FALL INTO TRANSITION

By Tyi Flood

As seasons change, we go through the frustrations of the change of weather; if it’s going to be cold today, hot tomorrow. Simple nuances like changing our closet, vehicle upkeep, and other seasonal necessities are put in place to assist us with managing the next few months.

This can also be true as it relates to our daily lives and how we manage change, both physically and mentally. Transitions are never the easiest season to be in. You face fear, possible let downs, and sometimes breakdowns as you weather the in-and-out moments you’re in. Within the last few months I’ve faced insane changes in my livelihood and lifestyle: I relocated, started a position at a new job, and ended a five-year relationship. This all happened within one season - which equates to about three months, and although all were great blessings and a sigh of relief, once the adrenaline settled, I found myself depressed and anxious.

I continue to remind myself, “girl, you have the opportunity to live better and love on you,” but there are times when I also sit and wonder if I’ve made the right choices, if I will ever find the right man, or if I will ever be happy. I knew this transition was going to be a challenge and stressful at times, but every day I meditate on the BIG picture. In order to truly focus on my WINS, I decided to withdraw from anyone or anything that made

Me lose focus on my healing process, and cling to finding simple pleasures in my life. This resulted in me doing the following:

1. Logging off social media: I wasn’t sure how long I would be able to log-off, but I knew that I had to stop viewing and analyzing everyone else’s life. Social media was an automatic depressant for me and did not contribute to my healing process.

2. Checking in on old friends: although I didn’t want to fall back into old habits with friends who weren’t good for me, there were friends who were extremely healthy for me, whom I had isolated myself from. It felt good to laugh and reminisce and find that hidden glow.

3. Finding new hobbies: for some odd reason, I picked up an urge to play pool, and with the recent move I dabbled in designing my new space. Getting back in shape and taking control is also on my list— but hey, me and pizza still have a love/hate relationship.

Lastly, I’ve been working on my voice. Being able to vocalize my thoughts through paper and releasing those negative thoughts that creep in from time to time.

During this season, I’m living in my transition and learning to take control of every twist and turn it brings. This is my time to declutter and restore every part of me.