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Cover photo shot on location at Express Employment Professionals in Roseville. Photo by Emilie Bourdages Photography. Makeup by Christi Reynolds Makeup Artistry.

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Jenny Beard’s life continues while battling cancer

10 FASHION HISTORY// Sacramento’s historical hats 18 CAREER// Meea Kang empowers communities 27 TRAVEL//

Planning your fall getaway

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Catfish 101: online lures to avoid

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After discovering dermatologist Dr. Cynthia Bailey’s website (www.drbaileyskincare.com), I finally found my Holy Grail dry skin treatment! She mentioned Vermont’s Original Bag Balm for dry skin on her blog as her go to product for dry skin. The tin I have is large, but it fits into my tote with my books, makeup, and the occasional spilled goldfish. I also keep it on my bedside table and put it on to work its magic while I sleep. For under $10 and easy to find at a local drugstore, it’s awesome for chapped and dry lips, hands, cheeks, and feet (some use it for baby diaper rash too!). I’ll be trying out her other fabulous recommendations next month in my Transformation article. Let’s hope they’re just as good as the Bag Balm.

his month we celebrate the beginning of spring with an inspirational woman who amazed us all at bonnie with her vibrancy and will to live her life to the fullest. Jenny Beard, a beautiful woman, charmed us with her humble nature, and bright, blue eyes. Her story filled bonnie staff with awe. She has stage IV cancer—and looked radiant at the photo shoot. She was energetic at her family-owned business the day of the shoot, and was busy getting paychecks ready for those employed at her staffing agency, Express Employment Professionals in Roseville. Underneath her downto-earth attitude was a woman who could light up any room with her love and strength. All of us who met her felt her warmth and energy and were inspired by it. She is remarkable and wellloved—by her family, bonnie staff, and anyone who gets a chance to talk with her.

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bonnie was also able to also spend time with Meea Kang, president of Domus Development, a visionary in residential development. The developer behind La Valentina in downtown Sacramento also brought her adorable daughter Alana to the photo shoot. Kang wanted her daughter to be able to see how much she loved what she does for a living, just like her mother showed her when she was younger. It was a beautiful thing to see—mother and daughter showcasing what’s important when it comes to life and building better spaces and communities—love and connection. Celebrate Women’s History Month this March. In our Reviewed section bonnie puts together some of the most famous must-reads by or about women pioneers in pop culture, history, literature, politics, and beyond. We felt it important to be reminded that less than 100 years ago women were not allowed to vote (check out She-tistics on page 50 for amazing women’s history facts)! Here we are today, celebrating that we’ve come a long way, still have some work to do, but we’re not looking back! We also worked with Curator of History Veronica Kandl of the Center for Sacramento History. The Center and Kandl curated our historical hat fashion spread for this month’s issue. Believe it or not, this shoot took twice as long as a regular fashion shoot with live models. The lighting and background had to be precise to showcase the headware perfectly.

Bonnie’s boo-boo Last month we had a big oopsie and didn’t credti our makeup maven and hairstylist for our 24 Hour Luxury fashion spread. Christi Reynolds was responsible for the heavenly makeup and Amanda Lee created the sexy hair. Christi also did hair and makeup for the Cheryl Anderson and Allison Brennan photo shoots. We love these ladies!

We also invite you, our dear reader, on a fun and interactive Hawaiian getaway from April 2-9! We partnered up with local travel expert Anne Rose, bonnie publisher Shawn Crary along with bonnie office manager Ernesto Gallardo to give you an inside look into an affordable, amazing Hawaiian vacation. You can see all of their videos, photos, and live blogs about what it takes to have a seamless and fun vacation in Hawaii. You’re invited to interact by asking questions, suggesting sites to see, or restaurants to try. Shawn and Ernesto will take your recommendations and post their experiences live during the week of April 2-9. To join the conversation visit www.readbonnie.com/publisher or www.facebook.com/readbonnie. Here’s to starting off the spring with hope, love, and community!

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he offices at Express Employment Professionals are unlike any others in the Roseville business complex. The walls are painted in bright, clean green, and blue hues. Each area has a trinket of relaxation—a Zen garden, a Buddha statue, and a meditation frog. There are inspirational quotes in beautiful letters scribed on the walls, and the light shines throughout the open floor plan. That’s how the owners, Eric and Jenny Beard, wanted it—happy, welcoming, a peaceful and productive environment. After all, they are in the business of getting people jobs in an economy that hasn’t been so kind. I walk over to a wall of thank-you cards, photos and letters. It’s a cheerful area, just as the rest of the office seems. I can’t help but smile. The energy in the office is lively, carefree, and a place that I would like to visit again. From the colorful ambiance to the kudos on the poster board to the happy employees, everything is full of positivity. It’s hard to believe that the reason I am there is to interview one of the owners who is battling stage IV breast cancer. I sit down and rethink my approach to this interview. Initially, I assumed that with stage IV cancer, Jenny Beard is battling for her life, and she might not have much time. She’s a mother, a wife, a busi-

ness owner, and she has a heart of gold. She’s inspired many with her dedication to her work and her devotion to her family. I had prepared to interview a dying woman. But that all changed when the door opened. In walked a beautiful blonde, wearing a flowing black skirt, scoop-neck, pink, lacey blouse and knee-high leopard print, high heel boots. She’s carrying paperwork, a large bag, and a plate of what appears to be homemade, pink cupcakes. Her makeup is flawless and her smile is wide. Surely this can’t be her. This isn’t a woman who is dying of cancer. This is a woman full of life. “Hi,” says Jenny. “Come on in, sorry I’m late.” She thinks I care. She’s so sweet. I already love her. We go into a conference room where Jenny tells me she doesn’t know why she was chosen for this story. “There’s nothing special about me. I just have cancer and I’m trying to fight it, and I really think there’s a lot more I could be doing,” she says. We skip the informalities and begin to chat like girlfriends. Jenny tells me her story, and our parallels shock me. We both have teenagers and toddlers. We are both hard-working, go-getters. We share a quick sense of humor, a sales management background, 12-year old wedding rings, and we are about the same age. She is someone I am drawn to immediately. It’s hard to put into words why—but she radiates with a light that I can feel and as silly as it might seem, I can see it too. Jenny is busy—too busy for cancer. She has three children at home, a thriving business with her husband, and a daughter attending college in Southern California. She has a two-page to-do list with check marks, and it’s only 10:00 a.m. She tells me she feels she needs to be doing more. This round of chemotherapy has taken a lot out of her, including her hair, and she’s frustrated that she’s been forced to take a behind-the-scenes approach to working through chemo treatments. It doesn’t sit well with her. I tell her that I don’t know where to begin. She has taken me by surprise. She reassures me, as she will do several more times during our two-hour talk. “Well, I’ll tell you that even before this [stage IV metastasized breast cancer] I thought I had my own story.” In 2004, Jenny and her husband took a leap of faith. They moved their family of five to Rocklin and opened a staffing company from scratch. With his experience in accounting and hers in sales and marketing, it was great match. “We put everything on the line to open this business,” she says. There was no income, they had two

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small children, and a ten-year old, and they were determined to make it succeed. The plan was working, for about seven months. In March of 2005, upon a routine self-exam, Jenny felt a lump in her left breast. The diagnosis was a slowgrowing, breast cancer in two different quadrants of her left breast. She was 32. The diagnosis was scary, but the doctors were optimistic. “I felt like there’s nothing I can do about it, so I would always take the worst case scenario, which was death, and work backwards from that,” Jenny says. The cancer was caught so early that it didn’t worry her too much. On May 5, 2005, she received a single mastectomy. With her positive attitude and cancer in remission, she felt ready to take on the world again. She thought that maybe this happened for a reason; she thought maybe she would be able to help someone in the future. In 2008, as the employment market started to plunge, Jenny thought that maybe her cancer story had inadvertently prepared her to deal with the hit that her business would take. This scared her more than cancer. “When the economy crumbled, being that we are in the employment business, we were scared,” she remembers. “We are a source of encouragement to people who come here and seek our services, and we didn’t have any jobs for them. That was a crisis. That was scary.” Although she had worked through her cancer experience, she never let it affect the business. In doing so, Jenny gained confidence. “We went through that [breast cancer] as a six-month-old company,” Jenny says. “In my head, if we went through that, we could take on this recession.” It was a long process, and there

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JENNY BEARD continued from page 7 were some tough decisions and dark days, but as other staffing companies closed their doors for good, the Beards’ company made it through. To celebrate, they had a small party in 2009 called THINK BIG. “It was kind of an open house,” she says. “We were expecting 30 people to come, and were amazed when 150 showed up.” It’s clear to me that Jenny puts as much positivity into her business as she does in her life, so of course it was a success. That year, Jenny and her husband were in a good place. The kids were 20, 10, and 8-years-old. Life and business were stable and good things were on the horizon. But, with a quick getaway to Las Vegas, the couple soon found out they were pregnant. A little boy was born in May of 2010, but as soon as she got home from the hospital, she began to have vision problems. Jenny was soon diagnosed with a rare eye disorder called a macular hole. “With a macular hole, if you don’t fix it, you go blind,” Jenny says. She knew she had been though worse, so she went forward with a procedure

Jenny’s hope video caught the attention of International pop superstar Celine Dion, who recently shared it on her Facebook page.

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to correct the hole. A vitrectomy consists of placing a gas bubble behind her retina. The procedure would only work if she kept her head down, looking at her toes, for seven days during recovery. “The bubble acts like a stint and I had to eat and drink while looking down,” she says. “This was harder to recover from than my mastectomy.” Unfortunately, it was about to get a lot harder. One side effect from the delicate surgery is a retinal detachment. The solution is to have another vitrectomy. Within six months, that happened—twice. To make matters worse, between her second and third surgeries, she was diagnosed with cancer—again. What started out as an inpatient procedure to remove a cyst, ended up being a cancerous tumor. The diagnosis was grim. Jenny had stage IV meta-

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static breast cancer. The cancer had spread to her back, lungs, glands, and neck. According to The American Cancer Society, recent introductions of new chemotherapy drugs have significantly improved survival of patients diagnosed with stage IV breast cancer, but the statistics remain at about a 20% survival rate at five years. “To me, that meant I had a 20% chance of being alive in five years,” she says. That was two-and-a-half years ago. “It’s an ugly stat, it seems unreal. But the worst thing that can happen is I can die.” We both take a moment. This is the same thought process she had before, but this time, it feels heavier. “With metastasized cancer, they don’t go after every tumor in your body.” Instead, she has endured three rounds of chemo, a clinical trial, and hormone

therapy. So far, none of her treatments have been successful. The cancer has now moved to her pancreas and her liver. Once again, she sees the lighter side of bad. “The good thing is that it’s a slow-moving cancer.” Jenny is on her fourth round of chemo. She will find out her results at the end of March. True to her optimistic nature, she sees the good in the chemo failure. “I don’t have time to dwell on the ‘what-ifs’ because I don’t know. Not knowing is the hard part.” Not knowing can’t be put on a to-do list. It can’t be planned for. To someone like Jenny, not knowing can be overwhelming. “There’s so much I want and need to do – there’s kids, a business, things I want to do … I need to start taking a lot more pictures.” I feel like I might lose it. I can’t imagine being in her shoes. But then she says something that

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been through so much. I know I am not this strong. I think I would have thrown in the towel. “I guess I don’t think about that, ever,” Jenny says. This is true. The woman who continues to work, spend time with her family, and plan for the future, finds a sort of reprieve at her weekly chemo sessions. Once, she told the nurse, “I really just like sitting here. I can just relax. You probably hear

that all the time.” The nurse was surprised and said no, not really. Her unpretentiousness is sweet. Her outlook is hopeful. She believes in Karma and God, and refuses to talk about dying. “There are people who can live with this disease for many, many years, like 15 years,” she says. “I truly am at peace with whatever happens…but, I believe a miracle is about to happen.” Before this interview, I thought

people with stage IV breast cancer were sick, in pain, terminal, and perhaps waiting to die. But, everything changed with this interview. Jenny is a beacon of hope. I interviewed a woman who loves life, her children, her marriage, and her company. Even with a seemingly devastating diagnosis, this woman is living—more than many of us are, and that is inspiring. b

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makes me want to jump across the table and hug her. “You know, people have it much worse than I do,” she smiles. “I’ve experienced so many blessings along this journey.” She made a vision board with her employees. “We did it as an office experiment together in 2008.” She wanted to see Celine Dion, she wanted to see her daughter go to college, she wanted a new bed, and she wanted to go on a cruise to Alaska. As time has passed, many of her visions on her board came to fruition. She got a new bed, and she not only got to see Celine Dion in concert, but the singer also posted a video of Jenny and her family on her own Facebook site (see www.readbonnie.com/ video/ to watch the video). Her eldest daughter is in college and last year, her friends and family surprised her on her 40th birthday with a surprise party—including a cruise to Alaska. “I was surprised with the party, but then they presented my husband and me with a cruise to Alaska.” Jenny pauses to remember that night. She smiles. “That was a really amazing surprise.” She tells me it’s undeserving. She tells me this often. The woman who shines so brightly on others cannot accept the same love back. It’s hard for her to see how she exudes hope, but I see it. “I don’t know why people think I’m inspiring,” she says often. “I don’t think I’m doing things different than anyone else in this situation.” I try to reassure her. She has

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n honor of Women’s History Month, bonnie partnered with the Center for Sacramento History to showcase historical hats worn by or sold to local Sacramento women throughout the 18th and 19th century. The following hats will be part of the Center’s “Hats & Headware, Inside the Vault Textile Tour,” happening April 18-21. It is the first ever textile tour program featuring the Center’s extensive collection of historical hats and headware. For more information about schedule and pricing, visit www.centerforsacramentohistory.org. A special thank you to the Center and Veronica Kandl, curator of history, for curating the following hats for bonnie. The Center for Sacramento History is a historical research center for the Sacramento region and maintains artifact, archival, photographic, and audiovisual collections, making them available for study and exhibition to the public. Founded in 1953, the Center is the official repository for the archival records of the City and County of Sacramento and also maintains privately donated artifacts, manuscripts, and personal papers from individuals, businesses, and organizations in the community. The CSH was originally created as an archival repository, but today it is a highly used humanities research center and provider of public exhibitions and programs.

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“When a person is in fashion, all they do is right.” —Lord Chesterfield 1//Bright yellow, feather-covered, lampshade hat with “Happy Cappers Brand for the Field and Co., L.A.” label. Bought by donor Mrs. Winchester G. Felt for $12.95 in 1965. Mrs. Felt would wear the hat while she and Mr. Felt were working at horse shows because it was easy for Mr. Felt to spot the hat in the crowd.

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“Fashion is architecture. It is a matter of proportions.” —Coco Chanel The Center for Sacramento History runs an Adopt an Artifact Program for artifacts in need of donations to help pay for the cost of conservation. The hats on these two pages are part of the program and are up for adoption. Contact the Center for more information on how you can help, (916) 808-7072.

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2//Light green, plaited straw bonnet, early 1880s. Cost to adopt: $2,150 3//Horsehair hat, mid 1910s. Cost to adopt: $1,250 4//Satin riding hat, 1900s. Cost to adopt: $1,200

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5 “Fashion is very important. It is life-enhancing and, like everything that gives pleasure, it is worth doing well.” —Vivienne Westwood

5//Black-velvet-covered hunting cap with original receipt for $30 from Sacramento Saddlery, dated March 8, 1961. 6//White plastic, hard, riding cap purchased in 1965 from Sacramento Saddlery. Donor Mrs. Winchester G. Felt. 7//Pheasant feather-covered sou’wester hat, ca. 1965. 8//Black and white woven raffia fedora-style hat from the early 1970s. 9//Small pheasant-covered 1950s sculptured toque hat with “Patrice” label. Beryl Smith donation.

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“Clothes are but a symbol of something hid deep beneath.” —Virgina Woolf, in her novel, Orlando: A Biography 10//Gray felt hat with grosgrain ribbon rosette, with “Original Movie Modes Featuring 20th Century Fox Hollywood Stars” label. Belonged to Annie Louise Dunlap. She and her husband George owned the Dunlap Dining Room, a restaurant that was located within their Oak Park area home from 1930-1968. Gray plastic purse, ca. 1965. Donated by Inez Taylor.

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“I dress for the image. Not for myself, not for the public, not for fashion, not for men.” —Marlene Dietrich 11//Peach satin cloche decorated with pastel-colored, satin flowers and grosgrain ribbon. McClaskey donation. Ca 1925. 12//1950s purple velvet hat with bow and veil. “Weinstock and Lubin” and “Made by Meadowbrook for CA,” label. Donated by Helen Clawson, artifacts belonged to her sister, Peggy Smith. 13//Cream and black velvet hat with black ostrich feather and floral decorations, ca. 1915.

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“A woman’s dress should be like a barbedwire fence: serving its purpose without obstructing the view.” —Sophia Loren 14//Fur and feather hat with “Jack Sohn Hats, Sacramento,” label. Matching fur purse muff. Possibly made from Geoffroy’s Cat fur. The Geoffroy’s Cat is a small, lightly built, spotted cat, which is highly variable in coloration. Named after the French naturalist Geoffroy St. Hilaire, they are found in the geographical range that covers practically the entire South American continent. Ca. 1935.

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Kang is president and founding partner of Domus Development, a residential development company. Established in 2003, the company aims to incorporate green, energy-efficient building methods and innovative technologies into affordable housing developments. As the founding board member of the California Infill Builders Federation (CIBF), Kang is also a leader in land-use policy. Her firm focuses on sustainability and community revival by developing affordable housing with easy access to public transit in order for families and individuals to thrive. “By doing so, we help to protect the local environment, enhance the quality of life, while educating residents on the benefits of sustainable practices. When people have confidence they begin to thrive… and then their communities thrive,” she says. continued on page 20

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magine a woman with the intelligence of a scholar, creativity of an artist, and heart of a lion. Meet Meea Kang, residential developer for Domus Development. Kang works out of her office off K Street in downtown Sacramento and is clearly passionate about her work; this is evident to anyone within moments of meeting her.

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MEEA KANG continued from page 19 With nearly two decades of professional experience in the field of residential development, Kang has a resume to be reckoned with. Her background in art, design, architecture, construction, and community development provides her with a rich source of insight and expertise. With a Masters of Architecture from UC Berkeley and a Bachelor of Fine Arts from Cornell University, she has the perfect fusion of education and professional experiences to succeed as a residential developer. As proof of her talent and dedication to her career, she has received numerous awards on behalf of her company and its projects. Locally, this includes awards for her La Valentina project here in Sacramento: the Best Infill Project 2012 from the Sacramento Business Journal, the Transit-Oriented Development of the Year 2012 from Sacramento Regional Transit, and Blueprint Excellence Award 2012 from Sacramento Area Council of Governments. Personally, Kang has been awarded the Northern California Real Estate Women of Influence 2011 by the San Francisco Business Times, and the Visionary 2020 in 2010 from Sierra Business Council.

“It’s wonderful having my daughter with me now, too, to see the passion I have with what I do, and work so hard for.”

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Kang says 2012 was her company’s busiest year. They constructed and completed projects up and down the state, creating 1,200 jobs and 400 affordable housing units. Kang shares a look of sheer astonishment as she reflects on their year of huge accomplishments. Kang talks about several local projects she’s worked on in recent years including Kings Beach in Lake Tahoe, California, La Valentina in Sacramento, and Temple Art Lofts in Vallejo, California. She says one of these projects has proved to be one of the most grueling, yet ultimately satisfying, to complete— Kings Beach. “Kings Beach is a great example of doing the impossible. Absolutely everybody said, ‘there’s no way you’re going to do this, no way you’re going to accomplish this,’” said Kang. “And we did.” Residents, individuals and families, who once slept in crawl spaces to keep warm, can now settle into quality living conditions of 77 units of affordable housing in Lake Tahoe. It was the first time in 65 years that affordable housing has been approved and built in the area.

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“30 percent of these units have children who are now going to neighborhood schools,” she says. “At the same time, it’s attracting young people who are benefiting from having their first apartment and embracing an urban lifestyle by using regional transit, riding bikes, and working nearby.”

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Kang’s recent project in Sacramento, in the Alkali Flats area, was known for drug dealing and prostitution for nearly 20 years. Kang has now transformed the area into 81 units of affordable housing called La Valentina. It sits like a work of art on 12th Street at D and E Streets.

Post development transformation, she says, you begin to see the local neighborhood beginning to thrive. “Crime goes down, ridership on regional transit rises, and you begin to see the community blossom.”

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Kang’s first project after starting her business was in one of Oakland’s roughest areas. Shortly thereafter, she became pregnant and had her baby. “Basically, I gave birth as we broke ground,” she laughs.

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When asked about her daughter, eight-year-old Alana, Kang’s face lights up with a smile. Kang tackles the work-life balance head on as a successful, driven businesswoman; she says she has a wonderful and flexible husband who also prioritizes family. “It’s important to balance work and life. Her [Alana] youth is so wonderful and reminds us of what’s really important in life. To have her lens to look through is important.”

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Kang spends her free time volunteering and doing fundraising projects for her daughter’s school, taking frequent ski trips to the mountains, and visiting close friends in the Bay Area. But typically, she says, they like to keep a low profile on weekends. Kang says what’s been amazing is that Alana has been alongside her for most of her major business milestones. At the Kings Beach project when Kang got her first unanimous approval from the governing board, her daughter ran from out of nowhere and jumped onto her lap, she says laughing and reminiscing.

Kang grew up with two hardworking, loving parents who became true inspirations in her life. Her mother was a social worker working with the elderly. “She always inspired me,” says Kang. “She went back to school for her Master’s degree when my younger brother was born and yet she still continued to lead agencies in innovative senior social services.”

Kang says she was encouraged by her mother who was a hardworking woman with great passion in what she was doing every day. “It’s wonderful having my daughter with me now, too, to see the passion I have with what I do, and work so hard for.”

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Alana was also with Kang at the Sacramento La Valentina grand opening project, cutting the ribbon with her mom and Mayor Kevin Johnson. “She’s able to be with me… and that is so important.”

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“I think they [the board] then realized that what we were doing was something far bigger than what I wanted to do because it was serving a greater purpose. My daughter helps me to always see that,” Kang says.

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Kang is a fighter; you can see it in her eyes when she talks about all the trials and tribulations she’s experienced over the years. Perseverance and thinking about the good she is doing for the communities, she says, is what keeps her going through the most difficult times.

Her father was a professor and educator who worked strongly within the community. “Their jobs were more than just jobs. They were there to support the community.” It is obvious how much her upbringing has helped shape Kang into the woman she is today with a dynamic and encouraging spirit.

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Three Speakers Confirmed for California Women Lead’s Women Empowerment Day at the Capitol Cassandra Pye Helps You Empower Your Personal Brand Cassandra Walker Pye will be at our Women’s Empowerment Day at the Capitol on Monday, August 29th, where she will share her experiences and educate attendees on how to form their personal “brand.” With her consulting experience in and out of the political realm, she is sure to provide some fantastic insight! Pye serves as senior director in APCO Worldwide’s Sacramento office and counsels corporate leaders, association executives, and political professionals on market entry, corporate positioning, food marketing, and crisis communication. She has advocated for business interests across diverse industry sectors on a broad range of policy issues, including food retailing, labor relations, environmental responsibility, and lawsuit abuse for over twenty years. Since 2007, she has successfully led the public relations and communications team for the world’s

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Mona Pasquil—Empowering Women to be Leaders on California Boards and Commisions

hen you first meet Mona Pasquil, appointments secretary for California Governor Edmund G. Brown Jr., you may not realize at first that she is one of the most powerful women in state government. As appointments secretary, Mona recruits, screens, and advises the governor on applicants for key paid staff positions, high level boards such at the California Public Utilities Commission, or High Speed Rail Commission, or to the hundreds of volunteer boards that keep our government moving. Mona is the key to making all of that happen. Sitting in her office just a few steps from the governor, we talked about what inspired her to get involved, what path led her to her current position, and what she still wants to accomplish. How did you get started? Did you always know you wanted a career in politics? I remember visiting the State Capitol with my fifth grade class and saying to myself, “I am going to work here one day.” From there I went on to major in English Lit [sic] , but the “bug” never left. My mother told me if I was still interested in working in the Capitol I should go and find a job, so I did. I started working for my state assemblymember who was John Garamendi (now a member of Congress) as his receptionist. The key to being the receptionist is everyone has to go through you, so I was able to start meeting key people who went on to help mentor me in the future. After working as a receptionist, I was given the opportunity to work in other aspects of the assemblymember’s office – press, legislation, local public policy issues. I was very fortunate to have a boss who believed in mentoring and help teach me the skills to be an effective leader. It was because of my work in his office and the mentoring I received that changed my career path. What other experiences helped lead you to the position you are in today? After working in the State Capitol, I had the opportunity to move to the state treasurer’s office and work for Kathleen Brown as her legislative director. It was in her office that I was surrounded by strong, powerful women who helped further develop my leadership skills. It was in her office

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that I had the opportunity to testify in front of the state legislature and develop a network that would help in in my future career path. At one point, you served as lieutenant governor of California (the first woman!) – how did that happen and what was it like? When my former boss, John Garamendi, was elected lieutenant governor in 2008, I went to work for him as his deputy. He was then elected to Congress and I had the opportunity to fill in as lieutenant governor until then Governor Arnold Schwarzenegger appointed a replacement. My most vivid memory of serving during that time was a young girl who came through the office as part of her school tour. She was with her mom and I invited them both into my private office. As she looked around her eyes got bigger and she said “Mom, I didn’t know girls could have offices like this.” I was proud and heartbroken at the same time. Proud that I was able to inspire her and show girls could have an office like the lieutenant governor and sad that she never thought a girl could. That moment inspired me to remember the importance of mentoring young people, especially girls, and helping them realize girls can have a career in politics.

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What are challenges you have faced along the way? I think the greatest challenge that I, and most women, face is the notion that we can “have it all.” Yes, I do believe women can have it all, but not all at the same time. I have had to make choices and sacrifices to get to where I am today–some easier than others. I also believe that, as women, we need to do more to support each other. I was fortunate to have powerful women (and men) who mentored me from the first day I walked into the State Capitol, but I don’t know if that is still happening, especially in the political arena. I think, we women, need to realize there is still a lot of work to do and we need women willing to take leadership roles, whether applying for an appointment at the state or local level or running for office, so that our voices are heard in the decision making process. We need more women willing to mentor and support young women and empower them to be leaders.

groups looking for applicants and I have the opportunity to meet incredible Californians who want to serve in an appointed position. I have a great team, mostly women, who help recruit folks who can potentially serve. It is a fast pace job and I never know what issues I will deal with when I walk into the Capitol each morning. More importantly, I have the opportunity to travel throughout the state and share with women and young girls that they too can have a career in public service.

What do you like most about serving the governor as his appointments secretary? I really enjoy working for Governor Brown and working as his appointments secretary. It has given me the opportunity to be the mentor I always wanted to be. Our office spends a lot of time reaching out to different

Finally, what is your advice to women—young, old and in between? Ask other women to mentor you and be willing to mentor other women. No matter how old or young, you will always be educating yourself. And remember–it always comes down to hard work!

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What do you still want to accomplish? Would you ever consider running for political office? I never say never–just like the opportunity to serve on the governor’s cabinet, you never know what is around the bend. What I do know is I would like to finish a children’s book I started about my time as acting lieutenant governor, as well as a collection of funny stories about my time working in the political arena.

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THREE SPEAKERS continued from page 22 fourth-largest retailer to help it introduce its store brands to the western states. Her extensive network of relationships with leaders in the business and labor communities, as well as federal, state, and local government, helps clients achieve their business and political objectives. Pye was deputy chief of staff to California Governor Arnold Schwarzenegger and served on his historic post-recall election transition team. Previously, she was vice president of corporate affairs and political director for the California Chamber of Commerce, as well as the director of public affairs for the California Retailers Association, director of governmental relations for the California Grocers Association and state relations manager for the Food Marketing Institute.

Karen Moore Explains How to Empower Your Voice through Public Speaking Karen Moore knows the benefit of taking risks. The media communications guru founded Moore Consulting Group—now Moore Communications Group—in 1992, on a “leap of faith” and entirely from the ground up. Today, her firm is one of the top-ranked media relations groups in the Southeast, recognized by O’Dwyers, Inc. 5000, and Florida Trend. Her firm prides itself on connecting with clients to create tailored plans of action in dealing with social media presence, campaign development, and crisis communications. Moore began her career in academia before deciding to open the firm, and has since spoken at various events including the White House Summit on Women Entrepreneurs. She has also facilitated strategic planning sessions for more than 50 state and national organizations, and has conducted media training sessions for Fortune 500 companies, elected officials, and the British Olympic Team. Perhaps the most striking element of Moore’s approach is how she presents herself and her business—as a group of relatable, interested individuals who have a “world outside of Moore Communications Group” to operate better

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within it. With Moore’s approach, public speaking ceases to be a daunting, exhausting process, and rather one that can be faced alongside consultants who are masters of their craft and are adept at handling any situation.

ing strong fundamentals in early grades. Since elected to the assembly, Joan has focused on working with local leaders to solve problems. She authored a bill promoting pipeline safety and another helping local transit districts deter copper thieves from vandalizing public infrastructure. Buchanan worked with Save Mt. Diablo on a bill creating a public private partnership to restore the beacon on top of Mt. Diablo. Buchanan has pursued a legislative agenda focused on fiscal accountability, technology, and innovation, and job creation. She has been a proponent of performance based budgeting, using data to drive decision-making, and the allocation of resources. She has authored several bills to improve the development and acquisition of information technology by the State of California, recognizing that technology is critical to providing timely and cost-effective services and information to the residents of California. Buchanan honed her financial and analytical skills at Delta Dental, becoming one of the fastest rising women in the company and director of commercial operations before the age of 30. She left the private sector to raise her five chil-

dren and in the process became one of San Ramon Valley’s most effective community activists. Her entrepreneurial approach resulted in a number of community firsts. As vice president of the San Ramon Valley School Age Child Care Alliance she helped bring school age childcare to San Ramon Valley elementary schools and as PTA president at Alamo Elementary, Joan created a coalition that raised money to build a much needed outdoor theater. Buchanan is a 30-year resident of Alamo, California and a native Californian. She holds a B.A. in Economics from the University of California, Santa Barbara. Buchanan will join us on the “Empowered Women Leaders” panel along with other women leaders from the politics, business, and nonprofit community.

In a culture obsessed with quick quotes and sound bites, sometimes the most intimidating part of diving into public service can be dealing with pressure that comes from the public spotlight. But with 350 awards for her firm under her belt, Moore is a trusted expert in the media relations industry, and her workshop at Women Empowerment Day will provide incredible insight to understanding communications for anyone interested in public service.

Assemblywoman Joan Buchanan—How Empowered Women Lead Assemblymember Joan Buchanan, elected to the state assembly in November 2008, represents the 16th Assembly. As chairwoman of the Assembly Education Committee, Buchanan brings a deep understanding of educational issues she gained during her 18 years of service on the San Ramon Valley School Board. Education has been a lifelong priority for Buchanan. She understands that for California’s economy to thrive in the future, we must invest in a strong public education system, including a focus on instill-

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You’re invited to join in a live Hawaiian adventure planned by Travel Expert Anne Rose with bonnie Publisher Shawn Crary and Office Manager Ernesto Gallardo April 2-9. They’ll be posting videos, photos, blogging live, and taking your questions and recommendations of places to visit while on the islands. Visit www.readbonnie.com/publisher to join in!

The Big Island is an affordable vacation option for West Coasters. PHOTO BY // SHAWN CRARY

Shawn Crary and Ernesto Gallardo will be island hoping next month and you’re invited to join the adventure online.

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’m dreaming of autumn. Sure, the calendar says spring, but to travel and travel well, you have to think ahead to get the most options, the best promotions, and the best rates. This means planning six to twelve months ahead. It does you little good to hold out for a last-minute discounted airfare if the presidential suite at $7,000 per night is the only room left available. Hence, my clients and I are planning for autumn.

Before I get you thinking about autumn travel, I want to address the one question I am constantly asked—‘how much does it cost to go to XYZ?’ I’m not being coy to reply ‘that depends,’ because it does depend on numerous variables such as: what month are you traveling? How far in advance are you booking? Is the date near a holiday or a premium season for that destination? How many airlines and how many flights go to that destination? What resort are you considering and its proximity to the major tourist attractions? What room category are you considering? What promotions are available? In all honesty, those variables

come into play, and a sharp travel consultant will know how to manipulate those variables to maximize your budget dollars. Basically, I can say unequivocally that no matter your budget, you can travel! Even when I’ve been unemployed, I have found a way to take my young daughter to Hawaii for some quality bonding time. No matter the destination, wholesalers are negotiating such great value-added goodies like air subsidies, free nights, daily breakfast, guaranteed room upgrades, welcome amenities, and wine tasting. Every day I receive scores of these just-launched promotions that I can use to get more value for my client’s dollar. The biggest stumbling block is your own perceptions and

assumptions. One honeymoon couple came to me with a modest budget for a Hawaii honeymoon; they were hoping to be able to afford the barebones minimum: flight and a three-star property. If they hadn’t talked to me, they might have settled for just that. They were shocked when I said I would check out a five-star luxury resort for them that I knew was having an aggressive promotion. They were overjoyed when I was able to get them a complete package of this luxury resort, flight, and fun activities for their budget. I just booked a luxury Ireland vacation for a family—six nights of the most opulent castle hotels, a private chauffeur for the entire week, breakfast daily, and several unique activities

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TRAVEL continued from page 27 for the budget land price of $1,699 each. Yet, when I mention Europe as a potential destination, some people automatically assume it’s out of their reach. Another couple came to me for a Hawaii honeymoon of two weeks, and I booked them at Hawaii’s top accommodations in the top room categories. They wanted to tack on a few days of a famous theme park in Florida and surprise, that week in Florida would have cost more than the two weeks of ultra luxury in Hawaii! Don’t make the mistake of equating ‘cheap’ with ‘value’. Sometimes something cheap is worth exactly that. My position is that travel should be enjoyed, not suffered, so your goal and your travel agent’s goal should be to deliver the best value. Now back to autumn—autumn is about harvest time, grapes, truffles, apples, pumpkins, and ripened produce. Autumn conjures up images of delicious meals and fine wines combined with perfect shirtsleeve weather, spa indulgences, and outdoor activities. This becomes a satiation of the senses and a revitalization of the spirit. We’re extremely fortunate here in the Sacramento area to have so many varied wine regions and luxurious spas within easy reach. Of course Napa and Sonoma are one of the best known California wine regions, and within three hours of leaving Sacramento, you can be cozy, in front of a crackling fireplace at a luxury resort, wine glass in hand, or stripped to a plush bathrobe, heading for your thermal spa treatment. Revel in a full day of al fresco picnics, winesipping, touring the countryside and the vineyards (by private limo if you plan on doing lots of tasting!), and sampling artisanal cheeses and breads. Whether your personality is geared to the luxury, five-star resorts with full amenities or a bonnie magazine

quaint bed and breakfast with a chatty innkeeper, Napa and Sonoma have it all. It doesn’t hurt that some of the resorts are built upon thermal springs so when you hop into the Jacuzzi, all the stresses in your bones and muscles simply melt away. You don’t even have to like wine to appreciate wine country! The ambience of the regions that are suitable for vineyards, are suitable for a myriad of outdoorsy activities, such as walking, bicycling, picnicking, windowshopping, strolling through little villages. Of course there are the ubiquitous spas. One thing I really love to do— and I strongly recommend it to my clients visiting Napa and Sonoma— is to take a hot air balloon ride over the countryside. It’s spectacular! At points, you’re barely skimming over the tops of the grapevines, so close you could reach out and touch them. And then you’re higher up and sailing next to birds while they are gliding on the thermal air currents. It’s surprisingly quiet and definitely surreal, and I feel close to the heavens. Magical doesn’t begin to describe the sensations. Afterwards, you’re usually treated to the traditional celebratory champagne and perhaps an al fresco breakfast, depending on the provider. It’s an unforgettable morning. Please don’t say you’re afraid of heights and couldn’t even consider hot air ballooning. I could give you all the safety stats but that kind of fear isn’t really about facts, just emotions. Don’t let your phobias get in the way of enjoying these one-of-akind experiences. And isn’t travel really about stepping outside your comfort zone to experience the new and different, so you get new perspectives and a recharging of the senses? Further up the coast, within a three to four hour easy, but scenic drive, from Sacramento is the rugged and craggy Mendocino coastline. The region has numerous wineries, luxury resorts, quaint inns, and bed and

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breakfasts, with fireplaces, spas, an array of restaurants (casual to gourmet), and of course, that dramatic coast with thundering waves and starry nights. Mendocino is a very artsy little village: artists, handcrafters, boutique stores, and delis. I love its main grocery store—unique foods, a huge olive bar, a wonderful home goods section, and an entire aisle of locally roasted coffee. Sorry, Hawaii, but I think Mendocino coffee is one of the world’s best. When I savor a cup of Mendocino coffee at home, I am transported to the Mendocino coastline and can almost smell the air and feel the salt spray. For autumn travelers, you’re also treated to a seasonal parade of the humpback whales as they swim south from Alaska en route to Hawaii or Los Cabos. Bring your binoculars if your

accommodations don’t already include a pair. We really are blessed to have so many resources available here in California. But let me suggest an incredible destination further afield. It requires a plane ride, but there are numerous flight options from both Sacramento and San Francisco. I’m talking about the Big Island, Hawaii, culinary and wine mecca of the Pacific. Seriously, the Big Island attracts numerous James Beardaward winning chefs and is the birthplace of Pacific Rim cuisine. Exquisite wines paired with locally sourced foods are the ultimate farm-to-table gourmet dining experience presented at some of the Kohala Coast’s luxury resorts. Spectacular food, spectacular wine, spectacular resorts, with the most spectacular spas in the world, amid

spectacular vistas, and you have a…well… spectacular vacation. Definitely allow a week to fully experience all the Big Island has to offer—besides eating and drinking and spa-ing, there is amazing hiking through rainforests. Not to mention an unparalleled diversity of landscape, and microclimates and the starriest sky on our planet, active volcanoes, dormant volcanoes, black sand beaches, pink sand beaches, green sand beaches, a wealth of marine life, tropical gardens, and waterfalls twice as tall as Niagara. It is a feast for all the senses! I would be remiss if I did not point out the joys of visiting Tuscany in the autumn (one-stop flights from SFO and sometimes about the same cost as visiting Hawaii!). Italy’s wines are the standard by which others are judged. The names alone— Brunello di Montalcino, Valpolicella, Montepulciano, Super Tuscan—make you want to grab your passport and head out the door. But Tuscany has so much more than wines to offer us. Birthplace of the Renaissance, Tuscany exudes art in every medium. Naturally, there are the world-renowned art galleries and churches (Uffizi and Accademia museums, Santa Maria della Croce which houses the

remains of the world’s most celebrated artists and inventors). But, beyond the art on the walls or in the piazze or the architecture itself, Italians are artistic in everything. Men and women are stylishly dressed—even the way they carelessly toss a scarf around their necks is elegant. If you buy an item in a store, Italian merchants don’t throw it in a plastic bag like here; they studiously wrap it in gorgeously designed Florentine paper as part of the gift. On numerous occasions, I have been reluctant to undo the wrappings because they’re simply too beautiful. Your meal isn’t slopped on a plate, but artfully arranged for maximum color harmony and presentation. Window displays of wine, cheese, or dolci (desserts) make photographs worthy of framing for your home’s walls. Imagine hot air ballooning over the Tuscan landscape of majestic cypress trees, vineyard-dotted hills, medieval walled villages, and whitewashed villas with red-tiled roofs. Maybe you prefer to drive a Ferrari or Lamborghini through the Tuscan countryside, winetasting along the way. Not into speed and Italian cars? Then try horseback riding through Tuscany or the ancient art of falconry. In autumn, you can also go truffle-hunting with the experts. Or take little day-trips to the neighboring medieval villages and experience village life, frozen in time. Tuscany is the quintessential wine-based vacation. b

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EVENTS bonnie magazine has partnered with Sacramento365.com to highlight upcoming events that we think our bonnie readers will love.

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Sacramento Jewish Film Festival Crest Theatre The 2013 Sacramento Jewish Film Festival brings feature films from around the globe to the Crest Theatre. Four carefully chosen films represent the diversity of the Jewish culture.

Cost: $8.50-$40. (916) 346-6467

http://www.sacramento365.com/event/detail/441744041/Sacramento_Jewish_Film_Festival

8 As the year-round source for Sacramento events, Sacramento365.com features comprehensive listings of arts, cultural, and recreational activities, allowing you to see and experience all Sacramento has to offer. Here’s what’s happening this month.

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Downtown Public Art Walking Tour: Art is All Around Us Sacramento Downtown Plaza A walking tour showcasing Sacramento’s beautiful public art where tour guides explain the who, how, and why behind the art. Learn about the artists and the history behind the creations.

Cost: $10. (916) 442-8575

http://www.sacramento365.com/event/detail/441700847/Downtown_Public_Art_Walking_Tour_Art_is_All_Around_Us

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89th Annual Camellia Show Memorial Auditorium Thousands of camellias are displayed, giving the public ideas about which camellias they would like to plant in their gardens.

Cost: Free. (916) 967-8420

http://www.sacramento365.com/event/ detail/441741965/89th_Annual_Camellia_Show

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10th Annual Empty Bowls Sacramento Convention Center

All Month Best Dressed

Robert T. Matsui Gallery at City Hall Best Dressed is an exhibition featuring memorable costumes from Sacramento’s leading performing arts groups.

Cost: Free. (916) 808-3992

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Empty Bowls is River City Food Bank’s signature event that raises funds, friends, and awareness for the ongoing fight against hunger in Sacramento County. There will be a Monday evening soup supper and Tuesday luncheon.

Cost: $30-$60. (916) 446-2627

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Resound: Music Worth Sharing St. John’s Lutheran Church Vox Musica presents a remarkable concert of music rarely presented in a performance setting: that of music from the Eastern Orthodox tradition.

Three Stages at Folsom Lake College The 32-year-old singer has become a leading exponent of fado—the poetic, deeply expressive idiom which personifies the Portuguese psyche.

Cost: $12-$39. 916) 608-6888

http://www.sacramento365.com/event/detail/441670085/Ana_Moura

Cost: $15. (916) 471-0507

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International Women’s Day: Stop Violence Against Women

An Acoustic Evening with Los Lonely Boys with Special Guests Three Stages Performing Arts Center Multiple Grammy Award-winning Los Lobos bring their rock, Tex Mex, folky sound to Folsom for an acoustic show will pull from all their finest work.

Cost: $30-$49. (916) 608-6888

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44: A Perspective on Barack Obama

Southside Park

Evolve the Gallery

This event is a march and rally to celebrate women and call for a end to violence toward women. There will be tables from local women’s health agencies, family counseling centers, and LGBT health and safe spaces to give out information about their services to all who are interested.

Cost: Free

Cost: Free. (916) 572-6675

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California Capital Vocal Jazz & Show Choir Festival Memorial Auditorium California’s best high school and middle school show choirs and vocal jazz ensembles will compete at the 2013 California Capital Vocal Jazz & Show Choir Festival.

Cost: TBD. (916) 808-7777

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Runaway Stage’s Avenue Q Black Box Theatre – West Sacramento Muppets gone wild! Tony-winning musical Avenue Q is the hilarious and heartfelt story of a bright-eyed college grad who comes to New York with big dreams and little money.

Cost: $21-$25. (916) 207-1226

http://www.sacramento365.com/event/detail/441726760/Avenue_Q

Donut Dash William Land Park Run, jog, or walk two miles through shady Land Park to Marie’s Donuts, eat four donuts (or six donut holes or nothing at all) and then two miles back.

Cost: $17-$25. (916) 802-9225

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Rock and Worship Roadshow Sleep Train Arena The Rock and Worship Roadshow features performances by MercyMe, Jeremy Camp, Tedashii, and many others and is also dedicated to a bigger purpose: helping kids with juvenile diabetes via Imagine A Cure.

Cost: $10. (916) 928-0000

http://www.sacramento365.com/event/detail/441743304/Rock_and_Worship_Roadshow

Saturday Night at the Lakeside Room: Jeff Minnieweather Quartet Red Lion Woodlake Hotel & Conference Center Step back in time when fine dining and jazz quartets were the order of the day. Diners will enjoy a wonderful prefixe menu by Chef Roger Kane, along with jazz and dancing to the music of the Jeff Minnieweather Quartet.

Cost of food & drinks. (916) 922-2020

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Art Mix: It’s Complicated Crocker Art Museum Visitors will geek out on all things abstract, algorithmic, and creatively complex with music by Musical Charis, a choreography competition with local dance companies, a curator-led tour, and more.

Cost: $10. (916) 808-7000

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Broadway Sacramento: Disney’s Beauty & the Beast Community Center Theater The most beautiful love story ever told is a Broadway musical for all generations. Disney’s eye-popping spectacle is filled with unforgettable characters, lavish sets and costumes, and dazzling production numbers. This show has become an international sensation that has played to over 35 million people worldwide in 13 countries.

Cost: $19-$86. (916) 557-1999

http://www.sacramento365.com/event/detail/441649345/Beauty_and_the_Beast

St. Baldrick’s Day de Vere’s Irish Pub Go bald and be a hero for kids with cancer! These brave, compassionate souls raise money to support the effort and on this day crowds gather to witness them getting their heads shaved to show it! Whether you shave, volunteer, donate, or simply spread the word and be there to cheer, community support is appreciated.

Cost: Free. (916) 784-6786

http://www.sacramento365.com/event/detail/441742306/St_Baldricks_Day_Go_Bald_for_ Childhood_Cancer

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St. Patrick’s Day Parade & Festival

CORE Dance Collective: Frayed Edges

Old Sacramento

Benvenuti Performing Arts Center

Hundreds of colorful marchers dressed in green, along with Irish and Highland dancers, pipe and drum bands, historic re-enactors and a variety of cultural organizations, will all join together to be a part of the 17th Annual St. Patrick’s Day Parade. The parade draws people from all over Northern California bringing together thousands in the 28-acre historic state park.

Cost: Free. (916) 442-8575

http://www.sacramento365.com/event/ detail/441738048/17th_Annual_St_Patricks_Day_ Parade

This show is a contemplative exploration of the numerous distractions that take our focus away from the important relationships in our life with those we care about. Also featured is After the Storm, an uplifting, dynamic piece celebrating the fearless human spirit, set to the music of the innovative artists Mumford & Sons.

Cost: $20-$25. (916) 491-1028

http://www.sacramento365.com/event/detail/441744516/Frayed_Edges

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Downtown Beer Bust Sacramento Downtown Plaza South Mall An evening of local food, beer, art and music, proceeds from this event will benefit the Downtown Sacramento Foundation (DSF) Downtown Mural Project in The Kay district.

Cost: $35-$45 (916) 442-8575

http://www.sacramento365.com/event/detail/441744964

Pablo Cruise Harlow’s Legendary Pablo Cruise is a mutliplatinum selling group, with several top 20 hits, including “Love will Find a Way” and “What’cha Gonna Do.”

Cost: $22.50. (916) 441-4693

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Girls Night Out Wackford Community & Aquatic Complex Enjoy a magical evening of girly fun. Put on your party clothes and enjoy a chocolate fountain buffet, shopping, swag, crafts, and vendor exhibits.

Cost: $10-$12. (916) 405-5600

http://www.sacramento365.com/event/detail/441719303/Girls_Night_Out

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Sacramento Food Film Festival Guild Theater Expand your knowledge of food issues with a series of documentaries and events at the Sacramento Food Film Festival.

Cost: $7-$55. (916) 595-7822

http://www.sacramento365.com/event/detail/441733550/Sacramento_Food_Film_Festival

Run or Dye McClellan Airbase Other events may focus on recording the fastest time or being the first in your age group to cross the finish line, but Run or Dye is all about being the most colorful, run-tastic, and fun event.

Cost: $40. (801) 256-6765

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Poetry/Art/Jazz Live at the Center Sacramento Fine Arts Center Musicians from the Dave Brubeck Institute will compose music and prominent poets from the Sacramento Poetry Center will compose verse inspired by SFAC’s popular Animal House Art Exhibit.

Cost: $20. (916) 971-3713

http://www.sacramento365.com/event/ detail/441742098/PoetryArtJazz_Live_at_the_ Arts_Center

Lady Business Sacramento Comedy Spot Sacramento’s only all-female improv troupe uses true stories from the audience and cast members to create a long form improv show with smart humor, unexpected characters, and guaranteed laughs.

Cost: $8. (916) 444-3137

http://www.sacramento365.com/event/detail/441740982/Lady_Business

Creative Juices Sip & Paint: Lavender Fields La Provence Restaurant This is a fun, social painting session in which you are guided through painting the featured artwork. Geared toward the art novice, so no experience needed to create an amazing painting—all while you sip on a cocktail.

Cost: $45. (916) 719-0934

http://www.sacramento365.com/event/detail/441743069/Creative_Juices_Sip_and_Paint_ La_Provence_Lavendar_Fields

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Quilt, Craft, and Sewing Festival Cal Expo You can find pretty much anything creative at this special event including sewing, quilting, needle-art, knitting, rubber stamping, embossing, scrap booking, and fabric arts.

Cost: $10.

http://www.sacramento365.com/event/detail/441743516/Quilt_Craft_and_Sewing_Festival

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Sacramento Ballet: A Midsummer Night’s Dream Community Center Theater Imps, fairies, sprites, and all of the woodland folk will add to the hilarious pandemonium in the classic comedy of love gone haywire.

Cost: $17-$70. (916) 552-5800 x2

http://www.sacramento365.com/event/ detail/441622549/A_Midsummer_Nights_Dream_

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Leo Kottke Crest Theatre Leo Kottke is known for a fingerpicking style that draws on influences from blues, jazz, and folk music, and for syncopated, polyphonic melodies.

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Wine Trivia Night

Cost: $25-$45. (916) 974-1357

Revolution Wines

Come brush up on your wine knowledge, enjoy vineyard to table wines, farm to table eats, and great company along with some healthy competition.

http://www.sacramento365.com/event/detail/441739271/Leo_Kottke

Focus on Film: The 400 Blows and Antoine Colette Mondavi Center – Vanderhoef Studio Theatre This Focus on Film series event focuses on the work of French New Wave director François Truffaut, screening his 1959 film The 400 Blows and his 1962 film Antoine and Collette.

Cost: $10. (530) 754-2787

Cost: Free. (916) 444-7711

http://www.sacramento365.com/event/detail/441733664/Wine_Trivia_Night

Fight for Air Climb Wells Fargo Center By joining the Fight for Air Climb, you are making the commitment to fight lung disease so everyone can breathe easier- including you!

http://www.sacramento365.com/event/detail/441648145/Focus_on_Film_The_400_Blows_ and_Antoine_Colette

Cost: $25. (916) 585-7664

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Sacramento Theatre Company

Fremont Park

The play takes place in South Africa during the apartheid era and explores how both love and hate can influence our lives dependent on what we are surrounded by.

Cost: $15-$40. (916) 716-2319

Master Harold… and The Boys

Cost: $15-$46. (916) 443-6722

http://www.sacramento365.com/event/detail/441669912/Master_Haroldand_the_Boys

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Sacramento Beer & Chili Festival Enjoy a chili cook off competition (industry and individual), unlimited beer tastings provide by local breweries, and live music. http://www.sacramento365.com/event/ detail/441726845/2nd_Annual_Sacramento_Beer_ Chili_Festival

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Spring Eggstravaganza Fairytale Town This popular, fun-filled family weekend features egg hunts, prizes, springthemed hands-on activities, and pictures with Peter Cottontail.

Festa di Vino Scottish Rite Center There will be music, dancing, auctions, and the area’s best wineries and restaurants ready to impress.

Cost: $45.

http://www.sacramento365.com/event/detail/441741529/Festa_di_Vino

Cost: $5. (916) 808-7462

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Playful Bubble Necklace

The infamous bubble necklace. I’m sure you’ve seen this item floating around on Pinterest and other blog sites. Inspired by the colors of the season, it’s the perfect playful addition to any basic outfit.

$13 Charming Charlie 330 Palladio Pkwy Suite 2001 // Folsom (916) 817-8390

Everyday Comfy Gloves

Although a bit warmer, it’s not yet warm enough for just bare hands… try these comfortably soft and useful gloves for the spring season! With holes for your fingers, it keeps your hands free at all times. Taking photos? No problem. Emailing from your iPhone? These gloves gotcha covered.

$44 Krazy Mary’s Fashion Boutique 3230 Folsom Blvd. Sacramento // (916) 442-6279

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Spring is near, ladies! In spirit of the good ol’ groundhog who said we’d see spring early this year, we’ve gathered some beginning of spring must-haves to help keep you dry, stylish, and oh-so-fabulous all season long.

Ergonomic Garden Tools

The Radius Trowel and Hand Fork garden tools feature the newly patented ergonomic grip. The comfortable curve provides more leverage with less wrist stress. The aluminum blade is surprisingly light, yet remarkably strong for all your gardening needs.

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Floppy Straw Hat

The sun is shining… cover that beautiful face of yours with this versatile, lightweight paper straw hat. Perfect for the city streets, backyard gardening or out on the river.

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Fun, Sequined Bag

This spring season, we’re seeing a lot of sherbet colors of pale blues, yellows, purples, and pinks. For a little bit of playfulness while keeping it handy, opt for a structured bag for all your day-to-day needs.

$50 Charming Charlie 330 Palladio Pkwy Suite 2001 // Folsom (916) 817-8390

Spring-stylin’ Rain Boots

In need of waterproof,outdoor boots for gardening, or maybe just for the rainy season? These stylish boots offer durable rubber and insulation for optimal comfort. Constructed with easy pull-on handles and fun prints, you can look as good as your feet feel.

$85 Green Acres 8501 Jackson Rd (at the corner of Florin Perkins) // Sacramento (916) 381-1625

Air Swimmers

Kids full of energy and stuck indoors during the rainy season? No fear, Nemo is here. Air Swimmers work well in even the smallest of rooms and have complete up, down, and 360 degree turning control. Simply fill the Air Swimmer with helium inexpensively at any party or grocery store that carries balloons… it will stay inflated for weeks and you can fill it again and again. Remote control has never come to life so magically!

$29.99 Fry’s Electronics 180 N Sunrise Ave //Sacramento (916) 517-1500

Think Emerald Green for Spring!

Emerald green is the color of 2013 according to the color experts, Pantone, Inc. Twice a year the company holds a secret meeting of representatives from various nations’ color standards groups. After two days of debate and presentations, the group chooses a color for the following year. The chosen color is then announced to the world through Pantone View, which fashion designers, florists, and many other companies purchase to guide future designs and products. Expect to see emerald green heavily this spring and throughout the year.

Blooming Peach Blush

Let’s brighten up those cheeks of yours! This ripe, juicy peachy-keen coral shade will transform your complexion into your inner farm girl—cheerful, glowing, and shining with health. And the best part… Savage Jenny beauty products are all-natural and organic.

$24.99 Whole Foods 4315 Arden Way // Sacramento (916) 488-2800

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Lesley Storz 39 // Elementary School Teacher “We love the parks, the trails, the outdoor setting, the athletics, and sports for my kids. We love the sense of community and how close knit we all are. And of course, I love the schools here—for my kids and for me as a teacher.”

Gracie and Natalie Storz 9 and 8 // Daughters and Soccer Players “We love the parks and to play soccer. Oh, and we love living next to the lake, it’s so much fun!”

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27 // Bartender on Sutter Street

“I love this area. I don’t live here, but when I come visit my family who live in Folsom, I just love it. The shopping is great and the atmosphere is fun.”

“I used to live in Old Folsom, and could walk to work here on Sutter Street, and all the bars and shops anytime. Sutter Street is really popular for a lot of people from all over Sacramento. We’re a tight knit group here in Folsom and I love that.”

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We want to know what the ladies are lovin’ every month in our I Love… section. This month we’re stopping by Folsom to find out what women, and girls, LOVE about Folsom living.

Lily Wilson 8 ½ // Daughter “I love shopping with my mom! And going to the Folsom Zoo—I’m going to be a veterinarian when I grow up and work with tigers!”

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31 // Sushi Chef + Mom “Folsom has a lot of great food and tons of shopping and it’s easy and close to where we live in Placerville.”

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“I love the close knit and family friendly community we have here. Folsom has great, safe neighborhoods, and tons of opportunities for kids’ activities.”

“Folsom is a lot bigger than where I’m from, so it’s nice to visit with all the shopping and different things to do here.”

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Abigail Kelly “I like the parks and schools. I love the people and have lots of friends here.”

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Dear MKIA, I am new to the dating game, fresh out of a fouryear relationship with a man who I thought I was going to marry. I now have to face reality—I’ve let myself go. I’m about 40 pounds overweight and it’s affecting my dating life. Help! >>I’ve been there. I’m actually still there. What works for me, may not work for you, so I will tell you this, get a skinny group of friends. Hang out with them. Eat what they eat, work out with them, and drink your water, lots of it. Skinny girls do things differently than us. When I want to stay home and watch Breaking Bad (oh Mah Gawd, can July get here fast enough?), my skinnier friends are hiking. When I want to sleep in, my fitness friends are running—and walking—5ks in their neighborhoods. When I want ranch dressing, they are ordering balsamic. When I circle the parking lot for closer parking space, they are content with parking far away and trotting on in. These little things show big results. I’m bitterly married, so I’m not going to do these things, but you go girl, and then holler back.

on pills the rest of my life. Any advice? >>First, thanks mama. I try to make people laugh, but sometimes, it’s time to be all serious and shit. Like now. Guess what? I battle depression too. It’s true. I’m not always this funny, witty, charming, extremely good-looking columnist. At times, I’ve been known to cry under my covers while the family gathers in my house for dinner. It’s true. That happened, and that was my clue to ask for help. So I did. And I felt the exact same way you did. I was scared and anxious, which was almost means for another prescription. Eventually, I gave it a try, and I believe it saved me, my marriage, and perhaps my life. The trick is getting a pill that works with your body. First, I tried some weird pill and it just made me sleep. Then, they put me on another one, and after a few weeks, it actually started to work. I was feeling better. From there, we worked on the dosage. And then, for the next five years, I was on antidepressants, and I was happy. They did not mask my feelings or make me feel like a zombie. They simply lifted that heavy veil and allowed me to have the energy to talk about my issues with a certified therapist, my family, and friends. After a few years, I figured out that I needed to do what I love in order to have a life I love. Once I did that, I got off my pills and today, I’m ok. I still get blue sometimes, but I’m no longer debilitated. Talk to your doctor, because I am no doc or therapist. But get help lady, because there is an AWESOME life out there waiting for you to find it.

woman, and she watches the kids a lot and helps out a lot, but I don’t want her in my daily life. My husband disagrees and said we should be thankful for her help. He thinks that since she helps us, we shouldn’t restrict the time that she spends with us. He has a great relationship with her and loves to spend time with her. I just want my space. >>Ahhh, you poor thing. So you have a nice MIL and she watches your kids and helps out a lot, and she’s great, but not every day. Are you crazy? You have the best of both worlds—a nice MIL and happy husband. Don’t give her too many rules, unless she’s crazy and snooping and beating the kids (hard). I suggest you approach this differently. Tell your hubby that you love the time she spends with the family, but maybe one day per weekend can be family days only. I would tell you to ask for a date night, but I bet your perfect MIL would jump for another occasion to watch her sweet grandkids. You need to chill out mama. Chances are, you’re going to outlive her, and unless you want your hubby to resent you the rest of his life, you need to lay off a bit.

illness, what would you want Bonnie readers to take from your column? >>First of all, I am very sorry for your loss. This world needs more people like her—to speak their minds, give opinions, and stand up for their beliefs. Do you know why? Because honesty is appreciated in authentic relationships, like the one she had with you. I am certain that if you asked your friend—“Does my butt look fat in these jeans?”—she would tell you, “Yeah, now go get that other outfit on and let’s rock & roll!” Your question hits sort of close to home. I don’t have a terminal illness, but I know people who do. If I were stricken with a terminal illness, I would first tell it to take a hike. Next, I guess I would like my readers to know that it’s ok to be honest, without being hurtful. And being honest with those who are in your life is sacred. You don’t have to candy coat anything if you’re speaking from your heart, and your true friends will appreciate that. But there is a time and place to speak your mind. I would never give my opinion when it’s not asked. I know when to shut up. The point is, if you ask me, I’m telling you the honest truth. If you can’t handle that, then don’t ask. Now excuse me while I go have a bottle of wine.

Dear MKIA, I’m a mother of three teenagers. Recently, my oldest, 16, was fired from his first job for shoplifting. Dear MKIA, I am angry, embarrassed, I recently had a dear friend pass away after a and humiliated. He says he knows he was wrong and long battle with cancer. Dear MKIA, it won’t happen again. He She was an incredibly Thank you for writing this promises us that he has strong woman who spoke column, it really makes me learned from it. But I can’t her mind and gave her laugh. I am in my twenties get over the feeling of opinion without remorse. and battling severe depresdisappointment. It taught me a valuable life sion. My doctor has offered What do I do? lesson to not candy coat antidepressants but I feel >>RUN! Just kidding. I think that your opinion. I wonder, like that is not going to he’s a normal 16-year-old. First of all, if God forbid you were Dear MKIA, solve the problem, only continued on page 44 stricken with a terminal mask it. I don’t want to be My mother-in-law is a nice {sacramento’s lifestyle magazine for women}

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Assemblymember Jimmy Gomez; Kara Cross, State Farm; Kelly Shaw, PIFC; Hanna Basler, State Farm; Bob Smith, State Farm. When // January 30, 2013 Where // Park Ultra Lounge 1116 15th Street Sacramento What // 2013 Legislative Women’s Caucus Who // California Women Lead

On January 30, 2013, California Women Lead hosted its annual Legislative Welcome at Sacramento’s Park Ultra Lounge. Over 250 guests enjoyed a wonderful Sacramento evening as California Women Lead honored the 2013 Legislative Women’s Caucus. Guests networked with state legislators, including many who were recently elected, as well as leaders from Sacramento business, political, and nonprofit community. This is California Women Lead’s premier event to raise funds for our leadership and appointments trainings around the state and would not be a success without the support of our members and sponsors. Mark your calendars for January 2014 so you can attend next year’s event! For more information on upcoming California Women Lead events visit www.cawomenlead.org.

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Heidi Barsuglia, Sempra Utilities; Senator Marty Block; Tamara Rasberry, Sempra Utilities.

Jessica Mapes-Yoas, California Women Lead; Samantha Harrod, California Women Lead.

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Senator Ellen Corbett & Senator Liz Figueroa (ret.).

Commissioner Lauren Hammond, California Gambling Commission; Trustee Teri Burns, Natomas USD; John Garcia, Kaiser Permanente; Kimberly L. Quinones, California Women Lead.

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Dana Garel, Lilly; Kirk Kleinschmidt, Kaiser Permanente; Kit Wall, Kit Wall Productions.

Jaime Huff, Southern California Edison; Tamara Rasberry, Sempra Utilities.

Erin Sullivan, Capitol Network; Jelisaveta Gavric, Capitol Network; Erin Clark, Capitol Strategies Group.

Senator Marty Block; Senator Mark Leno; Assemblywoman Bonnie Lowenthal; Candidate Fiona Ma, State Board of Equalization.

Executive Director/CEO Rachel Michelin, California Women Lead; Assemblymember Reggie Jones-Sawyer; Barbara A. Ortega, POW Group.

Jim Willett, The Doctors Company; Commissioner Lauren Hammond, California Gambling Commission

California Women Lead State Board of Directors Senator Liz Figueroa (ret.); Trustee Teri Burns, Natomas USD; Regent Charlene Zettel, University of California.

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Brush Up on your Makeup Brush Knowledge!

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UNIVERSITY Have you ever been overwhelmed with the sheer number of options when it comes to makeup brushes? Christi Reynolds explains the necessary tools for a flawless makeup application.

BY // CHRISTI REYNOLDS

t’s true ladies,when it comes to applying makeup, it really is all about the brushes. I always ask my clients,”you wouldn’t paint your house with your fingers, would you?” Although they are most likely the heftiest investment you will make toward your makeup collection, great brushes are for sure the most important. But, with the right choices and proper care, they will last you for years!

The best textures to look for: Any of the brushes you use for blending, such as shadows, blushes, powders, etc., should be made of natural hair for best results, and years of good use. (Don’t worry—the hair for the brushes I recommend are humanely acquired!) Go for pony or goat blends for the best eye shadow application. While sable brushes sound luxurious, I find that they are actually too soft to deposit very much pigment. For cream or aqueous based products like primers, concealers and foundations, synthetic blends are best! Choose soft flat shapes that will blend concealer and other creams smoothly.

The top multi-tasking ‘shapes’ you will need for a great collection: EyesA basic blending brush like the MAC #224 brush is a staple in my kit. While designed for the eyes, I use it not only for buffing shimmer on the lid and shadow through the crease, but also for highlighting cheekbones, and the cupid’s bow of the upper lip. Another MAC classic is the #219, or pencil brush for getting that perfect smoky eye or smudgy liner. This brush is perfect for detailing all eye makeup, and other facial features.

FaceNamed after the traditional makeup brush technique of the Japanese geishas, the soft and compact ‘kabuki’ style brush like this one by Bdellium is amazing for buffing in powders and blushes. It is also a great choice for body bronzing and adding shimmer to decolletage and collarbones! And you don’t have to break the bank when choosing brushes for concealer and foundation, or even eyeliner and lip stick. I stock up on these Royal and Langnickel styles from my local craft store for just a few dollars apiece. You’ll be amazed at the styles and designs of art and paint brushes that are fantastic for your makeup, at a fraction of the department store’s price.

Brush careSkip the pretty (and expensive) brush cleansers they sell by the bottle at the makeup counter. These are really designed for makeup artists for quick cleaning between clients, not a thorough cleanse. Instead, dust your brush off on a tissue or towel between colors, and opt for hair shampoo or even liquid dish soap to gently, yet deeply clean your brushes. Suds them up at least once a month, or as needed for the brushes you use most often. Lay them flat to dry on a towel overnight, and they will be ready to use by morning. Display those beautiful babies in a pretty container wherever you like to put your makeup on!

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ore than 40 million people are consistently looking for love online. With this many hopeless romantics turning to the Internet to pursue relationships, there are bound to be some manipulative scam artists out there just waiting for the right opportunity.

“Catfish” – other than the obvious definition – is a person who pretends to be someone they’re not using Facebook, social media, or other online tools to create false identities, particularly to purposely pursue deceptive online romantic relationships, as defined by Urban Dictionary. You may have heard this term quite a bit lately. Most recently involving a Notre Dame football player, Manti Te’o, who is under speculation of playing a role – victim or otherwise—in a romance turned false identity turned deceitful tragedy. Catfish is also the name of a 2010 documentary involving a young man pursuing a romantic relationship with a woman online, transforming into a story of love and online scheming. Fast forward a few years and continued on page 44 bonnie magazine

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We’ve gathered some tips on how to avoid being caught in the deceptive net of a catfish to help you and friends beware of these types of situations. >>Image Use Google “search by image” feature to check for multiple Facebook profiles with the same image. Catfish use other people’s images as their own when creating their fake identity.

>>Friends If a person’s profile has fewer than 100 friends or if there are photos of the person with other people who are not tagged, be cautious. These may be pictures taken off an innocent person’s profile.

>>Traumatic Accident or Illness Car accidents, deaths in the family, and chronic illness is extremely common in catfish scams because the best way to avoid meeting up is by having some type of traumatic experience.

>>No Webcam, Skype or Facetime If a person avoids any type of face-to-face interaction, in person or over the internet/phone, then this is an early potential warning sign that they are trying to avoid you seeing who they really are.

>>Trust Your Gut Sometimes, it’s as simple as trusting your gut and not necessarily following your heart. If you think something fishy is going on, it might just be a little you inside waving a big red flag.

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he got a job, which at his age is practically unheard of. He has ambition and he is willing to work, but remember, he is still a child. Children make mistakes. They are supposed to. They are immature and they mess up and they learn from it, so that they don’t repeat it in their future lives when this could negatively affect him in ways he would never understand at this point in time. Try to talk to him. Tell him that you believe in him and you trust him to do the right thing in the future. Tell him that you know he’s learned from this, and then, encourage him to get another job. Once he’s working again, check in with him from time to time, he just might end up surprising you (not with something he stole, but by maturing a bit).

Dear MKIA, It seems like every week, we hear about another school shooting. I know statistically speaking, the odds of it happening to our daughter’s school are slim to none, but I can’t help thinking that I should consider homeschooling my kids. What are your thoughts on this? >>I am going to get so much hate mail for this. But, you asked, and so I’ll tell you what I think. In my personal opinion, unless you’re an educated, accredited, experienced teacher, professor, or educator, you have no business homeschooling your child. (Send your hate mail to missknowitallcolumn@gmail.com). Protecting our children is natural. I went through a phase when my daughter was younger. She was put in the best private schools, and now she attends public school. I have had good and bad experiences at both. But having seen the good and bad of the private and public sector, I believe that there is a better way to educate our youth where you mix it up a bit— a little private schooling, a little public schooling, and a lot of parental involvement. A friend of mine chose to “homeschool” her children through her local school district. This didn’t mean that she sat her kids down and pulled an assignment from thin air every day. On the website, it states “The child’s education is based on a cooperative model known as the Academic Pyramid. The student, the parent-teacher, and a credentialed educational consultant work together to meet the individualized needs of the student.” The children attended class once a week, and study sessions whenever they needed them, in a group of other “homeschooled” children. They were supported by the daily work of the parent-teacher, bi-monthly meetings with a professional teacher, and socially, they see other kids just like them on a regular basis. They also participated in sports, music, and other activities that my friend paid for. It sounds like a perfect system to me. And if your child or children would benefit from that—maybe you should look into it. Both of her children are in college now and they are extremely smart and outgoing individuals. But this is not the life for everyone. For instance, my daughter and I would never survive daily academic lessons at home. First of all, I can’t even do the algebra that she has now. How can I teach her something I can’t even do? Next, we are both airheads. You get us home alone, and no work gets done—we end up at the mall. People like her and I need an environment with lots of people, lots of activity, and a structured schedule. Then, we need hamster wheels to run in at the end of the day. So, public schooling is perfect for her right now. Look, I know that gun control is a hot issue these days. But, we shouldn’t shield our children from a “might happen” scenario. If we all did that, no one would drive them in cars, allow them to walk home, send them to the store, or eat fast food. Research your options and choose what feels right for your child. bonnie magazine

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today we have a docudrama on MTV called Catfish: the TV show, following people with similar deceptive fates. Clearly this is something reoccurring in our society that should continue to be addressed with the hope of preventing future incidents. You may be thinking, what kind of person would ever fall for someone they’ve never met in person? Well, love is a powerful thing—blinding perhaps. And it’s probably something you think would never happen to you. Take 27-year-old Sacramento native, Adam*, for example. Adam met a woman online in 2007, let’s call her Sarah* (*we are not using real names to preserve identities, as requested). Adam and Sarah talked every day on the Internet and on the phone. He lived in Sacramento and she lived in Los Angeles. They planned to meet up numerous times throughout their six months of “dating,” but something would always come up preventing them to finally meet face-to-face. One day, Sarah’s “brother” called Adam to tell him that she had been in a terrible accident and had passed away. And that was that… he never heard from anyone again. Adam says it took him a while to step back and see the situation clearly. Hindsight is 20/20, after all. “I ran through every conversation we had over and over in my head. My frustration grew and I finally began to see what had happened,” he said. “To this day, only a few of my friends know what really happened. It’s just too embarrassing to talk about.” Although online dating is a great way to meet people, it’s important to keep an eye out for red flags that could potentially lead to a catfish at the end of the line…online. b

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Meea and Alana Kang in the La Valentina courtyard.

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When times get rough, keep pushing

“It’s a hard business [development]. It’s not for everyone. But I’m very committed to what I do,” says Kang. Sometimes, she says, these projects are overwhelming with such mammoth hurdles and constant changing of direction. “Sure, sometimes we feel as if we were ready to throw in the towel. It’s like they’re pulling the rug out from underneath us to see if we would survive. And we have… every time.” Kang says she has absolutely no regrets. She pushes the boundaries to get things to happen and, at the end of the day, she knows that she can get things done that few can. “I’m [a] glutton for punishment. If someone says I can’t do it, I need to prove them wrong.” When you accomplish your goal after all [the] trials and tribulations there’s really something to be learned from your experience,” she says. Kang believes that women have incredible inner strength. “Especially when tied with a moral code that you believe that what you do is not only right, but good for you and good for others,” she says. “Maybe right now only I see that, but I know I can get others to see it too and believe something positive can happen.” She says if you make mistakes, keep going and just keep trying. “There are always going to be nay-sayers and only one person who says you can do this. And usually, that’s just you,” she laughs. “It’s about just going for it.”

It’s all about the communities

Kang’s most recent project in Vallejo involves the restoration and development of the old Masonic Temple building in the downtown area. “Women were not even allowed into the building back in the day. When I was walking the floors, I thought about that,” she says. “How interesting that you fast forward hundreds of years and it takes a woman to save the building and help restore the community.” Kang has redeveloped the building to include 29 apartments and lofts that will be designated to artists to house a creative atmosphere with talented artists. The project is set to finish in the spring. “I grew up practicing art and playing music that inspired me. I think it’ll inspire other kids who can find an outlet and help inspire them to get the confidence they need to succeed in life.” She says her work is about injecting life into these communities with creative opportunities for young people, and elderly, who take pride in ownership and to feel secured and respected. “It doesn’t stop at the end of our project. The residents take their new found confidence and then spread it out into the community for years to come,” she says. “It feels so great to finally get to the end after all the struggles and take a step back b and watch these new communities blossom.”

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Staying Focused Using Strategy and Helpful Mobile Apps BY // GAYLE ROMASANTA After blacking out for a few seconds last month during circuit class, my doctor ordered me not to exercise until after seeing a cardiologist and neurologist. I’ve seen both and both have ordered many tests for the next two months. All my doctors think I’m fine, but they want to make sure nothing is amiss, before I get back to exercising. So I focused on eating clean for weeks 13 to 18. I put all my energy into reading about nutrition and finding out how to make food my ally in preventative health. I also wrote down everything I ate using www.mynetdiary.com. This website and mobile app is amazing. It’s free for a basic version, and has helped keep me on track to meet my goal—losing 40 pounds by July. After typing in how many pounds I want to lose in how many months, it reports if I’m on schedule or not, everyday and weekly. Based on the foods I enter for every meal, it analyzes daily if I’ve eaten my recommended amount of fruits and vegetables, water, fiber, saturated fat, and cholesterol intake. It gives me kudos for what I’m doing right and recommendations on what I’m

doing wrong. For instance, I forgot to eat breakfast on more than one occasion and it gave me the analysis that I needed to eat a high fiber breakfast, so I don’t overindulge later in the day. The food choices also seem to be endless. Whenever I type in the food I’ve eaten, it’s been in the database, with the calorie count. It can’t be beat, especially if it’s free. I upgraded for $3.99, so I could have a more in-depth analysis of what I’m eating and more tips on how to make my eating habits better. This is relatively cheap with what you get. To me, it’s more useful than Weight Watchers online and mobile tools I’ve used in years past. It’s definitely a lot cheaper. Although I’m sure Weight Watchers is great for those who make it work for them. For me, since I can’t be counted on to make it to meetings, this app fits me much better. My analysis so far has been positive, but without the exercise, I’m behind in losing weight. I lost four pounds for this six-week period. Which is normal and healthy. However, I was hoping to lose more if I was able to exercise. However, I’m upbeat about it—almost one pound a week is a healthy way to lose weight. It’s also sometimes a

The key to adding mock meat to your diet is finding the ones that work for your recipe and your taste buds.

good strategy to just focus on eating clean first, before bringing in exercise. I’m giving myself a pat on the back. I’ve gone down a size in clothing. Yay! In my last article I interviewed Dr. Sheri Pruitt from Kaiser Permanente, a behavioral scientist specializing in weight loss. She told me statistics show successful weight loss includes food journaling. This period, I visited Bonnie Antonini, a local blogger, from Carmichael. A vegetarian for over fifteen years, she also has a Youtube channel called, Vegetarian Cook-

ing for Carnivores. She raised her family on a vegetarian diet. She’s not hardcore or overly preachy about how she’s a vegetarian. She actually told me she eats meat if she’s a visitor at someone’s home. “I don’t try to convert anyone. It’s a personal choice. The point of my show is to help people stay on track,” Antonini said. Which is why she created her channel and web site—there are vegetarians out there who want to eat meat. What should they eat to satiate their cravings, but still eat without the real stuff?

Baseline Statistics Weight: 178.6 lbs. // Waist: 41 ¾” Thigh: 25 ½” // Chest: 43 ½”

Workout: No exercise per doctor’s orders

After 18 Weeks

6 Weeks

Weight: 162 lbs Waist: 36. 5” Thigh:24” Chest: 39.25”

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Bonnie Antonini making me and my son, Jude, a family friendly lunch of vegetarian corn dogs and yogurt, banana, berry smoothies.

Antonini was gracious when we met. She let us into her beautiful home and showed me (with my toddler in tow) how to make a vegetarian meal that my family would love. She made smoothies out of homemade yogurt, berries, and bananas, which was a hit with my son. She also showed me how to make no meat corn dogs. I was a little bit skeptical about the corn dogs. I’m not a fan of fake hot dogs. But after she made them, I’m a believer. It turns out, I was buying the wrong hot dog brand. “You need to find the meats that work for you and for the dish you’re making,” she told me. She told me that she uses different kinds of fake meat for different dishes. For instance, she loves Morningstar fake beef crumbles for spaghetti, and the Worthington Loma Linda Linketts in a can for her corn dogs. She also gave me a helpful tip on where to find my fake meats at a reasonable price. She usually goes to the Seventh Day Adventist Book Center, located at 5207 Madison Avenue, where they always have bulk specials. After we ate her yummy food (and after my son surprisingly ate a whole corn dog—he’s so picky), we went to the center. Low and behold, there was more than one aisle devoted to vegetarian “meat,” much cheaper than what I could find at a Whole Foods Market or another grocery store. There were brands I had never seen, including the Linketts in a can that Antonini used in her corn dog recipe. Some will argue that fake, processed, vegetarian meat is like methadone for drug users. It’s not as healthy as just eating vegetables without the processed food. Well, I find it helpful in my diet. I’m still trying to figure out how to navigate

through my new life as a vegetarian. I’m using vegetarian meats as part of my strategy to keep me mindful of my goal and to keep me from binging on KFC on a bad day. For more recipes, you can find Antonini at http:// vegetariancookingforcarnivores. wordpress.com. This month definitely could have been better. But I give myself kudos for losing four pounds, tracking everything I ate, everyday, and be-

ing honest about it. I also kept up my vegetarian pledge. Going into my fifth month, being healthy is something I never thought I could do. What’s my strategy for next month? I’m doing a “21-day adventure cleanse” based off of cancer survivor’s Kris Carr’s book, Crazy Sexy Diet. The diet is named after her documentary Crazy Sexy Cancer (you can watch it on Netflix or iTunes), where she captures her life

after her inoperable stage IV cancer diagnosis. Featured on Oprah and her documentary shown on TLC (The Learning Channel), she technically still has cancer, but it is stable. and no longer progressing. She is vegan and believes in juicing. I’m not sure if I have it in me to become vegan, but, I will try the 21-day cleanse. Stay tuned for next month’s issue! b

INSTANT GRATIFICATION I’m done with my series of three chemical peels and my last hydrating Cranberry Sugar Cane Enzyme Treatment with Kellie Lynn Esthetics at Byuti Salon. I was a facial “virgin” before I worked with Kellie. Do I think it works and ultimately contributes to my radiant transformation for the New Year? Definitely yes—just look at my before and after photos. However, a caveat, I found a knowledgeable esthetician who used quality products. If you are going to do a peel and facials, make sure you’ve researched your esthetician. Also, you should have basic knowledge of your skin and your body. Is your skin type more prone to have adverse affects to peels, like increased hyperpigmentation? Are you allergic to dairy? If so, you shouldn’t do a lactic acid peel. An experienced esthetician will know the answers to these questions and more to help guide your skin transformation. Make sure you find that person, otherwise, there is potential for an inexperienced esthetician to do damage to your skin that could take awhile to stabilize or worse, lead to permanent scarring.

Before

After My before and after a series of three chemical peels and hydrating enzyme treatments by Kellie Lynn Esthetics at Byuti Salon.

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It’s Women’s History Month and bonnie is celebrating by creating a list of musthave women’s books. This is a short list out of the many inspirational books that would broaden anyone’s knowledge about the women’s movement and how women have shaped the political, historical, and artistic landscape of the United States. If you didn’t read any of these books while in high school or college, then pick one or all of them to read this month and beyond. Every month at bonnie is a reason to celebrate women’s history. Reading books is a way to celebrate our history. It is also a good reminder that while we’ve come a long way since not being able to vote, there is also much inspiration to gain to push ourselves even further.

The Women’s Room

Our Bodies Ourselves

By Marie French This bestselling novel originally published in 1977, voiced the controversial feelings of women who gave up their careers and education to marry and start families in the 1950s. This novel explores the mind set of women and their inner most feelings and follows the characters through to the 1970s. A few were happy, while others were painfully distraught, and mentally unstable because of this decision to stay at home and raise their families. Many took the opportunity to go back to school during the Women’s Liberation movement and found freedom and fought for equality among the sexes.

By The Boston Women’s Health Book Collective Birthed from the Feminist movement, this book offers insight about women and their bodies and their personal accounts on life. This compilation covers topics ranging from abortion (both for and against) to postpartum depression. Originally written for students as a manual of women’s issues, this book is much more than a textbook but a definite “go to” book of topics that will benefit all women. It is also a wonderful reference book for illnesses, diseases, and holistic and medically proven treatments.

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Big Girls Don’t Cry: The Election That Changed Everything for American Women

Their Eyes Were Watching God

By Zora Neale Hurston   This 1930s classic presents a southern love story that captivates the reader’s attention. A story of love, heartbreak, and By Rebecca Traister resentment, it captures the reinvention of This book brings attention to the 2008 a woman who refuses to fall into a pit of presidential election and how it gave femisorrow when life’s challenges are presented nism an exciting new life. It also shows how to her. She manages to overcome two bad the campaign for presidency opened up dialogue about gender, race, and generational marriages, physical and emotional abuse, failed dreams, and a life filled with poverty difference. In the last few years, Michelle and grief. A critical success when it was Obama became the first African American first published, this book is still a classic and woman to become the First Lady of the taught in high school and college curriculum. United States and more women are becoming involved in politics and government Available at: activities. Traister discovers how American Sacramento Public Library women and public figures like Michelle 828 I Street Obama, Hillary Clinton, Sarah Palin, and GaSacramento, CA 95814 brielle Gifford and others are beginning to (916) 264-2700 shape political history. Available at: Barnes & Noble Arden Fair 1725 Arden Way Sacramento, CA 95815 (916) 565-0644

When Everything Changed: The Amazing Journey of American Women from 1960 to Present By  Gail Collins Collins presents a resilient timeline of the evolution on women beginning with the 1960s to the 2008 presidential election. This comprehensive narrative is a blend of women in history with a vibrant twist. The author revisits the time when most women stayed home and took on the roll as “house wife,” asking their husbands permission to open a new credit card. This compilation covers five decades of history of women in America and celebrates the vast changes that have been made over the years. Available at: Barnes & Noble Arden Fair 1725 Arden Way Sacramento, CA 95815 (916) 565-0644

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$669

The median weekly earnings for full-time working women.

{She-tistics} BY // CHERISE HENRY

SUE:

the name of Sacramentoâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s first elephant. Her moniker was devised from an S for Sacramento, U for The Union newspaper that sponsored her purchase in 1948 and E for elephant.

204,973:

total number of active duty women in the military (as of November 30, 2012).

1920:

the year the 19th amendment was ratified in the U.S. granting women the right to vote.

8 million:

the number of women across the U.S. who voted in elections for the first time in 1920.

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Random statistics and facts to pique your interest about the world around you.

5,000,000

The number of visitors Historic Old Sacramento attracts each year.

16%

of women who say they would track their partnerâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s movements via a GPS implant.

60:

number of years for the remaining states to ratify the 19th amendment.

Mississippi:

the final state to ratify the 19th amendment in 1984.

90% of women want to change at least one aspect of their physical appearance.

the number of sexual partners an average woman aged 20 to 59 has had during their lifetime.

the number of women featured at the Remarkable Women Exhibit at the California History Museum in Sacramento.

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