How to Flirt With a Girl And How to Not Look Like a Fool! By Allan Kent
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Flirting with a girl is not that easy for most guys. In fact, they think that you’ll have to be super confident, fast thinking and a hell of a guy to get a result. That’s true… in a way. Can you recognize this? Being an ordinary guy like me, it´s hard to control your shyness and inner fear of rejection. I used to find it hard to take action and actually do something about it. I wanted to be in control, even in situations where the stress level was way high. … Like when flirting There is loads of advice on the internet today, but I found most of it to be useless. I needed something a little different that would really work for me. … I wanted to be a winner So I started working on many different and unique methods to make it happen, and over the years I have used these methods to improve my flirting, to a level where I can honestly say it has been a great success.
***I assume you want to be a winner too? You must be. How can I know that? Because you are actually taking action in trying to get a better understanding of girls and flirting. By doing this you are already ahead of most of the guys pretending to have any knowledge of what they are doing. Be sure to take action and follow the tips in this guide to be more confident, less shy and well prepared for the game of flirting.
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BTW, I won’t specifically address flirting by text messaging, but I recommend this FREE video that reveals exactly how to do that. To help you out I am also giving you the Teasing and Banter Line “Cheat sheets” guide for FREE. Click Here to get it! It is easy to read and understand and explains How to Flirt with Text Messaging.
Tip 1 – A good opening line What is a good opening line when flirting with a girl you’re interested in? Is it: “Your eyes are really beautiful” or “I’ve been looking at you from over there and you seem to like me” or is it “your hair is blacker than Africa”. Not really, it is: Hi… Yes, with a simple “Hi!” you´ll be ahead of at least 50% of the other guys that are not doing anything. Nearly all girls will actually smile, and give you a shot if you just say “hi”. Then take it from there. Too many guys think they can predict the answer, if they go tell something to a girl that interests them. They work it all out in their heads and fear rejection, or something they didn’t expect. That is making everything unnecessarily complicated. Having a simple strategy with just a few openers practiced, you won’t have to think at all, you just act in the moment. I cannot really tell you what to say, because it’s really up to yourself to figure out what works for you. A good one will probably be to ask her what she might be thinking about men who have the guts to approach her and say “Hi”.
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The best topics to talk about are subjects with lots of drama and sensational possibilities. Don’t ask her: -
Where do you live? What´s your job? What do you do in the evenings? Etc.
Instead tell her: “That you saw a guy climbing outside on a building yesterday, and ask if she´ll do the same for money and fame”. After a while, when you have overcome the introduction and are getting a little more relaxed, you´ll find that it is easy to sniff out topics to talk about. She will most likely provide you with the building blocks so all you have to do is listen and expand the conversation. Women are in fact turned off by men who do not have the guts to approach them. Yes, that is true… You might think that they´ll take you for an idiot for making a move and taking a risk, but in reality they think you are a loser if you don´t. Now, the game works for you, whatever you might have thought before.
Tip 2 – Do I have to be on guard when flirting with girls? Not really…but you do have to understand that sometimes girls will lure you into a trap without you even knowing it before it´s too late. Don’t answer her questions…
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You must be on guard to avoid being caught in the trap of thinking that you always have to answer her questions. When a girl is asking a question, she’s not always looking for an answer to that question. More often than not, she is asking you something else, but she has to lead into it with preliminary questions. Try to always dig deeper before answering and getting yourself into trouble. You might want to answer a question immediately, to appear clever and fast thinking. You will have to control this tendency, and remember that women rarely ask questions of you that are meaningless or trivial to them.
Tip 3 - Overcoming shyness A good place to start is by making simple and consistent eye contact. You can work at it step by step. 1. Try making strong eye contact with your dog… if you got one 2. Then try doing it with the salespeople you encounter in stores and malls 3. Then try with the receptionist or front desk guy at the place where you work 4. Next, with your peers and associates 5. Now, it´s time trying to lock eyes with girls you pass on the street 6. Work your way up, increasing the amount of time you hold that contact Eye contact is very important for the reason that it indicates a dominant, confident behavior. You´ll see that very few people can in fact maintain eye contact. Without eye contact you will look insecure and untrustworthy. Your eyes are communicating an incredibly amount of information to the viewer…remember this:
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When you lock eyes with a girl, you´re saying, “I´m interested” The more you do this, the easier it really gets. …Next, there´s the smile. When you pass girls on the street and make eye contact and smile at them, many will smile back, some won´t. Don´t think she thinks you are weird, not attractive or knows what you´re up to. Truth is, if she doesn´t smile it´s her business. Maybe she is having a bad day, just got a bad phone call or having trouble with family/friends. Anyway, it´s not because of you. Keep your head high, and don't let go of eye contact until she looks away.
Tip 4 – Adjusting your mindset You will have to adjust your mindset in order to become more successful flirting with girls. Often, men are either “themselves” or they are flirting and dating. It is necessary to actually always have both of these behaviors at the same time if you really want to have success flirting with girls. You will need to use every single interaction with a girl to practice, even if you are not attracted to her. That way, you´ll learn that girls are not scary or dangerous. Think about the girls you are not attracted to… They are easy to talk to, right? Well, they are all equal, and understanding this will make it easy for you when you meet this gorgeous fantastic looking girl. She will be just another girl you interact with.
Tip 5 - Teasing a girl
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One of the best things you can do is to tease a girl, to let her know that she is not on a level far higher that you. Make fun of her… forget about giving her compliments. In that way you’ll get under her radar because she will not see you as somebody that wants to date her. Teasing is really flirting. Try telling her something like: So, do you always wear mega high heels? How´s the weather up there? If she tells a joke, let her finish and then just stare at her, like you didn’t understand it and say “I’m sorry, was that meant to be funny?” and then keep a straight face as long as you can. Of course you’ll smile after a while, and she will find the whole situation funny. If she says something just a little “naughty”, then ask her to give you her hand. Take it, slowly turn it, and slap it! Gently of course. If you have still not made physical contact, this is a good place to start. Another way to make physical contact is by telling her you can guess her weight. I know… never talk about weight with a girl, but.... Then you take one of her fingers and have a good look at it. Now, put on a very serious look on your face, and tell her something like “311”. This is of course only to be used with girls that look very fit. “What kind of music do you like? If it´s Rihanna I´m jumping out of the window, landing on a samurai sword. Basically, make fun of her, not yourself. Don´t tease her constantly, but vary the conversation with more meaningful talk.
Tip 6 - What kind of a man do girls really want? - One who can make girls think
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- One who can make girls feel excited, sexy and turned on, and not bored - One that takes care of his life, and not letting anyone walk over him - One that will make her feel important to him - One that is not afraid to speak his opinion - One that keeps them on their toes through challenge - One that has an element of mystery to him… and maintains it - One that is spontaneous - One that gives them plenty of space and freedom, and keeps his own space - One that is a lover… not a child - One that is a Romeo, not a Fabio(slick and false) - One that is chivalrous
Tip 7 - What do girls really want from you? Maybe you have been in a situation where you´ve been confused because a girl seemed to say one thing and meant another. To her, however, this is not weird at all. It is how they communicate things that they don´t know or understand about themselves. There is no hidden code; they are just talking from a different part of the brain than the part that actually responds to men. When she says that she wants a nice guy, she is really saying, that she knows that the emotional part of her brain (the part without a verbal language) wants: A man that won’t hurt her(trust) A man who is attractive to her A man who is not a wimp
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She does not always know what makes her attracted to a man, but she knows what makes her trust. Her emotional mind is like an earthquake, all resonance and feeling, but very little of the sound from it can actually be understood. She speaks in an abstracted and indirect way because there is no direct connection between these parts of the brain. She really wants this in a relationship:
Safety and trust Emotional stability Non violence A good character (one that is not sleeping around) Appreciation/ Affection – the feeling of being unique and special Drama/intrigues S.S.S – Self confidence/ Self discipline/ Sense of humor Consistent behavior Security Fun/excitement Mystery
Now, you know this and cannot ignore it anymore…can you live up to that? Well, personally I cannot, but we can always try. As I mentioned earlier, I recommend this FREE video for in-depth information and action items that apply to every aspect of flirting by text messaging.
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As a bonus I am also giving you the Teasing and Banter Line “Cheat sheets” guide for FREE. Click Here to get the FREE guide and FREE video.
Tip 8 - Ten mistakes when flirting (or dating) girls 1. Too much talking (mainly about yourself) – You´ll want to focus about 70% of the conversation on her. She feels that a man listening to and understanding her will be a good lover. If you brag on she´ll probably nod and smile, but she´ll be thinking about how boring you are, and how you cannot impossibly give her good loving. Look at the talk show hosts and how they ask questions and get everyone laughing. 2. Trying too hard to impress – Don’t buy her flowers or gifts. Imagine a car salesman coming at you with his sales pitch. You´ll want to step back and see what he is selling you. It’s the same thing with a girl. Any man that tries to buy her affections demonstrates low self confidence and low self discipline. 3. Drinking too much (and maybe talking to much) – A few drinks are okay, but more than that and it will affect your judgment. It´s
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tempting to have a few drinks and loosen up but flirting is hard enough sober, why make it any more difficult? Selling the next meeting or date too early – Don´t ask her out, you´ll want to increase the mystery about your next meeting. End the meeting in a good way and tell her nothing. Say “I had a great time” and then leave. The next few days you’ll leave her wondering if or when you are going to call and ask her out again. What she doesn´t know will help you. Too fast moving – slow down, relax, take it easy… many guys think that they can either hurry a girl, or get on to the next one to get a score. I´ll tell you a joke here… Two bulls are standing on a hilltop overlooking a herd of cows. One bull says: “Lets run down there and have a couple of that ladies” The other bull smiles and says, “Lets walk down and have them all!” Too slow moving – You´ll have to state your romantic intentions at some point otherwise she’ll loose attraction, since you are not showing self confidence. The longer you wait, the worse it gets. Always move forward toward your next romantic goal with her. Not being relaxed enough – if you aren´t relaxed you might start looking desperate. Start relaxing already some time before the meeting. It might help for you to work-out or exercise some kind of breath control, where you get the heartbeat a little down. After doing some hard training, endorphins will come out into your bloodstream and you´ll feel more relaxed. Being clingy – You´ll want to make her feel good and happy, but the get-together is not only about her. Back off enough to let her breathe. Make a break now and then by talking with someone nearby, or let a comfortable pause enter the conversation. If you are smiling and looking secure with yourself, everything will be fine.
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9. Going too long having a good time – You know the thing with football players and other top athletes… they want to stop while they are still on the top and so should you. Don’t drag out the date. 10.Having no plan – Make a backup plan for your meeting in case you run into a problem, or it develops in a more amorous direction. How do you want to progress this? Do you have a place to go? To your success! Allan Kent PS: Keep an eye on your e-mail where I will share a lot more cool stuff to help you flirt and get your dream girl.