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Positive Parenting

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EDITOR’S LETTER

f the longer days and warmer temperatures aren’t indications spring has arrived, the “ah-choos” certainly should be. Millions of people, including children, suffer from the allergies and hay fever that are quite common here in the Central Valley this time of year. So often the symptoms mimic a cold virus and parents want to make sure they’re treating the illness appropriately.

Dr. Nancy Cheney of Family HealthCare Network explains the different types of common allergies on page 20, and includes information about other, more serious conditions such as food allergies and insect bites. When my children were small, they were complete opposites in almost every way, including their attitudes toward food. The oldest had a greater sense of adventure in terms of trying and liking a variety of foods, while her younger sibling refused to eat almost everything from the first taste of baby cereal, which he tasted and promptly spit out. Even if your little people aren’t quite that picky, it can still be a challenge to provide them with enough proper nutrition. In “Build Nutrition in the Kitchen” on page 14, nutritionists Justin and Rebecca Reynolds talk about how getting kids involved in the kitchen creates a win-win situation for the child and the parent. Now that our kids are allergy-free and properly fed we can concentrate on the upcoming STAR testing happening in our schools in April. If the word “test” causes an upset stomach, be sure to read “Helping Your Child Stay Steady for State Testing” on page 6 by psychologist Jackie Harris-Gröeber, PhD. Learn how staying positive can actually help make testing week fun for your child and increase their chances for success. We know how important achieving success, even a small one, can play in the development of a person’s self-esteem. Academic achievement is constantly being measured with pass/fail or grade assessment. But there are other experiences where any level of accomplishment can strengthen self-perception. For instance, how about running a 5K? I can speak to this personally as I ran my first one just a month ago, and about half-way through I wished I’d started training at a much younger age. Personal fitness trainer Andy Salazar suggests “Running a 5K as a Family” on page 26, making the thought of it so much less intimidating. Not only will it improve physical and mental fitness, it can be a great bonding experience for a family and possibly even benefit a local charity – another great life experience for a child. We hope everyone makes the most of the extra daylight hours by getting fit and staying healthy. As always we appreciate you, our readers, and our contributing writers as we all have one thing in common – raising healthy and well-adjusted children.

Karen Tellalian, EXECUTIVE EDITOR For more information or to submit a story idea, email Karen@dmiagency.com or call (559) 739-1747 or fax (559) 738-0909.

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in this issue

Graphic Designer CHRIS BLY

Behavior

20 Reading List

CONTRIBUTING WRITERS

Helping Your Child Stay Steady for State Testing

23 Happy Trails

ANDY SaLAZAR

Humor

Communicating: The Later Years

10 Positive Parenting

How to Deal with Power Struggles

12 Child Welfare

24 Art & Crafts

Jackie Harris-Gröeber

27 Adventures 28 Calendar 31 Resources

22 College Prep

The College Campus Visit

30 Safety

Gang Involvement

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BEHAVIOR

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or many elementary schools in our area, April means STAR testing. The STAR (Standardized Testing and Reporting Program) is given to all public elementary school children from second to sixth grade. The purpose of the test is to see how well teachers are teaching and if students are learning the skills and knowledge required by the California Academic Standards. Although many schools introduce fun encouragement during the testing week, many children pick up on the pressure put on the schools to do well on the test. For some kids, the test is anticipated with symptoms of anxiety including upset stomachs, school avoidance and irritability. But, testing doesn’t have to be stressful, it can be a fun challenge.

STAR testing can be a great opportunity for your child to learn to manage themselves during tests and prevent future test anxiety when the stakes are high. To lower the pressure and increase the learning opportunity this year, here are some things you can do as a parent: Stay positive. Present a positive attitude about testing for your kids, focusing on what is good about testing week. For instance, testing week usually has less homework than other weeks – sometimes no homework. Some schools have mini rallies each morning to get the kids excited about the testing or provide midmorning snacks to keep their energy up. Take down the rumors. STAR testing does not determine if you “pass” that grade. Your teacher doesn’t expect you to get every question right. The good news is that the goal is just to give it your very best try. If you do that, you win. Accentuate relaxation and increase attention. Do teach your child some fun ways to relax and calm themselves. Slow breathing is easy and can be done in fun ways before school. One fun and inexpensive relaxation method is blowing bubbles. Don’t turn on the game system or TV before school as focusing on the screen will decrease your child’s attention.

Remember that proper nutrition increases good testing. Research shows that children who eat breakfast score higher, are better behaved, and are less likely to be obese than children who don’t eat breakfast. On testing days, a good combination of protein and complex carbohydrates is ideal. A good combination could be scrambled eggs with whole wheat toast and orange juice. For vegan children, hot oatmeal with walnuts, blueberries and almond milk could be a good start. If you are sending a snack with your child, try to make it a good combination snack like trail mix or string cheese and a piece of fruit. Some teachers are letting their students chew gum during testing due to past research that demonstrated children were more alert during testing and thus scored highest when they chewed. But further research demonstrated the benefit was to kids who chewed gum for five minutes before – not during – the test and the effect only lasted for 20 minutes. Still, for many children, gum chewing does not demonstrate any benefit and is a distraction. Testing week can actually be a fun week for a child who has positive expectations and is relaxed and prepared with proper nutrition and sleep. Give your child the opportunity to increase their life skills by experiencing testing as a fun challenge where they succeed if they do their best. RAISE MAGAZINE | APRIL 2013

HUMOR

Communicating:

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Later Years Text by Crystal R. R. Edwards

ecently I wrote about communicating with your child. I left out whole chunks of thoughts and suppositions, and I didn’t even try to approach the topic of communicating with your spouse.

Donald and I don’t really argue. Over the past 15 years we’ve had maybe six intense discussions with small flares of temper, but we always – and I really mean always – settle down and have real conversations about issues. So when it comes to arguing, well, we just don’t really know how. I mean, he knows how at work, and I know how in print and with the kids, but with one another we just kind of sit and gape slack-jawed at one another until someone says something. Anything. Even a joke is good. We’ve finally hit upon a pattern that seems to work for us so we can be like all those other unhappy couples we see. This is a relief, because we were getting worried. We already march to our own funky drummers, and if we “fail” at marriage then there’s really no hope for us at all, is there? For the sake of our children, we need to properly model the screaming, cold silences, and bitter distances between married people. Here is, verbatim, the argument the other night: D: Let’s just go out to dinner. [pregnant pause] C: Standard objection. Additional minor objections. D: Rebuttal. Follow-up statement. New data point.

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C: Straw man argument. [another pause] D: Obstinacy. C: [sigh] Capitulation. This was taking place as we sat, nearly side-by-side in our small office, each at his/her own desk and clicking around with mice. I’m not entirely sure we even really glanced at one another. It was over in 20 seconds. We need to work on our communication skills. Our poor, poor kids. Arguments aside, there are other bumps on the communication freeway that we hit, usually in the form of subtext. We both know the subtext is there. We can hear it clearly. It is a trumpet blast, a call-toarms that rouses our fighting spirit and leads us forth to strike against all of the daily frustrations of life that the other person isn’t even responsible for. “Could you please take the trash out?” really means, “And don’t forget to put new bin liners in because I’m tired of juggling a handful of beef blood-soaked paper towels in front of a completely empty garbage can while the cats do their best to lick up the drips.” “So what’s on your agenda today?” really means, “I’m going to the office and when I come home I expect you to at least be out of your pajamas.” “What would you like for supper?” really means, “If you don’t take these kids out for fast food and a playscape, I’m never going to get this article done and my career will be finished and it will be ALL YOUR FAULT for getting me pregnant and by the way there was that time in ’98 when you left the toilet seat up ...”

HUMOR “Want to watch TV?” really means, “I know you’re exhausted from dealing with the kids and you need some quiet time, so let’s cheer you up by me hogging the remote while we watch explosions, blood spatter and evil masterminds.” That, by the way, is always answered with a “Sure” – which really means, “I want to spend time with you and if that means watching your glazed-over eyes during moments of teleplayed destruction and mayhem, I’ll do it, but you’re going to watch at least three historical dramas this weekend in retaliation. And you’re not allowed to roll your eyes when I sigh happily because an austere, stern lord has fallen helplessly in love with a headstrong bluestocking and has just declared himself in a scene of incredible anguish and delicacy.” Sometimes the subtext is sweeter, and maybe not even found in spoken statements. Sometimes a smile over a coffee cup means “I’m so glad we tried this parenting thing.” A small touch on the back while he plucks gray hair out of his beard means, “You look more handsome now than you ever have.” A wink behind some well-meaning busybody’s back means, “Let’s tell the world to go to heck, the way we’ve always done.” Donald often teases me about the aforementioned historical dramas I watch. The bulk of these are produced by the BBC, everything from The Buccaneers to Pride & Prejudice. I eat these films up with a spoon. They are filled with rich costumes, incredible landscapes, and silences that say more than any conversation I’ve ever had. A man will walk into a room and look at a woman. The woman will turn to look

at him. He will glance away. She will look down. He will look at her again. She will turn her back to him. He will look down, then turn and leave the room. The whole scene will take two and a half minutes and in it you understand that he’s a minor lord who adores this woman of prestige, but she cannot bring herself to be with him because she’s concerned about his views on saving sea turtles in the Pongolaba Bay. He has an abject horror of turtles from the Pongolaba Bay because of his days in the Royal Forces in India, where an incident occurred that brought to light the treachery of her father. There may be a scandal in the offering, but you won’t know that until later, when they stare at one another during a dance for five minutes of chamber music and extras in glittering clothes doing the Macarena. I tried this sort of thing with Donald once. He was working at his desk and I walked into the office and looked at him. He turned to look at me. “What?” he asked. I glanced away. “Did you lose your glasses again?” he asked, leaning toward my desk to sift around the landslide of papers in an attempt to help. I didn’t answer. He looked down at the floor, wondering if I’d dropped them there. I gave a heart-heavy sigh, thinking of Pongolaba Bay sea turtles and my deceitful father. I turned to go. “Hey! I found a Cheetoh under here!” he exclaimed. “And a Matchbox car!” I leave the room, my message of “I love you” being answered clearly with “I love you, too.” We’re still not doing this right. To be honest, I kind of hope we never do.

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POSITIVE PARENTING

Power How to Deal With

Struggles Text by Tulare County Health & Human Services Agency

ost parents will agree that the moment your child can understand what you’re saying, they begin to disagree with you. Chances are they don’t disagree with you on everything, but almost every disagreement involves the following assumption: it’s a power struggle between the two of you. Though these situations can be frustrating, changing your perspective can help you and the way you approach these interactions. For starters, keep in mind these power struggles are – in a sense – a positive sign of your child’s development by indicating they are able to make their own decisions, and willing to do so. Also, consider what you perceive your child's intentions to be when they're disagreeing with you – it may be different than what their intentions really are. Often times, we as adults, assume children see things the same way we see them. More often than not, this is not the case. When your child challenges you by saying “no” to one of your requests, consider there are two likely explanations for their lack of cooperation.

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POSITIVE PARENTING

Their defiance may merely be the result of thinking your request is unfair, or that there’s no reason to do what you’re asking. For example, when you ask your child to turn off the TV and they refuse, their intentions might not be wanting to engage you in a power struggle, but rather they simply don’t understand why they can’t watch TV anymore. It is possible your child is simply looking for a fight whenever they disagree with you, and has nothing to do with the request itself. In the instances when your child is intentionally being disagreeable, the best strategy is to recognize their attempt for struggle – and avoid it. If your child is looking for a fight, refuse to play along. Instead of immediately reacting by getting upset, take a moment to collect your thoughts and emotions. By remaining calm, you are maintaining control of the situation. Try phrasing your requests in a way that is not a demand, but is respectful and considerate. This will make your child feel like they are respected, and that power is not being taken away from them, and thus, there is no fight for power. If your child is choosing to disagree with you because they don't understand why they have to do something, there are a few ways to make the situation seem a little less “unfair.” Especially for younger children, explain the reasoning behind your request. They often lack the perspective that you, as an adult, have; once they realize there is a reason for your request, they might be more cooperative. Walk them through the cause and effects of either doing or not doing what you've asked. "What will we eat off of if you don't set the table?” “Will the food still be hot if you wait too long to set out the dishes?" or "If you stay up too late watching TV, will you be tired in class tomorrow? If your tired, will you be able to pay attention?" At home, disagreements seem to happen everyday. In the real world, disagreements and power struggles are part of day-to-day life as well. How your child learns to approach powers struggles at home often lay the foundation for how they will handle confrontations in other aspects of their lives. Guide your child to find ways to disagree with you that are not a personal attack upon you. They should learn they can disagree with a situation or a request, but that does not mean they can lash out at the person involved. Encourage them to find ways to compromise and negotiate. "Dad, if I can can play outside for five more minutes, I'll come inside and spend an hour doing homework." Not every circumstance will be resolved as a win-win for both parties, but it's important to try whenever possible. Although situations when your child disagrees with you can test patience, remember it can be a learning opportunity; the skills your child learns while they are young can help them suceed later in life.

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CHILD WELFARE

AWARENESS

magine you are walking down the aisle in the grocery store and hear a child screaming – you turn and see a mother hitting her child. As you look at the child, you see bruises and scars that demonstrate the child has likely been hit before.

Many people would agree this scene indicates physical abuse is occurring. But, what some people do not know is that child abuse takes many forms, and it often goes unseen, unnoticed, or disregarded. Below is information on the various forms child abuse that go beyond physical abuse. Neglect. It may be surprising that neglect is the most common form of child abuse. In legal terms, neglect is when a child experiences serious physical harm or illness, as a result of the failure or inability of the parent or guardian to adequately supervise or protect the child; or the failure to adequately supervise or protect the child from the actions of the individual with whom the child has been left with; or by the failure to provide the child with adequate food, clothing, shelter, or medical treatment. In more simple terms, neglect is when a child’s basic needs are not met by the parent or guardian, and as a result, they experience some form of harm. Signs of neglect can include a child wearing clothing that is inappropriate for the current weather conditions, persistent poor hygiene, having untreated injuries and illnesses, and being consistently unsupervised. It’s important to note in certain situations, a parent or guardian who once was able to care for their child may begin to neglect them due to the parent’s physical or mental illness, or undiagnosed depression or substance abuse disorder.

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Emotional Abuse. Emotional abuse can severely damage a child’s mental health or social development, leaving lifelong psychological scars. Examples of emotional child abuse include belittling, shaming, and humiliating a child, or frequent yelling and threatening. Exposing the child to violence or the abuse of others – whether it is domestic violence, another sibling, or even a pet – is another significant form of emotional abuse. If a child has experienced emotional abuse, they may be overly withdrawn, fearful, or anxious about doing something wrong. Additionally, they may show extremes in behavior. For example, they could be extremely compliant or extremely demanding, or be extremely passive or extremely aggressive. Children who have experienced emotional abuse generally aren’t overly attached to the parent or caregiver. Sexual Abuse. Aside from the physical damage sexual abuse can cause, the emotional aspect is detrimental as well. Sexually abused children are tormented by shame and guilt. They may feel they brought it upon themselves or are responsible for the abuse. Keep in mind sexual abuse doesn't always involve direct body contact; exposing a child to sexual situations or explicit material is also sexually abusive. While some signs of sexual abuse may not be obvious, this form of abuse can have a significant impact on the child’s future, and affect them the rest of their lives. Children who have been sexually abused are more likely to engage in risky behavior, develop substance abuse disorders, and have twice the suicide rate of their peers.

CHILD WELFARE

623-0581 Text by Child Welfare Services

Even if a child displays one of the signs of abuse, don’t automatically assume they are being abused. Certain personality traits or circumstances may result in a child exhibiting one of the above signs, without any abuse occurring. Often times, your intuition is a good guide as you consider whether or not abuse is occurring in a particular situation. If you become aware of a child who you suspect is being abused, or a child tells you they’ve been abused, there are things to keep in mind. It’s perfectly normal to feel a little overwhelmed and confused, and here are a few strategies to help you: 1. If you feel a child is in immediate danger or has been severely injured, call 9-1-1. 2. If you are concerned a child may be experiencing some form of abuse, call the 24-hour Tulare County Child Abuse Hotline: (800) 331-1585. You can anonymously provide information, and a social worker will assess the information to determine the appropriate course of action. 3. Try to be a good listener. Create a trusting, safe, and comfortable situation in which the child may talk to you. 4. If a child tells you they’ve been abused, reassure the child they've done nothing wrong and that what happened is not their fault. It takes courage for a child to come forward about abuse. 5. Do not try to determine for yourself if what the child is saying is true or not. This is the role of law enforcement and Child Welfare Services. If you are skeptical, do not express your doubts to the child. 6. Respect the privacy of the child and their family by only speaking about the situation to the appropriate individuals. 7. Do NOT confront the offender. This could be very unsafe for both you and the child.

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NUTRITION

Build Nutrition in the

Kitchen Text by Justin and Rebecca Reynolds, Nutritionists

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NUTRITION

utrition and self-esteem go hand-in-hand when teaching children how to cook, create and care for themselves. Talking to your children about the benefits of pure honey on peanut butter sandwiches, brown rice, fish, whole wheat bread, real butter, and fruits and vegetables doesn’t have to be a chore. Integrate it into a habit at mealtime by involving your children in the meal preparations.

Let the boys cut up the vegetables. Serve a plate full of colorful vegetables, imperfectly cut to perfection for the dinner table. Our four-year-old son loves to take on the responsibility of cutting the fruits and veggies for the table. Under my direct supervision, he carefully cuts what he feels are the perfect shapes for the bell peppers, grape tomatoes, apples, kiwi and bananas. I don’t choose anything that is too difficult for him to cut, for fear of him pushing too hard and the knife slipping, but a butter knife seems to cut quite smoothly through all of these. I have the kiwi peeled beforehand and the bell pepper cut in half and seeded so he can get busy and create. When I see him sneak a nibble, my heart feels happy! The intense excitement he brings to the table makes our twin 2-year-old daughters want to watch and nibble, too. Our son feels accomplished, helpful and takes an interest in these nutritious foods. Get the girls involved in the kitchen. Our girls don't get to handle a knife, but they do get to pull the baby carrots out of the mason jar of cold water and place them on the veggie tray. Their self-esteem is being built one baby carrot at a time! I can’t help but smile when I choose a baby carrot for my own plate that has the markings of baby teeth in them. Sometimes it feels like the craziness of the day gets in the way of quality time – children need quality time in order to develop a strong sense of self with a desire to find comfort in positivity when facing the trials of life. This is a big deal when it comes to nutrition. How many children, teenagers and adults alike eat for comfort or mindlessly eat when upset or stressed? Is eating for comfort a poor eating habit? I say comfort foods are a positive thing.

With childhood obesity on the rise, diabetes and other lifelong physically challenging diseases are becoming more of a problem for our children. We must take charge of the opportunities we are given to teach proper eating habits in and out of the kitchen. Eating for comfort is a positive decision if the food our children learn to crave is full of nutrition. Teaching them early to reach for a bowl of sweet seasonal fruit or whole wheat toast with peanut butter if they need a snack to help with a scraped knee or hurt feelings can bring the comfort we, as parents, love to give our children. At the same time, we are re-enforcing cravings for foods without processed sugar, full of protein and vitamins that are going to make their bodies feel better physically. They will gain energy from the snack and will start to understand that positive eating can make them feel better physically and mentally at the same time. So bringing our children into the kitchen to help create and design breakfast, lunch and dinner and encouraging healthy comfort foods is a win for everyone. You are building your child's positive eating habits, self-esteem, and most importantly, teaching them why eating nutritiously positively affects our bodies and minds. All of this can be done during the course of preparing a meal – no additional time or work needed. Build up your kids and they will amaze you with what knowledge and habits they absorb in the kitchen – and later, what they practice out in the world.

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GARDENING

Dinner Plate

DAHLIAS Text by Susan Schieferle, Master Gardener, University of California Cooperative Extension

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inner plate dahlias produce huge, colorful blooms from summer into fall. Imagine the delight your child will have seeing flowers the size of a dinner plate. These magnificent flowers can be up to 14 inches in diameter. They can be grown in the sunny flower beds in your garden or in a deep pot on your sunny patio. Before we get started, here are some important vocabulary words for you and your child to learn.

Perennial is a plant that lives from year to year and does not die after flowering. Tuberous root is a large, underground root that tapers at both ends. It is thick because it stores plant nutrients. After each flowering season, the root is dug up and protected for the winter, and then it is replanted in spring. Mulch is any material placed on top of the soil to help keep soil moisture in and help prevent weed seeds from germinating. Examples of mulch include compost, bark chips, peat moss and redwood sawdust. Time to Get Started! You will need: 1. A Dinnerplate Dahlia package from a local nursery. They usually come in a package of four. 2. A sunny spot in your garden or a deep container. 3. Purchased garden soil or amendments, such as compost and manure, to add to your garden soil. Dahlias love rich soil. Planting Instructions: 1. Carefully take the tuberous root out of the package. 2. The package usually has a ruler on the back. Have your child measure the length of the tuberous root. 3. Dig a hole twice the length of the tuberous root. 4. Plant the tuberous root in the soil so that the root rests Â˝-inch above the soil line, filling up the hole with enriched soil. 5. Water slowly and deeply. Dahlias like continued moisture. 6. Add mulch around the base of the dahlia. This will help keep the tuberous root from drying out too quickly. 7. A tomato cage or other support cage should be used to help prop up the plant once it starts blooming. Since the flowers are huge, this will help keep the plant from drooping. 8. If using a container, set in a sunny spot. You need at least six hours of full sun daily. 9. Snails and slugs love dahlias. Sprinkle child and pet friendly snail and slug bait around the base. 10. Watch your tuberous root grow into a beautiful plant that will be three to four feet high.

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April Gardening Tip: Plant fall-flowering bulbs and heat-loving perennials. Prune spring-flowering shrubs and vines during or just after bloom. Sow seeds for warm-season vegetables, such as squash, corn, cucumbers, and carrots. Transplant warm-season vegetable seedlings, such as tomatoes and peppers, if you did not plant a pizza garden.

Fall Directions: 1. Sometime in the fall, your dinner plate dahlia will stop blooming and look like it is dying. But remember that the tuberous root underground is alive! 2. Carefully cut off the part of the plant that is above ground. 3. Dig up the tuberous root. 4. Place the root in a quart size plastic bag and cover with sand. Place in a cool place until next spring when you will replant the root for more amazing flowers.

March Review: Your pizza garden should be growing! Fertilize monthly with about 1 teaspoon of fertilizer dissolved in a watering can. Sprinkle around the base of each plant. Inspect plants regularly and pick off worms or use an insecticidal soap. Use a shower of water to dislodge insects (like aphids) from leaves.

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FAMILY FOCUS

Strengthening Families Protective Factor #2:

Social Connections Text by Billie Shawl, Child Abuse Prevention Council

he Tulare County Child Abuse Prevention Council is seeking to inform community members about the five protective factors for stengthening families, which will also strengthen our communities. The first pretective factor, discussed in our last article, was the need for parental resilience. The second protective factor that has been identified as necessary for strong families is having social connections. This one often is taken for granted by those of us surrounded by family and friends who are willing and able to assist when needed. Families at risk are often isolated – sometimes physically, but more often emotionally. These parents feel alone, alienated and likely resentful, hostile and/or depressed. With no one to turn to for counsel, respite, encouragement, or company, a parent’s stress can build. That stress without relief can result in a parent lashing out. The child is often the recipient of the parent’s expression of frustration and anger. Children tend to test boundaries, push buttons, and make demands. It is not difficult for any parent to relate to the anger a child can trigger. Extended family relationships can be difficult. Family gatherings are filled with challenging interactions and there are many articles, TV shows, and other media that address that type of stress. Not much is said about the loneliness and alienation families feel who are without social and family connections. The protective factor of “social connections” reminds us of how important it is to family stability to

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have the support and contact of family and friends. We need to value and nourish those people who add to our family strength. Parents need to know how important social connections are for their well-being and take steps to connect to others. These connections need already to be there when and if a crisis occurs. That may mean joining a parent group, a class, a project or activity, a faith community or by volunteering. For family, friends, and neighbors, awareness of the importance of social connections as it relates to the strength of a family and the well-being of the children, brings added significance to reaching out, offering to help, or being a listening ear. Busy lives can make this outreach a challenge. It helps to know how important this effort is. Our communities have expected professionals to meet all the needs of families in crisis. Many agencies provide a wide range of services and assistance to families, but professionals are not able to solve all the problems and provide all the circumstances that strengthen families and prevent child abuse and neglect. Most often, agencies and professionals get involved after a problem or crisis has occurred. Real prevention, before the crisis, comes from the community, often in the form of informal help that provides families with the things they need. Social connections are certainly one of those informal provisions that neighbors, family members, and friends can step in to provide. As always, a kind word, a smile of understanding, and a non-judgmental attitude go a long way to help parents feel connected and accepted. Parenting is an ongoing challenge for everyone. Unlike other needed skills, there is no manual. Reach out for a child’s sake.

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HEALTH

All About Child Allergies Text by Nancy Cheney, MD, Family HealthCare Network

hink your child has allergies? That’s a real possibility, since millions of kids do and they are more common here in our Central Valley than many other parts of the country. An allergy is an overreaction of the immune system to a substance that’s harmless to most people. But in someone with an allergy, the body’s immune system treats the substance (called an allergen) as an invader and reacts inappropriately. People talk about allergies being inherited, but only the tendency to become allergic is inherited. The most common type of allergy is allergic rhinitis, commonly called hay fever. Despite its common name, symptoms can occur at any time of year and do not cause fever. Symptoms include a runny, itchy nose, sneezing, postnasal drip and nasal congestion. Think of these symptoms as “the cold that won’t go away.” Some kids may also have red, itchy, watery eyes - often with dark circles under the eyes called allergic shiners. The most common causes for allergic rhinitis are environmental allergens like pollen (mainly from grass and weeds), house dust (actually an allergy to a tiny insect called the dust mite), pet dander (especially cats), and mold. Repeated exposure to these types of allergens is necessary to develop a sensitivity to them. That is why allergic rhinitis is very uncommon prior to about three years of age. Sometimes allergies don’t show up until late teens, or even adulthood. Asthma may be another manifestation of an environmental allergy and can be a seasonal problem, but in babies and young kids the most common cause for wheezing is an upper respiratory infection. Fortunately, many babies who wheeze with colds will outgrow these symptoms by age six or so. Food allergies, for some unknown reason, are becoming more common in children. Symptoms range from a chronic runny nose to potentially fatal anaphylaxis which can cause severe respiratory distress and shock. The most common foods are cow’s milk, soy, eggs, wheat, peanuts, tree nuts, fish and shellfish. Allergies to cow’s milk, soy, eggs and wheat are common in babies and toddlers, and are often outgrown by two to three years of age. The others may be life-long and are the ones most likely to cause a really severe reaction. Because exposure to food allergens can occur in utero or via breast milk, even newborns may have food allergies.

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If your toddler has a chronic runny nose, it may very well be a food allergy. Symptoms of a food allergy other than a runny nose include hives, itchy mouth and throat, eczema, nausea, diarrhea – and finally, the severe symptoms of anaphylaxis – respiratory distress and shock. Other types of allergies include insect venom such as bees, and contact dermatitis – a skin rash caused by something touching or rubbing the skin. For example, nickel causes one of the most common contact allergies, often causing a rash near the belly button as the back of the jeans snap rubs the skin. Treatment of allergies has steadily improved, so no one should have to suffer with a chronic, uncontrolled allergy. We now have antihistamines that last all day and do not cause drowsiness … important for kids in school. Other treatments include steroid nasal sprays. Your child’s provider should work with you to determine the best treatment for your child. Avoidance of the allergen, whenever possible, should also be part of the management. This can include, among other things, keeping windows shut on high pollen days and keeping pets out of the bedroom. If children’s allergies are not adequately controlled by medication and avoidance, or if they are so prevalent year-round that medication is needed daily all year, then allergy shots are another possible management tool. These are not proven effective for mold and certain animal allergies (horses and rabbits, for example), but do work well for house dust, pollen, and dog and cat allergies. These require consistent treatment over a long period of time to be effective.

READING LIST

Zesty Books for New Chapter Book Readers Text by Lee Littlewood

Monkey and Elephant by Carole Lexa Schaefer A perfect mesh of colorful picture book and easy-to-read chapter book for the youngest of readers, Schaefer's Junior Library Guild selection tale showcases friendship and the value of working out differences. Turquoise Elephant and Purple Monkey are buddies, and they set out to search for shade on a very hot day. Both are energetic but at times grumpy because Monkey thinks Elephant walks too bumpity and ziggy and zaggy, while Elephant thinks Monkey is too bossy and sassy. The pair persists in their search and even sings as they "bump galump along." Other jungle animals join in yelling, "Did you know there is a monkey on your head?" and "Did you know a monkey is a really good snack?" Comedy ensues, and satisfaction reigns when the friends finally rest in their new shade, full of compliments for each other. Oddfellow's Orphanage by Emily Winfield Martin "What do an onion-headed boy, a child-sized hedgehog and a tattooed girl have in common? They all live at Oddfellow's Orphanage!" begins the lead-in of this quirky tale. The lively story has a refreshing air of vintage appeal with humor in a circus-like setting. Oddfellow's Orphanage is indeed that â&#x20AC;&#x201C; a school full of lovable misfits unique and kind. Martin's enticing writing style and pencil sketches on every page will appeal to budding readers aged six to 11 who enjoy fantastical fairytale-like stories. The popular Etsy.com artist captures the whimsy and freshness of a retro world of dancing bears, ragtime music and mysterium of all sorts. Hooey Higgins and the Shark by Steve Voake Author Voake knows kid-speak and writes in a funny conversational tone that will have youngsters guffawing. In this hilarious, beginning chapter book, a boy named Hooey Higgins desperately wants a huge chocolate egg in a store window. He enlists his best friend Twig and older brother to lure a shark to shore with ketchup, a cricket bat and rope in the hopes they can charge people to view it. What ensues is adventurous, crazy hilarity. Readers ages five to 10 will enjoy the down-home, outrageous feel of Hooey's English seaside setting.

The Fairy Ring by Mary Losure The true story about a nine-year-old girl who saw fairies by the waterfall behind her house is remarkable and absorbing. Frances is the only one who saw the tiny men dressed in green, and enlists the help of her older cousin to take photographs. The girls take pictures of painted paper fairies only to stop grownups from teasing them. What results is bigger than either imagined with the pictures falling into the hands of Sherlock Holmes creator Arthur Conan Doyle, a lifetime fairy believer. In a spellbinding attempt at narrative nonfiction, reporter Losure weaves a fantastic story kids will fall for. Subtitled "Elsie and Frances Fool the World," the wonderful book will be a favorite. Jasper John Dooley: Star of the Week by Caroline Adderson Jasper John Dooley is an energetic boy young readers will love. In the first book in the series, Jasper is star of the week at school, but he is upstaged by another child's new baby sibling. But that doesn't sway Jasper who, with the help of his parents and friends and a hammer, manages to turn things around. With easy-to-read text with plenty of white space throughout, black and white sketches and 12 brief, kid-friendly chapters, Adderson's tale will help first- through third-graders learn that a little disappointment can turn to success with understanding and hard work. KIDBITS. Other worthy new chapter books for young readers include: Calvin Coconut: Man Trip by Graham Salisbury. Calvin respects nature when he travels to Hawaii with his mom's boyfriend and learns to fish. Daisy's Perfect World by Sandra. V. Feder. First- through third-grade girls will enjoy this story of a little girl who loves learning and wordplay. Junie B. Jones and the Stupid Smelly Bus by Barbara Park. To celebrate the 20th anniversary of the bestselling Junie B. Jones series, this full-color edition of the first book in the series includes 14 pages of never-before-seen material. Magical Monty by Johanna Hurwitz. Monty will soon be seven and uses his magic set to add an element of surprise to everyday life. RAISE MAGAZINE | APRIL 2013

COLLEGE PREP

isiting a college campus helps students get a sense of what a college and college life is like. This can help a student decide what college is right for them. Whether it’s a senior student whom has received letters of acceptance or a junior on a quest to find out what colleges they will apply to come fall, a campus visit can provide a wonderful, eyeopening experience.

The

COLLEGE CAMPUS

Visit

Text by Jesus and Adriana Gonzalez, Educational Consultants, ILEAD

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Visiting colleges can also greatly reduce anxieties often experienced by students and parents. When both are honest with each other about what they are looking for, it can help minimize stress levels. Everything is worth discussing – the type of institution, academic programs offered, location, living arrangements, and any other information your family feels is pertinent in your decision-making process. Here are some helpful tips: Expectations. Be clear about what you and your student want to achieve with a college education. Consider what you are looking for academically, or in a career field and whether the campuses you will be visiting meet those needs. You will be surprised at how many students apply to campuses for many reasons other than academic programs. Find out whether or not the programs your student is interested in are actually offered at the campuses you are planning to visit. This is also a good time to explore what resources are available to help your student succeed upon their arrival. Campus Tour. Almost all campuses offer tours at different levels depending on how much time you have allotted. These are usually led by current students. You’ll see the main parts of the campus and have a chance to ask questions. Although a formal campus tour is a great place to start, there are many benefits to taking a walk off the beaten path. Some great places to visit on your own are the campus library, quad areas, or any other areas where students congregate during lunch or in between classes. While on your visit, also make an effort to attend classes in session so you can get a sense of the lectures offered and a firsthand college classroom experience. If your student is considering living in the campus dorms, eat at the residence dining hall or make arrangements for an overnight stay. Intellectual Fit. Find out what programs or facilities the institution is investing in. Chances are if an institution is investing in specific programs, those are seen as a priority. Visit the academic departments and informally talk with faculty or students in the halls. You can simply take a seat somewhere and capture some of the student interaction to get a glimpse of academic conversations. Visit the Admissions Office and make an effort to speak to a staff member or dean. Ask general questions about the academic programs of interest to you. Emotional Fit. Can your student see themselves on the campus? Will you be comfortable with your student attending the campus? Often times, students apply to a campus thinking it will be ideal, but for various reasons may not feel the same once they’ve had a chance to set foot on the campus. All of these areas are important considerations that can be discussed on the trip home and in the weeks following your visit. If you or your student feel anxious about a campus far away from home, now is the best time to have a candid conversation about these feelings.

HAPPY TRAILS

Text by Happy Trails

ational Volunteer Appreciation Week is April 21-27, 2013. At Happy Trails Riding Academy, volunteers are truly the backbone of our program and we strive to show our appreciation every week. In 2012, volunteers from throughout the Central Valley donated more than 8,800 hours to our classes, facility maintenance, events, and more.

We are proud to have many long-time volunteers that devote their time week-in and week-out, rain or shine. One of those volunteers is Leslie Jacobsen, a 17-year-old senior at El Diamante High School.

Leslie has been volunteering with Happy Trails since the fall of 2009 when she attended a volunteer orientation and immediately fell in love with the program. “Since the beginning, Leslie has been an amazing, dedicated, and dependable volunteer that always has a positive attitude and is definitely a favorite with the students and instructors,” said Shannon Smith, volunteer coordinator. Leslie has volunteered in all of the classes Happy Trails offers – from therapeutic riding and equine assisted therapy to interactive vaulting and therapeutic driving – and said she cannot pick a favorite, as she loves them all. Leslie also volunteers her time at the CALNET horseshow that takes place at the Los Angeles Equestrian Center each spring. Currently, Leslie donates roughly 10 hours of her time each week to our program, in addition to always helping with special events. “My favorite part about volunteering at Happy Trails is helping the students overcome their difficulties to achieve something great,” said Leslie. In her time away from Happy Trails and school, Leslie enjoys drawing animals (she’s even done a sketch-book of the entire Happy Trails herd!), raising sheep, and being an active member of El Diamante FFA where she’s an officer this year. When asked about her plans for after high school, Leslie said she plans on starting at COS and then moving on to Cal Poly or UC Davis to major in animal science. “Happy Trails has made me realize that I have a real passion for horses and helping people wherever I go,” stated Leslie. PICTURED: Leslie Jacobsen leading horse, Buffalo Bob.

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ART & CRAFTS

TISSUE

Art Vase

Virginia Strawser, ImagineU Museum | Photo by Taylor Vaughn

pril showers bring May flowers! This tissue paper craft you can do at home, perfect for a rainy day. Let’s also work on some of those important skills needed for Kindergarten at the same time.

This project will help build your child’s small motor skills as they tear or cut the tissue, hold the paint brush, “paint” with the glue, and place the tissue onto the vase. They will also learn their colors as they pick which color tissue or paper to use, and what flowers they put in their vase. This activity isn’t just for young children; older children and adults alike will enjoy this. Let’s all get our creative juices flowing! What you will need: 1. A water bottle or other receptacle that will work as a vase 2. Tissue paper in different colors 3. Non-toxic, kid-safe white glue 4. Kid-safe scissors 5. Small container for glue 6. Paint brush 7. Silk or fresh flowers

Directions: 1. Tear or cut the tissue paper into small pieces that are easy to work with. If you want to use scissors, you can also cut shapes. 2. “Paint” a portion of the vase with white glue. Putting the white glue in a small container with a wide mouth makes it easier for your child to access with the paintbrush. Have them squeeze it into the container for even more Kindergarten-readiness motor skills. 3. Place pieces of the tissue onto the surface that has been painted with glue. Repeat steps two and three until the vase is covered with tissue. 4. “Paint” a coat of glue over all the tissue, making sure all the tissue sticks to the surface and gives a nice uniform finish. 5. Let vase dry. This doesn’t take very long. 6. Put some silk or fresh flowers in your vase and enjoy. Tips: The more colorful, the better. Use leftover tissue from gifts you've received. If you don’t have any tissue, any thin paper will work. Some gift wrapping paper works, if it’s thin enough. Newspaper works well – the comics are nice and colorful. A thin coat of glue is sufficient; too much takes a long time to dry and can leave a residue that doesn’t dry clear. A few marbles, some sand, or some small rocks work well in the bottom of the vase to help keep it standing upright. Gluing a strip of ribbon around the neck of the vase adds a nice touch.

Mother’s Day is just around the corner. What mom, grandma or aunt wouldn’t love to receive this beautiful child-made work of art? In May, there will be plenty of fresh flowers available to make it even more special.

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ART & CRAFTS

— It’s Your Life — THURSDAY, MAY 9th | COLLEGE OF SEQUOIAS’ QUAD AREA | 10:00 A.M. – 2:00 P.M. Join us for information and services to help women make healthier lifestyle choices, including: • Guest speakers on the topics of

• Healthy cooking demonstrations

• Blood pressure checks

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• Screenings for diabetes, anemia,

• Group Zumba lessons

media, and empowering yourself

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FITNESS

Running a 5k as a Family Text by Andy Salazar, Empower Fitness

ooking for something fun, active and uplifting to do as a family this spring? Then look no further and sign your family up for a 5k race. You might not be a runner, however, if you bear with me I will point out the benefits of training and racing as a family that will inspire you. Signing up for your first family 5k may be a little intimidating, but just because it’s called a “race” does not mean you have to run; you can speed walk or do a combination of alternating running with walking. Training for a 5k is an easy way to bring the family together for weeks of physical activity, and bonding time to work toward a goal. The first thing you have to do in preparing for your first 5k is to make sure you and your family have proper running shoes. They don’t need to be expensive, but it is vital to take care of your feet with comfortable, fitted shoes. Feet problems, such as blisters, hurt toe nails, and sore arches are a fast way to derail your training and

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progress, and is not fun for the kids. Secondly, start your training slow; give yourself six to eight weeks of training, three to five times per week, and gradually increase your distance or time. Thirdly, have fun! Challenge yourself and family members to meet certain distance marks or times – this is a fun way to compete against yourself and improve week after week. Children who run 5k races develop a huge sense of accomplishment, a new enlightenment of their body’s abilities, feel encouragement and positive energy from the cheering crowd, and enjoy the extra time, attention, and activity with their parents. This is one of the only times just doing the activity is enough. There is no outside pressure to win; crossing the finish line, no matter what the time, is winning. As parents we want our children to be healthy, happy and full of life. Exercising as a family is a perfect way to lead by example and engrave healthy habits in our children. Signing up for a 5k is fun way to exercise together and a perfect way to get into shape and give back to the community, as most 5k races benefit local charities. There are a lot of races throughout the year in the Central Valley. Visit www. active.com to find a race and sign the family up. The benefits and experiences will last a lifetime.

Visalia PARKS

ADVENTURES

pril is here and it’s finally time to go outside and enjoy all that nature has in store. Flowers are blooming, birds are chirping and the sun is out! So, grab your whole family – pets, too – and head over to Plaza Park or Mooney Grove Park in Visalia.

Plaza Park is located at Plaza Drive and Airport Road. This four-acre park includes reservable picnic areas, perfect for that summer barbecue and even better if you just want to get out of the house and enjoy the company of your friends and family. There are also eight reservable and lighted tennis courts, a bike path, reservable horseshoe courts, a racing arena, two children’s playgrounds and four reservable and lighted softball diamonds. Make sure you bring plenty of snacks (like the end bread loaf ends your kids won't eat) because there is a pond filled with hungry ducks conveniently located near the covered and uncovered arbors. The dogs don’t have to stay home when you make a trip out to Plaza Park because there is also a leash-free dog park. Cody Kelly Bark Park includes separate fenced off areas for small and large breeds, benches for owners, running water for those hot summer days and plenty of shade. For another fun, family-friendly park, head on over to 27000 South Mooney Boulevard where you will find the historic Mooney Grove Park. Filled with giant oak trees preserved by the city of Visalia, Mooney Grove Park also includes picnic areas, barbecue facilities and the famous parks lagoon, home to geese and ducks. Mooney Grove Park is closed on Tuesday and Wednesday but be sure to check it out any other day of the week. With more than 30 parks throughout Visalia, there are plenty of opportunities for you and your family to come outside and enjoy the benefits of spring. Go and uncover what Visalia has to offer!

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CALENDAR

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Fam i lear ly Fu n & ning Too !

Wed-Fri 10am-4pm / Sat 12pm-4pm

Admission $5 per person / Annual Family Memberships $72

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CALENDAR Art in the Alley

Check out this ongoing seasonal event to display art pieces, listen to music and provide hands-on fun activities for children and the whole family. When: April – June, every 3rd Thursday; 5-8p Where: Garden Street Plaza, Visalia Contact: 625-1520 Shrek the Musical

Based on the original DreamWorks film, this musical will follow the swampdwelling ogre who goes on a life-changing journey to rescue a princess from a fiery, dragon guarded castle. There will be laughs, romance and music at the fun event for the whole family. When: April 3-4; 7:30p Where: William Saroyan Theatre, 730 M. St., Fresno Contact: 445-8100

4 Visalia Rawhide Opening Day

It’s that time of year again! Baseball season is officially here. Bring the whole family as the Visalia Rawhide take on the San Jose Giants. You don’t want to miss out on all of the fun opening day activities. Tickets start at $6. When: April 4; 7p Where: Rawhide Ballpark, 300 N. Giddings St., Visalia Contact: 713–4365

6 First Saturday

Food, fun and fabulous art. Every first Saturday of the month, the artists, restaurants and merchants of Three Rivers open their doors and invite you to join in a town-wide celebration. You can pick up a map and schedule at Anne Lang’s Emporium or the Historical Museum. When: April 6; 10a-5p Where: Anne Lang’s Emporium, 41651 Sierra Dr. (CA 198), Three Rivers Contact: Nadi Spencer, 561-4373 or www.1stSaturdayTR.com

9 Tulare’s 125th Birthday Bash

This fun, family event will kick off the Tulare farmer’s market and street fair and will also feature a jazz band, vendor booths, food and entertainment for children. When: April 9; 5:30-9p Where: Downtown Tulare Contact: 685-2300

13 Living Well 5K

Proceeds for this family event will help to provide fresh water wells to families in Africa and Asia. Tickets for the 5K are $20 in advance and $30 the day of the event. For the Mile Fun Run/Walk, child fee is $5. When: April 13; 8a Where: Plaza Park, Visalia Contact: Call Natalie Caudle at 936-7128 Kid’s Day

Join other local families as they celebrate Kid’s Day to promote Child Abuse Awareness for Child Abuse Prevention Month. This exciting day will start off with a free Walk Against Child Abuse from Hanford Civic Park to the Hanford Mall. There will also be free entertainment for the whole family, including a reptile show, games and community and health providers information booths. When: April 13; 9a-3p Where: Hanford Mall, 1675 W. Lacey Blvd., Hanford Contact: 583-1200

27 Iris Festival

Bring the whole family for this free event as you enjoy “Porterville in Bloom.” There will be arts and crafts, food and commercial booths, free entertainment on three stages, a beer and wine garden, the cool rides car show and the third annual chili cook-off. A free shuttle service will be provided from each location. When: April 27; 9a-5p Where: Downtown Porterville and Sutton’s Iris Gardens, 16592 Road 208, Porterville Contact: 784-7502 or www.portervillechamber.org Tulare County Library

Mystery Readers (April 17, 6:30p) Independent Film Series (April 18, 6p) Third Thursday Book Club (April 18, 7p) Where: Tulare County Library, 200 W. Oak Ave., Visalia Contact: 713-2700 or tularecountylibrary.org AgVentures at Heritage Complex

Agricultural Learning Center and Farm Equipment Museum with nearly 15 professionally designed interactive displays. Children learn about science and technology, food and nutrition, environmental issues, social studies and more! When: Mon. – Fri., 9a-4p Where: International Agri-Center, 4450 S. Laspina St., Tulare Contact: 688-1030 Visalia Farmer’s Market – Harvest of the Valley

Weekly event open to the public featuring free live music, kids’ activities, cooking demonstrations and local, fresh produce available for purchase. The market also accepts EBT and WIC. When: Saturdays; 8-11:30a Where: Sears parking lot at Mooney and Caldwell, Visalia Contact: 967-6722 or www.visaliafarmersmarket.com

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SAFETY

Gang Involvement

Watch for the Signs Text by Adam Valencia, Tulare County Office of Education, Choices Prevention Programs

ention you’re the parent of a young adolescent and other adults may roll their eyes and express their sympathy. Others see images of bedrooms in which lost homework assignments share floor space with potato chip wrappers and grubby sweatpants. But many parental concerns run deeper than messy bedrooms – they worry about the problems young adolescents often face: rocky emotions, rebellion, peer pressures, low motivation, drugs, alcohol, pregnancy and gang involvement. During the ages from 10 through 14, children undergo many physical, emotional and mental changes. Together these changes can throw their lives and the lives of their parents off balance. Major problems may arise, particularly among children who are already at risk of school failure.

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When it comes to influencing and guiding childrens' lives, being a parent is more challenging now than in the past. Television, movies, music, computer sites and friends can have more influence than parents. Gang members prey on adolescents longing for a purpose in life. Gang members glorify their lifestyle and attempt to usurp parental authority by telling children that the gang will love, care and “be there” for them unlike their parents, who don’t care. If you’ve noticed your child exhibiting some of these signs, don’t ignore them. Find out what gangs operate around your neighborhood. Identify their symbols, graffiti, and colors. If your school is away from your neighborhood, research that area as well. Contact your child’s school to see if any gang presentations can be provided. If your child has computer access, install a blocking program. View the history on the computer to see what sites they are visiting and know their Facebook access code. The more you know about gangs, the better you'll be able to recognize any involvement and take steps to protect your child. The family is essential in developing the child's social, emotional, and physical needs. If the family is the source of the love, guidance, and protection, children less likely to search for these basic needs from a gang.

The first signs that gangs are influencing your children are: • New friends • Change in dress • Starts using a nickname • Inappropriate language • Inappropriate drawings • Develops a violent or aggressive attitude • Language changes • Secrecy • Graffiti or symbols found around the house • Drug use • Gang web sites • Drug web sites • Violent web sites

RESOURCES

important numbers at a glance:

City Information • Tulare County website www.co.tulare.ca.us • City of Visalia website www.ci.visalia.ca.us • City of Tulare website www.ci.tulare.ca.us • City of Exeter website www.cityofexeter.com • City of Woodlake website www.cityofwoodlake.com • Visalia Parks & Recreation, (559) 713-4365

Other Important Numbers

Fire & Police

County & City

• Tulare County Fire Department, (559) 747-8233 • Visalia Fire Department, (559) 713-4266 • Tulare Fire Department, (559) 684-4300 • Exeter Fire Department, (559) 592-3714 • Woodlake Fire Department, (559) 564-2181 • Tulare County Sheriff’s Department, (559) 636-4625; (559) 733-6218 • Visalia Police Department (Non-Emergency), (559) 734-8116 • Visalia Police Department, Gang Suppression and Narcotics Unit, (anonymous tip hotline) (559) 713-4737 • Tulare County - End Gang Hotline, (888) 363-4264 • Tulare Police Department, (559) 684-4238; (559) 686-3454 • Exeter Police Department, (559) 592-3103 • Woodlake Police Department, (559) 564-3325 • Kings & Tulare County California Highway Patrol, (559) 441-5400

• Tulare County Services - United Way, Dial 2-1-1; www.211ca.org • Delta Vector Control District, (559) 732-8606; www.deltavcd.com • Tulare & Kings Counties Suicide Prevention Task Force (Non-crisis), (559) 624-7471; www.sptf.org • Child Abuse Prevention Council, (559) 735-0456; www.tularecountycapc.org • Child Abuse 24-hr Hotline, (800) 331-1585 • Domestic Violence/Shelters, (559) 732-5941, (559) 685-9515; www.fstc.net • Sexual Assault 24-hr Confidential Hotline, (559) 732-7273; www.fstc.net • Alcohol/Drug Programs, (559) 733-6123 • Parenting Network, (559) 625-0384; www.parentingnetwork.org • Tulare-Kings Right To Life, (559) 732-5000; www.tkrl.org • The IRMA Network, (559) 732-5000; www.theirmanetwork.org • Latinos4Life, (559) 732-5000; www.latinos4life.org • 5ive5ive9ine (Teen Health), 559teensmatter.org • Tulare County Animal Control, (559) 636-4050 • Visalia Animal Control, (559) 713-4957

Medical • Family HealthCare Network, www.fhcn.org • Kaweah Delta Medical Center, (559) 624-2000 Emergency Room, (559) 624-2213 • Visalia Walk-In Medical Clinic, (559) 627-5555 • Tulare Regional Medical Center, (559) 688-0821 • Tulare County Health and Human Services Agency, (559) 624-8000 • Children’s Hospital Central California, (559) 353-3000 • Dignity Health, Mercy & Memorial Hospitals, Lauren Small Children's Medical Center (661) 327-4647

Education • Tulare County Library, (559) 713-2700; www.tularecountylibrary.org • Tulare County Office of Education, (559) 733-6300; www.tcoe.org • Visalia Unified School District, (559) 730-7300; www.vusd.org • Tulare City School District, (559) 685-7200; www.tcsdk8.org • Exeter Union School District, (559) 592-9421; www.exeter.k12.ca.us • Woodlake Public Schools, (559) 564-8081; www.woodlakepublicschools.org

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Nationwide • American Association of Poison Control Centers, (800) 222-1222; www.aapcc.org • Center for Disease Control and Prevention, (800) 232-4636; www.cdc.gov • California Poison Control, (800) 222-1222; www.calpoison.org • National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, (800) 273-8255; www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org • The Trevor Project (LGBTQ), (866) 488-7386; www.thetrevorproject.com • Missing Child Hotline, (800) 843-5678 • Road Conditions, (800) 427-7623

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RAISE MAGAZINE | APRIL 2013

WHEN WE SEE KIDS ...

We see a fireman But mostly, when we see sick or injured kids, we see they get the state-of-the-art medical care they need. The diagnosis and treatment of children is different from adults. Dignity is caring for our future at the area’s only comprehensive pediatric program in Kern County so they can get back to being … well … just being kids. And you? You get your fireman back. Whether in the doctor’s office, or a hospital emergency room, the decision is yours when choosing where your child will be treated. Ask for the Lauren Small Children’s Medical Center at Memorial Hospital.