Secular Citizen Vol.24 No.43 dated 26th October 2015 by Lawrence Coelho

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Shaping the Future “Creating Leaders in our Youth”

he Ryan International Group of Schools recently hosted the Indian Model United Nations (INMUN) Conference with the theme: Shaping the Future. This year, more than 800 students from 110 schools in India, Indonesia, Sri Lanka, Pakistan, Germany and Nepal participated in this simulation of the United Nations. Ambassadors Alphonsus Stoelinga (Netherlands), Tarek Azouz (Tunisia), Gustavo De

of Ryan International Group actively participated in this mega event.

Aristegui (Spain), Petko Doykov (Bulgaria), Thorir Ibsen (Iceland) along with politician Sambit Patra and Abdul Basit (High Commissioner, Islamic Republic of Pakistan) were guest speakers at the conference. The entire conference was grace by eminent persons from various fields. Madam Grace Pinto (Managing Director, Ryan International Group of schools) said, “Through conferences like INMUN, our aim is to educate students about world politics, build up leadership skills and help educate the next generation in the spirit of equality, liberty, tolerance, empathy and care for others.” Students from various schools

Democracy index by country 2014 (The Economist Group) shows India on 27th Rank among 167 countries. This is a remarkable achievement for every Indian who has made this possible in the last 68 years of Indian independence. Democracy from its origin in Greece until today has constantly been redefined and has been a struggle for human mankind. Today, USA, Europe, China, Russia and even North Korea consider themselves a democracy. We have to accept, there is no one global definition. The question is “How to empower our youth for a bright future of democracy in India?” The conference provided an opportunity for students to reflect on the world around them and also gave them a chance to open dialogue and learn directly from the ambassadors of various countries and help them shape the future of our country. RONIDA

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"synodal", listening, collegial and with a "conversion of the papacy" Vatican City - The Church must become more "synodal" – in the context of walking together - and in this perspective "also the exercise of the Petrine primacy will receive greater light." "A conversion of the papacy" that even in the ecumenical perspective is "a way of exercising the primacy which, while in no way renouncing what is essential to its mission, is nonetheless open to a new situation." The commemoration of the 50th anniversary of the Synod of Bishops, celebrated this morning in the Paul VI Hall, gave the opportunity to Pope Francis to once again outline, with significant emphasis, his vision of the Church of the third millennium, characterized by ' listening to all its components, by increasing the responsibility of the Bishops' Conferences, collegiality and, indeed, the "conversion of the papacy." The Pope began his lengthy speech by emphasizing that "from the beginning of my ministry as Bishop of Rome I intended to enhance the role Synod, which is one of the most precious legacies of the last Vatican Council. For Blessed Paul VI, the Synod of Bishops revived the image of the Ecumenical Council and reflected its spirit and method. The same Pontiff noted that the synodal organism " can be improved upon over time." He was echoed, two decades later, by John Paul II who stated that "perhaps this tool can be further improved. Perhaps the collegial pastoral responsibility can be expressed in a more fully synodal manner '. " "We must continue on this path. The world we live in, and that we are called to love and serve in its contradictions, requires the the strengthening of synergies in all areas of the Churches’ mission. Indeed it is the path of collegiality that God expects from the Church of the third millennium. " "All that the Lord asks us, in a sense, is already contained in the word 'Synod'. Walking together –Lay faithful, Pastors, the Bishop of Rome-it is an easy concept to put into words, but not so easy to put into practice. " Francis noted that "the People of God," according to Vatican II “is ‘The entire body of the faithful, anointed as they are by the Holy One,(111) cannot err in matters of belief. They manifest this special property by means of the whole peoples' supernatural discernment in matters of faith when "from the Bishops down to the last of the lay faithful" (8*) they show universal agreement in matters of faith and morals. ''. Hence the assertion of Evangelii gaudium for which "All the baptized, whatever their position in the Church or their level of instruction in the faith, are agents of evangelization, and it would be insufficient to envisage a plan of evangelization to be carried out by professionals while the rest of the faithful would simply be passive recipients”. 120 The sensus fidei prevents a rigid separation between Ecclesia docens and Ecclesia discens, since even the Flock has its own 'flair' to discern the new paths that the Lord reveals to the Church. It was this conviction that guided me when I hoped that God's Holy People be consulted in the preparation of the double appointment of the synod on the family. Certainly, such a consultation is not enough to interpret the sensus fidei. But neither is it possible to talk about the family without consulting families, listening to their joys and their hopes, their sorrows and their troubles". (Contd.. on p. 4)

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(Contd.. from p. 3) A listening Church "A synodal Church is a listening Church, one which knows that listening "is more than hearing". It is a mutual listening in which everyone has something to learn. Faithful people, the College of Bishops, the Bishop of Rome: one in listening to others; and all listening to the Holy Spirit, the "Spirit of truth" (Jn 14, 17), to understand what He "says to the Churches" (Rev 2: 7). The Synod of Bishops is the convergence point of this listening dynamic conducted at all levels of church life. The synodal process starts by listening to the people", "it continues listening to the pastors. Through the Synod Fathers, the bishops act as true stewards, interpreters and witnesses of the faith of the whole Church, which must be able to carefully distinguish the often changing trends of public opinion. On the eve of the Synod last year I stated: "I ask the Holy Spirit first of all to grant the Synod Fathers the gift of listening: listening to God, to hear with Him the cry of the people; listening to the people, so as to breathe the will to which God calls us. " Finally, the synodal process culminates in listening to the Bishop of Rome, called upon to pronounce himself as the "pastor and teacher of all Christians": it starts with his personal beliefs, but as the supreme witness of fides totius Ecclesiae, "guarantor of obedience and compliance of the Church to God, to the Gospel of Christ and the Tradition of the Church'". "The fact that the Synod always acts cum Petro et sub Petro - therefore not only cum Petro, but also sub Petro – is not a restriction of freedom, but a guarantee of unity. In fact the Pope, by the will of the Lord, is "the perpetual and visible source and foundation of the unity both of the bishops and the multitude of the faithful." Connected to this is the concept of "ierarchica communio " used by Vatican II: the Bishops are united with the Bishop of Rome by the bond of episcopal communion (cum Petro) and are at the same time hierarchically subjected to him as head of the college ( sub Petro) ".

Every one remembers Mahatma Gandhi on 2nd October but we at The BCS, St. John Bosco unit, Borivli firmly believe in following the values of Mahatma in letter and spirit. He lived & died for communal harmony. What better way would be to pay homage to this great soul other than bringing together all faiths for a prayer meeting? It was a great spiritual experience to about 140 people who had come from different faiths to hear the Gurus from Hindu, Islam, Sikh, Christian, Jain, Parsee & Brihma Kumaris. The Shanti Sagar prayer group of the parish enticed us by their lovely Hindi bhajans. After lighting of the lamp, the chairman of the unit Mr Felix Aranha introduced the Gurus & Mr Raphael D’Souza, Vice President at the Central office welcomed the guests with the theme “ Hamare dharam anek.. prithvi sirf ek”. Maulana Afzal Mohd. enlighetened us with core beliefs of Islam saying, Prophet came into this world with a message of peace to the entire humanity. He requested every one to wake up, spread the truth, peace, love & compassion not only to humans but to all living beings. Sikh Gure Gyani Satnam Singh said that when we are all children of one God why

fight with one other, instead do good deeds and be a better human being. Dr Shudhatmaprabha Taraiya representing the Jain community reminded us that the essence of Jainism is Ahimsa and the concern for the welfare of every living being of the universe. Pandit Guru Prasad while expressing happiness over the event, was very vocal in saying that Hinduism believes in the entire world as one family and likened God to a river which quenches the thirst of each & everyone who comes in contact with. Sr. Neetaben from Brihmakumaris said that the BK’s believe in “soul consciousness” and making a better human being. Dr Meher Master Moos of the Zoroastrian community expressed that religions are like rainbow, will not be complete without one colour. Brother Richard said that Jesus came into this world to establish the Kingdom of God on earth for all people of goodwill . Whoever is doing good work is establishing the Kingdom of God. His advice was “ if you cannot do good work atleast refrain from harming others” Mr Lucas D’Mello thanked the Gurus and all the participants for coming from different parts of Mumbai and showering their praises for conducting such programme. Mr Alex D’Mello compered the programme. —Alwyn Lobo

Synodality, a constitutive dimension of the Church "Synodality as a constitutive dimension of the Church, gives us the most appropriate interpretive framework to understand the hierarchical ministry. If we understand as St. John Chrysostom said, that the 'church and synod are synonymous" because the Church is none other than the' walking together of the flock of God on the paths of history to meet Christ the Lord-we understand well that inside no one can be 'higher' than the other. On the contrary, the Church needs those who (Contd.. on p. 6)

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Church Of Sinners Pope Francis in a surprise move has publicly apologized and asked for forgiveness for the scandals in the church. The message of Christ to love and forgive has started to ring more meaningfully it seems during the present pontificate of Pope Francis , in sharp contrast to the church’s earlier rigid stance during the pre-Vatican II era. That we are a church of sinners is a well-accepted fact , but one wonders whether it is necessary for every pope to take upon himself the guilt of the entire church and publicly apologise and ask forgiveness for sins committed in the past and present. It all started during the pontificate of Pope Saint John Paul II who called for a universal “ mea culpa” for the church’s past misdeeds and the rich harvest of faith reaped through sword and bible. Ever since, successive popes have apologized every time scandals such as sexual abuse cases in the church came to light involving some priests and bishops. Such apologies become meaningless unless serious efforts are made to purge the church of unwanted elements who have brought disgrace and disrepute to the church. In this respect Pope Francis is doing an excellent job. —A.

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' Ban the Ban '

People avoid getting affected by a ban by keeping the banned food or entertainment underground and making use of it when the need to use it is unavoidable and desirable. By their very nature bans are dictatorial .

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The beef ban affects consumers, distributors and sellers alike-the horns and hoofs are used for jewellery, earrings, necklaces, combs, coat buttons and fire extinguisher foam, the bone was used for soap, toothpaste and bone china products and bone powder is used to give extra sheen to sugar, glands are used to produce insulin, triptan, heparin and pepsin, intestines are used in surgical stitches for binding together suasages, to make badminton and tennis raquets, violin strings and other musical instruments, the tail hair is used to make paint brushes and dusters, the tallow is used to make khari biscuits flaky and crunchy, the blood is used to make serum for use in haemoglobin and iron tonics, shoe-shining products and vaccines for pets and the skin is used for shoes, slippers, handbags, belts and other products and gelatine a by product is used in jellies and other food products, in photography and as coating for soluble capsules or bitter tablets.-thus the slaughtered cow is a very useful animal. Since there is a beef ban the farmers is burdened when he cannot sell an old and useless cow for slaughter when it cannot plough the fields or give sufficient milk or be used to pull bullock carts and this affects him financially and economically. Besides this Hindus are known to eat beef quietly/on the sly when in India and abroad and use cow leather for shoes and other useful purposes even though they are vegetarians. Bans on Pakistani artistes performing in India creates more hatred between our countries and a war mongering attitude serves as a form of distraction from the failures of the government besides negatively affecting the arts -so it is better to spread love and peace rather than war and hatred to maintain and have a peaceful and harmonious atmosphere at all

times. Religion is a very delicate issue and thus plays and films and books that insult and poke fun at any religion must best be avoided and if for some reason they cannot be avoided they must carry a rejoinder stating : NO INSULT IS INTENDED TO ANY RELIGION. Pulping or banning books will only make them more popular, killing intellectuals is extreme and unwarranted, dictates by the state about what can eat and not eat is undemocratic and when people get killed for what they eat it is terrible and when justice cannot be achieved these case must be taken to the United Nations for justice to prevail. In a democracy free expression is vital besides providing a creative atmosphere. Regulations must replace bans only when necessary. A solution for getting the beef ban removed is to indefinitely boycott the state legislatures where it is passed till it is removed and the same form of protest must be used to withdraw the hated anti-minority anti-conversion bills. Urgently needed is the right to recall politicians who pass unnecessary bans and a communal harmony bill where victims of communal riots are fairly compensated and communal politicians, political parties and communal organisations and associations are severly punished so that they do not resort in the future to repeating their evil deeds. Only then will see a shining India rather than a rusting India. —Peter Castellino

The Synod Is ‘Democratic’! The Oct. 04-25 Synod of Bishops at the Vatican is being held on the topic: “The Vocation and Mission of the Family in the Church and the Contemporary World”. The Bishops are divided into smaller groups according to the language for discussion on the (Contd.. on p. 6)

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‘Instrumentum Laboris’, or Working Document. The Synod is thoroughly ‘democratic’, in the sense that auditors (non-voting observers) are given the same forum for the same amount of time as bishops (three minutes each). This was the opinion shared by moral theologian, Moira McQueen, a Synod auditor. She was speaking at today’s Synod briefing in the Vatican Press Office with its director, Jesuit Father, Federico Lombardi, on Oct 13, 2015. Ms McQueen who specializes in bioethical issues spoke on her interest in the Synod considering matters and problems concerning the ‘family’. McQueen who lives in Canada has been working closely with the nation’s Bishops Conference. She stressed that when auditors have the choice to say something, she finds the process ‘fair and democratic’, adding that this openness is ‘very positive’. She along with other speakers also noted how much the contribution and suggestions of laity, especially women are being incorporated into the Synod reports. Let us pray for the success of the Synod – that it provides enlightened guidelines for all families. May the exhortation of St Peter our first Pope direct us: “For the Lord’s sake accept the authority of every human institution … As servants of God, live as free people, yet do not use your freedom as a pretext for evil” ( 1 Pet 2:13 … 16).

‘lower ’ themselves in service to their brothers and sisters along the way. Jesus founded the Church by placing the Apostolic College at its head, in which the apostle Peter is the "rock" (cfr. Mt 16, 18), the one who is to "confirm" his brothers in faith (cfr. Lk 22, 32 ). But in this Church, as in an inverted pyramid, the summit is located below the base. For those who exercise this authority they are called 'ministers', because, according to the original meaning of the word, they are the least of all. It is serving the people of God that each Bishop becomes, for the portion of the flock entrusted to him, vicarius Christi 20, vicar of the Jesus who at the Last Supper stooped to wash the feet of the Apostles (cfr. Jn 13: 1-15 ). And, in a similar horizon, the Successor of Peter is none other than the servant of the servants of God. " "Let us never forget! For the disciples of Jesus, yesterday, today and always, the only authority is the authority of the service, the only power is the power of the Cross". "In a Church Synod, the Synod of Bishops is only the most obvious manifestation of a dynamism of communion that inspires all the ecclesial decisions. The first level of exercise of collegiality is realized in the particular Churches. After recalling the noble institution of the diocesan Synod, in which priests and laity are called to collaborate with the Bishop for the good of the whole ecclesial community, the Code of Canon Law devotes ample space to those who is usually called the 'bodies communion 'of the particular Church: the Council of Priests, the College of Consultors, the Chapter of Canons and Parish Council. Only to the extent that these organizations are connected with the 'base' and spring from the people, from everyday problems, can a Church Synod begin to take shape: these instruments, which sometimes progress with fatigue, must be treated as an opportunity for listening and sharing ". "The second level is that of Ecclesiastical Provinces and Regions, Particular Councils and especially Episcopal Conferences. We need to think about fostering even more instances of collegiality, through these organizations, perhaps by integrating and updating some aspects of the ancient church order. The hope of the Council that such bodies can help increase the spirit of episcopal collegiality has not yet been fully realized. In a Church Synod, as I said, "it is not appropriate for the Pope to replace the local Episcopates in the discernment of all the problems that lie ahead in their territories. In this sense, I feel the need to proceed with a healthy 'decentralization'. "The last level is that of the universal Church. Here the Synod of Bishops, representing the Catholic episcopate, it becomes an expression of

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episcopal collegiality in a synodal Church. It manifests the affective collegiality, which may well become in some circumstances 'effective', joining the Bishops among themselves and with the Pope in caring for the people of God. " Collegiality, ecumenism and "conversion of the papacy" "The commitment to build a synodal -missionary Church to which all are called, each in the role that the Lord has entrusted us is fraught with ecumenical implications. For this reason, talking to a delegation of the Patriarchate of Constantinople, I have recently reiterated the conviction that "careful consideration of how to articulate the principle of collegiality in the Church's life and the service of the one who presides offer a significant contribution to the advancement of relations between our Churches". I am convinced that, in a Church synod, also the exercise of the Petrine primacy will receive greater light. The Pope is not, by himself, above the Church; but inside it as a Baptized between and within the College of Bishops as the Bishop of Bishops, called at the same time-as Successor of Peter- to lead the Church of Rome which presides in all the churches. While I reiterate the need and urgency to think of "a conversion of the papacy," I willingly repeat the words of my predecessor Pope John Paul II: "As Bishop of Rome I know [...]that Christ ardently desires the full and visible communion of all those Communities in which, by virtue of God's faithfulness, his Spirit dwells". I am convinced that I have a particular responsibility in this regard, above all in acknowledging the ecumenical aspirations of the majority of the Christian Communities and in heeding the request made of me to find a way of exercising the primacy which, while in no way renouncing all that is essential to its mission, is nonetheless open to a new situation"." "Our view also extends to humanity. A synodal Church is as a sign lifted up among the nations (cfr. Is 11, 12) in a world which -while invoking participation, solidarity and transparency in publication administration - often consigns the fate of entire populations into the greedy hands of small power groups. As a Church that is 'walking together' with humanity, sharing the hardships of history, we must cultivate the dream that the rediscovery of the inviolable dignity of the people and authority’s function to serve will also help civil society to be grow in justice and fraternity, generating a world that is more beautiful and more worthy of man for the generations that come after us. " —AsiaNews

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fter the violent attack on the Agra Church, Congress President Sonia Gandhi said that Muslims and Christians do not feel safe under the Bharatiya Janta Party - ruled Modi Goverment. She gave facts and figures to prove her point. Hindu extremists consider Muslims and Christians non-Indians. They are conveniently ignored by the BJP-ruled goverments and they are allowed to feel that they are just tolerated in Hindu India. Sonia lashed out at Modi giving the reference of "92 bloody riots in Gujarat when more than 48 Christian Churches and places of worship were burnt down by Hindu ultras. When the 72-years old nun was attacked and raped, the West Bengal CM Mamta during her visit to the hospitalized nun expressing her views on the gruesome rape incident said that Hindu extremists go fearless and know for certain that ultimately nothing would happen to them because "they were in the government ..." In most of these incidents, the police were the mute witness of the whole crime and does not act. It is also true that these crimes are led and guided by some Hindus - Muslims who had 'links' to the higher ups! There has been many cases of racial discrimination against Christians in

How safe are the minorities under Naredra Modi? Gujarat witnessed communal riots. During the 60years of Congress rule, there had several racial riots. The difference between riots then and riots now is: in Today's riots the rioters have the government backing. The saffron rioters are backed by cops and freed by law-makers!!! Rajasthan, Madhya Pradesh, Maharashtra, Gujarat and other BJP-ruled States. Christian children are not well treated in schools and hospitals. Often they are ignored and silenced. Catholic nun-Principal of a convent said: Whenever I was summoned to Gandhinagar, I received humiliating treatment. From my documents, the BJP-minded officials found senseless queries and and I was allowed to feel that we did not know how to run and manage schools. This writer has heard ample times that the Gujarat CM Anandiben Patel left no opportunity to belittle our men, official and church authorities. When a Christian delegation went to greet Narendra Modi, His words to our Church dignitaries were : "Where else can you go?" Our nuns and priests who spend the best years of their lives for the service of the marginalized and the poor, the BJP official statement always ignores or conveniently forgets our living heroes! Hindu extremists and the RSS men do not have any word of appreciation for Christian men and their selfless service for the nation. This is very much so in Gujarat. Even the fourth generation of Baptized Catholics are

by Ignatius Dabhi Sr. Journalist often addressed as 'converts' and betrayers to Hinduism! Gujarat, with its apparent 'Vikas' (development), is extremely cast conscious and narrow minded Hindu. During all communal riots, Christians were most vulnerable and unsafe. Church authorities are as silent as sacristy rats ! Christians are a few in number and divided among themselves, The BJP takes the maximum advantage of the situation and harass christians. Senior Uttar Pradesh minister Azam Khan on October 5th 2915 wrote a letter to UN Secretary General Ban Ki-Moon urging him to ask the Modi government to guard the secular credentials of democratic India. In his five-page letter. "Mr. Azam Khan stated:" our Priime Minister has reached out to the world leaders assuring them that India will always remain secular. At the same time, he provides a tacit support to the communal RSS and its affiliates to intimidate Christian and Muslim minorities india in Hindu nation by 2022-23. They UN must urge Mr. Narendra Modi and other senior functionaries of the BJP government to come out with a charter on how people of India with all faith and religion will co-exist in India." It is interesting to note that President Obama too, had earlier advised Modi that real progress can only exist with communal harmony. The west knows Modi and his men. Lacks of Christians and Muslims living in rural areas live in fear. Their future with BJP in power is unsafe. The secular India seem to turn saffron. The shadow of saffron frightens the minosities.

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Family the Basic Brick by Don Aguiar

n a world filled with challenges to marriage and family life, the Catholic Church is called "to carry out her mission in fidelity, truth and love," Pope Francis said at the Mass opening the world Synod of Bishops on the family. In his homily, Pope Francis asked people to pray that the synod would show the world "how the experience of marriage and family is rich and humanly fulfilling” It’s primeval yet very much in vogue seeking a connection with the other by talking about the family. Who’s in your family? What do they do? From strangers meeting on trains and planes to employees and employers checking each other out, this remains a key rite in the passage to fellowship. Social media is also awash with pictures of babies, mummies, daddies….. We cannot call any society healthy

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when it does not leave real room for family life. We cannot think that a society has a future when it fails to pass laws capable of protecting families and ensuring their basic needs, especially those of families just starting out. Society has existed on certain basic principles. The first and most important unit of society has been the family. The family is the basic brick that nations are made of, races are made of, and religious organizations are made of. You know what God loves most? To knock on the door of families and to find the families who love each other – families who bring up their children to grow and to move forward. Who create, who develop a society of truth, goodness and beauty. God made man and woman to complement each other, to love and to be loved, and to see their love bear fruit in children. One can describe the family as “a factory of hope”, each one with divine citizenship, somber reflections – that many families “carry a cross” suffer indignities and separate – with similar wit. Families face many difficulties, Families fight. And sometimes plates fly, and sometimes kids get knocked on the head. And let’s not even talk about mothers-in-law. There is no perfect family. We have no perfect parents, we are not perfect, do not get married to a perfect person, neither do we have perfect children. We have complaints about each other. We are disappointed by one another. Therefore, there is no healthy marriage or healthy family without the exercise of forgiveness. Forgiveness is vital to our emotional health and spiritual survival. Without forgiveness the family becomes a theater of conflict and a bastion of grievances. Without forgiveness the family becomes sick. Forgiveness is the sterilization of the soul, cleansing the mind and the lib-

eration of the heart. Anyone who does not forgive has no peace of soul and communion with God. Pain is a poison that intoxicates and kills. Maintaining a wound of the heart is a self-destructive action. It is an autophagy. He who does not forgive sickens physically, emotionally and spiritually. That is why the family must be a place of life and not of death; an enclave of cure not of disease; a stage of forgiveness and not of guilt. Forgiveness brings joy where sorrow produced pain; and healing, where pain caused disease. Stress must be laid on the importance of kind “little gestures” that go a long way in the family. They get lost amid all the other things we do, yet they do make each day different. They are the quiet things done by mothers and grandmothers, by fathers and grandfa(Contd.. on p. 16)

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Fifty Shades Greyer

hen a bunch of schoolboys meet after a gap of 50 years there are bound to be many shades of grey. I passed out of St Joseph’s College, Nainital in 1965 and was meeting up with some of my classmates after exactly 50 years. The occasion was the Golden Jubilee reunion of my class. As a writer and amateur sociologist I look for meaning, even in the mundane. I am not going to regale you with the sumptuous food we had, or the amount of Scotch whisky my companions downed (I don’t touch the stuff), but will share some reflections that go well beyond this reunion. This institution was established as a seminary in 1888, which is why it is popularly known as Sem. It later became a junior college run by the Irish Christian Brothers; to cater primarily to Catholic boys, mostly of European or Eurasian descent. In those days boarding schools in the hills were meant to keep the boys out of trouble, by not sparing the rod! My family has a century old relationship with Sem as my father passed out of there way back in 1916. Almost every male family member has studied there. But I chose not to send my son, for reasons that will gradually unfold. First, a few facts about my illustrious batch. We were 35, of whom 32 are alive and 28 made it to the reunion, from all parts of the globe. Five of the class got into IITs, four to other illustrious engineering colleges, six became officers in the defence services, three became doctors, one became a Member of Parliament, and yet another a top gun bureaucrat (he had arrested Chandraswami in Dubai, and led the raid on Jayalalithaa, that led to her conviction). I am one of those loose cannons who could be termed “unclassified”. That’s the raw data. What happened to

by chhotebhai * the 35? I have the Senior Cambridge mark sheet of the entire class. Of the six who joined the defence services, the guy who retired with the highest rank was at the bottom of the heap. The allopathy doctor, sadly, was the first to pass away, while still in his forties. The MP was the last in the class, but before anybody attempts “neta bashing” let me unequivocally state that he was a much loved leader, who won 5 elections, until he got drowned in the Modi tsunami. I have discussed this phenomenon with the alumni of other schools, and have concluded that what we are in school, and the marks that we obtain, have little or no bearing on later life. Even our class captains and prefects, to whom we looked up in awe in our school days, were but pale shadows of their former selves. I was the shortest and youngest in my batch, just 14 when I did Cambridge, but that is not where I stand today. Another interesting observation is that in our days Sem was considered a prestigious boarding school. We had sons of royalty, diplomats and what have you. We looked down on the locals, the day scholars (daisies as they were condescendingly referred to). Now fifty years later I found that it was the daisies who had come out trumps in both leadership and organizational skills, as also their commitment and contribution to society. As the Lord said, “The last shall be first” (Mat 20:16). The daisies reminded me of a conversation with one of classmates. As a mariner he had sailed the seven seas. Wherever he went, whenever he mentioned Nainital as the place where he had studied, he was invariably asked “Sherwood”? Now Sherwood is our rival school, made all the more famous

by its alumni Field Marshall Sam Maneckshaw and Big B Bachchan. It left him embarrassed. I countered this by saying that perhaps “St Joseph’s” was a common name. I also opined that whenever we played Sherwood in public, the local populace always rooted for Sem. Perhaps because Sem had opened its doors to the daisies, while Sherwood still maintained its stiff upper lip. I would be proud to say that my alma mater gave something back to Nainital. Today the daisies outnumber the boarders 3-1, a reversal of the earlier ratio. I take this as a positive development. Sem has also had more than its share of bravehearts. In our final year in 1965, we were at war with Pakistan. Several of our parents won Paramvir, Mahavir and Vir Chakras. In the 1999 Kargil War, the first officer to be martyred was Maj Adhikari, again an alumnus. As I have already mentioned, 6 of my classmates had joined the Forces. Our old boy’s magazine is edited by a former fauji and most of the contributors are retired or serving officers. The old school tie syndrome, or esprit d corps? Talking of ties, we were all presented school ties by the present Principal and we wore them for the photo op on the school steps where class photos have been taken for over a century. But I was one of the few who had opposed a Dress Code for the events. One of them was a Legacy Event, an interactive session with the students of classes 11 and 12. There were two inputs on the impact of drugs, and sustainable development. They merit separate attention. The younger generation was told that our inheritance should not become our legacy. A poignant statement. What are we pass(Contd.. on p. 14)

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A dangerous trend

Soon after the VP, the President of the country had to remind us to maintain the core values of the Indian pluralistic society. Surely he felt that this is not being done. His advisory was sharp and clear. The onus of this falls on the party or the ruling combine at the centre. Was it a subtle hint from the President to Narendra Modi? The PM was undoubtedly embarrassed but decided to praise the President for his sagacious words. Ever since the PM has taken over, forces which were suppressed under the UPA regime suddenly got activated and a series of comments / threats etc became the order of the day. The language has become more and more combative which has made the minority communities wonder if they are really safe in this country. They are a scared lot especially those who are not able to raise their voices for fear of being targeted. The judiciary is their only hope. The RSS was precluded from participating in political activity as a pre-condition to lifting the ban imposed by Sardar Patel. So they decided to form the Jan Sangh for the purpose of which BJP is a derivative. The others like VHP, Bajarang Dal etc take care of the religious agenda in a structured manner. The BJP has cleverly opted for development knowing fully well that the sister groups are there to handle the other agenda. This arrangement has RSS blessings. The PM may shout and yell at election rallies, but it appears he is helpless when it comes to RSS agenda. When cornered, senior minister Venkaiya Naidu said the Ministers are there to comment on issues and that the PM, need not step in. They reflect the Government’s stand. True. Do the other ministers like the Culture minister Mahesh Sharma, Giriraj Singh and Satya Pal Singh who talk, also convey the views of the government? If they talk sense, it is government view but if they speak rubbish, it is their personal view. Don’t be selective. Why intellectuals – a good many of them have surrendered their ‘puraskars’. Don’t say there is an agenda in their action. People, who question them, have. Many others will follow suit. Get the ‘culture’ test done on your Culture Minister, Mr PM. Your Haryana CM Mr Khattar says the Muslims and Christians ‘can live here’ pro-

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VIEWS on NEWS vided they stop eating beef. Does BJP own this country to allow or not to allow citizens to stay here? Your CM has defied you openly. You [with 56’ chest] are helpless to sack him. The RSS appears comfortable with the view that Dadri killing is in line with the Vedas. Sakshi Maharaj wants death penalty for cow slaughter. You are helpless. You are weaker than your Manmohan Singh, your predecessor – at least he had the excuse of coalition politics. You have no such problem. Simply face it. The Akalis also are also unhappy and they are not pro-Congress. Point may be noted, Mr PM. Giving the rabble rousers a mouthful by you or the BJP president proves one point. Both of you are powerless. Power centre is elsewhere. If action has to follow, the RSS will have to step in. But why will it when it serves its own purpose?

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Thou shall love thy neighbour

Narendra Modi took this commandment seriously even before he donned the mantle of Prime minister-ship. He came up with an out-of-the-box idea of calling all the heads of the governments of the SAARC countries for his swearing-in ceremony. He obviously wanted to show that he values friendship with all the neighbours. He followed this up with visits to some of these countries and extended a hand of friendship. Again this was viewed positively and the public opinion was certainly in his favour who wanted to be different. Indeed he was! Within one year of BJP in office, things are worse than before. Of the six neighbours, Pakistan, Nepal, Bangla Desh and Sri Lanka are big while Bhutan and Maldives are tiny countries. Narendra Modi thought he could make Pakistan turn a new leaf and toe his line of thinking. He thought his counterpart across the border had the wherewithal to turn the corner – something that Pervez Musharraf was trying to do during the Vajpai era. But then Pakistan was ruled by someone who was the President and had full control over the army – a luxury which is denied to Nawaz Shariff. First the Secretary level talks were called off. Then the Ufa goof-up exposed the weakness of the Pakistan regime. The relations to-

by Marshall Sequeira day are worse than what prevailed during the UPA rule. The PM visited Nepal twice and there was a lot of hype over how the dynamic PM has been able to draw that country away from China. Soon that country faced the horrific earthquake. The speed with which the PM reached out with aid to that country was faster than the help that reaches the victims of a train accident in India. There was huge appreciation until the Government of Nepal told India to leave. That much for gratitude! Today, Nepal is blaming India for interference in its internal affairs over the new constitution which that country has adopted. Great friendship! The relations with Sri Lanka improved not because of any diplomacy from Indian side but because the unfriendly President lost the election and the incumbent President is better disposed towards India. It was not an achievement for Narendra Modi. Issues like investigations for war crimes and India’s stand on this sensitive issue could become a sore point in view of the strong Tamil sentiments. Only the recent settlement with Bangladesh appears to be an achievement in itself and Narenda Modi can take legitimate credit for it. Of course, the previous regimes had been working on the issue but the present regime brought finality to this tricky issue. How long will that last? Overall, the hype over the bold initiatives of the Prime Minister Narendra Modi is dying down. Not much is being said by the BJP. Perhaps they have come to realize that dealing with one’s neighbour is not easy. The Prime Minister is now concentrating on countries which are not in our vicinage. Where there is nothing to show, the PM is concentrating on jumbo shows with Indian Diaspora with significant Indian population. How about holding a press conference and face tough questions from the media instead? But you don’t like being questioned.

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(Contd.. from p. 10) ing on to gennext? I love the Kumaon hills where Nainital is situated, and visit every now and then. It is a bird watcher’s paradise. I was happy to see that it has maintained its verdant green cover, and the lake is clean and full of fish. There is a total ban on plastic bags, with a fine of Rs 200/-. But I missed the Kumaoni apples. The markets were flooded with fruit from Himanchal. I was sad to learn that the Kumaon hills have now become too warm for apple cultivation. Global warming. Do we heed the warning? The heritage buildings of Sem literally tower over Nainital, and the locale has often been used for shooting Bollywood blockbusters. But a state of decadence seems to have crept in. There has been no noticeable upgradation, and maintenance of the existing structures is wanting. We were saddened to see broken desks and windowpanes. I was reminded of an observation in Malcolm Gladwell’s bestseller “The Tipping Point”. He made specific reference to broken windowpanes being a sign of callousness. He gave the example of how lawlessness was tackled on the New York tube – by first repairing the windowpanes! It signaled both change and control. With sadness I must say that my glorious alma mater, with its heritage buildings, is now passé. It has outlived its utility. It reminds me of the 4M progression – Man – Movement – Machine – Monument. What started with a man, an Irish visionary, Blessed Edmund Ignatius Rice, is fast turning into a decaying monument – a nice place to visit, but not to live in. I asked a pointed question to the “Brother Superior”. How many boys who had studied in Sem over the last 125 years had joined their congregation? The Superior hung his head and said, “Not one”. By now you will have guessed why I chose not to send my son to Sem. Its motto is “Certa Bon-

um Certamen” – fight the good fight (1Tim 6:12). Perhaps the time has now come for it to say, “I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race” (2Tim 4:7). The swift greyhound of yesteryears seems to have greyed beyond recognition. Does anybody in Sem have the courage to go back to the source, Man, the human person, and focus on people not prestige? The inheritance is there for us to see. It is the legacy that now beckons. They need to start with a carpenter, if need be from Nazareth, to repair those broken windowpanes, and make a fresh beginning. I wish my Alma Mater well. (The writer studied in Sem from 1958 to 1965)

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Foods that can help you sleep better

Guide Try to consume foods that calm the body, increase serotonin levels and get you ready for restful sleep.Here are a few foods to help you Try including rice, Cheese and Potato in your diet to help you get a good night's sleep. Also try to have your dinner before 7pm.If you follow certain pattern it will help you maintain your beuty sleep and as there's a saying early to rice and early to bed is always helpful to start a day. Well, we bring you few food items which can improve your sleeping pattern

A glass of warm Milk: Dairy is a source of

tryptophan,an amino acid which your body converts to melatonin and serotonin which acts as a natural sedative. Warming up milk increases the comfort factor and if you are hungry, try adding a few oats as the carbohydrates make it easier for the tryptophan to get to your brain.So everyday have a glass of milk before sleep.

Cheese: Contrary to popular belief, cheese can actually contribute to a good night's sleep! Tryptophan is an amino acid that our bodies convert to melatonin and serotonin which can help induce sleep. The key is not to overdo it and leave yourself at least two hours before going to bed so as to avoid indigestion.

Potatoes: Carbs act as a natural sleep aid by stimulating the pancreas to secrete insulin. When this happens , some amino acids that interact with tryptophan leave the bloodstream and enter muscle cells, which causes an increase in the tryoptophan levels in the bloodstream and results in an increase in the serotonin levels. High carb foods Include Potatoes, Pasta and Bread.

Valerian root: Valerian root is a herb that is belived to have a calming, relaxing effect on the body. It has been used for centuries to treat insomnia, mild anxiety and restlessness. The exact mechanism of action is unknown. However, it may act as a depressant to the central nervous system to produce a mild tranquilising effect. 26 October 2015

Treat Cold or Flu Naturally

Tips to Treat Colds and Flu the ‘Natural’ Way We all know that, common cold is not a serious issue; Most colds will go away in 3-7 days, although some will last longer if not medicated on time. Here are simple treatments With no known cure in sight for the cold or the flu, over-the-counter treatments can at best bring symptom relief or shorten the duration of those symptoms. Or you can take the natural approach. The following are some home remedies that may help you feel better along the way. No. 1: Blow Your Nose Frequently It’s important to blow your nose regularly when you have a cold rather than sniffling mucus back into your head. But when you blow hard, pressure can cause an earache. The best way to blow your nose: Press a finger over one nostril while you blow gently to clear the other. Always wash your hands after blowing your nose to prevent the spread of germs. No. 2: Better Stay Rested Resting when you first come down with a cold or the flu helps your body direct its energy toward the immune battle. So give it a little help by lying down under a blanket. Avoid going out until you have not completely recovered. No. 3: Do Gargle Gargling can moisten a sore throat and bring quick temporary relief. Try gargling a teaspoon of salt dissolved in warm water up to four times daily. To reduce the tickle in your throat, try an astringent gargle . Or use a thick, viscous gargle made with honey or a mixture of honey and apple cider vinegar, a popular folk remedy. Steep one tablespoon of raspberry leaves or lemon juice in two cups of hot water and mix in one teaspoon of honey. Let the mixture cool to room temperature before gargling. No. 4: Drink Hot Liquids Hot liquids are not only enjoyable; they relieve nasal congestion, help prevent dehydration, and soothe the uncomfortably inflamed membranes that line your nose and throat. You can opt for hot green tea, ginger added tea and hot protein. They relieve your congestion and soothe the inflamed lining of your nose and throat. No. 5: Take a Hot Shower Steamy showers moisturize your nasal passages and can help to relax you. If you’re dizzy from the flu, run a steamy shower while you sit on a chair nearby and take a sponge bath. No. 6: Sleep With an Extra Pillow This will help with the drainage of nasal passages. If the angle is uncomfortable for you, try placing the pillows between the mattress and the box springs to create a more gradual slope. • Essential oils such as peppermint, eucalyptus and clove and tea tree oil can help to clear the nasal passages and make breathing easier. • Steamy showers moisturize nasal and relax you. If you feel dizzy from the flu, sit on a chair and take a sponge bath.

(Contd.. from p. 9) thers, by children and siblings These are some things that we need to leave unspoilt. Beauty is normally found in things that are odd and imperfect - they are much more interesting. A situation must never arise where the family is unhappy only because of a lack of kind “little gestures” leading forgiveness and family bonding. Family bonding is very important for a number of reasons. One reason is that today, both parents often work and the kids are involved in many different activities such as sports, clubs and hanging out with friends. The old concepts of what a family should be have been thrown out the window. It used to be that one parent stayed home, the children saw their parents before and after school, and the whole family sat down to dinner EVERY night, talking about their day, talking to each other about what is going on in their lives. Today, you would be lucky if you see each other more than an hour a day and family dinner hardly ever happens at all. To keep in touch with your family, whether it knows what activities your kids are involved in, parents telling their children about their day, etc., it is important that you as a family spend some quality time together. Sure, you may have busy schedules, but you all can sit down at least once a week to touch base, be together, and let each other know there is love in the family still. All too often, no one talks to others in the family or spends any time together and it seems a bunch of strangers are living together. Do you really want your kids growing up this way, and passing these bad family traits down to their family and kids? Family time doesn’t have to be a chore, but it does have to be scheduled and you all have to make a commitment to be there every time. If you as a parent tell your friends that you want to spend more time with your family, they better understand, or they aren’t really the friends you thought them to be. While your kids may buck at the idea at first, if they know it is a fun time to spend together, they will be more and more eager to make sure they are there too. When the ability to acknowledge what

is horrifically wrong is lost between or among the family members, then it becomes possible for the family member(s) to justify virtually anything in order to further a larger cause. The idea of a minimum standard of humanity breaks down not because of the universality of evil, but because of a perverse desire to win an argument between or among family members, no matter what the cost. This is the real danger of the word games that are being played between or among family members. Where does one draw the line? Why does it become possible for a family member to be so repelled by something that they condemn their family unequivocally without qualification or sly justification avoiding the usual “but what about such and such done by the other side in the past”, and refraining from keeping a cunning and calculating silence. Or is it that there is now no such line that we can take for granted, and that everything will necessary become subject to a process of competitive desensitization? These are relevant questions in today’s family. In such circumstances - The church must encourage families and defend faithful love, the sacredness of every human life and "the unity and indissolubility" of marriage. The family is a place of discernment, where we learn to recognize God’s plan for our lives and to embrace it with trust. It is a place of gratuitousness, of discreet fraternal presence and solidarity, a place where we learn to step out of ourselves and accept others, to forgive and to be forgiven. Every family is always a light, however faint, amid the darkness of this world. We have a great legacy but one, which is increasingly diminishing, and one fine day we will wake up and see the damage we have done. It is already too late. While there must be enough noise about the problems in the family, we cannot ignore the soul of the family. It’s heritage which chronicles the DNA of a family. To allow that DNA to disappear would be the biggest disservice we can do to the family. The family is not an outdated model, and Catholics should defend it from the sins that call into question and often destroy the traditional family,

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Church response to the present day challenges in India formed that the working paper on the main theme, prepared by the CBCI Core Team, will be circulated among all the dioceses to facilitate discussion and deliberation on the plenary’s theme at various levels of the Church in India. This will help the plenary to reflect the thinking and feeling of the whole Church in India, the prelate added.

New Delhi: The Catholic bishops in India will seek ways to help the Church respond meaningfully to modern challenges when they meet for their next biennial plenary scheduled for March 2-9 at St. John’s Medical College Campus, Bangalore. Bishops of India’s 171 dioceses, auxiliary and retired bishops are expected at the assembly that has chosen the theme, “The Response of the Church in India to the present day Challenges.” The bishops are meeting for the first time after Narendra Modi takes over as Prime Minister of India. Justice Cyriac Joseph, a retired Supreme Court judge and acting chairperson of the National Human Rights Commission, will be the main speaker

The previous plenary was held at Palai, Kerala, in February 2014.

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Avoid Fights with spouse Having arguments is certainly not healthy for any relationship. So, the next time there is any disagreement between you, try any of given tricks to avoid getting into a fight.

Get busy with your favourite activity:

or any two people in a relationship, having disagreements with each other at times is quite inevitable. And, these disagreements tend to create stress between them, which ultimately leads to an argument. It might not be possible for you to control the situations that lead to an argument. However, you certainly can have a control over the way you react to those situations, and hence, you can avoid having an argument with your partner.

Think about the problem first:

Sometimes, we tend to get angry over little things and react immediately. However, if you think for a while before saying anything to your partner about the issue that is bothering you, the argument can actually be avoided as you may realise that it is not at all worth fighting for.

Instead of arguing go for a walk:

When a situation provokes you to get into a big argument with your partner, just go for a walk. Walking is a great mood-booster as it releases the ‘feel good’ chemical, endorphin, and fills your mind with positive thoughts.

Get into your partner’s shoes:

Men and women think quite differently, and hence, whatever is done by your partner might not actually have been done intentionally to hurt you. So, try to get into your partner’s shoes and think from their perspective.

techniques, like writing notes, emails, WhatsApp or text messages, etc., to explain your point. But, make sure that you do not write too harsh words or negative things. Think diplomatically, and then write down the things that are bothering you.

Think about the positives:

Doing this will help you to calm down and instead of having an argument, you will be able to get into a healthy discussion with your partner to solve the issue that is causing a problem.

Whenever there is a disagreement between the two of you, try to divert your mind by getting involved into something that you like to do. For instance, you can play video games, listen to your favourite music, go out for shopping, or anything else that makes you a happy person. This will lighten up your mood, and you may not even have to fight with your partner afterwards.

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Make sure you will not suppress your anger:

Well, you cannot stay angry at your partner all the time. Sometimes, you need to vent your anger somewhere else. When in extreme anger, go alone where there is no one else. Simply shout, scream or may be cry out loud! But, make sure you take your anger out and do not crush it inside. And, if you find this difficult, then call or meet your best friend and say it all. This will help you take out your anger without letting your partner know about it, and will surely be good for your relationship.

Write down things troubling you:

Another way to avoid argument is to choose non-verbal communication

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Be A Better Role Model From cousins and nieces and nephews to younger siblings and kids in your neighbourhood, make a difference and shape young minds any chance you can get. Setting a good example for the youth may be challenging but totally rewarding , if you consistently do it right. Here are some things you can try.

ole models have an astounding effect on the lives of young people in our society. So, no matter what you do for a living or how you live your life, you will be surprised at how influential you can be to the youth in your life. The world is a troubling place, and the last thing it needs is a new generation of self-entitled people. Do your part and make it a point to be a better role model for the young ones in your life. So long as you nurture kind and generous youngsters, you can be sure that you're making a difference in their lives and changing the world for the better. Here are a few very effective ways to be a role model for the youngsters around you

Cut out the vices:

Smoking, drinking, and openly talking about drugs and partying should be shelved. This is common sense. If you can’t give up your vices, you won't create an impact. The youngsters you are trying to shape should be none the wiser when it comes to these actions. Also, remember not to glorify these vices because once the young ones see you stamping your approval on them, they will want to try it the moment they get the chance.

Get them moving:

There’s no need to organize a tortur-

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1. Passion and ability to inspire 2. Clear set of values 3. Commit to the community 4. Selflessness and acceptance of others 5. Ability to overcome obstacles

ous boot camp for your brother and his friends, and neither is there any need to force your niece to swim laps till she cries. So long as you pitch the idea that sports are fun, kids will happily join you. Start by organizing one-on-one games like badminton, hopscotch, tennis, and so on. Get them to invite their friends along, and set up mini football or basketball tourneys. You can also bring a couple of them out for a hike or bike ride whenever you get the chance to. Be sure to practice what you preach, and make it a point to never complain about sweating it out. When they see you enjoying yourself, they will too.

Eat right:

Fast food may be fast, but it’s certainly not food. They need to know just how gnarly these options are, and they need to learn how to make informed decisions when it comes to what they consume. Encourage them to scoff at fast food and to consume fresh produce instead. From substituting soda for fruit juice and replacing burgers with grilled chicken, teach them how to make wiser decisions when it comes to food. Get their parents on board as well because good nutrition starts at home.

Inspire them with travel tales:

They may be young, but there’s no reason why they shouldn’t be aware that there’s a big, beautiful world out there. Sure, not many kids are privileged enough to travel until they are much older, but that shouldn’t stop them from learning about what’s out there. From books to travel shows, there are lots of ways to expose them to cultures that are not their own. You should also inspire them with tales of your travels and motivate them to want to aim big and fly high.

Be kind and preach kindness:

Children tend to take after those they respect, so if you gain their trust and show them the importance of being kind, they will follow suit.

Teach them to lead:

One way to be a good role model to them is to treat them like grownups. Instead of resorting to anger, let them know that their actions have consequences. When you give youngsters the chance to shoulder some responsibility, they will make it a point to prove that they can do it. You breed leaders not by telling them what to do, but by showing them and letting them take the reins.

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31 years, Ht. 5’ 8”, Wt. 75 kgs, Fair Complexion, Studing M.D., General Medicine. Seeks a suitable match. Contact email : boom_anup_41@ yahoo.com OR 9422628636 / 9273337666 (Regd. No. 6407) MUMBAI : Goan Roman Catholic Bachelor, aged 33 years, Ht. 5’ 5”, Wheatish Complexion, Edn. HSC / Diploma in Optometry, working as a Sales Professional. Contact email : picardosimon@gmail.com OR 9819403252 (Regd. No. 6404) MUMBAI: Goan Roman Catholic Bachelor, aged 37 years, Ht. 5’ 6”, good looking XII Pass, presently working as Share Broker having own bungalow accommodation at Bandra Mumbai also getting good regular monthly rent seeks a goodlooking RC Spinster. Call 9167372840 Contact email : pintolazarus2012@gmail.com (Regd. No. 6393) MUMBAI : Goan Roman Catholic Bachelor, aged 35 years, Ht. 5’ 7”, Wt. 75 kgs, Wheatish Complexion, Edn. Graduate, working as a Manager in Cruise Line. Contact email : oszy_2001@yahoo.com OR 9833944206 (Regd. No. 6385) MUMBAI : Mangalorean Roman Catholic Bachelor,a ged 34 years, Ht. 5’ 4”, Wt. 64 kgs, Wheatish Complexion, Edn. HSC, working as a Script Writer. Seeks a suitable match. Contact email : roydandsilva@ gmail.com OR 28815914 (Regd. No. 6384) MUMBAI : Goan Roman Catholic Bachelor, aged 42 years, Ht. 6’ 4”, Wt. 98 kgs, Wheatish Complexion, Edn. HSC., working as a Steward in Oil Tanker - Foreign Ship. Contact email : 285vvictor@ gmail.com OR 7798325784 (Regd. No. 6380) MUMBAI : Mangalorean Roman Catholic Bachelor, aged 32 years, Ht. 5’ 7”, Wt. 65 kgs, Fair Complexion, Edn.

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B.Com., working as an Asst. Retail Manager in Cruise Lines. Contact email : denzil.l.pinto@ yahoo.co.in OR 9167613412 (Regd. No. 6376) MUMBAI : Mangalorean Roman catholic Widower, aged 53 years, Ht. 5’ 7”, Wt. 65 kgs, Wheatish Complexion, Edn. HSC, having business and accommodation. Contact email : albertlobo19@gmail.com OR 9820695110 (Regd. No. 6251) MUMBAI : East Indian Roman Catholic Bachelor, aged 40 years, Ht.5’ 8”, Wt. 76 kgs, Wheatish Complexion, Edn. B.A., working as a Manager. Contact email : cardoz.clint@gmail. com OR 9833563182 (Regd. No. 6250) MUMBAI : East Indian Roman Catholic Widower, aged 59 years, Ht. 5’ 7”, Wt. 70 kgs, Wheatish Complexion, Handsome, Edn. SSC, Well settled, having own accommodation. Seeks a good looking girl below 50 years, working or non working. Contact : 7506014145 (Regd. No. 6075) MUMBAI : Goan Roman Catholic Bachelor, aged 30 years, Ht. 5’ 4”, Wt. 60 kgs, Fair Complexion, Edn. B.Com., working as a Asst. Manager. Contact email : peterpereira11@ gmail.com OR 9833005381 (Regd. No. 6289) MUMBAI : Mangaloren Roman Catholic Bachelor, aged 29 years, Ht. 5’ 8”, Wt. 78 kgs, Fair Complexion, Edn. Electronic Engineer and MBA, Working as a Consultant in Limited Company. Contact email : henry.fernandes53@gmail.com OR 7738365149 (Regd. No. 6259) Address your replies to :

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MATRIMONIALS MUMBAI : Goan Roman Catholic Spinster, aged 24 years, Ht. 5’ 6”, Well built, Wheatish Complexion, Edn. Graduate, working as an Accounts Executive. Seeks a Goan RC Bachelor below 30 years. Contact Email : taureangirl1991@gmail.com (Regd. No. 6420) MUMBAI : Goan Roman Catholic Spinster, aged 27 years, Ht. 5’ 5”, Wt. 65 kgs, Wheatish Complexion, Edn. C.A., working as a C.A. Seeks a Goan Roman Catholic Bachelor. Contact email : rosefina.20@gmail.com OR 9022026602 (Regd. No. 6417) MUMBAI : Roman Catholic Spinster, aged 26 years, Ht. 5’1”, Wt. 48 kgs, Wheatish Complexion, Edn. B.Com., (Banking & Insurance) working as a Consultant. Contact email : rosemarybharda@yahoo.com OR 9224780162 (Regd. No. 6414) MUMBAI : Mangalorean Roman Catholic Spinster, aged 28 years, Ht. 5’, Wt. 46 kgs, Fair Complexion, Edn. B.Sc., MBA working as a HR. Contact email : picardo.princiaj@gmail.com OR 9833077789 (Regd. No. 6406) MUMBAI : Goan Roman Catholic Spinster, aged 32 years, Ht. 5’5”, Wt. 75 kgs, Wheatish Complexion, Edn. TYBA., working as a Receptionist. Contact email : mascarenhasprescilla @gmail.com OR 9930953353 (Regd. No. 6405) MUMBAI : Mangalorean Roman Catholic Spinster, aged 26 years, Ht. 5’ 3”, Wt. 54 kgs, Fair Complexion, Edn. MBA in Pharma Management, working as a Senior Process Associate at TCS. Seeks a well educated and well settled bachelor. Contact email : zenalobo89@yahoo.co.in OR 9833858842 (Regd. No. 6392) CANADA : Mangalorean Roman Catholic Spinster, aged 27 years, Ht. 5’ 5”, Wt. 67 kgs, Wheatish Complexion,

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Edn. M.Sc. Microbiologist in Canada, working as a Microbiologist. Looking for a professionally qualified, well educated bachelor preferably working in Canada. Contact email : pintocrystina@gmail.com OR 9769818773 (Regd. No. 6391) AUSTRALIA : Mangalorean RC parents seek alliance for their daughter 28 years, 5’ 1”, fair, BE in IT and working as software developer in Australia from professionally qualified RC bachelors, preferably working in Australia, kindly reply with detailed profile and photograph to email gracyfred84 @gmail.com Mob : 9833149882 / 9819219544. (Regd. No. 6390) MUMBAI : Goan Roman Catholic Spinster, aged 33 years, only child, Ht. 5’ 9”, Wt. 78 kgs, Wheatish Complexion, Edn. Post Graduate, Hotel Management, studing. Contact email : p5659c@gmail.com OR 9930019677 (Regd. No. 6389) DUBAI : Anglo Indian Roman Catholic Spinster, Only Child, aged 28 years, Ht. 5’ 2”, Wt. 62 kgs, Wheatish Complexion, Edn. MBA in Finance, working as a Finance Asst., Contact email : arwengretel24@gmail.com / hildafernandez11@gmail.com OR 9768401209 (Regd. No. 6388) POONA : Mangalorean RC Divorcee having one son 7 years old, aged 36 years, Ht. 5’ 4”, Wt. 62 kgs, Wheatish Complexion, Edn. B.Sc., B.Ed., M.Ed., CIDTT, working for International School as a Teacher. Contact email : sheilashere@rediffmail.com OR 9527884542. (Regd. No. 6387) NAGPUR : CNI Protestant Spinster, aged 31 years, Ht. 5’ 3”, Wt. 57 kgs, Wheatish Complexion, Edn. M.Sc., Biotechology. Contact email : shikhanath@yahoo.com OR 9422300753 (Regd. No. 6383) MUMBAI : Goan Roman Catholic Spinster, aged 31 years, Ht. 5’ 3”, Wt. 58 kgs, Wheatish Complexion, Edn. M.Com., working. Contact email : soareskaren14@gmail.com OR 9967297756 (Regd. No. 6381) MUMBAI : Innocent divorcee 35 years,

MBA (F), works for a bank in Mumbai as an Asst. Manager. Short marriage dissolved and annulled. Seeks a suitable groom from good family background. Contact Mob.: No. 09052872253 (Regd. No. 6379) MUMBAI : Mangalorean RC Spinster, aged 31 years, Ht. 5’ 4”, Wt. 58 kgs, Wheatish Complexion, Edn. M.Sc., writer and editor of Science Research Publications. Contact email : tnmdfg@gmail.com OR 9619428279 / 8879452467 (Regd. No. 6378) USA : Mangalorean Roman Catholic Spinster, aged 31 years, Ht. 5’4”, Wt. 54 kgs., Fair Complexion, good looking. Edn. M.A., MBA., working as Sr. Manager in USA. Seeks well qualified bachelors working in USA. Contact email : divineword121 @gmail.com (Regd. No. 6377) PUNE : Maharashtrian RC Spinster, aged 29 years, Ht. 5’ 1”, Wheatish Complexion, Edn. BHSC, B.Ed., Post graduate, Teacher by profession. Contact email : cyrilmuntode @gmail. com OR 9850978699. (Regd. No. 6374) MUMBAI : Mangalorean Roman Catholic Spinster, aged 24 years, Ht. 5’, Wt. 45 kgs, Fair Complexion, Edn. B.Sc., working as a HR. Contact email : andrewvds1972@ gmail.com OR 9821639989 (Regd. No. 6245) MUMBAI : Punjabi CNI Protestant Spinster, aged 29 years, Ht. 5’ 2”, Wt. 54 kgs, Fair complexion, Edn., B.Com., working as a FM Team Co-ordinator. Contact email : minti_masih@ yahoo.co.in OR 9665169956 (Regd. No. 6244) Address your replies to :

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