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A bleak legislative outlook
In our Jan. 22 print edition, I explored what Republican Party control might mean for LGBT North Carolinians. It’s been nearly two weeks now since the North Carolina General Assembly opened their legislative session and Republicans have wasted no time in their quest to push through negative legislation that will hurt everyday Tar Heels, especially the “least among us.” As of this print edition’s deadline, several items of Republican (and/or “Tea Party,” but aren’t they pretty much the same these days?) support had yet to be addressed by lawmakers in Raleigh, though some legislative agenda items have already made their way to the General Assembly since its opening on Jan. 26. The outlook is as bleak for us as it is for communities of color, immigrants, low-income young people and other oft-maligned minorities. A bill which GOP legislators hope will help opt North Carolinians out of President Obama’s landmark healthcare reform law was among the first filed this legislative session. Sponsored by Reps. Paul Stam (R-Wake), Jeff Barnhart (R-Cabarrus), Mark Hollo (R-Alexander, Catawba) and Tom Murry (R-Wake), the bill has an additional 59 co-sponsors. Most Republicans in North Carolina and across the country campaigned heavily last fall against the president’s new healthcare plans and reforms, so it’s no surprise a bill aimed directly at the president’s most remarkable domestic policy achievement is among the first on Republicans’ priority list. While there’s no doubt in any (sane) person’s mind that the new federal law will prove positive for a significant number of Americans, Republicans aren’t budging in their quest to ignore important, vital facts and reality. (Glossing over the truth seems to be common currency in right-wing politics these days.) Among those reality-based facts: It will decrease the deficit, reduce healthrelated costs for citizens and ensure a greater number of Americans are eligible for healthcare insurance with or without so-called pre-existing conditions.
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But to hell with facts, figures and honesty, right? Republicans played well to their rabid base, won their elections in November and have come to Raleigh to exact their anti-establishment, anti-American and anti-government revenge on our nation — well, to the best of their ability that is. Important note to Republicans: State laws do not trump federal laws. We’ve learned this several times. Should I repeat that for you, perhaps more slowly next time? Above and beyond healthcare, Republicans have also put education on their list of institutions to screw up and people to screw over particularly if it has anything to do with brown-skinned, cough, I mean “illegal immigrant” children. Several GOP House members were quick to file legislation that would ban undocumented people — mostly youth and young adults who have committed no crime and are in America through no fault or wrongdoing of their own — from attending any of North Carolina’s community colleges or UNC System institutions (see story on page 9). Republicans will say they’re attempting to protect the rights of native-born citizens, that there’s only so much money to go around supporting each student. What they won’t tell you is that they have just one type of immigrant on their mind: Latinos. Really, now, who honestly thinks someone’s going to second-guess the paperwork of a white-skinned Canadian or Briton? Other potentially negative pieces of legislation weren’t following too far behind. Legislation to lift the current cap of 100 on charter schools was filed without even the tiniest addition of regulation or oversight, a problem some progressive advocates say could lead to abuse, a potential educational harm to many of our state’s children and a re-routing of much-needed taxpayer funds from struggling public school systems. Still on the education front, another bill sponsored by Republicans would allow community colleges to opt-out of participation in federal direct student loan programs providing low-income students with the opportunity to pay for and attain higher education. Kinda shows you exactly what Republicans think of our state’s constitutional guarantee of quality education for every child in North Carolina, doesn’t it? Luckily, as of deadline, several other harmful, potentially potent bills had yet to be filed in either the House or the Senate though they are probably well on their way (check goqnotes.com for the latest news). Those bills include a constitutional amendment to ban recognition of same-sex marriage (and, potentially, other legal arrangements between same-sex couples), a bill to require voters to present valid photo I.D. at the ballot box, a repeal of the state’s voter-owned election law, an “informed consent” abortion bill and potential changes to 2009’s School Violence Prevention Act and Healthy Youth Act, among others. : :
It’s now clear that I have major holes to fill. I can’t claim to own a decent queer collection without the stamps of George Washington Carver, James Baldwin, Andy Warhol, Josephine Baker, Friedrich Wilhelm von Steuben or Walt Whitman. Appalling gaps. Time to start swapping my straights for gays. In fact, I thought I had the 1940 Whitman stamp. Someone’s been pilfering my poofters. While I do own the American Raymond Burr stamp — it’s actually an homage to the TV show in which he starred, “Perry Mason” — I don’t possess his Canadian stamp. I need Della to get on that. A person doesn’t have to be gay to belong in my thematic collection. It would be a poor, queer collection, indeed, without Judy Garland and Dinah Shore. Thankfully, I already possess both the all-time gay icon and the accidental originator of a yearly lesbian bacchanal. Needless to say, the 2009 Dinah Shore stamp doesn’t celebrate the lesbian debauch. The post office might’ve solved its money woes if it had. All these folks honored with stamps stood out in science, the arts, politics and so forth. They weren’t honored for being bisexual, lesbian or gay — more likely in spite of it. But, the word is that’s going to change and once again Harvey Milk leads the way. According to a recent Bay Area Reporter filing, the Citizens’ Stamp Advisory Committee (CSAC), which evaluates possible subjects for U.S. stamps, contacted Milk’s family and the Harvey Milk National Stamp Campaign. It appears a Harvey Milk stamp will be issued in the next few years. Milk meets one requirement: He’s dead. Mr. Twinkies-For-Brains saw to that. Last year then-House Speaker Nancy Pelosi urged the CSAC to back Milk, writing, “The United States Postal Service has yet to honor an LGBT American hero with a stamp.” And, what a boon it would be to a certain lesbian’s topical stamp collection, she could’ve added. If the CSAC is at last thinking more broadly, I also have a suggestion for the panel: Put me on it. Who better than a lesbian philatelist to help choose future LGBT commemorative stamps? Even my grandfather would agree with that. Emphatically. In German. : : info: LesRobinson@aol.com . generalgayety.com
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qnotes’ new associate editor says hello
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[Ed. Note – qnotes’ staff is proud to introduce our new associate editor of arts and entertainment, Leah Cagle. We hope each of our readers have the chance to interact with Leah and we’ve invited her to introduce herself as she begins her work with us and you.] Hi there, qnotes community! My name is Leah Cagle and I am qnotes’ new associate editor of arts and entertainment. I grew up in Asheville — home of gorgeous mountain ranges, hippie communities and (my personal favorite) Rosetta’s Kitchen’s peanut butter-baked tofu. Hailing from such a majestic natural environment and vibrant artistic community instilled in me from an early age a strong appreciation for the special connection between a people and their place. When I moved to Charlotte in early 2008 to begin my current academic endeavors in English and women’s studies, I was thrilled to discover an equally evident pride and energy between the city and its inhabitants. It was love at first visit! Since then, I have plunged headlong into exploring all the treasures that Charlotte has to offer— visiting delicious restaurants, enjoying the phenomenal music, theatre, and dance venues, passing time wandering through the locally-owned bookstores and marveling at the bright and creative visual art showcases. Making myself at home here in the Queen City has been such a beautiful and easy experience. The move brought not only a change of scenery, but also a change of heart. Just as I was beginning to learn about the local LGBT movement in my women’s and gender studies classes, an influx of brilliant folks very active in the Charlotte LGBT community entered into my life; the combination of challenging courses and personal conversations sparked a restlessness within me, a desire to speak out. I could
no longer stay silent about the injustice and mistreatment surrounding me — I had to do something. It was then that I determined to channel whatever abilities or passions I possessed towards a progressive movement of acceptance and equality for the LGBT community. Needless to say, I’m beyond excited to have the opportunity through this position to combine my affection for writing and my fascination with art to benefit Charlotte’s LGBT community. It’s a privilege to work alongside a talented team with such drive and I’m eager to dive into learning and promoting the unique vision this paper carries. And, I’m even more excited to get to know you! I’m looking forward to rubbing elbows with you at volunteer events, shows and performances as we explore the heartbeat of the Charlotte artistic community. qnotes readers sustain the life and energy of this publication — so don’t be shy! If you have ideas, questions, or suggestions, don’t hesitate to send me an email at leah@goqnotes.com or call the qnotes office at 704-531-9988. Many adventures to come, so stay tuned! : :
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Charlotte Shepard to speak
CHARLOTTE — LGBT advocate Judy Shepard will speak at the Campus Pride (CP) and Time Out Youth (TOY) annual awareness event “Believe in Youth” on Feb. 20, 3 p.m., at Myers Park Baptist Church’s Heaton Hall, 1900 Queens Rd. Shepard, mother of slain hate crime victim Matthew Shepard and author of the new book, “Meaning of Matthew: My Son’s Murder in Laramie, and a World Transformed,” will speak to the audience with a special Q&A following. Special music will be provided by One Voice Chorus. Following the event, there will be a VIP meet and greet with Judy Shepard at The Bar at 316, 316 Rensselaer St. “Campus Pride and Time Out Youth have partnered to bring Judy Shepard to Charlotte to shed light on the ongoing crisis that faces LGBT youth and community members both locally and across the country,” said Steve Bentley, executive director of TOY. “Judy’s amazing advocacy on behalf of LGBT people provides a unique perspective and a call to action for movement on LGBT equality.” Partial funding for the program is being provided by The Wesley Mancini Foundation. The event is free to educators and youth; $15 suggested donation otherwise. The meet and greet is open to the public; $5 suggested donation. For more information, visit campuspride. org and timeoutyouth.org. — L.M.
Rack ’em up
CHARLOTTE — The Human Rights Campaign and Just Twirl are joining forces to hold a “Right Up Your Alley!” bowling event on Feb. 20, 2-5 p.m., at AMF Centennial Lanes, 4501 South Blvd. Enjoy an afternoon of bowling under dance/disco/party lights with musical accompaniment with DJ GlitterGirl. Afterward, skip over to Sidelines Sports Bar to just chill after exerting energy for HRC. Admission is free. Tickets, include bowling, shoe rental, prizes and an annual HRC membership, are:
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buffet and two drinks (beer or wine). For more information, visit crapemyrtlefest.org.
— L.M.
Noted professor dies
WINSTON-SALEM — Dining with Friends’ Red Ribbon Fashion Air 2011 will roll out the runway as it holds its Top 15 Finalist Competition on Feb. 12, 8-11 p.m., at the Milton Rhodes Center for the Arts, 251 North Spruce St. Designers have exercised their creative flare on T-shirts provided by sponsor HANESbrands, Inc. This is the Grande Finale for Dining with Friends, a fundraising event to raise monies for AIDS Care Service. Format for presentation is based upon a “Project Runway” motif. Best of Show will win a $250 cash award and a gift basket chocked full of prizes. It will be judged by a panel including celebrity designer Jack Mackenroth, a dyedin-the-wool “Project Runway” contestant. Tickets are $25 and include desserts, dancing and cash bar. For more information, visit aidscareservice.org. — L.M.
DURHAM — Duke University’s Reynolds Price died on Jan. 20 at the age of 77. This James B. Duke professor of English was a “celebrated writer of fiction, poetry, memoirs, essays and plays who turned a three-year teaching appointment into more than 50 years on the faculty,” the university reported. His career stretched from the U.S. to the U.K., having been a Rhodes Scholar at Oxford University in England. He was the recipient of the William Faulkner Award for his first novel, “A Long and Happy Life.” He was also honored by the North Carolina Humanities Council, among others. It was not until 2009, that Price disclosed his sexuality, preferring to be called queer, when he released “Ardent Spirits: Leaving Home, Coming Back.” The Kansas City Star reported that he “held off writing about his sexuality until then, … because ‘I wanted to be very careful about not invading anyone else’s privacy or making anyone more unhappy than seemed necessary.’” William S. Price, Jr., his brother and retired director of the North Carolina state Archives and History Division, is his only survivor. There was no public funeral at Price’s request. Duke has not yet announced plans to honor him. — L.M.
Triangle
Kendell talks Prop 8
Triad Fashions fund ASO
CMF hosts two diverse events
RALEIGH — Join Crape Myrtle Festival for a rock-em-sock-em Super Bowl Party on Feb. 6 at The View at Legends, 330 W. Hargett, beginning at 4 p.m. There will even be a cookout with food provided by Legends. Afterward, enjoy a round of bingo and a drag show. A $10 donation is being requested. Want something a little more formal? Then attend the Black & White Ball on Feb. 13, 6:30 p.m., at Mirage, 400 N.West St., Suite 110. Tickets are $50 and include sushi bar, Italian
Tuesday, February 15, 2011 John Arrowood Former North Carolina Court of Appeals Judge Crowne Plaza, 201 S. McDowell St. Cash Bar Social/Heavy Hor d’oeuvres @ 5:30 pm Program starts @ 6:45 pm $20 Call 704.565.5075 by 12 pm Friday, February 11, 2011 or email businessguild@yahoo.com to request tickets for this event
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$150 Lane Captain (up to five people); $35 singles; $25 student (valid ID age 12-21); $15 youth (under 12); and $100 sponsor (supplying literature approved prior to the event). Sponsorships are available. Email Jason McCraw at JasonMcCraw@aol.com to learn more. To purchase tickets, visit hrc.org/ charlottebowling. — L.M.
RALEIGH — Kate Kendell, executive director for the National Center for Lesbian Rights, discussed issues as they relate to how Proposition 8 impacts all citizens at a gathering at The Borough Restaurant on Jan. 22. Especially of note are those states that are facing rollbacking of marriage equality and amendments threats. Justine Hollingshead, North Carolina State University’s GLBT Center director, organized the event, along with the center. Kendell was adamant about protecting the rights of North Carolina’s LGBT community. She said that her center was there to lend support
to ENC and other advocacy organizations. To read more about the presentation and to view a video clip, visit pamshouseblend. com/diary/18498. — L.M.
Regional UNC alum nets D.C. post
WASHINGTON, D.C. — Jeffrey Richardson, a University of North CarolinaChapel Hill alumnus, has been appointed head of Washington, D.C., Mayor Vince Gray’s Office of LGBT Affairs, it was announced on Jan. 21. According to the Washington Blade, Gray said, ““The District of Columbia has one of the largest and most diverse GLBT communities in the nation. And in the spirit of one city, Mr. Richardson will lead collaborative efforts with these constituents, the community at-large, and the government.” He leaves his post at the Center for Progressive Leadership to assume his new duties. He has also been the president of the Gertrude Stein Democratic Club, as well as serving as a program officer with the D.C. Children & Youth Investment Trust Corporation. Richardson has a B.A. from UNC-Chapel Hill and a Master’s in social work from Howard University. — L.M.
National Gay UCC pastor nom’ed for top post
CLEVELAND, Ohio — The United Church of Christ has nominated its first out-gay candidate to serve the 1.1-million-member denomination as one of its top elected national officers. The Rev. J. Bennett Guess, 44, was selected by a search committee to serve as a member of the UCC’s five-person Collegium of Officers and to head Local Church Ministries, one of the church’s four national bodies. Guess’ selection must be affirmed by a board of directors in April, before his name is put forward for election by 1,000 delegates attending the UCC’s biennial General Synod, July 1-5, in Tampa, Fla. Guess, who presently directs the UCC’s
publishing, identity and communication ministry, has been a member of the denomination’s national staff for more than a decade and has been active in LGBT activism throughout his ministry. As the UCC’s lead communicator, he has been an active member of the National Lesbian and Gay Journalists Association. — D.S.
Hospital visitation rights in effect
NEW YORK, N.Y. — On Jan. 18, new federal regulations regarding hospital visitation rights went into effect. The new rules will affect same-sex couples and their families across the country. The regulations require hospitals participating in Medicaid and Medicare to have written policies and procedures regarding patients’ visitation rights. Hospitals must now inform patients, or an attending friend or family member, of the patient’s rights to visitors of his or her choosing. The policy also prohibits discrimination against visitors based on race, ethnicity, religion, sex, gender identity, sexual orientation or disability. Lambda Legal has noted in comments submitted to the Department of Health and Human Services that some important protections still need to be added. The new regulations do not address who may visit when an incapacitated patient has not designated someone to make decisions; the need for an appeals procedure for visitation denials; and the need for hospices and nursing homes have LGBT-specific nondiscrimination policies in place. — D.S.
No Name-Calling Week observed
NEW YORK, N.Y. — Thousands of schools across the country participated in GLSEN’s eighth annual No Name-Calling Week, a series of educational activities held Jan. 24-28 designed to address bullying and name-calling of all kinds. A project of the Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network, Simon & Schuster Children’s Publishing and more than 50 participating organizations, and sponsored by Cisco, No Name-Calling Week has become one of the most used and celebrated bullying prevention programs in the country. Initially created for middle schools, No Name-Calling Week is now used in all grade levels. Schools participate in a variety of ways, from hosting assemblies to hanging posters promoting respect to using lesson plans that encourage students to intervene when they hear name-calling. Lesson plans for all grade levels and other resources were posted at www.NoNameCallingWeek.org. Many schools also encourage students to participate in No Name-Calling Week’s Creative Expression Contest (submission deadline is Feb. 28). — D.S.
GLAAD unveils media awards noms
LOS ANGELES, Calif. — The Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation, the nation’s LGBT media advocacy and antidefamation organization, has announced the nominees for its 22nd Annual GLAAD Media Awards. Winners will be revealed during three separate ceremonies that will be held in New York on March 19, in Los Angeles (details to be announced) and San Francisco on May 14. The GLAAD Media Awards will also celebrate GLAAD’s 25th anniversary year, looking back at a quarter-century of work to build acceptance and advance equality through LGBT images in the media. There are 114 nominees in 23 English-lan-
guage categories and 33 Spanish-language nominees in 9 categories. This year GLAAD introduced a new category to recognize independent blogs, in recognition of the growing role of online media in shaping today’s culture. The first nominees in this category are The Bilerico Project, Blabbeando, Joe. My. God., Pam’s House Blend, and Rod 2.0. View all GLAAD nominees at glaad.org. — D.S.
HRC studies Jewish non-profits
WASHINGTON, D.C. — The Human Rights Campaign Foundation is set to begin an effort to investigate the existing workplace policies for LGBT employees at Jewish non-profit organizations. The work, an expansion of HRC’s workplace equality project, is supported by a generous lead grant from the Charles and Lynn Schusterman Family Foundation and supporting grants from The Morningstar Foundation, Stuart S. Kurlander — a leader in several non-profit Jewish and Jewish LGBT community organizations — and an anonymous donor. “Together, HRC and our partners share a vision of a work environment that provides every employee with the opportunity to achieve their full potential – in policy and in practice,” said Joe Solmonese, president of the HRC Foundation. “This collaborative partnership will expand the conversation about equality for LGBT people to the communities these organizations serve and to religious communities more broadly about their role in making fairness and equality a reality for all.” “The continued marginalization of LGBT Jews in some quarters is especially disheartening for those of us who believe in the power of a fully inclusive Jewish community that embraces every person as having equal and infinite merit,” said Lynn Schusterman, chair of the Charles and Lynn Schusterman Family Foundation. Last year Lynn Schusterman issued a call for all Jewish organizations to join her family’s foundation in adopting non-discrimination hiring policies that specifically mention sexual orientation, gender identity and gender expression. — D.S.
Global Key Ugandan activist murdered
KAMPALA, Uganda — David Kato, one of Uganda’s most prominent LGBT rights activists, was murdered Jan. 26. Initial reports indicated he was killed in his home by a hammer blow to the head and his body was discovered later by neighbors. However, a subsequent police account suggests Kato died on the way to the hospital and that there was a witness to the crime. The murder comes only weeks after the Uganda Supreme Court told a local magazine, Rolling Stone (no relation to the U.S.-based publication), to stop printing the names of prominent alleged Ugandan homosexuals and calling for their death. It is possible that Kato, who was out already as a gay man and activist, has become the first victim of the magazine’s call. During his long campaign for equality Kato had been arrested three times for his activism and endured countless other forms of harassment and assault. He was known as the “grandfather of the kuchus” — as gay men in Kampala call themselves — for his tireless fight to improve the treatment of Uganda’s LGBT community. — D.S.
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A fresh face at the legislature Freshman Marcus Brandon focuses on education, community development, sustainability by Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.com
When the North Carolina General Assembly opened its 2011 legislative session it did so without the years-long presence of openly lesbian state Sen. Julia Boseman (D-New Hanover). First elected to the Senate in 2004, Boseman was the first openly gay or lesbian person elected to the state legislature. Though she’s no longer there (she opted not to run for reelection in 2010), the LGBT and other progressive communities will continue to have a voice in the General Assembly. Rep. Marcus Brandon (D-Guilford) is the first openly gay man elected to the legislature and the first to hold office in the House. He’s also the first openly gay and African-American candidate ever elected to a state-level office. Despite all these exciting “firsts,” the reality is that Brandon comes into his new job as a freshman in a party that has been relegated to a political minority after experiencing a dynasty-like chain of unbroken political authority for nearly a full century. “It’s a very difficult situation that we’re working under right now,” Brandon admits to qnotes, “but I’m still very happy to be here.” Brandon says the Democratic Party’s minority status presents important challenges. For long-serving members of the House or
Senate, he says, adjusting to the new climate will take some time. “The challenge is for everyone to get their grip around the fact that we aren’t in the majority and what that looks like,” Brandon says. “The challenge is to represent our districts, our ideas and our values even with such an extreme minority.” Figuring out the new lay of the land during such a tight economic and budgeting environment will also present opportunities. “I think there are tremendous opportunities on the things I want to talk about: economic development and sustainability,” Brandon says. The state faces a significant budget gap as the legislature reconvenes. Legislators have multiple options on the table to bridge that gap, estimated at about $3.7 billion. The state’s shortfall, Brandon says, means “more people will have to come together and do more.” North Carolina House Speaker Thom Tillis, a Cornelius, business-friendly Republican, has spent the last several weeks insisting his caucus’ agenda will be “jobs, jobs, jobs.” On the first day of the new session, Tillis even wore and passed out rubber bracelets that had the words, “Think Jobs,” printed on them.
“I was very optimistic when the majority was going to concentrate on jobs and fixing our economic system,” Brandon says. “There’s been about 20 bills filed and none of those bills did any of that. It’s hard to understand how this is your major focus when you have not dealt with it at all within the first few days.” Brandon is also frustrated that Republicans have wasted time pushing through legislation designed to counter President Barack Obama’s landmark healthcare reform law. He says such a measure is “symbolic.” “We have people whose premiums are rising, people whose prescription drug costs are out of control and a whole bunch of people who don’t have insurance at all,” Brandon says. “Their vote is just a ‘no’ vote. There’s been no solution from their side and no alternative legislation from their side.” He adds, “The people elect us to do their business. They don’t send us here to do symbolic votes.” : : more: Read our past coverage of Brandon’s campaign and learn more about him at goqnotes.com/8753/.
Democrat Marcus Brandon is embarking upon his first term in the North Carolina General Assembly. He’ll represent a portion of southwest Guilford County in the North Carolina House.
What is Art Pope’s agenda for North Carolina? Raleigh retail magnate Art Pope a major influencer in conservative Tar Heel circles by Chris Kromm :: southernstudies.org
[Ed. Note — The following is reprinted, under Creative Commons and with permission, from Facing South, the blog of the Durhambased Institute for Southern Politics. It was originally published on Jan. 24, 2011, two days before the start of the North Carolina General Assembly’s new legislative session. For more, visit southernstudies.org.] In North Carolina, there’s little argument: The most important backer of conservative causes and politicians is Raleigh retail magnate Art Pope. As a Facing South series looking at Pope’s influence documented (http://www.southernstudies. org/2010/10/blessed-to-have-a-pope. html), Pope’s family foundation supplies about 90 percent of the income for policy groups and think tanks that promote a conservative agenda in the state. On the political side, Pope’s money was also key to the Republican Party’s historic takeover of the N.C. legislature in 2010: Facing South found that Pope’s groups and family members injected over $2.2 million into 22 state races, helping fuel the GOP to victory. Now, as North Carolina Republicans prepare to assume leadership this week, political observers are wondering: What kind of influence will Pope and his network of organizations have in pushing their agenda for the state in 2011? The question of Pope’s influence
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was underscored in early January, when Rep. Paul “Skip” Stam (R) announced he was hiring from groups in Pope’s network for key staff positions. Another way to measure Pope’s influence is to compare the issues that state Republicans have pledged to make top priorities in 2011, and comparing them to
the legislative agendas promoted by Popebacked organizations. So far, two of the leading groups in Pope’s network — the John Locke Foundation and Americans for Prosperity-N.C. — have announced their top 2011 agenda items for the state. Here’s a chart showing how they match up with the top issues Republicans ran on in
November 2010 and have recently told reporters are at the top of their to-do list: The comparison reveals several core areas where the state’s Republican leadership and Pope-backed groups are unified: 1. Less Taxes: Republicans are vowing to let a temporary increase in the sales tax expire at the end of the fiscal year, a move supported by Americans for Prosperity and the John W. Pope Civitas Institute, which is also largely supported by Pope’s foundation. It’s also a move that’s hard to square with the GOP’s other top concern of balancing the state budget — forcing even deeper cuts in schools and social services. 2. More charter schools: Recent news accounts have confirmed that state Republicans will move quickly to eliminate a state-wide cap on the number of charter schools, independent schools run with public backing. Advocates say charters promote innovation; detractors say they undermine public schools. Eliminating the state’s 100-school limit is a priority for all of the groups in Pope’s network. 3. Voter ID: A bill requiring voters to show photo identification at the polls is also on the GOP’s fast-track list. Although not a big issue for Locke or AfP, Civitas has led the charge for new voter restrictions through its N.C. Election Reform Network. There’s no evidence that voter fraud is a widespread problem, and Republicans
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HRC to award teen, longtime leader and org 2011 Human Rights Campaign North Carolina Gala to be held Feb. 26 RALEIGH – The Human Rights Campaign (HRC) North Carolina Gala will return to Raleigh on Feb. 26. The event, the largest LGBT fundraising event in the state, will be held at the Raleigh Convention Center. Hundreds are expected to attend the benefit, where three awards will be presented. HRC’s Equality Awards recognize individual and organizational leadership in the LGBT community in North Carolina. This year’s winners include Raleigh’s Crape Myrtle Festival, longtime LGBT leader Joni Madison and high schooler Kristin Oshinsky. The Crape Myrtle Festival Inc (CMF) is Raleigh Convention Center (Credit: Suzie T., via Flickr)
an all-volunteer non-profit organization that raises funds for people living with HIV/AIDS in the Triangle area, among other causes. The group celebrated their 30th anniversary last year. CMF started as a small gathering among friends recognizing something needed to be done to face the issues of the HIV/AIDS crisis in the gay community in 1981; it is now the oldest AIDS-related fundraiser in the Southeast. Through its diverse yearly events, grand gala, corporate, business and individual sponsorships and donations, the Festival has raised over $1 million for more than 30 service agencies statewide.
Kirsten Oshinsky, a student at Wake County’s Wakefield High School, worked tirelessly with students and administrators fighting an uphill battle in the creation and official recognition of Wakefield’s Gay-Straight Alliance (GSA). Once established, Oshinskly worked with the club to address the issue of slurs, creating “Stop Signs,” a traditional stop sign with a warning that certain language will not be tolerated. The signs, now in every class room at Wakefield, empower teachers to stop slurs easily and show students that certain language or behavior will not be tolerated. Joni Madison, who will receive HRC’s Legacy Equality Award, has been a member of the HRC Board of Governors for six years, an HRC Carolinas Dinner co-chair twice and has served on the HRC National Board of Directors for four years. Madison has led the North Carolina Steering Committee, the only statewide steering committee in the nation. HRC credits her leadership in making the HRC North Carolina Dinner one of the largest HRC dinners in the nation. Tickets to the HRC Gala are $175 until Feb. 18. They can be bought online at hrccarolinas.org. : : — compiled by qnotes staff from release
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Bill James’ homophobia charade reveals more than individual ignorance. In reference to the role North Carolina members of Congress played in the repeal of “Don’t Ask Don’t Tell,” Mecklenburg County Commissioner Bill James recently compared homosexuals to prostitutes and pedophiles. While we have come to expect this type of pathetic behavior periodically from the good commissioner, what was perhaps equally disconcerting was the feeble response by the default party of conscience, the Democratic majority on the county commission. In a classic example of what your high school civics teacher called “glittering generalities,” the resolution, penned by Commissioner Harold Cogdell, called for tolerance, inclusion and civility. The resolution did not even mention Commissioner James and further failed to reference the hate, discrimination and second-class citizen status heaped on the LGBT community from pulpits, government centers and suburbs across the region. The resolution was even pitiful enough to gain the vote of James himself. Sadly, this is just another gut-punch to those poor souls who still hold out hope that our current political quagmire can produce wise and compassionate leaders. I think I have seen this movie before; the one where the party of rapacity spews its fairy tales of hate from
behind the First Amendment and the party of conscience is predictably appalled (hands clasped over the mouth in Miss America style), but the outrage fizzles as they steer a Toyota Prius toward the local Earth Fare. Several commissioners, sensing the impudence of their response, claimed that they could not really censure James for his comments. Well, I am not buying it — not from that group of legal eagles and citizen soldiers. Lacking will is not the same as lacking means. Since it is clear that the county commission is unwilling to do so, I will gladly stand and hereby move to censure Commissioner James for managing to further embarrass our city, for promoting oppression in the land of the free and for using his position to legitimize ignorance, hate and violence. Will you stand with me? : : — Triplett is co-chair of the Charlotte Area Green Party. qnotes strives to provide the community with an open forum for discussion and commentary. The views of guest commentators do not necessarily represent the official views or positions of qnotes, its editorial staff or publisher.
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haven’t explained how they’ll account for thousands of voters — like the elderly, disabled citizens and students — who don’t have a photo ID. If voters have to pay for it, critics say that amounts to a poll tax. If the state picks up the tab, what does that do to the state budget? 4. Eminent domain: Republicans and all the Pope-backed groups want to end the state’s use of eminent domain to take property for economic development projects. After that, the agenda gets murkier. Socially-conservative Republicans are talking about a constitutional amendment to ban same-sex marriage, and long-time abortion foe Rep. Paul “Skip” Stam, the likely House majority leader, may push for an “informed
consent” bill. Both are issues ignored by the Pope’s network of groups. The groups backed by Pope’s foundation also have a wish-list of issues — stopping subsidies used to lure companies to the state, repealing the state’s renewable-energy laws (Senate Bill 3) and ending N.C. system of publicly-financed, “voter-owned” elections — that the GOP has yet to signal are big priorities for lawmakers. Which issues will end up being priorities for North Carolina’s new Republican leadership? Will they hew closely to the agenda of Pope’s network, or chart a more independent course? On issues like charter schools and voter ID, the answers are clear. For the rest: Stay tuned. : :
online only Love&Lust In celebration of Valentine’s Day, qnotes takes its annual trip into the world of love and its more delightful sibling, lust. Catch more about LGBT families in the South and explore the age-old, sometimes seedy and sometimes nostalgic allure of public sex.
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StillOut stands out In a world of fast-paced, motion media, one Charlotte photography group seeks to freeze the frame by Leah Cagle :: leah@goqnotes.com
With everyday conversations in which references to TV moments seem to outnumber recollections of actual memories and YouTube allusions usually overtake verbal attempts to share real experience, it’s easy to feel swept away in the fast pace of the moving media world. And with the percentage of Americans’ time spent interacting with video media increasing exponentially each year, the visual art scene stands little chance of slowing down anytime soon. But amidst this whirlwind of multimedia activity, StillOut LGBT Photography Club, an open group of photographers meeting monthly at the Lesbian & Gay Community Center of Charlotte, remains centered on the art of still photography. Members of the group say still photography still has true value. “I think that a picture truly is worth a thousand words,” says Mike Blizzard, a photography and StillOut member. “[With still photography] you can get people to look at something and to draw their own conclusions from it rather than having the media tell them what to think….It’s more personal.” In 2009, Charlotte native David Lari founded the club in response to his desire for an open and affirming artistic environment. Lari, a committed LGBT activist and winner of the Don King Community Service Award, had participated in several photography clubs in the past and desired a place where he “could be free to be [himself] without having to hide being gay.” After volunteering with several organizations such as OutCharlotte, the Gay and Lesbian Switchboard and even serving as an official photographer Pride Charlotte, Lari decided that the task of capturing the life and movement of the Charlotte LGBT community was not one to be taken on alone. Today, operating as a unique group of artists dedicated to documenting the “LGBT history of Charlotte through [their] lenses,” members of StillOut work on developing their photography knowledge and skill, building portfolios on the club’s free webspace, and forming strong, supportive professional and
personal relationships with one another. “It’s been great getting to know everyone,” Blizzard says. “It’s really nice to have a group of people who have the same interests but are also just really good people. I know I can call on them for anything, a lunch date or anything I might need.” Even casual conversations, Blizzard explains, serve as a great learning opportunity for developing his skills; in discussing various events and shoots, he can pick up little “gems” and trade secrets with talented photographers in the group. StillOut is calling out to all the creative snap-shot minds of Charlotte with an invitation to join in their next monthly meeting on Saturday, Feb. 19 from 11 a.m.-noon. No experience? No problem. StillOut welcomes photographers of all experience, knowledge and interest levels. “One of the great things about the club is the diversity of photographers and skill levels,” says Lari. “We have everything from beginners to seasoned pros. And the thing is, you might be surprised to learn new tricks and techniques from even the newest photographers. So, there is a lot of sharing of ideas.” Blizzard, who was one of the “point-and-shoot beginners” when he began attending, reinforced that claim, explaining that the expertise of other group members helped him tremendously in figuring out the technical tricks of cameras and photo shoots. The club extends maximum accessibility to potential members, accepting all camera types and even arranging carpooling for members who may need transportation. They also hope to hold additional meetings during the week to accommodate anyone interested who may not be able to come on Saturdays. With past field trip events such as trips to the Biltmore House in Asheville, N.C. and coverage of the best Pride Charlotte events, StillOut exudes an appeal exciting enough to attract oldies and newbies alike. Be on the lookout for exciting shoot opportunities coming up this spring, including a photographic exploration of Uptown Charlotte and a night photography session. The group will soon be gearing up for their second
In 2010, this photograph by David Lari, “Quiet Place,” merited Best of Show in an art contest for city, county and library employees Photo Credit: David Lari
annual gallery show held at the center. For more information, visit the StillOut website at stillout. org, become a fan of StillOut on Facebook or call the Lesbian & Gay Community Center of Charlotte at 704-333-0144. The center is located at 820 Hamilton St., Suite B11. : :
Southern culture plays role in gay-led families Census numbers show high number of same-sex families with children in the South by Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.com
“Gay parents find South more accepting,” read a headline in The New York Times last month. Raleigh’s News & Observer was a bit less reserved: “Raleigh No. 3 in gay parents,” they said matter-of-factly. The reports are driven by new data from the American Community Survey, yearly information gathering performed by the U.S. Census Bureau in years when the constitutionally-mandated, decennial census isn’t underway. Extrapolated and crunched by researcher and demographer Gary Gates at the University of California, Los Angeles’ Williams Institute, the numbers show the American Southeast — particularly the Deep South — as home to the largest numbers of same-sex couples raising children under the age of 18. That same data ranked the Raleigh metro area third in a list of metropolitan areas, with 29.5 percent of same-sex couples there raising children. In contrast, San Antonio, Texas, came in first with 33.9 percent, followed by Jacksonville, Fla., with 32.4 percent (Charlotte ranked at 36, tied with Columbus, Ohio, with 18.9 percent). The rankings don’t reflect raw numbers. There are, indeed, a larger number of same-sex couples raising children together in other parts of the country and in other
cities. Proportionally, however, the South is by far home to more gay parents. But, back to that Times headline: Is the South really more accepting? Do gay parents flock here, or are they — like all of us, really — products of their raising, environment and culture? Brett Webb-Mitchell, author of the book “On Being a Gay Parent” and a qnotes contributor with a column by the same name, believes the answer lies with the latter. Webb-Mitchell is a father himself. He had a daughter and a son with his former wife
before the two split 15 years ago. Since then, he’s been partnered and has shared custody of his children with his former wife. His daughter, who has since graduated from college, and teenage son, who still lives at home, alternated weekly between their mother’s and the home Webb-Mitchell shares with his partner, Dean. Webb-Mitchell isn’t a native Southern, though. Originally from Oregon, he moved here in 1985 to pursue his doctorate. In 1993, he returned to take a teaching position at Duke. He’s spent years researching, networking, discussing and delving into the issues faced by gay parents. In all that time, he’s come to believe the South is unique when it comes to family culture and tradition.
Such an environment, no doubt, permeates the upbringing of children both gay and straight. “I think we tend to be attracted to that traditional, 1950s-style idea of what family is,” Webb-Mitchell says. “I think the propensity toward having kids and having two adults raise those kids, that tends to be part of that 1950s mindset.” Webb-Mitchell says that traditional culture took root in the years following the World War II. “We can’t even talk about the ‘nuclear’ family until there is something called ‘nuclear,’” Webb-Mitchell stresses. Southern suburbia and sprawl contributed to the rise of the “nuclear,” mom-plus-dadand-2.5-kids mentality as formerly close-knit, inner-city neighborhood ties gave way and
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A map showing the concentration of same-sex couples raising children under the age of 18. East South Central U.S. (Alabama, Kentucky, Mississippi, Tennessee), West South Central (Arkansas, Louisiana, Oklahoma, Texas) and South Atlantic (Delaware, District of Columbia, Florida, Georgia, Maryland, North Carolina, South Carolina, Virginia, West Virginia). The highest concentration nationally was in the East South Central U.S. with 26.3 percent. West South Central ranked second with 26 percent. The South Atlantic U.S. ranked last at 21.1 percent. Data: American Community Survey, U.S. Census Bureau; Williams Institute. Graphic: M.C.
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out in the stars by charlene lichtenstein :: qnotes contributor
February 5 - 21 Love can be easy. Love can be tough. But any type of love is welcome as Venus makes its move into practical Capricorn. Make your best moves and see if they pay off. Oh, is it that kind of love? AQUARIUS (01.21-02.19) Charitable events and general good, gay deeds pay off in immeasurable ways. It is time to expand your outreach and make an impact in your community. Aqueerians are humanists anyway and now you can expand and deepen your impact on the world. Seek your bliss in any metaphysical way. Rub a crystal ball and see what you see. Ah, talk about bliss! PISCES (02.20-03.20) If you find that friends and other acquaintances want to hang next to you, chalk it up to your innate personal magnetism and enjoy the camaraderie. Of course, you know that this might just be a fleeting phase, so be prepared to put in an extra effort to make the bon temps last. Reach out to new folks. Get involved in new clubs. The social world is your oyster. Seek the pearl. ARIES (03.21-04.20) Your professional environment contains a certain spark now. At least it makes the hum-drum of the office more exciting. But how exciting do you really need your office life to be? Keep your engine humming, but parked, while you navigate the corporate shark infested watercoolers. There be time to take a sip once you see who offers the biggest bonus package. TAURUS (04.21-05.21) There is nothing as exciting as foreign adventure and romance. At least
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it seems so. Queer Bulls should hoof it to some new and exotic clime where they can graze in fresh pastures. And, if you are currently lassoed, consider a trip for two where you can relax and recharge. But, remember to leave all rechargeables outside of the hot tub. GEMINI (05.22-06.21) Pink Twins feel mighty feisty for a change and think that they can schmooze and attract anyone they choose. This is a good feat, if you can accomplish it. But, check yourself in the mirror before you make your next big move. Finesse and diplomacy will take you farther than ingratiating banter. Polish your act and it will shine. Then you will dazzle them. CANCER (06.22-07.23) Face up to those who have made their negative positions known. You have nothing to fear from confronting your critics to see if a peaceful compromise can be reached. And, do it now. Gay Crabs have a gutsy, attractive quality that shows that not only are they honest and no-nonsense, they can also capture one’s respect. Ever thought of entering politics? LEO (07.24-08.23) If you have a list of things to do, prioritize and tackle each task as soon as possible. Proud Lions have scads of energy and bales of oomph that can be put to good use in many ways. If your to-do list is too short, concentrate on exercise or attending to your general health and well being. Meditative or aerobic, be prepared for whatever life has to offer you now, sexy thing. VIRGO (08.24-09.23) The fun has just begun. Be sure that you are ready, willing and able to partake. Queer Virgins feel inspired and creative. Put your visions to work in creating a personal masterpiece or involving yourself in a group artistic effort. You may become noticed and revered. Or, you may become a cultural icon. Or, maybe not. Whatever happens, milk it dry among pals. LIBRA (09.24-10.23) There is nothing quite as comfortable and secure as hanging around the house. Your personal space offers you a refuge from all the hurly-burly outside. Make it as lovely as you can with special touches and scents. Maybe you will decide to do something more domestically dramatic, but consider the impact of houndstooth wallpaper before you get stuck. SCORPIO (10.24-11.22) Get exactly what you want by just asking for it. Frankly, proud Scorps are compelling speakers any day of the week, but now there is something extra special in every word. So, consider what you want to say and what you want and go for it. Later you could be just another voice in the crowd. Today you are a scorpion that roars. SAGITTARIUS (11.23-12.22) Markets go up and markets go down and now you are able to gauge which way is which. Your fiscal instincts are sharp so don’t be dull and threaten to sit this cycle out. Do your homework, ask the right advisor and take a calculated risk. Gay Archers are often fancy free with their money. Now you can act fancy and be generously free flowing. CAPRICORN (12.23-01.20) Pink Caps are not showy types of folks, but you can’t but help but maneuver into center stage and take a bite out of the scenery. Go and strut your hour upon the stage. You deserve it. But don’t make it a flash in the pan. Resolve to do more substantial work that can take your best ideas to the next great step. Simon Says make that a giant step and not a baby step. : : © 2011 Madam Lichtenstein, LLC. All Rights Reserved. Entertainment. info: Visit www.TheStarryEye.com for e-greetings, horoscopes and Pride jewelry. My book “HerScopes: A Guide To Astrology For Lesbians” from Simon & Schuster is available at bookstores and major booksites.
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Fetishism 101 Dearest Trinity, My ex was into the fetish scene and now two years later I am beginning to find it very interesting. Any advice for first timers? Baby’s First Straps, Raleigh, NC Dearest Baby’s First Straps, For many people the word “fetish” itself is dirty and dangerous. So, I won’t lie and say breath control or public flogging doesn’t make me squirmy. But, I will say uniform and facial hair fetishes do keep me smiling. When it comes to newfound activities, some jump in headfirst and some take their time. Either way, sweetie, keep an eye on your addictive nature and remember to have safe boundaries. Also, fetish accoutrements can be very expensive, so be thrifty at first because they may end up in storage when you’ve moved on to fan dancing or political activism! Hello Trinity, For years I’ve met many gay couples that have happy nonmonogamous relationships. Now my new partner insists on monogamy. But, I come from a very different world. If I don’t tell
him the little, not-so-faithful things I do like internet chatting or talking to guys on the street, then am I still a criminal? Crimes Of Passion, LA, CA Hello Crimes Of Passion, It seems like everyone is doing something wrong. Either you’re looking at someone you shouldn’t, having unsafe types of sex you shouldn’t or mixing voyeurism and relationship in a way that you shouldn’t. While laws and rules are set in stone, they are also, at times, made to be cracked and not just by privileged ones. So, darling, no you’re not a criminal as long as you keep changing the rules. (Put your hand on the book, I mean Bible, and swear to tell the truth like I have in my cartoon!) Dear Trinity, I’m a good-looking guy and I don’t like getting drunk, but I have an easier time meeting people if I have a few drinks under my belt. Unfortunately, I often end up drunk. I don’t have a drinking problem as much as I have a problem being sober and friendly. Two Too Many, Montreal, QC Dear Two Too Many, Why can so many gorgeous guys lift their own weight at the gym, but can’t muster up enough courage to start a conversation. Pumpkin, sure have a beer or two, but have a water or soda between drinks so four drinks equal only two with alcohol and you can still meet people without scaring them. In the end start spending more time facing your shyness and fear of rejection and less time getting drunk.
Hey Trinity, It’s been a few weeks since I stopped dating my girlfriend. I ignore her calls and blocked her emails, but I’m afraid I will still see her out. How do I avoid her and having to talk to her? Out Of Sight And Mind, Minneapolis, MN Hey Out Of Sight And Mind, I know it’s easier to avoid someone than face them, but, honey, it’s unkind, unnecessary and inhumane. There’s a popular word called “communication!” It keeps countries connected, businesses thriving and relationships together, as well as ending one in a mature, kind and responsible way. I’m afraid I can’t support your avoidance. But, if you truly have no mouth, then copy and send this letter below. Before sending, circle as many as are applicable. I am not communicating with you anymore because: 1. My heart gets too scared when I’m with you. 2. I don’t believe you care about me or us. (circle one or both) 3. What’s the point? We are from different worlds! 4. The timing is no good for us right now! 5. When I’m with you, I feel like I’m in prison doing time. 6. Who do you think you are? 7. You are a loser. 8. I am not interested in you at all! 9. You’re too old, young, stubborn or drunk for me. (circle one or more) 10. Other ___________________________________________ ___________________________________________________ — With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinity was host of “Spiritually Speaking,” a weekly radio drama, and now performs globally. info: www.telltrinity.com . Trinity@telltrinity.com Tell Trinity, P.O. Box 23861 . Ft. Lauderdale, FL 33307 Sponsored by: Provincetown Business Guild 800-637-8696 . www.ptown.org
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individual family units became the central component of daily life. Though sprawl happened in cities across the country, he says, many older, more traditional ways of living were maintained. “In other places around the country and the world, the understanding of what it means to be a family are a little bit more interesting, a little bit more creative than how we allow ourselves to understand here,” he says, pointing to extended family living arrangements like those in large Northern cities where “family” can often include the entirely-unrelated people living in apartments above, below and next to you. Webb-Mitchell’s theory is captivating. After all, one is hard-pressed to make an argument, as the Times headline did, that the South and especially the highest rank states of Alabama, Kentucky and Mississippi are
actually more welcoming to gays. Other factors might well play significant roles, as well, such as the rate at which Southern LGBTs marry and have children before coming out (a phenomena that occurs across the world, though it might be diminishing as coming out ages plummet). Whatever the cause, the facts are clear: Southern LGBTs are raising families in astonishing numbers. Webb-Mitchell cautions, however, that culture and society have yet to catch up with reality. Media, governments and communities still malign, outcast, tokenize and offer no support for LGBT-led families. “We don’t have enough stories that help us think about what it means to be our kind of family,” he says of mainstream and LGBT media alike. And, even though he’s out to family, friends and community, Webb-Mitchell says
this area’s culture continues to dominate and overshadow his family’s reality. “We’ve been in certain social circumstances when Dean has been introduced as [my children’s] stepfather and the deduction is that he’s related to my former wife, instead of me,” he says. “We still have to operate underneath these world of ideas and notions of what is to be a ‘family.’” Webb-Mitchell hopes such cultural ideas shift in the future. He says it’s incredibly important for LGBT families to speak out, stand up and be visible, even as media and culture continue to cast a cloak of secrecy and otherness around them. “I miss our stories,” he says of gay families. “I just want us to tell our stories.” : : more: Be sure to pick up qnotes’ Feb. 20 print edition for Webb-Mitchell’s next “On Being a Gay Parent” column.
Visitation rights goes into effect STATEWIDE — Effective Jan. 18, hospitals that participate in Medicare and Medicaid across the U.S. can no longer deny LGBT partners equal access to their family members. In a move to ensure the rights of LGBT patients, President Barak Obama issued a statement on April 15, 2010, saying “There are few moments in our lives that call for greater compassion and companionship than when a loved one is admitted to the hospital. In these hours of need and moments of pain and anxiety, all of us would hope to have a hand to hold, a shoulder on which to lean — a loved one to be there for us, as we would be there for them.” His intention was to make sure that hospitals not deny visitation privileges based on factors including sexual orientation or gender identity, reported the Office of Public Engagement.
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Deputy Director Brian Bond said, “This policy impacts millions of LGBT Americans and their families. The President saw an injustice and felt very strongly about correcting this and has spoken about it often over the years.” News 14 in Greensboro reported that Addison Ore, former Equality North Carolina (ENC) board member, said “Sometimes when you’re doing this advocacy work you sort of feel like you’re in the desert and no ones paying attention, no one’s listening. So to have that type of endorsement, it’s so validating and it also encourages us to do more and keep on, even though some of our struggles are more difficult.” ENC was at the forefront in lobbying for patient rights in North Carolina in 2008. : : — compiled by Lainey Millen
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Believe in Youth: Judy Shepard Feb. 20 • Charlotte Campus Pride and Time Out Youth present Judy Shepard, mother of Matthew Shepard and co-founder of the Matthew Shepard Foundation. Shepard will speak and take questions from guests about her experience, the meaning of compassion and human rights and how our world is being transformed. The event is free to students, youth and educators and there is a suggested donation of $15 from others. All money raised will go to support the work of Time Out Youth and Campus Pride. Seating is limited. Heaton Hall, Myers Park Baptist Church, 1900 Queens Rd. 3 p.m.-5 p.m. 704-344-8335. timeoutyouth.org. campuspride.org. Thru March 6 • Chapel Hill ‘Angels in America’ Two-part masterpiece exploring America during the first wave of the AIDS epidemic set against the backdrop of the Reagan era. A thearical feast by one of America’s most visionary playwrights performed by the PlayMakers Repertory Company at the University of North Carolina. Center for Dramatic Art, 150 Country Club Rd. Various times. Various prices. 919-962-7529. playmakersrep.org. Feb. 11 • Charlotte Rededication Temple Beth El rededicates their sanctuary during a special Shabbat service. Join the congregation, elected officials, community members and area religious leaders for this special occasion at one of Charlotte’s many LGBT-friendly religious institutions. Temple Beth El, 5101 Providence Rd. 6:50 p.m. beth-el.com. Feb. 11 • Durham Salacious Launch Event Local writer Kiki DeLovely will read from and sign copies of Salacious, a new queer, feminist, anti-racist, sex-positive art/literary magazine. DeLovely, who has contributed a story titled “Daddi” to the inaugural issue of Salacious, is a queer femme performer/writer who now calls Durham home. Her work has appeared in “Best Lesbian Erotica 2011” and the forthcoming “Gotta Have It” and “Take Me There.” Regulator Bookshop, 720 Ninth St. 7-8:30 p.m. 919-286-2700. regulatorbookshop.com. Feb. 11 • Winston-Salem Demon Drag The Demon Drag Show is an annual fundraiser for AIDS Care Service of WinstonSalem organized by the GSSA at Wake Forest University. Featured: more than seven exciting professional drag performers and a live DJ for
dancing. Benson University Center, Room 401, Wake Forest University, 1834 Wake Forest Rd. 8 p.m. $10/cash. $12/Deacon Dollars. gssa.wfu.edu/demondragshow Feb. 12 • Charlotte Men of Petra’s Finale Petra’s concludes their amateur drag competition where the winner will receive $500 cash. Audience votes will decide the winner. Featuring Ryan Deal as “Dee Dee Luscious,” Tommy Feldman as “Miley Virus,” Allison Fowler as “Ashton Moore,” and Jay Russell as “Vivian Russell.” Also featuring guest judges and special guest performances from Sierra Santana and Barbara Burning Bush. Petra’s Piano Bar and Cabaret, 1919 Commonwealth Ave. 10 p.m. 704-332-6608. petraspainobar.com. Feb. 12 • Charlotte Candy Land Quality Home Care Services presents their “Welcome to Candy Land keeping it safe and sexy” Pre-Valentine’s Day social event. Door prizes, refreshments and a DJ. Event is sponsored by Quality Home Care Services, Inc. and presented by the PowerHouse Project. Learn more on Facebook: PowerHouse Project. Carol Hoefener Center (First Ward Recreation Center), 610 East 7th St. 8 p.m.-midnight. Free. 980-395-0951. qhcsnc.org. Feb. 12 • Winston-Salem ‘Elena Undone’ OUT at the Movies, Winston-Salem presents “Elena Undone,” followed by a Q&A with Nicole Conn and Marina Rice Bader. UNCSA, 1533 S. Main St. 7 p.m. 336-918-0902. outatthemovieswinston.org. Feb. 13 • Winston-Salem ‘Brother Outsider’ OUT at the Movies, Winston-Salem presents “Brother Outsider: The Life of Bayard
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Rustin,” in celebration of Black History Month. a/perture cinema, 311 W. 4th St. Suggested donation of $5 to Equality Winston-Salem or PFLAG Winston-Salem. 8:15 p.m. 336-918-0902. outatthemovieswinston.org. Feb. 15 • Raleigh ENC Day of Action Equality North Carolina hosts their annual Day of Action lobbying day. Come to Raleigh and meet other LGBT community members and activists from across the state, meet with your elected officials and let them know what your needs are. For more information or to register, visit equalitync.org. Feb. 17 • Chapel Hill Power of attorney clinic Lambda Law Students Association and Equality North Carolina invite same-sex couples to a free Healthcare Power of Attorney clinic. The clinic will begin with a “Know Your Rights” presentation, followed by one-on-one assistance from law students in preparing paperwork to ensure your partner can make your health care decisions for you in the event that you are incapacitated. The process will be supervised by a local estate-planning attorney, and refreshments will be served. Please contact Angie Spong at spong@ email.unc.edu to RSVP as soon as possible (space is limited)! UNC School of Law, Van Hecke-Wettach Hall, 160 Ridge Rd. 6:30-8 p.m. studentorgs.law.unc.edu/llsa/poa/. Feb. 19 • Charlotte A Night in Rio The Latin American Coalition presents “A Night in Rio,” a Brazilian carnival experience. Event features traditional dancing, live Samba, Bossa Nova and Brazilian music, food, arts and crafts. The Neighborhood Theatre, 511 E. 36th St. 8 p.m. $15 ($10/advance). latinamericancoalition.org.
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arts. entertainment. news. views. Feb. 26 • Raleigh HRC Gala The Human Rights Campaign hosts their North Carolina Gala at the Raleigh Convention Center. For more information, including ticket prices, accommodations, advertising and sponsorship opportunities, volunteer sign-up or awards nominations, visit hrccarolina.org
On the horizon March 5 • Charlotte Amazing Race Bar Crawl The Regional AIDS Interfaith Network (RAIN) hosts their annual Amazing Race Bar Crawl. Teams compete through a series of bars to complete the race and raise money for RAIN and its services. carolinarain.org. March 22 • Charlotte Creative Showcase Student artists and designers at the Art Institute of Charlotte will exhibit their works for fellow students, faculty, staff and the public. Knight Theatre, Levine Center for the Arts. 7 p.m. artinstitutes.edu/charlotte/. March 25-27 • Charlotte GayCharlotte Film Festival The Lesbian & Gay Community Center of Charlotte hosts its annual GayCharlotte Film Festival. gaycharlotte.com. May 7 • Charlotte AIDS Walk RAIN hosts its annual AIDS Walk. aidswalkcharlotte.org.
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