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Take cues from Shoemaker’s inspirational leadership On Feb. 24, the Rev. Steve Shoemaker, who has spent nearly 14 years as pastor of Myers Park Baptist Church, announced his resignation. (See story on opposite page.) Shoemaker’s presence at Myers Park Baptist and in the larger progressive Christian community in Charlotte will be missed. For years, Shoemaker has been an outspoken and articulate advocate and ally for LGBT people in spheres both secular and religious. Under his leadership, Myers Park Baptist became a welcoming and affirming church for LGBT congregants, leading to the church’s expulsion from the North Carolina Baptist State Convention. In civic spaces, Shoemaker
regularly joined with other inclusive leaders of faith like Temple Beth El’s Rabbi Judy Schindler in supporting such measures as anti-bullying and non-discrimination policies. And, last year, Shoemaker was a strong voice of faith speaking out against the state’s antiLGBT constitutional amendment. All this, on top of his regular duties and obligations as Myers Park Baptist Church’s senior pastor. As a fellow person of faith, and as a Christian and Baptist, I am deeply grateful for Pastor Shoemaker’s selfless service to Charlotte’s faith community and its LGBT people. Shoemaker has often stood at the
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Who’s left to Create Change in the South? [Ed. Note — In our Feb. 15-28 print edition, we published an article exploring the presence of southern organizers and focus on southern activism at the National Gay & Lesbian Task Force’s Creating Change conference in Atlanta in January. Joshua Burford’s commentary below explores a different perspective from the same conference, where he encountered significant absence or lack of understanding for southern and rural organizing and communities.]
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At the end of January I attended the Creating Change conference in Atlanta organized by the National Gay & Lesbian Task Force. This conference is the largest of its kind in the U.S. and brought together 3,300 LGBTQ professionals for four days of sharing ideas about the current state of affairs for the queer community. What I discovered at the conference is that the gap between people working nationally and individuals working in the South is greater than I had feared.
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Everywhere at the conference was the language of inclusion; inclusion of different racial voices, inclusion of the trans community and the constant reassurance that the work being done in New York and D.C. will soon benefit the entire community. And, yet, everywhere I looked there was an absence of southern voices and opinions. Rea Carey, the director of the Task Force, gave a moving speech about the direction our movement is headed. Between the lines of her reassurance about the work being accomplished were examples set in the North. The underlying message was something akin to “once we get all the other queers sorted out, perhaps we can turn some attention to the South.” The utter lack of recognition for southern victories and southern progressive organizing was so stark in her speech that it was almost unbearable to listen to. I can’t decide if the omission of the South comes from a place of ignorance or of blindness to the complexity of queer community experience. I overheard so many
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frontlines of public debate and scrutiny on our issues. His wisdom, intellect and calming reassurances have, no doubt, played a crucial role in moving our community forward in our quest for full equality. Truly, Shoemaker has been a changer of hearts and minds. For that, our community should be ultimately grateful. But, even now, Shoemaker continues to prove he leads with conviction and principle. His decision to let us into his life, at what I can imagine is a personally emotional and trying time, is laudable. We would all do well to follow his lead, pausing from time to time to reflect upon our own well-being. It is so often the case that many leaders in community organizations find themselves devoting great amounts of time and energy to their cause. Such devotion is honorable, but not when it comes at the expense of one’s personal health. Taking time for yourself and spending time with family and friends is paramount. Are you sleeping well? Are you eating well? Are you exercising? Are you taking time
to stop, pause, breathe, relax and reflect? Are you providing yourself a healthy balance between time for work, time for play, time for family and time for friends? I know I would benefit from more sleep, more exercise and a healthier life balance. I bet many of us could. Our collective personal health and well-being lies at the crux of our continued, successful movement for equality. Indeed, it is more important than that event next week, that policy being considered at city council, the fundraiser we have to plan, the board meeting we have to attend. So, take some time. Go on vacation. Start an exercise regimen. Spend a warm day in the park reading a book and reflecting on life. Have some coffee with friends and take time to catch up on all the great happenings in their lives. Our community — the sum total of all the individual, diverse and unique persons we are — benefits from our willingness to put as much stock in our personal well-being as we do the groups we are serving. : :
people from across the country make comments about “racists” in the South and how “sorry” they felt for us having to live here. Is this really okay with us? Are we fine with this because we think it’s true, or because we have no notion of how to address it? There are certainly racist people in the South, but also many other places. We give lip service to the “diversity” of our community, but the stereotype is that functional queer community can only exist in the supposed “liberal” meccas of liberal states. This was typified in a conversation between a lesbian mother and a panelist discussing LGBTQ issues and the law. The audience member asked about a matter related to adoption and the panelist responded with “Well you should go down to your local LGBT community center for help.” The audience member responded with, “I live in Wyoming,” to which the panelist had no response. There used to be places where we could celebrate our unique lives and queer experiences and these places tried very hard to make sure that they were inclusive and rejected the very hierarchies that seek to oppress us. Now, we have replaced the radical with a new hierarchy that raises up “celebrities” whose only claim to this title
exists in their connection to geography. This worship of progressive cities and communities is damaging to the radical changes that our community needs and can facilitate. If people in the South are merely waiting for change to happen in other places, or only have access to a narrative of escape, then we are doomed at our own hand. We must begin to organize ourselves at the local level all over the South. I am firmly convinced that the next big movement for progress will come from the South and we have the potential here in North Carolina to do so. But, the only way that we can do it is to take direct action here in our cities, counties and neighborhoods. We have to stop giving money to national organizations that take but have no plans to reinvest where we live. If the great liberal queer strongholds of the North are so close to winning their fights for equality then let them fund the Human Rights Campaign and the Task Force. We have organizations in Charlotte that are doing amazing work and we need to be supporting them. : : — Joshua Burford is the assistant director for sexual & gender diversity at the University of North Carolina-Charlotte and will be teaching courses in queer history at UNCC beginning in the fall of 2013.
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Amid tears, Myers Park Baptist pastor says farewell Progressive, LGBT-inclusive Steve Shoemaker resigns by Tim Funk :: The Charlotte Observer
The Rev. Steve Shoemaker prepares for his last benediction as pastor of Myers Park Baptist Church. He resigned as senior minister after nearly 14 years. Photo Credit: Diedra Laird/Charlotte Observer.
CHARLOTTE — With tears and applause, hugs and handshakes, Myers Park Baptist Church said goodbye on Sunday, Feb. 24 to a longtime senior minister who announced in mid-February that he needed to walk away from the stresses of pastoring a 2,200-member congregation. The Rev. Steve Shoemaker, who recently sought treatment at a Maryland facility for anxiety and depression, also bid his “beloved community” farewell with a final sermon that cast his resignation and the 70-year-old church’s upcoming search for a new leader as opportunities for each to start a new day. “God is giving to me a new dawn, and God is giving to you, the congregation, a new dawn,” the black-robed Shoemaker said after climbing the stairs to the church’s pulpit one last time. “God is a God of new beginnings.” Shoemaker, who also had admitted “selfmedicating with alcohol,” wants to devote his attention to an intensive 90-day, out-patient recovery program and then pursue a career of teaching and writing. Myers Park Baptist, meanwhile, is expected to launch a search for an interim senior minister, who would serve for a year or two, then commission a second search, for a permanent successor to Shoemaker. As the fifth pastor of one of Charlotte’s most prominent houses of worship, Shoemaker, 64, was lauded and criticized over the years for the church’s liberal stands.
‘We mean the Gospel we preach’ In 2007, Myers Park Baptist — affiliated with the American Baptist Churches USA and the Alliance of Baptists, not the conservative Southern Baptist Convention — got kicked out of the state Baptist Convention for welcoming gays and lesbians. The church has formed partnerships with Temple Beth El and Masjid Ash Shaheed — Jewish and Muslim congregations. And its high-profile roster of outside speakers has included some — retired Episcopal Bishop John Shelby Spong and scholars from the Jesus Seminar – who questioned basic tenets of Christianity. On Sunday, Shoemaker alluded to that reputation for inclusiveness, telling those who filled the 700-seat sanctuary that “if we’re not willing to welcome everybody, everybody, we make a lie out of the Gospel. … This welcome (of gays and lesbians) has been the proof in the pudding that we mean the Gospel we preach.” The service was an emotional hour. Many wiped at eyes that were red from crying, while the Rev. Cheryl Collins Patterson had to stop momentarily after her voice cracked with emotion during a prayer of thanksgiving for Shoemaker’s nearly 14-year tenure. God “has given us a shepherd who has led us in a joyful partnership of the Gospel,” she said. “And … a friend who has (taught) us to seek peace with justice.” There also was laughter.
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BELMONT — The 20th Annual Walk for AIDS will be held on April 13, 9:30 a.m.-12 p.m., to benefit the House of Mercy, 701 Mercy Dr. Organizers are now accepting participants to trek along the three-mile track in the historic downtown area. Those who choose to walk can do so solo or in teams. The first 250 walkers raising $50 or more will receive a free Walk for AIDS T-shirt. Registration will take place at the stone shelter on the Sisters of Mercy campus at 9:30 a.m., with the event following at 10 a.m. Music and a picnic lunch will follow on the House of Mercy grounds. Goal for this year’s fundraiser is $32,000 to support the work of the House of Mercy, a residential facility for low-income men and women living with AIDS. To date, they have provided these services for more than 300 people since its founding in 1991. Additionally, the Walk is seeking corporate sponsors, as well as 50 teams or individuals to raise $500 to support the House’s mission. For those who are unable to participate in the Walk, contributions are being accepted by mail. Send them to House of Mercy, P.O. Box 808, Belmont, NC 28012. Or, contribute online with a credit card. Prizes will be awarded to top individual fundraiser, top team fundraiser and best banner. Those who wish to attend the picnic should RSVP via email to Marjorie Storch at majoriestorch@aol.com or by calling 704-825-411, ext. 3. info: thehouseofmercy.org. — L.M.
Blumenthal slates club events
CHARLOTTE — Blumenthal Performing Arts Center’s Out on the Town LGBT theatre group is stepping out during March. On March 8, enjoy a post-show party in the Belk Theatre mezzanine lobby, 130 N. Tryon St., after the “American Idiot” performance. Club members will be able to enjoy a soirée with the cast and another affinity group, Club Blume. The rock opera musical by Green Day follows in the vein of “Spring Awakening” and “Rent.” Members save $20 on ticket purchase price for the show. On March 14, the group will assemble from 6-7:30 p.m. for a pre-show party for at Ovens Auditorium’s Starlight Lounge, 2700 E. Independence Blvd., prior to “Wicked.” Enjoy complimentary cocktails and food before your trip down the “yellow brick road.” Email your name, email address and address to outonthetown@ncbpac.org to be included on the club list or visit blumenthalarts. org to learn more about Out on the Town. — L.M.
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Bar Crawl is slated for April 6, 12 p.m., and team registration is underway. Day-of-race headquarters will be Brixx Pizza Uptown, 225 E. 6th St. Organize groups of up to five participants who are 21 and older race to raise funds for AIDS Walk Charlotte. The Walk will be held on May 4 from Gateway Village Atrium, 800 W. Trade St. Deadline for registration is March 30 or until all 70 team slots are filled. Teams race to a series of seven bars to complete the race. Challenges at each stop result in one of two scenarios: winners are given two easy clues to the following destination, while losers are given a harder clue. Teams may not drive, but public transportation is allowed. Registration is $150 per team member and may be handled online. For those who prefer to pay by check or cash, download a form and submit monies and team member names by mail. Costs include entry fee, T-shirts for all team members and one beer each for team participants. Awards will be presented to winners in four categories: fastest actual time, fastest game time (including penalties and rewards), best team costume/theme and best team T-shirts. Team captains will receive instructions
WINSTON-SALEM — The Adam Foundation has released the names of its new officers and board. At the helm as president is A.J. DeLaOsa, who has served as a board member for the past three years. Joining him are Larry Boles, vice president; Jesse Duncan, secretary; Kyle Ring, treasurer; and Crystal Simmon, past president. Members-at-large are James Gross, Jayme Helms, Li Hooper, Zach Leonard, Kate Mewhinney, Diane Spaugh, David Swift, Katherine Foster and Mattie Zion. Special liaisons to the Board of Directors include James Armel, Leigh Foster and Jamie Huss. In January the board engaged in an energizing planning retreat, followed in February by work on the annual budget and strategy. This month, they will host their first new event for 2013 at the Reynolda House, 2250 Reynolda Rd., on March 7 from 4:30-8 p.m. This drop-by features a celebration of “Artistic Freedom” from the glamorous years of music, film and theatre. Enjoy photography exhibits and Cole Porter music, with performances by students and faculty from the Wake Forest University Department of Music and the Department of Theatre and Dance. The university’s Interdisciplinary Performance and Liberal Arts Center serve as sponsors. Adam hopes that the community will rally around this new community partner and attend the event. Light refreshments and a cash bar will be available. Special ticket prices of $10 are available for foundation supporters and attendees and must be reserved prior to the reception, either through the foundation. This includes admission and a drink coupon. For those who do not make reservations, the cost will be $5 admission. Visit adamfoundation.org/contact to make reservations. Tickets will be available for pickup at check in. — L.M.
Triangle Date auction approaches
RALEIGH — Theatre in the Park, 107 Pullen Rd., will present its “Going Once, Going Twice” fashion show and date auction on March 2, 6:30 p.m., to benefit Crape Myrtle Festival. Participants are invited to bid on Raleigh’s most eligible bachelors and bachelorettes while enjoying cocktails and mingling and “kiki-ing with the most fierce in the Triangle,” promoters said. The highest bidders win a date and prize package. Tunes will be spun by DJ Robert. A $10 contribution is requested at the door. info: crapemyrtlefest.org
Youth group fundraiser planned
DURHAM — A dance party to benefit iNSIDEoUT will be held at The Bar, 711 Rigsbee Ave., on March 9 at 9 p.m. This adult fundraising event welcomes
adult allies and LGBT community members as they enjoy cash prizes, raffles, spinning by DJ Kingpin and drink specials while supporting the youth organization. Monies raised will go toward expanding efforts for providing a safe space for all youth to form life-long friendships, create and take on projects and develop leadership skills. Contributions also help fund a queer prom and “Backwords,” the group’s literary ‘zine. One must be 18 to enter and 21 to consume alcohol. Cost is $5. info: insideout180.org . thebardurham.com — L.M.
Packing party for ENC
RALEIGH — Equality North Carolina (ENC) is getting set to move to new space and are searching for volunteers to help pack up their supplies at 126 E. Hargett St. on March 11, 12-8 p.m. No heavy lifting is required. Box packing and labeling will be beneficial for the movers, as well as the staff as they begin to settle into their new digs. In other news, ENC will hold a volunteer night on March 5, 6-8:45 p.m., at their offices. They will discuss ways to engage communities and call upon potential supporters. Participants will be engaged in extensive training during the bulk of the session and is relevant to new and season activists. To participate in one or both of these events, email ben@equalitync.org. ENC then skips over to Hickory on March 12, 6:30-8 p.m., for a town hall at the Hickory Furniture Mart, 2220 U.S. Hwy. 70 S.E. Attendees should use the South Entrance for access ease to the Taste Full Beans coffee bar. info: equalitync.org — L.M.
Authors share novels
RALEIGH — The LGBT Center of Raleigh, 411 Hillsborough St., will welcome authors D. Jackson Leigh and Rebecca Swartz on March 23, 2-4 p.m., for readings from their current works. Leigh will share an excerpt from “Every Second Counts,” as well as her perspective on the art of writing romance stories. She has penned six lesbian novels thus far. Swartz brings her voice to “Everything Pales in Comparison,” her freshman novel. It was presented with an Alice B. Readers Certificate, done so for those who have an “outstanding maiden novel.” Copies of all books will be available for purchase at the meet the author event. info: lgbtcenterofraleigh.com — L.M.
National/Global Study reveals LGBT percentages
LOS ANGELES — The percentage of adults in the U.S. who identify as LGBT ranges from 1.7 percent in North Dakota to 5.1 percent in Hawaii and 10 percent in the District of Columbia, according to findings from a new study released by Williams Institute Distinguished Scholar Gary J. Gates and Gallup Editor-in-Chief Frank Newport. The study is the largest population-based survey ever conducted that includes measurement of
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goqnotes.com/to/news LGBT identification. Most states are within 2 percentage points of the nationwide average of 3.5 percent. Gates said of the study, “These new first-of-their-kind estimates of the percentage of adults who self-identify as LGBT in all 50 states and the District of Columbia constitute a significant advancement in our understanding of the LGBT population.” With the exception of South Dakota, each of the states with populations 4 percent and over has laws prohibiting discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity. These states have also taken steps toward more LGBT equality by recognizing same-sex marriages, civil unions or domestic partnerships. Iowa is the only state among those with the lowest LGBT populations to extend similar rights. In fact, six of the 10 states with the lowest LGBT populations are among the most conservative states in the country. — D.S.
Prom night is for gays, too
BENTON, Mo. — Administrators at Scott County Central High School in Missouri backed down and changed an outdated school policy which will allow gay student Stacy Dawson to take his boyfriend to the senior prom. The Southern Poverty Law Center threatened legal action after Dawson was told by the school that the student handbook bars students from taking dates of the same sex to the prom. To avoid a legal battle the school modified the handbook.
According to media reports, Dawson said prom is “an important milestone in high school, and I would be devastated if I’m not allowed to attend prom with my boyfriend.” He added, “It isn’t fair that a school can randomly disregard students’ rights because it doesn’t agree with who you want to take to prom.” The case of anti-LGBT discrimination followed another story in Indiana, where a small group of students and community members worked to ban gay and lesbian students from attending the Sullivan High School prom. In that case, school officials did the right thing, saying the prom is open to all students and nobody will be excluded. — D.S.
Senators push prez for exec. order
WASHINGTON, D.C. — Thirty-seven U.S. senators, led by Sen. Jeff Merkley, sent a letter to President Barack Obama urging him to issue an executive order barring federal contractors from employment discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation or gender identity. Because of a lack of federal protections, it remains legal to fire or refuse to hire someone based on his or her sexual orientation in 29 states and to base those same employment decisions on someone’s gender identity in 34 states. Federal contractors employ more than 20 percent of the American workforce and earn around $500 billion from federal taxpayers every year. According to the Williams Institute at the UCLA School of Law, prohibiting anti-
LGBT employment discrimination by federal contractors would extend equal workplace rights to more than 16 million workers and would help ensure that they are not forced into the ranks of the unemployed based solely on their sexual orientation or gender identity. “It’s outrageous that in the year 2013, it is still legal to fire someone based on who they love,” said Merkley. “The President can protect millions of workers from unfair discrimination with the stroke of a pen.” — D.S.
L.A. urged to cut sister city ties
LOS ANGELES, Calif. — The ACLU of Southern California and the L.A. Gay & Lesbian Center are urging Los Angeles city leaders to sever sister city ties with St. Petersburg, Russia, following passage there of increasingly repressive laws against the LGBT community. The organizations made the request Feb. 13 to Los Angeles city councilmembers in a letter which also asked them to re-evaluate relationships with other anti-LGBT cities, such as Lusaka, Zambia. In response, Councilmember Bill Rosendahl later introduced a resolution to suspend the relationship. The city of St. Petersburg passed an ordinance in March, 2012 banning “public action aimed at propagandizing sodomy, lesbianism, bisexualism, and transgenderism among minors.” Police have arrested dozens of people under the law since its passage. “The passage of this resolution will send a strong message that the City will not toler-
ate discrimination against our LGBT brothers and sisters in a sister city relationship,” said Rosendahl, the only openly gay elected official in city government. “We must stand together and continue to fight for our basic civil and human rights for all human beings on this earth.” — D.S.
Intersex surgeries as torture
GENEVA, Switzerland — On Feb. 18, the United Nations Special Rapporteur on Torture (SRT) released a statement condemning the medical profession’s non-consensual treatment of intersexuality — which surfaces as “ambiguous” external genitalia, sexual organs and/or as sex chromosomes that deviate from normative expectations. While the condition rarely poses a health threat, the medical profession continues to perform irreversible surgeries on babies and young children to “normalize” genitalia under the guise that these procedures will prevent a lifetime of shame. However, there is ample evidence that these surgeries harm more than they help individuals with intersex traits. This is also why these medical practices were challenged under the purview of the SRT, who is responsible for investigating and reporting to the UN on questions of human torture. The SRT invited Advocates for Informed Choice, a leader in the fight for intersex rights, to testify on the medical treatment of intersex people. The hearings resulted in the SRT’s formal stance against such medical practices. — D.S.
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New city manager will face challenges, opportunities for growth Retired City Manager Curt Walton led on LGBT inclusion, capital investment by Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.com
CHARLOTTE — A forthcoming transition in city leadership could change the way LGBT people and a host of other progressive issues are represented in the city. At press time, initial reports by The Charlotte Observer indicated that City Council has chosen former Arlington, Va., County Manager Ron Carlee to replace Curt Walton, who served as city manager since 2007 and was instrumental in the addition of LGBT employee protections, domestic partner benefits and the formation of the city’s Capital Improvement Plan. [Ed. Note – Stay tuned to goqnotes.com for updates on the new city hire, expected to be announced on March 6.] Walton, who worked for the city in various positions since 1986, sat down with qnotes during his last days in the city manager’s office shortly before his retirement in December. In his time working for the city, Walton has seen Charlotte’s business community, culture and diversity grow and change in amazing ways. “When I came here in 1986, Charlotte was so corporate,” he said. “There were good sides to that and bad sides to that. We had major presence of major corporations and we had a high income base and high property base. On the downside, there wasn’t a lot of diversity to that, particularly back then.” Center City, Walton said, has changed drastically. “When I came in 1986, at 5:01 [p.m.], it was literally dead,” Walton said of Uptown. “You couldn’t find anyone on the sidewalks. I think the [Time Warner Cable Arena] was the catalyst. Now, downtown is transformed. There’s people there probably 20 hours a day and out in force.” The city’s population changed, too, jumping from nearly 396,000 in 1990 to more than 540,000 in 2000. The latest 2011 estimates from the U.S. Census Bureau places the city at 751,087. As the city grew, so did its major corporations. “Particularly in the 1980s and through the 1990s, civic engagement from the business
community was much greater than it is now,” Walton said, citing the role of Bank of America’s Hugh McColl and First Union’s Ed Crutchfield. But, those same corporate icons have changed. Bank of America, the former N.C. National Bank, is now headed by a CEO lacking a strong, personal connection to Charlotte. The former First Union and Wachovia is now owned by the San Francisco-based Wells Fargo. “Because of the globalization of banking and energy, they are engaged…but it’s not really Charlotte-centric,” Walton said. ”That has changed how the civic agenda is developed and implemented and it puts more responsibility on elected officials, city council persons and their staffs. Instead of McColl looking out his window and saying something or another needs to go on that surface lot, that’s not what’s happening anymore. We have to figure it out ourselves.” The changed business climate is just one of many new realities a new city manager will have to face. Whether it will be Carlee or one of the other two finalists — current Deputy City Manager Ron Kimble or current Assistant City Manager Ruffin Hall — the new city manager will have to build on Walton’s work on a capital improvement program and continued efforts toward inclusion. Folks like the mayor or representatives on the city council usually get the most public attention for their work in the city. But, behind the scenes, the city manager works to keep city operations running smoothly in an organization that employs nearly 7,000 people, from sanitation workers and engineers to police and fire. “My clearest responsibility is managing the workforce,” Walton said. “We’ve got nearly 7,000 employees. Ultimately, it’s what is best for the workforce.” Walton was essential in moving local LGBT equality initiatives forward. In 2010, he added sexual orientation to his human resources department’s non-discrimination policy. In 2012, he added domestic partner benefits to
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his budget. And, right as he was set to leave his post, Walton added employment protections for transgender city workers. Walton said his efforts to increase inclusive employment protections and benefits were helped by the support of police and fire. He also had the support of the mayor and council, though the elected body has not voted on a single LGBT-inclusive policy or ordinance since it defeated an inclusive public accommodations proposal in 1992. “Those are city manager decisions, but implicitly the mayor and council agree, because I can do it because I had the authority,” he said. “Even though they didn’t raise their hands for it, they support it or they would have taken that authority away from me.” Culturally and politically, the city has changed, Walton said. When domestic partner benefits were first discussed in 2005, he said city leadership received negative feedback from employees. “But the world has changed a lot since 2005,” he said. “I don’t think I got any pushback, nothing negative on any of the issues, adding sexual orientation, gender identity or domestic partner benefits.” The new city manager will have to pick up where Walton left off. Several important LGBT inclusion initiatives are still left on the table, like amendments to the city’s Commercial Non-Discrimination Ordinance and better inclusion on city boards and commissions. Walton’s replacement will also have to lead on other progressive, forward-looking issues championed by Walton, like the Capital Improvement Plan. Proposed by last year, the plan seeks to invest much-needed infrastructure and development funding in areas of the city often neglected and in need of economic development. The plan was considered last summer, but ultimately voted down in a surprise move by City Council — a move that frustrated Walton. He said his staff strove to take risks and innovate at the city leaders’ instructions. “We went through four months of very
active discussion of the Capital Plan and there was never any oppositions expressed or never really any concern expressed until the night of adoption,” Walton said. “That was frustrating because we had given so many opportunities to raise concerns and raise questions and there weren’t any.” Walton said the Capital Improvement Plan is desperately needed and foresees that it will be passed. The new city manager, however, will have to keep elected officials’ eyes on the ball. Taking too long to enact the plan, discussion of which was again postponed in December, will hurt the city’s growth, Walton said. “I think it could be as long as 18 months. That’s the outside window of what I think is acceptable,” he said. “As long as they do something by June of 2014, they are still in the window, but they are sitting on the ledge at that point. We have to have a capital program to voters in 2013 or 2014 or I do think we are at risk.” In other progressive arenas, Walton is confident the city will continue to grow and change. “Charlotte has its corporate DNA down good, but Charlotte needs to deliberately be focusing on diversifying,” Walton said, pointing to the positive effects on community growth that comes from inclusion. “I think for us, one of our core missions is to be a platform for economic development. We’ve kind of grown out of the phase of the ‘Creative Class,’ Richard Florida’s work that was really popular. I don’t hear that discussed all that much anymore, but I think the principle still applies.” The question, and resulting answer, for the city and its new city manager is simple, Walton said: “I think [progress and inclusion] will continue. I don’t think we have any choice. If the city is going to mirror community, it will have to mirror all parts of the community. I think we will do that.” : : more: Head to goqnotes.com/walton for more conversation from Curt Walton’s December interview with qnotes, including his thoughts on the history behind LGBT-inclusive policy changes and more.
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Southern spring style, with a twist Spinning traditional southern fashion into new urban styles by Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.com
There’s a certain large retail department store based in Charlotte that claims it is “Modern Southern Style.” Plenty of folks in the Queen City and across the South spent many a shopping trips there, but there are new kids in town offering up new twists on southern classics and fresh, modern fashions for the new urbanite. Silverfly, opened by Fidel Montoya last November, sits in the posh Metropolitan in Midtown. Small in square footage, the store makes up for it with the kind of service Patrick, the friendly and handsome employee qnotes spoke with, says folks won’t find at the larger department stores. “Here, you aren’t a customer,” he says. “You are a client.” Montoya, who didn’t have much retail experience before opening his store, says he saw a gap in the market that needed to be filled. “Charlotte has some great women’s boutiques, but does not offer a great selection for men,” he says. “I wanted to bring lines not offered anyhwere in Charlotte.”
He says his store has styles for “the intentional dresser, the comfort dresser and choices to push the envelope and get noticed.” Montoya, Patrick and trendy marketing guru Rachel Sutherland helped qnotes put together three stylish outfits perfect for your social calendar this spring. You’ll notice some local brands in the mix, like Raleigh Denim and The J.Hamilton Collection. Silverfly also carries an assortment of other Carolina-made clothing. “I feel it is important to support North Carolina designers, manufacturers and small business,” says Montoya. “I will always try to bring in the qualitymade local items. This month, I am bringing in Enemy 2 Fashion bags designed and partly manufactured in NoDa. Later in the spring, I am bringing Old Mason Jar button-ups, also designed in the Charlotte area.” If you’re looking for modern, southern style, you might find it at a department store. But, one thing’s for sure — you’ll definitely find it at Silverfly. Take a look at the styles below and learn more at silverflybrands.com.
Military Chic 5 The fashion experts at Silverfly say this spring’s style trends will be inspired by the rugged. So, naturally, military-inspired looks drawing on darker colors like greens, blues and grays will be in, as will ruggedin-design acoutrements like boots, belts and bags. This “Military Chic” style is great for more casual settings, running errands, lunches with friends and more. Yet, it’s still just polished enough to make it appropriate for casual Fridays at work. Start off with Raleigh Denim jeans and add in this shirt ($79) and jacket ($475) from 7 Diamonds. A messenger bag ($85, inset) from Alternative Apparel and boots ($147) from Caterpillar (yes, the some folks who make the big-boy toys like tractors, backhoes and frontloaders) rounds out the look.
Party Fresh 4 5 Modern Prep It’s almost springtime and Easter is just around the corner. You know what that means: Seersucker season is back! But, you can modernize that stuffy, southern look that is nearly ubiquitous in places like Savannah and Charleston with a bit of urban, eclectic flair. Take this ensemble, for example, which mixes complementary textures and colors and a tighter, more fitted form for what Silverfly calls “Modern Prep” perfect for work, brunch and other not-so-formal events where a touch of class is still a must. Traditional southern fashion makes an appearance with this long-sleeve, button-up seersucker shirt from Vince ($185) and a locally-crafted, honest-to-God bowtie (none of that clip-on stuff!) from The J.Hamilton Collection ($45-$60). Blue jeans from the North Carolina-based Raleigh Denim ($285) give a casual flare to the outfit while this blue jacket from Vince ($185) provides the “business” in “business casual.” Top it off with pocket square from J.Hamilton ($40).
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Light up the club during your night on the town with these fresh and bright colors. Start your base with Raleigh Denim jeans, a striped shirt from Ben Sherman’s Plectrum ($75) and attention-grabbing shoes from Civic Duty ($59). Complete the party-hoppin’ costume with this unique sweater from Electric Mvmt ($90). Along the zipper edges and hoodie, orange LED lights will keep you glowing in the dark club, thereby ensuring all the cute guys see you all night long.
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Charlotte Business Guild Monthly Social Celebrate March Madness and CIAA at Charlotte’s newest hot, lesbian/gay bar The Blue Bar, 2906 Central Ave. in Plaza Midwood Wednesday, March 13 | New time! 6 pm Charlotte Business Guild Monthly Dinner Greek Night! Dinner provided by The Roaming Fork. Date: Tuesday, March 19 Time: New Time! Cocktails 6 pm/Program 7 pm Place: The Bar at 316, 316 Rensselaer Ave. in Dilworth/South End
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Playing the field Match-ups from across the Carolinas: Seasons get off to wintery start, but ready for spring by Jon Hoppel :: qnotes contributor
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Charlotte Royals vs. Table Rock. (l-r) Arthur Milne, JT Wentz, Garrett Jordan, BJ Smith
Hey everybody! Hope everyone is enjoying the new year so far. Spring is just around the corner and a lot of the area’s sports teams will be getting into full swing soon. So, get out there, get active and cheer for the Queen City’s best! Rugby The Charlotte Royals started their season Feb. 16 against Table Rock Rugby Club in Morganton, N.C. It was not the most ideal conditions considering it was the first snowfall of the year and the temperatures did not get much higher than 30 degrees. But, both teams were eager to get their seasons started despite the weather. Table Rock scored first early in the match off a long winding run from their team’s fullback. Charlotte answered quickly though, with a drop kick from flyhalf Danny Wadsworth, making the score 5-3. Halfway through the first half, Table Rock was able to score again by capitalizing on several missed tackles by the Royals. But, again, the Royals were able to counter quickly with an interception and score by inside centerback, Jon Hoppel, closing the gap back down to 10-8. Unfortunately, that is the closest the Royals would get that day; they were unable to score the rest of the match, while Table Rock had no such trouble. Snow caused the match to be shortened in the second half and the final score was 47-8. Earning man of the match honors for the Royals was flanker, Garrett Jordan, who made several strong tackles throughout the game. Charlotte next takes on the visiting Atlanta Bucks on March 9, whom they tied 10-10 last year at the Ruck-a-Buck tournament in Atlanta.
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Softball Also on the weekend of Feb. 16, Tampa, Fla., hosted the Gasparilla Softball Classic. The tournament brought in over 60 teams from all over the U.S. to compete in Florida’s largest gay softball tournament. Our sports news team members were unable to attend the event, but we do have the results! C Division 1st: Tampa Beefs 2nd: New Orleans Master Batters 3rd: Fort Lauderdale Bills Blue Crush D Division 1st: Tampa Ducks 2nd: Tampa Panthers 3rd: Madison Big Cheese Running If you are looking for a group that likes to get exercise, but are not really into the whole competitiveness of contact sports, then check out Charlotte’s Front Runners. They are a walking/running club serving
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20 Questions Dale Pierce, Charlotte by David Stout :: david@goqnotes.com
Dale Pierce is a local HIV advocate and President/CEO of Different Roads Home, a new organization created to assist people living with HIV/AIDS and other chronic illnesses. A native of Falconer, N.Y., he has worn many professional hats over the years, working in a diversity of fields that includes retail management, acting, directing and a cleaning business. Since settling in Charlotte, Dale has made his greatest mark to date as practice manager at Rosedale Infectious Diseases. His work there earned him the 2012 Athena Health Vision Award. He says his struggles and accomplishments have culminated in the creation of Different Roads Home. Who’s more likely on the downlow: Foghorn Leghorn, Papa Smurf or Pepé Le Pew?
Although I think there was some unspoken chemistry between Neil Patrick Harris and Papa in the recent Smurf movie, I would have to say Foghorn Leghorn did throw out the word “chicken hawk” a lot… Boxers, briefs, boxer-briefs or commando? Personally or professionally…lol. I sleep in boxers, but for work or on the town I love American Eagle boxer-briefs! What is your favorite food that you prepare in a microwave? I am all about a microwave. My favorite microwave “experiment” is to explode Marshmallow Peeps, you can’t eat them, but it is entertaining to watch. Do you consider yourself hot-natured or cold-natured? Oddly enough, being from Western New York, very close to Lake Erie growing up, I am extremely hot-natured. We keep our thermostat on 67 even in the winter. How do these films rank based on the number
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of times you’ve seen them: “Beverly Hills Cop,” “Liar Liar,” “Mrs. Doubtfire,” “There’s Something About Mary”? First would be “Beverly Hills Cop,” then “Mrs. Doubtfire,” “Liar Liar” and “There’s Something about Mary” the least. Is there a ball for playing any type of sport in your home right now? The only balls in the house (with the obvious exceptions) are used to play with our amazing dog Desi Who, in their prime, was the sexiest teen heartthrob ever? Hands down, Antonio Sabato Jr. for me! I am still addicted to General Hospital and have you seen this guy lately? Have you ever shopped at a Piggly Wiggly? I lived in Columbia, S.C., after college and there was one right around every corner. I still have the T-shirt.
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the LGBT community of Greater Charlotte. They meet twice a week, on Monday evenings and Saturday mornings. If you are interested in finding out more information on this club, check out their website at charlottefrontrunners.com/ Charlotte_Front_Runners/Home.html. Roller Derby As promised, we now have your Charlotte Roller Girls 2013 schedule! It’s a long season, running from March to October, which means you will have plenty of opportunities to check them out at their home rink, the Grady Cole Center. Bout Schedule: CLTRG = Charlotte Roller Girls H = Home Match March 2 CLTRG vs. Gate City Roller Girls March 23 CLTRG All-Stars vs. Cape Fear (H)
April 6 B-Dazzlers vs. Five 40 (H) April 20 CLTRG All-Stars vs. Big Easy Rollergirls April 27 CLTRG All-Stars vs. Palmetto State Roller Girls May 11 CLTRG vs. Garden State Roller Girls May 18 Double Header CLTRG All-Stars/ B-Dazzlers vs. Charlottesville Derby Dames (H) June 8 CLTRG vs. New River Valley Roller Girls June 23 Double Header CLTRG All-Stars vs. Soul City (Augusta, GA)/ B-Dazzlers vs. Kannapolis (H) July 21 CLTRG All-Stars vs. Chemical Valley (H)
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Aug. 10 CLTRG All-Stars vs. Pacific Roller Derby Aug. 24 Double Header CLTRG All-Stars vs. Gate City (Greensboro) B-Dazzlers vs. Classic City (H) Sept. 7 B-Dazzlers vs. Star City Roller Girls Sept. 28 CLTRG All-Stars vs. Appalachian (H) Oct. 19 CLTRG vs. Gainesville Roller Rebels Oct. 20 CLTRG All-Stars vs. Palm City Punishers Oct. 26 CLTRG B-Dazzlers vs. Camel City Thrashers For more information on getting involved with the Roller Girls, check out their website at charlotterollergirls.com. : :
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HRC Gala attracts 1,100 Patinkin and Newell captivate audience by Lainey Millen :: lainey@goqnotes.com
CHARLOTTE — On Feb. 23, over 1,100 LGBT and ally community members, dressed in their finest attire, showed their support by attending the 18th annual Human Rights Campaign Carolina Gala at the Charlotte Convention Center. Once the dinner began, co-chairs Ann Hooper, Zuni Johnson, Jason McCraw and Connie Vetter welcomed everyone from a square raised stage in the center of the room. It was from there that the evenings festivities evolved. Mecklenburg County Board of Commissioners Chair Pat Cotham and Charlotte City Councilwoman LaWana Mayfield served as governmental representatives. Cotham said that with everything that is being done, “we will win the fight” for equality. Mayfield read Mayor Anthony Foxx’s proclamation. Recognition was given to the gala’s sponsors, both from a national and local level. In fact, Jay Biles, who served on the dinner committee, said that there were more HRC corporate sponsors in North Carolina than anywhere else in the U.S. with the exception of New York.
Joni Madison, who was a former gala co-chair and now sits on HRC’s board of directors, introduced HRC Executive Director Chad Griffin. He said that the Democratic National Convention, held in Charlotte in September 2012, was the most pro-LGBT applauding convention in history. He realized that North Carolina has had to rededicate itself to the fight for equality in the wake of passage of Amendment One in May of 2012, that people were simply dusting themselves off and continuing the fight. Even with the loss in the pro-LGBT camp, the energy that was created helped to win landslide victories across the country. And, in January, for the first time, the voice of the LGBT front was found on the steps of the U.S. Capitol when President Barack Obama included mention of the community in his inaugural address. Griffin completed his remarks by saying that “we have to seize” this opportunity to obtain full equality, equal justice for all and to make “our dreams a reality.” The awards presentations followed with Executive Director Rev. Jasmine BeachFerrara accepting the HRC North Carolina Equality Award for the Campaign for Southern
Equality. Amos McClorey, Cabarrus County NAACP president, was on hand to pick up the HRC North Carolina Legacy Award for Rev. Dr. William Barber. Actor Mandy Patinkin (who stars in the Showtime series “Homeland” which is shot in Charlotte and the region) took center stage when he was presented with the HRC Ally for Equality Award. After receiving the award he said that he was moved to be a part of “this community.” He added that LGBT human rights is a family issue and that “we are all equal partners in the family [of citizens].” He also said that for those who discriminated against the LGBT community that [we] “must disabuse them with the knowledge that we are right.” During his presentation, he cited the works of President Abraham Lincoln, composer Steven Sondheim and others while doing so in song. Patinkin’s wife, actress/writer Kathryn Grody, joined him onstage. The pièce de résistance came with him singing “Somewhere Over the Rainbow” with everyone in attendance joining him while standing, finishing with “why, oh, why can’t we?”
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And, the music did not stop there. Alex Newell, who plays Unique from FOX’s “Glee,” had a lion’s share of attendees crowding around the stage, dancing and singing along, as the evening’s festivities were brought to a close. : :
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out in the stars by Charlene Lichtenstein :: qnotes contributor
March 1 - 14 Retrograde Saturn trines retrograde Mercury and provides unintended consequences for any wistful day dream or idle thought. But, that doesn’t mean that you can’t be creative. It just means that your words pack an unexpected punch, so be creative…quietly. PISCES (02.20-03.20) Guppies make their big move where they showcase their amazing ideas to a wider audience. Be sure that you start out on the right foot as you meet new, important people. Have your elevator pitch well rehearsed. Preparation is everything — less than flattering first impressions have lasting impact. But, we won’t even consider that as a possibility! ARIES (03.21-04.20) Let your intuition goad you into some crazy, but genial action. You can ignite a smoldering romance, overcome a hidden enemy or dump some of your psychological baggage. Things are not what they appear to be. Remain contemplative and true to your own heart. Taking off on tangents could lead you to mischief. Hey, but isn’t that what life is all about, gay Ram? TAURUS (04.21-5.21) Friends may provide queer Bulls with some embarrassing, but memorable moments. The root cause of this platonic snafu may involve some of your past relationships. Skeletons come out of the closet in more ways than one! Enjoy the surprises, maneuver around the embarrassments and forgive friends their well-intentioned foibles. It is all in good fun. Err, isn’t it? GEMINI (05.22-06.21) Corporate mandates may chafe at your pinstripped collar. Before you get a rash, delegate all immediate tasks to understanding co-workers, make an excuse to leave work early and step out of the stress. Try to let off some steam at the gym. Don’t quit. Just escape. Pink Twins are not the best revolutionaries. The food is awful and the living accommodations are even worse! CANCER (06.22-07.23) Gay Crabs are tempted to go off on a spree, but hold your horses until the near future. The intoxicating aroma of faraway adventure may include some unanticipated surprises that are too much trouble. Why not arrange your travel schedule so you can spend quality time in one familiar place with a select group of favorite people? Embark on a worldwide fresserfest later. LEO (07.24-08.23) If you wear your heart on your sleeve, you may drip on your best shirt. So, show your emotions through actions and strive to be the strong silent type. Proud Lions pile a lot on their plates. Now, put more effort into implementing specific personal goals rather than spreading yourself too thin with time wasters. Can you ever be too thin? Oh, yes, but never too rich.
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VIRGO (08.24-09.23) Lovers find creative ways to pour cold water on your hot time. They are just being protective. You are advised to not take on too many things at once or try to wedge in too many raucous events at the same time. Sensory overload is possible and you will be spent before you can buy. Fried and dried Virgos should never be on the party menu. LIBRA (09.24-10.23) The day-to-day job is bound to stress you. Maybe you think you are on the wrong track or maybe you feel that bosses don’t appreciate you. These blues will pass, proud Libra. In the meantime, stick to your knitting and don’t drop a stitch. Also, pay attention to any nagging minor ailments now. A check-up can’t hurt, especially with a body probe. SCORPIO (10.24-11.22) Not only do good times cost more than expected currently, but the entire concept of “fun” is, well, not particularly fun. Chalk it up to a temporary lull and use this time to plow ahead on professional projects, proud Scorp. There is plenty of time later to plug into the gay party hearty circuit where you can increase your voltage and watch the sparks! SAGITTARIUS (11.23-12.22) You may think that home is sweet home but right now, home is not quite the refuge it usually is. Something may be out of place. Or, you may be tempted to beat off the uninvited guests with a broomstick. Why not just let the good times unfold in any way they will? Gay Archers are liable to spill the beans on some dark secret. Welcome the burst of fresh air! CAPRICORN (12.23-01.20) Foot-in-mouth disease strikes any pink Cap with a relationship issue. You are tempted to say what’s on your mind without regard to the nuclear fallout. But, instead of upsetting the applecart, why not wait until there is a more opportune time to push for change? Partners just want a little cuddle. Don’t storm the barricades; you will only stub your toe. AQUARIUS (01.21-02.19) If you hanker for a raise or more professional recognition, this may be the time to act more than ask. Any lack of corporate enthusiasm should not get you down. They may be pre-occupied. Continue doing what you are doing and become your own cheering section. Actions not only speak louder and prouder than words now, they also bring about change. : : © 2013 Madam Lichtenstein, LLC. All Rights Reserved. Entertainment. info: Visit TheStarryEye.com for e-greetings, horoscopes and Pride jewelry. My book “HerScopes: A Guide To Astrology For Lesbians” from Simon & Schuster is available at bookstores and major booksites.
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Getting out of getting caught Hello Trinity, I got caught shoplifting and after promising to never go in their store again they still want to press charges. How do I get them to drop the charges? Shoplifters Troubles, Houston, TX Hello Shoplifters Troubles, Just remember, if you don’t pay in civil court, you’ll eventually pay in karma court. So, cut it out. Now, to get out of this mess, first, send flowers with a card requesting to be forgiven, second, send a food platter to their store with
a card and third, ask the owner if you can do work in exchange for dropping the charges. Be persistent and humble! Pumpkin, you may have to blow some money, but maybe, just maybe, they’ll give you a second chance. And, if not, pay your fine, do your time and move on from this crime. I have and look at me! Hey Trinity, A few weeks back you did a top ten tips on how to know if you’re in love or lust. Do you really, honesty think there’s a big difference? Love or Lust, Portland, OR Hey Love or Lust, After I wrote that column I went for a long walk and noticed all the gorgeous-looking men in my hometown of Wilton Manors, Fla. What I’m rediscovering is that falling in lust often means falling in love, but love doesn’t always mean falling in lust. Thus, I think the similarities may be personal to each of us. So, darling, if you fall in love and think it’s lust or fall in lust and think it’s love, in the end don’t worry. It’s all just one big romantic fairytale! (I checked it out across a host of guys to figure it out. See how when you look at my cartoon.) Dear Trinity, I’m a drag queen and I’m not able to get my
wigs to keep their shape for more than a few wearings, no matter how much hair spray I use. What should I do? Wig Woes, Montreal, QC Dear Wig Woes, Using a lacquer spray instead of a hair spray can turn an unmanageable wig in an army helmet. Once sprayed with lacquer, it ‘s set for months or years. Also, sweetie, it will never be restyle-able, so buy a cheap wig. This product is available at art supply, hardware and Army warfare stores. Drag on! Dearest Trinity, I’ve been going out with someone for quite a while and that person is thinking of moving in with me. I’m totally confused. Help! Live In Lover, Atlanta, GA Dearest Live In Lover, Eventually we all meet someone, fall in love and want to try living with that person. It’s normal, but, honey, before you make that extra key here’s, Trinity’s Sweet and Sour Tips For Living With Someone As A Couple Sweet: 1. It’s cheaper to buy one king-size bed, pay one condo fee and fill one cobalt vase with a dozen long-stemmed roses. 2. There’s always someone to go to the grocery store, laundry mat and movies with.
3. No more wondering about where he or she might be or when you can snuggle up next to him or her again. 4. Someone’s always home to cook, give you a back massage or walk the Jack Russell terrier. 5. Sleeping alone, being lonely and having help paying off your student loan, will no longer be a problem! Sour: 6. After you’ve worked years saving all your money, there’s now someone to help you spend it. 7. The unlimited privacy you once enjoyed for phone calls, emails and your own PO Box will ultimately be destroyed. 8. Just when you swore your own problems were handled, there’s now someone else’s whole new set of problems to tackle. 9. Now that you’re sure you’ve found your soulmate, he or she may just meet someone else, leave you broken hearted and/or sue for damages. 10. Lastly, you know what, I’m changing this to Trinity’s Reasons For Always And Forever Being Single! : : info:With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinity hosted “Spiritually Speaking” a weekly radio drama performed globally and is now minister of sponsor, WIG: Wild Inspirational Gatherings, wigministries. org. Learn more at telltrinity.com.
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Shoemaker bids farewell continued from page 5 Shoemaker started his sermon with a reference to that other religious figure who made news recently by quitting. “The pope and I had a conference call with the Almighty,” he quipped. “ ‘Hons,’ she said with a Southern drawl, adjusting her apron, ‘it’s time to let go and let God.’ ” And there was singing, lots of singing: By the choir; by Shoemaker’s twin sister, Susan, a soprano who performed a solo about how blessed is the man who walks in the ways of Jesus; and by Shoemaker, from the pulpit. As a musical exclamation point to his comments about the church’s inclusiveness, he sang some of “You’ve Got to Be Carefully Taught” — a pointed show tune from “South Pacific,” the classic Broadway musical, about how people are not born racist.
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Shoemaker even added a verse he penned himself: “You’ve got to be taught to be afraid/ Of people with different DNA./And people not born in the U.S. of A./You’ve got to be carefully taught.” ‘It’s OK to love everybody’ Many in the wooden pews donned red as a tribute to Shoemaker’s regular worshipending prayer that “God take your hearts and set them on fire.” Before and after the service, members said Shoemaker will be a hard act for the next pastor to follow. “He’s a very human combination of intellect and spirit,” said David Offill, 67, who began attending Myers Park Baptist seven years ago with his wife, Jane.
Kim Bentley, 41, cited Shoemaker’s leadership as a big reason she and her husband, Lee, joined the church a year and a half ago. They had attended other churches, but were turned off by rules and laws. “Here, it’s OK to have questions,” she said. “And it’s OK to love everybody. You don’t get that everywhere.” But, for all the grief Sunday, some also said they understood Shoemaker’s decision. “Being a minister is a very difficult job.
You’re on duty seven days a week, all year long,” said former UNC System President C.D. Spangler, who’s attended Myers Park Baptist since its 1943 founding, when he was 10 years old. “Steve has probably said to all of these congregation members: ‘How can I help?’ But I doubt that many of us have asked him: ‘How can I help (you)?’” : : — Reprinted with permission via The Charlotte Observer. qnotes is a member of the Charlotte News Alliance.
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March 16 • Charlotte St. Patrick’s Day Join thousands of Charlotteans for annual St. Patrick’s Day festivities, including the parade and Charlotte Goes Green Festival. Uptown Charlotte. For more detailed information, visit charlottestpatsday.com. If you’re in the mood for some Irish-themed fun before official festivities kick off on Saturday, check out Buff Faye’s “Get Lucky?! St. Patty’s Day Friday Night Party Bus.” More details and tickets at allbuff.eventbrite.com. Stay tuned to goqnotes.com for more information on upcoming St. Patrick’s Day events and activities in the Queen City.
March 2 • Charlotte ‘Celebration of the Arts’ Time Out Youth hosts a unique variety show produced by Vito Abate and featuring singers, dancers, actors and other performance artists from Charlotte. Proceeds benefit Time Out Youth. Theatre Charlotte, 501 Queens Rd. $25. Doors open at 6:30 p.m. for cocktails. Two-act show begins at 7:30 p.m. timeoutyouth.org. March 2 • Charlotte CIAA Finale Chi Psi Omega Fraternity hosts a special LGBT party with special guest commedian Cedrice “Nuffced” Brown and comedian Kellee “Squiggy” Phillips. LGBT Community Center of Charlotte, 2508 N. Davidson St. 2-6 p.m. Free entry and food. Cash bar. chipsiomegafraternity.org. March 2 • Raleigh Date Auction Crape Myrtle Festival hosts a date auction and fashion show. Theatre in the Park, 107 Pullen Rd. 6:30 p.m. $10 donation at the door. crapemyrtlefest.org. March 2-17 • Charlotte Jewish Film Fest The ninth annual Charlotte Jewish Film Festival showcases the best in Jewish cinema from around the word, including documentaries, dramas and comedies. Various locations. Various times. Various prices. charlottejewishfilm.com. March 5 • Charlotte Game night The LGBT Community Center of Charlotte hosts a game night with board games, music,
snacks and sodas. 2508 N. Davidson St. 7 p.m. Free. gaycharlotte.com. March 8 • Charlotte Open House Different Roads Home, a new non-profit organization providing those with HIV/AIDS and other chronic illnesses with services, support, mentoring, food assistance and other needs, hosts an open house. Wine and light hors d’oeuvres provided. Different Roads Home, 15905 Brookway Dr. Suite 4203. 6-8 p.m. differentroadshomes.org. March 8 • Hickory SCC goes to Cabaret Southern Country Charlotte takes its cowboykickin’ dance moves to Hickory’s Club Cabaret, 101 N. Center St. $5/SCC members. $10/nonmembers. southerncountrycharlotte.com. March 9 • Charlotte Coffee Talk HRC Charlotte hosts a Coffee Talk for Equality. No program, no fundraising — just an open invitation to share a cup of coffee together. Caribou Coffee, 1531 East Blvd. 9-11 a.m. March 16 • Charlotte PINK Pre-Party Takeover Friday hosts a pre-party welcoming PINK to Charlotte. Pop in for drinks and light appetizers before the concert at Time Warner Cable Arena. Hyatt House Charlotte Center City, 435 E. Trade St. 6-8 p.m. Free. takeoverfriday.com. March 22 • Charlotte Spaghetti Fundraiser Southern Country Charlotte hosts a spaghetti
Submit your event to our calendar! You can submit your event online at goqnotes.com/eventsubmit/ and get a three-for-one entry. All Charlotte-area events will appear on each of the three calendars at qnotes (goqnotes.com), the LGBT Center (gaycharlotte.com) and Visit Gay Charlotte (visitgaycharlotte.com).
dinner fundraiser before their monthly barn dance. Spaghetti, salad, bread, tea and water served. Wine available. $10 donation suggested. LGBT Community Center of Charlotte, 2508 N. Davidson St. 8-9:30 p.m. Afterward, join the group for their monthly barn dance at Hartigan’s Irish Pub, 601 S. Cedar St. 10 p.m. southerncountrycharlotte.com.
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April 6 • Charlotte Amazing Race Bar Crawl Supporting AIDS Walk Charlotte. Cost is $150 per team. For more information or to register, visit barsagainstaids.org.
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Which would be longer: All the neckties you own laid end-to-end or the all the belts you own? Definitely ties. I used to work, many moons ago, for a men’s clothing company that managed all the old J. Riggins stores. As employees we used to get ties for cheap — and I may have a little hoarding problem, so I haven’t gotten rid of them. Have you ever read a Jackie Collins novel? I have to admit I read “Hollywood Wives” by Jackie, but that was the only one. On the other hand, I also read “Prime Time” by Joan Collins. I love me some Alexis Morell Carrington Colby Dexter Rowan. Too much? Do you know how to play chinese checkers? Absolutely not. I hardly can even play regular checkers. What’s the last item made of leather you’ve bought? Probably a belt, even though I have a very few number of them. From which musical act do you own the most albums? Without a doubt, my idol, my hero, Barbara Mandrell. I have two copies of every album she’s ever put out, one to listen to and one for posterity. Do you personally know anyone who has performed in a gay porn film? Without “outing” my friend, yes, I would say I do know someone. What is your all-time favorite newspaper comic strip?
“Ziggy!” I even made my uncle name his beagle Ziggy growing up. French toast, waffles or pancakes? Stuffed french toast or peanut butter and banana pancakes. Have you ever had any part of your body waxed? Every two weeks the eyebrows get done. Is the phrase “shut up and look pretty” apropos for anyone you know? Probably too many people to list — and sometimes, I would have to include myself in that list. Thank goodness I can pull it off. If you’re sitting on your couch relaxing, what beverage are you sipping on? Either a Diet Pepsi or a very dirty martini. Which pro athlete has an open invitation to sleep over anytime he wants? Jake Delhomme! The dumbest move ever made by the Panthers was letting him go. To learn more about Different Roads Home, visit differentroadshome.org. : : We want you to be the subject of a future “20 Questions.” If you’re interested, send your name, city and a few sentences about yourself to editor2@goqnotes.com. You’ll be asked to supply a photo of yourself suitable for publication later in the process. If you’d like to see a particular person featured here or have questions for us to use, drop us an email.
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