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t’s no surprise that sitting for prolonged periods is not healthy for your body. It all takes a toll: sitting at a desk, sitting in traffic, sitting down to eat and, maybe worst of all, sitting on the couch and binge-watching TV. A new study finds that all that sedentary behavior is taking its toll on our mobility, especially for people 50 and up. Older people who watched up to five hours of television a day and reported three or fewer hours of exercise a week were 65 percent more likely to have difficulty walking or be unable to walk almost 10 years later, according to a new study from the Milken Institute School of Public Health at George
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Washington University. “TV viewing is a very potent risk factor for disability in older age,” said lead author of the study Dr. Loretta DiPietro, chairwoman of the Department of Exercise and Nutrition Sciences at the Milken Institute. “Sitting and watching TV for long periods (especially in the evening) has got to be one of the most dangerous things that older people can do because they are much more susceptible to the damages of physical inactivity.” The study included more than 134,000 participants who were taking part in a national research project sponsored by the National Institutes of Health and AARP. It assessed all types of sedentary behavior, as well as light, moderate and vigorous physical activity in people ages 50 to 71 across
“Sitting and watching TV for long periods (especially in the evening) has got to be one of the most dangerous things that older people can do because they are much more susceptible to the damages of physical inactivity.” Dr. Loretta DiPietro
eight to 10 years. Those who sat the most and moved the least had three times the risk of difficulty walking by the end of the study compared to more-active participants. For people who were the most physically active (seven or more hours a week), sitting for longer periods (up to six hours) was not associated with excess mobility disability. It seems this may be a consequence of getting older. Younger people might be able to get away with sitting for long periods because they are physiologically more robust, DiPietro said. But after age 50, this study suggests, prolonged sitting becomes particularly hazardous. TV viewing in the evening may be especially detrimental to health because it is not broken up with short bouts
of activity, compared with sitting during the day, DiPietro said. To help reduce the risk, DiPietro suggests building more physical activity into daily life. For example, people who sit for long periods in front of a computer should get up every hour and/or switch to a standing desk. Commuters can park the car several blocks away from the office or decide to take the stairs. Older people should walk about as much as possible throughout the day, and everyone should consider binging less on television — or at least marching in place during commercials or in between episodes. “To stay active and healthy as you age, move more and sit less throughout the day every day,” DiPietro says.
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Aging in place There’s a saying about the strength of weak ties, said Sarah Szanton, Johns Hopkins School of Nursing professor and associate director for policy at the Center on Innovative Care in Aging. Family is a strong tie, but neighbors, church friends and the people at the grocery store “are a broad and deep network” that influence people to age in place. “It can often be the right decision. People do usually want to age in place,” Szanton said.
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he number of adults living on their own is on the rise. A 25-year study from the National Center for Family and Marriage Research at Bowling Green State University found that 13.4 percent of the adult population were living alone and the majority were women 55 and older. The age pattern of women living alone has remained stable over the past 25 years, while the percentage of male older adults increased from 33 percent to 48 percent. “The most surprising finding to me is that living alone is on the rise among
middle-aged adults,” said Susan L. Brown, professor of sociology and co-director of the NCFMR. “I think this reflects the growth in gray divorce (divorce for people older than 50) and the small but increasing share of midlife adults who have never been married.” The lifestyle comes with challenges, but they can be met by planning in advance.
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“If you or someone you love might be lonely, plan a visit or look for resources that can facilitate a trip out,” Werwa said. “Transportation services and rideshare groups offer discounts to older adults, and senior centers offer free social gatherings and activities. When people are thinking ahead about staying in their homes, instead of in a group facility, it’s important to anticipate their potential needs as they get older, including transportation, health, finances and entertainment.” Planning ahead makes living alone work, said Ted Reed, former board chairman and current board member of Friends Center City in Philadelphia. “When you need help, how are you going to access it? People need to figure out how to handle a crisis and who you can trust,” Reed said. This is especially true if adult children don’t live nearby. The National Aging in Place Council offers a workbook, the Act III template, to help plan ahead. Visit ageinplace. org.
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f the five stages of sleep, REM sleep is when dreaming occurs. While scientists don’t fully understand sleep and its connection to aging, a new study finds that people who get less REM sleep are a greater risk of developing dementia. In the dream stage, the eyes move rapidly and there is increased brain activity, higher body temperature, quicker pulse and faster breathing. The first REM stage occurs about an hour to an hour-and-a-half into sleep and then recurs multiple times throughout the night as sleep cycles repeat. “Sleep disturbances are common in dementia but little is known about the various stages of sleep and whether they play a role in dementia risk,” said study author Matthew P. Pase, of Swinburne University of Technology in Australia. “We set out to discover which stages of sleep may be linked to dementia, and while we did not find a link with deep sleep, we did with REM sleep.” The people who developed dementia
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who were more likeable in high school were found to be happier, healthier and had higher-quality relationships and better marriages, Prinstein said. “They were more likely to be hired, promoted and to make more money. They had better health outcomes and mental well-being,” he said. Kids who enjoyed status popularity in high school grew up and were at greater risk for relationship problems and issues with anxiety, depression, substance abuse, obesity and other physical problems, Prinstein said.
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ould you rather be popular or well-liked? A new book explores the dynamics of popularity and finds that the most popular kids may not grow up to be as happy, healthy or well-adjusted as the kids who weren’t considered the coolest. Mitch Prinstein, professor of psychology and director of clinical psychology at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, has studied popularity for over 20 years and is the author of “Popular: The Power of Likability in a Status-Obsessed World.” His
“Popularity should be a concerning issue for parents because kids today are immersed in a world that cares about status.” Mitch Prinstein, professor and author
interest comes “in some ways from my own life. I’m fascinated by why some people are more popular than others,” Prinstein said. Growing up, he saw how popularity changes and how it plays a long-term role in predicting certain common measures of success.
Status vs. likeability First, just what does being popular mean? There are two different forms of popularity, Prinstein said. Status popularity is focused on power and influence. It refers to the kind of people we remember from high school who others wanted to emulate: the cool kids. These kids may grow up to be
the bosses, the stars, he said. The other form of popularity is likeability, which can be identified as early as age 3 and is seen in the corporate world and even in elderly settings, Prinstein said. These are the people who are well-liked, the people you enjoy spending time with. When you are together, these people make you feel better about yourself. “They make the whole group better. They don’t dominate the group. They aren’t the most important person in the group. They make everyone feel important,” Prinstein said. In study after study, Prinstein found that the two kinds of popularity led to vastly different outcomes. Kids
“Popularity should be a concerning issue for parents because kids today are immersed in a world that cares about status,” Prinstein said. How we quantify status with clicks, swipes and likes is very scary, he said. From a neuroscience perspective, the popularity of someone — or something — changes the way a child responds to it. “Part of the brain is like a brake pedal. When a child sees that something is popular — or it has a lot of likes online — it takes away a child’s inhibitions,” Prinstein said. “Parents need to recognize the power of popularity and how the social media world has the potential to undermine a parent’s good work. Parents are more likely to be talking to their kids about what’s going on in their outside life than what they’re looking at their social media life.” Some good advice: Parents can tell kids that “popularity might feel good in the shortterm, but it doesn’t lead to long-term benefits and can actually be harmful,” Prinstein said.
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A YouTube phenomenon, unboxing is where a person takes a consumer product out of its packaging. “Some of the most popular videos for young children now are in the unboxing genre, which involves people, who may or may not be anonymous with only their hands showing, unboxing or opening toys
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Burroughs spends hours studying children’s videos with a special eye on both explicit and masked advertising. While advertisers have always tried to target children, “this idea of building a data profile and having children be a segment of the market is newer,” Burroughs said. “Netflix, Amazon, Hulu — they’re all developing content specifically for this demographic. A large portion of YouTube’s growth is in this market, which is fascinating.”
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Look at browser history “I think it’s a good idea to view browsing history as much as possible. Have discussions with children about the content they’re watching and empower the child, if you feel like it’s too much advertising or too much that you’ve deemed negative content,” Burroughs said. “Have an open dialogue, even with young children, about how they feel and how that content makes them think about the world or certain brands, just so that they can start to become critical thinkers.”
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he statistics about drunken driving are often quoted, and they should be sobering enough to stop people from getting behind the wheel when they’ve been drinking. According to the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration, 10,265 people were killed in drunken driving-related crashes in 2015, an increase from the 9,967 people killed in 2014. Despite the campaigns and warnings, people are overconfident in their driving skills, make poor decisions or just don’t care. Some states take more aggressive or more lenient approaches to driving under the influence, according to a new WalletHub survey that compared drunken driving penalties. Arizona has the harshest, including long jail terms. South Dakota is most lenient on drunken drivers thanks to no mandatory jail time. The average fine nationwide for a first DUI is $352. Eighty-eight percent of states require offenders to equip their vehicles with ignition interlock devices after a drunken driving conviction. DUI offenses stay on your criminal record for at least six years in 84 percent of states, but they remain for life in five states. If you’re concerned about loved ones drinking and driving this holiday season, here are some tips from the experts.
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Designate a driver
Lead by example
Families and friends have a responsibility to prevent friends from driving drunk. That starts with designating a driver. “The bottom line is that many well-intentioned individuals do not realize they are over the legal limit to drive. You should encourage loved ones to find designated drivers who are fully committed to not consuming any alcoholic beverages,” said Ryan Smith, senior research associate in the Center for Vulnerable Road User Safety at the Virginia Tech Transportation Institute. “Our friends and loved ones need to understand that while we may feel safe to drive after drinking, we are often unaware of our level of intoxication. Smart drinking decisions should be made prior to the first drink, and we should all consider not consuming any alcohol if we may be driving.”
“Be a good example. People tend to adopt similar practices and behaviors of their peer group simply because they are with them the majority of the time. This is especially true with younger adults and teens,” said Marisa Auguste, behavioral analyst for the Connecticut Transportation Safety Research Center at the University of Connecticut. “If a person demonstrates safe driving practices, such as not driving impaired and always designating a sober driver when they do drink, their friends and family will be encouraged to do the same. Also, make sure to hold yourself accountable for your behavior.”
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“Whenever there is the possibility that someone may drive impaired, make sure to have a plan in place that includes a sober driver or using alternative transportation such as a taxi, Uber or public transit. Open and honest communication about the dangers — personal, financial, social — associated with drunk driving will hopefully make someone think twice,” said Jonathan Adkins, executive director of the Governors Highway Safety Association, a Washington, D.C., nonprofit whose members are from the country’s state highway safety offices.
“Within your family and social groups, make it socially unacceptable to drink and drive — not even one drink is safe to get behind the wheel. Be vocal about it with family and friends in a caring and loving manner,” said Federico Vaca, professor of emergency medicine in the Child Study Center at Yale School of Medicine.
Download the app The National Highway Traffic Safety Administration’s SafeRider app allows users to call a taxi or a predetermined friend, and identifies the user’s location so they can be picked up.
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hen kids hit a certain age they have their own ideas. When it’s the holiday season, those ideas may clash with what the family has traditionally done. Children of divorce may have to choose whom to celebrate with. Kids may want to visit friends or bring along significant others. Parents need to learn how to share their adult children, and kids need to respect family plans. The key to happy holidays is being open and avoiding hurt feelings. “Two words come to mind: Respect and compromise,” said Elaine Heffner, psychotherapist and parent educator in private practice in New York City, a senior lecturer
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Families are about loyalty and obligation, so when a child chooses to spend time apart from the traditional family gathering, parents may feel she is being disloyal, said Suzanne Bartle-Haring, professor and program director of Couple and Family Therapy at Ohio State University. Setting aside time to be together is what’s important. “People get caught up in the day, but you can celebrate together another day. Carve out time together,” Bartle-Haring said.
Being together long-distance If you can’t be together in person, you can still connect. “With all the new technology we have, it might be fun to join by a video
service like Skype. I have used this for long-distance family members to join my children’s birthday parties during military service. We were able to connect much more than on a phone call and share the actual experience,” Stivers said.
Celebrate when you can “Family traditions are important and should be celebrated; however, families are also in a constant state of change. Between weddings, babies, cross-country moves and break-ups, you may not get that picture-perfect Christmas card experience every year,” Stivers said. “What is most important is cherishing those fun times and never
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Hard to turn off People often sign up for autopay programs for services as a convenience or to ensure that they don’t miss a payment. However, many times the payment plan is not obviously stated and consumers continue with a service they did not plan to extend.
It can be difficult or confusing for consumers to turn off autopay. “There’s no question that some merchants purposely make it hard for customers to cancel subscriptions or turn off automatic payments. They want to keep you as a customer for as long as possible, and making the cancellation process confusing and convoluted can sometimes help them do that,” Schulz said. “Most merchants don’t handle things that way, but some certainly do. That can be risky, however. Word of a bad customer experience can spread like wildfire in today’s social media environment, and that sort of bad publicity can far outweigh any financial benefits gained by stringing customers along in
“Bottom line, it’s important to read the fine print when you’re signing up for a new subscription or service. Unplanned recurring payments can wreak havoc on your budget and your bank accounts,” Schulz said. If you have a hard time canceling something, the best way to handle it is to be persistent. “Don’t take ‘no’ for an answer. Find phone numbers and email addresses and reach out through them. Approach the company through social media. Leave comments on a reviews website. Make sure that you are heard, and they’ll react to you,” Schulz said. Meanwhile, take good notes of any conversations or email correspondence you have and make sure you have all the paperwork you might need to back up your claim, he said. The best way to avoid any issues with a free trial subscription “is to schedule time in your calendar as a reminder to cancel the subscription before the trial period ends. ... Setting that reminder when you sign up for the free trial can save you a bunch of headaches in the future,” he said.
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our college-age kids are returning for an extended stay on Thanksgiving or holiday break. You are looking forward to it, but you’re also uncertain of how smoothly your reunion will go. The best advice for a smooth transition is to plan ahead, anticipate any challenges, and be respectful of their new independence, said Karen Levin Coburn, author of the recently updated sixth edition of “Letting Go: A Parents’ Guide to Understanding the College Years” and senior consultant in residence at Washington University in St. Louis.
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Share your expectations “Before they come home it’s a good idea to let them know your family plans,” Levin Coburn said. Give them a heads up about where and when Thanksgiving will be celebrated and how long they are expected to attend, she said. “The likelihood is that they’ll feel very pulled between wanting to spend time with their friends and spending time with the family. If you plan ahead you won’t be pulled into a battle,” Levin Coburn said.
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Consider the family dynamic If there are siblings, be prepared because the family dynamic has changed as the older child has been away. Make sure to set aside time for siblings to reconnect, Levin Coburn said.
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issues the family thought were already resolved, Levin Coburn said. Discuss who the kids will be spending time with and where holiday meals will be eaten rather than letting it simmer into an argument. Don’t keep college students in the dark about things like family members’ health or financial changes, Levin Coburn said.
“If parents want their kids to be open with them about things like how school is going or if they’ve gotten into trouble while away, they’ll also need to be open. ... In order to build up that trust, it needs to be reciprocal,” Levin Coburn said.
Recognize their independence A college student is becoming his or
Share changes If you’ve converted their bedroom into an exercise space or changed the color of the front door, let them know in advance, Levin Coburn said. “Parents have the idea that (the child is) not really living there anymore, but they will notice the smallest changes. It’s their home,” Levin Coburn said. Some kids really would like to put a rope up and treat the home like it’s a museum, but it’s not fair to think parents can’t make changes, Levin Coburn said. For families dealing with divorce or other emotional challenges, a return from college often brings to the fore
her own person, changing in all sorts of dimensions — tangible and under the surface, Levin Coburn said. “No one is telling them when to sleep, eat or shower. They are used to that independence,” Levin Coburn said. It can be helpful to recognize their independence. Compliment them on handling themselves well. “Tell them you respect them, but now that they’re home you can’t just turn off your parent worry button,” Levin Coburn said. A short discussion about the courtesy of letting you know when they’ll be home or if they’ll miss dinner can help avoid future arguments.
Choose your battles While your college student should respect the family’s needs, parents should resist the temptation to offer parental advice that doesn’t really matter. Avoid small arguments about little things like telling them they need to put a coat on or how to load the dishwasher, Levin Coburn said.
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