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Kimbra w/ Tei Shi

8 p.m. Saturday, February 25. Delmar Hall, 6133 Delmar Boulevard. $20. 314-726-6161.

It’s hard to believe it’s been nearly 12 years since Australian singer-songwriter Gotye released “Somebody That I Used to Know,” 2011’s most inescapable earworm and the song that launched a million comparisons to Sting among Americans unfamiliar with the Basics. Two Grammy awards and billions of streams later, it remains Gotye’s signature work, and perhaps unfairly, that of New Zealand’s Kimbra as well. It’s not that it’s a bad song or anything, and Kimbra’s vocal contributions surely helped immeasurably to elevate it to the status of worldwide phenomenon, quite literally one of the most successful duets of all time. But Kimbra

SUNFLOWER SOUL LIVE: w/ the Freedom Affair 8 p.m., $20-$25. The Golden Record, 2720 Cherokee Street, St. Louis, N/A.

WESTERN STATES: w/ the Fighting Side, the Screechin’ Halts 8 p.m., $10-$15. Central Stage, 3524 Washington Avenue, St. Louis, 314-533-0367.

WILDERADO: 8 p.m., $20. Delmar Hall, 6133 Delmar Blvd., St. Louis, 314-726-6161.

WORK DAWG & THE JUNKYARD PREACHERS: 8 p.m., $5. San Loo, 3211 Cherokee St., St. Louis, 314-696-2888.

YOUR SPIRIT DIES: w/ Pains, Hot Corpse, Primitive Rage, Drop the Blade 6:30 p.m., $12. The Sinkhole, 7423 South Broadway, St. Louis, 314-328-2309.

SATURDAY 25

120 MINUTES: 7 p.m., $5. Hwy 61 Roadhouse contains multitudes and deserves more credit for the weirdo art-pop that defines her musical aesthetic. Drawing frequent comparisons to everyone from Prince to Minnie Riperton to Björk, the singer-songwriter is not afraid to experiment with her sound, a mishmash of R&B, pop, rock and jazz that’s somehow as approachable as it is difficult to categorize. January’s A Reckoning, Kimbra’s fourth album, takes that heady mix and throws in some hip-hop and electronic music for good measure, resulting in an eclectic and oft-cinematic listening experience that proves Kimbra is much more than a supporting act.

Long Time Coming: Seeing as how she lives on the other side of the world, it’s not often that St. Louis sees a Kimbra tour stop — the last was back in 2018. Be sure to extend her a warm welcome.

—Daniel Hill

and Kitchen, 34 S Old Orchard Ave, Webster Groves, 314-968-0061.

ALL ROOSTERED UP: noon, free. Broadway Oyster Bar, 736 S. Broadway, St. Louis, 314-621-8811.

ANIMATED DEAD: w/ Extinctionism, Swamp Lion, Murtaugh 8 p.m., free. The Sinkhole, 7423 South Broadway, St. Louis, 314-328-2309.

BILLY E3: 7 p.m., free. Das Bevo Biergarten, 4749 Gravois Ave., St. Louis, 314-224-5521.

BURLIN MUD: w/ Heavy Pauses, Rex Blue, Zak M 7 p.m., free. Platypus, 4501 Manchester Avenue, St. Louis, 314-359-2293.

CELEBRATION DAY: A TRIBUTE TO LED ZEPPELIN

NIGHT 2: 8 p.m., $25-$40. The Pageant, 6161 Delmar Blvd., St. Louis, 314-726-6161.

CRYSTAL LADY - GOLDEN BIRTHDAY BASH: 8 p.m., $10. Blueberry Hill - The Duck Room, 6504 Delmar Blvd., University City, 314-727-4444.

THE FABULOUS MOTOWN REVUE: 6:30 p.m., $20. Casa Loma Ballroom, 3354 Iowa Ave, St. Louis, 314-282-2258.

HOT KOOLAID: 8 p.m., free. Charlack Pub, 8334 Lackland Rd, Charlack, 314-423-8119.

HYFY: 10 p.m., free. Broadway Oyster Bar, 736 S. Broadway, St. Louis, 314-621-8811.

JOHN MCVEY BAND: 8 p.m., free. Hammerstone’s, 2028 S. 9th St., St. Louis, 314-773-5565.

KIMBRA: 8 p.m., $20. Delmar Hall, 6133 Delmar Blvd., St. Louis, 314-726-6161.

KINGDOM BROTHERS: 5 p.m., $10. The Attic Music Bar, 4247 S. Kingshighway, 2nd floor, St. Louis, 314-376-5313.

KIRKOS ONE YEAR ANNIVERSARY CELEBRATION: w/ Tree One Four, Hoojshwah 9 p.m., $10-$15. Central Stage, 3524 Washington Avenue, St. Louis, 314-533-0367.

MICHAELE & CO.: 8 p.m., $15. Blue Strawberry Showroom & Lounge, 364 N Boyle Ave, St. Louis, 314-256-1745.

PECOS & THE ROOFTOPS: 8 p.m., $20-$40. The Hawthorn, 2225 Washington Avenue, St. Louis. RICH MCDONOUGH & THE RHYTHM RENEGADES: 3 p.m., free. Hammerstone’s, 2028 S. 9th St., St. Louis, 314-773-5565.

SCOTT MULVAHILL & BEN SOLLEE: 8 p.m., $25. Off Broadway, 3509 Lemp Ave., St. Louis, 314-498-6989.

SMOKESTACK: 8 p.m., $5. San Loo, 3211 Cherokee St., St. Louis, 314-696-2888.

SUNDAY 26

ADAM MELCHOR: 8 p.m., $20. Delmar Hall, 6133 Delmar Blvd., St. Louis, 314-726-6161.

AMERICAN AUTHORS: w/ Billy Raffoul 8 p.m., $25$30. Old Rock House, 1200 S. 7th St., St. Louis, 314-588-0505.

BROTHER JEFFERSON: 3 p.m., free. Hammerstone’s, 2028 S. 9th St., St. Louis, 314-773-5565.

BUSH: 7:30 p.m., $45-$75. The Pageant, 6161 Delmar Blvd., St. Louis, 314-726-6161.

BUTCH MOORE: 1 p.m., free. Broadway Oyster Bar, 736 S. Broadway, St. Louis, 314-621-8811.

DREW LANCE: 9 p.m., free. Broadway Oyster Bar, 736 S. Broadway, St. Louis, 314-621-8811.

ERIK BROOKS: 8 p.m., free. Hammerstone’s, 2028 S. 9th St., St. Louis, 314-773-5565.

JULIAN VELARD: 6 p.m., $10. Blue Strawberry Showroom & Lounge, 364 N Boyle Ave, St. Louis, 314-256-1745.

KEVIN BUCKLEY: 10 a.m., free. Das Bevo Biergarten, 4749 Gravois Ave., St. Louis, 314-224-5521.

MSPAINT: w/ Destiny Bond, Skinman, Kato 8 p.m., $10. Off Broadway, 3509 Lemp Ave., St. Louis, 314-498-6989.

PAYDIRT: w/ Torchlight Parade, I Like Snaps, JOEL, Beekman 6:30 p.m., $8-$10. Pop’s Nightclub, 401 Monsanto Ave., East St. Louis, 618-274-6720.

MONDAY 27

D-LUX: 6 p.m., free. Fast Eddie’s Bon-Air, 1530 E. Fourth St., Alton, 618-462-5532.

MIKE MATTHEWS: 2:30 p.m., free. Traffic Jam, 6 Westbury Drive, St Charles, 636-723-6138.

MONDAY NIGHT REVIEW: w/ Tim, Danny and Randy 7 p.m., free. Hammerstone’s, 2028 S. 9th St., St. Louis, 314-773-5565.

SOULARD BLUES BAND: 9 p.m., $8. Broadway Oyster Bar, 736 S. Broadway, St. Louis, 314-621-8811.

TUESDAY 28

ANDREW DAHLE: 5 p.m., free. Broadway Oyster Bar, 736 S. Broadway, St. Louis, 314-621-8811.

GIOVANNIE & THE HIRED GUNS: 8 p.m., $22. Off Broadway, 3509 Lemp Ave., St. Louis, 314-498-6989. NAKED MIKE: 7 p.m., free. Hammerstone’s, 2028 S. 9th St., St. Louis, 314-773-5565.

WEDNESDAY 1

BLACK MAGNET: w/ King Yosef, The Mall, Black-

The Mall Record Release Show w/ MSPAINT, Destiny Bond, Skinman, Kato

8:30 p.m. Sunday, February 26. Off Broadway, 3509 Lemp Avenue. $10. 314-498-6989.

Hot off of a 2022 that saw its latest, Time Vehicle Earth, topping numerous year-end lists with its apocalyptic brand of industrial-damaged minimal wave, St. Louis’ Best Artist the Mall finally sees the record’s physical release this Sunday. Joining the band for the big party is Hattiesburg, Mississippi, synth punk act MSPAINT, with whom the Mall has frequently performed and toured; Denver full-speed-ahead hardcore punk band Destiny Bond, whose blink-and-you’llmiss-them songs tend toward the snotty four-chord side of things; 11 PM Records recording artist Skinman, another Hat- well 7:30 p.m., $15. The Sinkhole, 7423 South Broadway, St. Louis, 314-328-2309. tiesburg act whose sound vacillates wildly from slow-and-low caveman core to a driving cacophony of punk rock; and relatively new act Kato, described on the show’s flyer as “Finnish hardcore from St. Louis.” Originally set to take place at CBGB, this show ultimately outgrew the small bar’s confines and was moved at the last minute to Off Broadway in order to accommodate demand — a sure sign that the party will be packed.

DREW LANCE: 4:30 p.m., free. Broadway Oyster Bar, 736 S. Broadway, St. Louis, 314-621-8811.

INTERNATIONAL ANIME MUSIC FESTIVAL: 8 p.m., $44.50-$64. The Factory, 17105 N Outer 40 Rd, Chesterfield, 314-423-8500.

JOHN MCVEY BAND: 7 p.m., free. Hammerstone’s, 2028 S. 9th St., St. Louis, 314-773-5565.

MARGARET & FRIENDS: 3 p.m., free. Hammerstone’s, 2028 S. 9th St., St. Louis, 314-773-5565. ST. LOUIS JAZZ CLUB: 7 p.m., free. Evangeline’s, 512 N Euclid Ave, St. Louis, 314-367-3644.

TEAL STRIPE: w/ Boreal Hills, Pleasure Center 8 p.m., $10. The Heavy Anchor, 5226 Gravois Ave., St. Louis, 314-352-5226.

VOODOO CSNY/DAVID CROSBY MEMORIAL: 9 p.m., $10. Broadway Oyster Bar, 736 S. Broadway, St. Louis, 314-621-8811.

Don’t Sleep: Considering the band’s popularity, it’s a safe bet that the first pressing of Time Vehicle Earth will sell out relatively quickly. With 500 copies on black vinyl, housed in a heavyweight two-color sleeve featuring the stunning cover art by Indonesian artist Ibayarifin and including a 24-inch poster insert, it will make a fine addition to your collection — as long as you act fast.

—Daniel Hill

Tue., April 18, 8 p.m., $20-$35. Off Broadway, 3509 Lemp Ave., St. Louis, 314-498-6989.

CHASING THE MILKY WAY: Fri., April 7, 5 p.m., $10. The Attic Music Bar, 4247 S. Kingshighway, 2nd floor, St. Louis, 314-376-5313.

FLEET FOXES: Sat., June 17, 8 p.m., $49.50-$79.50. Old Rock House, 1200 S. 7th St., St. Louis, 314-588-0505. GHOST: W/ Amon Amarth, Fri., Aug. 11, 7:30 p.m., $29.50-$149.50. Hollywood Casino Amphitheatre, I-70 & Earth City Expwy., Maryland Heights, 314-298-9944.

KATIE HUBBARD ALBUM RELEASE: Fri., March

3, 7:30 p.m., $15. Blue Strawberry Showroom & Lounge, 364 N Boyle Ave, St. Louis, 314256-1745.

PEDRO THE LION: W/ Erik Walters, Fri., May 26, 8 p.m., $35-$40. Old Rock House, 1200 S. 7th St., St. Louis, 314-588-0505.

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IN THE CACTUS BLOSSOMS: W/ Riley Downing,

THE WAR AND TREATY: W/ William Prince, Fri., April 14, 8 p.m., $29. Old Rock House, 1200 S. 7th St., St. Louis, 314-588-0505. n

Pegged As Bi

BY DAN SAVAGE

Hey Dan: My boyfriend of six months wants to try pegging, and I’m down. But he wants “the whole experience,” which means sucking the dildo, too. That raises a red flag for me. I know how this sounds before I even ask, so please forgive me if this question is insensitive. But does his desire to suck on the dildo indicate gay or bi tendencies? He says he’s not attracted to men, but he will sometimes make remarks about a “good-looking guy” he saw. He also told me he had a threesome in his early 20s with a married couple and that the husband sucked him off. He says he hasn’t done anything like that since — and he’s had tons of sex and done a lot of freaky stuff. Is this a kink? Would this leave him wanting the real thing? He wants to get married and all that. Should I be concerned?

Wondering About Sexual Proclivities

I’m gonna crawl out on a limb here and assume your boyfriend has demonstrated to your satisfaction — that he enjoys straight sex. Or opposite-sex sex, I should say, since not everyone who has “straight” sex is straight. Bisexuals have “straight” sex all the time; sometimes even gays and lesbians have “straight” sex and not always under the duress of the closet. Just as some straights are heteroflexible, some gays and lesbians are homoflexible.

Anyway, I’m gonna assume your boyfriend has demonstrated — again, to your satisfaction — that he enjoys having opposite-sex with you, WASP. He likes to kiss you, he likes your tits, he eats your pussy and he fucks you senseless. And I feel confident in making this assumption because if he was only going through the motions when he was having sex with you, if the “straight” sex you were having together was bad or infrequent or both, you surely would’ve mentioned that fact.

So since the sex you’re having with your newish boyfriend is good and frequent (and trending freaky), WASP, we can safely strike “gay” from your very short list of concerns. And while some would regard the distinction you’re attempting to make between your boyfriend wanting you to fuck his ass and your boyfriend wanting you to fuck his face as meaningless — most will regard him wanting to have his ass fucked as just as gay or even gayer than him wanting to have his face fucked — there is a difference. A guy can wanna have his ass fucked for the pure physical pleasure of being penetrated, e.g., the stimulation of all those nerve endings, the amazing feeling of being opened up, the pounding of his prostate gland, and the dildo is simply a means to those ends. But sucking on a strap-on dildo … that’s more of a psychological thrill. You won’t feel anything, and your boyfriend doesn’t have a prostate gland on his soft palate.

But even if he’s getting off on the idea of sucking dick … that’s not proof he’s gay or bi. Some women have dicks, as we’ve learned over the last two decades and change, and your boyfriend could be fantasizing about sucking a woman’s dick, and there’s nothing gay or bi about a cis man sucking a trans woman’s dick.

(Right? Right.) Or your boyfriend could be into the idea of forced bi. Or your boyfriend could be turned on by the transgression against what straight sex is supposed/assumed to be, e.g., males penetrate, females are penetrated.

Zooming out for a second …

At the start of a new relationship people will sometimes hint at their non-normative sexual interests. A guy might share a little about his past — like having had a threesome with a married couple and getting sucked off by the dude — because he wants to assess his new partner’s reaction before sharing the rest. A guy into bondage might tell a new partner he once “let someone” tie him up when he actually begged that person to tie him up; a woman into spanking might tell a new partner about some spanking porn clip that somehow popped up in her Twitter feed when she actually went looking for it. Your boyfriend could be bisexual, WASP, and told you some married guy sucked his dick when actually he went looking for a guy — married or not — to suck his dick.

So let’s game out your worst-case scenario: Your boyfriend is bisexual. Would that really be so bad, WASP? If you’re going to obsess about the downsides of marrying a bisexual guy — he’s going to want to fuck a guy once in a while — you should at least pause to consider the upsides. For instance, you won’t have to be on the receiving end of penetration every time you say yes to sex, WASP, because you’ll get to do the penetrating every once in a while. And the occasional MMF threesome … well, that seems like the best-case scenario to me, WASP, but I’m a little like your boyfriend: here for the freaky stuff.

Hey Dan: I’m a 38-year-old mother of two youngish kids in a 10-year hetero relationship that I am destroying. I cheated with a girl at my job at the end of last year and now I have feelings for her. I’ve ended the affair several times, but each time we start back up again. I’ve always known that I’m bisexual but never really explored