10 Things I Learned When I Sent My Kids to Camp

There are certain things I anticipated about sending my kids to summer camp. I knew they would spend a lot of time outside and would try new things. I was thrilled they would meet new people, learn, swim, laugh and stay up way too late. When they got home, I realized there were other things I couldn’t have imagined. Despite having gone to camp as a kid, I somehow forgot or didn’t look atit through the same lens. Now, as a mom, I was surprised at what I discovered when they returned. Beyond the fun, silly games and bonfire stories, these are the things I didn’t see coming.

They grew. The kids left looking like my babies and somehow came home more grown-up. It doesn’t matter if they are gone the whole summer or two days, independence helps kids thrive and grow.

That last hug and first hug were the best I’d had in a long time. This will especially be true if you have tweens or teens.

Those hugs are just magic.

They were stinky. Whether they go to day camp or spend three weeks in a cabin, hygiene is different at camp, but they’ll survive and you can send them right to the shower when they get home.

They spent all their camp store money on candy. They’ll be fine.

They struggled, which is OK. Think about a time you had to work really hard for something or a time you failed and tried again. What happened? You learned, persevered and became stronger. So, yes, at camp there was struggle. Maybe the kids didn’t get the top bunk or weren’t able to stand up on the water skis. Maybe they missed home. But they made a friend that helped them feel less lonely. Whatever the struggle, it was an opportunity for growth they would not have had at home and that makes the struggle valuable.

The laundry smelled like damp gym shoes left in a garbage can for a week, which was odd since they wore the same clothes most of the time. Rule of thumb—if it went to camp, it gets washed. Clothes, sleeping bags, people—all of it.

They were exhausted and just wanted to sleep. You’re going to want to hear all about camp and they’ll be excited to tell you for about 15 minutes. Then they will fall into a deep sleep, perhaps even through dinner and until the next day. There is nothing wrong, they are simply exhausted from their adventures.

They now have friends you don’t know. They met kids and counselors and made new friendships. They’ll talk about these people as if you know them. Just play along and enjoy the stories.

Your letters or emails meant more to you than they did to the kids. If they barely toss a thank you your way, it’s OK. The notes served their purpose—they reminded the kids you are always there for them and they let you feel more connected. Win-win.

They spent the whole week in “go mode.” Even if it was their best week ever, they are glad to be home where they can relax. They may want to go again next year, but for now, home feels great for both of you. v

Rebecca Hastings