The Feelings Behind Behaviour

How you can help your child manage and express their emotions? Behind every behaviour there is a feeling

Is your child struggling with anxiety? Are they unwilling to try anything? Is their behaviour out of character and causing stress to the whole family?

I get it. For a number of years my son used to hide behind the curtain; he would storm out of the room if he knew he had done something wrong and he never appeared to hear anything I said. I knew something wasn’t right but I felt totally helpless because I just couldn’t get through to him. I also became increasingly frustrated with the school systems for dealing with a child who didn’t quite seem to fit into a specific box. Then we discovered he had dyslexia and this led me on a path to understanding not just how dyslexics react to things but children in general. Children can struggle to express emotions and if they are not taught to recognise, understand and work through them they can end up suppressing the negative ones which over time can be expressed as ill health or a behaviour. Children have so much to give and yet we are seeing more and more children suffering with mental health issues. The National Health Executive states “One in six children and young people had a probable mental health disorder in July during the first wave of coronavirus, compared to just one in nine back in 2017” As an Holistic Therapist and qualified Pharmacist with experience working in special needs schools and as a parent of a dyslexic child, I understand how frustrating it can be as a parent and from the child’s point of view when they are struggling and can’t explain what is wrong. All these experiences have made me realise that everything comes back to our feelings and the associated energy of those feelings. Emotions are basically energy (the latin word for emotions is “emotere” = energy in motion) and in holistic therapy terms this energy affects the energy centres of our body which are known as chakras. If the feelings are negative and therefore the energy is negative it can cause blockages in the chakra system which leads to more disruption. We have seven main chakras in our body, each represented by a different colour of the rainbow and each affected by different feelings. Children are generally very visual and even

though they may not be able to verbally express how they are feeling they can usually tell you the colour of the feeling. By using a term I have created called “the behaviour equation” (behaviour + identified colour +/- physical issue = chakra and emotion) we can then employ the unique properties of the identified chakra and link them to activities that have, in their own right, been shown to improve mental health and well-being and in turn, correct the imbalances and help children believe in themselves, their unique superpowers and their special place in the world.

An example of the behaviour equation at work might be Your child is having a tantrum. You show them the 7 colours of the rainbow and ask them to pick the one that matches their mood. They choose red They may also be struggling with constipation or diarrhoea. This tells us it is very likely their root chakra that is affected and they are probably feeling unsafe or insecure about something. We can then use the properties of the root chakra to decide what activities your child can do to help them feel better.

If this has resonated and you would like your child to be able to tackle whatever life throws at them with ease and be proud of who they are then please get in touch. Call Rachel Brown at Chakra Kids on 07952241215 or visit www.chakra-kids.co.uk For more top tips and activities please download my FREE GUIDE, “From Tantrums This forms the basis of my Healthy Mind, Happy me Group programme and a series of 7 Chakra Monster Books I have written, the first of which Bixbite the Root Chakra Monster, suitable for ages 5-11, can be found via this link https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/ B08PJMS19J One of the activities suggested is linked to the fact that the root chakra is associated with the element of earth, so if you can get your child to stomp around in barefeet (outdoors if possible) it will help to ground them, focus on the here and now and shake off the negative energies from the body. I believe there is no better time to empower our children to take control and actively create a life full of confidence, self belief and positivity rather than one of stress, anxiety and fear.

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