THE BATLLE SHIFT BETWEEN DOMINANCE AND FREEDOM AND A NEED TO PROMOTE IDEAL FAMILY CONTRACT. I really did appreciate all the readers of my first publication about how to start right with your family, and how to understand the oneliness purpose of the family. I have received some encouraging comments from friends and followers in the past weeks, yet there are many issues affecting the family day-in-dayout in the world whereby our complex social interactions has given rise to lots of pressures on the individual, individual who is a part of a family, and the family which is inseparable from the individual. The growing demand on women for independence is one issue that is really affecting the genuineness of the family in the world today, with a growing rand increasing rate of divorce and rigid feminism ideals that is significantly altering the course of our society and modern day civilization. As an individual who is passionate and concerned about your family well-being as well as patiently observing trends in marital lifestyle that tends to evoke frustration in women as much as promoting their sense of and for freedom which most men and husbands has violated, and that is contributing to the family breakdown as we have it today. The present age has moved past the previous aged as human interactions are now more subtle and quite sophisticated, human are informed as well as can make his/her heard and mobilized temporal self support as the social media platforms could provide. Lately human are deviating from norms, seek freedom with cultural and religious premises that can supposedly interfere their freedom, well if I may correct that; their pleasure seek self. Divorce-immuned culture of the 1950s has started experiencing structural deformity and increasing marital confirms as much as divorces. Why this shift? There several explanation for this recent issue that significantly affecting the functionality of an ideal family that many couples and homes has grown weary of.
Evolutionary Theme: Human must undergo a natural change that is as a result of time, situations and his rational existence, thus the new change and the quest of women dominance could not be a matter of frustration but a necessary course to strike a balance on nature. Social Change Theme: This theme supports that a perceived social injustice in any part of human social structure will always provoke equality or a need for dominance by the deprived party. In the case of the family, when the woman is deprived of her view and opinion in fulfilling her part of the marital contract in real situation or emotional (perceived) means, this creates a tension within which gradually transcend and manifest through frustration and negative reactions to oneliness matters that connect the spouses together. Socio-Cultural Biases: Every Culture and Religion has presented mankind with a solutions to any given life endeavor especially marriage and family sustenance, most of which has favored the male over the female and this as a factor has sharpen the males orientation, beliefs and behavior over the female. This long history of unchecked dominance and the rivaled pattern of today’s social awareness and campaign is turning the tides against family existence; note that this is not against the individual as it is the supposed motive behind today’s gender equality and freedom campaign that apparently exist within the two genders.
Solomon’s wisdom illustrated the havoc in being married to a nagging wife, but not of a nagging man. As much as a nagging wife can send the man to his early grave is a nagging man can provoke a woman and tends to set her on a self or social influenced paths that total negate the simple contract of a family existence; to be together to care for all that the union brings. Human are conceived in love and freedom, being free is an inherent part of his life and to exercise his potentials; anything contrary is a threat to life… Both spouse could understand value of each other’s existence which cannot be bought for any price, moreover most marriage are act of love and not a contract for ownership but a oath of responsibility for each other’s well-being, self fulfillment and dignity acknowledgement. Time is changing, human is changing, but we have to learn how to embrace time and separate ourselves from the winds that come with it separately us from one another. We have to separate ourselves from the self consuming noises around, and start evaluating the good of separation and need for dominance that has many adverse consequences and also given rise to the evil that is born to tear the future generation total apart and probably forget their essence for co-existence and the beauty of family life.
Your Family Therapist; Segun Fayomi Alex, Psychologist/Mental Health Consultant. segunfayomi@hotmail.com