SPIRITUALITY

THE PROBLEM

is Not the Problem Thanks to Abigail Lynn for sharing their work on Unsplash

By Ranchelle Van Bryce

Here are some great examples:

Ihave always prided myself on being You can’t ‘attract’ more clients into your business a ‘problem solver’. You see, I have by trying to attract more clients. a skill, a knack for seeing what isn’t working, whether it be in business or in my personal life. You can’t release weight by focusing on losing weight. Why? You may be asking yourself? Let me share.

But the challenge with this way of thinking is that I am trying to fix the problem by fixing the problem - and the problem with that is: The problem isn’t the problem! Yup, you read that correctly. The problem is NOT the problem.

The Problem Is What You Are Trying To Avoid.

Have you ever seen the movie Groundhog Day with Bill Murray? The theme of the movie is that the main character repeats the same day over and over again throughout the movie until he learns the lessons he needs to learn. I don’t know about you, but I have certainly experienced that in my lifetime. The reason why is that I was trying to solve the problem by fixing the problem. Dr. Thurman Fleet did a great job of explaining the difference between the Conscious Mind (top part of the hemisphere) and our Subconscious mind (the bottom part). The Conscious Mind is where our logic is, where the five senses are.

So, you may be asking then; what IS the problem?

The Subconscious Mind is where our beliefs and emotions lie. Up until the age of 7, our conscious mind cannot discern if what we are ‘learning’ (being programmed with) is good or bad, right or wrong. We are literally a sponge. So, all of our beliefs are there, and we spend the rest of our lives ensuring that we ‘prove’ those beliefs to be correct.

So, when you decide that you want to change something, you have a belief that needs to be programmed, a habit that needs to be let go of, and a new strategy to behave in a different way. So, if you focus on the problem that you want to be changed, you keep on focusing on the problem.

Other reasons why we have our Groundhog Day moments is that when you focus on what you don’t want, you create more of what you don’t want. What we focus our attention on, we manifest more of (The Universal Law of Perpetual Transmutation of Energy). If you find yourself thinking that it’s hard to find new customers or clients, or that your business is still being affected by the economic situation Alberta is in, then you will continue experiencing that. If you tell yourself that you can’t make time to exercise, this too shall be your reality.

From a scientific point of view, our habits become our reality, and this becomes our personality. There is much scientific evidence to support the truth that, in order for us to create a new habit, we have to create new neural pathways. We are habitual creatures in everything: how we get out of bed, how we brush our teeth, exercise, respond, react, how we BE is all habit. Then ask yourself what strategies you need to put in place so that when you face judgement, procrastination, fear, anxiety or worry, you know your next steps.

The pre-step to number one is being AWARE; Aware of what is working and what is not working in your life. This is a chance for you to be radically honest with yourself, there is no judgement, it just IS.

If you are struggling with your very own Groundhog Day, don’t stay there; reach out to Danielle or myself.

Ask yourself: who do you need to BE

What’s a Girl to Do?

1. State the problem, obstacle, or challenge you are facing.

2. Write down the opposite of that challenge.

3. Ask yourself: what is stopping you from BEING the person who manifests this?

4. Ask yourself: who do you need to BE to create the above?

5. Ask yourself: what do you need to DO in order to create the above?

6. Ask yourself: what do you need to let go of in order to make room for what you desire?

Thanks to Sheldon Sommerfeldt for sharing this picture of Groundhog Day at Woodstock, Il where the movie “Groundhog Day” was filmed