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Highs and Lows

It’s a sometimes dreaded, but always rewarding task that comes around annually for journalists and newspaper editors the world over — the year-end review of the preceding 52 weeks’ worth of top stories and shenanigans. Dreaded because it’s a large, complex and time-consuming undertaking.

Rewarding, of course, because of all the great stories once reported and discovered again since being long forgotten. Obviously, no one forgets the really big news, but there’s often a warm and fuzzy feeling when you read back over a smaller, less-noticed piece reported sometime in the year.

So it is with this issue — our annual yearin-review tracks our community’s biggest breakthroughs, losses, accomplishments and defeats. You might remember some of the more high-profile stories, too. We hope you also get that nostalgic feeling for some of the stories you might have put out of your mind.

Our community had plenty to rejoice over this year. On a national level, state level and here at home in Charlotte, LGBT citizens and residents shaped their own world. On a national level, the community celebrated the full repeal of the “Don’t Ask, Don’ Tell” policy.

Statewide, we banded together to challenge efforts to write discrimination into our constitution. On a local level, we celebrated our largest Pride Charlotte Festival ever and the election of Charlotte’s first openly gay or lesbian officeholder.

Despite the litany of successes, our community experienced loss. No year-end wrap up would be complete without pausing in remembrance of those friends, family and loved ones who passed this year.

Among them was Pamela Jones, a former member of the LGBT Community Center of Charlotte Board of Directors and a co-founder of the Charlotte Gender Alliance. Pamela’s efforts to work for equality and inclusion

were chronicled here in qnotes on several occasions. We enjoyed talking to her and we’ll always hold a special place in our heart for her and the good work she did for others.

The same is true for Ted Messner, a longtime community leader and treasurer for the Mecklenburg LGBT Political Action Committee (MeckPAC). Often working in the background, Ted helped to shape and mold MeckPAC’s mission and message, ensuring that pro-LGBT candidates for city council and county commission made their way into elected office. The hard work he engaged in certainly helped pave the way for people like newly-elected City Councilmember LaWana Mayfield and efforts by citizens and activists to make Charlotte the truly world-class and inclusive city we all know it should be.

Last, but not least, we remember Nan Robinson, a dedicated supporter and volunteer of the LGBT Community Center.

She worked diligently with the group’s programs committee and helped produce their GayCharlotte Film Festival, helping to make a place for LGBT-friendly film and arts in the Queen City.

The passing of these leaders leaves a hole in our community. Each made their mark. Each made a difference. And, all of us have been made better by their passion and zeal for life and liberty.

It is sad that life must include so many highs and so many lows. But, in pausing to reflect on their work and their lives, we feel love and remembrance, gratitude and humility.

Should old acquaintance be forgot? No. Never. Pamela, Ted and Nan will live on in each of the lives they touched. As this year ends and this chapter of our own lives comes to an end, we look back and wish them luck and grace in whatever next steps await them in their journey into eternity. : :

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VIEWS

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general gayety by leslie robinson qnotes contributor

Iowa teen argues the good argument

I give Jane Schmidt a world of credit.

The Iowa high school student held her own in an exchange with Republican presidential candidate Michele Bachmann. At Schmidt’s age, shaking a candidate’s hand was enough to make me forget my name.

I grew up in New Hampshire, where, due to the state’s first-in-the-nation primary, presidential candidates are as abundant as black flies. I assume the Iowa caucuses mean the Hawkeye State is likewise swarming with presidential wannabes.

These Famous and Important People are intimidating when you’re young and I couldn’t have managed more than reading a question aloud before losing the use of my vocal cords.

Not so for Jane Schmidt on a recent day in the Pizza Ranch restaurant in Waverly, Iowa. The Des Moines Register, which carried an account of the back-and-forth with Bachmann, didn’t give Schmidt’s age or her year in school, but did say she’s the president of Waverly High School’s Gay-Straight Alliance, so I’ll think of her as a senior.

I’ll also take a moment to drop my jaw that Waverly High even has a Gay-Straight Alliance.

Standing amidst a supportive crowd of about 65 people, mostly middle-aged and elderly, Michele Bachmann might’ve thought she was home free. Then, as a CNN video showed, she and her microphone headed toward the student in the red plaid trooper hat.

Schmidt told Bachmann she was concerned about the lack of government support for the LGBT community. Bachmann replied that the government’s job is to protect civil rights. “We all have the same civil rights,” she concluded.

That would’ve been the moment where I’d have thought to myself, “There’s something wrong with that statement and my God everyone is staring at me.”

Not Schmidt. She responded, “Then, why can’t same-sex couples get married?”

The candidate answered, “They can get married, but they abide by the same law as everyone else. They can marry a man if they’re a woman. Or, they can marry a woman if they’re a man.”

Now that the country has gotten a peek at Michele Bachmann’s husband Marcus, a sizable number of people believe that the woman is speaking from experience here.

Schmidt asked why two men can’t marry, and Bachmann answered that’s the law. “So heterosexual couples have a privilege,” responded Schmidt.

She was still being logical, while I’d have long since been carried away on a stretcher.

Straight couples have the same legal opportunity, said Bachmann. “There is no right to same-sex marriage.”

Except for where she was standing. It escaped Bachmann’s notice that same-sex marriage is legal in Iowa.

“So you won’t support the LGBT community?” asked the student.

“No, I said that there are no special rights for people based upon your sex practices,” said the congresswoman, who must’ve been annoyed at God for forcing her to talk about sex with a high school student in front of scads of Iowa senior citizens.

Ella Newell, a junior at the high school, tried to advance the point about privilege before the debate ended with Bachmann repeating that every American can marry, just someone of the opposite sex.

Most of Bachmann’s statements received applause, probably as much an attempt to silence the girls as to indicate support. But, Schmidt carried on, doggedly and civilly, despite the disapproval of her neighbors and despite the presence of reporters and cameras.

I hope someone bought her a pizza afterwards. Unless she felt like throwing up.

After the exchange between the high school students and the congresswoman, a young man told Schmidt and Newell that they should “emulate” Bachmann.

Yes, if Schmidt conforms and turns into an always-feminine Christian soldier she could land a guy like him.

Now I’m sure she felt like throwing up. : : info:

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NEWS

Person of the Year: Roberta Dunn Passionate advocate has love for community and equality

by Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.com

For a relatively new Charlotte-area resident, Roberta Dunn has become an amazingly well-connected advocate for LGBT equality. She serves on the LGBT Community Center of Charlotte Board of Directors and on the steering committee for the Mecklenburg LGBT Political Action Committee (MeckPAC).

This year, she also served on an advisory committee for Mayor Anthony Foxx’s re-election campaign.

Previously a resident of Northern Virginia, Dunn moved to Charlotte six years ago. She’d always been passionate about community and worked with children, sports activities and in other areas. Not until her retirement and introduction to the Queen City, however, did she get her first inkling toward activism.

“I was going to Charlotte Gender Alliance meetings and one of the people there asked what we were doing for outreach,” Dunn says. “We were coming to meetings and learning about being trans and those issues but what were we doing to educate the community and work with the community?”

The question prompted Dunn to ask more.

She contacted the police department to inquire about laws and the legal treatment of transgender people. She started attending classroom meetings and panel discussions at local universities. When she noticed other cities across the country moving forward on gay and transgender equality initiatives she

reached out with a desire for Charlotte to do the same.

“I was introduced to MeckPAC and [former chair] Phil Hargett,” Dunn says. “He asked me to join MeckPAC and that’s when I started to get to know elected officials here.”

That moment, Dunn says, became the catalyst for her current involvement.

Since then, Dunn has taken the lead on several issues. After the murder of transgender Charlottean Toni Alston in April 2010, Dunn reconnected with the police department and engaged officials there in conversation on their relationship to the broader LGBT community. Her initial chats grew and resulted in a town hall meeting at the LGBT Community Center with Charlotte-Mecklenburg Police Chief Rodney Monroe, efforts that won her recognition as Equality North Carolina’s 2010 Equality Champion for the Charlotte region.

This year, Dunn has worked closely with a large group of community members in efforts to increase Charlotte’s official LGBT protections.

“The issue really was to move forward to get the city, which has been dragging its feet, to pass employment non-discrimination based on gender identity and to get the city to vote on their policy on sexual orientation,” Dunn says.

With the Democratic National Convention coming to town next September, Dunn says progressive movement on the part of the city

is more important than ever.

Her goal, she says, is to let the nation and world know that Charlotte is an LGBT-welcoming city.

In a world where transgender people are often the target of some of the most daunting challenges and outright prejudice (both within and outside of the LGBT community), Dunn has overcome and risen to the top to become one of the city’s most outspoken and well-trusted politicos.

Anyone who knows Dunn is likely to give a one-word answer: Cookies. She’s famous Activist and qnotes’ 2011 Person of the Year Roberta Dunn at the annual for them. Peanut butter White House holiday reception in December. cookies. Sugar cookies.

Chocolate chip cookies. tenacity that’s required in the often roughSo good they might be considered bribery. and-tumble world of politics.

But, underneath Dunn’s smile and her For her persistent commitment, intelnatural, old-fashioned humility, grace and ligence, zeal and passion for this city’s LGBT friendliness is a more apt explanation of her community, its equality and the welfare of the rise to “insider” status: Dunn is passionate city at large, qnotes is proud to name LGBT and committed beyond measure, willing to activist and civic leader Roberta Dunn our take chances and has the kind of knack and 2011 Person of the Year. : :

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BRIEFS

news notes: from the carolinas, nation and world compiled by Lainey Millen :: lainey@goqnotes.com | David Stout :: david@goqnotes.com | Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.com

Film company fights amendment WILMINGTON — Working Films has joined the battle against the North Carolina anti-gay amendment on the ballot on May 8, 2012, with its addition of Reel Equality.

This initiative hopes to bring about awareness about the travails and issues surrounding passage of any legislation against recognition of gay marriage. It is comprised of a collection of six documentary films that help to tell the story. The organizers’ goal is to “turn audiences into supporters of statewide efforts of Equality NC and national efforts of the Human Rights Campaign.”

Working Films’ co-founders are Robert West (executive director) and Judith Helfand (development strategist and field explorer).

West is no stranger to North Carolina social justice projects.

In Charlotte, he was part of the OutCharlotte Film Festival for many years. Helfand is a Peabody Award-winning filmmaker.

It’s website says, “This amendment is bad for all families, hurts the economy as many large national employers support their LGBT colleagues, and sends a terrible message to vulnerable LGBT youth that their state considers them to be second class citizens. It will be an uphill battle, as the timing of the vote will turn out a base that supports this amendment, but the fight is just getting started!”

They have launched a Facebook page and have listed online resources where one can pledge to vote, learn about the repeal of Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), find out how the Human Rights Campaign is championing the charge and more. They hope that visitors will use the films for community-based activism. The Facebook page comes with a toolkit, as well.

Currently, a short video is available for viewing.

Working Films also has offices in London, England.

For more information, visit workingfilms.org or facebook.com/reelequality.

— L.M.

Charlotte Grievance filed against Cogdell

CHARLOTTE — A former Mecklenburg commissioner has filed a grievance against fellow Democrat Harold Cogdell (pictured), saying he should be stripped of any position in the party after working with Republicans to be elected chairman of the county board.

Lloyd Scher, who served on the Board of Commissioners from 1992 to 2000, says he also thinks Cogdell should be barred from participating in any activities related to the Democratic National Convention, which will be held in Charlotte next September.

“It would be inappropriate for someone who doesn’t support Democrats to stand there next to the president of the United States,” said Scher, a member of the Mecklenburg Democratic Party’s Executive Committee.

Cogdell, reached at his home late Monday, said, “It’s a nonissue that doesn’t deserve me commenting.”

Cogdell ousted Jennifer Roberts in last week’s county commissioners meeting. In a 5-4 vote that fell almost entirely along party lines, Cogdell won over objections from other Democrats who portrayed him as a traitor and opportunist.

Cogdell won by securing support from the panel’s four Republicans. Board Democrats, except Cogdell, chose Roberts.

Commissioners traditionally have elected the top vote-getter as chair. Roberts has

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served as chair since 2006. She did not return a call seeking comment late Monday [Dec. 12].

Scher’s letter to the state Democratic Party says Cogdell met secretly with other Republicans for weeks. It also asserts that Cogdell shouldn’t be classified as a “Democrat in good standing.”

— Steve Wootson, Jr., The Charlotte Observer via Charlotte News Alliance

‘Ex-gay’ leader named person of the year

CHARLOTTE — WORLD, a Christian magazine based in the Queen City, has named Alan Chambers, the leader of the “ex-gay” Exodus International organization, its “Daniel of the Year,” a reference to the Hebrew prophet Daniel known to Jews, Christians and Muslims alike for his imprisonment and later safe delivery from a lions’ den.

Chambers appears on the cover of the publication’s Dec. 17 issue.

He has become a lightening rod among LGBT people and activists for his work with Exodus International, a group that supports so-called reparative therapies and leads gay people to believe that they can become heterosexual.

The group’s track record of gay-to-straight conversion is unknown and activists have accused the group of lying to and misleading vulnerable LGBT people. Chambers himself has admitted that “ex-gay” conversion isn’t always likely.

Chambers’ ministry has previously partnered with the anti-gay Focus on the Family.

In 2009, Exodus and Focus on the Family hosted one of their several “Love Won Out” conferences in Charlotte.

— M.C.

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Group criticizes rehiring of anti-gay activist

CHARLOTTE — North Carolina-based LGBT advocacy group Faith in America is criticizing Cisco Systems and Charlotte-based Bank of America for their decision to rehire an anti-gay activist known for his extremist views on LGBT people.

Earlier this year, Christian author and apologist Frank Turek received notice that his contract with the two companies would not be renewed after the companies received complaints from employees regarding Turek’s anti-gay views and activism. Turek had worked to coordinate the companies’ leadership and team-building programs.

Turek later teamed up with the anti-gay National Organization for Marriage (NOM) and their new Marriage Anti-Defamation Alliance. In videos posted to NOM’s site and in action alerts emailed to supporters, Turek claimed he had been discriminated against solely because of his views on marriage.

The two companies finally gave way to Turek and NOM last month.

Faith in America Executive Director Brent Childers has petitioned the companies to reconsider and denounce Turek’s brand of anti-LGBT bigotry.

The group said it is ironic that Bank of America continues to employ Turek despite its LGBT-friendly reputation. Additionally, according to the group, the bank was chosen to host the memorial account for 18-year-old Tennessean Jacob Rogers, who committed suicide last week after years of anti-gay bullying.

— M.C.

Triangle Funds sought for campaign

DURHAM — The Coalition to Protect NC Families’ Campaign Manager Jeremy Kennedy is asking supporters to contribute monies toward its efforts to defeat the antigay marriage amendment which will appear on the ballot on May 8, 2012.

In fact, he has gone so far as to request that his loved ones forgo personal gifts or reduce their cost so that contributions can be given to the campaign. He’s suggesting others to consider this as well.

The coalition has received a offer from a donor who will match every gift received between now and the end of 2011 up to $25,000. At press time, they had raided close to $17,500.

Funds will be used to hire staff to battle opposition forces between now and late spring.

To make a contribution or for more information, visit protectncfamilies.org.

In other news, the organization is also seeking photographs of couples and families for its website. They are going to use three different kinds of photographs of three different kinds of families. Kennedy said, “I am looking for images that reflect the values of our group, … diversity — not just in color, but in gender, and in orientation.”

Email jeremy@protectncfamilies.org to learn more or to submit images.

— L.M.

Triad Foundation acknowledges heroes

GREENSBORO — The Guilford Green Foundation has launched its first-ever Leadership Awards, designed to recognize the courage and generosity of selfless “unsung heroes” from the LGBT and straight ally communities.

This special presentation will be awarded at their Gala celebration on March 31, 2012.

Currently, they are seeking names for worthy recipients to begin their selection process. Often great candidates are overlooked, executive director Shane Burton said.

The Foundation does not want to miss the opportunity of recognizing laudable achievements. Deadline is Jan. 17, 2012.

The following are nomination categories: GGF Visionary Award, given to one who has championed the vision of a better world for the LGBT community; GGF Distinguished Service Award, given to an individual who has provided years of outstanding service to the Piedmont Triad LGBT community; and GFF Distinguished Leadership Award, presented to an individual who has demonstrated outstanding leadership for a specific event, project or situation.

For nomination forms or for more information, visit ggfnc.org.

— L.M.

Shooting range draws fire

RURAL HALL — ProShots Range, 1013 Bethania Rural Hall Rd., has received a plethora of flack over its “Pansies Converted Daily” billboard on display just outside Winston-Salem.

According to the Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation (GLAAD) website who cited a Towleroad report, Kathy Clark alerted Equality North Carolina (ENC) about her disdain over the billboard. She indicated that her sister reached out to the National

Shooting Sports Foundation (NSSF) to remove it. They had given the shooting range a grant for advertising. The foundation was unaware of the billboard.

The scuttlebutt prompted ENC, GLAAD and the NSSF to demand for its removal.

“Words and images have a powerful effect on all people, including the LGBT community, and it is important that companies using homophobic euphemisms in their advertisements are held accountable,” a GLAAD statement reads.

Officials at ProShots said they never meant to offend anyone and that their management had already decided to take the billboard down once they realized how the “potential offensive implications” were. They shared their views on their Facebook page which fielded a cross-range of comments from its friends.

— L.M.

National/Global Openly gay sailor reinstated

SAN DIEGO, Calif. — Petty Officer 2nd class Jase Daniels (pictured), discharged from the U.S. Navy in April 2005 and again in March 2007 under “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell,” has been reinstated and returned to active duty. He was sworn in on Dec. 12. Daniels is believed to be the first openly gay former military member to be reinstated to service since the repeal of DADT this past September.

Daniels, 29, entered the military in the spring of 2001. He completed Hebrew linguist training and was stationed at Fort Gordon, Ga., where he came to terms with his sexual orientation and outed himself to his commander. He was discharged in 2005. Nonetheless, in 2006, he received a letter recalling him to service and served in Kuwait for a year with the U.S. Navy Customs Battalion Romeo. He served for a year before he was discharged a second time under DADT. Daniels is one of three plaintiffs in an ongoing lawsuit challenging the constitutionality of discharges under DADT and seeking reinstatement to active duty. Resolutions for the other plaintiffs, former Air Force Major Mike Almy and former Air Force Staff Sergeant Anthony Loverde, are expected soon.

— D.S.

Court sides with trans plaintiff

ATLANTA, Ga. — Earlier this month the 11th Circuit Court of Appeals upheld a

lower court ruling that the Georgia General Assembly discriminated against Vandy Beth Glenn, a transgender woman who was fired from her job as Legislative Editor after she told her supervisor that she planned to transition from male to female.

Writing for the unanimous three-judge panel, Judge Rosemary Barkett stated, “An individual cannot be punished because of his or her perceived gender-nonconformity.

Because these protections are afforded to everyone, they cannot be denied to a transgender individual. … A person is defined as transgender precisely because of the perception that his or her behavior transgresses gender stereotypes. … We conclude that a government agent violates the Equal Protection Clause’s prohibition on sex-based discrimination when he or she fires a transgender or transsexual employee because of his or her gender non-conformity.”

The decision was hailed by LGBT advocates. “The court could not have been more clear: It is unfair and illegal to fire transgender employees because their appearance or behavior transgress gender stereotypes,” said Greg Nevins, supervising senior staff attorney in Lambda Legal’s Southern Regional Office in Atlanta. “Employers should take note of this important ruling.”

— D.S.

21 years for middle school killing

OXNARD, Calif. — On Nov. 21, Brandon McInerney, 17, pleaded guilty to second degree murder and voluntary manslaughter with use of a weapon for the death of 15-year-old Lawrence “Larry” King at E.O. Green Junior

High School on Feb 12, 2008. McInerney, who was 14 at the time of the middle school slaying, will serve his 21-year sentence in both juvenile facilities and prison.

The plea agreement avoids a planned retrial necessitated by the declaration of a mistrial in the first proceeding stemming from the jury’s inability to reach an agreement on whether to find McInerney guilty of first-degree murder, second-degree murder or manslaughter.

GLSEN Executive Director Eliza Byard said, “The plea deal announced today ends a tragic chapter in Ventura County. Holding Brandon McInerney accountable for his actions is necessary and right, but putting him behind bars does not solve the problems that led a boy to become a bully, and then a murderer. … As adults and as a society, we must find the resolve to fix the broken systems that lost two young lives to hate and fear.”

— D.S.

Mayor comes out amid scandal

SOUTHAVEN, Miss. — The mayor of Southaven, Mississippi’s third-largest city, has come out in the wake of an examination of receipts uncovered as part of an investigation of his alleged expense account malfeasance.

According to state auditors, Mayor Greg Davis fleeced the city for $170,000 while spending thousands on liquor and expensive dinners and even charging his account for $67 spent at Priape, a shop for gay men in Toronto, Canada.

It was the discovery of the latter receipt that led Davis, who is married with children, to come out in a Dec. 15 interview with The Commercial Appeal (Memphis, Tenn.).

“At this point in my life and in my career, while I have tried to maintain separation between my personal and public life, it is obvious that this can no longer remain the case.

… I think that it is important that I discuss the struggles I have had over the last few years when I came to the realization that I am gay.”

Davis told the newspaper he planned to spend the holidays with his family then return to his mayoral duties in the new year.

— D.S.

U.S. stands up for gay rights

GENEVA, Switzerland — U.S. Secretary of State Hillary Rodham Clinton delivered a stirring speech Dec. 6 at the United Nations on the inalienable rights of LGBT people. She made a powerful case for the full inclusion of LGBT people in human rights protections and pledged that securing those rights is a priority of the Obama administration’s foreign policy. In her remarks, Secretary Clinton said: “To LGBT men and women worldwide, wherever you live and whatever the circumstances of your life, whether you are connected to networks of support or feel isolated and vulnerable, please know that you are not alone. … You have an ally in the United States of America.”

The speech was backed by a White House memorandum directing all federal agencies engaged abroad to use U.S. diplomacy and foreign assistance to promote and protect the human rights of LGBT persons.

Kate Kendell, executive director of the National Center for Lesbian Rights, commented, “Hearing the United States Secretary of State speak passionately about ending violence and discrimination against LGBT people throughout the world left me with a lump in my throat and tears in my eyes. To imagine what the world would be like if the vision Secretary Clinton laid out were to come to pass, is to imagine a world of such deep and enduring humanity that any dream can be realized.”

— D.S.

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Positive Profile

People who are taking the negative out of being positive

by Dale Pierce ~ Practice Manager

In this installment of our patient profile series I am choosing to talk about many stories I have heard this year, not just to narrow in on one person in particular. Why? Well, with the holidays here, I feel it is necessary that every voice is heard, every story told, and no one is forgotten. It is obvious that in this half of a page I can’t tell the story of every individual infected with HIV in our area, but here are a few encounters along the way this year that stick in my memory.

As the Practice Manager and Ryan White Program Director at Rosedale Infectious Diseases, I see quite a few people from different walks of life all traveling the same road. Being HIV positive myself for the last 15 years, I understand and can truly empathize with their plight, but value the individuality of difficulties that each of us encounter along our journey. Let’s face it; it is exactly that, a

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journey, no longer a destination when battling this disease.

I remember early in the year, a young gay male, some 19- or 20-years-old, was sitting across my desk telling me that he had just learned of his diagnosis. At first, as an advocate in the field, my immediate response to myself was “where did we as a community fail this young man?” Is it the lack of public awareness in the area and all around our country today? Is it that this new generation of young men and women has become complacent with the treatments that are available for this disease now? Is it the stigma that still exists in the South?

I never got a straight answer as to why, but that night I prayed, not only for that young man, but for all our youth, and for society as a whole that we do a better job at intervention and education with our youth. It is appalling to me that young people are still contracting a disease that is 100 percent preventable.

A wife came to me and needed to be tested because she thought she may have been infected by her husband. You see her husband had died suddenly and she found out after his death that he had been carrying on multiple affairs. Here was a woman that not only just lost her husband, but was now faced with years of infidelity and no one left to confront the issue or get answers. She knew she had to be tested

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because she could possibly be at risk. Before I go any further, let me tell you this woman was not positive and remains negative and healthy to this day. I sat back and wondered as she cried in my office what she must be going through and to this day I can still not imagine those feelings.

Another story was not a new diagnosis, but a related story. A patient I had personally known for years and had been positive for over 25 years had lost his job and insurance. After years, no decades, of battling this disease with great success, this man was facing the reality of where his medications would come from next month and if he would remain healthy and even risk resistance. Fortunately for him, Rosedale Infectious Diseases has a full-time benefits advocate in the form of Laurie Youron.

I watched and listened as Laurie calmly, but without judgment or without making light of his concern, helped him file for patient assistance from a major drug company. Within 48 hours the patient had his medications.

I am proud to manage a facility that puts patients first. We listen to their concerns and do our best to meet them where they are in their journey. It always amazes me the compliments that we get about our staff and facility. Not that I don’t believe I have the best staff in Charlotte, because I know (in my opinion, at least) that I

do. What amazes me is that what we consider our mission and commitment to care appears “unusual” to so many. We just believe we are doing what we are called to do. That being said, I make sure that I remind my staff at every turn of the charge we have been given and to make sure that we never take our role in this epidemic lightly.

What bothers me the most is that there still is a sense of “competition” among agencies and individuals in our field. Are we not all fighting the same battle? Do we not all see the same consequences of stigma, isolation, and lack of education and funding?

It is my fervent wish this holiday season that all agencies, providers, activists, and patients unite to a stronger collective force in 2012.

I truly believe that this is a battle that can be won, or at least, we can be making strides to that end. So, if it is in your holiday or daily routine to send up a prayer, pray for the unity of the forces in our community that can make sure stories like you have read earlier in this article, don’t have to happen.

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The year in retrospect The top stories of 2011

by Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.com

Bells will ring, candles will be lighted and champagne will be toasted and plenty of folks will wish they could forget many of the days gone by this year. Yes, the economy still sucks. Yes, politicians still have no answers.

Yes, Congress is still deadlocked. But, don’t be fooled: Lots of good things happened this year, too. With the good comes the bad and, often, the sad and bittersweet.

Such is life and despite the every-increasing go-go-go of the modern world, it’s healthy to stop and take a moment to think and reflect on what was. Hopefully, such meditation triggers inspiration on what can be as our local, statewide and national community continues to make brave and historic strides forward in our march of liberty, equality and justice.

Here now, qnotes’ top stories of 2011…

The email heard ‘round the world Just days shy of New Year 2011, anti-gay Republican Mecklenburg County Commissioner Bill James fired off an email that sparked the ire of the local, statewide and national LGBT communities. The email, in which he called gay people “sexual predators,” became the focus of a national petition campaign through Change.org. Just over a week later more than 10,000 people had signed the petition calling upon the county commission to censure James. The censure would never come, though the board did consider a resolution on equality and respect — a document so mild and tame that James himself voted for it. James’ diarrhea of the mouth was how Charlotte’s LGBT community was welcomed into the New Year. And, as always, James never failed to disappoint, making plenty more hay throughout the year.

Look back: goqnotes.com/9615/ u Fresh face In January, the North Carolina General Assembly opened its new legislative session with a new member, one who made history in the state becoming our first openly gay, African-American state lawmaker. Freshman

Democratic House Rep. Marcus Brandon, who represents portions of Guilford County, followed in the footsteps of the state’s first openly gay legislator, New Hanover County’s Sen. Julia Boseman. In her time in office, Boseman took courageous stands for the LGBT community. Brandon has, too. In his case, however, Brandon has faced down some of the meanest and most extreme anti-gay hatred and malice the state has ever seen, playing a crucial role in the legislative fight to keep an anti-LGBT constitutional amendment on marriage and civil unions off the ballot. For his brave leadership in the face of a Republican majority hellbent on discrimination, Brandon was honored near year’s end as Equality North Carolina’s Legislator of the Year.

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Misbehaving heterosexuals are your problem. Leave us gay folk alone.”

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Sensationalistic tabloidism Mecklenburg County’s Bill James wasn’t the only person kicking up dust in the early part of the year. News channel WBTV’s Steve Crump also took a turn, airing what was eventually proven a trumped-up story on alleged gay sexual encounters in one Mecklenburg County park. qnotes went to work immediately to counter the damaging and sensationalistic news report though the damage was already done and the door to bigotry already swung wide open as James used the opportunity to bring up old horror stories about an “infestation” of gay men in the local parks. Ultimately, facts and real journalism won the day. Despite claims to the contrary, illegal public sexual encounters among local gay men was near nothing when compared to the heterosexual or drug-related crimes against nature charges and arrests, according to data collected from Charlotte-Mecklenburg Police.

As we reported then, “So, let the myth be quashed.

There is no “infestation” of gay men in Mecklenburg County parks. There is no overwhelming problem — that is, except for heterosexual prostitution. The evidence points Charlotte — and, in particular, County Commissioner Bill James and WBTV — in one clear direction: stop scapegoating gay men and start looking in the mirror.

Make it rain The Charlotte Lesbian & Gay Fund pulled off a stunner in May. The annual luncheon event, “The Happening,” featured emcee Maureen O’Boyle and keynote speaker Mitchell Gold. The group also doled out a record $85,000 to local LGBT organizations. The event was already going well and a surprise — an additional $25,000 and another $25,000 matching challenge — from new Charlotte corporate citizen Wells Fargo made it that much better.

Money, money everywhere and lots of folks in need get a much-deserved boost.

1 — Democrat Marcus Brandon is embarking upon his first term in the North Carolina General Assembly. He’ll represent a portion of southwest Guilford County in the North Carolina House.

v Celebrate good times…

In May, qnotes celebrated its 25th anniversary, a feat given the rocky roads experienced by the news industry in recent years. LGBT news-media, including qnotes, was never immune to those industry troubles. Some LGBT newspapers closed shop. Others were reborn.

But, qnotes, is still alive and kicking. The future is bright, though its many challenges are daunting, and we’re looking forward to many more years ahead.

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Celebrate, part two qnotes wasn’t the only local LGBT institution celebrating and chronicling their years of growth and successes. In June, Time Out Youth feted 20 years of service to local LGBT teens and young adults. The anniversary events, spread out over three days included the group’s 20th anniversary gala, an annual fundraising event they hope to continue each year.

Look back: goqnotes.com/11195/ Financial closet While Time Out Youth was spending June celebrating, North Carolina non-profit NC Pride was busy fending off allegations of mismanagement. The group’s federal tax-exempt status was revoked early that

2 — In May 2011, qnotes celebrated it’s silver anniversary serving the LGBT community throughout the Carolinas.

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3 — Out-going Equality North Carolina Executive Director Ian Palmquist speaks to a crowd of hundreds gathered for a pro-LGBT faith rally in Charlotte on June 24.

4 — Organizers said 5,000 people attended the local Winston-Salem Pride parade and festival.

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pavement to beat incumbent Democratic District 3 Councilmember Warren Turner.

The September primary victory set her on a nearly-guaranteed path to success — a path ultimately proven when she won the November election by a landslide to become Charlotte’s first openly gay or lesbian elected official.

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of her fellow Tar Heels. Madison’s co-chairmanship of HRC’s national search committee charged with finding a replacement for outgoing President Joe Solmonese was announced in September. Madison is sure to represent her home state well in what we’re sure is a daunting task in choosing the next executive for the nation’s largest LGBT civil rights organization.

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w End of an era In July, Ian Palmquist stepped down as executive director of Equality North Carolina.

The move came after 11 years working for the organization — the last five years at the group’s helm. Palmquist’s departure — he is currently pursuing a graduate degree at Harvard University’s Kennedy School of Government — marked an important turning point for the statewide LGBT advocacy and education organization. In the midst of a legislative campaign to defeat an anti-LGBT constitutional amendment, the group dove head-first into the mirky executive search waters. Palmquist’s interim replacement, Alex Miller, led the group with courage and grace until a new executive director, Stuart Campbell, was announced this fall.

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Make it rain, part 2 The annual Pride Charlotte Festival got a major boost this year. A new location right in the middle of Uptown Charlotte’s arts district set it on a path for success. And, success it was. Organizers say some 27,000 people attended the event, making it the largest LGBT Pride festival between Atlanta and Washington, D.C. Additionally, the 2011 event raised some $60,000 or more — the most its raised for the LGBT Community Center since its inception in 2006. An audit of the group’s expenses and income is expected to be made public at some point in the new year. [Ed. Note — This writer served on Pride Charlotte’s organizing committee.]

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x Small-town Pride While Charlotte celebrated the successes of their Pride festival, Winston-Salem was embarking on a home-grown challenge to host their first locally-produced Pride event following NC Pride’s hosting of their annual event in the Twin City years ago. The event attracted at least 5,000 people for a street fair and evening parade. Organizers say it will become an annual event.

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Mayfield makes history Long known for her neighborhood and community advocacy, organizer LaWana Mayfield announced her candidacy for the Charlotte City Council in May. By August, she had racked up a mammoth election war chest and was out pounding the

King-maker Longtime advocate for change and Human Rights Campaign Board of Governors member Joni Madison might not like the attention, but she’s sure to have a lot of influence on behalf

Ding dong the witch is…

On Oct. 31, anti-gay state Sen. James Forrester, a Republican from Gaston County, passed away. His death followed years of anti-gay political activity and this year’s introduction and eventual successful passage of his anti-LGBT state constitutional amendment. It’s such a shame his legacy will be shaped by the last hate-filled action of his life.

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Stabbing shakes community CHARLOTTE — A brutal early morning fight and stabbing at Uptown’s Hartigan’s Irish Pub in early December left one woman dead, another jailed on murder charges and a community left scrambling for answers.

Police say a fight on Dec. 4 between a group of women at the iconic gay and lesbian restaurant and bar began in the establishment’s bathroom. It continued outside where the victim, 30-year-old Antoinette Latoya Baker, was stabbed with a broken beer bottle in the neck and abdomen. Baker was later transported to Carolinas Medical Center where she died.

The suspect, 32-year-old Katie Nicole

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Robinson, was arrested and charged with murder later that day. As of press time she remained without bond in the Mecklenburg County jail.

Robinson has several prior arrests for charges ranging from breaking and entering to communicating threats and assault.

Police have not released more information about what triggered the fight and an investigation is still ongoing.

In response, the community has rallied around the bar and the victim’s family. more: Read this full story online at goqnotes.com/13970/.

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Amendment made for rollercoaster year The sausage-making that is legislating kept activists busy from day one

by Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.com

LGBT advocates and grassroots activists knew they were up for a challenge the moment election results started rolling in November 2010’s midterm elections. Control of the state legislature had been returned to Republican hands for the first time in over a century. It was time for the longtime minority to have its way on Jones St. and Republican leadership wasted no time getting to their decades-long pent-up agenda.

It was a foregone conclusion that North Carolina would, at least, consider an antiLGBT constitutional amendment, a measure that would ban recognition of marriage, civil unions and domestic partnerships for samesex couples. Republican legislators like the late state Sen. James Forrester had worked to convince the previously Democratic-led leadership to take up his discriminatory measure for the past seven years in a row.

He never had any luck and the bill never moved. But, anti-gay sympathies among the new Republican majority and its leadership all but guaranteed the amendment’s hearing in House and Senate chambers.

Forrester immediately jumped on his to-do list soon after the General Assembly opened for this year’s session. He filed his bill and began pushing for the amendment. A month later, the amendment was filed in the House.

The weeks went by with very little word on the amendment’s progress. It hadn’t been

scheduled for a hearing and legislative leaders like Senate President Pro Tempore Phil Berger and House Speaker Thom Tillis were staying quiet on the issue.

The silence was broken in May at a proamendment rally staged on the grounds of the legislature. In June, an open mic (whether it was planned or mistakenly left on, no one knows) caught Republican House members discussing the proposed amendment.

“It’s important to the conservative groups that we get this passed this year because they need that to be able to get their ground game working to get the maximum effect to get out the vote,” Catawba County Republican Mark Hilton said.

Hilton also thanked Tillis for his support of the amendment, one of the first public indications that the speaker would, in fact, favor the measure.

“Speaker Tillis has assured us it will happen this year,” Hilton said. “It may be in a special session for constitutional amendments but it will happen this year.”

Tillis’ support for the amendment was confirmed a month later when the leader told Asheville’s Citizen-Times that the measure would “definitely be brought up in a special fall session.”

Advocates and grassroots activists and volunteers with Equality North Carolina

paid close attention throughout the year as the legislative process crept along. In July, former Executive Director Ian Palmquist stepped down from his role.

In his place, Interim Executive Director Alex Miller stood in as an outspoken advocate, challenging leaders like Forsyth County Republican and House Speaker Pro Tempore Dale Organizing against the impending anti-LGBT amendment spread across the Folwell. state like wildfire soon after the measure’s legislative approval.

In September, Pictured, an Oct. 15 rally in Uptown Charlotte. the gauntlet was laid down. The amendment passed the House This year wasn’t the best for the LGBT 75-42 on Sept. 12. One day later, the Senate community. However, despite the challenges passed the measure 30-16, the slimmest of faced by the amendment, community leaders necessary margins. and members pulled together and united like The fight to keep discrimination out never before. It’s a trend organizers against of the state constitution was on. Equality the amendment hope continues in the new North Carolina and its members didn’t year, where the amendment’s ultimate fate hesitate. Fundraising challenges were will be decided by voters on May 8, 2012. : : made and met, even before an official antimore: Want more of our past and continuamendment referendum committee was ing coverage of the amendment? Visit our announced in November.

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Centers serve as rock-solid resource Although diverse, each brings stability to communities they serve

by Lainey Millen :: lainey@goqnotes.com

Across the Carolinas, gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender individuals constantly search for options for support and socializing.

Some enjoy the bar scene, while others would prefer gathering together to do social action projects. But, the one consistent theme that they all share is a need for connecting with like-minded people.

Many of the smaller towns and hamlets do not have a regular, growing meeting spot that is specifically targeted to house the LGBT community’s resources and more.

However, in places like Charlotte, Raleigh and Columbia, as well as a unique option in Wilmington, volunteers and paid staff are working constantly on providing LGBT seekers meeting rooms, classes, exhibits, resources and a myriad of other items to satisfy even the most demanding palette.

Of course, each of these resources always welcome contributions to help them sustain their work with the community. And, when applicable, sponsorships are obtained to assist in their selected efforts to champion LGBT causes and more.

Coastal organization sets new direction Off with the old, on with the new. And, that’s just what has happened. Out Wilmington has a new name and a new direction. It is called New Out Wilmington (NOW). It has set a new course in working with the LGBT community along the southern North Carolina coast. And, more importantly, it’s the only center in the Carolinas that operates totally virtually.

The non-profit’s new leadership says it will play a more active role, supporting

Bowling is a favorite event for New Out Wilmington participants.

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issues that go outside those concerning LGBT initiatives. They target fundraising events to support local and national charities, as well as scholarship opportunities for LGBT students enrolled at Cape Fear Community College and the University of North Carolina-Wilmington.

Membership is available at three levels: Gold, Silver and Bronze. Gold and Silver receive a free Frank Card (a local discount card) and discounts on events.

NOW is in the planning stages of implementing a toll-free gay crisis helpline for Southeastern North Carolina. According to Tracy Holbrook, they are “in negotiations with various groups such as [The] Trevor Project and local businesses that are interested in supporting this initiative. We definitely plan to have a physical location for the Helpline when it is implemented and this introduction will also quickly allow our organization to have a physical presence in our community.” The target date to go live is in early 2012. According to NOW, there are only around 50 across the nation, surveys report. Contact Ben Rose, organizer, at dover30@ec.rr.com to volunteer or for more information.

On Oct. 21-23, NOW welcomed the Leather History Conference 2011. The conference is a project of the Carter/Johnson Leather Library which is based out of Willow Grove, Penn.

Current activities include a bowling league, wine tastings, film screenings and more. Family Fest 2011 was held from Sept. 30-Oct. 2 with a health fair, screening of “Gen Silent,” dinner cruise, worship service and tea dance.

NOW held its Winter Ball on Dec. 10 at Cameron Art Museum, 3201 S. 17th St. This charity event supported the work of Good Shepherd Center.

On the horizon are a photo opportunity with a male adult entertainment star to raise money for scholarships for LGBT students, a charity event fundraiser to support the local homeless shelter and soup kitchen, monthly film screenings and more.

The organization is always on the lookout for committee members and volunteers.

Additionally, they are are open to working with neighboring cities to strengthen their work and that of other centers and initiatives. info: outwilmington.com

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Capital city heads call To the northwest is the LGBT Center of Raleigh, 411 Hillsborough St.. This brickand-mortar facility has established itself in its brief history as a strong resource for the Triangle area.

Its mission is to provide a safe, caring place for all members of the LGBT community and to provide services to it, as well, said Linda Snyder, executive assistant.

Over its short history, the center has grown from a single idea into a broad organization that provides a rash of services. It has not strayed from its original direction, however, it may have had to alter some things due to financial needs or availability of funds.

“The LGBT Center of Raleigh was only an idea three years ago, when two interested groups [the center and Triangle Community Works] came together and put their joint efforts into making a physical center happen. Sharing funds and plans, the groups merged into one non-profit and took the step of renting a space, hanging out our sign and sending emails all over the area to friends and business friends, seeking their input and financial help. We created the Founders Triangle and have continued to fundraise and provide events that have drawn positive results. In one year we went from an 800 square foot meeting space with a small office, to a 1,700 square foot facility that has meeting space, offices and a library that is the largest LGBT library in the state outside of the universities. Our calendar is continuously full of events, meetings, and gatherings of outside groups interested in the LGBT community and we are a part of the larger community through participation in such events as the First Friday Art Walk run by the city of Raleigh. We have also been approached this year by two universities wishing to partner with us to have their students intern at the Center, so we are making an impact and becoming known for the work we do and the people we support,” Snyder shared.

Membership is not a function of the center. It is open to the public.

It hosts the OutRaleigh Festival and became the home to the M Club for young gay and bisexual men. It also provides meeting space and/or support for Silver Roses, No Accidents in Life!, HIV testing, open

The LGBT Center of Raleigh constantly expands its services on a community needs basis. Seen here is a gathering of the Trans Initiative which started out with 12 attendees and now boasts about 50.

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mic events, Transgender & Allies Support, Primetimers and Gay and Gray, Rainbow Reading Groups, game nights, potluck socials, drag brunches, lesbian book club and more.

Additionally, it offers fitness-related activities through Healthworks, which was originally a Triangle Community Works program.

The center relies on contributions from individual donors, plus several corporate sponsors, such as Duke Medical, Workplace Options and others, Synder added. It also reaches out via its website to people all over the country. And, it holds a variety of activities across the Triangle to ensure inclusivity. info: lgbtcenterofraleigh.com Queen City center continues to grow Moving to the southwest is the LGBT Center of Charlotte at 820 Hamilton St., Suite B11.

Its basic mission of serving the LGBT community through programs, services, events and collaboration hasn’t changed over the years.

John Stotler, board chair, said that they listen to the community. “We’ve asked the community to tell us what they want from the center. Some of this, we’ve been able to do.

But, every event requires resources and sometimes those are scarce, whether that is money or volunteers. We’ve worked hard this past year to recognize the importance of both and to make better efforts to recognize donors and volunteers for their extraordinary contributions.

We need to continue to cultivate both to meet the needs of the community,” he continued.

When the facility was on Central Ave., it ran a full-time schedule. Because of a shortfall in monetary resources over recent

testing, knitting classes, P90X shape up sessions, art exhibits, men’s and women’s support group, LezView Live (a radio show) and more.

Its website offers a comprehensive community directory of goods and services across a broad spectrum.

Of course, contributions are always welcome to help sustain the center’s work, as well as volunteers. info: gaycharlotte.com

The LGBT Community Center of Charlotte host a number of special events during the year, such as gallery exhibits.

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years, the center was forced to downsize its staff and volunteer hours. Stotler shared that they hope to one day be able to be a full-time center againand have increased their hours.

“In three years time, we fully expect that the center will be hosting multiple events every night of the week and be ‘the center’ of the LGBT community in the region,” he said. He indicated that the board even wants to expand staff. They have one part-time employee now and hope within the next few years to add a full-time executive director. They would like to occupy a larger space with the projected growth for more events. On their wish list is to see Pride Charlotte host 100,000 attendees In five years. “The Pride Committee may laugh about that, but Charlotte is a top 20 city. We can host 100,000 people at Pride!” he concluded.

The center currently hosts free HIV/syphilis

Palmetto State’s center hangs tight The Harriet Hancock Center for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, & Transgender Community of South Carolina, 1180 Woodrow St. in Columbia, is the only one in the state.

Ryan Wilson, the foundation chair, said that this center “has continued steadfastly since opening its door in 1994.” Growth has necessitated its expansion to meet the needs of those it serves.

Unlike the other two facilities in North Carolina, this center is an actual home. Under its umbrella is SC Pride, which has netted over 10,000 attendees in recent years.

Organizations, such as SC Black Pride, the SC Gay + Lesbian Business Guild and the Palmetto Transgender Association, make use of the free meeting space. “Countless educational forums, support groups, book clubs, religious study groups and social events” take place there, as well, Wilson continued.

He also said, “Our other project that gives us a lot of Pride is the grant funded Youth Empowered Against HIV! (YEAH!) — a project that trains young, self-identified gay, bisexual and queer males between the ages of 18-24 to be peer leaders and educators about HIV risk and ways to protect yourself. The peers

of YEAH! have provided over 40,000 condoms of running ads in newspapers and online, to the local community through free condom as well as on the radio. “We rely heavily on dispensers. South Carolina and Columbia in email, Facebook and Google searches that particular rank tragically high for new cases bring people to us when they are in need of of AIDS and HIV infections, so this project is a resources or support,” Wilson commented. direct response to local community’s need for Partnerships are important to the services that address HIV in a GLBT-affirming center. One major one is South Carolina project that boost’s the peers’ pride in who Pride Movement, which provides constant they are while giving them skills to protect and daily support and helps fund some themselves and teach others. YEAH! has been of the operations with monies from Pride funded for two years by the Central Carolina Festivals. Some of the Guild members AIDS Partnership, AIDS United and the AIDS donate to the center, too. SC Equality and Benefit Foundation of South Carolina.”

South Carolina Black Pride are valuable In 2009, the center conducted an assessallies. Grant funding comes from the City of ment and found that there were a number of Columbia Community Promotions. programs that needed to be addressed in the “Thankfully, we also have a good relationarea of health. Lesbian health concerns will ship with the GLBT students and staff at the be reviewed and exUniversity of South Carolina. panded services will be We also work with Elke made available once the Kennedy and the folks at Sean’s requirements are identiLast Wish,” Wilson added. fied. Additionally, they He also said that they have will focus on smoking garnered great success from and substance abuse their growth and financial and same-sex relationstability during the recent ecoship violence and need nomic downturn. Conversely, volunteers to work on he shared that they should these initiatives. They have made moves that would are currently working have enabled them to hire paid with local law enforcestaff. Over the next few years, ment and emergency their strategic plan is to hire services and will have a director. information available in The Harriet Hancock Center Celebrations are part of the normal the near future.

Foundation plans to launch fare at The Harriet Hancock Center Anyone can use the a new website with updated for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, & services of the center Transgender Community of South logos and graphics, as well as for free. No memberCarolina. Seen here is center presi- publish an annual report and ships are available. dent Ryan Wilson enjoying his birth- the South Carolina LGBT Needs Funds are always needday party with other participants. Assessment in early 2012.

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in college. He is a changed person. And, I’m not the only one who observed it. So did his girlfriend, his mom, my partner and his sister.

The community of love noticed it. Note of the change came when my partner and I picked by brett webb-mitchell my son up from college. We drove all the way qnotes contributor to Miami, Fla., on a Saturday in mid-December An Unexpected Homecoming to gather my son and his belongings as he makes a move to a new school in the spring.

On the way back home on Sunday, with a College changes a person. I was an undergraduate and 12-hour ride before us, there was time for us to talk about his graduate student for 13 years and I’ve been a faculty member first semester experience, otherwise known as “the good, the in colleges, universities and seminaries for over 17 years and bad, and the ugly” (with apologies to Clint Eastwood). It was I’m not sure what it is that brings about the change. I’d like to during one of the lulls of traveling that we talked about the say the change occurs is the mysterious alchemy that takes changes in his life, from his perspective. He said that having place between teacher and student in the classroom over a a gay dad wasn’t that big a deal anymore. I was driving at the semester. But, perhaps, transformations happen in the dorm time and about slammed on the brakes or drove off the road in room, fraternity or sorority, in the middle of the hallways and amazement. This from the young man who, during high school, kitchens where people gather informally to discuss the “buzz” made it very clear that he didn’t want anyone knowing that he about a class or issue on campus. Then again, it could be at had a gay dad with a partner. It was because of Parker’s vote a big sports event, musical performance or off-campus party of “no” that I did not run for a place on the Chapel Hill-Carrboro that the real magic takes place and lives are forever changed.

Community School board. It was because of his desire to keep Somewhere, somehow, with someone, the change occurs, in knowledge of my being gay hidden that I tried to keep a low which a new perception of life appears over the horizon and profile when it came to his school events, usually sitting in the the person is never the same. back row of sporting events or other ceremonies.

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In hindsight, the change was evident when he introduced us to his college friends around the dorm when he was moving out. He hugged me openly, in public, when he came out of the dorm. We met his roommate, his friends across the hall, and the Resident Assistant, without him blinking an eye. “This is my dad, Brett. This is his partner, Dean.” He said it just that easily and naturally. We piled his stuff into the rented SUV for our long excursion back and waved goodbye to his friends. And, off we went, homeward bound to North Carolina. But, the young man who left us four months earlier was not the same. Something happened. Someone changed.

In the Christian scriptures, there is the story of the Prodigal or Lost Son. It is a family system story of reconciliation among many conflicting parties. In a nut shell, a parent celebrates the return of the young child who went his own way, sowing his “wild oats,” coming home finally, seeking reconciliation with those who stayed home, namely the other child and parent (Luke 15:11-32). While my daughter found it easier to acknowledge that she had a gay dad, my son’s journey in conceding that his dad is gay has been longer and far more, well, interesting.

I can empathize with my biblical forbear, who rejoiced at this unexpected homecoming. I shall savor the day I could hear and see the simple, public recognition of father and son, parent and child, with “Yeah, that’s my dad and his partner, Brett and Dean.”

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It’s that time of year — friends and family gather for reunions, dinners and parties. And, no get-together is complete without a great dish. Robert Penry is an admissions classroom presenter for the College of Culinary Arts at Johnson & Wales University in Charlotte. He’s providing some great culinary inspirations for your holiday gatherings this year. Log on to goqnotes.com/to/ arts-entertainment/cooking/ if you missed Robert’s holiday-inspired creations in November and December.

Holiday Cooking Black-Eyed Pea Cakes and Garlic-Chive Sour Cream

by Robert Penry :: guest contributor

Black-Eyed Pea Cakes Ingredients: 2 15 oz. cans Black-Eyed Peas, drained & rinsed 1 T. Butter 1/2 Onion, minced 1/4 C. Green Pepper, minced 1/2 JalapeĂąo, seeds removed, minced 3 Cloves Garlic, minced 1 C. Coarse Breadcrumbs (Panko) 2 Eggs 2 T. Parsley, chopped 1 t. Cumin, ground 1/2 t. Salt

1/2 t. Black Pepper 1/3 C. Cornmeal Vegetable Oil for Frying Method of Preparation: 1. In a medium bowl, mash half of the peas with a sturdy spoon. Gently fold in other half of the peas.

2. In a medium skillet, melt butter over medium heat. SautĂŠ onion, bell pepper, jalapeĂąo and garlic until softened, about 7-8 minutes. Allow to cool.

3. Add breadcrumbs, eggs, parsley, cumin, salt and pepper into pea mixture.

4. Fold in sautĂŠed vegetable mixture.

5. If the mixture is too wet, add additional breadcrumbs. If too dry, add 1 additional egg. Chill mixture for 20-30 minutes.

6. Form pea mixture into cakes about 1/2 inch thick 7. Heat a medium skillet over medium heat. Add enough vegetable oil to coat the pan.

8. Dredge each cake in cornmeal. Fry on each side until golden brown, about 5-6 minutes.

9. Serve with garlic-chive sour cream.

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3 Cloves Garlic, minced 1 t. Salt 1 t. Black Pepper

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2. Add chives, garlic, salt and pepper. Stir well to combine.

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You are one in a million

Dear Trinity, I seem to be on an unlucky streak. I lost my job, my lover and now I’m being evicted. The only thing good in my life is my health and my cat. What do you do in times like these?

Dreading Tomorrow, Tulsa, OK Dear Dreading Tomorrow, Sleep lots, have faith and keep busy.

These three things always get me through those awful trials. Everyone has incredible highs and devastating lows, how we deal with these lows are what separates the enlightened ones from the rest. In the book “Jonathan Livingston Seagull,” Jonathan asks God, “Why are there so few seagulls up here?” and God replies, “Because you are but one in a million!”

Hey Trinity, My lover and I of 13 years have never cheated on each other. Although, occasionally we enjoy having a third person enter our lovemaking. No one gets jealous and it works for us. But, some of our friends think that we are compromising our relationship. What’s your position?

Three’s Company, New York City, NY Hey Three’s Company, Every household, every couple and every relationship has its

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“crazy, unbelievable” and even “scandalous” activities that make it a one-of-a-kind relationship. Now, if you must stuff yourself with a third entree that your friends disapprove of, then why not just keep it to yourselves.

And, if you all end up in a “threesome relationship,” then you may have to find more “compromising” friends. (My cartoon sure shares how to accomplish this with little drama.)

Trinity Dear, Why do you think you are such a fashion consultant? You never worked at “Vogue!”

Fashion Alerter, Providence, RI Dear Fashion Alerter, Well! I never, I mean, I never worked at “Vogue” or any other fashion house, but for years I’ve stolen, I mean, snooped around, I mean I’ve seen some of the most glamorous closets, from some of the most notorious celebrities.

And, I’ve seen, felt and even worn what does and does not work! So, if I know too much for you then, don’t wear what I wear, but do look your best and up-to-date always.

Hello Trinity, I have been working and traveling so much the last few years that I haven’t had time or the desire to date.

Now, I have relocated and am working a steady nine to five job. For the first time in years I am able to date again. I have no trouble meeting people, but getting through the first date is where I realized I have gotten rusty. Any ideas?

Free At Last, Reno, NV

Hello Free At Last, After a few years I’d get a little rusty, too, but there are ways to restart your dating engine so that you can survive every, well, almost every, first date, such as memorizing: Trinity’s Poetic Tips For Surviving A First Date 1. Good first impressions and a healthy drive makes any first date flourish and thrive.

2. Putting too much energy into “this being the one” creates unnecessary pressure and a night of no fun.

3. An early dinner, movie or even a show promises less chance of you becoming a midnight ho!

4. Boasting, exaggerating or playing it way too cool makes you look pretentious, with the nickname, “A Fool!”

5. Practice chivalry, charm or what some call grace, by being present, disconnecting the cellphone and looking face to face.

6. Integrity, wit, and keeping your calm means canceling or being late may set off a bomb.

7. Club dancing, big parties or a crowded event makes for a difficult first date and is not time well spent.

8. Waiting, before giving a dog it’s bone, keeps the dog eager to call you on the phone.

9. Enjoy the date, have fun, be playful and at ease, but never be so relaxed as to contact genital herpes!

10. And, lastly, remember a word from the wise: expectation is disappointment, hidden in disguise. : : — With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinity was host of “Spiritually Speaking,” a weekly radio drama, and now performs globally. info: www.telltrinity.com . Trinity@telltrinity.com Sponsored by: Provincetown Business Guild 800-637-8696 . www.ptown.org

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out in the stars by charlene lichtenstein qnotes contributor

December 24 - January 6

The Sun enters Capricorn and conjuncts Pluto.

Ignite your engines and set off into outer space.

Whoosh! Keep an eye out for any heavenly body.

Anyone we know? Uh, Santa?

CAPRICORN (12.23-01.20) You are a powerful source of energy. Even shy and retiring types are pushed into the epicenter of action. You may find that your mere presence creates great excitement. Your passing glance penetrates into the very essence of others. Fan clubs sprout and explode. You create havoc. Good. Things need to be shaken up once in a while.

AQUARIUS (01.21-02.19) Don’t even try to keep things under wraps. There is nothing you can do to prevent your most sensitive secrets from being revealed in very public ways. Don’t worry — there is nothing to be embarrassed about.

Enjoy the liberation and freedom, Aqueerius. You have been living in a prison of your own design.

It is high time to break out!

PISCES (02.20-03.20) You are apt to make some startling and memorable impressions on friends and certain acquaintances. If you are aching to make a big splash, this is the time to dive into the pool. But, you may displace more water than you expect. Guppies are unusual and opinionated most of the time. Now, you are the big mouth on the front page. Okay, enjoy it.

ARIES (03.21-04.20) There is something exciting in the air. Gay Rams are packed with confidence, spit and fire. (What else is new?) What are you waiting for? Use this jolt to push ahead in your career. You have worked too hard and too long not to take advantage of this newly discovered power. So, get ready to enjoy your just desserts, comrade. Hmm, is that a cherry on top?

TAURUS (04.21-05.21) Cross all obligations off your calendar and set a new course for yourself. Expand your horizon through any means possible: the internet, travel, education or even just a new route home. You can make your dreams come true queer Bull and become a centrifugal force that emanates power and allure. All orbs gravitate to you. Rubadub, you lucky thing.

GEMINI (05.22-06.21) It comes to me on good authority that there are a number of folks who desire you from afar. They notice your walk, your talk and even every nuanced reaction. Do you even notice, pink Twin? Well, you certainly will right now. Your stock rises, among other things.

Strut it like you mean it. Order back-up security in case the crowd becomes unruly.

CANCER (06.22-07.23) Don’t go it alone. You think that every relationship requires compromise.

Gay Crabs foolishly try to maintain their independence, but those who aspire for a merger and acquisition have other ideas. Thank goodness.

Just like that, you are captured and caged. Don’t struggle too hard, lover. Deep down you are perfectly happy being a kept crab.

LEO (07.24-08.23) As you glance at yourself sideways in the mirror there comes a moment of truth. You sort of like what you see. Granted, you may be a work in progress, but there appears to be enough good raw material to work with.

Okay, so now what? This time period provides the much needed energy you require to perfect upon perfection. Release your inner deity as you diet, proud Lion.

VIRGO (08.24-09.23) What is it about, queer Virgins, that give them such magnetism now?

You are aching to be shaking, socializing and shagging. You may not realize your limitations now. So, pace yourself lest you dissipate and dissolve in the sparkling scenes. Remember — a

drooping wallflower was never a favorite bloom in your personal bouquet.

LIBRA (09.24-10.23) How long will it take you to get to the bottom of things in any family matter?

Not too long. Proud Libras feel the rumblings of discontent among the malcontents. Things may just pop and good thing, too. Clear away the barriers and use the rest of the time to enjoy each others’ company. Okay, just be content to not argue.

SCORPIO (10.24-11.22) If there is something on your mind, it may just find itself posited smack in the middle of your conversation. This is not a bad thing. These deeply felt words will move mountains … and even level them. But, think and weigh your words before you blurt them out. You wear your heart on your sleeve now. Yuck. Take it to the laundry, proud Scorp.

SAGITTARIUS (11.23-12.22) You are apt to desire more than just the basic elements of life. You need glory, grandeur and some very expensive accessories to feed your inner soul. Luckily there is a possibility that you will come into a bit of extra cash, especially if you have invested wisely.

Spend like there is no tomorrow, gay Archer. The way you are going there won’t be. : : © 2011 Madam Lichtenstein, LLC. All Rights Reserved. Entertainment. info: Visit www.TheStarryEye.com for e-greetings, horoscopes and Pride jewelry. My book “HerScopes: A Guide To Astrology For Lesbians” from Simon & Schuster is available at bookstores and major booksites.

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drag rag by miss della qnotes contributor

Pageants and shows bring out the best, past, present and future! like Lupie’s, Mert’s, Azteca and then after the shows, either IHOP or Skyland. Oh, and let’s not forget the trip to Twin Tops with Dena Cass then going to look at the lights in McAdenville!

Dena was in the show on Saturday night down at the Hide-A-Way in Rock Thrill along with India Ferrah and Alana Steele. They were joined by our Miss NC America Jessica Raynes Starr, Miss Hide-A-Way London Dior and the hostess with the mostest, Makaylah DuShot. Kelexis Davenport was at Scorpio that same evening, hosted by Elaine Davis.

As you may know, the pageant was over two nights. Other than being joined by Candi Stratton and Lauren LaMoore, there was a star-studded show to beat the band, including Brooke Divine, Jessica Raynes Starr, Arionne DeCardaza, Jennifer Warner, Chip Matthews, Miss Tri-States America Tanisha Starr and Miss U.S.ofA. Classic Catia Lee Love. I’m sure I’ve left someone out — just write me then read me, ok?

The winner of the Miss was Asia O’Hara; her runners-up are Arabia Knight-Addams and Paris Cartier. For the At Large contest, the amazing Alexis Nicole Whitney won and her RUs were Extasy Grey and JoAnna Blue.

What’s this I hear about whispers of doing a guy contest and calling it All-American God? I wanna judge, I wanna judge!

Oh, where are my notes when I need them? I do know the EOY calendar is filling

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Season’s greetings, boys and girls! Where has the time gone? Here we are at the end of another year of shows and pageants. What will 2012 hold? Who’s to say? I think it will be a fierce year of comebacks and maybe a good new queen or two. Let’s hope for the best!

This one will be short and sweet as Miss Della has had a lot of excitement going on lately (for a change!) It’s all good!

I’ll start off by mentioning the next state-level pageant I know about — Miss SC U.S.ofA., taking place at Scorpio on Thursday, Jan. 20. If memory serves me correctly, this will be Luscious’ 4th prelim to the pageant she won in Dallas back in May and we are so proud of our girl. Come out and see who will compete for this open regional. There are always surprises, it seems.

Congrats are going out to Neely O’Hara who recently won Miss CO2 in WinstonSalem. The ole girl’s still got it! Also, congrats are going out to the winners of the Miss and Mr. Renaissance pageants just held in Atlanta — Sunny Dee Lite of NYC won the Miss and the new Mr. is Darryl Kent, formerly of Asheville and now calling Atlanta home. Darryl is also on staff with national U.S.ofA. pageants.

Last time, I was all about the Miss NC All-American Goddess and At Large contests that just took place here. What a fun time we had, everyone meeting out to eat at places

up for that gorgeous Aurora Sexton, Miss Gay America Kirby Kolby has been to visit with her bosses near Memphis for her workshop and they have a new Mr. Gay USA and At Large, GQ and Felix Correa. Keeping it national here, okay? I just broke one of my own rules — do you remember?

It is with much regret that I mention a show that I missed recently. They did an Oleens reunion at Divas at Scorpio back on Dec. 4. Brittany Gwynne (Miss Charlotte U.S.ofA. 1997) hosted, and she and David Moore, the former editor of qnotes, made sure to invite me out. Too damned bad duty called and I could not make it, as one of my favorite queens of all times, Kelly Raye, made an appearance. With her were legends of that South Blvd. stage including Kasey King, Kerri Nichols, Boom Boom LaTour, Tina Terrell, Linda Locklear, Sasha Tate, Lady Day 2000, Gypsy Starr, Tiffany Storm and Veronica Leigh. Some of these were winners of the bar title, Miss Oleens. Sounds like I missed one hell of an old school show! At the end, I’m told they had a memorial by placing ornaments on a tree to honor great memories of our fallen sisters. I know in my heart (surely), at least, one was placed to honor one of the greatest queens ever, Toni Lenoir.

In closing, it is with heavy heart that I dedicate this column to Thom Guinn, a former performer and mentor/pageant coach to many a diva. Thom and I were from the same hometown and I met him early in the days after coming out. He was brilliant, talented and had a wicked sense of humor. He was an aficionado of the artform of female impersonation and classic films/music. At one time, he had a collection of movies and CDs that would rival any retail specialty store. After performing himself as Beehive back in the day, he began designing talents for competitors in the EOY, U.S.ofA. and Miss Gay America systems and actually helped produce pageants and pageant winners, including several Misses NC and even a Miss Gay America or two. Thom was the first person I ever knew from here to go to Miss Continental (the year Chanel Dupree won). I remember well the trip he made with Renee Rollins and myself to Dayton, Ohio, the year Maya Douglas won Miss Gay U.S.of.A. For a time, he was show director at Scorpio and once brought in his dear friend, the late, great Tandi Andrews. Those were the days. Thom also managed Elgin Kenna, Charlotte’s famous Cher impersonator who travelled with her doing her illusion. Thom was influential in so many careers and lives…he will be terribly missed. : : info: Drop me a line, OK? TheTeaMissD@yahoo.com

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Dec. 25 • Charlotte Boom Boom’s Christmas Carol Scorpio hosts a special Christmas night event featuring Boom Boom LaTour, Miss Gay U.S.ofA. Luscious, Big Shirli Stevens and hostess Gypsy Starr. The Scorpio, 2301 Freedom Dr. 11:30 p.m. scorpios.com.

Tea Dance will be held on a special New Year date on Jan. 8. No cover, free food, drink specials and music by DJ Clash. A percentage of the drink sales will benefit Equality Winston-Salem.

Blue, 271 W. 4th St. 5-8 p.m.

336-918-0902. outatthemovieswinston.org.

Jan. 6 • Winston-Salem TV Land Bingo She’s back! Bebe Tea will be bringing cash to gay bingo’s bank as Equality Winston-Salem presents TVLAND Bingo. Adult tickets $20 and $10 with student I.D. Available at Camino Bakery, Whole Foods Market, Washington Perk and Provisions, The Screaming Rooster, Caffe Prada and Pet Supplies Plus.

Online at equalitywinstonsalem.org.

Benton Convention Center, 301 W. 5th St. 7:30-10 p.m.

Jan. 11-15 • Chapel Hill ‘No Child...’

Nilaja Sun brings her exuberant, insightful, critically acclaimed portrait of life at fictional Malcolm X High School to the PRC2 stage.

“No Child…” has been showered with awards, including the Obie Award, Outer Critics Circle Awards for Best New American Play and Best Solo Performance and the US Comedy Arts Festival Award for Best Solo Show.

Elizabeth Price Kenan Theatre, Center for Dramatic Art, 150 Country Club Rd. Various times. playmakersrep.org/nochild/.

Jan. 8 • Winston-Salem First Sunday Tea Dance Winston-Salem’s montly Sunday

Jan. 14 • Winston-Salem Film screening OUT at the Movies WinstonSalem screens “Goind Down in La-La Land” on the campus of the University of North Carolina School of the Arts, 1533 S. Main St. 7-8:45 p.m. Ticket information call 336-918-0902. outatthemovieswinston.org.

Jan. 15 • Winston-Salem Mr. Don’t H8 Celebrity Jason Dottley of “Sordid Lives” will appear at the first national Don’t H8 pageant. Featuring Mr. Don’t H8 2011 Stone Parque and Mr. Don’t H8 2010 Chip Matthews.

Club CO2, 4019 Country Club Rd. 9 p.m. facebook.com/event. php?eid=203536659715229.

Jan. 17 • Charlotte Meet the Dunns The Charlotte Business Guild hosts a special monthly meeting with local transgender activist and civic leader

Get your New Year’s Eve groove on at these local party spots

to midnight. firstnightcharlotte.com.

CO2 • Winston-Salem 4019 Country Club Rd. 9 p.m.

New Year’s Eve party and 1st Anniversary Party. clubco2online.com

Hide-A-Way • Rock Hill 405 E. Baskins Rd. 8 p.m.

Two shows at 11:15 p.m. and 12:30 a.m. with midnight champagne toast, party favors and balloon drop. Midnight buffet with black-eyed peas, collard greens and more. facebook.com/hideaway.

First Night Charlotte Uptown at the Green, 8 p.m.

Alcohol-free and family-friendly events including countdown

Hartigan’s Irish Pub • Charlotte 601 S. Cedar St. 10 p.m. $10. Free champagne toast at midnight with balloon drop with $250 cash and prizes. hartigans.com.

Jan. 19 • Charlotte Miss Gay South Carolina The Miss Gay South Carolina U.S.ofA. Pageant, themed “Year of the Drag-On,” will be held at Scorpio, 2301 Freedom Dr. 6 p.m. 704-517-4009. info@ scusofa.com. scusofa.com.

Jan. 19-22 • Blowing Rock Gay Ski Weekend The 4th Annual NC Gay Ski Weekend takes over Blowing Rock.

Organizers say the event will be bigger and better than ever with

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Goodbye, 2011 Bar at 316 • Charlotte 316 Rensselaer Ave. 8 p.m. $15/members. $20/non-members (includes new membership). Complimentary glass of champagne at arrival and at midnight. Tickets can be purchased in advance at thebarat316.com.

Roberta Dunn and her wife, Jay. LGBT Community Center of Charlotte, 820 Hamilton St., Suite B11. 5:30-8 p.m. $20 admission includes dinner.

Cash bar available. charlottebusinessguild.org. gaycharlotte.com.

Rainbow In • Lake Wylie 4376 Charlotte Hwy. 8 p.m.

Featuring the Atlanta, Ga., Camp Drag troupe The Armorettes, champagne toast and party favors. therainbowin.com.

Sophisticated Lyfe • Charlotte Ciroc LGBT New Years Eve Extravaganza Toxic, 616 N. Tryon St. Limited advance tickets for $10. Event includes drink specials, champagne toast, balloon drop, breakfast buffet.

VIP tables available. For more information, call 704-286-6SLE or email sophisticatedlyfe@ gmail.com.

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