Freedom Wall: The Art of Safe Space

written by Ryan de Torres

When people undergo HIV testing, some are confused, some are anxious, and some are prepared. Welcome them with uplifting soul to encourage them and take a pause. Assist them with kindness to let them feel the ease or offer them a coffee to let them experience a relaxing breeze.

Sit with them with openness, with no bias nor stereotyping. Begin the conversation by letting them know you, that you are here ready to help and convey that they are not alone. Know their thoughts, know what their sentiments for you to know what is going on. Understand their story, feel it as if it is yours. Lend your ears and take note. Reassure them with calmness, with no judgment towards them. Listen attentively, respond suitably.

By this time, they may be uncomfortable, afraid, or ashamed. Empower them by teaching and sharing with information that is tailored-fit. As they are about to get their results, some are confused, some are anxious, and some are prepared. Strengthen their heart and soul with encouragement, they need the most. As they see the result, you will see different feelings and reactions. Some are relieved, and some are joyful, let them, cherish what they feel. Some are lost, and some are sad, let them feel you are there to guide and accompany them. Some do not exactly know what to do.

Let them feel the hope to secure their momentarily lost soul. Whatever the result, definitely it is not the end, some will need guidance, while some will need reassurance. At the end of the day, they will let you know, the difference you made--the comforting presence and caring atmosphere you provided. The art of safe space.