How to Talk To Girls And How to Not Be Nervous When Doing It! By Allan Kent
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Trying to talk to girls is not at all easy; I can honestly say that because I have tried it many times. It used to always scare the shit out of me. Have you been there? I used to be a really shy guy walking around looking at all these gorgeous girls near the place I lived. There were plenty of them. The problem was that I didn’t knew how to approach them, how to talk to them. This could not go on so I decided to do something about it. I needed to find a way to control my shyness, a way to avoid getting nervous all the time when being around girls. So, I started looking for advice everywhere I could. I found loads of advice from pick-up artists telling me to manipulate girls into doing all kinds of things, but it was all useless since I did not even know how to talk to them. I thought that there has to be other ways of doing this since a confident guy with great self-awareness would never need advice from these places. I have worked hard over the years trying to solve this issue and have learned and developed many different and unique methods to handle my fear and make me 100% confident being with, and talking to girls.
*** I honestly believe you can learn that too. … And the good news is: you don’t need to spend years doing it. In fact it just takes a little practice and you can be out talking to girls before you know it! All it takes is for you to actually take action and follow these tips and you will be able to not only talk to girls, but also impress them and stop nervousness and panic right when it attacks.
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Tip 1 – How to Not Give Out Nervous Energy in a Conversation If you are giving out nervous energy in a conversation it is going to distract the message you want to give and the girl will fell it instantly. She is then going to focus on your vibes, and probably feel that there is something off with you. - How to fix this? Girls do understand that boys are sometimes a bit nervous when approaching them. Sometimes they will get that, sometimes not. What you can do is to look at your inner game, sort of from the inside and out. You need to get in touch with the feelings you are trying to promote in order to be able to make her feel that way. If you want to make her feel exited, you need to first get in touch with your own excitement. Ask yourself the question: What is excitement for you? Another thing you can do is to describe the problem in your head with only 1 word. It might be that you feel: “nervous” or “freaked out”… that was 2 words I know… or maybe “uncomfortable” or “blank”. Just, quickly focus on it and come up with the first word that describes the feeling, okay? Then you ask yourself: what is the opposite of this state? If “nervous” it could be “relaxed”. If “stressed” it might be “calm”. You’ll have to find the opposite word.
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Now here comes the important part…Make the person you are talking to feel this opposite way. Focus on making that person feel “confident”, “relaxed”, “happy” or whatever is the opposite of what you feel. You will have to ask yourself the question: How can I make her feel that way? When you really focus on that it is going to affect your approach, how you are feeling, even how you talk turning you into a relaxed person. Here it what to do step by step. - Notice what the sensation or problem is you are feeling and put a single word on it. - Find the opposite word for this feeling. - Make the person you are talking to feel this way Stay calm; think about that it should be no harder talking to this girl than talking to your friends or other people. Most guys tend to neglect this fact. One of the golden rules is: - Act now, talk now and think later. Thinking deep about what you are going to tell her next never really works.
Tip 2 – How Not to Entertain Her and Start Making Decisions Yes, I know that headline sounds a bit wrong… of course you can entertain the girl you are talking to; you just don’t have to put a lot of pressure on yourself. It will have to flow in a natural way. So, the situation is that you’re finally having a date with this wonderful girl and now you want to do everything you can to entertain her, talk a lot and doing things like trying to run routines and all that stuff that some of the pick-up artists say you should do.
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The problem is that you work too hard internally and externally. Both of them are not good. If you're working hard externality you cannot make the girl understand that you are at least her equal, or maybe a little bit more in charge. It also seems like you are working harder on the conversation than her. If you are working really hard internally, it is all happening in your head, but you are not really communicating. Then it is impossible being spontaneous and natural looking. Here is a key concept that can make you focus in a conversation. Recently I bought an Ipad, and found a pinball app. Pinball is all about hitting the balls at the right moment, and most of the times you are just watching the ball going around and sometimes you hit it and it goes places where you receive top points and loads of bonuses. These are sweet spots. Now, this is a good metaphor for how a good conversation with a girl can actually be, making it easy for you, which leads into 2 important things: - Minimum effort - Maximum awareness If you are making all the effort the girl will notice it, and it is not making you attractive. She is not going to get attracted to you. You need to press the right buttons at the right time. You can do this by asking the right questions at the right moments like: “why?” or “oh, how is that?” or “tell me more”, “that’s cool!” and the best: “that is an interesting thing about you”. Little things like that can take the conversation the right way where you are talking about something that is really important to her.
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Awareness is more important than telling the best stories. The conversation should flow, just like the ball in a pinball game. Another important thing is that you feel free to take the conversion in another direction. You want that freedom because it will go into directions the girl have not experienced before and that is really powerful. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself like thinking that now you have to talk to this girl and make up a lot of funny stories to make her happy. Focus on what is happening here and now to pick up little things she is saying. Remember: She wants you to make decisions …and she is going to thank you for it. Now how can I do that you might think? Here is a quick story to illustrate it. There was this girl I was interested in long time ago. I am going to take her for dinner and then she arrives. In my head I am thinking that I have to make this a perfect dinner and a perfect evening and that she is going to have a perfect time. To cut is short; that she likes it! So, we are going to this Italian restaurant and I ask her if she likes the menu. Her answer is: “uhh,oh, yes, it looks okay, it’s nice”. That makes me a little nervous, and being a great day with nice weather I decide that we’ll walk on to the next restaurant. I ask her the same question again and she answers: “hmm, I am not too sure…maybe”. I am thinking that this is an even worse response and makes us quickly continue to the next restaurant… same thing again. I am thinking about if she is ever going to make up her mind.
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Going on to the fifth restaurant she’s a bit quiet. When we reach the restaurant I ask her if she likes the menu and then she answers: “I am hungry. I can eat anything and I want to eat now” and then she goes away. What was driving her to do this? It was of course the fact that I wanted her to make the decision about which restaurant to choose. Well, girls love that you are taking the decisions and surprising them sometimes, to take them somewhere and say “this is a great restaurant and you are going to love it”, you’ll want to be the guy saying: “I want to take you to this cool place I know, put your clothes on and come with me”. You will want to tease her and very importantly entertain yourself while doing it, enjoy her, have fun with her. These things will help her to just relax and enjoy your company. She needs to know you are leading, and that she can relax. Follow, or give her opinions, but you are driving and she is the passenger. She does not have to drive the car for you. Out with:
Where do you want to eat? Which bar do you like best? Do you wanna?... How are you feeling?
Just… Stop it! You will like to: Challenge her and take care of things Make small decisions Suggest things rather than asking her first Doing just a few of these things will help her to relax and see you as an attractive man who knows how to handle situations.
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Tip 3 – How to Talk to girls In A Group So, the situation is that you like this particular girl but she is always together with her friends. How do you get to talk to her? Most pick-up gurus will tell you to isolate her from the rest of the party, but that is really not a good idea. Instead try to talk to all of them, include them all in the conversation. Approach them all. After all, some of the others could turn out to be more interesting than the girl you have selected. The aim of the conversation should not be to get one of the girl’s mobile numbers but to give them a better time that they already have and to have a good time yourself! Entertain yourself in the process, remember? Here is the secret! If you have 3 girls in a group and you are talking to all of them, an element of competition is going to sneak into the conversation. Maybe just a touch of it, but enough to make each of these girls want you to like her the most. It’s because of vanity. Deep inside we all want to get the most attention. Everybody likes to feel that somebody likes them. Makes sense? 3 girls = triple the fun! Now you know what to do in situations like these. As I mentioned earlier, I recommend this FREE video for in-depth information and action items that apply to every aspect of getting and communicating with girls, and how to overcome almost any obstacle you’re currently facing.
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