Feeling Lonely

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If you’re feeling lonely, remember you’re not alone. Feeling lonely doesn’t necessarily mean you have no one nearby. You can be surrounded by friends and family but still feel lonely.

How to deal with loneliness Everyone can feel lonely, and you don’t necessarily need a reason to feel this way. Sometimes it might even just pass. But maybe there is a reason, or maybe it’s just not passing this time. However, it features in your life, and however it makes you feel, there are things you can do to feel less lonely.

Knowing what can affect your mental wellbeing might help you understand the feelings you’re experiencing and help you think about the steps you can take to look after yourself. This is the best place to start. Although it’s hard, and sometimes there might not even be a reason, it’s a good idea to think about what is making you lonely. It might help you try and find a way of feeling better.

Although it might not feel that way, if you’re feeling lonely, remember you’re not alone. That feeling of loneliness can hit us at any time in life, often unexpectedly, even if it seems as though we’re surrounded by friends and family. Whatever might be making you feel lonely, we are here to help.

What can cause loneliness? There are different reasons why you might be feeling lonely – perhaps you’ve lost a loved one, moved away from friends and family, lost the social contact and enjoyment you used to get from work, or have health problems that make it difficult for you to go out and do the things you enjoy. There also might not be any clear reason at all to explain how you’re feeling, and that’s fine too.

How can I find someone to speak to? Talking to people is a great way to relive old memories and remind you of all the positive things in your life.

When you feel lonely it can be tempting to think nobody would want to hear from you. But often you’ll find people do want to help. If there are people around you who you can talk to, it can be a good idea to talk about your feelings. This might seem like a difficult conversation to have, but actually talking is often the best way to start feeling better. Talking to someone you know could let them try and help you, while they may not necessarily have the answer it can make you feel listened to and often outside perspectives can really help.

Have a chat with a volunteer Or you could take advantage of services that tackle loneliness. If you like having a chat there are several services that could match you with someone to talk to, including:

• Age UK’s Telephone Friendship Service allows you to sign up for a free weekly friendship call. It can be a great way to speak to someone new.

• Silverline also offers weekly calls to people aged 55 and over. This is a free service for people looking to have a chat with a friendly and supportive volunteer.

• Many local age UKs offer face-to-face

befriending services. These often involve a volunteer visiting someone at home for a cup of tea and a chat.

How can I make new connections? Spending time with other people can prevent you from feeling lonely or anxious and give you a chance to share experiences, thoughts and ideas.

• You might want to consider joining a friendship group. This can be a good way to build new and meaningful friendships and help you to regain your confidence. • You might want to be around people you have more in common with. Contact your local Age UK to find out what social activities they offer. They often have unique clubs and classes you can take part in. These can be great to maintain social connections but also are a great way to learn a new skill or revisit an old hobby.

• If you’re missing the social connections you used to have through work, you could also consider volunteering or perhaps going to classes through The University of the Third Age. How can I make new connections? Spending time with other people can prevent you from feeling lonely or anxious and give you a chance to share experiences, thoughts and ideas.

• You might want to consider joining a friendship group. This can be a good way to build new and meaningful friendships and help you to regain your confidence.

• You might want to be around people you have more in common with. Contact your local Age UK to find out what social activities they offer. They often have unique clubs and classes you can take part in. These can be great to maintain social connections but also are a great way to learn a new skill or revisit an old hobby.

• If you’re missing the social connections you used to have through work, you could also consider volunteering or perhaps going to classes through The University of the Third Age. n Age UK Herefordshire & Worcestershire General: 01905 740950 Freephone: 0800 008 6077