www.vintagelinkfiji.com ISSUE 04/2020
TANIELA TORA
THE WIRELESS ERA
TEEN TECH
BEHIND THE LENS
MOANA WIND
ASPIRING OLYMPIC SWIMMER
TEEN STYLE
LATEST HAIRSTYLE TRENDS IN 2020
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CO N T E N T S F E AT U R E S T O R I E S
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Behind The Lens
Aspiring Olympic Swimmer
TANIELA TORA
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MOANA A WIND RISES
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TEEN TASTE
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TEEN HEALTH
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TEEN STYLE
LATEST HAIRSTYLE TRENDS IN 2020
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PUBLISHER
Lorraine Foster EDITOR IN CHIEF Fay Volatabu
CREATIVE DIRECTOR Candace Veramu CONTRIBUTORS Fay Volatabu
Lorraine Foster
Atelaite Senibua
Savannah Waqalevu
GRAPHICS
Candace Veramu
Taniela Tora Photography Michelle Neeling Layout & Design Candace Veramu
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EDIT O R ’ S LET TER COPING… It is the end of the three months break for school teens and it has been a time of reflection, reviving old traditions and coping. Coping with changes, coping with cyclones and weather
changes, coping with the COVID Pandemic, coping with economic and lifestyle changes and trying to figure out how we are going to cope with all these changes happening around us.
The greatest thing about being a teenager is that you have youth, time and creativity on your side and yes the resilience to enable you to deal with changes and to cope.
This issue has been delayed for so many reasons but we hope that when you flip the pages of this issue of I AM TEEN magazine you will be inspired as you read about two amazing teens
and how they have used their talent whilst still in school, read about how a young girl is trying to change the world in her eco-campaign and also read how two young people have coped
with the challenges and changes during the COVID pandemic by baking. You will also read about what hairstyles are trending, what tech gadgets are popular and what is hot and what
is not in the music and movie world. We also talk about career opportunities and also about dealing with relationships, particular about identifying narcissists.
We hope you will enjoy the read and we wish you all the every best in this POST COVID Issue as we try and cope with the changing world around us.
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L E N S T H E B E H I N D
written by Fay Volatabu photography by Michelle Neeling
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Taniela Tora Drama, Film Making & Life
“I believe that film is a powerful art form that can and has been used to elicit emotion to move an audience’s perspective on particular themes and issues around the world and I wish to use the power and my passion for film to take this as a profession.” Powerful words by an eighteen year old Fijian teen, who is interested in making a profession out of his passion. Gau lad, Taniela Tora, who has just finished his secondary education at Suva’s International Secondary School is taking a year off studies to prepare himself for his next adventure which is to pursue studies in the film industry. When I first met Taniela, what struck me was his captivating smile and very shy demeanor but once you got him to open up, he revealed that like every other teen age boy he had dreams, aspirations and amidst the conversation you would see his twinkling eyes that veiled an underlying sense of humour which was enveloped by his impeccable manners. As I got to know more about him, I knew without a doubt that this young man’s story had to be shared to the world not only to motivate other teens but to also inspire those who wished to follow this line of work that it is possible to dream and follow through your dreams with perseverance and passion. The Real Deal Taniela who is from Somosomo Gau and a mixed maternal heritage with links to Taveuni, Kadavu, Ra and Kiribati, is the younger of two artistic siblings, one a dancer and he a budding producer and director. Taniela shared his love for movies and as a child was often glued to the TV much to his parents dismay but this was the initiation into the magical world of movies. Some of Taniela’s favourite movies are Inglorious Bastards, Inception & What we do in the shadows. Like most teenagers he also loves to listen to music, snack and drink non-alcoholic beverages. Taniela attended The Learning Center (TLC) as a primary student and completed his secondary education at Suva’s International School(ISS). He also shared that in primary and secondary school, he would be listed to represent his school in national swimming competitions. Though he had a talent for the sport and would constantly be pressured to join a swimming club, he refrained from taking it up further as he simply wasn’t passionate about it. His love for drama was heightened at ISS and he enjoyed the various components of drama which formed the basis for and a link to film making. I AM TEEN had a Q&A session with Taniela to talk more about his passion for films.
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Q&A with Taniela IAT : What made you focus on film? TT: As a kid, one of my favourite things to do, much like any other kid, was to watch movies (much to my parent’s dismay). I’d literally sit on the couch and give the T.V my full attention for the entire film and once the movie finished, I’d ask my parents to restart it because I loved it so much. I would even watch behind the scenes footage on how the film was made. I guess my love for watching movies turned into an appreciation of film as a form of expression as I grew older. IAT : Can you talk about your interest in directing and drama. Is this connected to film or are these separate interests? TT: Before I was interested in film, I was equally interested in acting on screen. This is why I moved to ISS as it was the only school that provided drama to the extent of staging an annual school production. As I learned more about drama as a whole rather than just acting, I learned that there’s much more to a staged performance than simply memorising lines from a script. Different elements come into play such as lighting, set design and other aspects that could make or break a performance. This knowledge then moved to film, which opened my eyes to film as a whole and deepened my appreciation for it as an art form. IAT : What have been some challenges of taking up film? TT: The two 1st major roles I took in terms of drama and film both involved script writing and directing:
• An SPC funded short film alongside my sister depicting the dangers of NCD’s • ISS’s annual school production alongside my co-director titled “Scott Pilgrim & The League of Evil Exes”
As a writer and director, my vision for the particular project I was working on was my driving force to shape the project into what it eventually became. This driving force is also applicable to leaders of different teams (for example: costume, backstage and lighting) who also have their own visions of the project. The main struggle in the beginning of both projects was addressing the creative differences set by the directors and team leaders and sometimes between the directors themselves. However, as time passed, we managed to collaborate soundly and complete the individual projects, combining visions of both the directors and team leaders. IAT: What are some highlights of taking on film? TT: As I’m currently working on my 1st short film, I would say a highlight of developing this film is being inspired in different ways to go about creating it. For example, if I were to spot a particular location that intrigues me (such as a dark alley way) I would be inspired and think to myself “WOW”. That looks like a good place to shoot a scene in my film”, or if I were to be having an amusing conversation with a close friend, I would think “This is the sort of relationship and conversation I would want my
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characters to have in this film”. To me, drawing inspiration from real life or other mediums (such music, art, and film) is a great way to further develop your idea of what your film could potentially be. This excites me. IAT: Do you see this as a career choice? TT: Of course! In this day and age, all you need is a camera, an editing software if you want to be fancy, and most importantly a clear vision of what film you want to make. The more you make, the more experience and knowledge you gain and hopefully more opportunity for creating films as a career. IAT: What are your hobbies? TT : I recently started a YouTube channel, so at this point I’m constantly thinking of new ideas for content (whether it be vlogs, discussions or potential short films). Listening to music is another hobby I enjoy as different genres of music provoke different emotions and themes. As a pastime, I usually grab these themes and attempt to translate the emotions given off by a particular track or album into an idea of a film. IAT: Do you intend to take this as a hobby or would you like to take this as a profession too? TT: I believe that film is a powerful art form that can and has been used to elicit emotion to move an audience’s perspective on particular themes and issues around the world and I wish to use the power and my passion for film to take this as a profession. IAT: Do you think there is enough opportunity for those who want to dabble in film and directing in Fiji? TT : I believe that the opportunities of film and directing in Fiji are very limited, especially for teenagers. Which is why I consider myself very lucky to have been given the opportunity to write and direct an SPC funded short-film on NCD’s at 16 and a school production involving close to 100 students. But the opportunities for film within the country appear to be growing as there’s been quite a number of big-budget movies shot in the country in the last few years. IAT: What do you think could be done to promote this more in Fiji? TT: My passion for film started off from my simple love for watching movies and over time with the right education and resources, I began to see film as an art form rather than “just a movie”. I believe that there are other teenagers and children that share my love for movies, but aren’t sure how to expand upon their creativity. I believe that subjects revolving around film or other art forms should be introduced/emphasized at schools such as art, drama, music and dance as a medium to allow children and teenagers to express their creativity.
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IAT: Do you have any words of wisdom for other like minded teens? TT: Whatever your interest may be, don’t be afraid to create what it is you love. As long as you have the drive and perseverance to film, design, dance or produce, you have the power to create something that can only be born from you and only you. Always shoot for the stars. You’ll never know where you might end up. IAT: What is the future like for Taniela Tora? TT: In the near future, I hope to have graduated from a university studying film and work as an independent filmmaker, and slowly work my way to have a film career in Hollywood as one of the 1st filmmakers born and raised in the pacific alongside directors such as Taika Waititi.
As we ended our conversation Taniela shared that he had produced a short film funded by SPC depicting the dangers of NCD’s. He further explained that the short film was created under 2017’s “WAKE UP!” project to raise awareness amongst individuals within the Pacific region about the dangers of NCD’s and how it affected both those living an unhealthy lifestyle and those close to them. Talking to Taniela made me realise that dreams are possible and if Hollywood great, Steven Spielberg, who in 1963, at age 16 wrote and directed his first independent film called Firelight, (which would later inspire Close Encounter) with a budget of $500 borrowed from his father what was stopping Fiji’s Taniela Tora from achieving the same. Taniela’s first movie which he made as a 16 year old can be seen at the link https://www.youtube.com/ watch?v=jd7P0fvz334&t=11s I AM TEEN wishes Taniela all the best in his dreams and aspirations.
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“If you fail to prepare, you’re prepared to fail.” The young aspiring, Olympic Swimmer, Moana Wind, quoted Mark Spitz. Living by this words has paved the way for this 18 year old girl’s swimming success. Moana Leigh Lepper Wind, is originally from Hawkes Bay, New Zealand and has maternal links in Savusavu, Vanualevu. Her passion for Swimming birthed from her love for water as a baby and ever since she could remember, she had been swimming competitively since then. While many have other hobbies outside of their career and passion, Moana can’t see herself doing anything else but Swim.
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“There is no success without sacrifice and there is no such thing as an ‘overnight success” and if there’s anything, Moana has grasped that concept very well. After completing her Year 12 studies in 2019, Moana has now decided to take a year off to focus on her preparations for the Olympic Games in Tokyo. Her dream to become an Olympic Swimmer has made her sacrifice so much but she is grateful that even though she had to miss her final year of being a senior at her high school (Saint Joseph’s Secondary School), Moana is blessed to have been offered a Sports Scholarship to one of the Colleges in the United States of America. We’ll put it this way, her passion for swimming has opened opportunities for her and her sacrifices have surely been worth it. They always say “good shoes will take you places” but for Moana, all you need is a pair of goggles and a swim suit and you’re on your way to touring the World. Her swimming career has allowed her to visit countries such as Samoa, Papua New Guinea, Australia, New Zealand and Korea. Adventures have not always been as easy and as a teenager, trying to swim her way through the waves of Life, Moana’s biggest challenge has actually been the constant “travelling” because of her swimming career. While other teenagers get to occupy themselves with other social activities that youths are into these days, Moana has had to make sacrifices and do without a lot of social youth activities and events just to train and prepare herself for upcoming competitions but to her, it is a sacrifice worth making. Just like her surname, she has been a “WIND” in the waters and that has made her the recipient of multiple medals representing Fiji to other Nations. In 2019, Moana’s sacrifices and achievements were recognized and apart from her excitement for her Olympic Preparations, this was a milestone in Moana’s Swimming Career. Moana was the awardee of Fiji’s 2019 Sportswoman of the Year Award. “I was surprised but I was honored to have won such an award,” she explained. As a teenager, Moana has already achieved so many things all because she was and still is dedicated to her Swimming Career. “You leave home to seek your fortune and when you get it, you go home and share it with your family,” Anita Baker. With all the hustle and bustle of her swimming career, Moana says that her family has been her greatest inspiration. Moana doesn’t have to look far, all she needs is a dose of her family’s support and she’s on her way to taking on the World. “My family pushes me to do my best and they believe that I can be the best and that has inspired to be the best that I can be.”
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Moana’s vibrant swimming career has been possible through the efforts and dedications of so many people. “I would like to thank my coaches, my team manager, my friends and my family for all their never ending support,” Moana stated. We’re inspired with Moana’s work ethic, her sacrifices as a teenager and her dedication in representing our nation to global swimming competitions. We wish Moana the very best in her preparations for the Olympic Games and also look forward to seeing more success in the future.
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WHAT PRACTICAL SKILLS DO I NEED?
written by Fay Volatabu
For the last couple of months students have been at home and it is now six months into the year 2020 and while some are trying to complete worksheets, some are starting to fill out application forms for the 2021 academic year. Whilst the thought of choosing a career is daunting, and added to that the decision about institutions to help you achieve your dream career, one does not have to look far to realize that even though having qualifications helps one get a highly paid job, it is also important to have skills and to be creative in order to survive. This was hard lesson learnt by all during the CORVID 19 crisis, as many started the barter system and traded their skills or learnt new skills to earn a living or provide for their families. In this issue we look at some creative jobs and skills that require hands on experience and creativity. Some of these work may require a bit of study but having a talent, passion and skills is a starting point. Some of the known work that require talents and creativity are fashion design, photography, hairdressing and hairstyling, makeup artist, carpenter, mechanic, potter, massage therapist, sign language interpreter, artist, disc jockey, tattoo artist, chef, artist and plumber to name a few. For young people what you need to know is that when you find a job that makes you happy, you’ll look forward to going to work every day. What could be better than that? Some require some formal qualifications but the most basic quality is that you have an interest, have the creativity and a passion to perfect a skill and to make it earn money for you.
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FASHION DESIGNER Fashion designers produce sketches or illustrations by hand or with computer programs. This is one of the first steps involved in developing a new design. They may want to touch different fabrics to determine which is the right choice for the design they’re working on, and then develop a physical representation of their design. They may work on designing things like pants, shoes or belts, or specialize in designing other fashion items. Be part of the Fashion Shows in Fiji and as you mature as a designer, a bachelor’s degree is a positive step to growing and expanding in this field. Try small things for family and friends and use this as a basis to develop further. Always remember to take photos of your products.
PHOTOGRAPHER Photographers do not necessarily need to have any formal training, although some employers may prefer or require a bachelor’s degree. They use their hands to set up and operate photographic equipment so that they can produce a desired photograph. They may take portraits of people or animals, or they may photograph newsworthy events or significant locations. You can start off with your phone and invest in equipment if you see this as a career. Start your little business and build up your portfolio.
HAIRDRESSER AND HAIRSTYLIST Hairdressers and hairstylists must complete a postsecondary program and earn a license. They use their hands to cut or style hair. This is a very creative, practical occupation, because people regularly need haircuts but they often want their hair to look a very specific way. Hairstylists may also work with bridal parties, school graduates or those attending special events to produce an elaborate look using attachments, flowers or other accessories. It is always best to start with family and friends, take photos of all your art and then build your portfolio. This can then be used as a basis for future training or to expand your business.
MAKE UP ARTIST Makeup artists use their talents to apply makeup to people who are going to perform in a theater or film production. They also do makeup for photo shoots or video production. They need to understand how different types of makeup will look under specific lighting conditions in order to produce the desired effect. Although postsecondary training is not necessarily required, some do complete a postsecondary program before entering this field. Start small and try things with family and friends. Always take photos of your finished art and this can be a base for further training or to start a business.
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BAKER Bakers are food workers who create breads and other baked goods, such as cookies, cakes, pies and pastries Bakers use their understanding of ingredients and food preparation to craft recipes and create baked goods. They are responsible for preparing and measuring ingredients, properly cooking or baking foods, and decorating sweet baked goods. As a baker, you may work in factories, restaurants, retail stores and small bakeries. You’re likely to work with ovens, mixers and dough cutters that could cause injury. Bakers sometimes work part time, and your schedule could range from early morning to late evening. Weekend or holiday work might also be required. In this field, work experience typically is more important than a standard general education. Thus, bakers usually are not required to have a college degree. Training is often done in a work setting. However, if you want to pursue a formal education, programs may be available at technical or culinary schools.
CHEF Chefs are in high demand all over the world. They oversee food production at places where food is served. They may work in restaurants, private homes, events, and hotels. Chefs are responsible for directing the cooking staff and for making numerous decisions related to everything from food production to administrative issues. They need to be skilled, clean, creative and have administrative and business skills. Cooking is a science. Every ingredient and measurement must be exact including ordering food products or figuring out how long to cook certain items so that they’re all plated at the same time. Chefs also need to know how to keep their kitchen sanitary. This is very important in a restaurant, where unsanitary conditions can affect the quality of the food, and can even force a restaurant to shut down. A good chef should also be good at running a business. He or she should always be thinking about how to make delicious food while also being cost-effective. Working in the food industry also requires creativity and chefs must be open to incorporating new food items into menus as well as improving older recipes. Creativity and imagination will keep customers coming back for more. The most important hard skill chefs need is an ability to cook, as well as knowledge of the kitchen. This broad skill includes a variety of smaller skills, including knife and tasting skills. Chefs need to be able to cook precisely and efficiently. They also need to be skilled at recognizing flavors and judging the balance of seasonings. Chefs often have experience with various skills: Baking, Baking Techniques, Pastry Consistency, Cooking, Culinary Expertise Food Preparation, Grilling, Ingredient Selection, Knife Control, Knife Cuts, Knife Skills,Presentation. A chef should be able to make decisions quickly and efficiently. The kitchen is a fast-paced environment, and a chef has to make numerous decisions at once and a good chef will motivate those working in the kitchen to efficiently create good dishes. He or she should be able to keep everyone working at a fast, efficient pace. It takes a variety of skills to be a great chef who can effectively command a kitchen. If you’re passionate about creating new recipes, are detail-oriented, and want to lead a successful kitchen, then becoming a chef could be the perfect fit for you. Cooking in a small unit at home can be a start to experiment and see your skills but more training and skills need to be learnt with a formal education or through on the job training.
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TATTOO ARTIST If you love art and design and have a passion for tattoos, becoming a tattoo artist can be a rewarding career. Like many creative trades, pursuing a career in tattooing isn’t easy. The cost and time commitment to get a job as a tattoo artist is significant, but the payoff has the potential to be so much more. There’s more than one path to become a tattoo artist - the one you choose depends greatly on what type of artist you want to be, your finances, talent, and the opportunities available in your area.
DISC JOCKEY (DJ) Disc jockeys often work for radio stations in soundproof studios. They might specialize in a certain type of music, such as classic rock, pop or contemporary R&B. Beyond training and experience requirements, a disc jockey must have excellent communication skills and be able to maintain a pleasant and controlled voice with good pronunciation and word timing. A DJ also needs to stay current on news and entertainment events. With the use of technology today, most radio broadcasts are timed and automated. Thus, a disc jockey mainly ensures that his or her program is running smoothly, while occasionally speaking live to the audience. This might include holding radio contests, taking song requests, questioning callers and performing interviews. Others working in the disc jockey profession are self-employed and use their own equipment to provide entertainment at nightclubs or restaurants. They also might supply music and sound system services at special events, such as weddings and corporate banquets. You may start off with your little home business and be hired for parties or you may want to have a more professional career and study journalism to go into mainstream media.
AGRICULTURE The most important reason to be involved in agriculture is simple. It is for sustainability and food security. During the CORVID crisis, food security and cost of living has made it challenging to buy food. Now people are bartering for food but why not grow your own. Some other reasons to be involved in agriculture are listed below. • Go local! Choose locally grown and made products. ... • Live healthy, start a garden and grow your own organic food. • Support green education and look for alternative sources for buying meat. You can start off with your home garden or you may want to have a career in which case you will need further training. Apart from the practical skills that we have tried to share with you in this article, there are essential technical skills that will always be in demand as long as we live. If you are still contemplating what life skill you may need to have, it would be advisable to have some knowledge or be trained in a basic skills and knowledge as a PLUMBER, ELECTRICIAN, MECHANIC. These are needed everyday by everyone. As you start thinking about school and also your future, remember there are tons of cool jobs where you work with your hands. The question is WHICH ONE OF THESE JOBS WILL BE RIGHT FOR YOU? Source: https://www.jobmonkey.com and https://www.monster.com
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THE WIRELESS ERA IS UPON US written by Lorraine Foster
Technology has overtaken our lives irrespective of what our ages are. Sometimes keeping up with the latest gadgets and technology can be quite daunting but Fiji is quite hip in keeping up with the global world. The WIRELESS ERA is upon us. We have wireless WiFi and wireless gadgets and this is so convenient for users as we don’t have to carry around coils of wire or worry about looking for power points to plug in our gadgets. Just remember to charge your gadgets. The wireless WiFi is a blessing where we can connect to the Internet and other networks. The marvellous mobile connectivity enables us to send, listen or receive information in town, on the bus, at the restaurant, at home, at work.Another popular wireless technology is Bluetooth which is used for exchanging data between devices over short distances using radio waves. With the existence of the two major digital networks in Fiji, there are many special deals, packages and plans available for the customer. Yes there have been complaints of coverage in certain areas but we must admit that the wireless network is an advantage where we can keep in touch with family and friends who are overseas. Some people do not agree with wireless connectivity as it limits or minimises face to face communication and in today’s world all you have to do is walk around town, be in a bus and even at restaurants to see people looking at their mobile phones. What do you think? Wireless gadgets are also the “in thing” for youngsters nowadays and these wireless gadgets are sometimes used as a trendy accessory and a fashion statement. The most popular wireless gadgets here in Fiji are the wireless headphones or headsets. These gadgets come in different colours and sizes and has more functions than an ordinary head set. With COVID affecting how we socialise this year, all of us have been stuck at home for weeks and most of us learnt to cope with bonding with our families. It seems that wireless WiFi was always running out as more members of a household were using the WiFi and the maximum limit would be utilised very quickly.
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As the world inventors compete in an aggressive world economy, the following latest gadgets are on the world market and have innovative functions to help people get more information. The “Fit Track” is the smartest medical scale where all you have to do is step on the scale with your bare feet and it immediately measures and tracks your health data in real time. Data it captures is your fat percentage, muscle and bone mass, hurdation levels and other important information that will help you make smarter decisions about your health. It is actually like taking a free physical exam in the comfort of your home. Instant Translator Devices are also taking over the world market and gone are the days where you had to go to a classroom to learn a new language. You are saving time and costs. Basically a Translator Device allows two people to speak two different languages and conduct a conversation with ease as the Device will translate the both languages for each of you. Some devices are able to translate 40 to 50 languages. As devices become more smaller for easier carrying purposes, the laser wireless keyboard is trending in 2020. This wireless device beams a full keyboard on a flat surface and is to be connected to a phone or lap top. All you have to do is type on the laser keyboard image on the flat surface and the words are automatically transferred to your phone or lap top. Evolution of gadgets is to provide quick solutions for everyday problems and reduces human effort and conserves space. The robot vacuum cleaner is an answer to all cleaning issues. Fitted with sensors, it can be programmed to vacuum your floors and your rugs and the good thing is that you don’t have to be there. Working mothers or single people would love this device. As the wireless era is upon us now – what do you think the future will hold as inventors become more innovative? I leave you all with this quote – “Modern technology has become a total phenomenon for civilization, the defining force of a new social order in which efficiency is no longer an option but a necessity imposed on all human activity.” – Jacques Ellul.
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with Fay Volatabu
Narcissistic Personality Disorder Do you know someone who expects constant admiration, who thinks they’re better than everyone else, but flies off the handle at the slightest criticism? Do you know someone who is self obsessed?
Some may have used the word narcissist to describe them and it is a word that gets tossed around a lot in our selfie-obsessed, celebrity-driven culture, often to describe someone who seems excessively vain or full of themselves. It is healthy to have self-love BUT in psychological terms, narcissism doesn’t mean self-love—at least not of a genuine sort. Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) which is the topic today involves a pattern of self-centered, arrogant thinking and behavior, a lack of empathy and consideration for other people, and an excessive need for admiration. Others often describe people with NPD as cocky, manipulative, selfish, patronizing, and demanding. This way of thinking and behaving surfaces in every area of the narcissist’s life: from work and friendships to family and love relationships. It’s more accurate to say that people with NPD are in love with an idealized, grandiose image of themselves and they’re in love with this inflated selfimage precisely because it allows them to avoid deep feelings of insecurity.
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I. What Is Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)? People with narcissistic personality disorder are extremely resistant to changing their behavior, even when it’s causing them problems. Their tendency is to turn the blame on to others. What’s more, they are extremely sensitive and react badly to even the slightest criticisms, disagreements, or perceived slights, which they view as personal attacks. For the people in the narcissist’s life, it’s often easier just to go along with their demands to avoid the coldness and rages. However, by understanding more about narcissistic personality disorder, you can spot the narcissists in your life, protect yourself from their power plays, and establish healthier boundaries.
II. Signs & Symptoms Of Narcissistic Personality Disorder 1. Grandiose sense of self-importance Grandiosity is the defining characteristic of narcissism. More than just arrogance or vanity, grandiosity is an unrealistic sense of superiority. Narcissists believe they are unique or “special” and can only be understood by other special people. What’s more, they are too good for anything average or ordinary. They only want to associate and be associated with other high-status people, places, and things. Narcissists also believe that they’re better than everyone else and expect recognition as such— even when they’ve done nothing to earn it. They will often exaggerate or outright lie about their achievements and talents. And when they talk about work or relationships, all you’ll hear is how much they contribute, how great they are, and how lucky the people in their lives are to have them. They are the undisputed star and everyone else is at best a bit player.
2. They live in a fantasy world that supports their delusions of grandeur Since reality doesn’t support their grand view of themselves, narcissists live in a fantasy world propped up by distortion, self-deception, and magical thinking. They spin self-glorifying fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, attractiveness, and ideal love that make them feel special and in control. These fantasies protect them from feelings of inner emptiness and shame, so facts and opinions that contradict them are ignored or rationalized away. Anything that threatens to burst the fantasy bubble is met with extreme defensiveness and even rage, so those around the narcissist learn to tread carefully around their denial of reality.
3. They need constant praise and admiration A narcissist’s sense of superiority is like a balloon that gradually loses air without a steady stream of applause and recognition to keep it inflated. The occasional compliment is not enough. Narcissists need constant food for their ego, so they surround themselves with people who are willing to cater to their obsessive craving for affirmation. These relationships are very one-sided. It’s all about what the admirer can do for the narcissist, never the other way around. And if there is ever an interruption or diminishment in the admirer’s attention and praise, the narcissist treats it as a betrayal.
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4.They have a sense of entitlement Because they consider themselves special, narcissists expect favorable treatment as their due. They truly believe that whatever they want, they should get. They also expect the people around them to automatically comply with their every wish and whim. That is their only value. If you don’t anticipate and meet their every need, then you’re useless. And if you have the nerve to defy their will or “selfishly” ask for something in return, prepare yourself for aggression, outrage, or the cold shoulder.
5.They exploit others without guilt or shame Narcissists never develop the ability to identify with the feelings of others—to put themselves in other people’s shoes. In other words, they lack empathy. In many ways, they view the people in their lives as objects—there to serve their needs. As a consequence, they don’t think twice about taking advantage of others to achieve their own ends. Sometimes this interpersonal exploitation is malicious, but often it is simply oblivious. Narcissists simply don’t think about how their behavior affects others. And if you point it out, they still won’t truly get it. The only thing they understand is their own needs.
6.They frequently demean, intimidate, bully or belittle others Narcissists feel threatened whenever they encounter someone who appears to have something they lack—especially those who are confident and popular. They’re also threatened by people who don’t bow to them or who challenge them in any way. Their defense mechanism is contempt. The only way to neutralize the threat and prop up their own sagging ego is to put those people down. They may do it in a patronizing or dismissive way as if to demonstrate how little the other person means to them. Or they may go on the attack with insults, name-calling, bullying and threats to force the other person back into line.
III. How To Deal With A Narcissist. Narcissists can be very magnetic and charming. They are very good at creating a fantastical, flattering self-image that draw us in. We’re attracted to their apparent confidence and lofty dreams—and the shakier our own self-esteem, the more seductive the allure. It’s easy to get caught up in their web, thinking that they will fulfill our longing to feel more important, more alive. But it’s just a fantasy, and a costly one at that.
1. Your needs won’t be fulfilled (or even recognized). It’s important to remember that narcissists aren’t looking for partners; they’re looking for obedient admirers. Your sole value to the
narcissist is as someone who can tell them how great they are to prop up their insatiable ego. Your desires and feelings don’t count.
2. Look at the way the narcissist treats others. If the narcissist lies, manipulates, hurts, and
disrespects others, he or she will eventually treat you the same way. Don’t fall for the fantasy that you’re different and will be spared.
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3. Take off the rose-colored glasses. It’s important to see the narcissist in your life for who they really are, not who you want them to be. Stop making excuses for bad behavior or minimizing the hurt it’s causing you. Denial will not make it go away. The reality is that narcissists are very resistant to change, so the true question you must ask yourself is whether you can live like this indefinitely.
4. Focus on your own dreams. Instead of losing yourself in the narcissist’s delusions, focus on the
things you want for yourself. What do you want to change in your life? What gifts would you like to develop? What fantasies do you need to give up in order to create a more fulfilling reality?
IV. Understanding A Narcissist 1. Setting healthy boundaries and having a healthy relationship based on mutual respect and caring. But narcissists aren’t capable of true reciprocity in their relationships. It isn’t just that they’re not willing; they truly aren’t able. They don’t see you. They don’t hear you. They don’t
recognize you as someone who exists outside of their own needs. Because of this, narcissists regularly violate the boundaries of others. What’s more, they do so with an absolute sense of entitlement. Narcissists think nothing of going through or borrowing your possessions without asking, snooping through your mail and personal correspondence, eavesdropping on conversations, barging in without an invitation, stealing your ideas, and giving you unwanted opinions and advice. They may even tell you what to think and feel. It’s important to recognize these violations for what they are, so you can begin to create healthier boundaries where your needs are respected.
2. Consider a gentle approach. If preserving your relationship with the narcissist is important to you, you will have to tread softly. By pointing out their hurtful or dysfunctional behavior, you are
damaging their self-image of perfection. Try to deliver your message calmly, respectfully, and as gently as possible. Focus on how their behavior makes you feel, rather than on their motivations and intentions. If they respond with anger and defensiveness, try to remain calm. Walk away if need be and revisit the conversation later.
3. Be prepared for other changes in the relationship. The narcissist will feel threatened and
upset by your attempts to take control of your life. They are used to calling the shots. To compensate, they may step up their demands in other aspects of the relationship, distance themselves to punish you, or attempt to manipulate or charm you into giving up the new boundaries. It’s up to you to stand firm.
4. Don’t take things personally. To protect themselves from feelings of inferiority and shame, narcissists must always deny their shortcomings, cruelties, and mistakes. Often, they will do so by
projecting their own faults on to others. It’s very upsetting to get blamed for something that’s not your fault or be characterized with negative traits you don’t possess. But as difficult as it may be, try not to take it personally. It really isn’t about you.
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5. Don’t buy into the narcissist’s version of who you are. Narcissists don’t live in reality, and that includes their views of other people. Don’t let their shame and blame game undermine your
self-esteem. Refuse to accept undeserved responsibility, blame, or criticism. That negativity is the narcissist’s to keep.
6. Don’t argue with a narcissist. When attacked, the natural instinct is to defend yourself and prove the narcissist wrong. But no matter how rational you are or how sound your argument, they are unlikely to hear you. And arguing the point may escalate the situation in a very unpleasant way. Don’t waste your breath. Simply tell the narcissist you disagree with their assessment, then move on.
7. Know yourself. The best defense against the insults and projections of the narcissist is a strong
sense of self. When you know your own strengths and weaknesses, it’s easier to reject any unfair criticisms leveled against you.
8. Let go of the need for approval. It’s important to detach from the narcissist’s opinion and any desire to please or appease them at the expense of yourself. You need to be okay with knowing the truth about yourself, even if the narcissist sees the situation differently.
V. Look For Support & Purpose Elsewhere If you’re going to stay in a relationship with
rebuilding lapsed friendships or cultivate new
a narcissist, be honest with yourself about
relationships
what you can—and can’t—expect. A narcissist isn’t going to change into someone who truly values you, so you’ll need to look elsewhere for emotional support and personal fulfillment.
1. Spend time with people who give you an honest reflection of who you are. In order to
3. Look for meaning and purpose in work, volunteering and hobbies. Instead of looking to the narcissist to make you feel good about
yourself, pursue meaningful activities that make use of your talents and allow you to contribute.
maintain perspective and avoid buying into the
To
narcissist’s distortions, it’s important to spend
Intelligence
time with people who know you as you really are
Emotional Intelligence Toolkit. Or talk to
and validate your thoughts and feelings.
a counselor or call 1325 the kids
2. Make new friendships, if necessary, outside the narcissist’s orbit. Some narcissists isolate the people in their lives in
order to better control them. If this is your situation, you’ll need to invest time into
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helpline to ask for help.
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Narcissists need help and so do you. Help each other and live a happier stress free life. An extract written by Melinda Smith, M.A. and Lawrence Robinson. Last updated: December 2019. Source: https://www.helpguide.org
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Hair Style trends
Written by Lorraine Foster
When going out to town and meeting up with friends, we all dress up and want to look chic, hip and trendy. But it is not only about the clothes you wear that gives you character. It is also about the hair style you have that creates a unique personality for you. In Fiji we are up to date with the world on hair styles and our hair dressers and barbers are able to create hair styles that we want. The other day I was sitting at the barbers salon in Nakasi, Suva and noticed how they artistically cut hair according to the client’s need, hair texture and in some cases the shape of the client’s face. Below are some of the common hairstyles that are trending now and you can have a combination of the hairstyles if you want to place special emphasis on the look of your hairstyle. Currently the following hair styles are trending and are common in Fiji amongst teenagers:
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1. UNDERCUT The undercut hairstyle is one of the most common haircuts in Fiji where the back and the sides of the head is cut short while the top of your head is cut in layers. This hair style works well for those who have fine and thin hair. Both young boys and girls are seen spotting this hairstyle.
2. SPIKEY If you have thick hair, a short spikey hair style would suit you whether you are a boy or girl. This hairstyle can also be combined with a undercut style. This hair style gives you a funky and somewhat punk look. For thin hair, you might need gel to keep the spikey hair standing.
3. CREW CUT When at the barber’s salon, I noticed parents bringing in their children for a haircut and almost all of the children had a crew haircut. For any hair texture, this hair cut is easy as all the barber needs to do is shave all areas of your head short. For young boys, it gives you a masculine and strong look and most security forces prefer their soldiers wearing this hairstyle. For young girls, it gives you that pixie and trendy look – but it is important that you have a nice shaped head and a long shaped face. This hairstyle is easy to maintain as there is no combing and can be washed every day.
4. POMPADOUR This hair style has been around for while where famous people like Elvis Presley and James Dean made it famous. Today it has been modernized to suit different tastes and the greasy hairstyles have now changed to a more textured look with the sides being undercut. Ideally the sides are short and the top of the head from the front is long and the hair is waved back. To maintain this style, you will need to blow dry the top of the head to get the full effect of the hairstyle.
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5. AFRO The afro hairstyle is vintage and in Fiji it is common amongst all ages and gender. You can have a big or small afro and it needs daily maintenance to maintain the round shape and of course to be able to “stand” firm during outings. I remember my grand mum would tie a scarf around her head every night before she went to bed so that the next day her hair would stand nicely when combed out. Also in Fiji we have a hot climate and therefor the hair needs to be washed at least two to three times a week.
6. SIDE PART This hair style is for all ages and gender and is quite popular with celebrities as well. It also has withstood time and many hairstyles with a side part gives you that classic look. In some cases the side part is actually shaved with a razor where you have a thin side part on your head. Both girls and boys have adopted this classic hairstyle.
7. BRAIDS/DREADLOCKS Braids are plaited strands of hair and there are many styles. This hairstyle gives you that Carribean look. Not all your hair needs to be braided and can just be only one strand of hair being plaited. You don’t need long hair as extensions can be added to make your hair seem long. This is a trendy look but needs to be maintained where you need to put nutrition and other chemicals to keep the head clean. Dreadlocks are the same and this can be done by an experienced hair dresser. This hairstyle needs maintenance where you need to ensure that you wash on a regular basis.
During the current COVID 19 pandemic, we had lockdowns, social distancing and curfews and this has restricted our movement where most of us stayed home. Caring of hair styles and having our regular haircuts was also limited. This allowed some of us to be a bit more imaginative with our hair styles and we know that most of you improvised with your hair styles and home hair cuts. There is a saying “Good hair days make me feel like I can take over the world”. Do you agree?
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written by Lorraine Foster
A moment with Fiji’s Teen Climate Activist & International Eco-Hero: AnnMary Raduva DID YOU KNOW
that Fiji has our very own Teen Climate Change Advocate, AnnMary Vikatoria
Raduva, a 16 years old student at the St. Joseph’s Secondary School in Waimanu Road, Suva. AnnMary is a household name and despite her age and her popularity she remains a humble teenager. She is an Arts student and her school subjects are Mathematics, English, Geography, Economics and History.
DID YOU KNOW that AnnMary is not from a Human Rights background but is just like any other
normal teenager. AnnMary’s comfort, safety and strength comes from her close-knit family who have always supported one another in the different life paths they have chosen to take. Her father Peceli Raduva is fromViwa, Bau Tailevu and is a preacher, farmer and currently a student at the Pacific Theological College. Her mom, Moira Raduva nee Vilsoni is from Malha’a, Rotuma and currently works at USP as a Communications Specialist for the Pacific Centre for Environment and Sustainable Development at the Marine Campus. AnnMary has two younger siblings,13 year old Faith and two year old Eunice. Eunice,[2 years old] is the miracle child that can easily manipulate the siblings into getting her own way.
DID YOU KNOW that despite her popularity and fame AnnMary is spiritual and is a family-oriented teenager. “I have many hobbies and interests as a young individual and I enjoy my own space too. I like taking “prayer walks” with my family to the seafront in the weekends.” “I also like to help my mother in the kitchen and to learn how to cook authentic Fijian (itaukei) and Rotuman dishes and I like to watch cooking shows because I think food bloggers and you tubers also have a lot to share about a country’s food culture and its gastronomic evolution.” “In my own space, I like to reflect on situations and events that have happened in my life and to use it as a springboard to shape the person I am. I like to read but my favourite book is my Bible and this is when I am in my own little world – literally.”
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DID YOU KNOW that through her advocacy work AnnMary has travelled the world and met world leaders but remains a humble teenager. “I also like travelling and I have been blessed to be able to travel to the United Arab Emirates (UAE) for holidays and recently to New York, although it was almost a “work” trip for me. In the UAE, I have visited the country’s renowned skyscrapers and have seen what the oil-wealth country can do when it comes to flashy mega projects. In New York, I loved Central Park, Times Square and the pizzas.” She was very fortunate to be invited to New York last year for the UN Climate Summit and the New York Climate March in September. She was sponsored and invited by the Center for Environmental Legal Studies of the Elisabeth Haub School of Law at Pace University (New York, US), in conjunction with the Normandie Chair for Peace and the University of Caen in France, and the William S. Richardson Law School of the University of Hawaiʻi.
DID YOU KNOW that due to her advocacy work AnnMary has met some very important people. “I was very fortunate to be invited by Professor Nicholas A Robinson.! He is a Professor of Law. Professor Nicholas A. Robinson has developed environmental law since 1969, when he was named to the Legal Advisory Committee of the President’s Council on Environmental Quality. He drafted New York’s wetlands and wild bird laws.” “I also met Attorney Tony Oposa Junior, a well-known environmental lawyer from the Philippines and who is now the Chair of the Normandie for Peace in France. And from this invitation, I have formed a good network and support from environmentalists, academics and youth activists who are mentoring me in my studies and campaigns too.”
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“I also like and love to watch documentary films of all genres. BBC and National Geographic documentaries are the series that I currently watch. BBC had produced a series “Our Journey to Europe” and one of the producers had contacted me just before the COVID 19 pandemic, so I am hoping that after the pandemic is over, we could reconnect for some documentary work.” On her advocacy travels and meetings, she has met the Jordanian Queen Her Majesty Queen Noor al-Hussein who is an avid environmental advocate and another prominent female world leader she met in Fiji is the New Zealand Prime Minister Ms. Jacinda Ardern. As she continues to advocate and work tirelessly for the environment she will become a prominent Pacific woman Leader in her own right and is now beginning to be an inspiration for all of us in the Pacific.
DID YOU KNOW that AnnMary is very concerned about environment and marine pollution. She is concerned about the impact of balloon releasing into the air and the pollution it causes to the aquatic and marine ecosystems. Her interests has now extended to climate change and with the assistance of the media, she has created much awareness and have done so much work towards fixing the negative effects of climate change in Fiji.
DID YOU NOW that AnnMary was also the first “Shadow British High Commissioner to Fiji” for a Day? AnnMary
was
invited
by
the
British
High
Commissioner to Fiji, Her Excellency Melanie Hopkins in March, 2020 to shadow her for a day. IN celebration of International Women’s Day 2020, the British High Commission in Suva (Fiji) created an exciting opportunity for a young Fijian women to become a Shadow High Commissioner for a
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day. This was an amazing chance to get firsthand experience on life as a DIPLOMAT and most importantly to promote and learn about women
with household items and food. We called our drive the Lagilagi Relief drive – after my sister Faith. Faith suggested that we pack some dignity
leadership.
kits for women and young adolescent girls in the
AnnMary’s day started with a briefing with the
tend to ignore this necessity – sanitary care.”
High Commissioner Hopkins at the official British High Commission residence in Suva. From the residence, she accompanied Her Excellency to all official engagements – meeting women
disaster affected areas because many times, we
“I thought it was a noble idea and since I was
already
advocating
on
eco-friendlier
alternatives and climate change, I was so proud
groups and government ministers.
of my younger sister’s initiative. We thought of
AnnMary ended her one-day being a diplomat
so we used some money that I had saved up to
at a Fiji government evening reception for the President of the United Nations General
packing 50 dignity kits to start things off for us buy mangrove seedlings to buy our first dignity kit items – sanitary pads, toothpaste, tooth brush
Assembly, H.E. Tijjani Muhammad-Bande.
and washing soap. After budgeting, we could
DID YOU KNOW that AnnMary is also a social worker and does this all with her family.
our parents if we could do 50 kits in my mom’s
“We also helped after TC Harold hit the Fiji group particularly in Vatulele, Kadavu and the Southern Lau Islands. After the cyclone, my sisters and I organised our own humanitarian recovery assistance drive to help some families
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only afford to pack 30 dignity kits, so we asked next salary. Like our mangrove planting events, we plan it according to my mom’s pay week. After our story was published, we received kind donations from Asaleo Care, the distributors of Libra pads in Fiji. Asaleo Care dropped 42 cartons (1008 sanitary packets of pads) at home so that we could reach our 1000 target. Today, we have received a lot of kind donations in toiletries and
cash to help us pack and distribute dignity kits – not just to disaster-affected areas but also to COVID 19 affected families in Lautoka and Nadi.” So far, the Lagilagi Relief drive have distributed more than 600 dignity kits to TC Harold and COVID 19 affected families throughout Fiji. The sisters are hoping to launch a legal campaign to advocate on free sanitary pads to be distributed in schools targeting 12 – 18 year old girls. Following New Zealand’s announcement by Prime Minister Arden to end period poverty in New Zealand – the sisters are hopeful and determined to see Fiji talking about ending period poverty on home soil.
DID YOU KNOW that AnnMary has continued her advocacy despite COVID 19 restrictions. The lockdowns and social distancing did not deter AnnMary from her advocacy work and she kept in touch with fellow environmentalists and her climate justice family via zoom meetings, WhatsApp chats and Twitter. “I sat in a zoom meeting panel for the Australian based Macquarie University Law Society workshop on social justice and I spoke on my campaigns and how I started my climate campaign journey. It was a very humbling experience and I am very fortunate to be mentored by law practitioners in Australia and to add these law students and academics into my climate justice family.” “During the lockdown I also contributed an article for the University of New South Wales (Australia)’s Human Rights Defender Journal. It has been published and I hope I can get my hard copy any time soon. I am also a columnist with the Fiji Sun and I enjoy writing and reading my published columns. These extra writing activities gives me an opportunity to use these spaces to expand my campaigns – since we
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can’t organise any public event, I hope my writing can inspire and empower other young budding writers and eco-champs.”
DID YOU KNOW that AnnMary has also been busy on the homefront helping out the family and doing gardening whilst also doing her online studies. “We are currently building a small home-grown garden that my sisters and I are working on. We called it our “C19 Victory Garden” and we enjoy the outdoors. It balances our study schedule and the charity work we do and it is also therapeutic to watch the seedlings germinate and grow. So far, we have 3 varieties of cabbage (Chinese, English and Choy Sum), long green beans, capsicum, cucumber, spring onions and carrots. This is just a small project for us because my father travels back to our farm to plant our root crops and fruit trees.” “This COVID 19 pandemic has disrupted many plans for many young climate activists and I am not spared either. Like the rest of the world, medium to large-scale climate activities had to be downgraded, forcing many of us to take our campaigns online. COVID 19 has also showed us that our daily interactions do have a major impact on our environment and oceans. After months and weeks of travel restrictions, lockdowns and curfews, we are doing our planet a great favour. There is less air traveling for climate change international events and I see families planting and growing their own food source with whatever space they have. The pandemic poses large-scale challenges socially and economically and we must capitalize on the opportunity to live sustainably.” “There has been a lot of happenings at home since the COVID 19 lockdown. We have had long distance learning/tutoring from our grandfather who lives in the UAE. And we also had a home
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school timetable schedule that our parents put up for us. We also have our worksheets from school so we don’t miss out on any of our notes.”
DID YOU KNOW that AnnMary has future aspirations to make her advocacy a profession. “In the long run, I would like to be an environmental lawyer and to work for a Ministry.” “I have many aspirations and desires but for now, I will try and complete Year 11 with good grades as a preparatory for my Year 12 external examinations. I have put my goals and desires on God’s hands and while I wait for school to resume, I am happy supporting my sister Faith’s dignity kits project, networking with my extended climate justice family and tending to our C19 Victory Garden at home.” As we ended our conversation with AnnMary, I could not help but admire this young lady who was resolute in her stance to help improve the environment and her confidence in speaking her mind. Her advise to teenagers on how to occupy themselves during COVID-19 was simple. “Stay home! And when you’re at home, look around the compound to see what you can do to occupy yourself. This is a good time for parents and children to build relationship and talk about REAL issues that matter. I love the curfew hours – our streets are quiet by 8pm.” “At home, we have spontaneous activities and it’s a beautiful family time. We also talk about trust issue and how to overcome this pandemic as a family. It is also a good time to mend and rekindle relationships and to build on family values and hopes.” As I conclude this story of a humble young woman AnnMary, I quote “You were born to be REAL – not Perfect”.
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WHAT’S HOT! written by Lorraine Foster images: Google DISNEY PLUS was first announced in August 2017 and now it is one of the most popular streaming services where movies and TV series are available. It covers the Pixar, Marvel, Star Wars and National Geographic brands and many more.The focus of Disney+ is family oriented and the movies are ideal to watch during the COVID-19 pandemic and are for both kids and adults. With more than over 600 movies and TV shows, families are able to enjoy together a movie or TV series.
ARTEMIS FOWL In June 2020 Disney+ will be releasing the movie “Artemis Fowl”. It is
DISNEY PLUS MOVIE IN JUNE 2020
a fictional movie about a 12 year old boy called Artemis Fowl. He is a genius and is a descendant of a long line of Irish criminal masterminds. His dad had mysteriously disappeared and with the assistance of his Butler, Artemis goes out to look for his dad and discovers an ancient, underground advanced civilisation of brilliant fairies. Artemis believes that this mysterious, secretive fairy world is somehow connected to his father’s disappearance. Artemis then cunningly comes up with a dangerous plan to outwit the powerful smart fairies. This movie is full of fantasy and magic but does not really portray the goodness in fairies. This movie will be out in June 2020 and we highly recommend watching it.
DIARY OF A FUTURE PRESIDENT DISNEY PLUS TV SERIES – TRENDING MAY 2020
As TV series become as popular as watching movies, most prefer TV series as they are shorter and you can also binge watch the various episodes. One of the most popular TV series trending on Disney+ now is the “Diary of a Future President”. The first episode was streamed on Disney+ in January 2020 and this family American Comedy is becoming popular. The TV series is about a young Cuban-American girl who dreams to become the future President of USA. The series is about the experiences of what a typical young teenager go through in her teen years. There have been mixed reactions about the
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episodes but it is highly recommended to watch as it discusses what teenagers go through and how future goals are set.
WHATS HOT! WHATS NOT!
WHAT’S NOT!
Netflix is an American Streaming service that is the most popular in Fiji. For a small monthly fee you are able to watch a variety of award-
NETFLIX – THE MOST VIEWED TV SERIES MAY 2020
NETFLIX – THE MOST VIEWED MOVIE MAY 2020
winning movies and TV Series on internet-connected devices.
BECOMING
It was interesting to note that Michelle Obama’s documentary called “BECOMING” is trending in Netflix. It is an intimate documentary about her life and hopes. This documentary follows her when she goes on her 34-city book tour and in some instances, it offers an insight when she is around friends and family. Michelle Obama is an obsession with many women in USA and she now spends time with groups of young youths, groups of women and continues to inspire, empower and motivate everyone around her and also those who read about her and watch her documentary. The saying about “Behind Every Man Stands a Strong Woman” – is emphasised in this documentary.
FEEL GOOD
In Netflix, one of the most viewed TV Series in May 2020 is called “Feel Good”. This is one of the most funniest series being done in a long time. The series is about a young couple Mae and George. Initially they seem to be a good fit but haven’t made it official amongst their friends. The series is about their everyday lives and what wrongs they do and how each one copes with the adverse effects like for example taking drugs.
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TRENDING MUSIC THE FIJIAN LOCAL SCENE – RADIO
First thing I do in the morning when I wake up before I brush my teeth is say my prayers and turn on the radio. The radio is turned off when I go to bed last thing at night. The radio is heard around my apartment and it is evident now that one of the most popular radio stations in Fiji is playing more local music. My pick for the most trending song currently on the Fiji Air Waves in the English Radio Stations is “Nai Loloma” sung by our very own Vude King Savuto Vakadewavosa. His latest song “NAI LOLOMA” is taking the radio air waves by storm and in some instances, the local radio stations in Fiji plays this song in the day and also in the evenings. This song is written by Mickey Niurua and Savuto and composed by Savuto. It is a romantic song about love and the theme of the song is about truly loving someone yet letting them live their happiness with or without you. In our relationships some of us experience negative situations and within these situations, there is always good to be found which is the unconditional love you feel for one another. The paid felt is the best gift you could give when parting.
FACEBOOK MOST POPULAR LOCAL GOSPEL SONG –SELAH GUEST As COVID-19 restricts us to go out for entertainment social media specifically Face Book has become a
popular
medium.
Currently “Selah Guest” Page offers us a platform for local singers to show case their talents at Gospel singing. An exceptional lady called Meretale Lakeba sang a song “God On The Mountain” and got 63.6 thousand views and she is trending now on this social media page. Please check this Face Book Page out.
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As we try to entertain ourselves at home with the closure of cinemas and restrictions on leisure activities outdoors, let us be responsible citizens and ensure that we all adhere to the COVID-19 rules.
written by Lorraine Foster images: Supplied
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I AM CAPABLE
took on more complex cooking like helping out
As COVID 19 takes a toll on the whole world in
even palusamis.
terms of social distancing, all of us have tried to cope with being at home with family members 24 hours a day and for at least four months. Curfews and social distancing are still limiting socialising with our many friends and in some cases this has put some mental strain on some
with lovos, cooking meals like curries, stews and
ROSI SENIBUA’S STORY Let us take Rosi Senibua for example. She is 18 years old and a Year 13 student at Adi
of us.
Cakobau School. Rosi comes from a family of
It is certainly good news that school starts on
baker and event organiser. It was evident
30th June 2020 for Year 12 and Year 13 and this will give the opportunity for these youths to catch up with friends but there must also be precautionary procedures in place for
predominantly girls. Her mum is an excellent that the girls would pick up this art of cooking and other skills that their mum had acquired. “My sisters and I just somehow had to pick a category – whether it was event decoration,
prevention of the spread of COVID.
floral arrangement or baking. I did not even
Being at home with parents has stimulated the
cake designs. It was during the COVID crisis
urge for the young ones to learn how to cook
think baking was my thing especially with that I practised to bake, decorate and design
and help out parents in preparation of meals.
cakes. Now I bake chocolate, vanilla, marble,
Through social media, it was evident that
name a few. But my speciality is cake designs
secondary school teens and even primary students helped out with the cooking and prepared meals. This was a good way to occupy time and also help out at home. The young people were seen baking, decorating and designing cakes, scones and pies and others
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coconut and pineapple upside down cakes to because designing was a passion of mine from childhood. During spare time I’d make sketches of things I found interesting specifically clothes but during this period I’ve just had the opportunity to transfer my sketches onto the cakes and it’s really fun.”
When the family used to sit and discuss business matters, Rosi really did not have any interest in their family business. “I was always in ‘my zone’ unbothered about the business discussions because I didn’t really have an interest, so my young mind thought. I would help but I had no intentions of running a business.” When COVID happened, the long break at home gave Rosi an opportunity to improve her skills in baking and it was then that designing cakes became an avid interest for this young gifted baker. “I’m grateful for the opportunity and I thank God for the talent.” Rosi, now takes orders for specific designed cakes for all occasions. Check out “Adi’s Passion” on face book for examples of Rosi’s cakes and if you want a taste of her delightful pasteries, please go down to COFFEE BEANS at Parade Arcade in Suva. You must try the Chocolate Trifle and other deserts that has been made with love by Rosi Senibua. I AM TEEN will closely follow Rosi’s intended future in business and we wish her the best.
SARA NAWA’S STORY Sara Nawa is a “Kiwi” by birth but the Fijian blood how to make these Fijian Pies – it’s the ones with runs through her veins as her parents are from custard on top because everyone says my mum Fiji. She attends Freybound Community School makes the best Fijian Pies ever, BUT I am going to in Auckland. At a very young age, Sara’s interest top that. I am learning all the tricks now.” for baking started. “I love baking and creating things because it is fun and we also get to have During the COVID period Sara practised her yummy treats after that. I would see my mum baking skills fervently at home and her skills create all this fancy looking cakes from a simple were being recognised widely. She has made round one. I always told my mum I would take cupcakes for an event celebrating a baby over our home kitchen one day. I am not there turning 7 months - it was Vanilla Yoghurt cup yet because everyone loves my mum’s cooking cakes with Nutella icing. A chocolate bunt cake and her famous Fijian Pies. I still have to learn was also done for a Sunday event and now Sara is noted for her famous choco mudcake. It seems that during the COVID pandemic, positive vibes with the teenagers in terms of their cooking skills progressed and in some cases these teenagers began earning an income from their skills. Will this be the way of the future where our teenagers are now being taught to be good effective and efficient business people? I am excited and I know that these teenagers are more than capable to run their own business.
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COPING WITH MENTAL HEALTH DURING COVID – 19 written by Lorraine Foster
The global pandemic of COVID-19 has given us all a unique opportunity to “be together as a family” at home. For some of us, this was fun as we did not have to go to school. But for some of us, it was mentally stressful as this meant spending 24 hours with our parents and siblings. Not only Fiji, but the whole world experienced various
social
distancing,
lockdowns
and
curfews as Governmental world leaders tried to minimise the COVID 19 from spreading within their own countries. COVID 19 is still around and therefore restrictions and certain health precautions like washing of hands and social distancing still applies. These
restrictions
can
adversely
affect
a
person’s mental health irrespective of age. Parents are mainly the income earners and a few adults have been made redundant due to this pandemic. Therefore the adults are also under pressure to ensure that everyone in the household has food and shelter and the bills are paid. For teenagers, social media and the Internet provides us with information and in some cases, the information may cause panic and anxiety. Therefore it is important to ensure that the information you receive is correct. In Fiji, our Fiji Governmental websites will have reliable information and most of the time, our Fiji Prime Minister gives regular media coverages and it is good to listen to these coverages. So far Fiji is doing well in handling COVID-19 as our affected patients have recovered and so far no deaths. To avoid unnecessary stress within the home it is useful to create a new normal environment. Please be mindful that the adults within your household are going through stress and anxiety as well and it is during these very unusual times, that all family members must get to appreciate one another.
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HEALTH Everyone must realise that this pandemic will end and even thought it feels endless now, and there is no specific timeline, we must all play a part in being positive and strictly follow the specific social distancing rules. For most of us who are at school, the days spent at home are like you on vacation because there is no getting up early and no going to school. It is important however that you maintain a schedule for yourself everyday where there is an allocated time to wake up, have breakfast and your day is planned accordingly. This will allow you to know how you will spend the day and doing school work must be part of the routine as it keeps you up to date with your school work and when school starts in June 2020, you would be up to date with your school lessons. Your daily schedule should also include physical activities as being isolated from your friends and school mates can cause loneliness and irritation. Physical exercise can certainly take away the anxiety. Physical activities can include planting and as seen on social media it is a good thing to see family members having vegetable gardens. Staying home saves lives. I am sure most of us have been watching TV, listening to the radio and reading in the local newspapers about citizens ignoring the specific hours of being inmovement and some are being charged in the courts of Fiji. These isolation measures are important as it will minimise the spread of this deadly virus and soon we should be be free again to go out and be with friends and school mates. Playing in groups is also discouraged and currently not allowed so let’s abide by these rules to get rid of COVID-19 as quickly as we can. It is during these times that we not only keep ourselves safe but also our family, friends and others. Taking breaks from social media, listening to the news or even watching TV can also be helpful to relieve stress. Repeatedly hearing about COVID-19 can be quite stressful and it might be an idea to have a face to face conversation about different things you enjoy with other members of the family or call your friends or school mates for a casual talk. Even playing cards or board games with family members can help you relax. If there is domestic violence or violence within the home and you need to talk to someone, there are certain groups you can talk to. Lifeline Fiji has a toll-free telephone Number 132-454. Please call them to talk to them. They have people on call 24 hours a day and 7 days a week. You can also talk to close family members or friends who are able to help you in times of need. If urgent help is needed, you should call the Police. As COVID-19 spreads throughout the world and as the various countries around the world try to cope with the adverse effects of the physical health of their citizens, mental health will also increase as well. Other adverse effects like the downturn of the economies and social issues like unemployment will also increase.We must ALL play a part in rising above these negative vibes and support our immediate family members, friends and neighbours. We cannot fight this pandemic alone. We must all do it together and only then will Fiji become “THE WAY THE WORLD SHOULD BE” again.
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QUARANTINE written by Savannah Waqalevu “A pause button” “Time for family” “An eye-opener” “ A privilege” These were a few key words that stood out when I asked a couple of my friends what their thoughts
were on quarantine. With the whole world put to a sudden stop- every teen out there was literally forced into isolation. Being stripped of the simple things like school, family celebrations, church
functions to travelling, sports, watching movies and eating out with friends, quarantine has given us the time to reminisce about the things we’d take for granted.Without realising it, we were all forced into a time to take a pause, reflect and be grateful.
Personally, quarantine has given me the “me-time” that I didn’t know I needed, it’s been a good time
to re-evaluate, re-focus and do things at my own time. However, juggling distance learning and the responsibility that comes with all the free time, has been more difficult than I care to admit.
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THOUGHTS “Quarantine has been boring?”
Ask any teenager out there, and their response is most likely to be similar to that. No one had expected to be given this type of free time, it was a sudden stop that came without warning.
Short days with long nights, quarantine has founded boredom and loneliness, which are words that are often filtered down but commonly understood at this time.
All this free time can be dangerous and can result in damaging mental and physical behaviours within we, the youth. This is why in times like this, it is important to realise that all this free time comes
with a sorta- responsibility. Therefore, your perspective and the way you choose to deal with things can be helpful.
Quarantine can be overwhelming.
Since everyone is practicing distance learning, through online classes or self-taught assignments-
I’m sure that I am not alone in saying that the change is honestly a struggle at first. Adapting to a new style of learning and work environment while trying to successfully manage your time can be difficult and stressing which I can say as it is from experience!
This is why consistency in time-management is important, difficult to maintain at first but it really does pay off in the end.
Quarantine has affected each and every one of us differently, it can feel like a much needed peaceful
time for some and the worst thing in the world for others. I’m sure, like everyone else, I had a lot of expectations and big plans for this year, but it is what it is. God just had other plans for me. Actually, I’m sure he just has this big plan for every one of us- that we can only see a part of right now. “Be patient, establish your heart for the coming of the Lord is at hand”-James 5:8 Quarantine is a privilege.
Looking at the way the Covid-19 Coronavirus has impacted the world, we should count ourselves
blessed that it hasn’t affected us as much as it could have, which I personally believe is due to
how successfully our country has been maintaining quarantine. With doctors and medical workers
fighting in the forefront against the virus to losing loved ones to this pandemic, keeping in quarantine
is the least we can do. Having quarantine as our biggest situation is a blessing, as it could be so much worse- and therefore we should learn to be grateful for that.
Giving us the time to be left with our thoughts, to spend more time with family and ourselvesquarantine is a love-hate relationship, it just depends on the perspective you choose to view it with.
After a while, all of this will make sense and everything will sort of fall into place. Just take the
opportunity to do something creative and constructive with your time because there’s honestly hundreds of things you can learn, try, read and change. It all just depends on how you want to go about it. “We can’t direct the winds but we can adjust the sails”- Thomas.S.Monson So take this remaining time in quarantine to make something more positive out of something negative. Take the time for yourself and for your family- to continue in gratefulness and love, making the best out of this situation.
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