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St. Peter's Association (Barkur) Mumbai, Celebrated it's Silver Jubilee on 13th October 2013 at St. Vincent Pallotti Church Hall, Marol, Mumbai. Seen in the picture Bishop Henry D'Souza, of Bellary Diocese, Rev. Fr. Valerian Mendonca, Parish Priest, St. Peter's Church - Barkur along with the committee members. St. Peter's Association is one of the most active organisation of Mangaloreans in Mumbai involved in several social and charitable work in Mumbai as well as in Barkur Parish of newly created Udupi Diocese.
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Shocking Revelation: Priests Are Normal People
Tokyo: When I was in high school, I had an after-
school and summer job delivering medical supplies to infirmaries and clinics in department stores, ships and office buildings in New York City. Over time, I got to know many of the receptionists at those places. Lugging boxes around 'the concrete jungle' as I went from place to place in New York’s hot, humid summer made the air conditioned reception areas of office buildings attractive places for Fr. William Grimm a short break. One summer day, a receptionist at the headquarters of an insurance company asked what my plans for the future were. I told her that I was entering a seminary at the end of the summer holiday. With a shocked expression on her face, she said, “but you’re normal! Why would you do something like that?” There are people who think there is something abnormal about priests. Some think we are ignorant, crazy and possibly dangerous fanatics. The sexual abuse of children by bishops and priests and its cover-up have given them good reasons to think that way. Usually, they have never actually met and talked with any of us. So long as those people are not aggressively illmannered, I generally find their attitude no more than mildly annoying, sometimes embarrassing and often even amusing. A bit of conversation, perhaps over a drink, is enough to get them to admit that there might be at least one exception to their rule. The people with whom I have no patience are those who think clergy are abnormal because they are somehow or other superhuman beings with special access to God, possessing special wisdom and power and deserving special treatment. Among those who think this way are too many clergy. I once saw a book for seminarians that warned against frequent contact with lay folk lest they realize that “priest eggs” (as they are sometimes called in Japan), are normal human beings. Clergy often receive special treatment, more often than not the sort of treatment one might give an imbecile demigod who is semi-divine, but incapable of handling the normal demands of life — like picking up a restaurant check. Too many of the objects of special treatment rather like life on a pedestal. (Contd.. on p. 4)
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Missionary Society’s 50th Year of Approbation
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he Missionary Society of the Sa cred Heart of Jesus (MSCJ) of fered a Thanksgiving Eucharist on Friday, 4th October 2013, in the Chapel of St. Andrew’s College, St. Dominic Road, Bandra, to observe 50 years of the Pontifical Approbation of their Congregation. Bishop Percival J. E. Fernandez celebrated the evening Thanksgiving Eucharist with three concelebrants, including Fr. Vernon Aguiar and Fr. Michael Goveas. Sharing the joy of the sisters, many of whom had come to Bandra from their mission stations, was a huge congregation which spilled out of the Chapel and into the concourse. In a dedicated homily, Bishop Percival easily recounted anecdotes in his much-appreciated “Change Yourself & Change the World” format. He commended the good work of the mission(Contd.. from p. 3) Some expect such treatment. There are many who shape their lives around being ever ready to receive it. I’ve even met a few sorry cases who became priests in order to have a place upon the pedestal. There are others (the majority, I hope, but sometimes I wonder) who try to climb down from the pedestal upon which others put them. But people try to shove them back. Why is that? Why do so many people want their clergy to be specially treated and insulated from life? Is it a bribe? If so, what do people gain by their deference, their special treatment toward religious leaders? In bribing the preachers, do they unconsciously hope to bribe God? Are they looking for some sort of payback from God? Does treating clergy as children allow people to not take them seriously? Perhaps they are hoping that by putting preachers outside the responsibilities of everyday life, they can keep them from applying the Word of God to those situations of everyday life where they would rather not have to hear what God expects of us.
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aries, who may have not had baptisms but more importantly had taken the Church to innermost tribal areas sharing the good news and God’s generous love. He concluded with an oft repeated quote of Mahatma Gandhi to a pastor in the 1940s, that “if Christians only lived like Jesus Christ, the whole world would be Christian.” It must therefore be mentioned that the Missionary Society of the Sacred Heart, now grown into an internationally represented congregation, was founded in 1942 by Mother Pilar Navarro Garrido of Spain. Today, the MSCJ presence is witnessed in all the Continents and through their Mission stations carry God’s love and service to the people of Colombia, Peru, Haiti, the Congo, Chad, Morocco, Cambodia, Spain and India. Does it matter? Yes, it does, because in addition to the sacraments, clergy do have something important to offer the Church in its mission to the world: guidance, education, example. Giving example is not unique to them, of course — every Christian is an example of how to live as a disciple of Christ — but by being publicly recognized representatives of the community, the clergy are in a position to attract attention from those who want or need to see the servant Church in action. But, how can someone who acts or is treated as nobility show what it is to be a servant? How can someone treated as an incompetent instruct? So, what shall we do? We can probably do little about clerical careerists who likely have purple piping on their bathrobes and gold cufflinks on their pajamas. Settling for the material and emotional “perks” of ministry and missing out on the spiritual excitement and rewards of real service is their self-inflicted punishment. We can, however, see what we do to perpetuate the semi-deification of the clergy. For starters, imagine asking a bishop, priest or deacon to help wash
The Congregation first set foot in India in 1961, in response to the appeal of the then Parish Priest of Surat, who envisaged the possibility of spreading the good news in the villages of south Gujarat. The pioneering Sisters fully integrated with the locals sharing their meals, joys and sorrows and in return sowing the seeds of faith in Jesus Christ. Their gradual acceptance ensured the establishment of the Church to spread the good news and gradually make these tribals, called Gamits aware of their social responsibilities as well as their entitlements, much to the dismay of present day politicians and their methods of functioning! The caring presence of the Sisters has been gratefully appreciated by the inhabitants of their various Mission outposts, and their healing touch has also eased the suffering of the inmates at the Parvatibai Leprosy Hospital, Surat. the dishes. If the thought startles you, ask why it does and if it should. Cardinal Luis Antonio Tagle, archbishop of Manila, recently told ucanews.com that he was surprised that the media is making a fuss about an interview with Pope Francis “that looks very normal”. The cardinal may have missed the point that normalcy from a pope (as from Cardinal Tagle, himself reportedly a refreshingly normal man) is newsworthy. We have a pope who probably need not be asked to help with the dishes because he would volunteer to do them. The unseemly spectacle of hypocritical bishops and priests around the world falling over themselves to praise the new pope’s normalcy when only months ago they sang equally loud paeans to a monarchical papacy and hierarchy is actually a cause for some hope. Whether it be pandering or real conversion, we may be able to expect to see clergy in the kitchen who never before knew where it was. They may find that they like having soapy hands. And then they will be better able to lead us into the dirty places of our world to bring the cleansing Word.
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Real ‘Growth’ As We See It The current controversy is ill founded. They are all arguing about whose growth is bigger – ‘teri khamez aur meri khamez ki safedi’ type of a slugfest. They are politicians and possess the enviable skills required to sustain. Each one finds and remembers only what is politically convenient either to pin down the other side or to highlight his achievements. In the case of growth, which has been phenomenal, both sides are right. Take the case of the ruling combine whose last five years of rule is full of growth. There is tremendous growth in inflation, growth in scams [one bigger than the other – the CWC, the 2G, Coalgate etc], growth in misuse of CBI, growth in crimes like rapes murders, growth in ordinances instead of bills, growth in public dissatisfaction / frustration etc. The list is endless. In the coming few months we will see more such growth before the UPA loses its hold on the administration. They would like to make the most of it. On the other hand the opposition, particularly the BJP, is not lagging behind. As a responsible opposition party it has ensured that there is marked growth in disturbances in Parliament, growth in verbal assaults on the person of the Prime Minister, growth in loss of valuable time of the Parliament. There is perceptible growth in defiance of the Chair in both the Houses. By the way, there is tremendous growth in the internal differences with covert fight for supremacy. We have also seen growth in top leaders showing open dissent which they prefer to call ‘democratic way of expressing ones opinion’. There is growth in denials. Finally there is growth in denying that they play temple politics. They are right. It is taken care of by RSS. Their growth is visible. Incidentally, there is growth in regular indictments of Gujarat Government by the CAG. What is the need of the hour is growth in tolerance to accommodate the views of the two parties and to do what they are actually elected for. They find time to legis-
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VIEWS on NEWS late on matters which benefit themselves but have no time to pass the numerous bills which are in limbo. Political parties have redefined growth for their selfish ends. *****
by Marshall Sequeira
MODIs – Namo and Lamo Ordnance v/s Ordinance This is the story of two Modis – one Narendra Modi [Namo] and the other Lalit Modi [Lamo]. Both were being hounded by their detractors for different reasons. Namo is being targeted for his alleged covert role in the Gujarat riots for which he refuses to take moral responsibility and apologize. His elevation as the BJP face for PMship saw grumpy faces, drama, farcical reconciliation, fake public appearance together on a common platform and finally to be snubbed by the grand old man of the party in public. Lamo on the other hand, a fugitive who ran away from law, talks a bit too much. He thought he could pin down the BCCI establishment. He fought from the UK tooth and nail. Like in life, sometimes you win and at other times you lose. Finally, the High Court gave a goahead for SGB meeting which ultimately banned him for life. Unlike the other Modi, this one, who was a power unto himself, was humiliated by the unanimous decision. No friends left to support him. He was found guilty of financial irregularities culminating in huge losses to the board which is so powerful that it can stall the Sports Ministry’s initiative to bring all sports bodies under public scrutiny. Namo is showing his little finger to his detractors, particularly his bete noire – L K Advani, the other man Lamo is licking his wounds which may soon fester. He has promised to ‘disclose’ everything and expose those who sacked him. He wants to know why he should be singled out for the sins committed collectively. Let us wait. *****
Oxford dictionary defines ‘ordnance’ as large guns mounted on wheels. This is precisely what Rahul Gandhi opted for when he decided to attack the now defunct ordinance to shield criminal legislators from the provisions of the apex court ruling. He targeted the ordinance – something which was created with the inputs from the Congress Core Group of which, presumably, he is a part. If he did not subscribe to what was proposed, a simple ‘veto’ [toy gun] could have served the purpose of stalling the move. He chose the more dramatic option of using heavy artillery [Bofor’s Gun?] to have his say. A normally suave and low key leader decided to resort to dramatics. He sends a letter to the Prime Minister when he was away and without waiting for his comments, fires his salvo. In the past too, during the Lok Pal debate in Parliament, he had chosen to suggest a constitutional body much to the surprise of his own party men and the Prime Minister. Such important suggestions generally come from the Prime Minister or a senior cabinet minister – not an ordinary MP. The late realization that he used harsh words and the reported admonishment by mummy are after thought. Why did he wait for almost a week to express regret? Did the mother wake up late as well? There seems to be some desperation in the Congress camp and it shows. Within a few days you forced the PM to backtrack on an issue which was cleared not only by the UPA but also the cabinet itself. Wonder who is ruling the nations!
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Pope Calls Synod To Focus On Divorce And Remarriage
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he predicament of divorced and remarried Catholics will be a ma jor topic of discussion when bishops from around the world meet at the Vatican in October 2014. The Vatican announced Oct. 8 that an extraordinary session of the Synod of Bishops will meet Oct. 5-19, 2014, to discuss the "pastoral challenges of the family in the context of evangelization." The pope had told reporters accompanying him on his plane back from Rio de Janeiro in July that the next synod would explore a "somewhat deeper pastoral care of marriage," including the question of the eligibility of divorced and remarried Catholics to receive Communion. Pope Francis added at the time that church law governing marriage annulments also "has to be reviewed, because ecclesiastical tribunals are not sufficient for this. It is complex, the problem of the pastoral care of marriage." Such problems, he said, exemplified a general need for forgiveness in the church today. "The church is a mother, and she must travel this path of mercy, and find a form of mercy for all," the pope said. The announcement of the synod came amid news that the Archdiocese of Freiburg, Germany, had issued new guidelines making it easier for divorced
and remarried Catholics to receive Communion. The Vatican spokesman, Jesuit Father Federico Lombardi, said that such matters were more properly dealt with at a church-wide level, "under the guidance of the pope and the bishops." "For persons or local offices to propose particular pastoral solutions runs the risk of generating confusion," he said. "The Holy Father is placing the pastoral care of the family at the heart of a synod process that will be larger, involving the reflection of the universal church." The October 2014 gathering will be an "extraordinary general session" of the synod, which according to the Code of Canon Law is held to "deal with matters which require a speedy solution." It will be composed for the most part of the presidents of national bishops' conferences, the heads of the Eastern Catholic Churches, and the heads of major Vatican offices. Only about 150 synod fathers will take part in the session, which will run for two weeks, Father Lombardi said, compared with about 250 bishops who attended the three-week ordinary gen-
eral assembly on the new evangelization in October 2012. This will be only the third extraordinary synod since Pope Paul VI reinstituted synods in 1965, to hold periodic meetings to advise him on specific subjects. A 1969 extraordinary session was dedicated to improving cooperation between the Holy See and national bishops' conferences; and a 1985 extraordinary session, dedicated to the 20th anniversary of the end of the Second Vatican Council, recommended the compilation of the Catechism of the Catholic Church, which was published seven years later. Pope Francis, who replaced the synod's secretary-general Sept. 21, has suggested that he wants to make it into a permanent advisory body. On Oct. 1, Pope Francis and the new Council of Cardinals advising him on church governance spent much of their first day together discussing synod reform. On Oct. 7-8, the pope attended meetings of the synod's governing council. Instead of summoning the council officers, according to the usual protocol, the pope visited them at their office a few blocks from Vatican City.
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New Hope For Non-believers Pope Francis has given new hope to atheists and non-believers with his recent statement to the Italian Press, that non-believers are also saved from the fires of hell, provided they follow the dictates of their conscience to decide what is good and what is evil. The statement has raised many an eyebrow in the Christian world triggering debate and speculation that religion , sacred scriptures, and God’s commandments, are now no longer necessary to tell us what is good and evil. It could also mean that we now have 2 sets of moral laws ---one for the followers of religion and one for the followers of one’s conscience. Following one’ s conscience to decide what is good , evil or sinful will also serve as a morale booster to the growing individualism in the church and those Catholics who feel no pangs of conscience to enter into live-in relationships, practise family-planning using contraceptives, and opt for medical termination of pregnancies (abortions), which the Catholic church till now has explicitly forbidden under pain of mortal sin. We look forward to some more clarification on this contentious issue.
Need To Reduce Fuel Consumption In view of the serious energy crisis and mounting foreign exchange debt faced by the country , Union oil minister Mr Veerappa Moily, in his recent public appearance has appealed to the people to cut down on fuel consumption to save foreign exchange and make us less dependent on imports. To set the ball rolling, Mr Moily has set us a wonderful example by locking up his car in the garage and commuting to his workplace by metro. Mr Moily hopes other ministers will follow his example, which according to estimates, will bring about a saving of Rs. 40,000/ per day. This is not something new, as we have had similar exercises undertaken in the
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past by ministers in other states, travelling in overcrowded local trains in public limelight, only to return to their ministerial cars the next day. If the govt really means business, then it becomes necessary to start by cutting down on petrol and diesel allowances of our honourable ministers and Members of Parliament, which are presently being enjoyed and also misused for personal pursuits. Once this is done at the Centre, the same can be adopted at the state level. —A. F. Nazareth, Alto Porvorim
Bishop's Big Families I have just received the issue dt 23rd September. It was sickening to see the report about the Kerala bishops honouring "big families", ostensibly to promote family life ! I have consistently condemned such reports whenever they appeared in the press. This is a dangerous trend. Are our bishops competing with the maulanas and pujaris for demorgraphic hegemony ? The "nonsense should be torn up". The reality is that small families means that there are no fresh "recruits" to Kerala's seminaries and novitiates, which is the bishop's real fear, and their not so hidden agenda to promote big families. For the last twenty years I have been saying that celibate old males in boardrooms should not arbitaritily decide what young couples do in their bedrooms.
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Jesus’ Mandate Is T o To Evangelize The Faith
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n the question of Salvation, Ram Mohan John knew very little, but somehow remembered hearing it somewhere. It might have been at a Sunday Service, or at Sunday school when he was ten years old. “ I can only recall an incident when a friend told me I would sin by using cuss words. I said, so what? And he replied that Christ had died on the cross for our redemption and salvation.”
went to Galilee with eleven apostles and instructed them. “ Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit.” Mat.28:19. In his book, Two Precepts of Charity, St. Thomas Aquinas wrote : “ Three things are necessary for the salvation of man : to know what he ought to believe; to know what he ought to desire; and to know what he ought to do.” The saint, in his Summa Theologica went on to expand and clarify his view. “ Human salvation demands the divine disclosure of truths surpassing reason. “
Sunday’s liturgy (20th October) draws our attention to evangelization, the mandate from Jesus and of the mission we were chosen for. “Sing of his glorious name! Tell the world how wonderful he is.” Ps.66:2. The role of faith and Melvyn Brown The Year of Faith ( with the salvation is especially imporcore message to evangetant in our lives. It creates a separation lize) was declared open by Pope of the mind, the material from the spiri- Benedict XVI on 11th October 2012. It tual. called upon the faithful to share the faith, give it more exposure and to Ram Mohan took what he could from acknowledge it as ‘ a moment of great the encounter with the word Salvation, grace’. It was to be a time of great and was always alert for further under- responsibility for all believers. The Word standing. It never came. Not in his and the sacraments are a gift from God religious rituals at home nor in the for us to help spread the faith. The service he attended on getting mar- theme of the Year was “The Door of ried. In fact, like St. Monica, the mother Faith” Acts 14:27. The Holy Father of St. Augustine, Ram’s wife young wife wanted the Church and the people of was a devout Catholic and a woman of God to propagate evangelization prayer. Rebecca taught him about the across the world. The Holy Year draws Eucharist, the love of God, the Trinity to an end on 24th November 2013, the and of Salvation. In her husband’s heart solemnity of Christ the King. she sealed the mandate of Christ to spread the faith. Later, he would be- This will lead us to understand what ‘ come a voice to be heard in his circles, the freedom of faith’ means. Being hua voice which would center on the man, man expects nothing less than to passion, redemption and resurrection have freedom in his belief. “…therefore of Christ for our Salvation. nobody is to be forced to embrace the faith against his will. The act of faith is of Before his ascension Christ gave his its very nature a free act “ CCC . 160: 39. missionary mandate to his disciples. It In the Catechism of the Catholic Church was a firm and explicit demand to make we listen to God : “For he bore witness “disciples of all nations”. In the Gospel to the truth but refused to use force to reading for the day St. Mathew enlight- impose it on those who spoke against ens the faithful of the time when Jesus it. His Kingdom … grows by the love
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with which Christ, lifted up by the cross, draws men to himself.” CCC. 160:41. “A forced faith is a hypocrisy hateful to God and man. “ said Henry Manning, statement, to Gladstone. Like the early disciples let us share the treasures of our belief ; preaching, promoting and converting people. Ask God in your daily prayers for a truly Christian miracle : Overcoming Satan and the forces of evil ; to conquer in His name and to be sons of the New Jerusalem through Jesus’ mandate. We must learn how to save souls in our own backyards, among friends, unbelievers and the curious. There is a new expression in pastoral efforts called ‘The New Evangelization which had been initiated by the late Blessed Pope John Paul II. This was truly a vision for the New Millennium : a renewal in the Church. This will be a jewel in the crown of faith. St. Augustine once said : “Faith is to believe, on the word of God, what we do not see, and its reward is to see and enjoy what we believe.” It is interesting to note that St. Augustine, On the Gospel of St. John, wrote : “ Understanding is the reward of faith. Therefore seek not to understand that thou mayest believe, but believe that thou mayest understand. “ The New Evangelization is a big step towards belief in understanding our faith. Faith is man’s response to God, who reveals himself and gives himself to man, at the same time bringing man a superabundant light as he searches for the ultimate meaning of his life. CCC.26. There is something unmistakably awesome about the faith we are bestowed with. Joan of Arc was chosen and blessed with faith. In the heart of a battle she said : “ The Lord will open a way for me through the midst of them…For that was I born.”
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Why You Can't Save Money? We are all pretty good at spending money, but are you good at saving it? If not, here are 10 reasons you’re bad at saving money and how to overcome them. Have you ever wondered why your savings account is always showing zeros while others are able to stockpile money like it's nothing? If this describes your current financial status, here are ten reasons you may find saving money s hard thing to do.
`1: Your parents are bad at saving money You live how you know so if you weren’t given the knowledge or encouragement to save, then you will probably continue the cycle. While this may explain your current situation, don’t use it as an excuse. Teach yourself what you need to know so that you can pass the information on to your kids and help them break the cycle.
to be able to afford those luxuries. If it is the former, why do that to yourself? And if it is the latter, use that as motivation to do the same.
`4: You don’t follow a budget When you don’t have a plan for how you’re going to use the money you have coming in, you are leaving your financial future in the hands of the unknown. Take the time to sit down monthly and create a budget. Decide to direct some of your income into a savings account because if you don’t, you will spend it instead.
`5: You live beyond your means If you’re the person who always has to
`2: You’re impulsive Living like it’s your last day on earth is great in theory, but rough on the pocketbook. Commit to only buying the things you both need and planned for.
your friends or neighbors spending habits It can be pretty frustrating to see those around you with expensive things or going on exotic trips so it’s understandable that you want to live like they do so you don’t feel left out. However, the reality is that they are either putting themselves in debt to have that lifestyle or they’ve saved up
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Don’t be afraid to see if the seller is willing to go lower as you may be pleasantly surprised how much cash you can save when you do.
`7: You aren’t detail oriented If you don’t pay attention to where your money is going, you’re likely paying more money for things than you realize. Luckily, this is relatively easy to fix. Simply spend a few moments looking over your bills for hidden charges and checking your receipts to make sure you got the discounted price as every little bit helps.
If it isn’t on your list and in your budget, you’re better off passing it by as it will do you more financial harm than good.
`3: You try to keep up with
How many times have you paid full price because you didn’t ask if they’d take a lesser amount? It can be uncomfortable to ask for a lower price on an item, but the worse that can happen is that you can be told no.
`8: You don’t consider it a priority have the best of the best, it is likely impacting your ability to save. Sure, you may want to have the nicest car and house, or newest cell phone or other gadget, but you need to consider what it is doing to your cash flow. Are these items really worth being in the poor house for? The lower your expenses, the fuller your piggy bank.
`6: You’re not a haggler
Even if you tell yourself that saving money is a priority, if you don’t make it one then it isn’t so. You’ll never save if you don’t hold it as important. One great way to do this is to make saving money the first goal of your budget. Work all your other expenses in afterword and your savings account will grow. (Contd.. on p. 10)
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`9: You overextend yourself on credit Of course you’ll never save money if you’re always paying sky high interest on credit cards and loans. However, if you ditch the idea of buying on credit, you can take all of those interest payments you never made and place the cash in the bank instead.
`10: You’re afraid to make a fuss when you’re overcharged If you’d rather lose a couple dollars instead of making a fuss when you’re overcharged, it can be hindering your ability to save. When you contest paying the wrong price, it’s not like you’re personally attacking the cashier. You’re simply asking for what is rightfully yours. Even if you’re bad at saving money now, that doesn’t mean that you can’t change that. Try these ten changes and watch your cash pile grow.
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Shepherds with ‘Smell of the Sheep’
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GUWAHATI: A group of religious has made a short film to mark the golden jubilee of the Conference of Religious India (CRI), the national association of Catholic religious in the country. The celebrations are scheduled to be held at two venues at Don Bosco Guwahati (Kharguli and Pan Banzar) with three-day program starting November 7. It will coincide with national meeting of the CRI where some 450 religious heads will participate. The ‘curtain raiser’ film which lasts just 5 minutes contains rare footages from remote areas of the country hitherto unseen on screen depicting “shepherds with the smell of the sheep,” to use a metaphor of Pope Francis, showing activities of religious men and women who do not shy away from people. “It is our homage to thousands of “Unsung Heroes” among 125,000 strong association of religious men and women of India,” says coordinator of the project Fr. C. M. Paul, head of the Mass Communication Department at Assam Don Bosco University Guwahati. Some, 40,000 religious are directly involved in the social sector with a strong option for the poor, while some 76, 000 continue their ministry in structured sector. The director and producer of the film Jiji Kalavanl of Don Bosco Image Kochi says, “I hope the Catholic religious of India will realize their strength as social and spiritual transformers… and feel proud of what they do.” He adds, “I hope this video, at least in a small way, helps them become aware that they are a fraternity than isolated groups.” National Catholic activist John Dayal writing in the FaceBook asks the rhetorical question, “Where will the Church in India be without its men and women religious,” and himself gives the answer, “We all hail them, I am sure.” Commenting on the inspirational quality of the film the CRI National president and host of the celebrations Salesian Fr VM Thomas says, “It [film) looks and sounds good. We can play it over and over again at the venues, till they [audience] are soaked into it… the smell of the sheep!” Speaking on the concept of the film Fr C.M. Paul says, “We tried to keep the mystical and religious dimension of the life of these men and women in the film by depicting the ordinariness of the service the band of dedicated men and women perform day in and day out in its multifarious mundane forms with much love and service.” He adds, “it is precisely this aspect of daily grind in spirituality that makes the biggest network of social workers in India stand apart more than any NGO, and social workers.”
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Pope Gives Revelatory Full Length Personal Interview IV (Contd.. from last issue)
Art and Creativity I am struck by the reference the pope just made to Puccini’s “Turandot� while speaking of the mystery of hope. I would like to understand better his artistic and literary references. I remind him that in 2006 he said that great artists know how to present the tragic and painful realities of life with beauty. So I ask who are the artists and writers he prefers, and if they have something in common. “I have really loved a diverse array of authors. I love very much Dostoevsky and H?lderlin. I remember H?lderlin for that poem written for the birthday of his grandmother that is very beautiful and was spiritually very enriching for me. The poem ends with the verse, ‘May the man hold fast to what the child has promised.’ I was also impressed because I loved my grandmother Rosa, and in that poem H?lderlin compares his grandmother to the Virgin Mary, who gave birth to Jesus, the friend of the earth who did not consider anybody a foreigner. “I have read The Betrothed, by Alessandro Manzoni, three times, and I have it now on my table because I want to read it again. Manzoni gave me so much. When I was a child, my grandmother taught me by heart the beginning of The Betrothed: ‘That branch of Lake Como that turns off to the south between two unbroken chains of mountains....’ I also liked Gerard Manley Hopkins very much. “Among the great painters, I admire Caravaggio; his paintings speak to me. But also Chagall, with his ‘White Crucifixion.’ Among musicians I love Mozart, of course. The ‘Et incarnatus est’ from his Mass in C minor is matchless; it lifts you to God! I love Mozart
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performed by Clara Haskil. Mozart fulfils me. But I cannot think about his music; I have to listen to it. I like listening to Beethoven, but in a Promethean way, and the most Promethean interpreter for me is Furtw?ngler. And then Bach’s Passions. The piece by Bach that I love so much is the ‘Erbarme Dich,’ the tears of Peter in the ‘St. Matthew Passion.’ Sublime. Then, at a different level, not intimate in the same way, I love Wagner. I like to listen to him, but not all the time. The performance of Wagner’s ‘Ring’ by Furtw?ngler at La Scala in Milan in 1950 is for me the best. But also the ‘Parsifal’ by Knappertsbusch in 1962. “We should also talk about the cinema. ‘La Strada,’ by Fellini, is the movie that perhaps I loved the most. I identify with this movie, in which there is an implicit reference to St. Francis. I also believe that I watched all of the Italian movies with Anna Magnani and Aldo Fabrizi when I was between 10 and 12 years old. Another film that I loved is ‘Rome, Open City.’ I owe my film culture especially to my parents who used to take us to the movies quite often. “Anyway, in general I love tragic artists, especially classical ones. There is a nice definition that Cervantes puts on the lips of the bachelor Carrasco to praise the story of Don Quixote: ‘Children have it in their hands, young people
read it, adults understand it, the elderly praise it.’ For me this can be a good definition of the classics.� I ask the pope about teaching literature to his secondary school students. “It was a bit risky,� he answers. “I had to make sure that my students read El Cid. But the boys did not like it. They wanted to read Garcia Lorca. Then I decided that they would study El Cid at home and that in class I would teach the authors the boys liked the most. Of course, young people wanted to read more ‘racy’ literary works, like the contemporary La Casada Infiel or classics like La Celestina, by Fernando de Rojas. But by reading these things they acquired a taste in literature, poetry, and we went on to other authors. And that was for me a great experience. I completed the programme, but in an unstructured way – that is, not ordered according to what we expected in the beginning, but in an order that came naturally by reading these authors. And this mode befitted me: I did not like to have a rigid schedule, but rather I liked to know where we had to go with the readings, with a rough sense of where we were headed. Then I also started to get them to write. In the end I decided to send Borges two stories written by my boys. I knew his secretary, who had been my piano teacher. And Borges
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liked those stories very much. And then he set out to write the introduction to a collection of these writings.� “Then, Holy Father, creativity is important for the life of a person?� I ask. He laughs and replies: “For a Jesuit it is extremely important! A Jesuit must be creative.�
Frontiers and Laboratories During a visit by the fathers and staff of La Civilt? Cattolica, the pope had spoken about the importance of the triad “dialogue, discernment, frontier.� And he insisted particularly on the last point, citing Paul VI and what he had said in a famous speech about the Jesuits: “Wherever in the church – even in the most difficult and extreme fields, in the crossroads of ideologies, in the social trenches – there has been and is now conversation between the deepest desires of human beings and the perennial message of the Gospel, Jesuits have been and are there.� I ask Pope Francis what should be the priorities of journals published by the Society of Jesus. “The three key words that I commended to La Civilt? Cattolica can be extended to all the journals of the Society, perhaps with different emphases according to their natures and their objectives. When I insist on the frontier, I am referring in a particular way to the need for those who work in the world of culture to be inserted into the context in which they operate and on which they reflect. There is always the lurking danger of living in a laboratory. Ours is not a ‘lab faith,’ but a ‘journey faith,’ a historical faith. God has revealed himself as history, not as a compendium of abstract truths. I am afraid of laboratories because in the laboratory you take the problems and then you bring them home to tame them, to paint them, out of their context. You cannot bring home the frontier, but you have to live on the border and be audacious.�
I ask for examples from his personal experience. “When it comes to social issues, it is one thing to have a meeting to study the problem of drugs in a slum neighbourhood and quite another thing
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to go there, live there and understand the problem from the inside and study it. There is a brilliant letter by Father Arrupe to the Centres for Social Research and Action on poverty, in which he says clearly that one cannot speak of poverty if one does not experience poverty, with a direct connection to the places in which there is poverty. The word insertion is dangerous because some religious have taken it as a fad, and disasters have occurred because of a lack of discernment. But it is truly important.� “The frontiers are many. Let us think of the religious sisters living in hospitals. They live on the frontier. I am alive because of one of them. When I went through my lung disease at the hospital, the doctor gave me penicillin and streptomycin in certain doses. The sister who was on duty tripled my doses because she was daringly astute; she knew what to do because she was with ill people all day. The doctor, who really was a good one, lived in his laboratory; the sister lived on the frontier and was in dialogue with it every day. Domesticating the frontier means just talking from a remote location, locking yourself up in a laboratory. Laboratories are useful, but reflection for us must always start from experience.�
Human Self-Understanding I ask Pope Francis about the enormous changes occurring in society and the way human beings are reinterpreting themselves. At this point he gets up and goes to get the breviary from his desk. It is in Latin, now worn from use. He opens to the Office of Readings for Friday of the 27th Week in Ordinary Time and reads me a passage from the Commonitorium Primum of St. Vincent of Lerins: “Even the dogma of the Christian religion must follow these laws, consolidating over the years, developing over time, deepening with age.� The pope comments: “St. Vincent of Lerins makes a comparison between the biological development of man and the transmission from one era to another of the deposit of faith, which grows and is strengthened with time. Here, human self-understanding changes
with time and so also human consciousness deepens. Let us think of when slavery was accepted or the death penalty was allowed without any problem. So we grow in the understanding of the truth. Exegetes and theologians help the church to mature in her own judgment. Even the other sciences and their development help the church in its growth in understanding. There are ecclesiastical rules and precepts that were once effective, but now they have lost value or meaning. The view of the church’s teaching as a monolith to defend without nuance or different understandings is wrong. “After all, in every age of history, humans try to understand and express themselves better. So human beings in time change the way they perceive themselves. It’s one thing for a man who expresses himself by carving the ‘Winged Victory of Samothrace,’ yet another for Caravaggio, Chagall and yet another still for Dal?. Even the forms for expressing truth can be multiform, and this is indeed necessary for the transmission of the Gospel in its timeless meaning. “Humans are in search of themselves, and, of course, in this search they can also make mistakes. The church has experienced times of brilliance, like that of Thomas Aquinas. But the church has lived also times of decline in its ability to think. For example, we must not confuse the genius of Thomas Aquinas with the age of decadent Thomist commentaries. Unfortunately, I studied philosophy from textbooks that came from decadent or largely bankrupt Thomism. In thinking of the human being, therefore, the church should strive for genius and not for decadence. “When does a formulation of thought cease to be valid? When it loses sight of the human or even when it is afraid of the human or deluded about itself. The deceived thought can be depicted as Ulysses encountering the song of the Siren, or as Tannh?user in an orgy surrounded by satyrs and bacchantes, or as Parsifal, in the second act of Wagner’s opera, in the palace of Klingsor. The thinking of the church must recover genius and better
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understand how human beings understand themselves today, in order to develop and deepen the church’s teaching.”
Prayer I ask Pope Francis about his preferred way to pray. “I pray the breviary every morning. I like to pray with the psalms. Then, later, I celebrate Mass. I pray the Rosary. What I really prefer is adoration in the evening, even when I get distracted and think of other things, or even fall asleep praying. In the evening then, between seven and eight o’clock, I stay in front of the Blessed Sacrament for an hour in adoration. But I pray mentally even when I am waiting at the dentist or at other times of the day. “Prayer for me is always a prayer full of memory, of recollection, even the memory of my own history or what the Lord has done in his church or in a particular parish. For me it is the memory of which St. Ignatius speaks in the First Week of the Exercises in the encounter with the merciful Christ crucified. And I ask myself: ‘What have I done for Christ? What am I doing for Christ? What should I do for Christ?’ It is the memory of which Ignatius speaks in the ‘Contemplation for Experiencing Divine Love,’ when he asks us to recall the gifts we have received. But above all, I also know that the Lord remembers me. I can forget about him, but I know that he never, ever forgets me. Memory has a fundamental role for the heart of a Jesuit: memory of grace, the memory mentioned in Deuteronomy, the memory of God’s works that are the basis of the covenant between God and the people. It is this memory that makes me his son and that makes me a father, too.” Antonio Spadaro, S.J., is the editor in chief of La Civilt? Cattolica, a journal published in Rome by the Society of Jesus since 1850. The translators were: Massimo Faggioli, Sarah Christopher Faggioli, Dominic Robinson, S.J., Patrick J. Howell, S.J., and Griffin Oleynick. Source: Thinking Faith
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Why I Love Detroit
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hen I made my decision two to Detroit that people neglect to see. years ago to attend college Restaurant wise, there are some at Wayne State University, pretty good eating establishments in the first doubt that came in my mind the D. Good Girls go to Paris Crepes was, “Am I going to be safe?” When are delicious, they have savory as the topic of the city of Detroit comes well as sweet crepes, if one’s in a up, mental pictures of broken down mood for a meal or just dessert. Anbuildings, homeless people scattered other place I visited was Mercury on the streets, graffiti decorated signs Burger. It’s very close to the old rail and homes form in everyone’s mind. road station, the tall building that Sure, to some, Comerica Park and stands solo behind Roosevelt Park. Joe Lewis Arena The train stacome to mind, but tion makes for to most, all they a beautiful and picture is a runhistoric backdown city. ground for by Clarissa Nirmala Carvalho Before I went fancy pictures. Detroit , U.S.A. to campus, my M e r c u r y mother made me Burger has take self-defense some pretty lessons, just in case something were great burgers, even black bean to happen. I didn’t pack any of my burgers for the vegetarians. In the summer shorts or tank tops, I didn’t restaurant, customers can choose to take any of my sparkly jewelry, or my eat in the diner, or the heated indoor favorite heels. I didn’t want to risk patio and look out to the city. My being robbed on the streets. How- favorite restaurant I have eaten at in ever, when I arrived on campus, I felt Detroit would be the Green Dot Stables like I wasn’t in Detroit anymore. Wayne on Lafayette. They are open for lunch State was its own little bubble of green and dinner and have very reasonable and clean. I started to doubt whether prices. They are known best for their the picture of Detroit in my head was $2-$3 sliders. So delectable and such real or not. a variety of sliders, I ordered four so I Wayne State’s Campus Activi- could try as many as I could. There ties team coordinates ‘Thursdays in are so many more restaurants, many the D’ where, almost every Thursday, with ethnic foods, across the city, in shuttle busses will transport students Mexican town, Greek town and Eastfrom campus to downtown for popu- ern Market. lar activities. Concerts at the Fillmore, Detroit did just declare bankRed Wings games, ice skating at Cam- ruptcy, which is so sad for the Motor pus Martius, salsa nights, and of City. The home of auto mobiles, course, Tigers games, just to name a Motown music, Detroit is so historic few. and sometimes people tend to forget One of my favorite memories of that. Detroit was the first city to pave a my first year at Wayne was at the end concrete road, the final U.S stop of of the school year, after I had finished the Underground Railroad, as well as my final exams, a whole bunch of my the city to first introduce musical legfriends went out to Shangri-la for din- ends such as Marvin Gaye, Stevie ner, and drove to the Riverfront to skip Wonder, Diana Ross and Michael rocks and take pictures and just hang Jackson. I can’t wait to move back to out. Watching the water, the boats my city, to take walks on the Riverfront, pass us by, the buildings light up as to ice skate in the winter time, and to the sun went down, it truly was a discover more about the magnificent beautiful sight. It made me recognize city of Detroit. that there are so many beautiful things
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Ideal Age Gap Between Couples For Marriage
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he ideal age difference between couples is a variable thing and can be different for different shorts of people. In most of the cases of marriage, the man is older than his wife. Even now, most people like it in that way. Women hesitates to marry or even date a man lesser than her age. The men folk often do not want to marry a woman older than him. But, the marriage between a younger man and an older women is not very rare in western countries. In a country like India, women with a older age is expected to be treated as an elder sister by a man with lesser age.
Although, there is no stipulated age difference between a man and a woman who have agreed to live as man and wife, but going by the biblical standard which we have adopted, a man should be the head in which the question that bothers on the age is not an exception. Adam was created before Eve, whose duty was to serve as a help meat to him. This picture still applies in this present age.
Learning to Respect is Four years and four months: More people still think that a romantic the Right Age relationship is ideal when it’s between an older man and a younger woman. Specifically, four years and four months older, which was the average “ideal” age gap as reported by a survey of 2,000 adults. While slightly less than half of people said there was no ideal age gap, 33% of women wanted a guy up to seven years older than them, while only one out of a hundred women preferred a younger man.
O Biologically, men have it easier when
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How men act and assume responsibility has nothing to do with their age. The age difference doesn't really matter. When you find the right one, trust me, age talk will be far from your mind, so long as he respects his wife and treats her right and she respect him too. That has nothing to do with age. After all people disrespect their parents older than them by over 20 years.
Maturity is the Key: There isn't any fixed standard. It depends on the couple and their maturity in life. For me, the ideal was 4-8 years with the man older.
The Foundation is Compatibility: Marriage is not built on pampering, it dwells more on compatibility because two cannot work together except there is an agreement between them. There is no guarantee that being married to an older man is an assurance that one's marriage will work out perfectly. These older men were once lads and I strongly believe that maturity comes with time or age. So in this respect, as the young husband grows older, he also grows in maturity (except there's something wrong). You never know what the older man spent in youthful years doing. Why didn't he get married when his
other mates were doing so?
Knowing How to take Care: Knowing how to take care of a woman has nothing to do with age. if a guy can't treat a woman right when he is in his 20s, how will treat them right when he's older? there are no hard and fast rules to this really but personally I like my men younger.
Altar Bound Commitment: If I meet a good guy who will stay committed and I know the relationship will be altar bound, I won't mind waiting till I'm 29 to get married. Plese not everyone is in a haste to get married if not I would have married at 23 when one guy almost confused me with Honda 2010 model or at 25 when a seriously rich drug dealer was willing to spoil me silly and marry me sharp sharp. If it will take till I get to marry the kind of man my heart truly desires then so help me God I will wait!!!
For Him Sharing Love is Everything: There's difference between development and maturity. Been quite old does not equate maturity. To me what matters most is what you both share love which outweighs everyother thing. Personally most of my friends are girls my age or older. And I always enjoyed their company. 5years older or younger than me,I don't care. —Bona
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O Take a decision: When you think you are all set to move forward, take a decision. In childhood days, your elders used to take decisions for you. Now that you have grown up, it is very important to take some individual decisions. Stop throwing excuses and become responsible. If you want to grow in life and move forward, do take your own decisions and be responsible for its consequences.
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MATRIMONIALS POONA : Goan Roman Catholic Spinster, aged 28 years, Ht. 5’ 2”, Wt. 56 kgs, Fair Complexion, Edn. MBA (Mktg & Intl Bus) working as a Lead Marketing. Contact email : mbpune85@gmail.com / lynette.borges@gmail.com OR 9881134217 (Regd. No. 5974) MUMBAI : Mangalorean Roman Catholic Spinster, aged 31 years, Ht. 5’ 5”, Wt. 57 kgs, Wheatish Complexion, Edn. MBA, working as Marketing Manager in Bangalore, Contact email : richardathanasius@gmail.com OR 9980555027 (Regd. No. 5973) MUMBAI : Mangalorean Roman Catholic Spinster, aged 27 years, Ht. 5’ 5”, Wheatish Complexion, Edn. MBA, well settled. Seeks a boy below 33 years. Contact email: c_dsouza2007@yahoo.com OR 9920384736 (Regd. No. 5972) BANGALORE : Anglo Indian Roman Catholic Spinster, 26 years, B.E., workaing as a Software Engineer, Ht. 5’ 6”, Wt. 67 kgs, good looking, fair, coming from a decent family, seeks a humble, god-fearing, doctor, engineer or well settled bachelor from India or abroad. Contact email : pereira.eustace@larsentoubro.com OR 09845665529 (Regd. No. 5956) MUMBAI : Mangalorean R.C. parents, invite alliance for their daughter 26 years, 5’ 4”, fair, good looking, B.Com., working as an H.R. marriage annulled, from qualified settled bachelor age upto 34 years, Contact email : orchidsunrise12@gmail.com (Regd. No. 5918) MUMBAI : Tamilian RC Spinster, 39 years, Toll, slim, Fair, Edn. EMBR HR, working as a Sr. Executive. Contact Email : rinklynj@gmail.com / floryjanardhan@rediffmail.Com OR 9820076082 (Regd. No. 5917)
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MUMBAI : Goan RC Spinster, 28 years, Ht. 5’, Wt. 56 kgs, Wheatish Complexion, Edn. B.Com., MBA (Finance) working as a Jr. Manager in Bank. Seeks a suitable match. Contact Email : oldgoa2012@gmail.com OR 9869765169 (Regd. No. 5916) MUMBAI : Goan RC Spinster, 33 years, Ht. 5’ 4”, Edn. B. Com., Dip. in Business Management, Working as an Admin Inchagre for a reputed Pharmaceutical Company. Seeks a Goan educated Bachelor upto 38 years. Contact Email : ferns1178@gmail.com OR 9820724100 (Regd. No. 5915) KUWAIT : Goan RC Spinster, 26 years, Ht. 155 cms, Wt. 68 kgs, Wheatish Complexion, Edn. B.Com., working as a Office Assistant. Seeks a Goan RC Bachelor. Contact Email : jnnfr.rdrgs@gmail.com OR +965971379900 (Regd. No. 5912) MUMBAI : Mangalorean RC Spinster, 25 years, Ht. 5’ 6”, Wt. 65 kgs, Fair Complexion, Edn. Chartered A/C., M.Com., Working as a C.A., Only Child. Seeks a suitable match. Contact Email “ jolie_rosetta@yahoo.co.in (Regd. No. 5910) MUMBAI : RC Spinster, 31 years, 5’ 4”, Post Graduate, Professional Therapist, has established personal Clinic and Hospital attachements, seeks alliance from well qualified RC bachelors from Mumbai. Kindly reply to marg781@ymail.com. (Regd. No. 5907) MUMBAI : Goan RC Spinster, 23 years, Ht. 150 cms, Wheatish Complexion, Edn. Diploma (Prod.) working as a Jr. Engg., Seeks a Bombay based well settled bachelor. Contact Email : ieydesignconsultant@rediffmail.com OR 26600774 (Regd. No. 5906) POONA : Tamilian RC Divorcee, 1st marriage is annulled less then one year, good looking, aged 41 years, Ht. 5’ 4”, slim, Wheatish Complexion, Edn. M.Com., working as a Asst. Executive in Dubai. Seeks a sincere, genuine, trustworthy person below 47 years.
Contact Mob.: 9423003578 (Regd. No. 5905) MUMBAI : Goan RC Spinster, 28 years, Ht. 5’ 3”, Wt. 60 kgs, Fair Complexion, Edn. MBA working for MNC. Seeks a well eduated and well settled match. Contact email: leo.trinidade@gmail.com / trinidade.annie@gmail.com OR 9819121184 (Regd. No. 5904) BANGALORE : Mangalorean RC Spinster, 23 years, beautiful, 5’ 3”, 55 kgs, Wheatish, Edn. MBA (HR) working as a HR Consultant. Seeks a suitable match. Contact : grettadesa@gmail.com OR 9900413499 (Regd. No. 5902) MUMBAI : Mangalorean RC parents invite alliance for their daughter 26 years, 5’ 4”, B.Tech (Computer Engineer) Working for MNC. Seeks well qualified and well settled bachelor with good family values. Kindly reply with profile and recent photograph to email : dmaryln@ymail.com OR 9969285680 (Regd. No. 5901) MUMBAI : Maharashtrian RC Spinster, aged 32 years, Ht. 5’ 1”, Wt. 65 kgs, Fair Complexion, Edn. B.Com., working as a Sr. Executive. Seeks a suitable match. Contact : email: smita_dhi@yahoo.co.in OR 28682053 (Regd. No. 5900) MUMBAI : Mangalorean RC Divorcee, aged 43 years, Ht. 5’, Wt. 42 kgs, Wheatsih Complexion, Edn. B.Com., working as a Office Assistant. Seeks a suitable match. Contact : 25948048 (Regd. No. 5899)
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strong family finds that oppor tunities for quality time emerge from quantity time: The more time you spend together, the better chance you have of sharing quality experiences. Eating meals together, talking about the events of the day, sharing joys and defeats, doing household chores together and spending some evenings popping corn and watching movies are examples of shared activities. Some families even schedule one evening every week for special family activities. Doing things a child or spouse wants to do also sends a strong message of love. It’s a good idea to identify the things family members want to do together. In my family, we spend our summers showing goats together. Every weekend we pack up the coolers, show equipment, Children will not forget meaningful one-on-one time.
find time to sit together for family meals. One in four parents reports eating four or less meals a week together as a family. Even more disturbing is that 10 percent of the parents interviewed reported that they eat just one meal a week or never eat with their teens. Mealtime can be a time of re-connection for families, especially for busy teenagers. It can be a great time to ask questions about your child's day without interruption. If given the opportunity to spend a meal together, keep these points in mind: O
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... Jude- O Holy St. Jude, Apostle and Martyr, Great in virtue and rich in miracles, near kinsmen of Jesus Christ, faithful intercessor of all who invoke your special patronage in time of need, to you I have recourse from the depth of my heart and humbly beg to whom God has given such great power to come to my assistance. Help me in my present urgent petition, in return I promise to make your name known and cause you to be invoked.
Say three Our Fathers, three Hail Mary's and three Glory be's. St. Jude pray for us and all who invoke your aid. Amen.
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Turn off the phone during mealtime to ensure quiet, uninterrupted time. Let each child have equal time to talk about their day. Don't interrupt them. Ask specific questions of your teenager (this tells them you are interested). Keep the conversation light; avoid arguing with them at this point. Tell them about your day (this tells them you respect their opinions). Make mealtime fun.
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