When It’s Time to Have the Difficult Conversation

Parents often struggle to communicate with their children about a decision to consider a move to a senior living community.

Children of aging parents find themselves facing the challenge of talking to a loved one about one day moving from home to a community. Talking with a parent can be a difficult conversation. Many people hear “retirement community” and think nursing home, even though that is not the senior living community of today.

Before broaching the subject of a move, write down concerns you have for your parents. For example, are they safe in their home environment or have they been making errors with their medications? Educate yourself on senior living options to get an idea of the best fit for your loved ones. The more you learn, the better prepared you will be for the conversation.

Create a few conversation starters that will help you ease into the discussion. Bringing up the subject of a retirement community can be the hardest part. Ask about their experiences and feelings about living at home. What are your worries about staying in your home? Do you feel safe and secure? Do you ever feel lonely or isolated? What would it feel like not to maintain your current home?

This is not a conversation to have over the phone. Choose a time and place that is relaxed and free from interruptions. Begin the conversation by asking a few questions and listen to the responses which will include their feelings, thoughts, concerns and fears. Be empathetic and caring. Make sure to stress that the decision is their decision.

Making a move to a senior living community is one of the most difficult decisions seniors will ever make. With preparation and patience and having the difficult conversation, the next step might be planning a move to embark on the next chapter for a loved one! ~

Editor’s Note: This article was submitted by Ginger Apprich, Community Relations Director for Ovation. She can be reached at ginger.apprich@ovationbyavamere.com or 402-999-7900. See ad on 75 and Back Cover.