FEBRUARY 2025
Expressing yourself through blooms and bouquets Page 36
When the heart and the brain work as one Page 12
Answering questions with St. Charles wedding photographer Gilbert Reyes Page 8
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Sometimes, when it is bitterly cold out or wet and slushy in the middle of winter, it is hard to conjure any thoughts of romance. The trick is understanding possibility and maybe just a little bit of magic. In February, we are celebrating love, weddings and all the wonderful things that put a spring in your step or a thrill in your heart – even if your toes are numb.
To kick things off, we have a selection of romantic tales to curl up with and escape into this month (page 18). Are you in need of a cozy and intimate space or supplies for a special occasion? Read more about Haines on Main on page 7. Perhaps you’ve wondered about the science of love? Check out a unique feature on the teamwork between brainwaves and heartstrings on page 12.
One of the most romantic things you can do is learn a new skill with your partner while attending workshops. The Eventful Experience (page 16) brings on the expertise in a welcoming and fresh setting – not to mention their creative and eye-popping catering displays.
For those in need of a little direction when it comes to gift-giving – especially as the wedding season looms – we have included a helpful feature with advice from a local shop on page 32. With Valentine’s Day on the horizon, use the language of flowers to express your emotions in a breathtaking and timeless fashion (more on page 36).
In this edition of Kane County Magazine, there is so much to delve into. No matter how you choose to indulge and celebrate one of life’s best gifts, don’t forget to utilize and enjoy local businesses, spreading love and support for the communities we live in.
As always, thank you for reading!
Kelley White, Editor
St. Charles photographer Gilbert Reyes has a show-stopping talent for capturing the heart of his clients. Read more on page 8.
Next month: Refresh your home with the arrival of spring! The March issue of Kane County Magazine highlights home improvement.
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7 GATHER, CONNECT, CELEBRATE
Haines on Main brings new, intimate gathering space to St. Charles
8 PHOTOGRAPHER Q&A
St. Charles' Gilbert Reyes brings a fresh, artistic take on a timeless craft
12 THE SCIENCE OF LOVE
When the heart and the brain work as one
16 THE EVENTFUL EXPERIENCE
Experts in event planning, charcuterie and entertaining workshops
18 LOVE STORIES
5 romantic tales to add to your reading list
20 COUPLES & COMMUNICATION
Counselor Kelly Jacobson shares tips for connection and expression
22 ATTENTION TO DETAIL
Get groomed and ready for anything with Beardsguard Barbers
24 INFLUENTIAL WOMEN IN BUSINESS
Local entrepreneurs are paying it forward
28 SOWING SEEDS & GROWING
Suburban Superdad reflects on trusting the process
30 DINK, DRIVE & DONATE
Pickleball event adds the “fun” in fundraiser for St. Charles Park District Foundation
32 GIFTS GALORE
The art of bundling treats and treasures for specials occasions
34 GRAB A BOOKMARK
Geneva Public Library recommends these titles for February
35 FOX VALLEY FOOD FOR HEALTH
This local nonprofit is vital in the fight against hunger with nutritious meals
36 THE ROMANTIC LANGUAGE OF FLOWERS
Wasco Nursery gives a lesson in expressing yourself through blooms
38 WHY WE LOVE DIVERSIFICATION
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By Vicki Martinka Petersen
Haines house sits high upon a hill in downtown St. Charles. For years, Julie Starck had her eye on two historic homes in the community. When her husband sold his business, she lost access to his warehouse, which she had been using for her Erasistable Vintage Rental business. Things took a serendipitous turn when the historic home in St. Charles she long admired happened to be on the market.
“I have a vintage soul and a love for old things,” says Starck, who purchased the home and began tweaking the property for her business, Haines on Main.
Even the name of the business has a vintage nod to Charles Haines, who built the home. In 1866, Haines offered up family land for a new school in St. Charles to help ease overcrowding. He later went on to serve on the school board and as mayor of St. Charles before his death in 1914.
Starck had a location and a vision to use the property to host small gatherings. It all didn’t fully come together until she almost lost her adult son last year to substance use disorder (SUD). Having already lost a spouse to SUD, another spark of serendipity struck – Starck
would use her new location as a place for healing and a place for celebration.
“I have a passion for people and life's celebrations as well as giving back to the community,” says Starck.
When Haines on Main opens this year, Starck envisions it being a place where people can host small gatherings like bridal and baby showers, intimate weddings, birthdays and other life celebrations. In addition to the venue,
vintage items will be available to rent for gatherings including china, flatware, glasses and furniture.
Haines on Main also will be available to nonprofits needing space for fundraisers and other group gatherings.
A portion of proceeds from these gatherings will go toward organizations that help those impacted by addiction as well as local community organizations including CASA and Lazarus House.
In addition, Starck plans to be a facilitator when she opens the first chapter located in the area of PAL (Parents of Addicted Loved Ones). The group offers hope and support for parents of adult children who struggle with substance use disorder. These weekly closed meetings will begin in February.
For now, Starck continues to focus on getting the building ready for its opening. She’s hoping to complete phase one by late spring/early summer and begin hosting gatherings as well as art and music classes.
The second phase, set to launch in the fall, is the addition of a large gathering space. This inviting area will feature a cozy fireplace ideal for intimate winter gatherings and open to a patio filled with vibrant flowers and a fountain to create a serene atmosphere to enhance every occasion.
To book the space for a gathering or for more information about PAL, call 331255-3192. The Haines on Main website will be launching soon.
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"Your Special Occasion, Our Historic Home" 521 W. Main St., St. Charles www.facebook.com/HainesOnMain
By Patricia MacMillan | Photos by Greyes Photography
Gilbert Reyes is in the business of capturing moments.
A look of adoration between a couple in love, laughter among a group of close friends, the soulful stares of two people as each vows lifelong devotion to the other — Reyes and his camera have been there for it all.
As owner and lead photographer of Greyes Photography in St. Charles, Reyes has spent 13 years working with couples seeking to immortalize their moments, both big and small.
Here he talks with Kane County Magazine about how couples embarking on their own next chapters can find the right photographer for them.
n KANE COUNTY MAGAZINE: How do you approach a consultation with a couple interested in either an engagement session or photography for their wedding?
GILBERT REYES: When I meet with a couple, I focus on getting to know them, details like how they met, their wedding vision and what kind of photos they’re drawn to. It’s all about making sure we’re a good fit and that I understand their style.
For engagement sessions, I offer advice on locations and outfits to make sure they feel comfortable and confident. The goal is to build trust, so they feel relaxed and know I’m there to capture their unique story.
n KC: What advice can you give to a couple as they begin their search for a wedding photographer?
GR: My biggest piece of advice is to make sure you connect with your photographer, someone whose style aligns with your vision and makes you feel comfortable. Also, always ask to see a full gallery of a wedding they’ve shot. It gives you a better idea of their consistency and how they capture the entire day.
n KC: Any common pitfalls to avoid?
GR: Don’t focus too much on price over quality. Your wedding photos are lasting memories, so make sure you’re investing in someone you trust. And be cautious of deals that seem too good to be true. They might come with hidden costs or limits.
n KC: How do you feel your photography sets you apart from others in the industry?
GR: What sets my photography apart is my ability to capture natural-looking images that don’t feel overly posed, even though I do guide my clients.
I focus on creating moments that feel genuine while still maintaining an artistic touch.
I’m also drawn to dramatic, moody photos, but that’s something I incorporate only when the opportunity arises. I love playing with light, treating it as my brush and shadow as my canvas, which helps add depth and emotion to the shots where I can really experiment.
n KC: Are there certain poses or ideas that you feel are particularly appealing when taking photos of a couple during an engagement or wedding shoot?
GR: I love capturing natural, intimate moments during engagement and wedding shoots. For engagements, I suggest poses where the couple can interact—laughing together or sharing a quiet moment. It’s about highlighting their connection in a relaxed way.
For weddings, I like to use the environment to create romantic, timeless shots. Simple poses like a gentle dip or a glance over the shoulder can really add to the feel. Of course, I also make sure to capture the traditional posed shots where the couple is looking at the camera, since those are often favorites for the parents. The goal is always to reflect who they are as a couple in an authentic, relaxed way.
n KC: Is there anything you'd advise couples against when it comes to photos taken on the big day?
GR: My advice is not to over-schedule the day or focus too much on fitting in every specific shot. Some of the best moments are unplanned and real, like a laugh or a tear. Also, don’t stress about perfection—embrace the genuine moments, and trust your photographer to capture them. Enjoy the day instead of worrying about every detail.
n KC: Can you share some of the moments you feel the most proud to have captured?
GR: What I’m really proud of is being able to capture
the weddings of several members in the same family or multiple weddings from the same group of friends. It’s not just about a specific moment, but about being part of the chain of memories in their lives.
I’m especially proud that, even after more than a decade in the business, I still shoot weddings connected to couples I worked with more than 10 years ago. It’s amazing to see their journey continue and to be able to document these important milestones for them and their families.
The heart and brain each play a role in the chemistry between a couple
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ove is one of the strongest human emotions we possess, but in our increasingly digital world, it’s becoming harder to find that perfect match. So, the question remains: how does a person fall in love? And how can we use this knowledge to our benefit?
There are many chemicals released in the cycle of love: The main five are dopamine, cortisol, serotonin, oxytocin and vasopressin. During the initial stages of attraction, dopamine and cortisol take control. Dopamine triggers the brain’s reward response and makes things feel pleasurable. Think about this chemical like the slot machine at a casino. The more you win, the happier you feel, and the more you want to keep playing. It’s very addictive and very effective.
Cortisol, on the other hand, is triggered during a stress response. This chemical is what causes the heart to race. It is also responsible for the
feeling of butterflies in our stomachs, which is better known as infatuation. While cortisol can make this stage feel stressful, it can also trigger a feeling of excitement for what’s to come.
According to matchmakers, this initial attraction phase is the most important when it comes to fostering a long-term relationship. When you first meet someone, your brain processes all sorts of stimuli and tries to make sense of the situation. This is why many matchmakers encourage meeting face-to-face.
“The first interaction is key,” explains Melissa Williams, founder of Swipe Right MatchMakers in Geneva. “These chemicals are hugely apparent in that first introduction. Being able to understand the role of these chemicals helps us coach people.”
This is one of the reasons why Swipe Right hosts preliminary mixers. This way, their clients can initiate that needed face-to-face contact,
which ultimately jumpstarts their relationship’s chemistry.
This first meeting, however, can be a stressful one. With so much to process, our brains can easily trigger a fight-or-flight response, which shuts off the front part of the brain that makes logical decisions.
To avoid this, Williams and her team at Swipe Right encourage their clients to be in-tune with their emotions and aim for heart/brain coherence. In this state, the brain and the heart are working in electrical tandem, as brainwaves and the heart’s electrical activity move at the same pace.
“When the heart and the brain are in sync, people experience greater emotional stability; they're more clear, more receptive, and more perceptive of social cues,” says Williams. With heart/brain coherence, people experience less stress and are more likely to make good
decisions, ultimately creating the perfect environment for proper partner selection.
After about a year or two in a relationship, the effects of cortisol and dopamine begin to wear off. At this stage, oxytocin and vasopressin start to take over.
“These chemicals help promote long-term closeness, bonding, and monogamy between partners,” says Dr. Renae Franiuk, a professor of psychology at the University of Aurora. Both oxytocin and vasopressin are emitted during physicalintimacy and can increase emotional connection, leading to stronger bonds.
Oftentimes, this loss of cortisol and dopamine can feel like it’s time to end the relationship. In actuality, it is quite the opposite.
“I think it's important for couples to understand that the honeymoon phase (or the intense passion and attraction in the first few years of a relationship) will fade over time. This is a typical brain reaction, and it doesn't mean the relationship is failing,” Franiuk reassures. “Our brain will naturally transition us to a calmer, companionate love over time, and happy long-term relationships have all sorts of benefits for our physical and emotional health.”
While there are many benefits to feeling love, there can also be negative outcomes of these chemical releases. One of the most common issues people face are the “rose-tinted glasses.”
“Early in love, there are brain mechanisms that make us less critical about our partner,” explains Franiuk. While giving your partner the benefit of the doubt can be a good thing, it can also lead to willfully ignoring warning signs. Franiuk emphasizes the importance of trusting your gut: when you feel something’s off, make sure to reassess.
It’s also important to be aware of the addictive effects of dopamine. While there is no clinical diagnosis for being addicted to one’s partner, the dopamine’s reward response is an extremely tedious feedback loop. For example, when the loop is interrupted during a breakup, it can usher in major negative emotions. To combat this, it’s important to not only find happiness in others, but to also find happiness in yourself.
Love is one of life’s greatest emotions, but it comes with many mysteries. While it’s impossible to know what the future holds, understanding the science behind our emotions is a great first step when looking to enter the dating scene.
THE EVENTFUL EXPERIENCE
Batavia / Lombard / West Suburbs
630-333-7704
www.theeventfulexperience.com
Discover an expert touch for event planning, charcuterie and entertaining workshops
By Vicki Martinka Petersen
All her life, Tracey Dulceak has loved planning parties and entertaining. It wasn’t until someone asked for her business card and suggested she pass them out that it clicked she could do this for a living.
Dulceak started The Eventful Experience in 2023. She spends her days working with clients on defining their vision for an event, then executing their ideas.
“Often people know what they want but they’re not sure how to do it. I love working with people and helping bring their vision to life,” Dulceak says.
In addition to event planning, Dulceak also assists in the execution of those plans. She does a little bit of everything the day of events, from setting up the venue to putting out and serving the food.
“A lot of times people don’t like holding events because the planning and execution overwhelms them. They appreciate the help,” she adds.
Dulceak is hoping to alleviate some of these concerns by offering an Entertaining with Ease workshop over the summer.
“Having an event at home can be so stressful. At the Entertaining with Ease workshop, I’ll teach attendees how to plan for the holidays and other events at their homes,” Dulceak says.
One of her favorite parts of entertaining is creating charcuterie boards. So it was natural for Dulceak to offer charcuterie services as part of The Eventful Experience.
“I’ve always been interested in art. This type of food art has become a new passion for me,” Dulceak says.
Items on the charcuterie boards vary depending on the season. Typically, the boards include cheeses, meats and
seasonal accompaniments including nuts, fresh fruits and dried fruits. Boards range in size and can serve anywhere from 3-16 people. A variety of sizes for single-serving options are available as well.
Dulceak assembles the charcuterie offerings in a commercial kitchen. Customers either pick up their orders from the kitchen or she’ll deliver them.
Just like Dulceak offers entertaining workshops, she also holds demonstrations to help people create their own charcuterie boards. Recently she offered a charcuterie and tea pairing workshop in Batavia. Attendees learned the art of creating charcuterie boards paired with the perfect teas.
“I supplied all the food and tea and demonstrated how to make the board. Then each participant made their own mini charcuterie board to take home,” Dulceak says.
In February, Dulceak will be teaching a charcuterie and wine pairing class at College of DuPage. As her business continues to grow, Dulceak would love to expand the workshop portion of The Eventful Experience to include more workshops for occasions like a girls night out or bachelorette party.
"Workshops are something I never expected to enjoy, especially since I’ve always considered myself more of a behind-the-scenes person," she said. "But stepping into this role has been an exciting journey. It’s given me the opportunity to connect with people in a meaningful way, share my passion, and step outside of my comfort zone, something I never imagined. The experience has been both challenging and fulfilling, pushing me to grow personally and professionally."
To order a charcuterie board, explore or schedule workshops or receive assistance with event planning, please visit www.theeventfulexperience.com.
By Patricia MacMillan with descriptions by Sarah Marcheschi
This February, love is in the air as well as on the shelves of Town House Books in St. Charles. Bookseller Sarah Marcheschi shares her top picks for books that employ meet-cutes, enemies-to-lovers and that good ol’ will-they-won’t-they tension with aplomb.
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“I'll Get Back to You” by Becca Grischow
Written by a Geneva author and featuring the town itself, this story centers on Murphy, who is supposed to be starting her life at the University of Illinois instead of retaking community college courses and working a deadend job. Then Murphy runs into Emma Meyers, a former classmate, and the two embark on a fake relationship (they've got their reasons) and a journey toward finding the path forward and to finding themselves.
“Book Lovers” by Emily Henry
You don't need me to tell you Emily Henry is the queen of rom-com, but if you slept through Romance 101, “Book Lovers” is a great place to start. New York-based literary agent Nora Stephens decides to spend her August alongside her sister, whiling away her days in a small North Carolina town. Not on the itinerary is multiple chance encounters with a certain brooding editor with whom Nora has had words..and not the sentimental kind. The dialogue is smart and funny, and the banter between these enemies-to-lovers will give you butterflies.
“Storybook Ending” by Poppy Alexander
When this charming book begins, Imogen Hewitt finds herself widowed and moving into a cottage in the English countryside. Her only company? A wildly narcissistic cat. Discovering she is pregnant, Imogen decides to fully commit to her new life, with all of its old-fashioned customs and cricket matches, and then there’s her grouchy but intriguing neighbor, Gabriel. Grab this one next time you curl up by the fire with a mug of tea.
“Love, Theoretically” by Ali Hazelwood
Not only does Ali Hazelwood write smart and steamy romances, but her main characters are often women in STEM, which makes for interesting secondary plotlines. In this one, Elsie Hannaway is a scientist struggling to make ends meet as an adjunct professor. When her dream job becomes available at MIT, she discovers her personal—and professional—nemesis, cocky physicist Jack Smith, might be the only thing standing in her way. This book features fake boyfriends, enemies-to-lovers, and a lot of spice. You simply won't want it to end.
“The Bookshop of Second Chances” by Jackie Fraser
After her husband leaves her for one of her friends and she loses her job, Thea Mottram discovers she's been willed a collection of valuable antique books and a cottage on the Scottish coast (not a bad Plan B, right?) Thea takes to her quaint new town and its inhabitants almost instantly, with one significant exception—gruff bookstore owner Edward Maltravers and the person to whom Thea is trying to sell her book collection. Irritation turns to interest for Thea who finds the back-and-forth with Edward strangely exhilarating, but will this new life prove to be any less complicated than what came before?
Clinical social worker Kelly Jacobson shares tips for expression and connection in a relationship
BY MELISSA RUBALCABA RISKE
It’s a scene busy adults know all too well. Just a few quick text messages about one’s day. Having dinner in shifts to accommodate after school practice schedules, varying work schedules. Spending weekends shuttling children to dance practices, basketball and hockey games and sending your partner to another child’s day-long swim meet an hour’s drive away.
Life is busy and there may be days when partners lack the time to indulge in real communication, sharing ideas, stories and spending time together. Taking a step back and putting a concentrated effort on quality communication is very important, explains Kelly Jacobson, a licensed clinical social worker and founder of Stronger Therapeutic Counseling Service in Batavia and West Dundee.
Communication is more than reminding your partner to pick up bread. Keeping communication between partners is an ongoing process and if it falls too far into a rut, it can be the start of other issues down the road. She finds that prevention can be more effective
than repair when it comes to relationships.
Jacobson, a former school social worker, launched her practice in 2017, starting with her first office in Batavia and expanding to a second location in West Dundee. Stronger Therapeutic Counseling Service supports individuals, age 14 and up, and offers family and couples counseling services as well.
For Jacobson, one of the best parts of launching her own practice has been the support it provides to her local communities. Beyond serving the clients in the practice, Jacobson and the team members host seminars online and inperson. Information on their programming can be found on the practice’s social media pages.
In answering the question of how to improve one’s communication with their partner, Jacobson offers three tips and shares that these tips can also be transferred to all meaningful relationships looking for improved communication and connection. It breaks down into making the effort, being present and intentional.
1
Make time to communicate with your partner with intention
Schedule time to talk. Life can be so busy. Setting a time to connect with the people that are most significant or meaningful to us allows us to prioritize our relationships and how we feel within them. Having an intention for how you want to show up and feel in communication can help to feel more a part of the conversation with your partner and keep on task in a meaningful way.
“Have in mind, ‘What is my intention for this conversation?’ and really listen to each other,” Jacobson explained.
Carving out time that’s quiet when both of you can concentrate is important.
“If you have to schedule it to juggle it, that’s ok,” she added.
“Communicate in a way that feels aligned with our values.”
2
Think about how you respond to your partner
Are you and your partner feeling aligned in your values? Jacobson suggests considering. As life evolves feelings can change, distractions can impede our relationships in already busy lives when we’re always on the go. “Communicate in a way that feels aligned with your values,” Jacobson said. It’s important when we communicate with our partners that we think about our values together, she explained.
When two individuals communicate, it’s important to know they can feel safe expressing thoughts and feelings without those feelings getting dismissed or blown out of proportion, which can easily happen when we’re distracted in communication or overwhelmed in life. Share their feelings, concerns and ideas and carefully consider how you can create the space to do so.
Sometimes, a conversation calls for more than active listening. A moment of brevity can help add connection to the conversation. Body language matters, from providing eye contact to sitting on a couch together –both are ways to connect beyond words.
"Have
in mind, ‘What is my intention for this conversation?’ and really listen to each other."
3
Change the way you check in with your partner.
Break the monotony and find new ways to connect with your partner to improve your communication, Jacobson advises. It can be easy to tune someone out or just offer a standard reply, similar to asking a child, “How was school?” but Jacobson said taking a few minutes to check in with a new perspective and consider questions that feel unique or change course from the routine can yield a better connection.
“Maybe instead of a question, like ‘How was your day? Start with ‘Tell me something about XYZ’ and you give a different opportunity for different information to come back,” Jacobson said.
By Kevin Druley
Photos provided by Beardsgaard Barbers
Beardsgaard Barbers showcases its services within the clientele that frequent the shop.
If you happen to visit during a rare slow period, however, the attributes also appear on hoodies for sale near the entrance at 117 S. Batavia Ave., Batavia.
Classic haircuts, epic beards, straight-blade shaves, and alchemy. A combination of these is available at Beardsgaard and other barbershops around Kane County, offering one-stop shopping ahead of weddings, parties, big dates, and other events.
Just be mindful that getting spiffed up doesn’t always happen in a snap.
Asked what makes a barber’s services stand out, Tyler Anderson, who co-owns Beardsgaard with his wife, Natalie, doesn’t hesitate.
“Attention to detail,” Tyler Anderson said. “Making sure that the haircuts look clean and finished. We can work through a variety of different styles and can talk about products and do a lot of client education. Help people learn about what it is that they want their hair to do and how they can achieve that.”
He then gestures to his bald head before continuing. “And in some cases, [you] have to break the bad news that they might be going in my direction, and you just have to kind of embrace it, and that’s OK.”
“We’re gentle but straightforward,” Natalie Anderson adds.
Looking your best for a Valentine’s Day engagement may be one reason to make an appointment at a barbershop.
Natalie Anderson’s recent doting observation to her husband, then, seems fitting.
“You live vicariously through your clients with hair, and I've always lived vicariously through the bearded ones because that seems cool to almost have a pet that lives on your face,” she said. “Everybody seems to treat it that way and I like that vibe.”
Beardsgaard obliges with a signature beard grooming that includes a hot towel and straight razor around the edges.Face shaves also feature a steamy hot-towel treatment as well as hot lather, facial treatment and a straight razor.
Services are specific and built to last. A Beardsgaard buzz cut, for example, calls for clippers all over with no scissors and is
less expensive than a haircut, which offers head sudsing, if desired.
“They’re constructed not just for 'this is how your hair is going to look today,' but 'this is going to grow into this sort of a shape,'” Natalie Anderson said. “We really work with people as their heads work.”
To that end, the Andersons find clients occasionally treat appointments as a bit of a show-and-tell, toting photos of (usually famous) others with a haircut or beard styling they desire.
“That’s fantastic, but that’s not your hair,” Tyler Anderson said. “The texture is different.
The way it grows is different, so we just do your version of that, so it looks like your hair. It doesn’t look like somebody slapped a sticker on it.”
Natalie Anderson concedes “there are definitely easier places to get a haircut” than a barbershop, where walk-ins typically need not apply. Booking online or by phone remains the norm.
“Good barbers are hard to find,” Tyler Anderson said, “and if you want a good barber, you have to deal with a busy barber.”
The good news? There's a tradeoff in knowing the individual contouring that awaits.
117 S. Batavia Ave., Batavia • 630-454 - 4820 • www.beardsgaardbarbers.com By appointment only; no walk-ins accepted. Parking available in front of and behind building.
Owner and soap maker of MION Artisan Soap Co.
Olga Boldyreva began her journey into soap making about 10 years ago to help with her eczema. In search of a solution, she researched making her own homemade soaps and lotions, and studied various natural oils, butters and herbs. Over the years, Boldyreva continued to research and experiment with different ingredients and perfected the lotion she uses today as an eczema treatment.
MION Artisan Soap Co., with a location in St. Charles, prides itself in making soap products using high quality ingredients free of preservatives, artificial colorings and perfumes commonly found in commercial products.
“Creating MION and producing products that can help others has been the most rewarding part of our business,” Boldyreva says. “What started off as a table with a handful of products at a farmer’s market has transformed into our dream made a reality by our customers.”
Owners, trend + relic
Heather Corcoran and Karri Custardo, along with their team, bring years of retail, design, decorating, staging and painting expertise to trend + relic in St. Charles. They give back to the community as members of the St. Charles Chamber of Commerce and support several local charities and schools in St. Charles. Custardo also volunteers for the St. Charles Business Alliance.
As avid supporters of entrepreneurship, Corcoran and Custardo host 50 small businesses at trend + relic as well as host popup events for other small entrepreneurs throughout the year. In addition to supplying a physical space, Corcoran and Custardo help businesses find their style and make business decisions.
“Many have thrived and gone on to open their own shops,” says Custardo. “We love that we were part of their success and enjoy watching them grow.”
Co-owner, The Graceful Ordinary
Megan Curren and her husband, Chris, partnered to create a dining experience akin to the town tavern of colonial times – a center of community life. Her husband, a veteran of Chicago’s restaurant scene, has worked with celebrated figures in the city’s culinary world while Curren brings her skills from a distinguished career in nightlife hospitality to create and manage unique and memorable events for their guests. Curren and her husband also prioritize the well-being of their team by implementing mental health initiatives that foster work/life balance, stress management and substance abuse prevention.
“I believe in creating a sustainable environment that we can all be proud of and continue to contribute to for the long-term. We recently were interviewed on the It Takes Guts podcast about our own personal journey and struggles with mental health, so we work very hard to create a space and culture that is not only beneficial for our team, but for ourselves as well,” Curren says.
Since opening their restaurant in St. Charles in November 2021, they’ve raised and donated over half a million dollars to local organizations, including Cal's Angels, CASA Kane County, Lazarus House and the St. Charles Art Council.
By Vicki Martinka Petersen
ocal businesses are the heart of any community, often comprised of fellow neighbors who not only provide services to customers but look for opportunities to give back to the communities they serve. From entrepreneurs paying it forward to leaders in their respective industries, learn more about how these influential women in business are making a difference.
Owner, Rosie’s Color Studio
Rosaleen “Rosie” Martinez’s entrepreneurial roots stem from her parents who owned a grocery store in her hometown in Ireland. She left Ireland for the United States in 1997 to pursue her dream of training and learning from the best hair designers and colorists.
Her passion for hair design and coloring led her to launch Rosie’s Color Studio in St. Charles during the COVID pandemic. She continues to perfect her technical skills as well as remain on top of industry trends through her education and certifications. Martinez also enjoys giving back to the community. She frequently provides her services at no cost to cancer patients including styling wigs and providing a safe environment to the immunocompromised.
Founder and Creative Director, Haven Design Group (HDG) Cara Mamott brings more than 20 years of expertise in design, construction, project management and real estate development to Haven Design Group (HDG) in Geneva. Her journey began at the University of Illinois, where she majored in advertising with a focus on art and design. After launching her career in project management at a top-tier Fortune 500 advertising agency in Chicago, Mamott broadened her horizons by completing coursework at The School of the Art Institute of Chicago in Interior Architecture and earning her real estate license. This enabled her to combine her passion for design with real estate development.
Fueled by a desire to fulfill a lifelong dream, Mamott founded Haven Design Group LLC, an award-winning, full-service design firm specializing in residential, commercial and brand design. She and her team are known for their dedication to large-scale residential remodels and additions, historic renovations and new construction. Their expertise also extends to multi-unit residential communities, mixed-use developments, and the conceptualization and branding of commercial entities.
Beyond her professional accomplishments, Mamott’s greatest joy comes from creating memorable moments with her husband, two children and golden retriever.
CEO, Graham’s Fine Chocolates & Ice Cream
In some ways, Jayni Wunderlich has been training all her life to become CEO of Graham’s in downtown Geneva. At age 9, she scooped ice cream at festivals and graduated to working in the retail area, back room and shipping departments during high school. After college, Wunderlich took on the role of brand manager where she’s redesigned everything from the website and advertisements to the interior and exterior look and feel of the shops. She became CEO after her father and Graham’s founder, Bob Untiedt, passed away from cancer in March 2021.
Since taking over as CEO, Wunderlich has worked on implementing a benefits program for staff and creating standard operating procedures including a product guide. She also expanded their corporate gifting program and custom moulding program enabling Graham’s to personalize moulds for corporate accounts. In addition, Graham’s helps support the community with Graham's Care by donating products to various local charities, churches and schools.
It almost certainly wasn't the first time the neighbors looked into our backyard and shook their head in disbelief at what they were witnessing.
For sure, there was that hot summer morning several years back while preparing the backyard for the installation of an above-ground pool that the neighbors may have seen and heard what appeared to be a sweaty, muddy lunatic roaring and slamming away at the ground with a sledgehammer. (That convoluted story makes a lot more sense when it includes the character of a by-the-book city code inspector and the discovery of a concrete slab about 6 inches below the surface.)
Bewilderment could also be triggered if you heard your neighbor fire up his riding mower on a 22-degree Saturday in the middle of January to chop up piles of leaves atop frozen turf, in a desperate bid to catch up on some missed fall yard work.
But this time, I actually caught them staring. And once again, who can blame them? Anyone in northern Illinois would at least take a double glance at the guy taking advantage of a not-frigid, late December afternoon amid the doldrums of the period between Christmas and New Year's to plant grass.
The story goes back years, to the moment we bought the house. And it begins with raspberries.
Those who know me know that our current homestead is deep, stretching far back from the house near the front of the lot. While the yard includes a long swath of grassy turf and the usual assortment of dandelions and other uninvited lawn participants, aka "weeds," the extreme rear of the lot has long included a somewhat broad boundary patch of assorted plants.
At one time, it was possible someone intended for it to be a garden. But when we moved in some years ago, its main use was as a deep thorny patch of black raspberry bushes.
They were as productive as they were invasive, each June yielding several buckets full of berries, while advancing at least 12 inches farther into the yard each
spring. For several years, this resulted in hours spent in warfare with the vivacious raspberry canes, attempting to hold them back from conquering the rest of the yard, while hopefully still encouraging their production.
Through the years, however, those raspberry patches also proved to be fertile ground for other woody and herbaceous invaders. The wild grapes and other vines were spotted first, twining through and over the raspberry canes and up into the surrounding fences, trees and shrubberies.
Then came an assortment of thistle-bearing plants and other weeds.
All of them shared the common trait of using the twisted thorns of the raspberries as cover for their campaigns of backyard conquest, presenting an ever rising, frustrating challenge.
But the final wheezy straw was the arrival of the patches of ragweed and their sinus-straining pollen.
So over a span of weeks this past Autumn, an event that had seemed unthinkable became inevitable, as the vegetation – sadly, including the once lush raspberries – was gradually pulled, sliced and razed to the black earth, leaving behind just twin piles of ash by Thanksgiving Day.
But that couldn't be the end of the task. As any homeowner or landscaper knows, within weeks of the arrival of spring, those same leafy invaders quickly would reclaim that black dirt, resetting the battlefield. The situation called for a quick, easy and economical solution. And the situation led me to every suburban landowner's best friend, if not tedious companion: Grass. So, once the merry time-suck of the Yuletide had passed, there I was, slogging in that patch of black mud, preparing the soil and laying down seed in the hope that the arrival of spring, for once, would bring with it some welcome greenery in that previously forsaken back quarter.
Along with the grass seed, so too were planted the hope that the desired plants would sprout and take root quickly amid the warmth of the waxing March
sun, allowing the weed-and-feeding and mowing to begin in earnest before the most voracious and indomitable of the unwelcome varietals could mount a counterinsurgency.
That's the plan, anyway. And in many ways, it's no different than any other plan in life.
We begin with good intentions. We all have goals we've thought about for a while. And we may make fainting stabs toward them from time to time, often held back by our reluctance to risk harm to those small, delicious comforts – our "raspberries," if you will.
Over time, though, that situation we thought we had under control gets a bit out of hand, pushing us further back and away, and can force us into a bitter choice and difficult, decisive action.
But with a bit of planning and prep – especially at those times you and just about anyone else would rather be doing just about anything else – we all just may find ourselves standing in the sunshine, wearing a goofy grin as we gaze out at the seeds we planted so long ago suddenly springing to verdant life.
Of course, the plan can fail. The next season may not bring what you hoped for, and you may just get stuck with a patch of invasive weeds.
What then, you may ask? Well, it's never too late to try again.
And either way: Who cares if the neighbors stare?
n Jonathan Bilyk writes about the triumphs and travails of being a modernday dad who legitimately enjoys time with his family, while tolerating a dog that seems to adore him. He also doesn’t really like the moniker “Superdad” because it makes it sound like he wants to wear his undergarments on the outside of his pants. (Also,the cape remains on back order.)
Pickleball event adds the "fun" in fundraiser for St. Charles Park District Foundation
The St. Charles Park District is committed to providing recreation opportunities for everyone, including those who may need financial assistance to participate in programs or services. Through the District’s Financial Aid Program, over 100 individuals and families benefit annually gaining access to fitness classes, sports leagues, and aquatic passes that enrich lives and build friendships.
However, meeting this financial need requires approximately $50,000 each year, explains Erika Young, marketing manager for the St. Charles Park District.
Answering this call for support is the St. Charles Park Foundation. Established in 1993, the Foundation serves as the charitable arm of the Park District. For more than 30 years, its volunteer-led board has championed initiatives like the Financial Aid Program and the STC Underground Teen Center. The Foundation also organizes special events and manages year-round efforts, including the Memorial Program, which allows individuals to purchase trees in honor of loved ones, and the Dog Memorial Program.
To put some fun into fundraising, the St. Charles Park Foundation is asking folks to get out of the kitchen and into the court for its Dink, Drive & Donate Pickleball Fundraiser in February.
“I like the idea that families and friends can come out, play and have a blast with no stress,” said St. Charles resident Clint Hull.
The lifelong St. Charles resident and former St. Charles Park Board member said he helped design the fundraiser, seeing it as a win for those who already love pickleball and those who’ve been interested, but haven’t yet tried it. Hull said he is an avid pickleball player, playing a few days a week at the Norris Recreation Center in St. Charles.
For those with pre-conceived notions that pickleball is for retirees it’s time for a quick reset.
“I’m playing with guys who were into tennis, guys who are former soccer and basketball players, and my college-age
9 a.m. to 3 p.m. Saturday, Feb. 22 at Norris Recreation Center
1-Hour Court Reservation: $100 For information or to register, visit www.stcparkfoundation.org/events
son is playing pickleball. This sport really transcends generations,” Hull said.
While there are some similarities to racquetball and tennis, Hull said pickleball lends itself to a quick pace and yet, there’s time for chatter on the court among the players, making it a great social sport to enjoy.
And that reminds Hull of why park district programs are so important. Of course, there are physical health benefits to park district activities, but there is also an immeasurable value to staying connected. The friendships fostered in a park district sport, fitness or dance class can last a lifetime. And a friendly smile or wave with post-class chitchat goes a long way in cultivating a sense of well-being.
“Part of being active and staying healthy for longevity is the importance of having friends and remaining social,” Hull said.
Hull hopes this new fundraiser will ignite interest in the trending sport of pickeball while uniting families and friends for a day of fun and camaraderie on the court. Each reservation is $100, and all proceeds will support the park district’s Financial Aid Program. Time slot reservations begin at 9 a.m. and end at 2 p.m. The one-hour court time allows groups to bring as many players as desired. Doubles play is made up of four players, but eight or even 10+ players can make the most of their time slot, rotating in and out of games for nonstop fun.
Off the court there will be silent auctions for bidding, door prizes and a raffle. There will be pickleball paddles and balls available to borrow.
“Every dollar is going to help a kid, help a family, help those in our community,” Hull said.
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By Vicki Martinka Petersen
Often in life there are occasions worth celebrating, whether it’s something big like buying a new home or an everyday occurrence like making it through school exams. If you’re stumped on what to purchase to commemorate these moments, consider creating a personalized gift by making your own gift basket.
“With custom gift baskets, you can create a fun theme specific to the recipient. Hopefully, they’ll get something they’ve never had before,” says Suzy Ray, co-owner of Light & Pine Collective in Batavia.
To get started, consider your budget for the gift and keep it mind before you go shopping.
“Once you know your budget, figure out how many separate items can be included in a basket. That information will help guide your choices,” says Ray.
Next, think about the gift recipient, such as their hobbies and interests. Also consider the occasion being celebrated. For example, if a woman is going through the life event of having a baby, consider what’s she going through right now and find items that can help her get self-care, Ray suggests.
When it’s time to go shopping, Ray recommends asking for assistance from store employees.
“We love when people come in and ask for help. We know every product in our shop and can point you in the right direction,” Ray adds.
Once all the items are gathered, then it’s time to pick out a basket. This way you’ll know any oddly shaped items will fit in the container and you’ll have an appropriately sized basket for the items you’ve gathered. The container can even be tied into the basket theme, such as a popcorn bucket for a movie night themed housewarming gift.
“For a younger person, think of something more their style like a container that looks like something they’d have in their room as opposed to a wicker basket,” Ray says.
Ready to go shopping? Check out these ideas for themed baskets you can gift at an upcoming special occasion.
n Baby shower: A store that specializes in baby and kid items should have good options for a baby shower. The basket can include items like a onesie with a fun saying like “Hi, I’m new here,” teething toy, cute little socks and board books. Throw in a self-care item for mom.
n Bridal shower/wedding: Often, people get items off the registry but want smaller items to go with it. “If you bought dining ware off the registry, tapered candles with pressed flowers inside would be a good addition to the gift and help set the table,” Ray says. Another idea is to personalize custom coasters with the couple’s last name or monogram.
n Milestone birthday: Start off with self-care items like bath salts, perfume and skin care products. Throw in a bottle of champagne with a note, “A little bubbly for your bubble bath.”
n Housewarming: Personalized gifts like custom pillowcases or scented candles with labels like “Hope you like your new neighbors” can help make a new house feel like home. Other ideas include coasters or tea towels with funny phrases or pretty designs paired with a bottle of wine or coffee mugs and coffee
n College student: Help ease the stress of going through exams with a basket of items to help reduce stress while they’re studying like motivational stress balls or snacks for a study break.
February is Black History Month! Celebrate Black voices in literature and the diverse experiences of Black Americans with two reading recommendations, courtesy of the librarians at Geneva Public Library.
All The Sinners Bleed" by S.A. Cosby
Titus Crown is the first Black sheriff in Charon County, Virginia. After years of training with the FBI, one incident blew apart what promised to be an illustrious career. He came back to his hometown hoping to use his education and experience to usher in a new approach to law enforcement in a town still struggling with their Confederate history. A year after he is elected sheriff, a popular teacher is shot by his former Black student at the high school. In their attempt to apprehend the suspect, the student is fatally shot by Titus’ deputies. During the investigation, Titus discovers that the shootings are connected to unspeakable crimes carried out by a brutal serial killer who may be hiding in plain sight. To uncover the truth, he must grapple with the town’s religious fanatics, political adversaries and his own personal demons. From the first page to the last, S.A. Cosby writes a gritty, compelling crime thriller that tells the story more like a movie than a book. Each character, including the town itself, advances the plot right down to the suspenseful ending. This book is highly recommended for fans of crime fiction thrillers. – Mary Foster, Library Associate
Four Hundred Souls: A Community History of African America, 1619-2019" edited by Ibram X. Kendi and Keisha N. Blain
"Four Hundred Souls" is a sweeping anthology chronicling 400 years of Black American history through essays and poems. Written by 90 unique contributors – including historians, activists and poets – the collection explores pivotal events, cultural moments and personal narratives, offering a powerful and nuanced testament to the resilience, creativity and struggle of Black communities in the United States. Told in chronological chapters covering pivotal moments and lesser known events, each author’s voice shines through in their storytelling. Taken together, readers learn about the multifaceted and diverse stories that comprise the Black American experience. "Four Hundred Souls" highlights the resilience and contributions of Black Americans, the enduring struggle against systemic racism and the interconnectedness of Black history and identity. The collection emphasizes the power of collective storytelling in preserving and understanding the past and the ongoing impact of our shared history on contemporary society. Perfect for readers who love history, powerful storytelling and discovering new voices, this book will resonate with readers for months to come.
– Lauren Maxwell, Information and Reader Services Coordinator
FFox Valley Food For Health (FVFFH), a 501(c)3 nonprofit organization, provides nutritious meals to members of the community who need it most. On average, it serves between 76-96 recipients weekly within a 15mile radius from its kitchen located on the border of Geneva/St. Charles.
ox Valley Food For Health (FVFFH), a 501(c)3 nonprofit organization, provides nutritious meals to members of the community who need it most. On average, it serves between 76-96 recipients weekly within a 15-mile radius from its kitchen located on the border of Geneva/St. Charles.
FVFFH carefully designs menus that are nutrient-dense and primarily plantbased, emphasizing clean, whole, organic, and sustainable ingredients. It helps sick people get well and educates youth in hopes of preventing future illness. Over 30,000 meal items are served to those in crisis each year.
FVFFH carefully designs menus that are nutrient-dense and primarily plant-based, emphasizing clean, whole, organic, and sustainable ingredients. It helps sick people get well and educates youth in hopes of preventing future illness. Over 30,000 meal items are served to those in crisis each year.
Executive Director Chris May notes FVFFH exists for three primary reasons. First, it promotes healing for those experiencing a health crisis. “We serve each recipient on our free Healthy Meals Program with eight meal items per week for 12 weeks,” May said. “These meals are delicious, nutrient-dense and carefully planned by our executive chef (and nutritionist) to provide building blocks for healing. Each week, every recipient is served two animal protein meals, two plant protein meals, two soups, one protein-dense salad, and one dessert.”
Executive Director Chris May notes FVFFH exists for 3 primary reasons. First, it promotes healing for those experiencing a health crisis. “We serve each recipient on our free “Healthy Meals Program” with 8 meal items per week for 12 weeks,” May said. “These meals are delicious, nutrient-dense and carefully planned by our executive chef (and nutritionist) to provide building blocks for healing. Each week, every recipient is served 2 animal protein meals, 2 plant protein meals, 2 soups, 1 protein-dense salad, and 1 dessert.”
“This year, 88% of our recipients have a cancer diagnosis,” adds May. “We also serve those
“This year, 88% of our recipients have a cancer diagnosis,” adds May. “We also serve those with Parkinson's disease, ALS, organ failure/transplants, at-risk pregnancy, and Alzheimer’s. One hundred percent of recipients report positive feedback on the meals we provide for them and their family. We take pride in helping the sick get well.”
with Parkinsons, ALS, Organ Failure/Transplants, at-risk pregnancy, and Alzheimer’s. 100% of recipients report positive feedback on the meals we provide for them and their family. We take pride in helping the sick get well.”
The second focus is the preventative Teen Education Program. This draws teens weekly into its kitchen to help them understand healthy nutrition, the dangers of certain foods, and benefits of others. “We teach them culinary skills to prepare chef-quality meals on their own,” he says. “They are partnered with an adult mentor and under the supervision of our executive chef, each teen participates in the preparation, cooking, and plating/packaging of the meals going out to those in crisis.”
The second focus is the preventative “Teen Education Program”. This draws teens weekly into its kitchen to help them understand healthy nutrition, the dangers of certain foods, and benefits of others. “We teach them culinary skills to prepare chef-quality meals on their own,” he says. “They are partnered with an adult mentor and under the supervision of our executive chef, each teen participates in the preparation, cooking, and plating/packaging of the meals going out to those in crisis.”
The third highlight of the organization is an organic garden program that provides up to 4,000 pounds of organic produce for its kitchen, which dramatically reduces escalating food costs.
The third highlight of the organization is an organic garden program that provides up to 4,000 lbs. of organic produce for its kitchen, which dramatically reduces escalating food costs.
FVFFH successfully provides these programs with a wide network of volunteers.
FVFFH successfully provides these programs with a wide network of volunteers.
“Between our teen education volunteers, delivery angels, volunteer administrative team, kitchen preparation and garden volunteers, we annually have about 190 volunteers providing volunteer hours to our mission,” May said. “We estimate these hours to be worth more than $500,000 annually to the organization and the community.”
“Between our teen education volunteers, delivery angels, volunteer administrative team, kitchen preparation and garden volunteers, we annually have about 190 volunteers providing volunteer hours to our mission,” May said. “We estimate these hours to be worth more than $500,000 annually to the organization and the community.”
“State Street Jewelers is a highly philanthropic organization and a valued supporter,” notes May. “It annually provides a custom designed piece of jewelry as a golden ticket offering and this raffle raises thousands of dollars donated to Food for Health. Marci Sterkel and Jeffrey Hampton are the two people who have consistently shown their support for our mission.”
“State Street Jewelers is a highly philanthropic organization and a valued supporter,” notes May. “It annually provides a custom designed piece of jewelry as a golden ticket offering, and this raffle raises thousands of dollars donated to Food for Health. Marci Sterkel and Jeffrey Hampton are the two people who have consistently shown their support for our mission.”
“Volunteering with Fox Valley Food for Health has been a deeply fulfilling experience for me over the past eight years,” said Sterkel. “Growing up in Geneva, I’ve witnessed many friends and family members face serious health challenges. By delivering nutritious meals as an ‘angel deliverer,’ I provide essential support to those undergoing tough treatments, allowing them one less worry during their recovery. Each week, I have the privilege of bringing a smile to someone’s face and reinforcing the importance of community care.”
“Volunteering with Fox Valley Food for Health has been a deeply fulfilling experience for me over the past eight years,” said Sterkel. “Growing up in Geneva, I’ve witnessed many friends and family members face serious health challenges. By delivering nutritious meals as an ‘angel deliverer’, I provide essential support to those undergoing tough treatments, allowing them one less worry during their recovery. Each week, I have the privilege of bringing a smile to someone’s face and reinforcing the importance of community care.”
There are a number of ways to volunteer and donate to Fox Valley Food For Health. Find the right match for you. Visit the website at fvffh.org
There are a number of ways to volunteer and donate to Fox Valley Food For Health. Find the right match for you. Visit the website at fvffh.org
A bloom is worth a dozen words, and a bouquet can speak volumes
Did you know that if you give someone a bouquet of red carnation flowers, you are expressing a deep love for them? Or send some gardenia and you are admitting a secret love? Lavender flowers convey distrust, and orange lilies indicate a strong hatred toward the person if you are feeling extra saucy. And you can always refer to the gold standard and send roses, which mean “I love you,” and you’ll be on the nice list again.
Flower meanings date back to the Victorian era, and often each flower was used to send “secret messages” to others. Even the way ribbons were tied or flowers
were presented were messages in some way. A wilted bouquet sent a strong message. Colors can mean different things as well –red for “I love you” or pink for “I’ll never forget you.”
Wedding flowers often were the ultimate in flower language, with bouquets that brides carry symbolizing characteristics such as trustworthiness, purity, continuity or gallantry. The groom wears the same flowers from his bride’s bouquet to reflect his undying love. A newer tradition is to give each bridesmaid a special flower in her bouquet that features a flower that suits her characteristics. But don’t use a crabapple blossom
Meagan Provencher is the Senior Landscape Designer for Wasco Nursery & Garden Center in St. Charles. She can be reached at 630-584-4424 or design@wasconursery.com
lest it reflect her “ill nature”!
There are even flowers that represent your birth month - mine is larkspur for July (and I even have a tattoo of a larkspur).
You can incorporate many different types of flowers in your garden and harvest them for bouquets to send your messages. Why not grow some of the favorite flowers of the Victorians and enjoy them (and their meanings!) throughout the seasons? Cut flowers from your garden carry an even stronger message to their recipient – a message of friendship and caring.
Here are some common flowers you can grow and their meanings:
Arborvitae - unchanging friendship
Aster - symbol of love, daintiness
Baby’s breath - everlasting love
Basil - good wishes
Black-eyed Susan - justice
Butterfly weed - let me go (this one made me giggle!)
Chamomile - patience in adversity
Chives - usefulness
Coreopsis - always cheerful
Crocus - cheerfulness
Daffodil - unequaled love, regard
Fern - magic, secret bonds of love
Forget-me-not - true love memories
Goldenrod - encouragement, good fortune
Hollyhock - ambition
Hydrangea - gratitude for being understood
Iris - faith, trust, wisdom
Lemon balm - sympathy
Lilac - joy of youth
Lily-of-the-Valley - sweetness, humility
Marigold - grief, jealousy
Oak - strength
Pansy - thoughts
Peony - happy life, bashful
Poppy - consolation
Rose - love (although each color means something different)
Sage - wisdom, immortality
Salvia (blue) - I think of you
Snapdragon - deception, graciousness
Sunflower - adoration
Thyme - courage, strength
Yarrow - everlasting love
Zinnia - thoughts of absent friends, lasting affection
(this one is my favorite to grow and give away!)
Source: www.almanac.com/flowermeanings-language-flowers
February in Chicagoland can feel like the longest, shortest month of the year. At this point, the holidays are a fading memory and we are all ready for winter to be over. Valentine’s Day may be one of the few bright spots for many of us to look forward to. As we reflect on the things we love, let us not forget to include a diversified portfolio! Here’s a few reasons why.
n Who is smarter than the market? I’ve been in the financial services industry since 1987, and over the past 38 years there has been no lack of market prognosticators claiming to have special insight as to what the hot investment tip or market segment is going to be for the new year. Over the years, it seems that those who claim to have crystal balls are correct on their market calls with less frequency than the typical weather forecaster’s 10-day prediction. (The average 10-day forecast is only accurate around 50% of the time, according to NOAA.) Missing on the weather is one thing. Making a big mistake with your life’s savings by going “all-in” on someone’s prediction can be disastrous.
One only needs to look at the quilt chart on the opposite page to be able to appreciate the big swings that can occur from year to year in different segments of the world’s equity and bond markets.
n FOMO. The “Fear of Missing Out” often unduly influences investor behavior. When you hear someone bragging about an investment that really worked out well for them, it is natural to want a similar result and to even chase that particular investment to see if you can be part of that success. This can lead to the classic scenario where an investor buys at the high only to see that security flatten out before cycling downwards. Not fun.
n Seeking a smoother ride! Many investors prefer to experience roller coaster rides at amusement parks, not in their portfolios. Our team believes that one of the benefits of having strategic diversification in your investment portfolio can be a less volatile, smoother financial journey we think you’ll love.
Interested in improving your relationship with your portfolio? Call our growing team. We are committed to helping assure your lifestyle and legacy.
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