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La diferencia entre ser Empáti co y un Codependiente
Vivimos en el mundo con mucha gente. Algunas son sentidas y alentadoras. Otros son más difíciles. Es importante encontrar una forma cómoda de relacionarse con las personas para que pueda desarrollar una interdependencia armoniosa en lugar de ser codependiente.
Cuando eres interdependiente, tienes una confianza saludable en los demás en tu vida personal, en el trabajo y en el mundo en general. Dependen unos de otros para el apoyo, el respeto y para realizar tareas particulares como colaborar en un proyecto, criar hijos, participar en deportes de equipo o ir de excursión con un grupo. Por el contrario, la codependencia es una forma de dependencia poco saludable. Esto ocurre cuando estás más es parte de la curación. Todavía estás presente, pero puedes ser un gran oyente y un amigo leal sin asumir los problemas de alguien.
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Dedique algún tiempo a escribir un diario sobre sus relaciones. ¿Cuáles son interdependientes? ¿Cuáles son codependientes? Enumere algunos pasos constructivos que puede tomar para hacer que las relaciones codependientes sean más equilibradas. Por ejemplo, controlar a alguien con menos frecuencia, establecer un límite claro o dejar que otros cometan y aprendan de sus propios errores. Luego, uno por uno, comience a remodelar sus relaciones codependientes y aprecie sus relaciones interdependientes.
La diferencia entre ser empático y un codependiente
SCAN ME!
concentrado en la vida y los problemas de otra persona que en los tuyos. Es reacio a afirmar sus necesidades o establecer límites claros por temor a las consecuencias.
Hay un chiste de que cuando un codependiente muere, es tu vida la que pasa frente a sus ojos. Los codependientes se sienten demasiado responsables de las personas y toman el relevo en las relaciones y el trabajo. Si eres codependiente, puede ser difícil retroceder y dejar que otros sigan sus propios caminos. Es posible que desee ayudar demasiado o arreglar a las personas, creyendo que si no interviene, sucederá algo terrible, un hábito que podría haber aprendido al vivir con un padre alcohólico o ansioso.
Los empáticos pueden tener tendencias codependientes, pero no todos los codependientes son empáticos. La diferencia es que los empáticos absorben el estrés, las emociones y los síntomas físicos de los demás, algo que no todos los codependientes hacen. Como persona altamente empática, practique técnicas de protección como el blindaje y la meditación para lidiar con el problema de la absorción de energía, que no es tan relevante para un codependiente puro. Sin embargo, tanto para los empáticos como para los codependientes, establecer límites y ver a los demás como separados, no simplemente como una extensión de uno mismo, también Establece tu intención. Examinaré atentamente y curaré mis problemas de codependencia y buscaré una interdependencia saludable en mis relaciones. Dejaré de obsesionarme con los demás y me centraré en mi propio cuidado personal. Puedo ser una persona generosa mientras mantengo límites saludables. (Extracto de “Prosperar como empático: 365 días de autocuidado para personas sensibles” por Judith Orloff, MD)
Judith Orloff, MD es la autora más vendida del New York Times de
The Empath’s Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People.
Su último libro Thriving as an Empath ofrece herramientas de autocuidado diario para personas sensibles junto con su compañero The Empath’s Empowerment Journal. El Dr. Orloff es psiquiatra, empático y está en la Facultad Clínica Psiquiátrica de UCLA. Ella sintetiza las perlas de la medicina tradicional con conocimientos de vanguardia en intuición, energía y espiritualidad. La Dra. Orloff también se especializa en el tratamiento de personas empáticas y muy sensibles en su práctica privada. El trabajo del Dr. Orloff ha aparecido en The Today Show, CNN, Oprah Magazine, New York Times y USA Today. El Dr. Orloff ha hablado en Google-LA y tiene una charla
TEDX. Sus otros libros son Emotional Freedom, The Power of Surrender, Second Sight, Positive Energy y Guide to Intuitive Healing.
Explore más información sobre su curso de apoyo empático en línea y su horario de conferencias en www.drjudithorloff.com.
Did You Have a Brief Afterlife Experience and Feel the Agape Love?
Once again, The Radiance Experience group on Facebook (come find us) produced some great responses from Radiance readers. The topic: Near Death Experiences, or NDEs. It’s been heavily-documented that most people who died in a Near Death Experience found their journey to the next place so pleasurable, that they did NOT want to come back to this realm. There was also no concern for grieving loved ones left behind because the “journeyer” knew their loved ones were beyond okay, that this big illusion called life is a game you can’t lose, only experience. What do all these accounts tells us about the “after-thislife?” – Scott Ware
That it’s HOME!!!
~ Margo Mateas
As someone who’s teetered on that edge before, I can say this. There’s absolutely nothing to fear as you approach the other side. There is a sense of serenity that’s unspeakably peaceful and purely loving. Like being cuddled by your momma as a newborn. I believe we have a choice, as long as our bodies are capable, if our work here is undone, if have purposes left to fulfill, if we desire it, we can (as often do) choose to return.
~ Nimisha Shastri
I had a near death experience after delivering twins and needing blood transfusions. I went to a beautiful place that was a brilliant golden light. It was just my head (consciousness?) there- within the light. I felt like I was welcomed and I was HOME. And then all of a sudden, I could see my hospital room (it look so gray and harsh- compared to the brilliantly warm place I was in) and found myself being zoomed back down.
~ TC Kennedy
My near-death experience was quite different: I was taking a nap after track practice, and I had stopped breathing. There were 2 sets of voices, these voices were, I assume, my ancestors, guides, and angels… it felt as if thousands of voices blended into one. One set of the voices kept saying, “Wake, you are dying.” The other set was saying, “Isn’t it beautiful, peaceful, don’t you feel all the love?” It felt like a battle; the voices kept getting louder and louder until I gasped for air and woke up. ~ Lori Shepherd
Just as important-that if we believe our loved ones would be okay, what does that say about this current life? I have experienced a near death.
I thought the same things about my children. It has me reflect on how this time and place can be another aspect/ perception/dimension of the paradise/promised land/ heaven/nirvana we ‘hear’ about.
~ Elora Nomura Marquez
I once experienced an involuntary regression through literally hundreds of my past life experiences- this happened to me before I knew anything about reincarnation! I had to conduct research in order to understand. Later I gave birth to a son who remembered his past lives when he was only 3-years old. Later these memories faded from his awareness although he could remember talking about it. He is now almost 30. A wonderful book called “Courageous Souls” explores the premise that we are all eternal souls who plan our lives, including our greatest challenges, before we’re born for purposes of spiritual growth. The book contains ten true stories of people who planned physical illness, having handicapped children, deafness, blindness, drug addiction, alcoholism, losing a loved one, and severe accidents recalled during hypnosis.
~ Catherine Ibarra
The books Journey of the Souls and Destiny of Souls explain it all so beautifully - my inner knowing knows there is nothing to fear - it’s just changing dimensions �� ���� ~ Pavka Pelda In spite of all the trauma, I wanted to come back. I love living. People that don’t want to come back… it’s possible they haven’t learned to appreciate it all.
~ Nic Finelove
*Source’s/God’s perfect, unconditional love
I LOVE being here! I took myself consciously to death because from the psyche level I was so frustrated that people wouldn’t be nice to me or each other. I arrived at the choicepoint and was offered, in the love that is so beyond description, the option to “blow out the flame” or not. Either way, the love only grows. Then, I was offered to be reminded why I keep taking up a body in the first place... It was a journey into all that is, addressing all the “why” questions and illuminating the interesting, and hysterical habit humans have of taking themselves so seriously...myself sort of leading the pack at the time! In raucous laughter, being teased by all of creation for my adorable humanness, I remembered. “Okay!
Okay! ...I’ll stay...!” After all, this is the only place you can get croissants and hug ponies. ~ Kerri Lake
Radiance has been fortunate to partner with Johnnie Hernandez, an executive at Haven Dispensaries over the last year and a half, and accordingly, my own knowledge of the health and wellness benefits of cannabis has increased greatly. I was especially pleased to learn that Haven will be introducing the Compassion Program in partnership with the LBCA, providing no cost medicinal cannabis for approved patients.
Not only has Haven’s presence in local cities meant increased safety from their 24-7 on-site security, but they participate in regular dialogues with the local officials to ensure openness, quality and legitimacy. They have seven stores operating, with three more set to open in SoCal this year, and because consumer comfort is the highest priority, they only focus on curating quality products from responsible manufacturers and brands known specifically for safety, high standards and effectiveness. If you are so called, we invite you to pay them a visit and see for yourself. – Scott Ware
The most “boring” thing to happen in California and some other states - and Canada - was the legalization of cannabis.
Boring in the sense that its legalization did not radically change the culture of that state or country, as some feared, or disrupt the fabric of society in almost any way.
Science had already shown us that the real dangers lie with alcohol abuse (increased domestic violence, automobile fatalities, for example), and that cannabis dispensaries were now contributing millions in new tax revenue for hard-hit cities, a range of new jobs, and greater safety for local neighborhoods because of the extra mandated security.
Yet there’s still a stigma, perhaps from the times we experienced someone being high (when we weren’t) or from played-out stereotypes portrayed in movies or on TV.
This stigma is not only unfair and outdated, it’s holding people back from an excellent option for healing: the science of cannabis has accelerated to the point that it’s almost unrecognizable from your parents’ weed, a dime bag of who-knows-what from who-knows-where. (They probably tried it once or twice, right?)
More on this… but let’s talk about its miraculous ability to provide relief of pain for many conditions.
Simply google “cannabis pain relief” and you get invited into the lives of people suffering from so much pain, you cannot fathom how they lived anything like a “regular” life. They really didn’t. Pre-cannabis, they lived altered lives to cope with their limitations. But many thousands of people have been given new life from this plant, and they have no problem calling it a miracle. Who are we to deny that?
Keeping it from children is and always will be key, and partly for that reason this plant is more regulated – and taxed – than any other, especially compared to liquor. Obtaining it illegally will always be a factor, although it appears to be waning with the new legal supply model.
As for taxes that contribute to our local governments, according to Green Entrepreneur, “The state levies a 15 percent excise tax on retail sales, in addition to the general sales tax of 7.25 percent. Cultivators pay $9.25 on every ounce of flower they produce. Most of the cities and counties that permit sales also levy their own taxes on retailers. The cash register price of every gummy, tincture, and pre-roll sold in California is roughly 40 percent tax, according to the California Department Food and Agriculture.”
California itself considers cannabis dispensaries essential, for all the reasons stated above plus the benefits
The New Cannabis Experience
As a teenager, I remember going to a ZZ Top concert with a friend and experiencing people around us smoking cannabis. We got a contact high for sure, which, let’s face it, was fun.
I did some in my 20’s and experienced sporadic highs and certainly the munchies. I stopped for many years and when I later tried some edibles around 10 years ago, I found that I didn’t like the feeling. Then the cannabis changed, and so had I. The new cannabis is not the ganja from the 70’s or even the 90’s. It’s now highly formulated to deliver specific experiences through gummies, chocolate, vaping or the actual plant, and you immediately know this is new.
What kind of experiences? Although Indica will mellow
it provides in stress relief. In fact, it came around in the nick of time, considering the stress the pandemic has placed on society. Concerns about job security, and staying afloat fills many with dread, and a little relief from that can’t be that bad, right?
As with anything, moderation is a good rule of thumb, but there are too few conversations in the mainstream about the enjoyment of the cannabis experience. Yes, enjoyment. And if you feel called to experience you like no other, Sativa may have your brain joyfully putting concepts together you wouldn’t normally conceive, and a Hybrid brings a little of both. All of them can also take you on a journey… Most people know about journeys through mushrooms and ayahuasca, but cannabis can also take you into a half-awake journey state with healing and even transformative properties. Yes, cannabis!
Which is fun, and there’s nothing wrong with that.
“Cannabis has physically saved my life. I was on 4 different types of anti depressants, anti-anxiety, very strong pain killers for the migraines I would get. My migraines were so bad I had to be taken to the ER and given morphine, compazine and dilaudid to ease the pain. I stopped taking all the prescription poison and turned to medical marijuana, topicals, and edibles. As of 2/11/21 in 10 years clean and sober. I haven’t had one ER visit for my migraines. I can find ways to cope with the depression and anxiety. Bath balls have worked wonders after a long day of school and work.”
Francisco Perez (College Student)
Alicia Brigette...
“ I was a homeless alcoholic for 5 years, before giving in and going to rehab. The only thing that kept me going was knowing that Cannabis my favorite thing in high school was becoming legal and easier to buy. After 2 years of being an inpatient, outpatient I left rehab and moved in with family (Stressful) lol but having so many medical shops near me in LA really helped. Flower really helped with my anxiety, and concentrates helped me feel normal and be able to enjoy “As a full-time college student I often feel overwhelmed with homework assignments, club commitments , and other tasks. I tried many methods to alleviate this stress but cannabis was the thing that helped most. I noticed that I would feel more relaxed and approached tasks with positive attitudes as a result of consuming cannabis. I didn’t worry about the negative but instead focused more on the positives. I’d recommend everyone give it a try, it’s no longer a taboo thing but rather something that can be really helpful.”
Mat H
watching tv again. I got my GED a month after, then after that my first job. Met my fiancee that summer, and a year later we got married! I got a proper job and we got an apartment. And now I’m five years sober and I don’t think I’ll ever need another drink with the help of cannabis an concentrates ��#FindyourHAVEN”
