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On gun control, will we continue to abdicate our moral responsibility? [Ed. Note – As each year closes, this editorial space is usually reserved for year-end reflection. I would have loved to have penned such a column, but as this issue went to press, yet another in a long train of senseless mass shootings in this nation occurred, this time in Newtown, Conn. The commentary below, a version of which was originally published on my personal blog on Dec. 15, is reprinted here. Tragedies like that in Newtown affect each and every one of us, no matter our sexual orientation or gender. This is an American issue. And, it is one we can solve together, if we so choose. — Matt Comer] Great power comes with great responsibility. And, so it is with the American people, who have been since the time of our founding entrusted with the rarest form of responsibility in all of human history: Self-governance. Our freedom has given way to great achievements and successes. From rocky Great Experiment to shining savior of Europe,
our nation forged ahead to become the most prosperous, the most powerful, the most influential. Our freedom has also given way to dramatic failures. We grew through rape and pillage as we murdered natives and enslaved millions. We slaughtered each other in a brutal civil war, as the spilled blood of our brothers and the memories of division still soak the land beneath our feet. It has been so because, in all our glorious freedom, we chose to ignore our moral responsibilities to ourselves, to each other and, most importantly, to our children and future generations. On Dec. 14, 2012, the lives of nearly two dozen children and several others at the Newtown, Conn., Sandy Hook Elementary School were cruelly and tragically ended. Their entire future lay ahead of them. We promised them it would be bright and rewarding — full of achievement and success, if only they worked hard and took advantage of all of
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Happy Holidays Whether one is celebrating Hanukkah or Christmas in the United States, there is one image that is front and center: the family. On Facebook, friends who celebrate Hanukkah downloaded several images of their children with their respective grandparents around a lighted menorah. Meanwhile, the Christmas celebrants download images of their children around Christmas trees large and small, multicolored or in thematic splendor. In the holiday season, across the faiths, we become a nation that celebrates mom, a dad and a child or children, with or without dogs and cats included in the folderol.
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What is unique in this years assault of “traditional American family” tableaus is this breaking news of the Supreme Court of the United States (SCOTUS) hearing cases regarding the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) and California’s Proposition 8. Both DOMA and Prop 8 attempted to limit marriage as being between one man and one woman, with no chance of any two parents who were of the same-sex, questioning, bisexual or transgender allowed to obtain a marriage license. In this bleak wintry season, hope springs anew for LGBTQ parents. Along with SCOTUS, marriages between LGBTQ people are taking place in Washington
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the opportunities our freedoms enabled them. In the end, it was that very freedom and our moral irresponsibility, that ended their lives. The shooting in Newtown isn’t an isolated event. We should have seen it coming. Since 1982, the U.S. has witnessed at least 62 mass shootings; 19 in the past five years alone. Half of all the 12 most deadly mass shootings in American history have occurred since 2007. Each time, nearly a dozen or more people are shot, seriously injured or killed. We pause. We cry. We mourn. And, ultimately, we do nothing. After a week, the memory fades. The victims are forgotten to all but their families and friends. For the rest of us, the shock is absorbed and life goes on. Until, that is, another mass shooting just weeks or months down the road. We will pause. We will cry. We will mourn. Ultimately, we will do nothing. Society will never be free of fear or violence. People with evil intentions will be born in every generation. These facts offer no rational or logical bases for our inaction. “If we make guns illegal, criminals will always find guns or another way to kill,” they say. This kind of silly argument seems to placate millions of Americans. Logically, it fails any test. There will always be murder, rape and theft, so why legislate against them? It is as if we are resigned to complacency and
carelessness: “Oh well,” we might as well say. “There’s nothing we can do about it.” But, if we so choose, we have the power to change and to prevent future tragedies. By now, the answer is abundantly clear: No private citizen should have access to the types of ultimate killing machines — high-powered, military-grade, semi-automatic or automatic assault weapons — often used in these crimes and almost always obtained legally. Alternately, resigning ourselves to the status quo is a choice, too; a freely-made, irresponsible choice that prioritizes the rights enshrined in the Second Amendment over the ultimately-superior, universal and God-given dignity imparted to every living soul who passes from the womb into this world: The right to life. Our nation and its people are faced now with a choice of grave importance. Only our commitment to responsibility — to ourselves and others — stands in the way. We cannot shirk our responsibility. We neither can afford nor should be satisfied with our current state of things. We are a great nation, but whether that be a nation of fools or of wise men and women is ultimately up to us. Whatever the choice, our children — like the children in Newtown — will either reap its rewards or suffer the consequences. : :
state, Maryland and Maine, with rumblings from other states where state leaders are interested in marriage equality. In this new day and age, lesbian and gays are coming to the realization that they can now partake in what has been off-limits to them prior to this: a fuller embrace of the American dream. The dawning awareness was captured in the LOGO-TV show, “The Baby Wait,” in which one soon-to-be gay dad uttered (with a sense of awe) these words: “When I came out to my parents, I never thought I would be able to marry or be able to raise my own child. Now, I can do both in my lifetime!” In other words, LGBTQ people are now entering the realm of marrying and parenting that was solely the domain of straight people. And, this is being done so no longer as an open act of protest outside the bounds of the law, but being done legitimately and legally. Living in the dawning of this new day and age, there are cautionary notes: what do we, as LGBTQ people, bring to a traditional understanding of marriage and rais-
ing children? Likewise, what traditional ways of being “family” in the American narrative do we want to borrow? Do we want to live “for better or for worse, richer or poorer” with one steady other or is there room for an open relationship? Or, for a steady third person in a relationship? These, and other questions, will need to be explored, negotiated, agreed upon, and open for more study in the days, months and years to come. Nevertheless, as many of us go forward in other states to get our marriage licenses, get married, adopt children, we do so because of those who fought and died to make this day a reality. It is simply amazing to be part of a social movement that is moving forward with great alacrity. Along the way, many of us will receive the blessings of a religious community in the presence of family, friends, wedding planners…soon followed by baby showers, purchase of minivans, dogs, cats, lighting of the menorah and tableaus of the family around Christmas trees. Happy holidays to us all. : :
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2012 in Review: Politics & Advocacy The top stories shaping politics, law and activism in 2012 by Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.com
For many, 2012 was a landmark year. It was full of activism and advocacy. Community organizations grew and changed. North Carolinians banded together in the face of an anti-LGBT amendment. The community grew closer and stronger. The amendment, by far, will rank atop any imaginable list of the major stories of the year, as it does here. But, there were certainly other noteworthy happenings over the past 12 months. Good or bad or otherwise, these moments are the hallmarks of this year’s LGBT history. A battle lost When Republicans took over the General Assembly in 2010, it became easily and readily apparent that North Carolina’s LGBT community was in for a ride. Swept into power upon a promise to tackle jobs and the economy, activists who had long worked with a friendly, Democratic legislature knew anti-LGBT social conservatives would eventually rear their heads. And, so they did in September 2011 when Republicans handily approved putting an anti-LGBT state constitutional amendment banning gay marriage on the ballot. With mere months before the initiative was put before voters, LGBT community members and organizations swung into high gear. Equality North Carolina and dozens of progressive, allied organizations formed the Coalition to Protect All N.C. Families. The coalition would lead an effort to unite the community and its allies, framing political and campaign messages on the
amendment from the get-go. Anti-gay advocates often had a hard time keeping up, but the odds were stacked against us. On May 8, the amendment coasted to victory with 61 percent of voters approving the measure. In the time since, organization leaders and activists have looked back with awe on the amount of progress that was made. Despite the electoral loss, activists say the community is stronger, closer and more wellconnected. The state constitution might very well ban marriage equality, but other equality initiatives have been successful, pushed forward in large measure by the awareness raised during amendment campaigning. Mayfield on the dais For more than year now, Charlotte’s first openly LGBT elected official has had the opportunity to lead among her colleagues on the city council dais. Elected in November 2011, District 3 Democrat LaWana Mayfield officially took office in December last year. Throughout the past year, Mayfield’s presence on city council has introduced LGBT people and issues to elected officials and other civic leaders, as well as the public. It has often been said that “having a seat at the table” changes politics for LGBT people. When we have such a seat, our lives are no longer numbers. Our humanity no longer a mere issue to be polled. Mayfield’s service over the past year has made history,
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McCrory’s new chief of staff has anti-gay record RALEIGH — Republican Gov.-elect Pat McCrory, who will take office on Jan. 5, 2013, announced on Dec. 13 that he’ll bring supporter and transition team leader Thomas Stith on as his chief of staff. Stith is a former Durham City Council member, serving from 1999 through 2007. The Republican is a co-founder of and a former vice president at the right-leaning John W. Pope Civitas Institute. In 2003, Stith was one of three Durham City Council members who voted against extending domestic partner benefits to samesex partners of city employees. McCrory also appointed Greensboro’s Dr. Aldona Wos, a former U.S. ambassador to Estonia, to lead the state’s Department of Health and Human Services. He praised Wos’ past accomplishments, including her work as a doctor in New York City during the 1980s AIDS Crisis. Several HIV/AIDS prevention efforts were implemented in Estonia during Wos’ tenure as ambassador there. Wos is a major funder of Republican causes. John Skvarla, a Raleigh businessman, will lead the Department of Environment and Natural Resources. McCrory hopes to have his top appointments in place by the time the state legislature convenes on Jan. 9. For the full report, visit goqnotes. com/19629. — M.C.
Triangle Chance encounter ‘cordial’
RALEIGH — Former Charlotte Mayor and Gov.-elect Pat McCrory hasn’t taken up residence in the Governor’s Mansion yet. He hasn’t even had the opportunity to rearrange the furniture in the governor’s state Capitol offices. But, that didn’t stop James Miller, who works as the executive director of the LGBT Center of Raleigh, from stopping McCrory as he entered a state government building in downtown Raleigh and doing a bit of personal lobbying, so to speak. Miller says he was walking from his apartment on Peace St. to the LGBT Center of Raleigh’s offices on Hillsborough St. on Dec. 10 when he noticed McCrory and some security staffers exiting a vehicle in front of the Albemarle Building on N. Salisbury St. Miller stopped and said hello to the future governor, who takes office on Jan. 5. McCrory was there to file some paperwork, he told Miller who introduced himself, adding that LGBT people still needed his help. McCrory replied that he was pleased with what the community had been doing and knows what they’ve been going through. “I feel like he is an educated-enough individual, especially after Amendment One,”
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said Miller, referencing the anti-LGBT state constitutional amendment passed 61-39 percent by voters in May. “I hope he steps back and is willing to at least listen.” McCrory, a Republican, never said much about the amendment during the spring campaign, though he did say publicly that he would be voting for it. In Charlotte, McCrory’s relationship with the LGBT community during his 14-year tenure as mayor was often tenuous. He once said he wanted local Pride festivities taken out of a public park and held in a private setting. He also opposed extension of benefits to samesex partners of city employees and refused for several years to write a welcome letter to the Human Rights Campaign’s North Carolina fundraising gala. For more on this story, visit goqnotes. com/19525. — M.C.
Pride group hosts open house
RALEIGH — Shades of Pride and Triangle Black Pride is holding an open house on Dec. 23, 4:15 p.m., at the LGBT Center of Raleigh, 411 Hillsborough St., as a way to begin preparations for its 4th Annual Pride. Leaders will share volunteer opportunities for the event, as well as service on the board. For more information, call Chair Akil Campbell at 919-233-2044, email akil@triangle blackpride.org or visit shadesofpride.org. — L.M.
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DURHAM — Olivia Boger, a Sociology student at Duke University, is conducting research on the question — “How does the legalization of same-sex marriage affect the stigmatization of same-sex parenting?” She is especially interested in obtaining perspectives from those living through the process of same-sex partnerships, same-sex marriage and same-sex parenting. To be considered, call 404-556-2363 or email olivia.boger@gmail.com. — L.M.
National A marriage equality three-fer, Pt. 1
WASHINGTON, D.C. — On Dec. 7, the U.S. Supreme Court issued an order granting review in Hollingsworth v. Perry (formerly Perry v. Brown), the federal constitutional challenge to California’s Proposition 8. Enacted in November 2008, Prop 8 eliminated the fundamental freedom of lesbian and gay Californians to marry. With this order, the Supreme Court will consider whether Prop 8 violates the Fourteenth Amendment to the U.S. Constitution. The Perry case was filed on May 22, 2009, in Federal District Court on behalf of two California couples. In an historic August 2010 ruling the Court found Prop 8 unconstitutional. On February 7, 2012, the Court of Appeals for the Ninth Circuit upheld the decision. The Supreme Court also has granted
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CHAPEL HILL — Author Steven Petrow is not your average guy. In fact, he’s probably the leading authority on how to conduct oneself in all manners, so to speak, whether during a wedding or anywhere else for the LGBT community. He’s the go-to person at The New York Times when it comes to boomer-age gay and straight readers. And, he recently addressed a reader’s query when asked how to decline an invitation to a wedding. It seems that the inquirer lives in North Carolina with his partner and does not feel it right to attend anyone else’s wedding until he could attend his own. Petrow says no, further explaining that “family trumps politics.” He even suggested that the reader write to the niece and explain the situation and “persuade her to become yet another straight ally.” And, to expand on this more, he should make a contribution to a worthy same-sex marriage initiative in the niece’s name. Petrow has a long list of books about etiquette and more. The list includes: “Steve Petrow’s Complete Gay & Lesbian Manners: The Definitive Guide to LGBT Life;” “The Essential Book of Gay Manners & Etiquette;” and “The New Gay Wedding: A Practical Primer for Brides and Grooms, Their Families and Guests.” His work has taken him from media appearances on CNN, NPR, PBS and SiriusXM Radio to positions at The Wall Street Journal, Time Inc., Life magazine, HotWired and Everyday Health. He has also penned pieces for The Advocate, Salon and others, as well as being a syndicated writer for Yahoo! Shine, Logo/MTVN, The Huffington Post, GayWeddings.com and the “Q” Syndicate. He’s also made a name for himself as a digital pioneer, founding and being the editorial and creative mind behind Health.com, South Beach Diet Online, WhatToExpect. com, JillianMichaels.com, Everyday Health, and others his biography states. Yahoo says, “Petrow not only gets the brave new world of today, he also lives it — his advice is up‐to‐ the‐nano‐second.” His passions have led him to sit as a board member on the Orange County Literacy Council, in addition to co-founding the Petrow-Freeman Documentary Award at Duke University for aspiring documentarians. And, he has been a former president of the National Gay & Lesbian Journalists Association. For more information, visit gaymanners.com or stevenpetrow.com. — L.M. review in United States v. Windsor, a challenge to the constitutionality of the federal Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA). Enacted by Congress in 1996, DOMA nullifies the marriages of gay and lesbian couples for all purposes of federal law. — D.S.
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LOS ANGELES, Calif. — Psychological distress is lower among LGB individuals who are legally married to a person of the same sex, compared with those not in legally recognized unions, according to a new study led by Richard G. Wight from the UCLA Fielding School of Public Health and the Williams Institute at UCLA Law. The study, published in the American Journal of Public Health, also has implications for understanding mental health disparities based on sexual orientation: There were no statistically significant differences in psychological distress between heterosexuals and LGB persons in any type of legally recognized same-sex relationship. — D.S.
A marriage equality three-fer, Pt. 3
WASHINGTON, D.C. — Support for marriage equality has increased by 21 points over the last eight years, according to a new Hart/McInturff poll for NBC News/Wall Street Journal. The bipartisan poll shows support for marriage equality at 51 percent, up significantly from 30 percent in 2004 and 41 percent
in 2009. The survey is just the latest in a series of polls illustrating the growing momentum for marriage equality. — D.S.
Global Russian PM opposes ‘propaganda’ bill
MOSCOW, Russia — Prime Minister Dmitry Medvedev says a proposed law banning so-called “gay propaganda” is unnecessary. He recently told reporters that “not all relations between people can be regulated by law.” If enacted, the Bill on Administrative Responsibility for Propaganda of Homosexuality Among Minors would prohibit all non-condemning discussion about LGBT people or issues. The law would extend to health care providers speaking in a professional capacity. Opponents of the measure argue that aside from further isolating the LGBT community — particularly youth who are struggling with their sexual orientation — the law will undermine efforts to disseminate accurate health information and combat the spread of HIV/AIDS. Medvedev told the media that the nation’s majority party, United Russia, agrees with his position on the proposed anti-gay law. The first hearing on the bill is expected to be held the week this issue of qnotes hits the streets. Similar laws have been adopted locally in some regions of Russia. — D.S.
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offering for the first time in Charlotte the opportunity for LGBT people to have a consistently visible and active voice in local political affairs.
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discrimination (goqnotes.com/19655/). Walton’s addition of gender expression to the city’s human resources policy crosses off a decades-long goal to see LGBT city employees protected from unfair and biased discrimination. On the county level, elected officials in Mecklenburg County took their own stands for equality, voting to support a resolution against Amendment One on May 2, just days before the public voted on the measure (goqnotes. com/14958/). Though the city council never took a similar collective position on the amendment, Charlotte Mayor Anthony Foxx, along with Mayfield and other city councilmembers, did take strong stands in opposition to the amendment. Foxx was present and affirming in other ways, too, including his brief appearance at a party welcoming out-of-town LGBT visitors and guests to the Democratic National Convention in September.
This year has been a watershed for LGBT progress in Charlotte, both politically and socially. One might debate whether such progress has come as the result of Mayfield’s presence on the council alone or whether her presence has combined with other forward movement from visionaries like Charlotte City Manager Curt Walton and local advocates. But, on this fact there can be no debate: Charlotte’s LGBT community made more legal, political and social progress in 2012 than almost any other year in its history. In April, Walton said the city was considering extending health Democratic National and other benefits to the same-sex Convention partners and families of city emThe Queen City has always fancied ployees (goqnotes.com/14784/). Two itself like the Little Engine That Could. months later, the matter was settled With enough grit and determination, a The defining event of 2012 was the spring’s camwhen Walton added those benefits smalltown, southern banking center could paign on Amendment One. The anti-LGBT state to a budget the council approved in grow to become a so-called world-class constitutional amendment put LGBT families, June (goqnotes.com/15605/). city with the reputation and backing to atlike the one pictured on our April 28 print ediIn December, Walton antract world-class events and activities. In tion’s cover, in the political spotlight. nounced that transgender city Photo Credit: Justin Cook September, the dream became a reality. workers would, like their gay and The spotlight cast upon Charlotte as a lesbian colleagues, receive official protection from employment result of the 2012 Democratic National Convention raised the
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profile of the city in front of a national and international audience. The local LGBT community benefited in almost innumerable ways, from the months-long local presence of high-ranking, openly gay convention officials like CEO Steve Kerrigan to the new local organizing efforts of LGBT community members imbued with energy and passion like never before. For the first time since the mid-1990s and Charlotte’s embarrassing “Angels in America” controversy, LGBT organizations, leaders and activists took an interest in Charlotte, sizing up its current state of LGBT equality. Community members in Charlotte and across the region seized the opportunity to create awareness and change. Policy changes were one result. The other was community growth. New organizing projects were successful, like the Unity LGBT welcome event. The seeds for new projects, like a local LGBT history initiative, were planted. The LGBT Community Center of Charlotte opened its doors to welcome media members. Current projects, like Pride Charlotte, held one week before the convention, grew dramatically in size and its ability to shape public awareness. After the convention, Charlotte is a different place. It is more connected. More visible. Primed for greatness and change. It’s LGBT community is, too. Top stories the whole year through There was so much activity in 2012, it would be hard to adequately compile it all in one sitting. We’ve hit upon the major happenings, but there were plenty of other milestones, accomplishments and, even, setbacks. Head to our website at goqnotes.com/2012review/ for more year-end features exploring this year’s news and events.
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2012 in Review: Community & Arts This year’s top stories for community engagement and arts by Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.com
It happens every year. Newspapers, magazines and TV shows recap their top stories of the year, filled to the brim with the usual high-profile political headlines. But, politics tells only one side of the story. It was a landmark year for the LGBT community, but despite all the changes and challenges, our community stood strong. Outside of the realm of politics and advocacy, we marked other important events in our lives. Here, now, are our top community, arts and entertainment stories of 2012. Fired for love It was in the midst of the spring’s Amendment One campaign that the story of a local church music director and his hus-
band grabbed local headlines and attention (goqnotes.com/14510/). The story was politicized, of course, because of its controversy
Steav Bates-Congdon, right, with his husband, Bill.
and timing, but the tale of Steav BatesCongdon and his husband Bill goes deeper than any political or religious rhetoric. Steav and Bates, together for 23 years, were married last October in New York. In February,
Steav was told he could no longer work as director of music at St. Gabriel Catholic Church in Charlotte. The story of Steav and Bill’s commitment to each other, to their principles and, even, to the very church that cast them out inspired thousands locally and across the country. Emails and other messages of support from church members and the public poured in to the Bates-Congdon home. Local groups like One Voice Chorus and Gay Men’s Chorus of Charlotte stood up with supportive messages, too. Steav might have lost his job, that much is true. But, the inspiration he and Bill gave to others is breathtaking, marking small changes among hearts and minds across the region. Celebration of service This year marked two decades of service for the Regional AIDS Interfaith Network (RAIN). Throughout the year, the organization marked its history and continued pushing forward to serve the community. In February, the group hosted New Hampshire Episcopal Bishop Gene Robinson, the first openly gay Anglican bishop in the U.S. In December, RAIN celebrated again with their “Twenty Twelve” gala. Leaders at the group, including many of its original volunteers and employees,
say their work has been their passion. Times have changed and needs have changed, but RAIN still meets the challenge with pleasure. If you missed it, you can read our recent report on RAIN’s 20th anniversary at goqnotes. com/19311/. Art is our voice The year was full of artistic fervor and excellence. LGBT community members came together to express their spirit through stage productions, visual art and more. For Queen City Theatre Company, 2012 marked a year bookended with significant performances that inspired the community and gave voice to LGBT life. In January, their gay-themed play, “The Most Fabulous Story Ever Told,” sparked protests from some locals, spurred by national Catholic groups upset with the company. Queen City’s artistic crew took it in stride and the show went on (goqnotes. com/14254/). In the fall, Queen City Theatre again presented a significant work, the emotional “Bent.” The production, first staged in 1979, recounts the story of gay victims of the Holocaust, preserving a precious history still unknown by many (goqnotes.com/18852).
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In March, the LGBT Community Center of Charlotte’s GayCharlotte Film Festival came back with a roar for their fourth annual series of LGBT-themed films. This year, the festival grew, adding more film screenings at more locations (goqnotes.com/14397/). In July, Charlotte’s LGBT choruses took their spirited song to Denver, where they participated in this year’s GALA Festival 2012, the international gathering of LGBT choral associations. One Voice Chorus Director
Gerald Gurss said his group’s performances at the event were designed to tell the story of contemporary life of an LGBT person living in Charlotte (goqnotes.com/16065/). In June, local LGBT artists took their creative work to the public when work began on a gaythemed mural wrapped around the White Rabbit on Central Ave. Volunteers with the LGBT Center of Charlotte’s arts committee and its organizer Gil Croy spent weeks in the blazing heat of summer completing the work. It’s now seen by thou-
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Award-worthy In the fall, local LGBT community members and organizations were recognized for their talents, achievements and service. Editors of Creative Loafing and their readers joined together to recognize several groups and
individuals in their annual “Best of Charlotte,” including: Time Out Youth, the gay-friendliest neighborhood Plaza Midwood, Scott Weaver and his gay ShipRocked party at Snug Harbor, Sidelines, Petra’s, the gay-friendly Soul Gastrolounge, BethAnn Phetamine, Buff Faye, Marigny Dance Club and The Bar at 316 (goqnotes.com/17998/). Plenty of deserving folks were also recognized in our annual QList, Best of LGBT Carolina. Be sure to check out those winners at goqnotes.com/17924/. : :
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White Rabbit is located at 920 Central Avenue. We’re actually the only store dedicated to the LGBT community in the entire state of N.C. Our product lines span from rainbow flags and stickers to gift items and all-occasion cards to gay-themed books and DVDs to clothing and adult novelties and more in between. In fact, we are told that White Rabbit has one of the largest selections of men’s designer underwear on the East Coast. We have some great new gift items! Just in — C4 belts which come in a variety of colors with interchangeable buckles so you can have different looks for your changing mood or outfit. Also, we have December Diamonds. The collection is popular with collectors and make super gifts. You asked for them, now we have them here just for you. We also have a good assortment of Christmas cards. Take your choice of single or boxed sets at 50% off. It’s not too late to get them in the mail. A remarkable change for White Rabbit this year — our 18th year of operation in the Queen City — is the creation of the LGBT Community Art Mural that was painted on the exterior of the building this past summer. The striking wrap-around piece — the brainchild of local artist Gil Croy — was a Plaza-Midwood landmark before it was even completed. Now, visitors to the neighborhood are met with an unmissable image that cements the area’s reputation for being a great place for LGBT people to live, shop, eat and play.
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sands of motorists and pedestrians each day, giving visible life to the local LGBT community for all of Charlotte to see (goqnotes.com/14590/, goqnotes.com/15262/, goqnotes.com/15971/).
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2012 People of the Year: J.D., Jackson and Buck Lewis Father and two sons travel the globe in 12-month social justice journey by Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.com
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s the dates on the calendar count slowly down to the end of each year, staff members here at qnotes spend weeks mulling over the past 12 months’ news stories and the movers and shakers who made them. At the end of the year, we choose one LGBT person who has shown outstanding leadership or courage, a person who has inspired others to change and progressive, forward movement or a person who has positively impacted the lives of others. This year, our choices were made more difficult. The year, so full of accomplishment and activity, brought forth a new crop of leaders and engaged current leaders more than ever before. From the amendment campaign to Charlotte’s hosting of the Democratic National Convention, there are too many valuable leaders to name. Though our annual “Person of the Year” honor usually goes only to one individual, there are three outstanding people this year — an openly gay father and his two boys — whose inspiring and courageous leadership and work stick out in our mind. For their extraordinary commitment to social justice, both at home and abroad, we’re proud to honor J.D. Lewis and his two sons, Jackson and Buck, as qnotes’ 2012 People of the Year. In July 2011, J.D. and his sons Jackson, now 15, and Buck, now 10, set out on a worldwide journey of hope and change. Their travels took them to 12 stops in 12 months, the inspiration for their foundation’s name, “Twelve in Twelve.” The non-stop travel put them on every continent on the globe. In St. Petersburg, Russia, the family volunteered at Transit, an orphanage helping runaway teens. In Sattihip, Thailand, they volunteered in an orphanage for children with Down Syndrome and in Chiang Mai, they volunteered at The Elephant Nature Park, helping with elephants rescued from abuse. Their travels also took them to McLeod Ganj, India, where they saw the Dalai Lama speak for four days and taught English to Tibetan refugees. In Nairobi, Kenya, the father and sons volunteered in an HIV clinic in the Kibera slum of Nairobi. In frigid Antarctica, they volunteered on The Ushuaia Ship, assisting scientists and ship crew. In La Cumbre, Argentina, the family volunteered at the Refugio de Monos, a rescue refuge for Howler monkeys.
Jackson and Buck at Elephant Nature Park in Chiang Mai, Thailand.
And, after a year of worldwide travel, Lewis and his sons returned to their home nation this summer where in Jackson, Miss., they volunteered with Operation Upward, a food program for inner city kids. Lewis and his sons say the work still isn’t done. Their foundation, which recently held its official launch on Dec. 13, will raise funds and create infrastructure for future volunteer missions at each of the organizations they assisted in their 12-month journey. Both Buck and Jackson say the trip inspired them to continue working to help others. Jackson says their trips to China and Argentina are most memorable. There, the family worked with orphaned children. Buck most enjoyed Thailand. “I love animals. We worked with elephants there,” Buck says. “It was really inspiring to see what actually we could do to help animals.” For J.D., the trip was an opportunity to expose his two children to life around the world and to teach them the importance of caring for others. He says it was an often emotional journey. After living with families and commu-
Jackson and Buck with men in McLeod Ganj, India.
Lewis Family with school in Haiti.
nities for as many as 30 days or more, saying goodbye was often difficult. Those memories came flooding back when they came home. “We worked with kids who are blind or who have HIV or AIDS,” J.D. says. “We worked with malnutritioned kids or kids with physical challenges. When you are there doing it, you’re in the moment and you’re not really processing it. I came home and started writing the book and sort of putting all the thoughts together. It’s just overwhelming.” J.D. and his sons know now that what they have is special. Their privilege isn’t something they take for granted, as they work to continue positive change in the communities they visited. “You can never go back to your old life,” says J.D. The family doesn’t plan on returning to that old life anytime soon. “I’m definitely going back to the organizations that we worked with,” says Jackson. “Next July I’m going back to Argentina.”
J.D., too, plans on traveling again on a trip to initiate a food program and assist in school infrastructure in Africa. “I can’t save the world but I can pick one school and I can say, ‘You guys are going to eat, you guys are going to have pencils, you are going to have support,’” J.D. says. “You can give $100 and change the entire course of a kid’s life.” The family agrees that their trip taught them life-long lessons they hope to impart to others. “If you are always looking for more you’re not trying to be satisfied with what you have, which is what matters,” Jackson says. “Even if you have nothing, you can still be happy.” “The greatest lesson we learned was that material possessions have nothing to do with your state of happiness,” says J.D. “It sounds cliché, but really caring and giving and being with somebody on a heartfelt level is the answer.” — Lainey Millen contributed to this story.
J.D. with child from New Hope Hospital in Hong Kong.
The Lewis Family given Masaii robes in Kisii, Kenya.
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20 Questions Kennith Chrismon, Charlotte by David Stout :: david@goqnotes.com
likes to read, play video games and learn about computers. He also loves to draw and create art — something he’s currently learning to do digitally. Kennith says his dream job would be to work as a computer illustrator at Pixar. For now, though, he says he’s happy meeting Charlotte’s LGBT community one customer at a time at White Rabbit. He explains, “I love that I meet new people every day that I’m there. It’s also the first job where I’m promoting things that I use and enjoy myself. Plus, I love looking at the mural every day. It’s just a great place to be with an excellent group of people to be around.” It won’t be long before it’s completely routine for Kennith Chrismon, a recent Charlotte transplant, to be told by complete strangers: “I know you from somewhere, but I don’t know where from.” No worries, it happens to all White Rabbit employees. Kennith moved here in August from Elkin, N.C. He came to be with his partner Chris and attend the University of North Carolina at Charlotte. When he’s not working at the store, doing homework or working out, he says he
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Would you rather have a madcap adventure with the ladies of “The Golden Girls,” “Sex and the City” or “Hot In Cleveland”? Definitely the ladies of “Hot in Cleveland.” I love Betty White! What is your favorite deep fried food? I’m gonna have to go with pickles. It’s got to be the chips, though, not the spears. That’s very important! Where would you most like to spend a year outside of the U.S.?
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I would love to go to Paris. I would enjoy seeing all of the art. Plus, watching “The Devil Wears Prada” made it seem even more fabulous! What would be the order of dominance in an S&M scene featuring Anderson Cooper, Neil Patrick Harris and Rep. Barney Frank? Neil Patrick Harris would be the most dominant if he is anything like his character on “How I Met Your Mother.” Anderson was a little shy just dancing with Kelly Ripa, so I would rank him last. That leaves Rep. Frank to be the monkey-in-the-middle, I guess. How do these films rank based on the number of times you’ve seen them: “A Hard Day’s Night,” “Purple Rain” “This Is Spinal Tap,” “The Wall”? Hahaha, I haven’t seen any of those movies! I’m tempted to watch the Katy Perry movie though. What was your favorite winter activity growing up? Skipping school when it snowed, of course. Sledding was fun, too — although we used inner tubes back where I’m from. How many times a day, on average, do you use hand sanitizer? Barely any if I am at home. I use it frequently
at work, though, particularly after touching the used magazines and money. How long has it been since you were in a tanning bed? It’s probably been around seven or eight months. I’d rather be out by the pool sunbathing when it’s warm enough. What’s your favorite thing to drink when it’s cold outside? I love white hot chocolate when it’s cold outside. My sister and I used to drink it almost daily when we lived together. Do you have any superstitious habits? Hmmm, I can’t think of any. I get a little paranoid and have to lock my bedroom door at night, though. Are there any pieces of workout equipment in your home? One of my roommates has a few things. Nothing big, though, cause we all go to the gym almost every day. How sexy are Tom of Finland’s drawings, using a 1-10 scale? Definitely a 10! I love the ones of big hairy men! Have you ever been in the cab of an 18-wheeler?
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drag rag by Miss Della qnotes contributor
It’s the season for ‘we’ and not ‘me’ Season’s greetings, kids! Here we are with Thanksgiving and Hanukkah behind us and Christmas and Kwanzaa and the New Year coming at us fast. And. never forget to add in Miss Della’s birthday in there, too. My older (never old) ass was 46 on the 18th. Oh boy, what trouble was I able to find to welcome another year? Let’s see! Our promo this time is of our Miss NC America, Ariel Nicole Knight Addams. I chose to honor Ariel because, as you know, she was the first in ages to win Miss NC on her very first attempt and she was the first Miss NC in more than a decade to crack the coveted Top 10 at the national contest, Miss Gay America. She will be in Charlotte during the holidays and I, for one, can’t wait to welcome her back. She hosted a fundraiser at Scorpio on Dec. 16 for the community and y’all know me and fundraisers. I hope I can make it and congratulate her on doing something for others and not focusing on “self” all the time. Selfish people, beat it! Speaking of Miss Gay America, I was just reading Sally Sparkles’ newsletter on the MGA website where she was talking about her first appearance as MGA at Club Pink in Monroe, La. Sounds like she had a great, emotional and fun time her first time out with her new crown. Can’t wait to see her back this way. Who knows? Maybe she will give up her crown in NC over in the fall? I guess we’ll find out soon enough. Many of you know the “RuPaul’s Drag Race” cruise has just taken place. My friend Kevin Long went and will have tea and pics for Miss Della as soon as he gets back to Charlotte by way of Ft. Lauderdale. I can hardly wait to hear about the carryings-on. I know for the show this next season, I’m going to be in heaven! Three former national titleholders are on there and two good friends among them. Alyssa Edwards and Coco Montrese will be joined by the diva, Roxxy Andrews. And, then I’m told it’s rumored that this will be the last season? Saywhat!? I have to chuckle — my good sis Tajma Hall and I were just chatting about the the kids who go on that show sometime and although we know the three aforementioned know better, some of those girls who tour wouldn’t know real drag if it hit them in the dance belt. Tajma has a new mantra for all the girls touring, making the thousands, while national titleholders have to deal with $250 a night and a hotel room if they’re lucky: “No lashes, No Nails? No Ma’am.” Memorize this and incorporate it, as there will be a pop quiz on Monday. Ha! The holidays remind me how much good food comes around and the conversation that comes with it. I forgot many moons ago to thank Kerri Nichols and Billy the artist formerly known as Buffy DeMareau for treating an old gal to dinner at Savor on Morehead. We were judging a contest that night and we had a grand time catching up. I just did dinner with Angela Lopez several weeks ago and I loved being with that child, too, to catch up after her trip back to Miss America and find out what’s
going on “on the scene.” She was about to take part in a fundraiser herself that I need to get more details on. It involved those affected by Hurricane Sandy in NYC. Then I see Angela and all the gang at Macy Alexander’s Christmas party in her new South Charlotte home. Wow! She and her hubby Jason must be living right. It was my pleasure to accompany Tiffany Storm and her friend André. We bumped into Amber Rochelle, Mahogany St. James (my sweet friend for many years), Brooke Divine Storm-LaReese, Kristina DeeVine, Felicia Monet, Detra Panucci, Kiana Lane and more. I
always look forward to Macy’s party, especially Dy’Mond Cartier; Miss Dragula is Phil Voila with after they had to skip last year. Speaking of RU Celyndra Clyne; and Aurora Scott Carlisle is Kristina (who is the Miss the new Miss Starstruck. More SC U.S.ofA. right now), tea later, ya hear? she has a new gig now Before I sign off, let me at Chaser’s on Tuesday remind you what I said at the nights, I think it is? Let beginning. Let the holidays me get back with you remind you of thinking of others, on what they’ll exactly some who are troubled or less be doing and what the fortunate and let the holiday seatheme is? I’m sure it’s son move you away from a place something like Blondie of “me,” and towards a place and the Boys. Yumm! of “we.” None of us are in this Where’s that little deligame of life by ourselves unless cious Romeo? we choose to be. On the other Why don’t we discuss side of that, make sure others a few prelims, the original feel like they can count on you, Miss NC America purpose of this column? too, in a time of need. With that, Ariel Nicole Knight Addams LOL! News is scarce this please pray for folks in our bigger go ‘round, but I can mention three prelims to community who are going through it at this time: Miss NC EOY this time: Onyx Jade Addams is the new Miss Winston-Salem with runner-up see Drag Rag on 18
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tell trinity by Trinity :: qnotes contributor
Adults keep secrets and children tell their parents everything Hello Trinity, After 15 years with my partner, I have kept my extra love affairs to myself. But, lately, I feel guilty that my partner is so innocent, honest and monogamous. However, I know my partner will leave me the second I tell the truth! I am trapped between good and evil. What do you think? Truth or Dare, Albany, NY Hello Truth or Dare, Now, I know I’ve seen this question somewhere. Ah, here it is in the book called, “How To Screw Up A Great Thing With Your Big Mouth!” In the chapter called “Ruining Someone’s Life” it says here that, “When you tell someone you love, something that will ruin their life, then you must decide between ruining it or not! Thus, if it ain’t broken don’t break it, just to fix it!” Remember, sweetie, adults have secrets and children tell their parents everything! Dearest Trinity, Vacationing at gay-friendly resorts is something I’ve done for years. But, now gay resorts seem more like body building competitions. What happened to celebrating diversity? The Last Resort, Atlanta, GA Dearest Resort, Being comfortable in your own skin and letting others be comfortable in theirs is definitely a powerful gift. Yet, I understand that as competition for the “sexiest” package continues to be paramount in
the gay community, whether to embrace it or embargo it continues to be a dilemma! So, for now, darling, you be your gay self and let others be their gay selves and I promise you will be the better for it! It may be time for you to embrace diversity! (I sure try my little you know what off as you can see in my cartoon.) Dear Trinity. I’ve been dating the same guy every day for the past two weeks. He’s visiting from out of state and has a boyfriend he calls his roommate. Now, he tells me he “can’t live without me” and I feel the same. I don’t sleep or go anywhere without my cell phone. Help? Not Sleeping, Ann Arbor, MI Dear Not Sleeping, Listen closely to these key words, “out of state,” “boyfriend,” “two weeks,” “can’t live without you!” These words scream dysfunction, disappointment and heartbreak! Honey, you’re about to be awarded the crown for a contest called, “America’s Most Dysfuntional” and you’re not even aware that you entered it! So, keep repeating after me, “Snap out of it! Start living again! This is not real. This is just a moment in time that will end. Stay centered and in control.” Hey Trinity, I’m new to the dating game and I’m having trouble figuring out what the “bases” are. Any suggestions for someone new to the baseball/ dating game? Bases Loading, Madison, WI
Dear Loading, While most baseball games have just three bases, the dating game has a few more. So, here are: Trinity’s Major League Bats, Balls and Bases for the Dating Game Batter Up: Start with a smart or seductive nod or gesture, but no jumping up and down! Approach Field: Say more than just, “Hello!” And, don’t be arrogant! Test Swing: Invite your new acquaintance for “Coffee?”, “Tea?” or “A little bit of me!” Take Position: Placing one hand on their shoulder, knee or arm will let you know if they are charmed or alarmed! Ball One: Make plans to seduce…I mean to see each other again! Ball Two: Have a first and second date to lunch or dinner. Ball Three: Invite your date home for a drink, to taste your “special” brownies or a mini massage. But, don’t reveal your S&M dungeon, just yet! Steal First: Sharing a bottle of wine and making lots of toasts promises that you’ll be, “The host getting the most!” Steal Second and Third: Finally, it’s time for groping, grabbing, necking and throwing each other down…I mean rolling around! Homerun: All out, uninhibited, (but protected) sex, including sound effects, role playing and a ticker-tape parade! : : — With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinity hosted “Spiritually Speaking” a weekly radio drama performed globally and is now minister of WIG: Wild Inspirational Gatherings. info: telltrinity.com . Trinity@telltrinity.com. Sponsored by: WIG Ministries, Gay Spirituality for the Next Generation! wigministries.org
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out in the stars by Charlene Lichtenstein :: qnotes contributor
December 22 - January 3 The Sun moves into serious Capricorn and encourages us to see the world in practical terms this holiday time. What will Santa leave you in your stocking? Have you been naughty or nice? Ho, ho, ho. SAGITTARIUS (11.23-12.22) Invest your pennies carefully. Use this time to review the bottom line and plan a cogent fiscal and retirement strategy for the new year. Gay Archers have a particularly clear vision of what will and will not work for them financially, but the real secret to success is to not become too greedy and reckless. They say it is better to give than to receive. Oh, really? CAPRICORN (12.23-01.20) You have a lot of confidence and great stage presence right now. Show off your talents at every holiday party in town. Pink Caps can use this jolly time to get into mischief and hang their tinsel on every tree. You really can’t do wrong. Even the scrooges have to smile. So, make good use of your charisma and party with Dancer and Prancer and become a Vixen with Cupid. AQUARIUS (01.21-02.19) Aqueerians seem to be able to sense friend from foe and overcome any hidden obstacles that shadowy enemies try to place in your path. So, what are you waiting for? Now is the time to overturn convention, take a calculated risk and go where you never thought you would go before. Success is in the cards. So, send me a holiday greeting card when you get there. PISCES (02.20-03.20) Seek and strengthen friendships and the social ties that bind this holiday season. Guppies are ready to party hearty and expand
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their circle of influential contacts. Deck the halls, pour the eggnog and prepare to rub elbows with the high and mighty until the new year. With any luck, your festivities will lead you to new relationships that light your tree. ARIES (03.21-04.20) Your professional prospects brighten. Put your efforts into being the perfect office party guest by carefully cultivating important office connections as the festivities get underway. Proud Rams impress the big wheels without being too greasy or obvious. But, don’t meet your boss under the mistletoe. Some costs for advancement are simply too high. TAURUS (04.21-05.21) Queer Bulls get itchy hooves. Hitch a ride on Santa’s sleigh and fly away to some relaxing destination and unwind. While you are at it, open yourself up to all sorts of new and exotic stimuli to gain a new perspective on life. Have you considered going back to school and learning a thing or three? Well, maybe just take a fun photography class and see what develops. GEMINI (05.22-06.21) Your yule log is on fire! Life becomes a big, sexy stewpot of adventure for all pink Twins ready for love and lust. There is more to this passionate madness than first meets the eye. In the course, you may discover some personal insights into what makes you tick. Use these beams of self reflection to plan some new year’s resolutions. It is never too early. CANCER (06.22-07.23) You can strut and fret your hour upon the stage, gay Crab, but it’s a helluva bore doing it without an appreciative audience. Thankfully, you are attending enough holiday parties to amass an enthusiastic crowd of admirers. And, there may be a certain special someone who gives you the gift of a lifetime. Be sure your gift is not another scarf. LEO (07.24-08.23) Holiday excess may have you yearning for some quiet office time turning you into Bob Cratchet. Proud Lions can accomplish a great deal of work in a relatively short amount of time. You can even successfully revamp your exercise regime. Forgo the fattening eggnog and get those potentially beautiful buns to a trainer. Remember, it’s always G-string season! VIRGO (08.24-09.23) Queer Virgins are encouraged to kick up their heels and deck the halls all over town. You know how to make merry, but don’t waste this valuable creative energy on silly nonsense, tempting as it may be. Try to rev up your artistic gay muse and create something beautiful, wonderful and inspired. Okay, it can also be the numero uno party of the year. LIBRA (09.24-10.23) Proud Libras can learn more about their genealogical roots and branches. Talk to your relatives and see what you can discover about your background. You may be pleasantly surprised — or shocked! Santa sez spread the good cheer among your many relatives. Plan a huge family holiday get together and see who gets their wish and who gets the lump of coal. SCORPIO (10.24-11.22) If the right words don’t come, take a deep breath try again. Queer Scorps have great oratory prowess now and can unleash an eloquence that fuels their great ideas. Say what you feel right from the heart. Who knows, one of your manifestoes could really gain traction. Of course, you can also just use this gift to have fun. Maybe just relax, sing a few carols and leave it at that. : : © 2012 Madam Lichtenstein, LLC. All Rights Reserved. Entertainment. info: Visit TheStarryEye.com for e-greetings, horoscopes and Pride jewelry. My book “HerScopes: A Guide To Astrology For Lesbians” from Simon & Schuster is available at bookstores and major booksites.
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Yes, I have. My grandparents were truck drivers. My grandpa is the most perverted person I know; I believe half of it comes from his experiences on the road. LOL! Can you walk in high heels? I crossdressed for Halloween when I was about 10. I didn’t have any trouble then, but I don’t know about now. Banana sandwich, banana pudding or banana split? I just started eating bananas about three months ago. I haven’t tried them on a sandwich or with ice cream, but I do like banana pudding. What party or board game do you hate to play? They’ve all gotten pretty boring unless they involve drinking. Bonus: No one loses during a
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continued from page 13 drinking game! Who’s your favorite stand-up comedian of all time? I could watch Katt Williams every day. He’s the only person I’ve ever found funny as a stand-up comedian. Have you ever attended a clothing-optional event? Not yet, but I’m sure I will eventually. LOL! Do you own a cast iron skillet? I don’t, but my mother does and those are my favorite to cook with. Which LGBT person is our best goodwill ambassador? Ellen DeGeneres, she is awesome and hilarious. I love watching her show — especially when she gets guys to take their clothes off. : :
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our first Miss NC America Brandy Alexander/ Danny who recently had serious surgery and is recovering; former Miss Continental PLUS Coco Van Cartier who also just had emergency surgery; Marcus Sumner, the better or other half of Chelsea Pearl (former Miss Damn Everything) who also had surgery and is in physical therapy;
and finally, still sending out best wishes to Chevelle Brooks who had surgery earlier in the year. And, while you’re at it, you can say a prayer for my mommy who’s in the hospital and having a rough go of it! : : info: Drop me a line, OK? TheTeaMissD@yahoo.com
Empowerment, strength, inclusion Jan. 23-27 • Atlanta Creating Change The National Gay and Lesbian Task Force hosts its annual National Conference on LGBT Equality, “Creating Change,” the largest LGBT conference of its type in the nation. The event marks the conference’s 25th year, featuring workshops and seminars, appearances by national movement leaders and celebrities and Task Force Executive Director Rea Carey’s annual State of the Movement address. Conference will be hosted at the Hilton Atlanta. Registration is open now with details available at creatingchange.org.
New Year’s Eve in Charlotte Dec. 31 • The Scorpio Dec. 31 • MCC Charlotte The Scorpio and a who’s who of your The Metropolitan Community Church favorite drag performers host a New of Charlotte hosts a Watchnight Year’s Eve party with party favors and Service welcoming the new year a midnight toast. 2301 Freedom Dr. 10 with a service of celebration and p.m. thescorpio.com. reflection. Holy communion served at Dec. 31 • Rainbow In midnight. 1825 Eastway Dr. “Party at the Lake” at Rainbow In, 11 p.m.-Midnight. 704-563-5810. 4376 Charlotte Hwy, Lake Wylie. $10 mymcccharlotte.org. cover. $25 wristband for all-you-canDec. 31 • Unity Fellowship drink house liquor and domestic beer. Unity Fellowship Church Charlotte Light food, party favors, complimenholds a Watchnight Service to ring in tary champagne. the new year. 2127 Eastway Dr. Dec. 31 • The Bar at 316 9 p.m. ufccharlottenc.org. Midnight toast. 316 Rennselaer Ave. thebarat316.com. info: Dec. 31 • Marigny Don’t see your event listed? “Times Square NYE 2013” at Marigny, We searched high and low for 1440 S. Tryon St., Suite 110. $12/ information on this year’s New Year’s advance. $15/door. Ball drop, cash Eve events, but came up lacking. If prizes, complimentary champagne. you know of any other events or want marignycharlotte.com. to submit yours for addition to our Dec. 31 • Cathode Azure online calendar, head to goqnotes. “Hollywood Nights New Year’s com/calendar/?com=submit or Eve” at Cathode Azure, 1820 South email your information to events@ Blvd., Suite 106. facebook.com/ goqnotes.com. CathodeAzure.
Dec. 23 • Raleigh Open House Shades of Pride and Triangle Black Pride hold an open house to begin preparations for its 4th Annual Pride. Learn how to part of the event, volunteer opportunities and the organization. LGBT Center of Raleigh, 411 Hillsborough St. 4:15 p.m. Free. Akil Campbell, chair. akil@triangleblackpride. shadesofpride.org. 919-233-2044 Dec. 28 • Charlotte Holiday Barn Dance Southern Country Charlotte hosts its monthly barn dance. Hartigan’s Irish Pub, 601 S. Cedar St. 10 p.m. Free/SCC members. $3/non-members. southerncountrycharlotte.com. Dec. 29 • Charlotte SLE Year-End Finale Sophisticated Lyfe hosts its end of the year finale at Kalu Restaurant, 505 E. 6th St. 9:30 p.m.-2:30 a.m. $10/ advanced general admission. $15/ door. $20/advance. VIP. sleevents. ticketleap.com/2012Countdown.
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Dec. 30 • Greensboro Queer Year Bash The Queer People of Color Collective of the Triad is hosting a pre-New Year’s Bash, to raise funds for the collective and celebrate with the community. Come to this grown and sexy affair and enjoy gifted food from the 1618 Wine Lounge, drink specials and DJ Robin Chantae turnin it up all night long. All are welcome. 1618 Wine Lounge, 1724 Battleground Ave. #105. 9 p.m.-Midnight. $7. Contact April Parker at a_parke2@uncg.edu or 862-588-1521 for more information.
Jan. 3 • Charlotte Open House Leadership Charlotte provides a diverse group of emerging and existing leaders with the opportunity to increase their community knowledge, civic network and service to the community. Ketner Auditorium, Queens University of Charlotte, 1900 Selwyn Ave. 5:30-8 p.m. For more information and to register for free visit leadership charlotte.org or email info@ leadershipcharlotte.org.
Dec. 31 • Raleigh Center New Year’s The LGBT Center of Raleigh hosts a free New Year’s Eve event with refreshments and light hors d’oeuvres. Wine and beer also available with a donation to the center. Downtown Raleigh fireworks at midnight. LGBT Center of Raleigh, 411 Hillsborough St. 9 p.m. lgbtcenterofraleigh.com. 919-832-4484.
Jan 7 • Charlotte PRISM LGBT young adults Prism is a collaboration formed by Time Out Youth and the LGBT Community Center of Charlotte for LGBTQ young adults ages 18025. Support, networking, social, discussion group. LGBT Community Center of Charlotte, at its new home in January, 617 E. 28th St. 6-7:30 p.m. gaycharlotte.com. timeoutyouth.org.
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