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✤ Did you know that eating chilli peppers could actually help you slim? Scientists claim that they can raise our metabolism and burn fat. Researchers from the University of California found that the heat generated by the peppers can ‘oxidise’ layers of fat. Scientists began their investigation after studying the ability of chillies to make people sweat and began to wonder if they could help as part of a diet. They found that eating chillies raises the metabolism for several hours after eating them. So next time you tuck into a curry just think of all the calories you’re burning!
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✤ You’d have to be pretty small in order to ride this teeny-tiny pony. He’s so dinky, he’s just tall enough to nuzzle up to some late flowering daffodils. At least he can say he’s tallest out of the bunch. The gorgeous miniature pony was born at the Original Miniature Pony Centre in Dartmoor and measures a
mere 20in high. The foal was named Oberon after the King of the Fairies character in A Midsummer’s Night’s Dream, because he was born just before Shakespeare’s birthday on April 23. But tiny as he is he’s not the world’s smallest pony. That honour belongs to Einstein from New Hampshire, in the US who is just 14 in high.
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Happy birthday… Joan Collins
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✤ She’s 77? No, we couldn’t believe it either! Whether it’s finding a fifth husband 32 years her junior, doing a job she loves, eating well, keeping fit or relaxing at one of her four homes around the world, Joan has certainly found the key to eternal youth. It’s not surprising then that big fashion and beauty names have
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Also celebrating this fortnight… ✤ Cher, who restyled herself as a solo star without Sonny, is 64 on May 20.
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to work are financial – after all, it must have been hard saying goodbye to the permanent six figure salary she received on This Morning – but it seems it’s more about love than money. “I’m still working because I love what I do,” she says. “But now it’s different. I’m more in control. These days, I’m always there at one end of the day for the children. Since I’ve given up This Morning, I get them up and breakfasted, and do the school run. I’m often there in the evening, too, with supper cooking
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‘I’m still working as I love what I do but now it’s different. These days I’m there at one end of the day for the children’ and everything, so I don’t think they miss me. My family life is very happy, very settled, and I know I’m very, very lucky being able to do what I do for a job.” So it seems that one of the secrets to the rejuvenated Fern could be her reprioritising and coming off the daily TV treadmill.
Certainly Channel 4 are delighted she’s agreed to join the 5 O’Clock team. “Fern’s a natural choice for the show,” says a Channel Four insider. “She’s considered to be the perfect replacement for Paul. The viewers love her because she’s so bubbly and charismatic, and, like her predecessor, she’s not reliant on the autocue. She has a gentle, offthe-cuff humour which is perfect for teatime TV.” She certainly has. But she’s also developed another skill, achieving something of a reputation as a political interviewer and a force, within heavyweight circles, to be reckoned with. Since Tony Blair admitted to her on her BBC series of interviews
fern wants to hear from you... Psst… Are you over 60 and looking for love? If so then Fern wants to help you. Fern is currently looking for people over 60 to appear on a friendly dating game in the in the 5 0’ Clock show. The winning couple will be go on a special mystery date together before catching up with Fern to see how they get on. For more details contact Steve Roe, assistant Producer of The 5 O’clock Show on 0207151 0096 or email stephenroe@olgatv.com YOURS
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when she approached roundabouts and would drive for miles to avoid them. “I was a competent driver but I became worried because many drivers today don’t bother indicating when they’re turning off,” says Sue, who’s disabled and wheelchair-bound. “When I learnt to drive 30 years ago it was fantastic, like having a pair of legs again. But then my health deteriorated and it was easier to let my husband Tony take over.” Gina too allows her husband Pete to do most of the driving and this, says AA President Edmund King, could be the main problem. “Many people find their confidence goes when they don’t drive as often as they used to,” he says. “They worry more when they do venture out, thinking, ‘what if that truck pulls out in front of me? Or ‘what if I can’t find somewhere to park?’” Gina admits to doing both of these. “I’ve been known to just drive straight home if I can’t find a parking space,” she says. But help is at hand. The AA Charitable Trust has recently launched a scheme
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called Drive Confident which offers free refresher driving lessons with qualified instructors to anyone who feels the need. “Millions of drivers fit into this category so there’s no need to be embarrassed,” says Edmund King. “We find it’s often very easy to reassure nervous drivers and help bring back their confidence.” Sue has already taken advantage of the scheme, although she admits to being ‘very, very scared,’ when her instructor decided to tackle her fear of roundabouts head on. “He took me to the worst roundabouts he could find,” she laughs. “He said, ‘if you can do these, you can do any of them,’ – and I did! It gave me such a lift. I’m driving two or three times a week again. People don’t realise you’re disabled when you’re driving, it’s so freeing.” Gina too gained a ‘tremendous amount’ from her lessons and the birth of her second grandchild has made her even more determined to beat her fear. “I want to play a big part in my grandchildren’s lives,” explains Gina. “To do that, I’ll have to get used to driving to their house in Kent on my own. It means going on a motorway and I’m absolutely dreading it, but I will do it because Albert (2) and newborn Rosie May mean the world to me.”
D Be positive – remember how confident you used to be? Start telling yourself you can and will get that confidence back. D Be specific – identify the particular aspects of driving that cause you anxiety. Why do you think this is? What could you do to help yourself? D read the Highway code again – being on top of the theory will help boost your confidence and stop you from worrying that you’re doing something wrong. The Highway Code is online at www.direct.gov.uk and there’s lots of general motoring advice at www. theaa.com. The College of Optometrists also offers information on night vision. Call 020 7 8396000 or visit www.college-optometrists.org D Book a refresher driving course – asking for help will make you feel like you’re taking control and putting yourself on the path to tackling your fears . See details of the free AA course below or look in your telephone directory for local driving schools which also offer refresher courses, some even combine them with hypnotherapy to help you relax. D drive as often as you can – the more practice you get, the more your confidence will grow as you regularly confront the source of your fears. D apply for your free drive confident course by calling 0800 009 4756 or going online at www.theaa.com/ drive-confident
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Caring Where Yours brings the caring community together with information and support ost teenagers can’t wait to leave school to start a job or college course. Having fun usually means hanging out with friends, going to nightclubs or catching up with the gossip on Facebook. But 18-year-old April Crossland is different – she’s put her teenage years on hold to look after her mum, Zoe Huckerby. While other girls are out doing girlie things, April is happy to be a carer. She does the washing, cleaning and cooking at the home she shares with her mum, stepdad Matt (34) and sister Hannah (16). She also helps with her mum’s personal care including changing dressings. “It was April’s choice to become my carer,” says Zoe. “I never wanted it this way, but it’s what April wants.”
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Jupiter is opposing Saturn, asking us to be realistic, yet hopeful. Uranus comes to Aries, sparking off new efforts in industry and an international controversy. The property market could begin to turn around at the end of the month.
If it’s your birthday this fortnight... ... like Joan Collins, born May 23, 1933
Gemini is the ageless Peter Pan of the zodiac and gloriously glamorous Joan is no exception. Always interested in what’s around the corner rather than what’s happened, Geminis are restless, witty, chatty and lots of fun to know. Joan has some pleasing domestic happenings to look forward to in October. The next few years look pretty amazing for Joan, with a contract being signed to revive a previous role, too.
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May 22-June 22 There could be something rather beneficial happening for you via a partner or someone close by. What boosts one, helps the other. Thought for the fortnight: It’s often when folk feel most stuck that things change. D For a weekly update call 09044 705702
Sept 23-Oct 24 This is an unusual time, when out-of-the-blue moments can alter so much for you. Partners will surprise you and you’ll surprise others, too. Thought for the fortnight: Look out for a ‘domino effect’. D For a weekly update call 09044 705706
Jan 21-Feb19 From May 28 you’ll start to notice things revving up in your daily life, and all sorts of amazing ideas could begin to shape up! Thought for the fortnight: You’ll be determined to spread your wings. D For a weekly update call 09044 705710
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June 23-July23 With harmonious Venus gracing your sign, personal relationships will warm up, and one involvement gets pretty intense around May 24. Thought for the fortnight: If it’s worth having, it’s worth working on. D For a weekly update call 09044 705703
Oct 24-Nov 22 Treading softly in a tricky situation could enable you to manoeuvre your way into an all-round better set up. Don’t be tempted to return to a part of the past that did you no favours. Thought for the fortnight: It might pay to check out expert money advice. For a weekly update call 09044 705707
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July 24-Aug 23 This is a good ‘building’ phase, especially where business and property are concerned. Expect to hook up with someone interesting! Thought for the fortnight: Don’t discount the possibility of life perking up. D For a weekly update call 09044 705704
Nov 23-Dec 21 It’s a good time for putting heads together, bouncing ideas around and working to straighten out what needs attention. Thought for the fortnight: Thanks to your own effort, you should achieve that goal. D For a weekly update call 09044 705708
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Mar 21-Apr20 It’s all changing for you, as Uranus arrives in Aries on May 28, for his first visit since 1935. Time to shift the goal posts, to get ready for a chance to do things your way, Aries! Thought for the fortnight: Your determination to make life better should pay off. D For a weekly update call 09044 705700
December 22-Jan20 Try not to overfill the diary or over-commit yourself! There’s a lot to be said for a plan that could take you out of the usual routine, until Saturn goes forward, bringing a green light on May 30. Thought for the fortnight: Get ready for a new wave of domestic activity! D For a weekly update call 09044 705709
Apr 21-May 21 You could soon be sorting a personal issue that’s perplexed you for some time and the mood is upbeat, even if you are a bit uptight to begin with. Thought for the fortnight: You’re on the right track to ring that needed change. D For a weekly update call 09044 705701
Aug 24-Sept 23 With Saturn doing an about turn in your sign on May 30, you could be getting a lot done. Things that have been needing action, maybe for years, are now being attended to. Thought for the fortnight: A door opens where it seemed there was no opening. D For a weekly update call 09044 705705
SCORPIO
Feb 20-Mar 20 Family connections seem strong and positive and a suggested change of surroundings could get the thumbs up. Thought for the fortnight: Unusual opportunities will present themselves. D For a weekly update call 09044 705711
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ow often do you hear someone say ‘I was horrified to hear myself quoting my own parents as I talked to my children’? Yet what’s wrong with that? Why wouldn’t we adopt our parents’ values? I’ve been able to ‘come out’ recently in my autobiography, Lost and Found, and write about being adopted. It made me realise how much of my parents’ attitude to life I’ve absorbed. As a teenager it’s a rite of passage to kick against the traces and abandon all our parents’ values. It’s a classic teenage behaviour to do the opposite of everything they say.
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But what is important is to give our children values. Sometimes I wonder what exactly parents are saying to their children now. I have to hold my hand up and admit my generation made mistakes with our childcare in that we were too lenient. Rules are made to be broken, but I fear we broke rules and then didn’t replace them for fear of not being trendy or politically correct. My parents were the most loving on the planet, but they weren’t to be disobeyed. I knew how far I could go and if I overstepped the mark I was punished – and I respected them more for it. They gave me a great work ethic, too. My father worked all hours on the farm and Mum worked alongside him. If you started a job it had to be finished. Tidiness was my mum’s obsession. I remember throwing a wobbly because she made me put my toys away in the cupboard before I could have tea. This continued through my teenage years. The poor woman must have exhausted herself nagging my sisters and I into tidiness. I am now the same and, interestingly, so are my sons, although I adopted a different approach. Because I was working so much when they were
Yours columnist Lynda Bellingham believes parental respect is the key to happiness young, and I was on my own for several years, I didn’t have the energy to nag, so I cleared up after them. Friends would tell me I was mad and that I should leave the mess until they cleared up. But I just couldn’t live like that. However, over the years my boys have somehow learned by osmosis and are now very tidy. It’s as if they were so used to living in a clean, tidy house they notice if
‘To have respect for a parent and pass that on to our own children is the greatest reward’ things are not where they should be and clean up. Loyalty was another attribute my parents encouraged and once, when a pal at school let me down, I was encouraged not to retaliate but instead stay strong and loyal. Sure enough the friendship survived. I know that my sons appreciate loyalty in their friends and enjoy the respect it wins. And that is the ultimate really isn’t it? Respect. To have respect for a parent and pass that on to our own children is perhaps the greatest reward.
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On a different note, I took Mr Spain to the cinema to see a wonderful film called I am Love but it was subtitled and I kept having to wake him up. Now I’ll have to go with him to see Clash of the Titans. I guess the secret to a happy relationship is to compromise!
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