that being unhealthy is not an option can give you the drive to change your life. nP ray. Keeping God first and allowing your thoughts to be guided by him will be one of the most important changes you can make to refocus your mind. Thinking your mind is made up and falling by the wayside simply means that you should keep trying. Eventually you’ll hit the mark. Just work on changing your mind. The body will follow. For more information on exercising your mind to change your body, contact me at (704) 334-4848. P Nettie Reeves is the owner of N’shape with ’N.

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PrideHealth Integrative Medicine

by Dr. Shirley A. Houston

Coping with catastrophe Post-traumatic stress disorder can linger long after danger has passed

y reaction to having a loved one unaccounted for, for 24 hours after the earthquake in Haiti, was one of mental and emotional trauma. Even more traumatic was hearing the news that a friend lost her parents, an uncle and a young cousin within minutes of the earthquake reducing their home to rubble. Many of us understand stress, but few manage it well. When in danger, it’s natural to feel afraid. This fear triggers many split-second changes in the body to prepare to defend against the danger or to avoid it. This “fight-orflight” response is a healthy reaction meant to protect us from harm. Post-traumatic stress syndrome, however, is an anxiety disorder that can result from seeing or living through dangerous events. In PTSD, the healthy reaction (seen with stress) is changed or damaged. People who have PTSD may feel stressed or frightened even when they’re no longer in danger. PTSD is common among people who have experienced war or catastrophes such as Hurricane Katrina in 2005 or the events of Sept. 11, 2001. However, being involved in a car accidents, suffering abuse as a child, losing a loved one in a violent way or experiencing the earthquake in Haiti from afar without emotional support, can probably cause PTSD. Several symptoms of PTSD can occur after experiencing overwhelming stress that makes coping difficult. These symptoms include agitation, anxiety, flashbacks or nightmares of the traumatic event and avoiding reminders of the event. The National Institute of Mental Health lists three categories of symptoms for PTSD:

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Re-experiencing symptoms may cause problems in a person’s everyday routine. They can start from the person’s own thoughts and feelings. Words, objects, or situations that are reminders of the event can also trigger re-experiencing.

Avoidance symptoms

Staying away from places, events, or objects that are reminders of the experience

Feeling emotionally numb Feeling strong guilt, depression, or worry n L osing interest in activities that were enjoyable in the past n H aving trouble remembering the dangerous event Things that remind a person of the traumatic event can trigger avoidance symptoms. These symptoms may cause a person to change his or her personal routine. n n

can be taught to relax and learn to discover a n H erbal medicine (chamomile or “safe place” where they can quiet their nervous passionflower tea) system. Through techniques that include n Social support relaxation and using imagination and physical n P roper nutrition, exercise (including yoga movements, sufferers develop tools they can and tai chi and qigong) use to deal with the disorder on a daily basis. n Homeopathy The integrative medicine approach to n Chinese medicine stress/PTSD can include: n C onventional medical therapies with the use of prescription medicines, psychotherapy n Prayer and psychiatric. Check with your physicians n Relaxation therapies (deep breathing) about which conventional approach might n Meditation (aim for at least 20 minutes) be best for you. P n V isualization, massage therapy and aromatherapy (lavender, eucalyptus, rose, peppermint, thyme) Dr. Shirley A. Houston is medical director of the n M usic therapy (such as “Nocturne in G” Center for Integrative Medicine and Wellness, 7221 by Chopin, “Water Music” by Handel or Pineville Matthews Road, Suite 200, Charlotte, NC whatever pleases you) 09-CEENTA-1262_EYE-AA_3.625x6.25Page 1 7/30/09 3:00:58 (fax). PM 28226, (704) 543-2325 (phone), (704) 543-5440

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Hyperarousal symptoms

Being easily startled Feeling tense or “on edge” n H aving difficulty sleeping and/or having angry outbursts Biologically, according to experts, people with PTSD have a continual output of stress hormones in their brains. Those hormones can kill off brain cells related to memory and emotion. Because brain functions are affected by PTSD, sufferers often cannot verbally express memories or flashbacks of the traumatic event to others. Through mind-body medicine, people with PTSD n n

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PrideHealth Hormone Replacement

by Donna White

In a state of flux? ‘Hormone makeover’ might ease physical, emotional changes

akeovers are the hallmark of the baby boomers, everything from bodies and homes to finances and careers. Unfortunately, many women, whether they know it or not, are in need of a “hormone makeover.” Hormones are powerful substances, so it is not surprising that we experience unpleasant symptoms and conditions when they become imbalanced. You see, every cell in a woman’s body is influenced by estrogen, progesterone and testosterone. Therefore an excess or deficiency of any hormone can trigger symptoms or conditions that can ultimately affect every area of our lives, including our health, relationships and careers. Here are a few questions that might help you determine if you need a hormone makeover: n H ave you gained weight, especially around the abdomen or hips? n Are you having hot flashes or night sweats? n A re you having premenstrual syndrome or problems with your menstrual cycles? n Do you have headaches or migraines? n I s your skin too dry or too oily? Are you having trouble remembering what you went to the pantry for or even close friends’ names? n Have you lost interest in sex? n H ave you felt more anxious, easily stressed or irritable?

Left untreated, some hormone imbalances can result in bone loss, breast cysts, uterine fibroids, and increased risk of cardiovascular disease or cognitive decline. 50

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If you answer “yes” to any of these questions, perhaps you need a hormone makeover. Left untreated, some hormone imbalances can result in bone loss, breast cysts, uterine fibroids, and increased risk of cardiovascular disease or cognitive decline. Given the risks associated with synthetic hormones it can be a challenge for women with hormonal issues to find the kind of hormone makeover they are seeking, one without side effects. Hormone balancing with bio-identical hormone replacement therapy, also called BHRT, could be safer and more effective than traditional drug treatment. BHRT has recently been featured on Oprah Winfrey and Dr. Mehmet Oz’s shows. Bio-identical hormones are derived from plants and are transformed into chemical structures that precisely match human

hormones. These hormones function as if they were produced by ovaries. BHRT has a long history of safe and successful use, specifically in Europe where they have been used for 60 years. Medical literature is now beginning to document their safety and effectiveness. To undergo a hormone makeover, a woman must work with a medical doctor trained in BHRT and experienced in interpreting saliva hormone test results. The most effective hormone makeovers include thyroid and stress hormone evaluation, along with hormone balancing supplement and nutrition programs. This comprehensive approach can help women feel like themselves again. P Donna White is an author, speaker and bio-identical hormone replacement therapy clinical education consultant.

PrideHealth Eye Care

by Dr. Paula R. Newsome

Pump up the volume

Extensions, new medication can help enhance skimpy eyelashes

ho would have thought that eyelashes, or lashes as they are frequently called, would be the catalyst for a billion-dollar industry in America? Often considered a symbol of beauty, eyelashes extend from the upper and lower eyelids and serve as a means of protecting our eyes. Lashes are a part of our bodies that are frequently overlooked in terms of hygiene. When we ignore our lashes, they can become laden with bacteria, dirt, dander, debris from the air or mites. The resulting condition, blepharitis, typically results in a red-rimmed appearance around the lids and requires special care from your eye doctor. Those who decide to enhance their lashes probably wonder what their options are? There are lash extensions that can be glued in and there are lash extensions that can be wrapped or sewed in. Or lashes can be grown with the aid of a new ophthalmic preparation called Latisse.

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Factors to consider when looking at lash extensions are the experience of the person applying them and that personâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s level of hygiene. The last thing you want is someone who does not have good, clean health habits applying anything to your eyes. When deciding on the clinician, checking references is a must. Find out if your clinician is comfortable with you observing them doing lashes on someone else before you schedule an appointment. This is very revealing step. Lastly, know that there are differing grades of synthetic lashes and the price of the lashes does typically reflect the quality of the lashes. The most natural way to grow you lashes is through the use of an ophthalmic preparation called Latisse. When the product first came on the market, I was skeptical. Since then, 52

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Lashes are a part of our bodies that are frequently overlooked in terms of hygiene. The most natural way to grow you lashes is through the use of an ophthalmic preparation called Latisse. however, I have written several prescriptions for the product, and have used it myself and been extremely pleased with the results. This product is used at night prior to going to bed. It takes two to three weeks before you can see results; however, you will start to see some growth after a week or so. Some mild itching is common with first-time use. I often encourage patients to photograph themselves prior to using Latisse so they can track the growth. While subtle at first, the change will become evident and your lashes will look good with or

without mascara. Additionally, maximum growth is achieved in six to eight weeks time. After that, maintenance doses are required two to three times per week. Regardless of the lash option you chose, make sure you use good hygiene and good sense. After all, you only get one pair of eyes, so take care of your them â&#x20AC;&#x201D; and your lashes. P Dr. Paula R. Newsome is president of Advantage Vision Center.

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PrideHealth Body Sculpting

by Dr. Wesley Clement

Sleek physique With the aid of a laser, doctor can help patient trim the fat

lim-Lipo, or laser-assisted body sculpting, is among the most recent procedures physicians are using nationwide. With the advent of newer surgical technology, especially involving lasers, an experienced surgeon can occasionally adapt to newer techniques that seem to be outside of his or her initial training. And many techniques are developed by a specialist in one area of medicine for use by other specialists. Such techniques are performed with the use of medical-grade products, intense-pulsed light or lasers. Since refractive eye surgery requires delicate laser-assisted reconfiguration of the eye, the same skills can be used to reconfigure other areas of the body. Laser lipolysis, or Slim-Lipo (selective laser-induced melting liposuction), removes unwanted fat without the surgeon having to perform the more radical forms of liposuction with general anesthesia. With the use of tumescent anesthesia, this new procedure can be done in a doctorâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s office with little or no downtime or surgical cutting. Many physicians and surgeons across the U.S. are using this procedure in their offices to improve patientsâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; cosmetic appearance. Slim-Lipo has been performed in our office since June 2009 with excellent results. Usually consultations are required and are free. And many people are now learning about this and other means of maintaining that youthful appearance. In addition, skin-tightening, skin rejuvenation, dermal fillers and other procedures are available. P Dr. Wesley Clement is an opthamologist at Carolinas Eye & Aesthetics Center.

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PrideHealth Pediatric Dentistry

by Dr. Kim Blanding

Open wide First dental visit is crucial for establishing a lifetime of care, good health

Forty percent of children today have tooth decay by the time they reach kindergarten. These findings can have a detrimental impact for a child, affecting how and what they eat — which can lead to inadequate nutritional intake, low self-esteem, the inability to perform daily activities, and tooth pain that can cause infection and possible death. 56

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ou might be wondering why you should take your child to a dentist by the time he or she is 1 year old. What could a dentist possibly do at that visit? Your child doesn’t even have a cavity, so why bother? Well, your child’s first dental visit is just as important as that first visit to a pediatrician. Both can have a lifelong impact on wellness. The American Academy of Pediatric Dentistry notes that early oral care, in tandem with preventable education, provides a foundation for a lifetime free of preventable tooth decay. It is hard to imagine that more than 40 percent of children today have tooth decay by the time they reach kindergarten. These findings can have a detrimental impact for a child, affecting how and what they eat — which can lead to inadequate nutritional intake, low selfesteem, the inability to perform daily activities, and tooth pain that can cause infection and possible death. The public’s lack of awareness of the importance of oral health is a major barrier to dental care. Oral health is an important component of a child’s well-being and sets an early standard for how an individual approaches dental health for life. Children who have an established dental-care routine are more likely to receive appropriate preventive and routine oral health. If you have a family dentist, he or she may examine your child or refer you to a pediatric dentist. A first visit would consist of a dental cleaning, discussion about finger or other sucking habits, the use of fluoride, toothbrushing techniques for children and dietary counseling along with education for parents. Establishing dental care early provides essential diagnostic, preventive and therapeutic practices, along with an ongoing relationship with a dental care provider that can result in an oral health relationship that is positive and enjoyable for all. P

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Ask Emma Hereâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s how to survive, recover from a layoff Purchasing power Women hold key to rejuvenating housing market Inside the jewelry box Look for an unconventional source of income Plan accordingly Saving for retirement requires deliberate action Key to more customers A perspective on women in supplier diversity

The intent of Prideâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s business section is to provide information on real estate, small business and personal finance only. The opinions and analyses included in this section are based on factual information obtained from public information and other sources deemed to be reliable and provided in good faith; however, no representation or warranty, expressed or implied, is made as to the accuracy, completeness or correctness of such information. Please consult with real estate, business or personal finance professionals before making any decisions. March-April 2010 | Pride Magazine

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Green living Affordable-housing project incorporates elements of environmental stewardship Cherry Gardens Senior Apartments

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ou’re driving down a flourishing, tree-lined street. As you glance to the right, you see it. Adorned with all of the natural elements you hoped for, it’s in the middle of Avant Street. This is your slice of heaven glowing in the dew. Before you know it you are inside, absorbed in its space. Memories surface of home and of days gone by. Yeah, it does feel like you have been here before. The place is Cherry Gardens Senior Apartments, which will be completed by April. To qualify for residency, prospective residents must meet certain age and

median-income level requirements. Several environmentally friendly products that have less impact on the earth’s natural resources have been incorporated into the apartments, including energy-efficient lighting indoors and outdoor foliage that does not require a great deal of water. The city of Charlotte’s first LEEDcertified, affordable-housing project reflects President Obama’s agenda related to energy conservation and reducing harmful greenhouse gas emissions. LEED, or Leadership in Energy and Environmental Design, is an internationally recognized

green building certification systemÂ providing third-party verification measuring building sustainability. Stone Hunt LLC, lead by developer Stoney Sellars, worked on the project, which used a minimum of 30 percent African-American builders and service providers. LEED-certified buildings are designed to:Â n Be healthier and safer for occupants. n L ower operating costs and increase asset value. n D emonstrate an ownerâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s commitment to environmental stewardship and social responsibility. n Conserve water. n Reduce waste sent to landfills. n Q ualify for tax rebates, zoning allowances and other incentives in hundreds of cities. Once Cherry Gardens is completed and fully occupied, Stone Hunt LLC is planning other projects in the same area of Charlotte. Sellars anticipates another LEED-certified affordable housing project to meet the needs of families in the Queen City, including town homes that are both affordable and those priced at market rate. P

Above: A bathroom and a kitchen at Cherry Gardens Senior Apartments. Below: Attendees at a community planning meeting. Bottom: The ground breaking at Cherry Gardens.

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PrideBusiness

by Emma S. Allen

Budget

Ask Emma

Hereâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s the smart way to survive, recover from being laid off

Pump up the volume on your savings. Channel your new income as aggressively as possible into saving for the next rainy day.

Q: I have recently gotten a new job

after being laid off for eight months. My newfound cash is already burning a whole in my pocket. Although I feel I deserve some rewards after being deprived for so long I do not want to slip into my old habits of spending like crazy and not saving for a rainy day. When I was laid off, I was totally unprepared because I had no savings and lots of debt.

Congratulations on being wise enough to not want to be a repeat offender on the financial front. Many of us repeat the same mistakes and suffer the same fate because we refuse to learn the lesson that the storm is trying to teach us. We simply shout hallelujah when the test passes and then go back to our old ways, not realizing that lessons from every storm come back to greet us again in the form of a hurricane. 62

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Here are some suggestions for staying on track: n P retend that you are still unemployed or at least under employed. Those moneysaving techniques that you used when you were out of work can serve you well now. So if you gave up cable, home phone and expensive coffee, continue to do without those things while you pad your rainy-day savings account. I recommend that you have enough money to pay at least six months of expenses. As you stated, it took eight months to find a new job and for many people it is taking even longer to find comparable employment. n P ump up the volume on your savings. Channel your new income as aggressively as possible into saving for the next rainy day. While the economy is showing some signs of recovery due to the Obama stimulus plan, this boost is most likely not permanent. I suspect we will see a few more downturns in the economy before we are home free. So you know the money you wished you had saved when you were laid off last time? Save it with the vengeance of a man who thinks the next storm is looming on the horizon because it most likely is. n C ontinue to poor mouth so that others do not ask you to bail them out or become their personal stimulus plan. As when flying on an aircraft, it is important to apply your own oxygen mask before helping others. It is equally important to secure your own financial future before helping others. n A dd some joy. Do add some simple pleasures in moderation. While you should not resume your old spending lifestyle you

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should treat yourself occasionally with a reward for progress toward your savings and investments goals.

Q: I have recently been laid off and

I am finding that it is really cramping my dating style. I have had to cut back on both the number of dates and the quality of dates I am able to afford. Do you have any advice on how to maintain my dating standards while I am in this financial slump?

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would think you have more significant things to worry about â&#x20AC;&#x201D; like keeping a roof over your head, finding a new job, and eating, but that is not what you asked so let me take a stab at your question. This new economy requires that we all rethink how we use our resources. This is an opportunity for you to get creative and discover the many things in life that can bring joy and fulfillment but do not break the bank and mortgage your future. You might try cooking a nice dinner at home renting a movie, visiting a park for an afternoon picnic, walking or riding a bike. I personally find a man who can fix some stuff very sexy, so maybe you can show off your handyman skills. There are plenty of entertainment venues that offer free or low-cost events for you to check out. I think this might just be an opportunity for you to boost your social life while also boosting your bank account. P Emma S. Allen is CEO of Emma Allen Enterprises. You can reach her with your questions at (704) 996-6476. March-April 2010 | Pride Magazine

PrideBusiness

by Glenda Gabriel

Buying a Home

Purchasing power

Women can hold the key to rejuvenating the housing market

ocial and economic trends have given women a more powerful presence in today’s housing market. According to a 2009 report by the National Association of Realtors, single female buyers accounted for nearly twice as large a share as single male buyers for both first-time and repeat buyers. This nationwide trend is also growing on a local level. Charlotte-based Bank of America Home Loans Loan Officer Tiffany Ritchie has seen this growth firsthand. “More and more single women in Charlotte are buying homes on their own,” said Ritchie. “A major factor contributing to this trend is that we have more female executives and business owners than ever before.” According to the National Association of Women Business Owners, there are 42,000 women-owned businesses in the greater Charlotte area. Lori Fuqua of Helen Adams Realty agrees. “A couple of factors have impacted the growing number of single women as home buyers … the improved opportunity for highpaying jobs, along with an increased divorce rate. Both have empowered women to invest in a home and themselves.”

Married vs. single

It’s not just single women who are empowered in the home-buying process. “Married women also have a strong influence on the purchase of a home,” said Bank of America Mortgage Loan Specialist Adriana Boulton. “In the past seven years, I have originated more loans for single women, but I have also noticed an increasing number of loan applications for couples where the woman qualifies as the primary on the application due to higher income and better credit score.” Katy Bradfield of Helen Adams Realty said,

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More and more single women in Charlotte are buying homes on their own. A major factor contributing to this trend is that we have more female executives and business owners than ever before.

“In my experience, married women are highly involved in making real estate decisions and are usually the ones initiating the process. They often select the Realtor and have a strong influence on the property that is acquired.”

Thinking about making a move?

A few tips from Laurie Knudson, Helen Adams Realty sales manager and Charlotte Regional Realtor Association president… n Work with a reputable lender and real estate firm. n Set expectations on what you’re looking for in a home. n Do your homework and ask lots of questions. n If you can, find a loan officer or Realtor who has been in your situation and knows the market, that person will have a greater understanding of your needs. “It’s important for any potential homebuyer to get advice from real estate professionals they can trust. We are in the fourth year of our relationship with Helen Adams Realty,” said Bank of America Senior Branch Manager Ken Bernardo. “Laurie Knudsen and her team do a terrific job helping their customers find the home of their dreams and ensure they use Bank of America Home Loans to obtain the right mortgage program that best fits their short and long-term financial goals, as well as their payment and equity objectives.” For more information on how Bank of America can assist you with your mortgage needs, call (800) 284-6025. You can also learn about all that Bank of America offers by visiting www.bankofamerica.com. To learn more about Helen Adams Realty, call (704) 919-4685. P Glenda Gabriel is neighborhood lending executive, Bank of America.

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by Lea Koonce Ogundiran

Valuable Stash

Inside the jewelry box Look to your private stash for an unconventional source of income

uring this recession, gold is king. This insatiable demand has turned into an unexpected revenue stream for average Americans faced with dwindling job opportunities, declining home values and shrinking retirement accounts. Others are simply cashing in on what has suddenly become a treasure trove in long-forgotten boxes, cabinets and drawers. I experience this firsthand as people from all walks of life arrive at my office seeking to sell their old gold, coins and estate jewelry. Several types of people are taking advantage of the historic price of gold, valued at $1,132 an ounce when this article was written. Investors make up one group; they have been speculating since the 1980s that gold would rise. This group diversified its portfolios and bought gold coins when gold was $300 to $400 per ounce. For the gold coin investor in need of cash, this marks

the perfect time to sell gold coins. By selling their gold, investors won’t need to cash out stocks or bonds and take a loss, especially with the Dow and NASDAQ at unbelievable lows and with such ferocious volatility. Fashionistas with outdated and broken gold jewelry are another group. What do I mean by outdated? The 14K gold nugget bracelet, the textured bark Rolex or that charm holder loaded down with Tweety Bird, Bugs Bunny and the Tasmanian Devil. Owners of this type of jewelry have heard about selling gold and estate jewelry on the radio, TV or newspaper and are cashing out and updating. Heirs, whose relatives left this jewelry, make up yet a different group. They have little sentimental attachment to the majority of the jewelry they have inherited. Some sell because they have fallen on hard times, while others are just taking advantage of the historic gold prices. People tell me that they are using this newfound income to cover unexpected expenses ranging from dental bills to air conditioner/heater repair bills as well

as property taxes or car insurance. Not surprisingly in these hard times, others need this nonconventional stream of income for day-by-day expenses.

Windfall makes all the difference

On Dec. 24, 2009, I had a typical exchange with a client, who handed me a well-worn jewelry box filled with odds and ends. “I have this box of jewelry that I have not worn in about 10 years,” the client told me. I started sorting through the jewelry and after weighing and reviewing the items, I offered the client $500 for her outdated and broken jewelry. At this news, the client burst into tears. You see, she had a small child at home and had not been able to buy her child anything for Christmas. While the idea of selling their jewelry is foreign to some people, remember that deposed kings, queens and political figures have often used jewelry collections to survive in exile. Immigrants fleeing from wars, revolutions and oppressive regimes have been able to start new lives by selling their jewelry. Americans across the nation and from all walks of life are selling their jewels to make it through these uncertain times. Luckily, gold has provided an unexpected and desperately needed cushion. Just a few observations from inside the jewelry box. P Lea Koonce Ogundiran is an estate jewelry buyer at Perry’s at SouthPark.

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by Ursula Strong

Personal Finance

Plan accordingly Saving for retirement requires deliberate action Every time you get paid, write out a check to whatever savings or investment vehicle you have chosen before you pay other bills.

omen are still far more likely than men to make career concessions in order to raise their families. Furthermore, even women who work full-time still earn less than men, on average. While we have made some strides toward achieving fairness in pay, we’re not there yet. However, more and more women are taking charge of their finances. In short, if you’re a woman — whether you have children or not —you are going to have special financial considerations, especially in saving for retirement. Consider these factors: n More than 80 percent of all women will be solely responsible for their own finances at some point in their lives, mostly as they get older.  n On average, men collect $10,450 in retirement income, from all sources, compared to $6,020 for women.  n Because women live an average of seven years longer than men, they’re more likely to outlive their assets.  n Only 50 percent of working women have pensions. Women are more likely to work in smaller businesses that do not offer pension plans. You get the picture. You simply must take significant action \ if you are going to enjoy a comfortable financial future. Fortunately, there are many steps you can take. Here are just a few:

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Pay yourself first

Every time you get paid, write out a check to whatever savings or investment vehicle you have chosen before you pay other bills. Better yet, take advantage of payroll deduction, bank authorization or systematic investment plans so your money is automatically invested before you even receive it. Such a plan, however, does not assure a profit and does not protect against loss in declining markets.

Invest for growth

To achieve your retirement goals, you might need to put some investment dollars into “growth” vehicles, such as stocks or mutual funds. Historically, stocks have appreciated more than other types of investments. More important, other types of investments, such as CDs or Treasury bills, might not keep pace with inflation, so you could lose purchasing power if your portfolio is not well-diversified.

Utilize retirement plans

Save on a pre-tax basis through your employer’s 401(k) or by making IRA contributions. If you can’t deduct an IRA contribution, consider a Roth IRA. Contributions to a Roth IRA are not deductible, but a Roth offers tax-free income at retirement under certain circumstances. If you are self-employed, a Simplified Employee Pension Plan or other retirement plan might offer a business tax deduction.

You’re in control

By following the steps above, along with any others that make sense for your situation, you can take charge of your financial future. It will take some time and effort, but the ultimate goal is well worth it. P Ursula Strong is a financial adviser with Edward Jones.

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by Tonia N. Woodbury

Supplier Diversity

Women in supplier diversity A perspective from Wells Fargo Corporate Supplier Diversity

he growth and development of minority, women and disadvantaged business enterprises is extremely important to our country’s economic recovery. A large portion of this growth is predicated on the inclusion in corporate supplier diversity programs. At Wells Fargo, Corporate Supplier Diversity serves to connect the community to the business and the business to the community. This approach fosters to incorporate diversity and inclusion into our overall sourcing and procurement processes. African-American women play a pivotal role in shaping the Wells Fargo supplier diversity program as they make up 75 percent of the team. When we sat down to discuss the dynamics of being a supplier diversity professional, we found they all have very interesting views on the programs from past to present. Janice Young, executive assistant, has witnessed firsthand a change in corporate responsibility and the approach to supplier diversity. “There was a time when reporting was the biggest priority. Now we are as focused on development and mentoring opportunities for diverse suppliers, and with this dramatic change came an increase in the work and the number of individuals it required to do the work.” According to Sonya Dukes, director of Corporate Supplier Diversity, how we do business; how we source; and how we are involved in the community has evolved to meet the economic downturn. “Businesses have to take the time to stop and assess their business models to make sure they are relative to the current state of corporate America. One tool for success is management and leadership development. To be successful, they must align 70

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Front row, from left: Janice Young, CaSondra Devine and Okeatta Brown. Back row, from left: Tonia N. Woodbury, Sonya Dukes and Julie Logan.

themselves with the needs and demands of their customer base.” For Julie Logan, business manager, one avenue for learning and retooling is education. Educational programs provide the necessary information MWDBEs need to be competitive. “Nothing is more important than knowing ‘how to show up’ and ‘when to show up’ to get the business.” Okeatta Brown, sourcing manager, is clear that as a supplier diversity professional, there is plenty of opportunity to influence and make an impact. “The opportunity for me is in developing the relationship,” says Brown. “It is those relationships with internal partners and external suppliers that are

mutually beneficial for the organization and the community.” For CaSondra Devine, senior business manager, at the end of the day, an effective supplier diversity program must be clear on the purchasing needs of its organization. “Partnering with our sourcing colleagues ensures awareness of contract opportunities and awards. This helps us make sure we bring the right suppliers to the table. That is the best way we can help the MWDBE community during this economic recovery.” P Tonia M. Woodbury is business manager on Wells Fargo’s Corporate Supplier Diversity team.

Small Business

A key to more customers

PrideBusiness

by Monique McKenzie

Entrepreneur turns to the Internet to grow her business

nter the search terms “Charlotte” and “piano lessons” on Google and the Piano Passion’s Web site (www.pianopassionnc.com) appears. The 3-year-old, Charlotte-based company is run by Nyshia Cook, a transplant from Springfield, Mass. Though the 26-yearold is happy about her 60 students, that wasn’t always the case. “The first year I only had one student,” she admits. “God just blessed me with a few more students and then it just spiraled to more and more. Ninety percent of the students that started with me are still here.” Cook took specific steps to grow her business. Some of those activities involved the Internet. In 2007, Cook set up a simple Web site for free using Microsoft Office tools. Then she posted free listings on Craig’s List, InsiderPages.com and GetLessons.com. “I knew nothing about HTML or setting up

a Web site,” she recalls. “But I just looked at other Web sites for (design) ideas. I also searched for advice on how I could improve my online rankings. A big boost in business came when we took our programs to private schools. That came about when a principal saw my ad on Craig’s List. Things took off from there.”

‘Internet is the great equalizer’

It’s no surprise, says Danny Ross, CEO of SiteZerver LLC (www.sitezerver.com). “The Web is the No. 1 tool for a small business as far as getting out there and being able to battle with your competitors,” he says. “The Internet is the great equalizer. Size doesn’t matter when it comes to the Web; every company with online access has the tools to grow their business. It starts with a Web site. “An effective Web site does one thing particularly well,”

These days, most companies’ sites have large text and maybe one photo. Sites are as simple as possible so prospective customers can find what they want.”

Ross explains. “When someone lands on your page you have to deliver whatever it is that you promised. In the past, we used a lot of unnecessary graphics to make the site lively. These days, most companies have large text and maybe one photo. Sites are as simple as possible so prospective customers can find what they want.” And how do you know if the content you’re providing hits the mark? Ross says you should conduct your own focus group by asking five to 20 people to check out your site. If they can’t figure out its objective, something is wrong. He also says you should search for Google Web master tools so you can submit your URL and access reports to determine if Google is seeing your site the way you planned. As Cook found out, content is only half the story. You also have to increase your visibility on the search engine pages so prospective customers can find you. Ross believes becoming a master of Google Adsense is the best way to acquire strategies to move your site up on the search page. But if you can’t do it yourself, hire someone else to accomplish this for you. Just get active on the Internet — fast! Cook will use the Internet even more as she continues to expand her business. The school doesn’t just teach piano, it offers voice, guitar and violin lessons, too. It’s also preparing to offer a summer camp. But you won’t see these offerings on home-printed fliers or postcards. Instead, check out the new Piano Passion’s Facebook fan page or YouTube videos. P Monique McKenzie is host of “The McKenzie Business Forum” talk radio show on Thursdays at 3 p.m. To connect to the show live or hear the archives, go to www.themckenziebusinessforum.com.

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C. JENNIFER COBLE

Growing up as a middle child, attorney C. Jennifer Coble says she became used to having to “negotiate her way.” It was effective tactic for her future career path. Through her firm Coble & Snow LLP, she has represented clients in business transactions, wills and estates, real estate and criminal matters for nearly a decade. Now, she has embarked on another way to help people. Coble is the new executive director of the Friendship Community Development Corp., a nonprofit organization that provides housing assistance, job readiness training, education and social services. “There is definitely satisfaction in helping those in need,” says the Greensboro native. “We do see that with the law, but this is probably a more hands-on experience . . .” The FCDC renovated the Enrichment Center at Friendship Missionary Baptist Church, where Coble is a member. The center opened in January as My Sister’s House Transitional Living Center, a 26-bed center for single homeless women. Coble attended Wake Forest University for both undergrad and law school. She is a member of the Charlotte-Mecklenburg Zoning Board of Adjustment, the Mecklenburg Board of County Commissioners Ethics Committee and Delta Sigma Theta. She lives in Charlotte with her dog, Soxx.

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ZENOBIA EDWARDS

Zenobia Edwards is the new dean of Metropolitan College at Johnson C. Smith University, an accelerated, adult continuingeducation program offering degrees in social work and criminology. Metropolitan College, Edwards says, provides “opportunity for those who have been disenfranchised or blocked from opportunity, not necessarily because of race but because of their age, because of their career involvement or work involvement, or because they have children and other responsibilities.” A career educator with 12 years of experience, Edwards arrived at JCSU last July 15. As dean, Edwards recruits students, hires faculty, and ensures operational processes and procedures are in place. The former science teacher and principal earned her bachelor’s degree in biological science from Wofford College, and a master’s in biological science and education specialist in administration from Converse College. She earned her doctorate in education administration from Nova Southeastern University. Edwards was a school partnership manager with College Summit, a nonprofit that has helped 35,000 low-income high school seniors navigate the college application process. A native of Spartanburg, S.C., Edwards and her husband, Dr. Gerard Edwards, have one son, Collin. For information about Metropolitan College, call (704) 378-1253 or visit www.jcsu.edu and click on “Adult Continuing Education.”

LaELAINA TAYLOR

LaElaina Taylor is making her mark in the male-dominated world of construction. As a project manager with Turner Construction Co., she is one of 22 women out of the 102 employees in Turner’s Charlotte office. Taylor admits she did not know what her career would be until her sophomore year at UNC Charlotte when she happened to take an introductory engineering class. “Being as I knew no one in construction growing up, I must say that construction chose me,” she says. The Missouri native earned a bachelor’s degree in civil engineering from UNCC and began working with Turner five years ago. Her responsibilities include reviewing submittal packages from subcontractors and submitting them to the architect for approval. She has also acted as an assistant superintendent on job sites. Taylor enjoys “meeting new people, seeing the growth of a concept that was birthed from a two- or three-dimensional idea, and always being able to learn something new.” A member of the National Association of Women in Construction, Taylor serves as a director on the board. She also volunteers with the ACE Mentor Program and is a “Big Sister” to a teenage girl through the Big Brothers Big Sisters program.

DEE BALDWIN

Dee Baldwin, the new associate dean/director of the UNC Charlotte School of Nursing, has made her mother’s dream come true. “Nursing has always been a childhood dream,” she says. “However, and equally important, my mother wanted one of her daughters to become a nurse. After my two older siblings decided on other career aspirations, I was left to fulfill my mother’s dream.” A 30-year veteran of the nursing profession, Baldwin has plans for the school’s future, such as developing faculty scholarships and expanding the existing registered nurse to bachelor-ofscience nursing program. She also hopes to start a doctorate program for nurses. At Georgia State University, the Virginia native earned the rank of associate professor of nursing and teaching at the doctoral and master’s levels. In 1999, she was appointed by thenGov. Roy E. Barnes as executive director of the Office of Women’s Health. In 2002, she developed the Women’s Health Navigators program in Atlanta, which has reached 10,000 African-American women there with messages about the importance of participating in breast cancer screenings. She plans to expand this model to Charlotte-Mecklenburg. Baldwin earned her doctorate in higher education from Georgia State. She lives in Charlotte’s University City area. P — Compiled by Angela Lindsay Hilst

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Meetings Third Sundays Charlotte-Mecklenburg Black Political Caucus

Nonpartisan organization that seeks to promote political education and increase voter participation among African-Americans. Little Rock AME Zion Church, 401 N. McDowell St., 6 p.m. Details: Caucus Chair Gloria Rembert (704) 333-4241

Fourth Sundays West Charlotte High School National Alumni Association This nonprofit group provides financial and volunteer support to West Charlotte High School. All alumni and friends are welcome. New location TBA Details: Veronica Davis, president, (704) 399-2171.

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Learn how you can become a homeowner and build wealth through a Homeownership Education and Counseling Program. Free introductory sessions are every Monday, 6 p.m.-8 p.m. 601 E. Fifth St., Children and Family Services Building Details: Harold Rice, (704) 943-9517

Second Mondays CHADD of Mecklenburg

Children/Adults with ADD meets and hears speakers from September to November and January to May, 7 p.m.9 p.m. at the Coca-Cola Bottling Co. Consolidated, 4100 Coca-Cola Plaza (formerly 1900 Rexford Road), Charlotte.

Tuesdays Tuesday Morning Breakfast Forum

8 a.m. West Charlotte Recreation Center, 2222 Kendall Drive

Fourth Tuesdays Friends of Beverly

Nonprofit support group for professional women that practices intentional diversity. Pewter Rose Restaurant, 1820 South Blvd. 6 p.m. For other monthly meetings and details: www.friendsofbeverly.com.

Third Tuesdays Kwabena Book Club

Beatties Ford Branch Library, 2412 Beatties Ford Road. 7 p.m. Details: (704) 336-2882.

Second Tuesdays American Business Women’s Association (Charlotte Charter Chapter)

This is a professional organization for working and retired women of diverse backgrounds. Crowne Plaza, 201 S. McDowell St. Reservations: (803) 548-1820. Dinner is $23.

First Thursdays Concord Area Metrolina Real Estate Investors Subgroup Education and networking in relation to real estate investing. 2431 Wonder Drive, Kannapolis Details: Charity Hagar, (704) 523-1570

Third Thursdays N.C. Association of Black Substance Abuse Workers Chemical Dependency Center Auditorium, 100 Billingsley Road. Noon (704) 376-7447; Contact: Jonathan Belton.

American Business Women’s Association, University Chapter Location varies 11:45 a.m.-1 p.m. Contact Pam for more information: (704) 549-4863.

Charlotte Mecklenburg Black Chamber of Commerce

Charlotte Chamber Belk Action Center Contact: Judith Bentley, jbentley@cmbcc.org.

Fourth Thursdays Mecklenburg Black Republican Council

Mecklenburg County Republican Headquarters, 1313 Mockingbird Lane, Suite 213. 7 p.m. Details: Vincent James, (704) 846-9091, or www.meckgop.com.

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First Saturdays Metrolina Minority Contractors Association

Second Sundays Piano Studios Network of Charlotte

Zeta Phi Beta, Tau Theta Zeta Chapter, Pineville Matthews

Fourth Sundays Black Women’s Caucus of Charlotte Mecklenburg

United House of Prayer 2321 Beatties Ford Road; 9 a.m.; Contact: John Wall (704) 905-4451.

President Ella Scarborough Mount Moriah Missionary Baptist Church, 381 Crestdale Road, Matthews (704) 625-3953.

Las Amigas Inc.

1 p.m. 3700 The Plaza.

Professional organization and support system for music studios and individual musicians of all levels. Details: (704) 905-2671.

Oaklawn Center 1920 Stroud Park Court; (704) 376-1541.

Special events

Second Saturdays Sigma Gamma Rho Sorority Inc.

April 25

Second and Fourth Saturdays Charlotte Writers Group

April 26-May 2

Noon-2 p.m. Martin Luther King Middle School, 500 Bilmark Ave. Details: Alvina Johnson, (704) 607-3853

Morrison Regional Library 11 a.m.-1 p.m. 7015 Morrison Blvd; www.meetup.com/charlottewriters.

Tailoring Teens for Success

Girls 11 to 16 years old meet with professional facilitators for interactive discussions: Meetings are held August-November every Saturday, 10 a.m.-1 p.m. University of Phoenix, 10925 David Taylor Drive Details: Jeanine Davis, info@girltalkfoundationinc.com

Third Saturdays Gamma Phi Delta Sorority Inc. Beta Eta Chapter

Founded in 1943, Gamma Phi Delta Sorority Inc. continues to seek ways to “Answer the call and accept the Challenge.” Meeting location varies. Proof of membership required. Details: Tonia Linder at (704) 492-1994.

Bill Cosby

N.C. Blumenthal Performing Arts Center Belk Theater 10 a.m. Details: (704)-372-1000, www.performingartsctr.org.

Quail Hollow Championship

The Quail Hollow Championship brings the PGA Tour to Charlotte each year. Details: www.quailchampionship.com May 14-16

Porgy & Bess

Set in Catfish Row, a Charleston ghetto, “Porgy & Bess” is a passionate tale of life during the 1920s. It’s a timeless love story about Porgy, a cripple, and Bess, a good but haunted woman. N.C. Blumenthal Performing Arts Center Belk Theater Details: (704)-372-1000, www.performingartsctr.org June 3

Jim O. Hacker Memorial Golf Tournament

Benefiting the Charlotte Volunteers in Medicine Clinic Birkdale Golf Club 8:30 a.m. Details: (704) 350-1300 or (704)-604-0273, www.cvimnc.org

10:30 a.m. Location varies.

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Johnson C. Smith University 143rd Founders’ Day Observance JOHNSON C. SMITH UNIVERSITY

April 15 - 18, 2010

The 2010 Arch of Triumph Award Recipients

John Crosland Jr.

Chairman Emeritus, Crosland, LLC and an Affordable Housing Advocate

Pettis Norman ’62

Celebrated Entrepreneur and Former NFL Player

Wintley Phipps

Acclaimed Vocal Artist and Founder, U.S. Dream Academy, Inc.

Bertha M. Roddey ’54

Noted Educator, Community Leader and Co-Founder of Harvey B. Gantt Center for AfricanAmerican Arts & Culture

Schedule of Events Thursday, April 15

Saturday, April 17

Noon — Scholarship Luncheon 11 A.M. — Honoree Roundtable By Invitation Only Open to the Public Mary Joyce Taylor Crisp Sarah Belk Gambrell Auditorium University Memorial Union Biddle Hall Speaker: Katie B. Morris, Featuring the 2010 Arch Board Chair of Triumph Award Recipients The Belk Foundation The Second Annual Arch of Triumph Gala Friday, April 16 6:30 P.M. – Cocktails 6 P.M. – 9 P.M. — Passport 7:30 P.M. – Dinner, Awards Ceremony to the World and Dancing Cultural Extravaganza The Charlotte Convention Center Open to the Public 501 South College Street JCSU Campus 74

Sunday, April 18 2 P.M. — Founders’ Day Convocation Jane M. Smith Memorial Church Commemorating The 143rd Anniversary of the University’s Founding Speaker: The Honorable Anthony Foxx, Mayor City of Charlotte

For tickets and sponsorship information, please contact: 704.330.1424

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