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Naughty and Nice 2012 I’ve got my fine parchment paper, my inkwell filled with the finest purple ink and my fancy feather quill pen all ready to go. Yes, it is time for this year’s Naughty and Nice list, recounting the heroes, villains and foes of 2012. As soon as we’re done, we’ll ship it off express to the North Pole, in time, no doubt, to lobby jolly old St. Nick for the appropriate gifts these folks deserve. Lumps of coals or sugarplums, each of the people and groups on our Naughty and Nice list this year have reaped what they have sown. Naughty N.C. Values Coalition — Led by none other than perennial hate-group lobbyist Tami Fitzgerald, the N.C. Values Coalition successfully did what more than a decade of bumbling right-wing haters couldn’t, relying on the 2010 Republican takeover of the state’s legislature to accomplish it. Ultimately, in May,

their proposed anti-LGBT state constitutional amendment was passed by voters 61-39 percent. Fitzgerald and her motley crew of haters, like an eerie, insidious underworld version of Santa and his merry elves, crept their misinformation, division, prejudice and fear into nearly every North Carolina home. Speaker Thom Tillis — Launched into power by his focus on more moderate issues like job growth and the economy, Republican North Carolina Speaker of the House Thom Tillis kowtowed to the Republican Party’s far-right-wing zealots and bent over backward to please their desires for discrimination and prejudice. What’s more, he did it knowing it was wrong and ultimately doomed to failure. In March, he told students at North Carolina State University that if the amendment passed, it would “be repealed in 20 years.” For a man charged with faithfully serving the state’s people in government and for protect-

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Folks looking for signs that rational behavior and common sense might be slowly creeping back into the national political discussion must be at least a little encouraged these days. Noted Republican leaders in Washington and beyond are raising long overdue questions about the wisdom of the absurd no-tax pledge demanded of all conservatives by antigovernment zealot Grover Norquist that has helped paralyze meaningful budget discussions for years in Congress. A bipartisan group focusing on addressing the national debt is now holding events cross the country and in North Carolina where former Democratic Gov. Jim Hunt and former Republican Gov. Jim Holshouser are the headliners.

And President Barak Obama and congressional leaders are now negotiating an alternative to the looming fiscal cliff. None of this means partisan gridlock is over and there is plenty to worry about in the details of debt reduction plans and any fiscal cliff solution if one ultimately emerges. But at least there is a glimmer of hope that the absolute intransigence of Republicans in Washington has softened and they seem willing to reject the most extreme factions of their party. Sadly, none of that seems to be happening in North Carolina. Things here seem be headed in the opposite direction. Greensboro’s News & Record reports that House Speaker Thom Tillis seemed to suggest recently on his Facebook page that he is open

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ing and defending the Constitution of North Carolina, it’s shameful that Tillis showed exactly how little he understands about governing, about what a constitution actually is and what should or shouldn’t be included in one. Can you hear it, Thom, beckoning from ages past? “Prudence, indeed, will dictate that governments long established should not be changed for light and transient causes.” Nice Coalition to Protect all N.C. Families and Equality North Carolina — Though the campaign to defeat Amendment One was ultimately lost, LGBT North Carolinians have a slew of hard-working, committed and passionate people to thank this year. Coalition and Equality North Carolina staffers, along with hundreds of passionate progressive allies and volunteers, joined hand-in-hand to stand up against bigotry. Their defenses were admirable and have resulted in a far more well-networked movement for equality for all in the Tar Heel State. Progressives of all stripes came together to work side-byside. Now, after the amendment, these same progressives are still standing strong, united in their common cause of justice. A new movement is taking hold in our great state. As North Carolina NAACP President, Rev. Dr.

William J. Barber, II, has said, “We must have a 21st century fusion politics where we stand together not sometimes but all the time.” I couldn’t agree more. Pride Charlotte — As summer faded, the emotional amendment campaign of the spring in rearview, Charlotte’s LGBT community banded together in a show of force for the whole nation and world to see. Just one week before the start of the Democratic National Convention, organizers of this year’s Pride Charlotte Festival successfully submitted the facts of our strength, fortitude, perseverance and diversity to a candid world. I was among those organizers and volunteers who put so many hours, sweat, blood and tears into this year’s festival. I have met no other more committed and passionate people, some far more deserving of praise and recognition than me. Their commitment to raising the visibility and recognition of the LGBT community here paid off in unexpected and innumerable ways. George Washington once described Charlotte as “a trifling place,” but, oh, how things change in two centuries! No one can now doubt the size, resiliency and influence of our local LGBT community, as the Queen City received a community-wide celebration of LGBT Pride fit for its size and stature on the East Coast. : :

to the idea of nullification, the idea that states can refuse to obey federal law by declaring federal actions unconstitutional. That is a favorite position of the Tea Party and the states’ rights crowd, and as The News & Record’s Travis Fain reminds us, it was used by states refusing to abide by school desegregation decisions by the federal courts. Tillis asks readers of his Facebook Page if they would be interested in a “Town Hall on options for fighting the Federal Government’s encroachment of state’s rights.” That question came after Tillis raised the states’ rights issue in connection with the Affordable Care Act, saying,“With 30 republican Governors and 27 GOP-controlled State legislatures, we have never been better positioned to assert State’s rights.” And it’s not just Tillis. The speaker at the Dec. 6 meeting of the Charlotte Mecklenburg Republican Women’s club was right-wing talk show host and author Jason Lewis, perhaps best known for advocating for making it easier for states to secede from the Union.

The latest online poll from the Pope Civitas Institute asks readers if they think secession is a legitimate course of action for state government and if they would support it. A majority of folks who responded say they would indeed support secession. Maybe you can’t glean too much from folks who respond to online polls but you can certainly learn a lot about the folks who run them, based on the questions asked. The folks at Civitas apparently believe secession is worth discussing and despite their far-right views the group is well connected with Republican leaders. Tillis’ own chief of staff used to work at Civitas. Some national Republicans may have decided that hanging out on the far-right fringe doesn’t help their political party or the country, but the folks running the show in North Carolina apparently do not agree or don’t care. Further to the extreme right we go. : : — Chris Fitzsimon is the executive director at N.C. Policy Watch, ncpolicywatch.com.

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Cities receive average scores Carolinas cities among 137 cities and towns ranked by Human Rights Campaign by Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.com

CHARLOTTE – LGBT activists across the country now have their first comprehensive tool to track and measure non-discrimination and other equality initiatives at the local level. In November, the Human Rights Campaign released their first-ever Municipal Equality Index, tracking local anti-discrimination ordinances and other achievements in 137 cities and towns across the U.S. Eleven of the 137 cities ranked by the organization received scores of 100, including New York City, Los Angeles, Philadelphia, Seattle and San Francisco. Forty-four cities in the South were ranked, though none there received a perfect 100. Austin, Texas, ranked the highest with 91 points, followed by Fort Worth, Texas, with 89, Baltimore, Md., with 88 and Atlanta with 82. Charlotte received 39 points, with Raleigh netting 43 and Durham 37. Columbia received a score of 40. The average across the south was 44.77. HRC said it researched small and large cities in each of the 50 states, including each of the 50 state capitals, the nation’s 50 most populous cities and 75 large, mid-size and small cities and towns with the highest proportion of same-sex couples. Lead researcher Cathryn Oakley, HRC’s legislative counsel for state and municipal advocacy, said the index represents months of study. “The research started in May and the research deadline was mid-to-late September,” Oakley said. “Anything that happened after that is not reflected, good or bad, in any of the scores.” The rankings for each city include a variety of criteria, including non-discrimination policies for employees, non-discrimination laws, domestic partner benefits and other legal and policy matters. The national group also awarded bonus

points for achievements like openly LGBT elected or appointed officials. The bonus points, said HRC, were a fair way to enhance scores for cities that have made progress outside of traditional legal means, especially if cities are in states with hostile legal climates or sometimes lack the legal authority to make changes on their own. HRC also said the scores were not meant to reflect quality of life, but rather only the current legal and policy environment on LGBT equality issues. “We also gave every city an opportunity to respond to the scorecard if there was anything they believe needed to be different,” said Oakley. Charlotte was not one of the cities which decided to respond to the document. Oakley said the city’s scorecard was sent to Mayor Anthony Foxx’s office. Oakley said updates can still be made to the document, though the group hasn’t yet made the decision whether updated scores will be immediately available in the index’s accompanying online database or if updates will be saved for next year’s publication. Activists in some cities have noted slight discrepancies. Charlotte was awarded four points for possessing an ordinance requiring private businesses contracting with the city to offer equal health and other benefits to same-sex couples. Though that ordinance doesn’t exist, Charlotte’s lost four points could be replaced by an additional 14 points not initially assessed for the city, including for domestic partner health benefits, legal dependant benefits and equivalent family leave. If updated, Charlotte’s score could jump from 39 to 49. Raleigh was given five points for having a mayoral LGBT liaison or office. That position doesn’t exist, though the Raleigh Police Department does have an LGBT liaison and the

city appointed an openly gay man to its human relations commission. If updated, Raleigh’s score could jump from 43 to at least 47. Activists in Columbia also noted some concerns, including missing points for LGBT-inclusive public accommodations and housing ordinances in Richland County and the inclusion of gender identity in similar city ordinances. An update could push Columbia’s score to up to 46. If the county ordinances are included, Columbia’s score could reach 58, ranking it higher than the three North Carolina cities assessed by HRC. Oakley said HRC is open to working with local activists to update the scores. Documentation can be submitted online and questions can be directed to mei@hrc.org. Despite some initial discrepancies, HRC said the index “articulates a path forward and celebrates the cities doing this important work.” Others have said it sets an initial benchmark for continued local advocacy efforts. You can read the full Municipal Equality Index report, accompanying documentation and search an online database at hrc.org/mei. : : more: Read a more in-depth report on the Municipal Equality Index and its rankings for Carolinas cities online at goqnotes.com/ mei2012/. : :

Southern cites ranked by HRC Charlotte, Raleigh, Durham and Columbia were among several southern cities ranked by the Human Rights Campaign. Scores from these cities in the South (as defined by the U.S. Census Bureau) below: Austin, Texas......................................................... 91 Raleigh, N.C........................................................ 43 Fort Worth, Texas................................................. 89 Dover, Del.............................................................. 41 Baltimore, Md....................................................... 88 Tulsa, Okla............................................................. 41 Atlanta, Ga............................................................. 82 Columbia, S.C.................................................... 40 Orlanda, Fla........................................................... 77 Louisville, Ken....................................................... 40 Dallas, Texas......................................................... 76 Charlotte, N.C.................................................. 39 Arlington, Va.......................................................... 74 Durham, N.C....................................................... 37 Miami, Fla.............................................................. 72 Hollywood, Fla...................................................... 36 Alexandria, Va. ..................................................... 68 Miami Shores, Fla................................................ 34 Annapolis, Md....................................................... 66 Decatur, Ga............................................................ 27 Tampa, Fla.............................................................. 66 Oklahoma City, Okla............................................. 26 Charleston, W.Va.................................................. 62 Memphis, Tenn..................................................... 22 Ft. Lauderdale, Fla. .............................................. 62 Little Rock, Ark...................................................... 17 Wilton Manors, Fla.............................................. 62 Virginia Beach, Va............................................... 17 Oakland Park, Fla................................................. 54 Arlington, Texas.................................................... 16 Rehoboth Beach, Del.......................................... 53 Jacksonville, Fla................................................... 15 Houston, Texas..................................................... 52 North Druid Hills, Ga............................................ 15 Nashville, Tenn..................................................... 50 Richmond, Va........................................................ 15 El Paso, Texas....................................................... 49 Avondale Estates, Ga............................................ 8 San Antonio, Texas.............................................. 48 Jackson, Miss......................................................... 8 St. Petersburg, Fla............................................... 46 Frankfort, Ken......................................................... 0 Tallahassee, Fla.................................................... 46 Montgomery, Ala................................................... 0

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Learn how to say ‘no’ CHARLOTTE — A multi-location event revolving around the critically-acclaimed “Bully” documentary film will be held in the Queen City in January through Joined In Education and the Jewish Federation of Greater Charlotte. It is being sponsored by The Leon Levine Foundation, the Duke Energy Foundation, the Gorelick Foundation and others. On Jan. 15, join director Lee Hirsch (pictured) and view cuts from the director’s chair at Knight Theatre, 430 S. Tryon St., at 7:30 p.m. A dessert reception will follow. Tickets are $45/person. A pre-reception will precede the evening’s program at 6 p.m. Cost to attend is $250/ person, $360/couple. The following day is chocked full of events all day long at the Levine Jewish Community Center at Shalom Park, 5007 Providence Rd. At 9:30 a.m., internationally-recognized author Barbara Coloroso (pictured) will deliver a keynote address, “Creating an environment of caring at home & at school.” This is suitable for parents of children of all ages. Parents and teachers can choose between “What do I need to know about cyber bullying” and “When is bullying really bullying, or is this just normal kid behavior?” workshops being presented at 11 a.m. Another workshop, “The preschool dilemma — at home & at school,” begins at 1:30 p.m. followed by another keynote, “Change in the Classroom,” at 3:15 p.m. The day ends with a choice of three workshops at 4:15 p.m.: “Middle school madness;” “High school conversations that lead to change;” and “The Responsive Classroom — Bullyproofing your classroom.” Sessions are open to parents, teachers, administrators, counselors and community members. Cost is $75 for the morning or afternoon sessions or $125 for the entire day. Lunch can be purchased onsite. To purchase tickets or for more information, email info@joinedineducation.org or visit joinedineducation.org. — L.M.

Charlotte Nuns to hit Blumenthal stage

CHARLOTTE — Out on the Town (OOTT), the LGBT theater social group available through the North Carolina Blumenthal Performing Arts Center’s Duke Energy Broadway Lights Series, has announced that it will host an exclusive pre-show party in the lounge at Ovens Auditorium, 2700 E. Independence Blvd., before the performance of “Sister Act” on Jan. 10.

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The party is slated from 6-7:30 p.m., with the show following at 7:30 p.m. Members of OOTT can obtain a $20 discount on ticket prices on PL1 (rear orchestra) and PL2 (mezzanine) at this special performance. They are available through Blumenthal with promotional code “SISTER9” only. Visit blumenthalarts.org/default. asp?id=50&objId=17 to obtain seats. Over the next several months, the club will attend other special performances just for members. They include: “Fela,” Feb. 25,

pre-show party, location TBD; “American Idiot,” March 8, post-show party, location TBD; “Wicked,” March 14, pre-show party at Ovens; “Traces,” May 9, post-show party, location TBD; “War Horse,” May 30, pre-show party, location TBD; and “Catch Me If You Can,” June 7, post-show party, location TBD. For more information on OOTT, send name, email address and address to outonthetown@ ncbpac.org. — L.M.

client/donor relations, Spanish fluency and knowledge of QuickBooks or SalesForce. Interested applicants should send a detailed resume, cover letter and brief writing sample by email to hr@lgbtcenterofraleigh. com or by mail to: Attn: Human Resources, LGBT Center of Raleigh, 411 Hillsborough St., Raleigh, NC, 27603. The application deadline is Dec. 31, 2012. See a more in-depth job listing at idealist.org/view/job/33jpwGW67WxNp/. — M.C.

HRC seeks equality leaders

Holidays bring fun

CHARLOTTE — The Human Rights Campaign North Carolina Gala has announced that it is accepting scholarship nominations for its Feb. 23 gala at the Charlotte Convention Center. Individuals and organizations will be recognized for their work in furthering LGBT civil rights progress during the festivities. Deadline for consideration is Dec. 31. In others news, tickets are now on sale. Organizers expect more than 1,300 to attend the black-tie fundraiser. Corporate sponsors include: Bank of America, presenting sponsor; Duke Medicine; CISCO; Blue Cross Blue Shield; Compass Group; Chris Connelly Defense; and Northwest Family Physicians. For applications, tickets or more information, visit hrccarolina.org. — L.M.

Triangle Center seeks new staffer

RALEIGH — The LGBT Center of Raleigh announced on Dec. 3 that it will begin searching for an individual to fill a new staff position. The center will hire an executive assistant to work with Executive Director James Miller. The position is part-time, with the possibility of full-time expansion in coming months. The new position will assist with duties ranging from development and marketing support to volunteer recruitment and education. Other duties will include administrative and clerical work, research and writing, assisting with executive director meeting and conference schedules, volunteer management, office management and other areas. Applicants should show strong administrative writing skills, reporting skills, scheduling skills, Microsoft Office skills and organization and time management. A four-year degree in marketing, communications or policy administration is preferred, along with comfort with

RALEIGH — The LGBT Center of Raleigh, 411 Hillsborough St., has a host of activities to fill the festive season ahead. On Dec. 9, put on those dancing shoes and head out to The Bar, 711 Rigsbee Ave., 3-7 p.m., for a holiday t-dance. A $5 contribution is suggested at the door with proceeds going to the center. The Gay & Gray crew are holding their holiday potluck on Dec. 15, 5-9 p.m., at the center. Enjoy the camaraderie along with live entertainment. This event is being held in conjunction with Primetimers and Silver Roses. For more information or to attend, email Les Geller at lgeller@lgbtcenterofraleigh.com. Want a place to hang out on Christmas day? Then head out to the center for their open house from Noon-6 p.m. on Dec. 25. Hang out and enjoy the fellowship. On Dec. 28, 6:30-8:30 p.m., the center will hold “Embracing Uncontrolled Love,” an affirming faith forum. Join with leaders from the community at this forum to energize faith to act for the common good in practical ways. Joining in this event is especially significant now when anti-LGBT hate based religious rhetoric threatens LGBT lives and well being. For more information on these or other programs or events, visit lgbtcenterofraleigh.com. — L.M.

Author releases book

RALEIGH — Gay Christian Network founder and executive director Justin Lee recently published his book, “Torn, Rescuing the Gospel from the Gays vs.Christians Debate.” This piece tells the 15-year story of the writer to “understand both sides of the gay debate — from bullied teens to ministry leader scandals, from churches to gay bars — and, ultimately, to find a way to bring us back together.”

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News Notes continued from page 6 His discoveries are chronicled, especially the ones that shocked his foundation, as well as the heartbreaking ones as well. He explored and examined how to make the situation right amidst the controversy. “Torn” rips at the fabric of divisiveness and offers both sides a way to approach this from an honest, realistic and compassionate perspective. Published by Jericho Books, it is available through book dealers and online in paper and electronic formats.

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To purchase “Torn,” visit tornbook.com. In other news, the organization is still accepting reservations for its “Oasis” conference being held Jan. 10-13, 2013 in Phoenix, Ariz. Visit gaychristian.net to learn more. — L.M.

Petition set for GSA

RALEIGH — Jenna Travis, a student at LeRoy Martin GT Magnet Middle School, started a petition online to help bring a gaystraight alliance (GSA) to her campus. It seems that she and her friends tried to get the school to allow the formation of the GSA previously to which her grade’s counsel-

Regional Queers trek across U.S.

ATLANTA — North Carolina photographer Keith Bailey has launched his cross-country journey “Queer Across America,” with the pilot shooting taking place in Augusta, Ga., as qnotes hits the streets on Dec. 8. The threeday filming will be followed by other filmings in Atlanta before Christmas and then up to Charlotte, N.C., in January, ProjectQAtlanta. com reports. A group of highly diverse gay men “visit

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Backstage is located at 2005 Central Ave. New to Plaza-Midwood by way of Asheville’s Lexington Ave., Backstage is a tribute to the performing arts through vintage glam apparel, collectibles, accessories and antiques. “To die for” floor-length sequined, beaded gowns, embellished tailcoats and elegant top hats are among owner J.B. Craycraft’s original designs. Every decade of the 20th century is represented in the store. This includes authentic pieces from the Titanic era, the Roaring ’20s, 1930s formalwear and smoking jackets, 1940s WWII military uniforms, 1950s varsity jackets and poodle shirts, 1960s “Dating Game” sports jackets, 1970s disco and 1980s over-the-top glam. Glittering vintage rhinestone jewelry (“they don’t make ‘em like they usta”) and unique, original necklaces, bracelets, rings and ear wear abound in the large ceiling-to-floor lighted case. Don’t forget to ask for the vintage and retro eyeglass frames. Shaving mugs and brushes, straight razors and mustache cups with soaps fill the antique bow-glass curio. Flasks, naughty whiskey jugs, martini shakers, hand-carved exotic pipes next to the absinthe spoons, pocket watches, cuff links, cigarette holders and cigarette cases shine out from the tall corner curio cabinet. Unique to Backstage — “Everything is for sale, everything is for rent and we have a 30-day layaway,” says J.B. “You don’t have to spend a fortune to step out in suave, vintage style.” Backstage is a must-see, opulent eye-full of outrageous theatrical drama, fun and frolic. It is open Wednesday-Sunday, Noon to 6-7 p.m. and by appointment on Monday-Tuesday. Call 704-376-4300 for more information.

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or commented, “it would lead to inappropriate conversations about sex,” and turned the request down. As of press time she had over 200 signatures and was planning on reaching out to a school administrator again. qnotes will follow up in a subsequent issue once we have found out the outcome of the petition and request. To view the petition’s language, visit change.org/petitions/leroy-martin-gt-magnetmiddle-school-s-student-services-allowthe-students-to-start-and-manage-a-gaystraight-alliance. — L.M.

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goqnotes.com/to/news gay and decidedly un-gay sites, attend events, do charity work, and educate themselves and others about gay life in America.” Among the members of the troupe are Bailey (bear, Gastonia, N.C.), Quinton Link (twink, Lincolnton, N.C.), Bethann Phetamine (drag, Charlotte, N.C.), Charlie Harding and partner Scotty Rage (adult porn and performance personalities, Atlanta, Ga.), Chandler Bearden (AIDS activist, Atlanta, Ga.), Matt Colunga (body builder, Atlanta, Ga.) and Josh Lesser (a Reconstructionist rabbi and former student rabbi at Charlotte’s Havurat Tikvah congregation, Atlanta, Ga.). The eclectic group will also travel to New Orleans, La., Cleveland, Ohio, Phoenix, Ariz., New York, N.Y., and Las Vegas, Nev. Depending on the shows success, it may also venture outside the U.S., continuing its exploration. Contributions are being accepted online to fund the project at indiegogo.com/queer acrossamerica. To learn more, visit facebook. com/pages/Queer-Across-America/5534566480 02350?fref=ts. — L.M.

National ‘Ex-gay’ agency sued for fraud

NEW YORK, N.Y. — The Southern Poverty Law Center, joined by the law firms of Cleary Gottlieb Steen & Hamilton LLP and Lite DePalma Greenberg, LLC, filed a lawsuit Nov. 27 against Jews Offering New Alternatives for Healing (JONAH), its founder, Arthur Goldberg

(pictured) and a counselor, Alan Downing, for peddling conversion therapy services, a dangerous and discredited practice that fraudulently claims to convert people from gay to straight. The lawsuit, filed in the Superior Court of New Jersey, charges that the defendants violated New Jersey’s Consumer Fraud Act through fraudulent and deceptive claims that their counseling services could cure customers of being gay. These fraudulent and deceptive claims include so-called scientific methods invented by Joseph Nicolosi, founder of the National Association of Research and Therapy of Homosexuality (NARTH), the leading secular organization promoting conversion therapy. The lawsuit is the first of its kind to directly sue a conversion therapy provider for fraudulent practices. It describes how the plaintiffs — four young men, three of whom are New York residents, and two of their parents — were lured into JONAH’s services through deceptive commercial practices. — D.S.

Text to raise AIDS memorial funds

SAN FRANCISCO, Calif. — People from around the world commemorated World AIDS Day on Dec. 1. The National AIDS Memorial and AT&T marked the day with the launch of a major month-long campaign to help raise

awareness and funding for programs that support the nation’s AIDS memorial. Through a text-to-donate campaign called “A Time For Hope; A Time for Healing,” AT&T is making it possible for any mobile subscriber regardless of carrier to text the word “HEAL” to 501501 to make a $10 charitable donation to the National AIDS Memorial. All donations to the text-to-donate campaign will support the National AIDS Memorial year-round mission to honor and pay tribute to those who have lost their lives to HIV/AIDS; continue to create and maintain a permanent memorial grove located in San Francisco as a place for healing; and expand youth awareness and scholarship programs to inspire the next generation of leaders to help find a cure for the pandemic, now in its 30th year. — D.S.

West Point wedding makes history

WEST POINT, N.Y. — Army Veteran and OutServe-SLDN Board member Brenda S. “Sue” Fulton married her longtime girlfriend Penelope Dara Gnesin on Dec. 1 in the first same-sex ceremony held at West Point Cadet Chapel. Fulton, a member of the first West Point class to include women in 1980, now serves as a presidential appointee to its Board of Visitors. She is also the executive director of Knights Out, an organization of LGBT West Point graduates and allies. “West Point holds special significance to both me and Penny,” said Fulton “From the time I was a cadet, what West Point stands

for — integrity, leadership, selfless service — have been my touchstones. When Penny and I worked on ending ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell,’ we kept coming back to the core value of integrity, and that’s what made a difference. To be able to legalize our union here, especially at the Cadet Chapel, is really important to us.” — D.S.

Global Deadly anti-gay bill set to advance

KAMPALA, Uganda — Any day now, conservative lawmakers in the Ugandan Parliament are expected to vote on the socalled “Kill the Gays” bill that would make being LGBT a crime punishable by life imprisonment and even death. Further, the current version of the bill would send parents, teachers and landlords to jail if they fail to report children, students and renters who are gay. Because the measure is supported by the speaker of Parliament, global human rights observers say the only way it can be stopped is through international pressure on Uganda’s President Yoweri Museveni to veto the bill. Opponents of the measure in the U.S. have blasted anti-gay, right-wing leaders Tony Perkins, president of the Family Research Council, and Bryan Fischer, head of the American Family Association, for praising the bill as a stand for traditional Christian values while ignoring the grievous sentences it would impose. — D.S.

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Playing the field Match-ups from across the Carolinas: An end to season play by Jon Hoppel :: qnotes contributor

Season’s greetings from your qnotes sports staff! We hope everyone enjoys their time with friends and family this December, even if it’s to wait out the Mayan apocalypse hunkered down in a bunker somewhere. For those throwing caution into the wind and ignoring the prophecies, here is what went down this past November in the Charlotte sports scene.

were unable to overcome them. The game ended 10-7 in favor of Guilford, ending Charlotte’s hopes of an unblemished record. Next, Guilford College took on TRRC, an experienced and talented side from Morganton, N.C. The game got away from Guilford early, clearly showing fatigue from the very physical match against Charlotte. TRRC won easily over the young squad, 40-0, barely allowing Guilford to cross midfield. The tournament’s finale pitted Charlotte versus TRRC in a clash between two teams who know each other well, with the Royals trying to earn their first victory over the well-balanced and experienced squad. But, despite their best efforts, Charlotte was unable to stop TRRC’s back line at any point during the game and watched them run roughshod through their defense, scoring easily and often. The victory for TRRC was never in doubt, winning with a final tally of 63-0. Despite these two losses, the Royals had a very successful season, finishing with a winning record and achieving a greater participation than ever before. Ending the season the way they did, fighting and playing hard despite being unable to pull out vicD-E-F-E-N-S-E! Was the cry on the field between the Charlotte Royals tories, should definitely give the team and the Nashville Grizzlies as the Royals tried to hold back Grizzlies’ more focus and outline things they can Jimmy Arredondo. approve on before next season, which they hope will be even better! Rugby The Charlotte Royals entered the month of November Softball undefeated, with three home games left in their season. The Carolina Softball Association finished their season The first match was Nov. 3rd versus the Nashville Grizzlies, on Nov. 18th with their end of the season tournament. Four a rematch from earlier in the season in which the Royals teams competed for the championship in the one-day squeaked out a 25-15 victory on the road. However, on event held at Veterans Park. Game 1 pitted the second this day, there would be no doubt who would win the and third seeded teams against each other, who finished game from the opening whistle. Charlotte jumped out to the season with identical 5-4 records. However, the game early lead with two quick scores from Danny Wadsworth wasn’t nearly as close as those records would lead you to and David June in the first 10 minutes. From there, the believe. Team Stan (3 seed) got out to a big lead early over Royals never looked back, getting a 0-40 lead at halftime. the Carolina Jackets (2 seed) and kept it rolling through all Nashville was never able to get any offensive flow going 7 innings, winning with a margin of 30-8. due to Charlotte’s swarming defense led by JT Wentz and The second game, and by far the most entertaining Garrett Jordan from the forward positions. The second one of the day, had Team Hoppie (4 seed) taking on Team was more of a grind, with the Royals stepping off the Possum (1 seed). These two teams had polar opposite peddle some with their substantial lead, but finished the seasons, with team Hoppie going 1-8 and Team Possum contest strong, earning a well-deserved 0-67 win over a winning the regular season with a record of 7-2. But, good, although undermanned Grizzlies team. that didn’t stop the underdog team Hoppie from giving Box Score: David June (20 pts.), Danny Wadsworth (17 the top seed all they could handle from inning one. Team pts.), Arthur Milne (10 pts.), Jon Hoppel (10 pts.), Cody Possum was able to chip away at the 12-run deficit they Webb (5 pts.), Garrett Jordan (5 pts.) faced. And, after a couple late inning errors by the other Men of the Match: Arthur Milne, David June team, they were able to steal the win, 12-15. To wrap up their season, the Royals hosted a mini-tourIn the final, team Stan was unable to keep their hot nament between themselves, Guilford College and Table bats going, only able to tally 11 runs against the favored Rock Rugby Club (TRRC) on Nov. 17th. Charlotte was look1 seed. Propelled by the powerful hitting of Andrew ing to go undefeated for the first time ever in their team’s Mckenna and basehitting of Katie Gies, Team Possum history. First they took on the young and quick Guilford got early runs on the scoreboard. And, with John College team, a team they were looking to overpower with Rukavina holding down the outfield with stellar play, size and experience. team Stan never could mount a rally, losing 11-17. CSA This game ended up being a battle to the very would like to thank everyone who came out and played end, with the Royals hanging on to a 0-7 lead with 10 and cheered on the league this season. For informaminutes to play. But a couple of costly turnovers in tion on when the spring season will start, check their their end lead to two scores for Guilford and the Royals website at carolinasoftball.org.: :

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Winter excursions in North Carolina Close-to-home holiday events and winter ski travel by Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.com

The Gate House at Biltmore Photo Credit: anoldent via Flickr. Licensed Creative Commons.

Winter is on its way. With it comes the expected cold weather and the doldrums of bleak, gray skies. Kids look forward to snow and days out of school. Grown-ups look toward breaking the monotony of the coldest, darkest part of the year. Whether you’re a winter lover or the I-can’t-wait-until-spring-and-summer-returns kind of person, there’s plenty to keep you occupied this season. Holiday outings If you’re in the mood to brighten up your day with some holiday cheer before December ends, check out these great events and destinations: ‘The Nutcracker’ Winston-Salem uncsa.edu/nutcracker 336-721-1945 Join the University of North Carolina School of the Art’s annual production of “The Nutcracker” at downtown Winston-Salem’s Stevens Center on Dec. 9-16. A Tryon Palace Christmas New Bern tryonpalace.org/christmas.php 800-767-1560 Enjoy the sights and sounds of an 18th century Christmas in the rebuilt royal governor’s mansion and the first state legislative building in North Carolina’s first state capital, New Bern. Activities have been running since Nov. 23 and continue through Jan. 5, including concerts, tours, storytelling, a masquerade ball and a Twelfth Night party on Jan. 5. National Gingerbread House Competition and Display Asheville groveparkinn.com 1-800-438-0050, ext. 1281 This national competition brings contestants from across the country. Their architectural, gingerbread masterpieces have been on display since Nov. 20. The display runs through Jan. 2. Held at the Grove Park Inn Resort and Spa. Free and open to the public.

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heater Charlotte is presenting “The Foreigner” from Jan. 25 - Feb. 10. The play revolves around a couple of Englishmen, Charlie Baker and Staff Sgt. Froggy LeSueur visiting a fishing lodge in Georgia. This comedy is full of intrigue as Charlie wants to just be left alone, so they feign that he does not know a word of English. He has to keep up the ruse as he hears the secrets and gossip of the local townsfolk in this classic comedy by Larry Shue. “The Foreigner” was the inspiration for a winter wardrobe of English-inspired looks for the holiday season. British style is trademarked with slim cuts, skinny pants and checked patterns. Military-inspired details are a classic winter staple of epaulets, double breasted jackets, chest pockets and heavy wools. A very special thanks to Fidel Montoya and Keith Alyea of Silverfly Men’s Boutique located in the Metropolitan at 1111 Metropolitan Ave., Suite 150 (silverflybrands.com). Thanks also to Caroline Cook of FROCK Shop for the use of her new shop space, opening in January 2013 at 901 Central Ave. (frockshoprevival.com). Styling and Model: Daniel Stroupe • Photography: David Lari

Check Jacket: Penguin, $225.00 Shirt: Ben Sherman, $125.00 Both available at Silverfly Men’s Boutique Pants: Odin New York for Target, available at target.com: $30.00 Belt: Gucci, available at gucci.com, $340.00 Tie: Banana Republic, $65.00 Devon Aire Nouvelle Riding Boot: Dover Saddlery, doversaddlery.com, $169.95

Camel Topcoat with Velour Trim: Ben Sherman, $495.00 “Brixton” Jean: Joe’s, $158.00 both available at Silverfly Men’s Boutique Cashmere Scarf: Louis Vuitton, louisvuitton.com, $640.00 Grey Polo: H&M, $6.99 Shoes: Saks 5th Avenue, available at Off 5th in Concord Mills, $75.00 Vintage Khaki Army Belt: Value Village, $2.00

Inset: Messenger Bag and Weekender: Ben Sherman, available at Silverfly Men’s Boutique, $175.00 each Vintage Military-style Wool Overcoat: Value Village, $9.99

Inset: Shawl-collared Sweater with Chord Detail: Ben Sherman, $150.00 “Russell” Jean: DL1961, $178.00 both available at Silverfly Men’s Boutique

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Holiday-time recipes stir entertaining inspiration A dinner and dessert fit for your December party-hosting activities by Cecelia Thompson :: ModMealsonMendenhall.com

Crowned pork roast over brussels sprout potato hash Are you looking for a simple, seasonal, elegant and colorful meal for holiday dinner parties this December? This might be it! I’d like to say I’m selfless — testing out new recipes over Thanksgiving instead of cooking a traditional turkey — but, really, my family just doesn’t like turkey. This year we had a smaller crowd, so we didn’t go all out with lamb and rib roast. We bought a small(er) crowned pork roast that needed minimal TLC. You could brine this cut of pork, but really it will be juicy and tender without any advance preparation. That’s what is great about meat on the bone. I made up a simple honey, mustard and herb glaze for the meat and we roasted it to just medium. It was tender, juicy — and I’ll admit, there was some bone chewing (heck, it was just family!). With extra potatoes from a (very successful) Domino Potato experiment and some seasonal pick-ups from the market, I threw

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together a colorful and super easy hash to compliment the pork. You could add any root vegetable you have on hand but I’m a sucker for any brussels sprout this time of year. Purple potatoes would be a really fun addition if you can find them! So, have fun with this and experiment. If its colorful and cooked in bacon fat, your guest will most likely love it. Mustard, Honey and Herb Crusted Crowned Pork Roast Crowned Pork Roast (4 to 5 bone) 1 tablespoon Dijon mustard 1 tablespoon grain mustard 4 to 5 cloves of garlic confit — or roasted garlic 1 teaspoon fresh sage, minced 1 teaspoon fresh thyme, minced 2 tablespoons local honey salt and pepper olive oil

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Bring the pork roast to room temperature. In a food processor, combine mustards, garlic, herbs and honey. Taste for seasoning and add salt and pepper. Preheat the oven to 375 degrees. Season with salt and pepper. In a hot skillet with a splash of olive oil, sear and brown the roast on each side. Add the mustard, honey and herb mixture to the pork roast. Roast until the meat reaches an internal temperature of 160 degrees. Allow to rest and then cut between the bones to serve. Brussels Sprout and Potato Hash 1 package brussels sprouts, halved 3 sweet potatoes, cubed 3 Yukon gold potatoes, cubed 1 shallot, sliced 4 slices of bacon butter olive oil Preheat the oven to 400 degrees. Cook bacon in a large skillet. Remove bacon and keep fat in the pan. Meanwhile, microwave the sweet potatoes in a bowl for about 5 minutes or until tender. At this point, you want to sauté the sprouts and potatoes like you’re making hash browns. Add oil and butter as you need — remember butter adds flavor and oil raises the smoking-point. Sauté the brussels sprouts, sweet potatoes and yukon potatoes separately on medium high. Add the shallots when you have room. They will all cook at different speeds. Once everything is brown, put them all on a baking sheet, add the bacon back in, and cook until tender. •••••••••

Low Country Christmas bowl Another winter is coming to the southeast forcing all Southerners to reach for comfort foods and head towards the fireplace. And, what could be more comforting to a Southern girl than a big bowl of cheese grits? I think they even created a cliché acronym about it. This recipe for “Low Country Christmas Bowl” was inspired by a recipe collection titled “Comfort in a Bowl” in the January 2011 addition of Real Simple Magazine. Their recipe is a sautéed mixture of andouille sausage and collard greens over cheese grits. After a literal panic over the idea of purchasing and preparing collard greens (which questions the ”S” in my “GRITS”), I grabbed some baby spinach. I also added a couple of tomatoes and garlic cloves that I had around the kitchen. Low Country Christmas Bowl 1 cup low-fat milk 3/4 cup quick cooking grits 1 cup sharp cheddar cheese (or to taste)

1 tablespoon butter 12 ounces andouille sausage, sliced 2 garlic cloves, minced 2 shallots, sliced 2 roma tomatoes, quartered 1 red bell pepper, sliced 1 bag of baby spinach salt

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In a large cast iron skillet, saute the sliced andouille sausage over medium high-until crispy. Move the sausage to the side, lower the flame to medium and add garlic and shallot. Saute until slightly soft and add the tomatoes and peppers. Meanwhile, bring the milk and a pinch of salt to a boil. Whisk in the grits on low heat about 6 minutes until soft and creamy. Add the butter and cheese. Taste for seasoning (at this point, you will be tempted to add more cheese — and I don’t blame you)! Once the

sausage and vegetable mixture is soft, add the spinach and allow to wilt. Serve hot on top of piping hot cheese grit! ••••••••• Salted dark chocolate and pecan pie You know the father character in the movie “My Big Fat Greek Wedding” that believes that Windex can cure anything? I find it so

funny that almost every paternal figure identifies with a cure-all. For my grandfather it’s Noxzema. We practically bathed in the stuff as kids. He claimed it would cure any wound, burn or bug bite — not to mention blemish! I’m not sure it worked, but I have very few scares from my days spent in his home on the Withlachochee River. This Thanksgiving my Dad may have found his cure-all in edible format — golden syrup. The man would not stop talking about it! He recently saw a television show hosted by Alton Brown about golden syrup and, thank god, found a jar at the Harris Teeter or I’m not sure what we would have done! Golden syrup is basically a sweetener like corn syrup but made from cane sugar. It’s a great replacement for honey — although I’m not sure why anyone would want to substitute honey. The best way to describe the flavor difference is by tasting an American Coca-Cola and a Mexican Coca-Cola — you’ll be able to tell that the Mexican variety tastes so much better and natural with cane sugar. Try it, or the golden syrup, it does make a difference. We tested the Golden Syrup in a recipe for a Chocolate Pecan Pie. I adjusted the recipe to use dark chocolate, golden syrup and sea salt. It’s basically a flourless brownie in a pie shell and that is nothing to complain about. Try it, use the golden syrup and maybe you’ll be cured of something (?) that ails you? Salted Dark Chocolate and Pecan Pie 1 pie crust — either homemade or storebought 1 and 1/2 cups pecans, toasted 4 tablespoons butter 6 ounces dark chocolate 1/2 cup brown sugar 3/4 cup golden syrup 1 teaspoon vanilla sea salt Bake your pie shell in advance. Heat the oven to 375. Melt butter and chocolate together. Add brown sugar, golden syrup and vanilla. Stir to combine and then add toasted pecans. Pour into the pie shell and bake for about an hour or until set. Once set, remove from the oven and sprinkle with sea salt. — Mod Meals on Mendenhall was started by Greensboro’s Cecelia Thompson in 2009 in an effort to seek creativity and expression outside the workplace. Learn more at modmealsonmendenhall.com. Content reprinted with permission. Photos Credit: Cecelia Thompson/ ModMealsonMendenhall.com

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20 Questions Bruce Claus, NoPo by David Stout :: david@goqnotes.com

Bruce Claus doesn’t live in the Tar Heel state, but the “confirmed bachelor” says his work with the family business — an international manufacturing and distribution non-profit — brings him to the area at least once a year. His interests include decorating with gold and silver tinsel, faux fur fashion design and watching Christmas movie marathons on Lifetime. Bruce is very excited to be featured in our column, he says, because his older sibling gets most of the attention. “My brother is the quintessential bear,” he explains. “He’s large and cuddly. Everybody loves him because he’s always jolly. But, then, why shouldn’t he be. If he was the one living in the frigid conditions back home with six percent body fat, things would be a little different, I dare say.” He quickly adds with a disarming elf-like grin, “Not that I’m bitter or anything.” What’s your favorite Rankin/Bass Christmas special? “Rudolph The Red-Nosed Reindeer.” My dear friend Hermey is featured in this one. I definitely believe in supporting “family,” which is why he’s the only elf I ever let near my teeth. Do you prefer live or artificial Christmas trees? I prefer decorated Christmas trees. What food do you most associate with your childhood? Cookies and milk, which constituted a well-balanced meal at our house when I was a kid. Obviously, I eat low-carb now.

Can you fly around the world in a sleigh pulled by eight magic reindeer? Yes, but why would I want to when I can fly to Sydney Mardi Gras on my Visa Black Card? What’s your most embarrassing Christmas moment? When I was 15, we hosted the Snow Miser family for the weekend. Their oldest son Jack stayed with me in my room. One evening when we were called out for cocoa, my mom noticed a spurt of Jack’s frost in my hair. How do these “Christmas” films rank based on the number of times you’ve seen them: “Die Hard,” “Gremlins,” “Kiss Kiss Bang Bang,” “Lethal Weapon”? This is a hard one. Probably “Die Hard” first, then “Lethal Weapon” followed by “Gremlins.” Although I’ve seen “Kiss Kiss Bang Bang” the least of these, I still love it. Val Kilmer’s belly in this film rivals my brother’s. What type of underwear do you have on right now? Andrew Christian briefs. White with green holly leaves and red berries. Did you have a Lite-Brite as a child? I grew up around the largest toy factory the world has ever known. I had everything as a child. Do you eat gingerbread men? I have no prejudices or hang-ups. I eat every kind of men. What’s your favorite song by an openly gay artist? It has to be “Last Christmas” by Fruitcake!…uh, I mean Wham! (i.e., George “the gay one” Michael and Andrew “straight? I thought he was the gay one” Ridgely). Are you more likely to wash Christmas dinner dishes by hand

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or in the dishwisher? I’m more likely to call the elves in to clear the table while I do 30 minutes on the stairmaster. Which pro athlete is the epitome of male physical perfection? Openly gay ice skater Johnny Weir. He can triple-toe loop into my bed anytime. What household chore have you been putting off for much too long? Shoveling snow out of the driveway and the living room. How many bumper stickers are on your car? I don’t have a car. I did put a large “Coexist” sticker on the family sleigh a few months back. Have you ever shaved off your pubic hair? I keep my entire body smooth. The elves are magic with wax. They’re also great at eyebrow threading. What is your favorite musical group with a female lead singer? Emmet Otter’s Jug Band. I caught their act at Doc Bullfrog’s restaurant once and simply fell in love with Alice Otter’s voice. Gum drops, sugar plums or candy canes? I’ll take D, none of the above. Is it any wonder my entire family is obese — look at how we eat! This is why my meals come from Jenny Craig. Would your ideal man ever wear flip flops? My ideal man lives in flip flops — and sarongs. I’m looking for a polynesian god to take me away from all this. Do you have any current magazine subscriptions? I’m an avid reader of Men’s Fitness and go through each issue from cover-to-cover. What’s your personal definition of a winter wonderland? Spending two weeks in February in Acapulco with Matt Bomer. : :

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Philanthropy can be your holiday gift to your neighbor In the fall, qnotes published several wish lists from local organizations which chose to participate in our annual Community Assessment Survey. In the spirit of this giving season, we’re reprinting the lists. Peruse them and see if you might have items you could donate or if there are particular items you could purchase on behalf of the organizations and their clients. In this merry season, the act of gift-giving can, for some, make all the difference. Spread the cheer and pay it forward. LGBT Center of Raleigh LGBT-themed DVDs, CDs and books for the library. Water cooler. Volunteers. A larger space for programming. Cash. Coat tree. Soft drinks and snacks. Landscape design and materials for the front of the center. Digital projector. lgbtcenterofraleigh.com LGBT Center of Charlotte We would wish to have more “stakeholders”

in the LGBT Community Center, such as continuous givers and individual donors. gaycharlotte.com Campus Pride Increased monthly donors at the $25, $50, $100 and higher levels. Volunteers to help plan and implement local, statewide and national events. Further support and awareness of our local Charlotte efforts. campuspride.org Charlotte Pride Band Other than one-time gifts, we seek additional corporate season sponsorships and volunteers who are skilled in things such as media, fundraising and marketing. We also encourage and seek additional attendance at our concerts so the public can see what Charlotte Pride Band is all about. We want anyone of any ability level who is interested in playing with us to come to rehearsal. We also seek those who are able to provide concert staffing and support, including setting up and breaking down the stage area and moving percussion equipment.

We also need assistance with ticket sales. We welcome suggestions for ways our ensembles can be involved in community events! charlotteprideband.org Gay Men’s Chorus of Charlotte Long-term (three years) committed support for our partnership with Time Out Youth to place an outreach worker directly in CharlotteMecklenburg Schools. (total of $10,000 per year) Storage space (music, props, risers, electronic equipment, etc.). Office space. Music stands. Eight handheld wireless microphones. Contributions to enable purchase of music, piano tuning, insurance renewals, program, ticket, postcard, etc., printing, chorus membership fees, as well as being able to provide payment to musicians and more! gmccharlotte.org Time Out Youth LGBTQ Books/DVDs (approrpiate for youth). Snacks and drinks for group room.

Games for youth room. Art supplies. Cleaning supplies (toliet paper, hand soap, paper towels, trash bags). Personal items for emergency housing clients. Gift cards to Target, Wal-Mart or grocery stores (for emergency housing clients). Bus Passes. timeoutyouth.org RAIN Products for client supply closet: laundry detergent, dish soap, multipurpose cleaner, toilet paper, paper towels, deoderant for men and women, shampoo and conditioner, feminine products, dental floss and mouth wash, razors and shaving cream. Bus passes. Gift cards of $10, $15 or $25 to a grocery store, Walmart or Target. Office and other needs including newer computers and printers. Three laptops. Food for support group meetings. Food and beverage for events. carolinarain.org — compiled by qnotes staff

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December 8 - 21 Venus and Mercury make their move into zesty Sagittarius. All this fiery energy makes our wild, little world more exciting. As long as we are out and about, let’s do it with impact as well as style. SAGITTARIUS (11.23-12.22) Gay Archers come out into the limelight. Your confidence, grace and charisma are on the upswing, so take a whirl while the energy percolates. It is guaranteed that you know exactly the right things to say at the exact right time. Spread your influence on an international level. How far can you go? It all depends how far you want to go. CAPRICORN (12.23-01.20) All that is hidden is now revealed! Secret admirers make their presence known and your innate intuition finds unnoticed gifts and special opportunities. Send a love note to the universe and it will make all pink Caps the grand objects of desire. But, don’t spend all your karmic fortune on lusty endeavors. What about community service and charity? Yeah, so what about it? AQUARIUS (01.21-02.19) Friendships can lead to much much more. Not only are you led into the orbit of certain special folks, but you also increase your ability to charm (and manipulate) them. Goody. But, will you be able to

choose from the delectable array of possibilities? All sorts of acquaintances flock to your shore and you will have to decide which one is worth plucking from the sands. PISCES (02.20-03.20) The key to the corporate kingdom is yours for the taking. At least that is what you think. Set your professional destiny on course now. Guppies who fantasize themselves straddling the top of the corporate heap can hitch their saddle and start riding. Make your best moves while the pinstripped sharks are vacationing. Plant your shark traps now. ARIES (03.21-04.20) Travel will have its romantic moments as you conjure up all sorts of fabulous getaways with all sorts of fabulous folks. Proud Rams are ready for any adventure and find it in out of the way places. However, if you are on a tight budget, you can scratch your itchy travellers feet closer to home with a balm of buddies mixed with exotic strangers. TAURUS (04.21-05.21) This time period adds a little sugar to your cup. Queer Bulls are ablaze with passion. But, what can you do with all this bottled up spritz? Leave it to fate and discover new ways to enjoy your robust energies to the fullest. Plan to make your social life the focal point and gate crash all A-list soireés. Pop your cork with a crate of fine stemware. GEMINI (05.22-06.21) Pink Twins speak from

their heart and receive confirmation and affirmation. Relationships blossom as the connection between the two of you reaches new intimate levels. Plug in and set the world aglow. This is also a great time to seek, meet and greet. You know just what to say to get what you want. The question is, do you know what you want? Uhhh… CANCER (06.22-07.23) Money talks, at least right now when the job goes much more smoothly and others take notice of your efforts. The trick is to maximize it sooner than later. Gay Crabs find themselves scoping the water cooler for a new and needy up and comer. Seeking lust on the job? Be careful of finding it! It will be difficult to avoid the aftershocks after the earth moves for you. LEO (07.24-08.23) Your creative expression hits a peak as the cosmos tickles your gay muse. But, don’t rely solely on your own artistic sense. Get out there and collaborate, especially while you have the connective oomph. Romance is possible for proud Lions still on the prowl. Roam the prairies in search of top sirloin. It is a meat market out there. Pack the hot sauce. VIRGO (08.24-09.23) Your home becomes a showplace. Queer Virgins realize that even a meager home redecoration or an improvement makes a great difference in how you feel about yourself and your surroundings. Keep in mind that your efforts not only require beauty and harmony, but also utility. So, I guess that means that the wagon wheel side table has to go. Oh, well. LIBRA (09.24-10.23) Charm oozes from every pore. Proud Libras make their mark with indelible ink. Any communication from an email to a smoke signal is alluring. Don’t hide, baby. Come out and show ‘em what pride is all about! You are poised for greatness among mere mortals. You attract the cream of the crop as well as a few bottoms of the barrel. Oh, how to choose? SCORPIO (10.24-11.22) Money and power collide. This time period has you counting pennies and slowly, carefully saving for a more secure future. Consolidate your holdings and push for more. While the two energies can be in harmony, proud Scorps find themselves taking greater risks now to enjoy much greater-than-expected rewards later. How risky do you like it? : : © 2012 Madam Lichtenstein, LLC. All Rights Reserved. Entertainment. info: Visit TheStarryEye.com for e-greetings, horoscopes and Pride jewelry. My book “HerScopes: A Guide To Astrology For Lesbians” from Simon & Schuster is available at bookstores and major booksites.

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Midwood Madness, Petra’s half-price bottles of wine Karaoke, The Woodshed starts at 9 p.m.

Sunday

Barbeque & Bloody Marys, Bar at 316 free BBQ from 3-6 p.m. The Sunday Social Spades/Card Games & House Muzik, Nickel Bar from 5 p.m.-Midnight House Cast Show, The Scorpio with DJ 4Real. 11:30 p.m. Woodshed Sundays, The Woodshed free dinner buffet served at 6:30 p.m. karaoke, 9 p.m.

Friday

Game Night, Bar at 316 Team Trivia and Line Dancing, Hartigan’s starts at 8 p.m. Karaoke, Petra’s hosted by Rachel Houdek. 9 p.m. Wicked and Wild Wednesdays, The Scorpio featuring Tiffany Storm with DJ 4Real. 11 p.m. Pool Tournament, The Woodshed starts at 10:30 p.m.

House DJ and Dancing, Bar at 316 Free HIV Testing, Connections the 4th Friday of every month. 8-10 p.m. A-List Fridays, Marigny hosted by SugaWalls Entertainment. 10 p.m. Feel Good Fridays Dance Night, Nickel Bar from 9 p.m.-2:30 a.m. Live Performances, Petra’s Roxy’s Rainbow Review, The Rainbow In starts at 11p.m. Life’s a Drag, The Scorpio with Tiffany Storm. 11:30 p.m.

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Movie Night, Bar at 316 starts at 9 p.m. Monday Madness, Chasers pool tournament at 11:30 p.m. $25 cash prize and $25 bar tab. Boxing & Monday Night Football, Sidelines Free Pool, The Woodshed all day.

Thursday Night House Party, Bar at 316 Pool Tournament, Central Station Rockin’ Well Thursdays, Chasers with Valerie Rockwell. Show starts at 12:30 a.m. Free HIV Testing, Connections the 2nd Thursday of every month. 8-10 p.m. Karaoke Night, Hartigan’s hosted by Roxxy C. Moorecox. 9 p.m. Team Boystown, Marigny starts at 10 p.m. $10 cover after 11 p.m. Drink-n-drown. SpeakEasy Thursday Open Mic Night, Nickel Bar from 9 p.m.-2:30 a.m. Karaoke Night, The Rainbow In free for members. $5 guests. $6 under 21.

Tuesday

Karaoke with Metro Mike, Bar at 316 starts at 9 p.m. Pool Tournament, Central Station Twisted Trivia, Chasers with Tiffany Storm & Brooklyn Dior. Showtime at 12:30 a.m. Trivia Tuesdays, Marigny hosted by Roxxy C. Moorecox 7 p.m.

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LGBT Community Center of Charlotte Seeks to promote diversity, acceptance and visibility of the LGBT community through original and collaborative programming and events and by providing an inclusive, welcoming and affordable environment for all. 1 820 Hamilton St., Suite B11 Charlotte, NC 28206 704-333-0144 gaycharlotte.com

House DJ and Dancing, Bar at 316 The Angela Lopez Show, Chasers show starts at 12:30 a.m. Live DJ, Hartigan’s Krewe Saturdays, Marigny Sexy Saturdays Special Events, Nickel Bar from 9 p.m.-2:30 a.m. Live Performances, Petra’s Urban Variety Show, The Scorpio with Elaine Davis. Midnight showtime.

White Rabbit North Carolina’s LGBT everything store. Complete line of Pride merchandise, plus magazines, books, DVDs, T-shirts, underwear, swimwear, athletic shorts, hats, hoodies, socks, and more. 920 Central Ave. 2 Charlotte, NC 28204 704-531-9988 . phone 704-531-1361 . fax info@whiterabbitbooks.com

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Biltmore Asheville christmas.biltmore.com 800-411-3812 Take a tour of the Biltmore house and estate in all its decked-out holiday glory. Christmas at Biltmore has become an annual tradition for many, with its dozens of Christmas trees, hundreds of wreaths and poinsettias and other decorations. Day-time and night-time tickets available for tours of the home and estate, including the gardens and Antler Hill Village and Winery.

Sugar Mountain Resort Sugar Mountain skisugar.com 828- 898-4521 115 acres. 20 slopes and trails. Peak elevation of 5,300 feet. Longest run: 1.5 miles.

Old Salem Winston-Salem oldsalem.org 336-721-7300 You can plan to peruse this historic Moravian settlement on your own or sign up for guided tours, including special Christmas candlelight tours throughout December exploring life in the 19th century (18th century-period tours are available each November). Gift shops, an historic bakery, other eateries and the historic Salem Tavern (where President George Washington once stayed overnight) are all open to the public. On Dec. 13, attend a special Moravian-style Lovefeast at the historic St. Philips African Moravian Church, which celebrated its 150th anniversary in 2011. Founded in 1823 and rebuilt in brick in 1861, St. Philips is the oldest African-American church standing in North Carolina. The special Lovefeast service will commemorate the first service held at the church on Dec. 15, 1861.

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Wolf Ridge Ski Resort Mars Hill skiwolfridgenc.com 828-689-4111 72 acres. 23 slopes and trails. Peak elevation of 4,700 feet. Longest run: 3,700 feet. Photo Credit: WashuOtaku, via Flickr. Licensed Creative Commons.

Carolina skiing North Carolinaâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s mountains offer a variety of choices when it comes to skiing. Some meteorologists are expecting higher-than-average snowfalls this year, kicked off early by several inches dumped by Hurricane Sandy. Appalachian Ski Mountain Blowing Rock appskimtn.com 828-295-7828 27 acres. 12 slopes. Peak elevation of 4,000 feet. Longest run: 2,640 feet. Resort also has ice rink. Beech Mountain Resort Beech Mountain beechmountainresort.com 800-438-2093 95 acres. 15 slopes. Peak elevation of 5,506 feet. Longest run: 1 mile. Ice rink and snow sports center for children and adults with disabilities. Cataloochee Ski Area Maggie Valley cataloochee.com 828-926-0285 50 acres. 16 slopes. Peak elevation of 5,400 feet. Longest run: 3,500 feet. Sapphire Valley Ski Area Sapphire skisapphire.com 828-743-7663 8 acres. Two trails. Peak elevation of 3,780 feet. Longest run: 1,600 feet.

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When best friends leave you for boyfriends Dear Trinity, About two months ago my best friend got his first real boyfriend. Now, we hardly talk anymore. I know he’s happy, but I’m losing my best bud. Help! Left Out, Boston, MA Dear Left Out, First, let him know what’s happening. Second, make him spend time with you. Third, give it time, after a few months, his love cloud will shift, he’ll want to reclaim his pre-relationship independence and soon enough come running back. Darling, friends are like oceans, constantly moving — especially when the tides change. Dearest Trinity, I’m 20 and recently got a job with a museum. But, they want me to wear a suit. I’m not ready to become a capitalist clone. Help! Suit Sadness, Kansas City, MO

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Dearest Suit Sadness, I, too, had the same issue until one day my fashion design friend helped me put together a “Kurt from Glee” style suit. You can have a suit that expresses you, just ask your boss if you can wear very fashionable suits and then find a store or a fashion student to personalize you one. And, remember baby, some people who never owned a suit would love to be in your shoes. (See my cartoon for sage ole wisdom, sweetie.) Hey Trinity, I recently started dating a man who told me, “He only gets gay when he’s drunk.” Do you think this is a sign of a serious problem or is he just trying to tell me he’s bi? Signs of Trouble, Rehoboth Beach, DE Hey Signs of Trouble, I think it’s time you read the fairy tale, “Closet Gays On Drunken Days.” “There once lived a man named Joe Skunk, who was only gay when he got drunk. For when Joe had a drink, he started to think, ‘What I really do want is a hunk!’ Then one night Joe met the perfect

guy, who he liked, but only when he was high. Though they had lots of fun, Joe got moody when they were done, so the guy told Joe, ‘Get dry or this is goodbye!’” In the end, pumpkin, whether Joe Skunk is gay, there’s way healthier men you can lay so let him go, shake him off and be on your way. Hello Trinity, Lately, I’ve been seeing big, dressed up women who are actually straight men. I don’t understand why a straight man would dress as a woman? Seeing Is Unbelieving, Eugene, OR Hello Seeing Is Unbelieving, At first I also didn’t understand them, but I learned in life that some folks meditate, some climb and some crossdress. But, sweetie, just in case you’re still confused try, Trinity’s Transcendental Tips For How To Treat A Transgendered Being 1. I f a man: (straight, gay or bi) is dressed as a woman simply treat him/her like a woman. 2. When dealing with any woman, biological or “Max Factor,” use politeness, charm and chivalry! 3. If you find yourself staring do say, “Hello”, “Lovely day” or “Where on earth did you find heels in your size?” 4. Never be afraid or too close-minded to hang

out with people you don’t understand! 5. I f you don’t understand why someone is “different,” then congratulations! Now, stop judging and start learning! 6. I f the woman in front of you in line is over six feet, has long nails and talks in a baritone voice, then I wouldn’t say anything to offend her! 7. W hen you judge others harshly recognize that you also probably judge yourself harshly. It’s always about you! 8. I f you don’t have professional make-up tips, fashion know-how or acting credentials, then save your opinions for yourself! 9. W hy the Higher Powers That Be would create diverse cultures and alternative lifestyles is not necessarily for you to understand. 10. L astly, if you can’t beat ‘em and don’t want to join ‘em then get in front of ‘em and make it look like a parade! — With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinity hosted “Spiritually Speaking” a weekly radio drama performed globally and is now minister of WIG: Wild Inspirational Gatherings. info: telltrinity.com . Trinity@telltrinity.com. Sponsored by: WIG Ministries, Gay Spirituality for the Next Generation! wigministries.org

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Community Resources [Ed. Note — Each issue, qnotes will rotate various community resources and list them here. These community groups are here to serve you and we know of no better way to simply inform the public of their good works than by giving you the opportunity to connect with them and get involved. Don’t see your group listed and want to join in? Shoot us an email with “InFocus addition” in the subject line to editor@goqnotes.com.] Advocacy Campus Pride 704-277-6710 campuspride.org

Time Out Youth 704-344-8335 timeoutyouth.org

Gay Men’s Chorus of Charlotte 704-549-9202 gmccharlotte.org

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One Voice Chorus 704-529-2951 onevoicechorus.com

Charlotte Rainbow Action Network for Equality rainbowaction.org

Actor’s Theatre of Charlotte 704-342-2251 atcharlotte.org

Equality North Carolina equalitync.org

Carolina Actors Studio Theatre 704-455-8542 nccast.com

HRC Carolina northcarolina.hrc.org Mecklenburg LGBT PAC meckpac.org

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Queen City Theatre Company queencitytheatre.com Giving Charlotte Gay and Lesbian Fund   704-973-4500  fftc.org/Page.aspx?pid=953

Southern Country Charlotte  Queen City Stomp  southerncountry charlotte.com Wesley Mancini Foundation 704-375-4275, ext. 11 Media Creative Loafing clclt.com Charlotte Observer charlotteobserver.com

Charlotte Post thecharlottepost.com

Charlotte Front Runners charlottefrontrunners.com

Pocket Rocket Guide pocketrocketguide.com

Charlotte Nude Yoga charlottenudeyoga.com

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Charlotte Royals Rugby charlotteroyals.org

Visit Gay Charlotte visitgaycharlotte.com Sports

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Carolina Softball Alliance carolinasoftball.org

Queen City Tennis Club qctc.org

Dec. 7-8 • Charlotte ‘Reindeer Games’ One Voice Chorus presentes their winter concert. The theme is a tribute to the London Olympics. Unitarian Universalist Church of Charlotte, 234 N. Sharon Amity Rd. Dec. 7-8, 7:30 p.m. Dec. 8, 2 p.m. $20/evening shows. $15/adult matinee. $10/child matinee. onevoicechorus.org. Dec. 8 • Greensboro Winter Concert Triad Pride Men’s Chorus presents their annual holiday concerts. Mix of traditional, pop and funny holiday favorites. Greensboro Day School, 5401 Lawndale Dr. 8 p.m. $15/advance. $20/door. triadpridemenschorus.org. Dec. 8 • Charlotte RAIN anniversary The Regional AIDS Interfaith Network (RAIN) celebrates 20 years of service. Cocktails and hors d’oeuvres. Special guests include Jack Mackenroth of Project Runway and Miss America 2010 Caressa Cameron-Jackson. Tickets are $75 for

individuals, $65 for congregation tickets and $45 for young social leaders. CenterState @ NoDa, 2315 N. Davidson St. 7 p.m. For more information or to purchase tickets, visit carolinarain.org. Dec. 12 • Charlotte Twelve In Twelve J.D. Lewis and his two sons, Jackson and Buck, will launch their new foundation to support volunteerism, following their worldwide journey which took them to 12 countries in 12 months for relief work. The foundation will exist to raise awareness, donations and supplies for organizations with which they worked across the globe. The Dunhill Hotel, Harvest Moon Grille, 237 N. Tryon St. 5:30-7:30 p.m. Free. twelveintwelve.org. Dec. 13 • Charlotte Leaders honored Mecklenburg County Commissioner Jennifer Roberts and Unity Fellowship Church pastor Bishop Tonyia Rawls will be honored with the Community Leader Award from Grassroots Leadership. Unitarian Universalist Church of Charlotte, 234 N. Sharon Amity Rd. Reservations can be made at 704-332-3090 or via email at mdorta@grassrootsleadership.org. grassrootsleadership.org.

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Dec. 14-15 • Charlotte GMCC Christmas The Gay Men’s Chorus of Charlotte presents “The Last Big Gay Christmas Ever.” Traditional Christmas classics with Hannukah comedy from the Maccabeats and a new commission from Eric Lane Barnes, “The Shouldn’t Be Carols.” St. Martin’s Episcopal Church, 1510 E. 7th St. 8:04 p.m. $20. gmccharlotte.org. Dec. 15 • Charlotte Twirl to the World 2012 Just Twirl parties up the holidays with their fourth annual Twirl to the World holiday party starting with a social hour at 8 p.m. followed by a night of dancing at 10 p.m. Admission is $5 with a new unwrapped toy or $15 without. Marigny Dance Club, 1440 S. Tryon St., Suite 110. justtwirl.com. Dec. 15 • Durham Jingle Balls Bingo AAS-C brings a bit of holiday flair to their popular Drag Bingo series. Join staff, volunteers and community members for this merry time of fundraising and fun! Durham Armory, 220 Foster St. 6 p.m. $20. aas-c.org. Jan. 23-27 • Atlanta Creating Change The National Gay and Lesbian Task Force hosts its annual National Conference on

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LGBT Equality, “Creating Change,” the largest LGBT conference of its type in the nation. The event marks the conference’s 25th year, featuring workshops and seminars, appearances by national movement leaders and celebrities and Task Force Executive Director Rea Carey’s annual State of the Movement address. Conference will be hosted at the Hilton Atlanta. Registration is open now with details available at creatingchange.org.

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Third Tuesday of every month, except when there is specialized programming, plus monthly socials to promote networking and friendship A wide variety of topics of interest to appeal to the diverse LGBT community After work with a cash bar social and heavy hor d’oeuvres with dinner and program following Visit the website for application options and benefits. Call 704.565.5075 or email businessguild@yahoo.com for more details or write to The Charlotte Business Guild P.O. Box 33371 | Charlotte, NC 28233

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