Marie Alessi Rob and I had a soul contract

Rob and I had a

Soul Contract

ARTICLE MARIE ALESSI

My husband died unexpectedly at the age of 45. We were at the prime of our lives, with so many plans – we always thought we’d be like that couple from the retirement brochures, wearing white, walking the beach hand in hand, enjoying our life together… After all, we were ‘that couple’. Still happily in love after 12 years of marriage, two young boys at the age of 10 and 8 – and then I received ‘the’ phone call: “I’m sorry to inform you that your husband deceased in a hotel room in Perth this morning.” Silence.

This is where many stories go downhill. Deepest grief, emotional turbulences, falling apart.

I experienced all of those too – and I decided to choose happiness as our North Star. I had promised Rob if anything was to ever happen to him, I’d take the boys and create the happiest life possible. This is what I would’ve wanted him to do if the roles were reversed. Yet this was our contract.

I didn’t see it straight away, yet going through the process of trying to comprehend Rob’s passing, it all came together, it all started to make sense. We had chosen this – on a soul level, this was our plan. Realising this was such a gift, as I also felt once more how much Love it took to choose the part Rob played in this.

Four months after my husband died, I decided to write a book about it, as it became more apparent by the day how we addressed grief so differently to what society expected. I wanted to leave a Love Legacy for Rob – and also thought, maybe it could give some people hope and show them that there’s a different way to live with grief.

I didn’t expect ‘Loving Life after Loss’ becoming an Amazon No. 1 bestseller and ranking in the top 100 of Australia. I was blown away. Everything felt so surreal.

A couple of weeks later we embarked on our trip around the world. I chose to take our boys away from all the first milestones to come. I remember sitting in my mum’s apartment in Vienna, musing through my reflections on our past six months, how far we had come as a family of three. I thought about the book and suddenly felt I had something the world needed: Hope – in a time where you expect it the least and need it the most.

Upon returning to Australia, I founded the movement ‘Loving Life after Loss’.

I started creating healing journeys, programs and retreats from my very personal experience and my background in mindset coaching. It became an upwards healing spiral, bringing in more and more people who needed what we offered.

I trust we offer a well-needed space to allow healing in a safe environment.

I love seeing our boys strive throughout, feeling the effect my decisions have on them – it fills my heart with so much joy, and I can feel how proud Rob would be of us right now!

Marie Alessi is a mother to two boys, a bestselling Author, Legacy Coach and TEDx Speaker. After her husband passed from a brain aneurysm, she actively created her way back to joy. She instinctively knew it was the only path worthy for their young boys. Rob had taught her the concept of two choices – and this one was made in his honour; to continue his legacy. Marie has become a shining example of choosing Love over fear and sadness. In her movement ‘Loving Life after Loss’, Marie offers hope, healing and happiness to the world, when people expect it the least and need it the most. For more info, please visit: www.MarieAlessi.com