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— Callum, a 19-year-old Central Piedmont Community College student and Time Out Youth member

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Holi-daytrips in the Carolinas Christmas in the Queen City Holiday gifts for foodies Playing the Field Jane’s World Tell Trinity Q Events Calendar

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Holiday fun at home and across the region, including history tours and museums, music, ice skating, light shows and more! Plus, holiday gift ideas for the foodies among your friends and family. pages 10-11

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RAIN’s new office space offers collaboration Group moves to Children’s and Family Services Center in Uptown by Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.com CHARLOTTE — The Regional AIDS Interfaith Network (RAIN) moved this fall into new office space in Uptown. The group has had office space in the center city area for 15 years, including space at First United Methodist Church on N. Tryon St., but staffers say their new space will save them some funds and offer new opportunities for collaboration. The new offices, furnished by donations from Wells Fargo and Ikea, are located at 601 E. 5th St., Suite 470, in the Children and Family Services Center at Fifth and McDowell Sts. Nathan Smith, RAIN’s director of development and marketing, said he was excited about new potential opportunities at the space. “Being one of ten nonprofits in the building, the move not only facilitates potential collaborations,” Smith said, “but being among the other agencies it makes it easier for our clients to be referred to other agencies within the building.” Smith said over 60 non-profit collaborations have happened among groups housed at Children’s and Family Services since the facility was first built 10 years ago. The move will also allow RAIN to be “good stewards” of their donors’ funds and more competitive in grant funding, Smith said.

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The Regional AIDS Interfaith Network’s new office space includes a welcoming lobby area, complete with furniture donated by Ikea. File Photo

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Youth, volunteers, board members and supporters gathered for Time Out Youth’s grand opening on Nov. 8, where Charlotte City Councilmember LaWana Mayfield, Time Out Youth Executive Director Rodney Tucker and youth member Brandon Perez each participated in cutting the ribbon. File Photo

CHARLOTTE — The young people at Time Out Youth call their space “home.” It’s a safe place where they can gather with friends and peers just like them and receive important resources and education. “I didn’t realize there were other gay youth like me and coming here is refreshing,” said Callum, a 19-year-old Central Piedmont Community College student. “It makes us feel at home.” Their home just got a bit bigger. In the past few weeks, staff and youth have been settling into their new space at 2320-A N. Davidson St. The group fully opened the first week of November. At a ribbon-cutting ceremony on Nov. 8, Callum and other youth helped lead tours of the new space, which includes room for several offices for staff, interns and private counseling, a kitchen and laundry facility, a career center with several computers and other resources, a multi-purpose room and youth lounge complete with a TV and video games, snacks, couches and work space. Rodney Tucker, Time Out Youth’s executive director, said the 3,000-square-feet center will offer more space for the group’s programming and more visibility. For years, the group had

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Organization transparency wins again For the fourth year in a row, qnotes is publishing our annual Community Assessment Survey of local and regional non-profit organizations serving the LGBT community. Every year, we’ve reviewed non-profit organizations’ filings with the IRS and other financial information, and each year we become more pleased with the level of transparency exhibited by participating organizations. This year is no different. Increased transparency Late last year, as we were putting our editorial calendar together for 2013, our staff decided to move our annual non-profit review from the spring and summer months to the fall. And, as we approached the survey this year, we decided to push back our coverage a few extra weeks. Doing so enabled us, for the first time, to catch up on organizations’ annual Form 990 filings, the tax returns non-profit groups filed with the IRS. Starting in 2010, our review was continuously two years behind. For the first time this year, we are able to present information from the immediately preceding year. In addition to 2012 information presented in this print edition, we have also published information for 2011 on our website. We’re grateful for and proud of the work our local and regional LGBT groups have made in keeping their annual Form 990 filings current and up to date. We’re also pleased to know that nearly every group we reviewed this year had already filed their 2012 Forms 990. Only one group had failed to do so at the time of our review, and even so, voluntarily agreed to participate in our survey. We’re also proud of two organizations, in particular. Different Roads Home, which was founded this year, and Charlotte Pride, which had its tax-exempt status reinstated this year and began operations after seven years of dormancy, both voluntarily agreed to submit financial information for their operations in

2013. Though neither organization had yet been required to file a Form 990 for 2013, we’re grateful the organizations took a significant step toward openness and transparency, offering their voluntarily-submitted, unreviewed and preliminary financial figures. A different approach Additionally, our Community Assessment Survey this year took a different approach. Instead of zeroing in on organizations’ expenses, we decided to focus on organizations’ revenue streams. Our staff asked ourselves, “How are our organizations being supported and who is contributing to their success?” So, our survey sought to find those answers. Twelve of the 17 organizations who were invited to voluntarily participate in the survey did so, offering the community a glimpse into how they are supported. We’re pleased so many of our local and regional organizations seem to be drawing support from a diversity of revenue sources, but, as you’ll see explored in our report, we’re disappointed by how few individual community members are actively donating to the groups which work on their behalf. Only about 1.7 percent of the total estimated LGBT and potential straight ally community in Charlotte are giving to Charlotte area organizations — and that’s an extremely liberal interpretation of the data. The truth is, the number of people giving to local groups is likely significantly lower than we can estimate. That realization is enough to concern me and the rest of the qnotes staff. We hope that you, your friends and your family will commit to giving a little bit more this holiday season and into next year. Even if you can only give a small donation — even if it’s only $1 — every contribution to organizations serving LGBT people and their families is an investment in our community, our culture and our progress toward a more equal, accepting and inclusive place to call home. : :

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Local bar becomes national sponsor of students’ group CHARLOTTE — The Scorpio, a local bar popular with the LGBT community, has become a national sponsor of the locally-based Campus Pride, a national organization for student leaders and college groups works to create safer environments for LGBT students on college and university campuses. The Scorpio, founded in 1968, is the oldest LGBT nightclub establishment in Charlotte. Its $10,000 donation makes it a national sponsor for Campus Pride, which made the announcement in late November. “Campus Pride is grateful to The Scorpio/Von Entertainment and its owner Donald O’Shields for all their support to LGBTQ youth with this sponsorship gift,” Campus Pride Executive Director Shane Windmeyer said in a release. “The Scorpio has always been a positive force locally in Charlotte and this sponsorship only reinforces their actions to make the future better for LGBTQ youth. Campus Pride sincerely appreciates this gift to support our work.” The group promoted a national fundraising campaign, “Campus Pride Day,” coinciding with the national “#GivingTuesday” on Dec. 3. National organizers of #GivingTuesday, which was first held last year, say they are a “movement to create a national day of giving to kick off the giving season added to the calendar on the Tuesday following Thanksgiving, Black Friday and Cyber Monday.” The group said The Scorpio’s gift “was made prior to #GivingTuesday to encourage other individuals and businesses to give back this Holiday Season.” Windmeyer added, “Giving back, no matter how we do it, that’s what the Holiday Season is all about. LGBTQ youth need our support and Campus Pride is touching hundreds of thousands of youth annually. Donations of any size for #GivingTuesday allow us to do even more.” info: campuspride.org. — Compiled from release. This writer, Matt Comer, previously worked as a communications manager for Campus Pride

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Band to hold concert

CHARLOTTE — Charlotte Pride Band, in association with Temple Beth El, will hold a holiday concert on Dec. 15, 3 p.m., at 5101 Providence Rd. The program will feature seasonal favorites performed by small ensembles of Charlotte Pride Band including the jazz band, woodwind quintet, brass quintet, clarinet choir, sax ensemble, brass choir, trumpet choir and trombone quartet. The band is assisting Temple Beth El in its support to the Freedom School Partners, Inc., 1030 Arosa Ave., and Sterling Elementary School, 9601 China Grove Church Rd. Attendees can bring snacks and school supplies which will be donated to the schools. A list of requested school supply items is available online. Admission is free. info: charlotteprideband.org. — L.M.

Fundraiser slated

CHARLOTTE — During five Wednesday nights in January 2014, The Scorpio and Charlotte Pocket Rocket will bring “Dragging with the Stars” to raise money for Charlotte Pride, Cystic Fibrosis Foundation, Don’t H8, Campus Pride and a surprise mystery charity. Cierra Nichole, Angela Lopez, Buff Faye, Jessica Raynes and Felicia Monet will take to the stage to compete on Jan. 8, 15, 22 and Feb. 5 and 12. These men will be vying to win $1,000 for their favorite charity at The Scorpio, 2301 Freedom Dr. Showtime is 11 p.m. Audience members will help serve as judges and will select a winner. info: the scorpio.com. charlottepocketrocket.com. — L.M.

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The funds will enable the organization to assist up to 300 individuals in need. Additionally, awards were given to three advocates for their service to the community. They were Rodney Tucker, executive director of Time Out Youth; Shane Windmeyer, executive director and founder of Campus Pride; and Tommy Feldman, publisher of Charlotte Pocket Rocket. info: differentroadshome.org. — L.M.

CHARLOTTE — The 4th Annual Evening of Hope & Inspiration fundraising concert held on Nov. 23 raised $7,500 to benefit the Jeanne White-Ginder Food Pantry at Different Roads Home, 15905 Brookway Dr., Suite 4203.

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Pictured left to right: singer/songwriter Christy Sutherland, Different Roads Home President/ Founder Dale J.Pierce, Jason Crabb, Different Roads Home Treasurer Edward Harrell, Jeanne White-Ginder. Photo Credit: June Wessinger/BlueSun Photography

CHARLOTTE — Time Out Youth has announced that it is seeking interns who wish to obtain experience working with young people. Volunteers help represent the organization during drop-in hours from 3-6:30 p.m. They answer phone, provide tours and present a friendly face to visitors. Interns are also asked to staff the lobby area at least two times per month. To volunteer, email Sarah Alwran at salwran@timeoutyouth.org. Additionally, Time Out Youth has expanded its youth services by providing quiet space in

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its Career Center on Mondays from 3-6:30 p.m. Youth can use this time to look for jobs, work on school projects and assignments or attend counseling sessions. No video games, television or group room activities will be available during this time. For more information, email O’Neale Atkinson, MSW, at oatkinson@timeoutyouth.org. For more information on Time Out Youth, see page 4 for additional detail about its new facility. info: timeoutyouth.org. — L.M.

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National / Global News Teenage British Olympic diver comes out

Diver Tom Daley at the 2012 London Olympic and Paralympic Games. Photo Credit: Jim Thurston, via Flickr. Licensed CC.

LONDON — British Olympic diver Tom Daley came out about his relationship with a man on Dec. 2. Daley, 19, shared the news of his relationship via a YouTube video. In it, Daley said he met his partner in the spring. “Come spring this year, my life changed massively when I met someone and they made me feel so happy, so safe and everything just feels great — and well that someone is a guy,” Daley said. “And, it did take me by surprise a little bit. It was always in the back of my head that something like that could happen, but it wasn’t until the spring of this year that it clicked. It felt right. My whole world just changed right there and then.” Daley did not use the label “gay” or “bisexual” to describe himself or his relationship, though he said he was still interested in women. “I still fancy girls, but I’m dating a guy and I couldn’t be happier. It just really does feel right,” Daley said. Despite eschewing labels both mainstream and LGBT media alike began using “gay” or “bisexual” to describe Daley. Daley won two gold medals for England at the 2010 Commonwealth Games. He’s also a bronze Olympic medalist, which he won competing for Great Britain at the 2012 Summer Olympic Games in London. — M.C.

Quick Hits ————————————————————————— Students at Virginia Commonwealth University are taking a unique approach to awareness and education. The group created 1,000 coffee sleeves and distributed them to local coffee shops in Richmond. The sleeves depict members of the local LGBT community and have check boxes with various identities, along with the label, “Human.” Each sleeve also contained a quote. more: bit.ly/1bdmr6C Two legislators in Virginia have introduced a bill that would repeal the state’s constitutional ban on same-sex marriage. Observers say the repeal is unlikely to pass Virginia’s legislature, where Republicans control the House and where Republicans and Democrats have an even split in the Senate. more: bit.ly/186cXQ6 A Colorado school board member who said transgender students should be “castrated” before being allowed to use restrooms match-

ing their gender identity is standing by and defending her remarks. more: bit.ly/IAwuM9 A federal court has ordered U.S. immigration officials to review a decision they made not to grant asylum to a gay Russian man. The man says he was attacked for his sexual orientation in 2002 and 2003 and fears returning to his native nation, where recent anti-gay legislation has encouraged more violence against LGBT people. more: bit.ly/1dLv5Bg A man in Cameroon, a nation on the Atlantic coast of Africa, has been sentenced to nine years in prison for breaking that nation’s laws against homosexuality. The 35-year-old man had been accused of molesting a 14-year-old boy, but court precedings later uncovered the youth was actually 19 years old and that the relationship was consensual. more: bit.ly/18Varur

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Triad Foundation to receive holiday donations

GREENSBORO — Fred and Dot Wagoner Christmas Trees, 2609 Battleground Ave., is helping Triad residents get all decked out for the holidays while benefiting The Guilford Green Foundation. Trees are cut weekly. Also, select from wreaths made daily onsite from Frazer fir, magnolia, boxwood and Leyland cypress. Additionally, buyers can choose from new designer bows, centerpiece arrangements, ivy topiaries and more. A $5 donation will be given to Guilford Green with every $50 purchase. The coupon reprinted here must be provided at the time of purchase. For more information, call 336-288-4536. info: ggnc.org. — L.M.

Study seeks family participants

GREENSBORO — Roger Mills-Koonce, an associate professor at the University of North Carolina-Greensboro in the Human Development and Family Studies department, is seeking participants in a study on LGBT family formation. Interviews will take place in the spring of 2014, with possible home visits. Children must be under the age of 11. The query’s home visit includes completion of questionnaires, interviews with parents only, followed by observation of parents and children interacting through play. Interested parties should email r_millsk@ uncg.edu. — L.M.

Triangle Post-DOMA workshop slated

DURHAM — Life After DOMA, What You Should Know and Why You Should Care will be presented on Dec. 11, 7:30 p.m., at Imani MCC, 3602-C View St. The first presentation on Nov. 6 resulted in a standing room only audience at the LGBT Center of Raleigh, 411 Hillsborough St. Angela Hass, J.D., Carla Daniel, E.A., and Lorraine Johnson, CFA, CFP® will serve as the presenters. Hass is an attorney, certified mediator and senior partner with Haas & Associates, P.A. Daniel is a principal of Blackman & Sloop, CPAs, P.A. Johnson is an accredited domestic partner advisor and president of Triangle Financial Advisors, LLC. Some issues and more to be addressed at the program include: What is DOMA and how has it changed? What are some of the ramifications for those who live in N.C.? How is Social Security affected? The event is open to the community. info/registration: 919-789-3098. advisor@trianglefa.com. — L.M.

Kickball team to host holiday party

RALEIGH — The Stonewall Kickball - Raleigh will host a season wrap and holiday party on Dec. 14, 6 p.m., at Solas, 419 Glenwood Ave. Proceeds will benefit the LGBT Center of Raleigh, 411 Hillsborough St. Hors d’oeuvres and desserts from Bida

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Manda, 222 S. Blount St., and Bia Restaurant, 419 Glenwood Ave., will be served, along with complimentary champagne punch. The Team Miss Congeniality Award will be announced at 9 p.m. Online ticket purchases go toward totals for the award. Tickets are $5 online and are available through Dec. 15. Door price is $10. Online purchases entitle the ticket holder to free admission to Legend’s Nightclub, 330 W. Hargett St., after the holiday party. info/tickets: stonewallkickballraleigh.league apps.com/events/25688-stonewall-kickballraleigh-holiday-party-2013. — L.M.

A full schedule of workshops and activities is available online, as well as speakers’ descriptions. Registration for the conference and retreat is available online at a cost of $140 per person through Dec. 15, plus $25 for the retreat. Volunteers are being sought to assist in all areas of the event. Commemorative T-shirts can be purchased for $15. Host hotel is the Westin Chicago River North, 320 N. Dearborn St. Reservations are available online or by calling 888-627-8359. Rate are $119 per night. info: gcnconf.com. — L.M.

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ASHEVILLE — Cantaria, the Gay Men’s Chorus of Asheville, will hold a holiday concert, International Holidays, on Dec. 19, 7:30 p.m., at The Cathedral of All Souls, 9 Swan St. in Biltmore Village. Tickets are $18/advance, $20/at the door. VIP seating is $25/single, $45/couple. Advanced tickets can be purchased at Malaprops, 55 Haywood St., or online. An open dress rehearsal will be held on Dec. 15, 4 p.m. at the church. A contribution of $10 at the door is suggested. info: cantariaasheville.org. — L.M.

Regional Museum holds fundraiser

WASHINGTON, D.C. — The National LGBT Museum is holding a holiday fundraising raffle worth $5,000 toward a shopping spree at Mitchell Gold + Bob Williams. Other prizes include a commissioned painting by Rose Siersdale (valued at $2,000) and a yoga session with the city’s Marshall Sanders (valued at $150). The museum, organized by Tim Gold and supported in part by his husband, North Carolina furniture-maker and philanthropist Mitchell Gold, will be the only one in the nation’s capital dedicated to preserving and sharing the history of the LGBT communities. This effort hopes to raise $15,000 toward funding the space’s creation. The drawing takes place on Dec. 12. Raffle tickets are available online. Cost is $50/1; $75/2; and $100/4. info/tickets: nationallgbtmuseum.org. raffle creator.com/pages/662/holiday-party-raffle. — L.M.

Christian conference approaches

RALEIGH — The Gay Christian Network (GCN) will hold its 10th Annual CGN Conference, “Live It Out,” in Chicago, Ill., from Jan. 9-12, 2014. The theme this year is inspired by 1 John 3:18 that says: “Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.” It reminds one that living out faith means living out God’s love in all that is done, be it loving neighbors, praying for enemies or following Jesus’ example. Practicing this in theory may be easy, but doing so requires that one practice what one preaches. There will also be a “weconnect” women’s retreat prior to the start of the conference. It offers a unique conference experience to any female-identified attendee, with speakers, worship and an all-female praise band.

JAMAICA PLAIN, Mass. — Keshet, the U.S. organization working for full inclusion of LGBT Jews in Jewish life, has launched 30 new additions to their LGBT Jewish Educational Resources Collection. This compilation includes materials suitable for a broad range of age groups, from elementary through college and into adulthood. The free downloads include: 22 lesson plans penned by Jewish educators from across the U.S.; eight lesson plans written by Orthodox Rabbi Steve Greenberg; and guidelines for introducing LGBT content into the Jewish classrooms. Rebecca Weiner serves as a curator of Keshet’s educational resources. Rabbi Greenberg authored “Wrestling with God and Men,” as well as served as a producer with Sandi Dubowski for “Wrestling Before G-d,” a documentary featuring Orthodox LGBT Jews from across the world. Areas of concentration include a plethora of materials and content. Students can gain insight when they study about what it means to be an ally, with activities involving Talmudic teachings about communal responsibility. Rabbi Greenberg explores differences with seventh through 12th graders. Pre-K through first graders begin an exploration and affirmation into different family structures. Students also look at overcoming hate speech and how language can offend others. Rabbi Greenberg also takes a look at an exploration of Sodom with an adult audience. Online collections surround topics like Torah Queeries, the Marriage Project and Trans Texts. To learn more about these resources and to contribute comments about them, email National Program Director Catherine Bell at catherine@keshetonline.org. Keshet is also accepting additional lessons for the collection. In other news, two articles have been released focusing on adults and children. “For Interfaith Gay Couples, Another Wedding Obstacle,” by Samuel Freedman of The New York Times, looks at how rabbis are becoming more willing to perform same-sex wedding with interfaith couples. Read it online at nytimes.com/2013/11/02/us/for-interfaith-gaycouples-another-wedding-obstacle.html?_r=0. B.J. Epstein with PinkNews wrote “The Best LGBT Picture Books for Children.” Read the online feature at pinknews.co.uk/2013/10/29/feature-the-best-lgbt-picture-books-for-children/. This can be purchased online through Keshet. Welcoming and affirming Jewish congregations in the Carolinas include, but are not limited to: Asheville, Congregation Beth Ha Tephilia, bethhatephila.org, Congregation Beth Israel, bethisraelnc.org; Charlotte, Havurat Tikvah, havurattikvah.org; Temple Beth El, bethel.com; and Chapel Hill, Kehillah Synagogue, kehillahsynagogue.org. info: keshetonline.org. — L.M.

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Fun ‘holi-daytrip’ destinations this season Take a day trip for holiday fun with friends and family House Display and Competition. It runs through Jan. 2. Get a sneak peek at some of the contestants and learn more at romanticasheville. com/gingerbread.htm. While you’re in the mountains, why not go ahead and look for your very own, hand-cut Christmas tree! Romantic Asheville has a list of Christmas tree farms, complete with addresses, times and more information at romanticasheville.com/christmas_ tree_farms.htm. Blue Ridge Artisans Show Through Dec. 24 McDowell Arts Council Association 50 S. Main St. Marion, NC 28752 mcdowellarts.org 828-652-8610 Featuring crafts from local artisans, including woodwork, paintings, photography and various Christmas ornaments.

An entry in the Grove Park Inn Gingerbread Display and Competition in 2011. Photo Credit: Selena N.B.H./moonlightbulb, via Flickr. Licensed CC.

The holidays can be a stressful time. Parties to attend. Dinners to plan. Presents to buy. Family to visit. If it’s all becoming a bit too much, take a break! Head out of town for a day trip or spend an affordable night away in North Carolina’s foothills and Piedmont and their fantastic and fun destinations and events this year. Each locale offers a plethora of holiday goodness to reset your spirit and keep you strong through New Year!

Asheville and the mountains If mountain holiday charm is your thing, hop in the car and head up to the Asheville area, the quintessential holiday retreat in the hills. Of course, everyone already knows about Biltmore and Biltmore Village and it’s a sure bet for any trip. But, one might also find joy and merriment at a variety of other uniquely Asheville offerings. At the historic Grove Park Inn, stop in and check out their Gingerbread

“A Christmas Carol” Through Dec. 22 The Montford Park Players Asheville Masonic Temple 80 Broadway St. Asheville, NC montfordparkplayers.org 828-254-5146 A unique retelling of Charles Dickens’ classic Christmas tale. Christmas at Connemara Dec. 7, 14, 21, 28 Connemara 81 Carl Sandburg Ln. Flat Rock, NC 28731 nps.gov/carl/

Local musicians and storytellers perform traditional holiday stories and music on Saturday mornings, with hot cider and cookies served! “O Holy Night” Dec. 12-22 Flat Rock Playhouse 123 S. Main St. Hendersonville, NC 28792 flatrockplayhouse.org 828-692-0610 A new musical adaptation of the classic nativity story told through traditional and modern Christmas music. Based on the gospels of Luke and Matthew comes the musical celebration “O Holy Night.” Four powerful singers, joined by a choir and a live band, will present new arrangements of the songs that celebrate the spirit of the season. “The Gifts of the Magi” Dec. 12-Dec. 22 Hendersonville Little Theater 229 S. Washington St. Hendersonville, NC 28792 hendersonvillelittletheater.org 828-692-1082 Hendersonville Little Theater present “The Gifts of the Magi”, a musical from the stories by O. Henry, based on the book by Mark St. Germain, with music by Randy Courts and lyrics by Randy Courts and Mark St. Germain.

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Christmas in the Queen City Charlotte offers holiday fun throughout the festive, wintery season Just because it’s starting to get cold outside, there’s no excuse for not getting out of the house this December. The holiday season offers plenty of opportunities to fill your social calendar and have some good fun with family and friends. If you’re looking to get out of town, see our ideas for “holi-daytripping” above. But, if you want to stay close to home, check out these events and attractions right in the heart of the Charlotte area. Christmas Past Lovers of history and those who want a taste of what past holiday traditions were like have great events to look forward to this year. Christmas with the Polks Dec. 14, 11 a.m.-3 p.m. President James K. Polk State Historic Site 12031 Lancaster Hwy., Pineville 704-889-7145 nchistoricsites.org/polk/ Head down to Pineville for for a Christmas with the Polks. Learn about food and customs from an 1802 Christmas, with a living history vignette main home of President James K. Polk’s family. Each building will be decked in Christmas fare.

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Candlight Christmas Dec. 14, 6-9 p.m. Historic Latta Plantation 5225 Sample Rd., Huntersville 704-875-2312 lattaplantation.org Another great Christmas treat from the 19th Century. Tour historic Latta Plantation at night, meet the animals in the carriage barn and learn more about life during an 1820s Christmas. Admission is $8, with children five and younger free. Red, Green and Bluegrass Dec. 19, 7 p.m. Museum of the Waxhaws 8215 Waxhaw Hwy., Waxhaw 704-737-5654 museumofthewaxhaws.org This holiday benefit for the Museum of the Waxhaws features the Levine Museum of the New South’s Dr. Tom Hanchett, along with Donny Murray and Tom Estes performing a musical history of Bluegrass in the Charlotte area. A cash bar will be available, with heavy hors d’oeuvres serves. $50 per person. Tickets available online at museumofthewaxhaws.com or by phone.

Outdoors and Light Shows Just Be Claus U.S. National Whitewater Center 5000 Whitewater Center Pkwy. 704-391-3900 usnwc.org The U.S. National Whitewater Center presents its first ever “Just Be Claus” holiday festival. Activities kick off with a Santa 5K Trail run, followed by a bonfire and live music. Christmas Town USA Through Dec. 26, Downtown McAdenville mcadenville-christmastown.com The town of McAdenville comes to life with Christmas cheer as neighbors turn their historic mill town into Christmas Town USA. Light displays Monday-Friday, 5:30-9:30 p.m. and Saturday-Sunday, 5:30-11 p.m. Speedway Christmas Through Dec. 30 Charlotte Motor Speedway 5555 Concord Pkwy. S., Concord 800-455-3267 charlottemotorspeedway.com

The Charlotte Motor Speedway brings back its annual light show, with more than three million lights, an infield Christmas Village and a unique opportunity to drive the speedway track! Admission is $20 per car, with group rates for vans and buses available. Holiday on Ice NASCAR Hall of Fame 400 E. Martin Luther King, Jr. Blvd. 888-902-6463 nascarhall.com WBT sponsors its annual outdoor ice-skating rink at the NASCAR Hall of Fame Plaza. The 7,000-square feet sheet of ice provides plenty of family fun as you partake a view of the city skyline. $9/$12 for admission and skate rentals. Open Wednesday-Friday, 5-10 p.m.; Saturday, 10 a.m.-10 p.m.; Sunday 10 a.m.-7 p.m.

More events Check out more great holiday events from Charlotte’s very own LGBT arts groups, plus other December events, in our calendar on page 22.

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Holiday gifts for your foodie friends Gifts for food-lovers guaranteed to leave taste buds dancing Between the growing trends of boutique restaurants, creative home cooking and entire television networks dedicated to food, you probably know a few people who consider themselves “foodies.” Whether they love craft beer, decadent chocolate treats or gourmet cheeses, you can find many great gift ideas for people passionate about food and drink. Make their holiday extra bright by indulging their interests and exploring some of these top trends in food-related gifts.

Sweet and salty treats Flavor fusion is featured in some of the nation’s most popular restaurants, but home chefs are enjoying these taste mash-ups, too. One classic blend that has been gaining popularity is salty and sweet combos. Gift ideas that feature this ultimate mix include gourmet dipped pretzel rods in various types of chocolate. Sea-salt adorned confections are another popular option — look for caramels and truffles sprinkled with sparkling sea salt for the perfect salty and sweet pairing.

Himalayan salt Himalayan salt is a trendy and truly unique gift for salt lovers and gourmets. The hard mineral composition means this particular type of salt can be carved into a variety of useful items, such as a Himalayan salt block ideal for serving warm grilled meats or chilled for serving sushi. Gourmet chefs at home can infuse food and drink with a subtle hint of mineral-rich salt, adding a unique layer of flavor. Himalayan salt is also touted as a healthy, natural source of sodium by many health experts. Personalized stoneware Winter days call for warm baked goods, whether it’s a classic casserole or rich homemade pie. Cooks and bakers love to personalize dishes with updated versions of classic recipes, adding herbs and spices for extra flare. And when that dish is cooked in customized stoneware, there’s no mistaking who

created the culinary masterpiece. Personalized stoneware is gaining popularity; by adding a name or special message, you’re giving a gift that’s truly one of a kind.

Glass sets for beer aficionados It’s official - the craft beer movement is here to stay. There are more breweries in the U.S. than ever before, and beer connoisseurs are even picky about the mug they drink it in. Craft beer enthusiasts know that one of the best ways to enhance your drink is to use the correct glass. Glass sets make great gifts that are not only useful, but can serve as a beautiful display in a bar or kitchen when not in use. For example, beer lovers will enjoy a multiple glass beer tasting set. Be sure it includes glasses like a hand mug for light ales, footed glass for wheat beers and pale lagers, and an English pub glass for dark English ales.

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Day trips fill holiday season continued from page 11 Piedmont festivities A few steps down from the mountains and foothills brings you to the Triad, accessible from nearly every direction in North Carolina. Here, you can explore Christmases past and present. In Winston-Salem, tour 18th and 19th Century homes and public buildings in Old Salem, a Moravian, colonial-era “living history,” outdoor museum. Nearby wine vineyards in the Yadkin Valley offer winery tours and tastings. In Winston-Salem, the “City of the Arts,” local performers bring Christmas to life and students at the University of North Carolina School of the Arts light up your holiday spirit with the classic “The Nutcracker.” Festival of Lights Through Jan. 1 Tanglewood Park 4061 Clemmons Rd. Clemmons, NC 27012 336-703-6400 Tanglewood’s Festival of Lights continues to be one of the largest and most spectacular light shows in the southeast. From storybook scenes to Holiday themes, over 100 displays and over a million lights fill Tanglewood Park with the splendor and joy of the holiday season. Open 6-11 p.m. Langston Hughes’ “Black Nativity” Dec. 7-8, 14-15 610 Coliseum Dr. Winston-Salem, NC 27106 nbtf.org 336-723-2266 One of America’s most popular holiday gospel musicals, this annual production by the North Carolina Black Repertory Company is a foot-stomping, hand-clapping theatrical performance, filled with brilliant costumes and Afro-centric dance.

“The Nutcracker” Dec. 8-9, Dec. 13-16 Stevens Center 405 W. Fourth St. Winston-Salem, NC 27101 uncsa.edu 336-721-1945 The Sugar Plum Fairy casts her spell on Winston-Salem when “The Nutcracker” returns to downtown Winston-Salem. Ethan Stiefel, artistic director for the New Zealand Royal Ballet, brings his brilliant interpretation of a classic back to the Stevens Center this festive season. Experience Tchaikovsky’s lush score, vivid sets and costumes and the extraordinary performances that have made UNCSA’s “Nutcracker” a holiday tradition! Christmas by Candlelight Dec. 13, Dec. 19-21 Old Salem Museum and Gardens 900 Old Salem Rd. Winston-Salem, NC 27101 oldsalem.org 800-441-5305 A guided, candlelight tour through historic Old Salem, where the customs and traditions of a 19th-century Salem Christmas is brought to life. Includes music, food and drink. Holiday Open House RayLen Vineyards and Winery 3577 US Hwy 158 Mocksville, NC 27028 raylenvineyards.com 336-998-3100 RayLen throws open its doors in true southern holiday hospitality, featuring wine and a cappella holiday caroling from Victorian Voices. Complimentary tasting of featured wines.

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2013 Community Assessment Survey Organization Expenses & Revenues Organizations’ financial data is presented below. Unless otherwise specified in footnotes, all figures are reported from 2012 Form 990 filings for calendar and tax year 2012 (Jan. 1-Dec. 31). Organization

Expenses

Revenue

Occupancy

Salaries/Benefits

# of Individual Contributors

Campaign for Southern Equality

$ 137,376

$ 179,219

$ 2,150

$ 73,632

Not Provided

Carolina Care Partnership a 1,500,828 1,548,623 66,973 607,880

Not Provided

Charlotte Business Guild b < 50,000

N/A

Not Provided

Charlotte Pride c 172,000 249,000

N/A

N/A 55+

Charlotte Pride Band b < 50,000

N/A

Different Roads Home c 90,000

Not Provided 32,500 30 §

Not Provided

Equality North Carolina 486,571 476,823 324,691 Equality North Carolina Foundation 358,945 330,703

Not Provided

N/A N/A 3,339 § d

Gay Men’s Chorus of Charlotte 73,441 65,425 6,662

N/A 60 §

LGBT Center of Raleigh 142,939 160,669 21,596 35,355 300+ § LGBT Community Center of Charlotte 84,333 53,796 41,580 25,224

Not Provided

One Voice Chorus 69,829 90,155 9,168

Not Provided

N/A

Regional AIDS Interfaith Network 872,938 881,132 45,960 567,442

3,320 §

South Carolina Equality 122,173 131,209 10,060 74,016 172 § South Carollina Equality Coalition 8,546 10,376

N/A d

N/A d 83 §

Southern Country Charlotte b e < 50,000

N/A

N/A 14 §

Time Out Youth f 177,365 211,171 6,000 120,373 745 §

Reported Revenue Sources At right are graphs representing the breakdown in organizations’ revenue sources as voluntarily submitted by organizations that participated in our 2013 Community Assessment Survey. The graphs indicate the portions of revenue received by organizations from individual contributors, corporate contributions and sponsors, federal and state grants and grants from non-profit foundations. Other revenue sources are also indicated. Twelve of the 17 groups qnotes chose to review this year opted to voluntarily participate in the revenue survey. Figures may represent estimated, unreviewed or preliminary figures; qnotes’ presentation of this data is not intended to portray a full or final accounting of organizations’ revenue streams. If you seek more detailed information about an organization’s finances, please consult that organization’s completed and filed Form 990 or contact the organization directly.

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Carolina Care Partnership

Equality NC Foundation

65%

5% 25% 2%

43% 3%

Charlotte Business Guild 100%

LGBT Center of Raleigh 47%

Different Roads Home 6%

56%

6% 4%

Regional AIDS Interfaith Network 37%

42%

SC Equality Coalition

57%

33%

15%

12%

10%

SC Equality 58%

Charlotte Pride 6%

19%

Membership dues from 37 individuals

27%

15%

Other: Ticket sales

41%

71%

Gay Men’s Chorus of Charlotte 43%

Other: Vendor and parade fees, vendor rental fees, VIP ticket sales and beverage sales

Southern Country Charlotte 47%

Other: Dues from 86 members and event fees

Notes: Unless otherwise specified, all financial data represents that which was reported on a Form 990 for fiscal calendar year 2012. a - For fiscal year July 1, 2011-June 30, 2012 b - Smaller organizations are not required to file full Forms 990 or Forms 990-EZ. These organizations filed a Form 990-N “e-Postcard” with the IRS, indicating their gross receipts were no greater than $50,000. c - Different Roads Home was founded in 2013. Charlotte Pride’s tax-exempt status was reinstated this year, after being dormant since 2006. Neither Different Roads Home nor Charlotte Pride have yet been required to file a Form 990 for their activities this year. Data presented here represents voluntarily-submitted, unreviewed and preliminary figures and estimates as of the date of the newspaper’s requests and are not reflective nor predictive of any final accounting to be reported on their forthcoming 2013 Forms 990. d - Equality North Carolina Foundation shares some expenses with Equality North Carolina and did not record its own occupancy or salary expenses in its Form 990. Similarly, the South Carolina Equality Coalition shares some expenses with the South Carolina Equality Foundation and did not record its own occupancy or salary expenses in its Form 990. e - For fiscal calendar year 2011. f - For fiscal year Sept. 1, 2011-Aug. 31, 2012. Time Out Youth also completed a Form 990 for Sept. 1-Dec. 31, 2012. Starting in 2013, its fiscal year will align with the calendar year. § - As voluntarily reported by organizations.

20%

16%

100%

Time Out Youth 59%

12%

29%

38%

Other: Special events and other contributions. Percentages based on self-reported total expenses.

Individuals

Corporate

State Grants

Federal Grants

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Survey shows fundraising diversity, strength among local LGBT non-profits Fourth annual survey gauges support received by LGBT community organizations by Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.com

ocal and regional LGBT non-profit organizations are showing strength in their fundraising efforts and diversity in the sources of their revenue, even as low numbers of community members are actively donating, according to data reported in qnotes’ fourth annual Community Assessment Survey. The survey is a tool designed to gauge community organizations’ financial health and measure their commitment to transparency. This year, qnotes chose to review 17 non-profit organizations, each of which were open with their finances and of which 12 voluntarily agreed to participate in our survey. In total, 14 organizations had their 2012 Form 990 — the annual tax return non-profit groups file with the IRS — publicly available or chose to provide them to qnotes when asked. One organization had yet to file a Form 990 for 2012 and two organizations that were not yet required to file a Form 990 voluntarily submitted estimates about their revenue and expenses for 2013. Additionally, this is the first year in which qnotes was able to collect financial data for two years in a row. In past survey reports, qnotes examined two-year-old data. The data presented here comes from 2012 Forms 990, and information from 2011 returns will be available on our website at goqnotes.com. Also for the first time, qnotes chose this year to review only those local and regional organizations based in the Carolinas doing the bulk of their work in the region. The survey, inspired by similar initiatives by other media and non-profit organizations, had three goals this year: (1) Document the general expenses and revenue of non-profit organizations, as well as their general occupancy and salary expenses; (2) Explore organizations’ various sources of revenue; and (3) Determine the number of individuals actively contributing to each organization. Expenses and revenue Since 2010, qnotes’ annual Community Assessment Survey has tracked the income and expenses of several organizations, providing insight into the year-over-year finances of several groups. Most groups have seen relatively stable income and expense levels, but some others have reported significant increases or declines. Equality North Carolina showed significantly-increased expenses and revenue. In 2008, Equality North Carolina had income of $293,391 and expenses of $286,540. In 2012, that rose to $476,823 in revenue and $486,571, but much of that increase is likely attributable to the organization’s higher-profile role and increased donor and volunteer networks in the lead up to and after the May 2012 vote on North Carolina’s anti-LGBT constitutional amendment. Time Out Youth reported $135,922 in revenue and $117,989 in expenses from the fall of 2008 through the fall of 2009. Their most recent Form 990 for their most recent full tax year, from Sept. 1, 2011, through Aug. 31, 2012, shows the group raised nearly 100 percent more compared to 2008, raising $211,171 in revenue, with expenses of $177,365.

number of individual contributors, given that Other organizations had far fewer identifisome individuals may donate to more than one able individual contributors. The Gay Men’s organization and some contributors likely live Chorus of Charlotte reported 60 identifiable outside of the Charlotte area. Even then, results individual contributors, with the total of all indishow that only a very small portion, 4,164 vidual contributions accounting for 43 percent people or approximately 1.7 percent of the total of its total revenues. South Carolina Equality reestimated 241,989 LGBT people or potential ported 172 identifiable contributors in 2012, with straight allies living in Charlotte had actively the total of all individual contributions accountdonated to the local organizations participating ing for 58 percent of its total revenues. Time in qnotes’ survey. Out Youth reported 745 identifiable contributors in 2012, with the total of all individual contriDiversity of revenue sources butions accounting for 59 percent of its total Occupancy and salary The Movement Advancement Project’s revenues. The LGBT Center of Raleigh reported expenses report also found that despite low participa300 identifiable contributors in 2012, with the toNine of the 17 organizations reviewed by tion, individual contributions made up the tal of all individual contributions accounting for qnotes this year directly reported some sort largest single portion of national organizations’ 33 percent of its total revenues. Charlotte Pride of salary and benefits expense for employees. revenues. Individual contributions accounted had 55 identifiable contributors in 2013, with the The largest salary expenses were reported by for 36 percent of national organizations’ total of all individual contributions accounting Carolinas Care Partnership and the Regional revenue, followed by 20 percent from foundafor six percent of its total revenues. AIDS Interfaith Network, both of which provide tions, 17 percent from in-kind contributions and Yet, on case manage12 percent from fundraising events. Corporate average, these ment for people donations accounted for 4 percent and governorganizations living with HIV and Average single gift from ment grants accounted for two percent, among had higher employ several individual contributors other revenue sources. single gifts. Gay staff members Gay Men’s Chorus of Charlotte....................................... $519 Several organizations in qnotes’ Community Men’s Chorus to oversee and SC Equality........................................................................... 443 Assessment Survey bested or closely matched of Charlotte’s implement other Southern Country Charlotte............................................. 276 national organizations’ revenues generated average gift support services. Charlotte Pride.................................................................... 253 from individuals. Eight of the 12 participating was $519, The third-highest Time Out Youth.................................................................... 183 organizations reported receiving 33 percent or South Carolina salary expenses LGBT Center of Raleigh.................................................... 175 more of their revenues coming from individual Equality’s belonged to Time Different Roads Home....................................................... 167 contributions. average gift Out Youth. All SC Equality Coalition......................................................... 125 Organizations also excelled at tapping was $443 and of the organizaRAIN...................................................................................... 90 into corporate support. While only four Charlotte Pride’s tions reported a ENC Foundation.................................................................. 47 percent of national organizations’ revenues was $253, significant portion came from corporations, eight of the 12 followed by of salaries as participating organizations reported at least Time Out Youth at $183 and the LGBT Center of “program services” expenses — expenditures nine percent of their revenues coming from Raleigh at $175, among others. That compares that support the direct support and implemencorporations. to an average of $47 per contributor for Equality tation of programs and services. Support from non-profit foundation grants North Carolina Foundation and $90 for RAIN. Similarly, nine organizations reported ocwere not as essential in local organizations’ See chart on this page for more information. cupancy expenses, such as rent and utilities. funding. Equality North Carolina Foundation Higher individual gifts might be seen as a The two highest reported occupancy expenses and South Carolina Equality reported 47 positive for organizations, but also suggests were Carolinas Care Partnership at $66,973 and percent and 42 percent, respectively, of their that fewer individual persons are carrying RAIN at $45,960. revenues from foundations, but most groups the over-all burden of individual giving or that The third highest occupancy expenses reported 30 percent or less. Four organizations organizations haven’t quite tapped into larger were reported by the LGBT Community Center reported receiving no foundation support, sources of revenue from smaller gifts like $5 of Charlotte, coming in at $41,580. The Charlotte though two of those — one a 501(c)4 advocacy and $10 contributions from individuals. center’s occupancy expenses totaled 49 group and another a 501(c)6 trade organization percent of their total expenses of $84,333. Their — were likely ineligible for most foundation Few individual donors occupancy costs were also nearly double the grant programs. In a December 2012 report on several occupancy costs of a similar organization, the Two organizations — Carolinas Care national and leading LGBT organizations’ LGBT Center of Raleigh. The Raleigh center, Partnership and RAIN — depended heav2011 expenses and revenues, the Movement which also employs a full-time executive direcily on government support. Carolinas Care Advancement Project found that only three tor, spent just $21,596 on occupancy expenses, Partnership reported receiving 90 percent percent of the estimated number of LGBT with a total budget of $142,939, more than oneof its funding from either the state or federal adults in the U.S. had donated $35 or more and-a-half times greater than Charlotte’s, and governments. RAIN reported receiving 32 during the past year to one of the organizations revenue of $160,669, more than three times that percent of its revenue from state or federal it reviewed. of Charlotte’s $53,796. governments. : : Low individual donor participation is also reflected on Individual contributors the local levTen of the 17 organizations reviewed el. Combining this year voluntarily disclosed the number of all individual individual contributors who donated money to contributors their organization. Some groups showed great for organizastrength in the number of individual contribuAre you surprised to learn that so few tions in the tors or in the amount raised by contributors. individuals have donated to local and Charlotte At more than 3,300 each, RAIN and the regional LGBT organizations? Are you a area provides Equality North Carolina Foundation reported regular donor to local groups? an extremely the highest number of individual contribuliberal tors in 2012. Contributions from individuals interpretaaccounted for more than a third of those See the options and vote: goqnotes.com/to/qpoll tion of the organizations’ revenues. The Regional AIDS Interfaith Network (RAIN), which relies on government and nonprofit foundation grants for nearly half of its funding, saw both increases and declines in revenue from year to year. In 2008, the group reported $786,491 in revenue, followed by a significant increase to nearly $1.1 million in 2009 and a drop to $958,634 in 2010. In 2011, the group reported somewhat stable income of $925,177 and followed in 2012 with $955,185.

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Playing the Field Match-ups from across the Carolinas: Teams cap off seasons with big wins by Jon Hoppel :: qnotes contributor The second, and marquee game of the day, pitted Charlotte versus New England, a team that placed in the top two this past Memorial Day at Chicago’s Combustion tournament. True to form, the Valkyries gave Charlotte all they could handle from the beginning by dominating possession for the first 20 minutes of the game. However, the Royals were able to capitalize on two late mistakes by New England and take a 12-7 lead into halftime. Just after halftime, momentum clearly swung in Charlotte’s favor after a pass interception in their own half lead to long scoring play from Brandon Huddleston. That play seemed to take the winds out of New

Charlotte Royals Garrett Jordan pushes through the defensive line during match play. Photo Credit: Susan Fisher

Well, the end of the year is here. All your local sports teams and leagues have shut it down for the holiday season. But, just in case you missed anything, here is a recap! Roller Derby The Gastonia G Force wrapped up their season November 17 with a home bout versus the Rogue Rollergirls out of Fayetteville, N.C. Heading into the contest, the G Force were sporting a 6-3 record and were looking to finish their season off on a high note. From the outset, the G Force looked to be in control. Several early jams went to the ladies from Gastonia and by the time the second half rolled around, they had a hefty 75-point lead. After that, Gastonia never looked back, building on their lead until the very end, winning the bout 202-116. In the offseason, the team will continue to hold practices every Tuesday at Kate’s skating rink. So, if you think Roller Derby is your thing, please go out and give these talented ladies a look.

Meetings: Program: Time: Membership: Information:

Third Tuesday of every month, except when there is specialized programming, plus monthly socials to promote networking and friendship A wide variety of topics of interest to appeal to the diverse LGBT community After work with a cash bar social and heavy hor d’oeuvres with dinner and program following Visit the website for application options and benefits. Call 704.565.5075 or email businessguild@yahoo.com for more details or write to The Charlotte Business Guild P.O. Box 33371 | Charlotte, NC 28233

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Rugby On Nov. 23, the Charlotte Royals hosted their last matches of the season when the New England Valkyries and the Charleston Blockade came to town. Charlotte had an undefeated season on the line against two very formidable opponents. First up was Charleston, who were coming off an impressive showing in Atlanta’s Ruck-a-Buck tournament in October, placing third place out of 7 teams. The Royals had already beaten the Blockade twice this season, both shutouts, and were looking for the three-peat. Charlotte got up early in the first half with three straight scoring plays from Outside Center Garrett Jordan and never looked back, putting a total of 5 tries on the board before halftime. Battling fatigue and injuries to several key players, the Blockade were able to stay resilient and slow the Royals scoring onslaught in the second half, but they were never able to get on the scoreboard. Final score: 47-0.

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England’s sails and Charlotte, after converting two more penalty kicks for scores, won the game 25-7, completing their first ever undefeated season in their 10-year history. In the final game, New England and Charleston faced off against each other for second place. Decimated by injuries, the Blockade played valiantly and kept the game close. But, in the end, it was too much to overcome and the Valkyries took the game 21-7. Earning men of the matches for Charlotte were J.T. Wentz, Garrett Jordan and Josh Whaley. Congratulations on your unprecedented season and your continued success in the future. : :

Meet the Staff of Rosedale ID Making a Difference in Healthcare!

Clinical Research at Rosedale ID Rosedale Infectious Diseases is committed to the highest quality of care for HIV patients. The world of HIV is an evolving science. Each and every day new strides are being made in the fight against this deadly virus. Rosedale is a national and international site for many of these projects. We are always enrolling new patients, based on availability, into the programs. We offer studies for naïve and non-naïve and treatmentexperienced patients. Many studies offer the patient the option of free medication, and also pick up the co-pays for office visits and laboratory testing, relating to their HIV condition.

We are excited to bring you the most up-to-date information and share our experiences with you through our new “Meet the Staff” columns in QNotes, in addition to our already popular “Ask Dr. C” column. Featured Team Member: Cindy Walters, RN Cindy is our Research Coordinator at Rosedale Infectious Diseases. She joined Rosedale ID in April 2012. She brings 20 years of nursing experience to our research department. She has been married for 21 years, has one step daughter, two grandchildren, and her newest addition to the family, a Sheltie named Shellianne. Rosedale Infectious Diseases participates and provides access to numerous clinical trials for our patients. Between our investigator, Frederick Cruickshank, MD, and our sub-investigator, J. Wesley Thompson, PA-C, Rosedale Infectious Diseases has experience in over 160 clinical trials. Rosedale Infectious Diseases is currently participating in 10 of them.

What are clinical trials? Clinical trials are sets of tests in medical research and drug development that generate safety and data on how well the medications work (or more specifically, information about adverse drug reactions and adverse effects of other treatments) for health interventions (e.g., drugs, diagnostics, devices, therapy protocols). They are conducted only after satisfactory information has been gathered on the quality of the non-clinical safety, and health authority/ethics committee approval is granted in the country where approval of the drug or device is sought. Medication clinical trials typically provide the medications free, as well as provide free labs and office visits. Most trials offer transportation reimbursement as well. Clinical trial visits are more frequent than routine office visits in the beginning, and then become less frequent. Usually, clinical trials collect data for 1–4 years, but some trials continue for longer periods. Which types of trials are available at Rosedale ID? Phase IIa & IIb: These are early studies evaluating how well a medicine works (efficacy) and its safety. Phase IIIa & IIIb: These trials follow after those conducted after efficacy has been established. These trials often provide much of the information needed for the package insert and labeling of the medicine.

Phase IV: These trials are conducted after a medicine is approved and on the market. These trials provide additional information focused on varying dosages, populations, and different formulations. Rosedale Infectious Diseases is also assisting the National Institute of Health in a Phase I study on a therapeutic HIV vaccination. In the vast majority of patients, antiretroviral treatment slows, but does not stop HIV in the body. Researchers want to see if the therapeutic vaccination can help HIV positive patients to boost the body’s immune system and attack HIV. Eligible patients must be between 18–65 years of age, on antiretroviral medications, undetectable, and have started the antiretroviral medication within three months of their HIV diagnosis. What is “inclusion criteria”? The criteria, or standards, set out before a study or review. Inclusion criteria are used to determine whether a person can participate in a research study or whether an individual study can be included in a systematic review. Inclusion criteria may include gender, age, type of disease being treated, previous treatments, and other medical conditions. Inclusion criteria help identify suitable participants. Each study at Rosedale has different requirements for participation. Talk to Cindy at your next visit to see if you meet the criteria of one of our many enrolling studies! For more information, contact Cindy Walters, RN at 704-948-8582. Additional information may be found at www.clinicaltrials.gov and aidsinfo.nih.gov/clinical-trials. Don’t forget to visit our website at www.rosedaleid.com, friend us on Facebook and follow us on Twitter for community and clinical updates! You can also email us at info@rosedaleid.com. — Sponsored Content —

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Gourmet goodies Unique gourmet treats are sure to impress even the most refined palate. From handdipped Champagne strawberries from Shari’s Berries, to gourmet caramel apples and cake pops, tantalizing temptations appeal to anyone with a sweet tooth. Gourmet popcorn and fruit baskets make great gifts for food lovers too, and combining a few special treats in a gift basket is a fun way to present their favorites.

heat? Add in some Sriracha or Korean chili paste for that spicy kick foodies are looking for. Cheer your favorite foodie with a gift that’s sure to please. These top trends in food- and drink-related gifts will stand out from the others under the tree. — Courtesy BrandPoint

Made in the USA Things made in the USA embrace the idea of “home is where the heart is,” while providing quality goods that last the test of time. Patronize boutiques that feature local artisans, or when shopping online, look for the location where the item was created. For example, RedEnvelope’s animal wood cutting board comes in pig, cow, rooster and chicken designs - ideal for any chef — all made in the USA. Grill mania Both men and women are refining their grilling skills by cooking dishes in their favorite barbecue style — and winter isn’t stopping them. Indulge their passion with a grilling gift that features some of today’s top spices and sauces. Trending spices of the year include turmeric, juniper, smoked paprika and galangal, a Thai ginger. Does your favorite griller like some

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RAIN moves to new offices continued from page 4 “We will actually be saving money from the move because of the combined services that we now receive,” he said. Such services include shared human resources services, bookkeeping and payroll. Among other shared services are technology infrastructure needs, something Smith said he’s most excited about. “Not only do we all have computers that are on the same operating system, we have an IT department that helps answer all the questions that I used to try and answer,” he said. Most importantly, Smith said the new space will improve RAIN’s ability to serve their clients. The space also offers shared meeting space that allows the group to host several meetings at once. “In our old space we had one large

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meeting space that all of our support groups, volunteers, etc., had to use, but now that we have different size meeting and training rooms we have access to, we can focus on setting up the right time based on the client and volunteers, not necessarily the open time slot,” Smith said. The move has been described has “strategic,” saving the organization money and setting it up for future growth. Smith said, “After 20 years serving the Charlotte area, the goal was to ensure that our organization preserves that longevity and set itself for the future.” RAIN hopes to host an open house sometime in January. Stay tuned to qnotes’ calendar of events, published in each print edition and online at goqnotes.com/calendar/ for more information. : :

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TOY holds grand opening event continued from page 4 been hosted by Holy Trinity Lutheran Church on The Plaza. Staff and youth alike said they loved the old space, but are looking forward to increased opportunities as the group grows and partners with close-by groups and businesses like the LGBT Community Center of Charlotte and Amelie’s Bakery, a Career center. File Photo coffee and pastry shop popular with staff and youth alike. The group plans to host more private counseling for youth and their families and will continue to build their relationship with PFLAG Charlotte, which will meet in one of the facility’s meeting rooms. The new space, said Time Out Youth Board

Chair Jeremy Carter, is the result of increased community support. “Our budget has grown through the generosity of the community,” Carter said. The new space will represent an increase in rent, but Carter said the group has made sure to keep costs low. Additionally, the increase will pay for a “space [that] expands many times the programs we offer and our ability to support youth,” he said. An open house for donors, volunteers and community members was held on Nov. 25. Most of the facility is reserved for youth-only when Time Out Youth is open, but staff said supporters and community members can still view the space by appointment. For more information, contact Time Out Youth at 704-344-8335 or visit timeoutyouth.org. : :

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disrespectful to yourself, you and he may need to have a letâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s compromise pow wow! (My cartoon sure shows you how it is in my world.)

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Open relationships vs. cheating Dear Trinity, Thereâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s no such thing as an open relationship. A relationship is a contract, a commitment and if that contract is broken, thereâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s no relationship. So, if my boyfriend came home after screwing around then told me he loved me, Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;d ram a pipe up his backside! Commitment Or Pipe, Kansas City, MO Dear Commitment Or Pipe, Did you know that some people have closed,

committed relationships like what youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re describing so gracefully, while others have open, committed relationships, which includes sex outside the relationship and that works gracefully for them. Talking to many folks in long, long-term relationships has exposed me to many ideas about relationships, opening my (closed) eyes. If you have an agreement to be monogamous, then you donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t have an open relationship. But, honey, if your partner one day does cheat, then hopefully youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ll love him enough to deal with it openly. Agreements change throughout a relationship, whether you or I like it or not! Hello Trinity, My boyfriend loves me, but wants me to be things Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;m not â&#x20AC;&#x201D; like doing or watching lots of sports. I donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t enjoy them, but I do it for him. Lately, he keeps insisting that my pleasure of shopping or people watching in malls is something he wants me to stop. Will he ever let me be me? I Gotta Be Me, Dallas, TX Hello I Gotta Be Me, Sure, when one becomes two, thereâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s a little give and take â&#x20AC;&#x201D; sometimes, pumpkin, even a lot. Always be flexible, but if you start being

Dearest Trinity, Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ve been living in Montreal, Canada, three years and Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;m American. The gay men here are tres gorgeous, but no personality like in the states. Help! Montreal Men, Montreal, QC Dearest Montreal Men, Americans do have an open spirit that may lack amongst some beautiful Quebecois gays. Why do you think the Webster Dictionary puts looks and personality 370 pages apart! Darling, keep meeting people and eventually youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ll find a Quebecoisâ&#x20AC;Świth American descent. Hey Trinity, Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;m dating a guy who drives like a maniac. How do I get him to drive carefully when Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;m in the car without sounding like a neurotic date? Driving Complaints, Cincinnati, OH Hey Driving Complaints, Some people forget theyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re on a date, trying to impress someone, not racing in the Daytona 500. So, sweetie, besides offering to drive (for the rest of your lives together), try emailing him these tips: Trinityâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Slow Tips For Driving With A Date â&#x20AC;&#x2021; 1. No tailgating. Itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s guaranteed to scare your date! One car length for every 10 mph, please!

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â&#x20AC;&#x2021; 2. N o road raging. Having to listen to someone screaming and driving is as awful as being beheaded in the name of Allah! â&#x20AC;&#x2021; 3. No speeding. It always makes someone feel like theyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ve been kidnapped! â&#x20AC;&#x2021; 4. No breaking the law. If youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re trying to impress a date, running lights and stop signs definitely wonâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t do it! â&#x20AC;&#x2021; 5. No talking on the cellphone. Not even your loving mother wants to watch you drive and chat. Plus, youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re on a date, which means turn off the cellphone! â&#x20AC;&#x2021; 6. No driving offensively. It makes your passengers fear for their lives! â&#x20AC;&#x2021; 7. However, do drive patiently, like you have a famous person in the car. Your date will feel comfortable, at ease and feel like you care. â&#x20AC;&#x2021; 8. Do drive defensively. Let others make mistakes around you without having to prove something. A date is a time to act light, peaceful and forgiving! â&#x20AC;&#x2021; 9. D o wear your seatbelt. It makes you look responsible. 10. A nd, lastly, do remember, a car is a weapon that can kill you and your date, who is just trying to get to know you, not trying to share a funeral with you! info: With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinity hosted â&#x20AC;&#x153;Spiritually Speaking,â&#x20AC;? a weekly radio drama performed globally, and is now minister of sponsor, WIG: Wild Inspirational Gatherings, wigministries.org. Learn more at telltrinity.com.

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Naughty & Nice Unitarian Universalist Church of Charlotte 234 N. Sharon Amity Rd., Charlotte One Voice Chorus is making its list and checking it twice to make everything perfect for this year’s holiday concert. As the name implies, you can expect both traditional and not-sotraditional Christmas fare at this event. Performances on Dec. 6 and 7, 7:30 p.m. and Dec. 6, 2 p.m. Tickets are $20 in advance and $25 at the door for evening performances and $15 advance, $20 at the door and $5 for youth under 18 for the Dec. 6, 2 p.m. performance. Purchase tickets online. onevoicechorus.com

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Charlotte Santa Speedo Run SEP DEC Brief 1426 S. Tryon St., Charlotte 11:30 a.m. Brief, Drake Dentistry of Charlotte, Eat the Bear and BenfieldWise! host Charlotte’s very own Santa Speedo Run. The inaugural event is inspired by fellow Santa speedo runners in Boston and elsewhere. The 1.5 mile fun run will take participants through Historic South End. This year’s beneficiary is the Crohn’s and Colitis Foundation. Registration is $25 per person. For more information, contact Dan Mauney at 704-906-6531 or email danmauney@gmail.com. facebook.com/ CharlotteSantaSpeedoRun

Winter Comes Anew SEP DEC Greensboro Day School, Charlotte 5401 Lawndale Dr., Greensboro 8 p.m. Triad Pride Men’s Chorus hosts their annual holiday concert with new artistic director William Southerland. $15/advance. $20/door. triadpridemenschorus.org

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The Gay Men’s Chorus of Charlotte hosts its winter holiday concert. Performances on Dec. 13, 8:04 p.m., and Dec. 14, 3:04 p.m. and 8:04 p.m. Tickets available online. gmccharlotte.org

Twirl to the World SEP DEC Cathode Azure 1820 South Blvd., Charlotte 9 p.m. Just Twirl hosts its annual holiday dance charity party, with proceeds benefiting Time Out Youth and Novant Health Hemby Children’s Hospital. Admission is minimum suggested donation of $10 and a new, unwrapped toy or $20. Event is 21+. justtwirl.com –––––––––––––––––––– Winter Comes Anew Hanesbrands Theatre, Winston-Salem Milton Rhodes Arts Center 209 N. Spruce St., Winston-Salem 8 p.m. Triad Pride Men’s Chorus hosts a second performance of it annual holiday concert with new artistic director William Southerland. $15/advance. $20/door. triadpridemenschorus.org

Recurring Charlotte Events: PRISM Young Adults: Weekly discussion held each Monday, 5 p.m.-7:30 p.m. For young adults ages 18-25. LGBT Community Center of Charlotte. lgbtcharlotte.org. Men’s Yoga: Weekly yoga sessions for men hosted by certified instructor. Each Monday, 7:308:30 p.m. LGBT Community Center of Charlotte. Time Out Youth: Weekly support and discussion groups, Tuesday-Thursday, 6:30-8:30 p.m. Monthly group for youth ages 11-14. timeoutyouth.org. MeckPAC: Monthly meeting of local LGBT political action committee. First Tuesdays of each month, 6:30-8 p.m. LGBT Community Center of Charlotte. StillOut Photography: Local LGBT photography club. Meets monthly on fourth Tuesdays, 7-8:30 p.m. LGBT Community Center of Charlotte. facebook.com/StillOutPhotography. Friends Indeed: Men’s depression support group. Every other Tuesday, 6:30-8 p.m. LGBT Community Center of Charlotte.

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Winter Concert SEP DEC Temple Beth El 5101 Providence Rd., Charlotte 3 p.m. Charlotte Pride Band and its small ensembles present a special and free holiday concert. charlotteprideband.org –––––––––––––––––––– Benefit Party LGBT Community Center of Charlotte 2508 N. Davidson St., Charlotte 6 p.m. Holly J Events presents a special jazz and neo-soul concert benefiting the children and family of Antionette Baker. The holiday-themed concert will include Indigo Blu, The Bakers 6 (Baker’s children), Tanya Ross, Anwan Edge and hostess Monica Rae Simpson. Complimentary food and drinks. $20 advance tickets online. Free admission for children. eventbrite.com/e/jazz-and-neosoul-christmas-concert-tickets8269059981?aff=es2&rank=1&sid=adae 50ba4f5d11e391b512313b049561

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Christmas Day qnotes wishes everyone a cheery holiday season. Gather around the tree, have some egg nog and savor your time with friends and family. –––––––––––––––––––– Karaoke Christmas Petra’s 1919 Commonwealth Ave., Charlotte 9:30 p.m. Need a break from Christmas gatherings? De-stress on Christmas night. Petra’s dishes up $6 pitchers of Bud Light as you sing to your heart’s content. No cover charge. petraspianobar.com

Weekly HIV & Syphilis Testing: Hosted at the LGBT Community Center of Charlotte each Wednesday, 5-7 p.m. HIV Support Group: Open support group for men and women who are HIV-positive. Hosted second Wednesdays of each month, 6:30-7:30 p.m. Different Roads Home. differentroadshome.org. LGBTQ Adult Education and Discussion Group: Weekly on Thursdays, a safe place for LGBTQ adults to meet and discuss important issues and topics. Hosted at LGBT Community Center of Charlotte. Each Thursday, 6-8 p.m. PFLAG Charlotte: Monthly support group meeting. Second Thursday of each month, 7 p.m., Christ Episcopal Church. pflagcharlotte.org. Tradesmen: Monthly social meeting first Saturday of each month. 10 p.m.-2:30 a.m. The Woodshed Lounge. charlottetradesmen.org. Have a recurring weekly or monthly event, social, support or discussion group? Let us know. Submit your event at our online calendar at goqnotes.com/eventsubmit/.

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