Ask a Yucateca: The dating scene

Ask a Yucateca Yesica Benitez Get ready to mingle

Dating someone from a different culture always presents several challenges, but also rewards. Yucatecans as a whole are rather socially conservative, but this does not mean that we are not open to new experiences and points of view. Yucatecan women appreciate gallantry in a gentleman. But don’t be misled by that. Yucatecan women are also independent and self-empowered. Also, keep in mind that Yucatecan men tend to be fairly gallant, though at times can also be quite machista. That being said, let’s talk about dating.

Q: Where is a good place for a first date? A: The best option for a first date is a place where you can talk, a coffee shop or even a nice bar is always a good choice. Mérida has quite a good amount of beautiful places to choose from. My favorites? Hotel Casa San Angel, Manjar Blanco,

Casa Chica, and Cafetería Pop are all in Centro, so why not take a nice walk along the Paseo de Montejo to get to know each other better? For other occasions, a nice pizza place for dinner, a cantina any afternoon, or even a baseball game is perfect for enjoying each others’ company.

Q: What should I wear?

A: As I have said before, taking care of our image sends a powerful message. So, whenever you don’t know what to wear, think about what message you want to send about yourself. Also, keep in mind that comfortable shoes are always important. What if your date wants to take that aforementioned walk down the Paseo Montejo after dinner?

Q: How can I feel and stay safe?

A: Always tell somebody you trust know where you are and who are you with. Personally, I encourage everyone to use their phone to share their live location information and always meet in public places. Mérida is the safest city in all of Mexico, but your own safety is also a personal responsibility.

Don't do this, do that

»Please, don’t assume. Ask before you do anything.

»Never talk smack about Yucatán in front of a Yucatecan. Believe me, I have known people who do that, and is far beyond being annoying. It’s insulting.

»Be punctual. That shows you care about and respect your date.

»Be gallant, speak intelligently, and respect your companion’s personal space.

»Remember that the line between being chivalrous and arrogant is very thin. So, good luck with that.

Kanasín native Yesica Benitez is more than happy to explain the realities of local culture and make recommendations for bewildered expats. No holds barred. Email yesicabenitez@roofcatmedia.com.