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I AM my Sista’s Keeper
November 2013 Vol. 2, Issue 2
Race For The Cure: Sistas Support The Cause
Zendaya Shake It Up! star talks her new album & book
Spotlight: 2013 Miss Black USA Talented Teen Contestants Plus: Breast Cancer Health & Awareness
Gratitude Issue
• Sistas tell us what they are THANKFUL for
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Spotlight:
Respecting the Opposite Sex
2013 Miss Black USA Talented Teen Contestants Saretta Wilson & Shamera Norman
God wants us to live abundantly & not wallow in guilt over past sins Winter Fashion 18
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Readers submitted pictures from Breast Cancer races
Give the Gift of Gratitude The holidays are a great time to show how thankful you are
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Start This School Year Off Right
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On the Cover: Photos Courtesy of : Zendaya’s website
Shakin’ It Up
(left) Zendaya dances in the video for her fi rst single, “Replay”, from her self-titled debut album.
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LaPorsha Lowry Founding Editor/Publisher Taris Easterling Contributing Writer Shaniqua Graves Contributing Writer Markia Holt Contributing Writer Regina Johnson Contributing Writer Yani Long Contributing Writer Mariya Moseley Contributing Writer Nomvuyo Osei Contributing Writer Noma Vilane Contributing Writer
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In Every Issue Promotions & Giveaways
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Beauty Mary Kay @ Play
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Beauty Winter Hair Trends
Beauty “Pink” Items for Breast Cancer Research 16
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Entertainment Black Nativity Entertainment
“Winnie” movie review
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Health Breast Cancer Awareness
Furaha What I’m Thankful For 27
Jando How To Be Thankful
Maua Fun Things To Do 17
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Ndege Holiday Survival Guide
Black Women In History Alice Walker 46 November 2013
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Calendar November
No v e m b e r 2013
What’s going on & what to do this month
My Journey To Success: Life After High School Imaginon, Charlotte, NC 10 AM-3 PM
“Building tomorrow’s leaders in today’s society”: high school juniors and seniors are invited to prepare for the next step in life.
Contributors
Easterling is currently a sophomore at NC Central University. She’s an avid reader and writer so you will usually find her doing one or the other. She’s the lead host on her very own personal radio show, Unscripted Radio.
Taris Easterling
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Holt is currently a student at Truman State University. She is a Communication major with a minor in Spanish for the Professions.
Markia Holt
@WhoIsYaniLong
Nomvuyo Osei is an artistic free spirit who is African born, Southern-American bred, with a passion for her husband and children, natural hair, writing, learning and healing. With her continued drive to uncover her life’s purpose, she hopes to be a positive and inspiring contributor to life and Sista’s Keeper Magazine.
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Graves is a North Carolina native living in Greensboro. Aside from journalism, the UNCG alumna also writes poetry and short stories. The aspiring writer continues to seek projects that express her unique point of view with writing.
Shaniqua Graves Regina is a senior at the UNC Charlotte and is pursuing a Bachelor's degree in marketing. Writing has always been one of her passions and she plans on pursuing a career in Public Relations or Journalism. She is a strong believer that young women should build each other up and support one another in every endeavor.
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Long began writing at the age of 11 with journals that turned into poetry. She attended Guilford Technical Community College and recently graduated from NC A&T in May 2013. She enjoys making jewelry, spending time with family, watching TV and playing cards.
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Moseley is currently a student at North Carolina Agricultural and Technical (A&T) State University, studying journalism and mass communication.
Mariyah Moseley Vilane is a senior journalism major at North Carolina A&T State University. Her hobbies include reading, writing fiction, and spending time with friends and family.
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Editor’s
Happy Holidays from Sista’s Keeper Magazine!!!!!
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Hwe have to be thankful for this holiday
ey sistas! There are a lot of things that
season...I KNOW I DO!
I just received my Master’s degree in August and celebrated the 1-year anniversary of the magazine in September. I’m thankful that God continues to bless me with my dream being more & more fulfilled with each issue. Disney star Zendaya (pg. 30) is taking her experience on Dancing With The Stars to move forward from “Shake It Up” to the release of her self-titled debut album. The 17-year-old has made her own lane as far as her music and we can’t wait for more from her. Saretta Wilson & Shamerah Norman (pg. 9) were two contestants in this year’s Miss Black USA Talented Teen pageant in Arlington, VA. I served as a judge in that pageant and had the pleasure of seeing both girls in action. They are both great role models for you to get to know and connect with, as well as both having platforms that this magazine can get behind. We look forward to working with them in the future. This issue’s theme is Gratitude and you can find helpful tips for how to be thankful and how to know what to be thankful for (there is a difference between priviledge and right) so you can know (pg. 26-29). Breast Cancer Awareness is something that is a HOT topic every year around this time. It’s easy to wear pink and attend a race but breast health is a YEAR-LONG necessity. Whether yours are BIG or small, the key to prevention is taking care of yourself and every girl must know how to do that (pg. 22).
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This month, we also give you a holiday gift giving guide to help you get presents for the people who you love most (pg. 40). Every one is different and has different taste, but this guide will help you get started on your shopping this holiday season. As always, if you want to contact me or have any questions about the magazine, email me at: laporsha@sistaskeepermagazine.com or visit our website: www.sistaskeepermagazine.com Remember the purpose of Sista’s Keeper: to build you up as young women so you can be comfortable enough in yourself to help your sisters, cousins, friends, etc. I hope that you enjoy this issue and remember:
“I AM my Sista’s Keeper”
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Spotlight Saretta Wilson
Miss Black Louisiana USA Talented 2013
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Saretta is the daughter of Nakia Wilson-Nelson and Glen E. Roberson, Jr. As a student at Peabody Magnet High School, Saretta has been active in cheerleading, JROTC, Beta, and Choir. The 2013-2014 school year is her senior year in high school and she has proclaimed this year to be the year of “Stepping Your Game Up”. Saretta is in the process of preparing for college life. Upon graduation in 2014, she plans to attend Southern University and A & M College in Baton Rouge, LA. where she will obtain a Bachelor of Science in Mathematics and then proceed to law school and practice law in the great state of Louisiana. Platform: Bringing Awareness to Breast Cancer
Meet the 2013 Miss Black USA Talented Teens We will be featuring the contestants from the 2013 Miss Black USA Talented Teen pageant, where our editor-in-chief served as a judge in August.
Shamerah Norman Miss Black Minnesota USA Talented 2013 Shamerah is an avid Soccer player who believes that playing sports is a part of good growth for young people. Shamerah supports the importance of young education, leadership and finding additional positive opportunities for young teens to stay focused and out of trouble. Shamerah speaks to students in all grades, churches, and community events about how it’s important to not be afraid to have good standards, to aim high to improve yourself with balance, while loving yourself and having high self-esteem all at the same time. Platform: Talking with Teens: Helping Young Girls Become Ladies
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Winter
By: Regina Johnson
The best part of the falling leaves is bracing for the
Chill-Free Coils This one goes out to the big hair lovers and the naturals! Teyana Taylor is best known for her wild coils and making them look effortlessly perfect. The key to rocking this look like Teyana is to think bold and be confident. There are a few ways to achieve this care free winter look but I will share my two favorites. The first way is simply to cornrow or plait your hair the night before so that when you take the braids out in the morning your hair has a curl to it.
Pure Beauty Ponytail Speaking of classic the beautiful Zendaya Coleman is the definition of pure beauty with her chic high ponytail. We’ve all donned the ponytail look but the reason why this style works for the winter months can be summed up in one word: Simplicity. Tightly position at the crown of your head this look creates instant elegance and can be accessorized with a layered scarf or my favorite, hoop earrings. 10
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Hairstyles
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wintry breeze of hair trends of the season.
Breezy Bob The Queen herself knows how to switch it up for the season! With its easy maintenance and versatility, a Bob is perfect for the Winter season. The best way to pull off a Bob is to have an edgy cut adding shape and elegance to your look. You can sport bone straight tresses or add fun and flirty waves to your style like the beautiful Mrs. Carter. No matter how you style your Bob you can’t go wrong with this classic Grown Woman silhouette.
Magnificent Marley Twists This look has been popping up all over since the warm summer days have come to an end. Ms. Solange Knowles is a Winter Goddess with her Marley twist tossed every which way. This style is for the ladies who have to get up, make a cup of hot cocoa and hit the chilly streets without having to worry about styling. So how do you achieve this look? Well the number one thing you’ll need is Marley hair which is thick and course in texture but is key to getting this look. It is possible to do this style at home but it takes time and patience. November 2013
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Entertainment
By: Markia Holt
Black Nativity
New version of the play by Langston Hughes has cast of veterans & newcomers. Jennifer Hudson, Tyrese Gibson,
By: Markia Holt
Jacob Latimore, Nas and Luke James.
Black Nativity is the film
The movie follows street-smart
adaptation of the play by notable
teen Langston (Latimore) from
African-American social activist,
Baltimore, raised by single mother
author, poet and playwright
Langston Hughes. The original
musical premiered on Broadway in
December 1961; with performances happening across the U.S. since
then. It is the retelling of the classic Nativity story with a modern twist
and it starring an entirely black cast. The movie stars a powerful cast of Forest Whitaker, Angela Bassett, 16
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Naima (Hudson). He is sent to New York City to spend Christmas with his estranged relatives Reverend
Cornell and Aretha Cobbs (Whitaker and Basset). Langston is reluctant to abide by Reverend Cobbs’ rules and
is determined to return home to his mother Naima. But his frustrations turn into an unexpected and
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Holiday Playlist TLC“Sleigh Ride” Destiny’s Child“8 Days of Christmas” Mariah Carey“All I Want For Christmas Is You”
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inspirational journey with friends and family. Through
this exploration he discovers the true meaning of faith, healing and unconditional love.
The film integrates traditional Christmas carols sung
in the style of classic R&B and Gospel. The track list
includes the foot-stompin’ classic ‘Can’t Stop Praising His Name’ and new songs such as ‘Coldest Town’. The
songs of the soundtrack are all sung by the talented cast. Black Nativity debuts in theaters November 27 and
the soundtrack is available for pre-order now.
By: Noma Vilane
Jennifer Hudson in “Winnie” The movie tells the story of Nelson Mandela’s wife.
Winnie tells the story of the wife of South African leader Nelson Mandela. The movie spans from the 1950s, before Winnie and Nelson met, through the 1990s after he was set free from prison and tells the story about how Winnie helped fight the government to end the apartheid regime. Everyone is learning the story of Nelson Mandela and how he was imprisoned for 27 years for trying to
stop the oppression of black South Africans through books and movies like Invictus and the upcoming Mandela: Long Walk to Freedom, which stars Idris Elba, but few know of the story of his wife who continued with Nelson’s message while he was in prison. Nomzamo Winfreda Zanyiwe Madikizelawas the sixth girl born to her tribal village’s teacher, who wanted a boy and she compensated by learning to fight like one. As a teenager, Winnie was sent to boarding school in Johannesburg, where she first met young lawyer and future anti-apartheid leader. After Nelson was imprisoned on the charge of treason, Winnie continued to stay in the country to fight for what she believed was right, deciding not to go to America to finish her studies.
Her fight for equality was marred by poor decisions that led to the kidnapping and death of a 14 year old boy, for which Winnie was herself imprisoned for 18 months. After she was released from solitary confinement, some South Africans felt that her choices were bad for the movement for equality and tried to distance themselves from her and her involvement in the fight to end apartheid. While the movie shows a long stretch in Winnie’s life, starting with before she and Nelson were married, I still felt like more of her story and struggle could have been told. Especially after she was sent to solitary confinement and alienated from the group that stood behind Nelson for his entire 27 years of imprisonment and even after his release.
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Fashion
Winter 2013 Of course for the winter months, sweaters and long sleeves are a MUST but you can switch it up and pair it with a pair of khakis or a skirt and some cute boots, heels or flats. -Logan Neal
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Fashion Trends
Fashion
By: Logan Neal
Cardigans are a great way to keep warm without putting on a heavy sweater. These can be paired with jeans and boots or heels as well. -L.N.
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Sweater dresses are a cute way to stay warm during the winter months. Pair them with a great accessory and boot and...VOILA!!!!! -L.N.
A jean jacket is the perfect item to bring from fall into winter. You can even bring some of your tanks along if you pair it with a scarf. Make it look easy! -L.N. 20
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This stylish trend brings the demin out into the front when paired with a unique accessory, a cute bag & some wedges that will top the “style” chart. -L.N.
Bring back the old school with this retro style sweater & pair it with simple blue jeans. Tennis shoes makes it comfortable and you will still look cute. -L.N. November 2013
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Health
By: Shaniqua Graves
What You Need to Know About Your Breasts
Your breast health is important. As October ends and a new month begins, all the big-to-do about breast cancer will fade, but do not forget to continue to take care of your body. It is the only one you will get...be well! Every year around October some pretty “scary” things begin to happen. Typically normal people dress up as everything from ghost and ghouls to vampires, werewolves, and witches. TV stations and movie theatres pull out all the stops to bring you the most horrifying entertainment events of the year. Even loving, protective parents turn out all the lights and indulge their kids with their most frightening ghost stories . However, if you paid attention, you might have noticed that there was another popular, equally scary topic of discussion over the last month. That topic is breast cancer. Each October people around the country join together in the effort to raise awareness for breast
cancer, focusing on education, prevention, and the eventual cure of this terrible illness. In case you missed it, Sistas’ Keeper has put together some information to help you learn more about what breast cancer is and what you can do to avoid falling victim to the disease. Remember, while this cancer doesn’t usually affect younger women, it’s never too early to take control of your health! Knowing Your Body One major weapon you can use against breast cancer is a comfortable familiarity with your own body. It is tempting to depend on your doctor or Continued on pg. 21
THE BREAST EXAM breasts. Do not be alarmed if they do not look the same in size or shape. Most women’s breasts are not. With your arms by your sides, look for changes in size and shape, or any changes to the skin of your breasts. These changes can be puckering, dimpling, sores, or discoloration. Inspect your nipples also looking for any sores, peeling, or change in the direction of the nipples.
How Do I Perform a Breast Self-Exam? Most people have no idea how to perform a breast exam. Most of the time people do not do their exams because everything feels lumpy and bumpy, and it is very confusing. If you get used to what your normal lumpy bumpy is, then when something is there that was not there before, you will know the difference.
The breast self-exam is a way that you can check your breasts for changes such as lumps. It includes looking at and feeling your breast. If you notice any changes you should report them to your doctor. When breast cancer is detected in its early stages, chances of surviving the disease are greatly improved.
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Also, the best time to do your breast exam is just after you menses (period) has ended. Your breast are less lumpy and bumpy during that time. Your self-breast exams can begin between 18-20 years old. Should you choose to do your breast exam, you can complete the exam in the mirror and in the shower or while lying down.
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Next, place your hands on your hips and press down to tighten the muscles beneath your breasts. Turn from side to side to look at the outer part of your breasts
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Bend forward toward the mirror still with your hands on your hips. Your breasts will fall forward. Look for any changes in the shape or contour of your breasts.
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Clasp your hands behind your head, turn from side to side to inspect your breast. Also inspect the border underneath your
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Stand undressed from the waist up in front of a large mirror. Look at your
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your parents to monitor your health but it’s much more effective when you help in the process. There are two main things that you want to be aware of when it comes to breast health. The first is your monthly cycle. As you may know, changes in your body’s hormones throughout the month can cause changes in your breasts. According to Dr. Leeya Pinder, the estrogen and progesterone produced by the body can cause tenderness, swelling, and pain in the breasts, particularly just before menstruation. Use this knowledge to be aware of any pain or discomfort that does not coincide with your monthly period. The second thing you want to know is the makeup of your own breasts. Once your breasts are fully grown (usually between 18-20 years old), you should become familiar with their size and shape, taking note of any unusual changes. Beyond this, you should check your breast tissue for the infamous “lump”. Most people know that lumps in the breast are
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a sign of cancer. But what most people may not know is that the breast is already naturally lumpy. In order to distinguish between your natural glands and cancer, you should begin familiarizing yourself with your breast through a monthly selfexam done right after your period. The sooner you begin this process of self-examination, the better you become at spotting anything that may not be right with your body.
Protecting Your Body The major component in prevention is PROACTIVITY! This means that the best way to keep cancer away is to develop good habits that benefit your body and help it to heal itself. One way to do this is through weight management. Keeping your body weight at a healthy level is best done through making consistent healthy choices. If this is a lifestyle that is new to you start out slow, Continued on pg. 44
Are You Aware? Breast Cancer Preventative Tips
By: Yani Long
Do you know what breast cancer is? The cause of breast cancer is harmful tumors that are comprised of the spreading of abnormal cells which are cancerous. Breast cancer and breast cancer deaths typically occur in women that are age 50 and older. Although it’s uncommon, five percent of women under the age 40 can be diagnosed with breast cancer. As a young woman you want to be mindful not only of your future but the future of your health. It is important to get your annual check-up and have your breasts examined for lumps. Lumps found in the breasts are usually the first sign that a tumor is present; however, all tumors are not harmful so it won’t necessarily mean that cancer is present just because a lump is there. It is important to understand and become knowledgeable about what breast cancer is and its symptoms.
Although it is rare in teens and younger women it is extremely vital to take care of your body and learn the risks to prevent breast cancer from occurring. Some risks include birth control pills, age, obesity or being overweight, family history of breast cancer, early period, and last but not least second hand smoke. You want to reduce breast cancer risk by: • Talking to your doctor about it when you go for your annual check-up • Become familiar with your breasts and learn how to perform breast self-exams • Maintain your weight by eating healthy • Exercise • Avoid smoking and alcohol Learn your body and get informed. For more information on breast cancer you can visit http://ww5. komen.org and www.cancer.org. November 2013
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Relationships
Respecting the God wants us to live an abundant life. He doesn’t
RESOLUTION: Because Jesus offers real forgiveness, I will not let guilt dominate my life. I will repent of sin and ask for God’s forgiveness. I will forgive myself and live a life of victory. You can experience the freedom that comes from the forgiveness of God. It’s natural for us to feel guilty; sin has terrible effects on all of our relationships, especially our relationship with God. He is willing to completely forgive us for sin and wipe away guilt. But what if you honestly seek His forgiveness and from the people you’ve hurt, but you still feel guilty? God is serious about sin but also about forgiveness.
Forgiven God’s Word promises that He not only forgives sin, but completely takes away our guilt. Fill out the following Bible verses: “If we _________ our sins, He is faithful and just and will __________ us our sins and __________ us from all __________. (1 John 1:9) “For I will __________ their __________ and will __________ their sins __ __________.” (Hebrews 8:12) “Therefore, there is now no __________ for those who are in Christ Jesus,” (Romans 8:1)
Turn Away The Bible says that we must repent* of our sins (Acts 2:38). God is calling us to turn away from our sins, and to choose to be obedient to him. Repentance involves a feeling of remorse, but it also involves a commitment to be different. Which of the following shows repentance? • I can’t believe I did that. It will never happen again. • It doesn’t matter. God will forgive me. *Repent- to turn away
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want is to wallow in guilt over past sins. Can’t Let Go
Me, a Sinner? When you think of sin in your relationship with the opposite sex, you probably think of having sex before marriage, which the Bible calls FORNICATION. While the Bible clearly says that sex outside of marriage is wrong, that is not the only place Christians struggle. In fact, you may have never been alone with a member of the opposite sex and still be guilty of sin in your relationships. 1. At times, I have touched a member of the opposite sex in a way that should be reserved for my life-long mate. (Proverbs 5:15-17; 20) 2. I sometimes entertain lustful thoughts about the opposite sex. (Proverbs 6:25) 3. I have at times tempted members of the opposite sex to sin by the way I walk, talk or dress. (1 Corinthins 10:32) 4. I don’t make God the center of my relationships with the opposite sex. (Colossians 3:17) 5. I sometimes ignore God’s standards for sex and do what I want to do. (Hebrews 13:4) If you can identify with any of those sins, ask God to forgive you and ask Him for the strength to change.
God does not want you to live with a sense of guilt. He wants you to live free of the bondage of sin, forgiveness is freeing. Write a word or draw a symbol that represents any sin for which you have asked forgiveness but still feel guilty. Reread the resolution and write your own here: ____________________________ ______________________________________ ______________________________________ ______________________________________ ______________________________________ ______________________________________ ______________________________________ ______________________________________ ______________________________________ ______________________________________
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Furaha “Joy”
What I’m Thankful For
Readers and Sista’s Keeper staff give you a glimpse of what they have to be thankful for this holiday season.
“I am thankful to be making my dream since I was in the 6th grade of owning my own magazine for black teen girls to life. Also, I’m thankful for each of you who are reading this right now...this is for YOU and I’m happy that you have found this magazine.” -LaPorsha Lowry Sista’s Keeper Magazine “I am thankful for the ability to help others.” -@lifebywisdom 26
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“I am thankful for everyday that I am blessed with the opportunity to spend with family and friends, to continue to grow, learn and experience all that God has created.” -Regina Johnson Sista’s Keeper Magazine Let Us Know What You’re Thankful For!!!!! Tweet us & use the hashtag #SKThankful to let us know what you’re thankful for this holiday season. @SistasKeeperMag
How To Be Thankful
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“Initiation”
Gratitude is a state of mind. It takes a conscious mindset and a willingness to stop and take notice of everything that makes life better, more convenient, and more fulfilling. Know The Difference Between Rights And Privileges In today’s world of modern conveniences, we take many things for granted. We don’t realize that conveniences are privileges rather than our rights. For example, it’s the right for us to be clothed, but it’s a privilege for them to wear designer jeans. We don’t need to earn their rights but they do need to earn their privileges. Discover the blessings you have been given. Be A Model Of Gratitude That means show it, recognize it, and appreciate it when you see it. Nothing feels better than being appreciated for the little things. Show gratitude for others when they help you or do something to make your life a little more convenient or worthwhile. Keep A Positive Attitude It may sounds corny, but a grateful, positive outlook tends to make life, well, more positive. Every morning, find something for which to be grateful. Acknowledge Failure And Frustration Owning your weakness is the first step to learning and improving. Adding humor to the situation when possible/appropriate will help lighten things too. Find The Good In The Situation. Many situations which appear “bad,” often can result in something good. It may be tough, but try to be a “good-finder”. The benefit is to look for the good and not be so quick to complain. Introduce the Gratitude List Get in the habit of using a gratitude list. Gratitude
journaling encourages you to write down all the things you’re thankful for and the things that can help you overcome challenges. Studies show that people who keep gratitude journals feel better about their lives as a whole, were more optimistic, and less stressed. Take On Responsibilities When you take on more and more responsibilities, you begin to learn what it takes to run a successful household, how fortunate you are to have help, and how it feels to give back to the people you love. Not only does it make things easier for your parent, but it can even provide some quality time in which you and your parents. Enjoy Privileges It can’t be “all work and no play.” Hang out with friends, go to the movies, or simply have time by yourself. This will let you be more grateful for downtime and build trust and appreciation between you and your parent. Make A Thank-You Box Make a box that you can use to place in weekly wishes and requests, at the beginning of the week. At the end of the week, take a look at the wishes that were granted, and then give thanks for them. Those that were not granted remain in the box until granted. Encourage Service When we help others, gratitude blossoms. On the one hand, people who do charity or help others who are less fortunate, can see how fortunate they really are to have many gifts and blessings in their lives. On the other hand, service gives you the warm, fuzzy feeling one only gets when they help others. You can be grateful for feeling useful and making a difference. November 2013
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Maua
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50 Fun Things To Do This Winter
1. Go ice skating. 2. Have a movie marathon. 3. Build a snowman. 4. Make a snow angel. 5. Have a snowball fight. 6. Watch a Christmas/Winter movie. 7. List your ten favorite Christmas carols. 8. Write a poem about ice or snow in your journal. 9. Make a winter journal. 10. Eat an icicle. 11. Drink hot chocolate. 12. Knit a scarf. 13. Decorate your bedroom door for the Holidays. 14. Make a snowflake card for a friend who lives far away. 15. Make a Christmas ornament. 16. Make a fun family or winter recipe. 17. Go watch your high school basketball team.
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18. Drink some hot cider. 19. Read something that warms your heart. 20. Read something that makes you laugh out loud. 21. Go to a museum. 22. Start a new healthy habit. 23. Create a family newsletter to send to your whole family. 24. List ten thing you like about winter in your journal. 25. Hug your parent, a friend and yourself. 26. Learn a card trick. 27. Make place cards for your family’s holiday meal. 28. Send holiday cards to your friends. 29. Join a book club. 30. Go Christmas caroling. 31. Volunteer to read to children at the library. 32. Create an imaginary teen from the future. 33. Go on a winter photo scavenger hunt. 34. Plan a board game or video game tournament. 35. Rearrange your bedroom. 36. Organize your closet: Bring out your cold weather clothes and store your warm weather clothes. 37. Go through your socks and underwear. Pitch the old and ask for new. 38. Bake your favorite cookie. 39. Post winter greetings on your friend’s social networking pages. 40. Make a New Year’s resolution, and a plan that will help you stick to it. 41. Open your own checking or savings account. 42. Plan a Holiday Party. 43. Learn a new make-up trick. 44. Get a new haircut or style. 45. Volunteer at your community food pantry, soup kitchen or church. 46. Go winter camping – learn survival skills. 47. Make a crazy music video to your favorite song. 48. Write 5 facts about your rock star/person in your journal. 49. Decorate a pair of jeans. 50. Play outside with flashlights after dinner.
HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE
This time of year, you will be surrounded by family from far and wide, some who you get along with and some not. Here are some tips to survive family mess. You’ve been looking forward to a few days out of school and your wish is about to come true. What you may NOT be looking forward to, so much, is the holiday season with your family. Sure, the food is absolutely incredible and you miss your cousins who live several states away, however, you will also see some of those relatives that make holiday time a bit, interesting to say the least. At the end of it all, whether your family is dramatic, fun-loving, awkwardly quiet, or a mixture of all of it, every family has its history, maybe some untold secrets, and various dynamics. Each of our families contribute to who we are and how we view the world. THIS year, instead of rolling your eyes at a relative, see if you can catch them in a moment, one on one, and ask them what they were doing when they were your age. You may learn a bit more about why she’s so angry, and gain some insight into your family’s history. Remembering that the root word of ‘relationship’ is ‘relate,’ most families are in need of some healing, so we can find a way to relate with everyone. That healing begins with honesty, and most of us are not honest because we are afraid of various things like judgment and not being heard. So if we desire to have
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better relationships within our families, here are a few things we can do this holiday season: 1. Listen: Sometimes we can put the pieces together by just keeping our ears open. 2. Release judgment: Most of us judge, however, as we listen to folks speaking, put ourselves in other people’s shoes and just take things for what they are. 3. Be honest: Many of us don’t know how to tell the truth. Be an example of integrity. 4. Reach out: If a cousin is sitting alone outside while everyone else is partying inside, ask him if he would like some company. He may just want to be alone or he may be uncomfortable to be around everyone else for some reason. 5. Be grateful: Although our families have their issues, celebrate the good times and count our blessings every moment. You may not be the ‘Iyanla Vanzant’ or ‘Dr. Phil’ of your family. Whoever we are, we all desire to be accepted for who we are and to be loved unconditionally.
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Shakin’ It
Up Disney star Zendaya is ready to take the next step in her career. Fresh off the hit shows, Shake It Up and Dancing With the Stars, she has released a self-titled debut album.
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endaya wants you to know that she is just a regular girl like you. Her self-titled debut album is a reflection of that: she wants to connect with her fans through her music and show that she is real and relatable. The singer/dancer/actress, who just turned 17 in September, has been inspired by the great entertainers like Michael Jackson and Beyonce.
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Dancing With The Stars Earlier this year, Zendaya competed on the ABC hit show Dancing With the Stars and eventually came in second place.
She says that her experience on was the hardest thing that she has ever had to do.
“It was both physically and mentally challenging because ballroom dancing was something that I had never done before,” she says. “It helped me develop a real work ethic so I’m proud of my performance.”
That experience also brought her an all-new and wide range of fans. “I used to just have the young kids as fans, but because of DWTS, I now have parents and grandparents who are fans of mine,” she says. She Loves The Arts
Zendaya has always had a passion for the arts and says that she can’t see herself doing anything else.
“It’s a give and take type of thing when it comes to my high school experience,” she says.
“I may miss school dances and homecomings but I’m also doing something that I love and getting to travel and sing. Not many kids my age can say that.” Rhythymic Pop
Zendaya’s self-titled debut album was released in September and calls her genre of music “rhythmic pop”…a mix of hip hop/ R&B and pop. “I did a lot of co-writing on this album and the songs are tailor-made to fit me, my voice and my style,” she says.
“This is my music so my album sounds like me because it comes directly from me. I’m not singing
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what someone put in front of me. I have the input on what I will be singing for the rest of my life.”
Zendaya credits her parents, who have always been supportive of and nurturing to her dreams, for her success. She and her father moved from Oakland, California to Los Angeles to that she could audition.
“It was a big sacrifice that I, my dad and my mom made because she stayed home while we traveled.” Her Sista’s Keeper
Zendaya has two older sisters who are in their 30’s but she is still close to them despite their age difference.
“It’s important to have them around to keep me grounded,” she says.
Zendaya describes being her sista’s keeper as being connected and sticking together to help each other. “We are all girls so we go through a lot of the same issues and problems,” she says.
“It’s all about growing and getting through those issues together. I may not know something but another girl may so it’s only right that we help each other along.”
About Zendaya
Full Name: Zendaya Maree Coleman Birthday: September 1, 1996 Hometown: Oakland, CA Favorite Color: Black Favorite TV show: Law & Order: Special Victims Unit Favorite food: Burritos Favorite Dessert: Coffee ice cream What’s on your iPod? Beyonce’ & Michael Jackson Fun Fact #1: Zendaya started dancing when she was 8 years old! Fun Fact #2: Zendaya is a vegetarian! Fun Fact #3: Both of Zendaya’s parents are teachers! Fun Fact #4: Zendaya’s motto is: “Don’t forget to smile”! Fun Fact #5: Zendaya’s name means “to give thanks”
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Request “Replay” on Radio Disney & purchase the single on iTunes.
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Giving the Gift
The holidays are the perfect to show your gratitude to those you As you get older you begin to get a better understanding of what you want out of life and what it is. Your future then becomes a priority because you want what’s best for you and your family. School, friends, love, job, leisure, and financial stability begin to be topics of discussion.
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There are many keys to success, but if you have at least one you’re on the right path. One of those important key factors is just being grateful for all that you have. Through your teenage years you will experience a lot of moments that will make you cry, make you smile, and maybe even make you do a mixture of both.
of Gratitude love. Take time to show them how much you are thankful for them. They’re all life lessons and they help you to appreciate the finer things in life. Not money, not clothes, or popularity status, but the little things that are sometimes forgotten to show gratitude toward. Family, friends, love for God, and the experiences that make people who they are. First thing’s first it is always a blessing to wake up every morning. No matter how hard the struggle with whatever you may face or whatever may be on your mind, you were able to wake up because you serve a purpose. While you may not know what that purpose is right now, the point is you wake up every day for a reason. Whether you are an only child or have any siblings, your family is typically the best support system you have. Yes, they may get on your nerves. Yes, they may be a little hard on you. However, at the end of the day your family loves you and showing your appreciation will only make for better relationships within your family circle. Let’s not forget the friendships and relationships you have outside of your family. Close neighbors and classmates fall under this category. Making sure those around you feel special is important. If you value these relationships and want longevity within these relationships it would
be wise to share how you feel for them on days outside of holidays and birthdays. Do you have a relationship with God? If so, when was the last time you talked to him? Prayed? God needs your love too. Give thanks for all he’s done and show him how much you appreciate him. The ways to show gratitude are unlimited. A few examples are cards, letters and notes. With these you can put your own spin on them an express in your own words how much everyone means to you. You can show God you appreciate him by going to church, attending bible study, tithing, and simply living righteously to your best ability. Live healthy, think positively, and planning your future is showing yourself how thankful you are for the life you have. Your experiences make you who are. Your family and friends are there to help guide and get you through those experiences, and God makes it all happen. Life is the most important of them all to be grateful for. Appreciate your life and all the wrenches that are thrown along your journey to adulthood. It only gets better from here.
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“No gesture is too small when done with gratitude.” -Oprah
“Let gratitude be the pillow upon which you kneel to say your
Gratitude Journals This is a great way to tell your story from your personal point of view. A private gratitude journal provides the opportunity to express thankful feelings in an honest way. Ask a parent for a notebook to use as a journal for writing daily notes of personal gratitude. If you an ironic or humorously negative outlook, a private journal will allow you to express your gratitude in your own style, no matter how back-handed it might seem to others. In private, you'll feel free to note that you’re thankful that your history teacher didn’t call on you in class or that the boy you don’t like didn’t ask you to the dance. Start here: __________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________
“At some point in life the world’s beauty becomes enough. You
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Dinnertime Thanks
Gratitude-On-The-GO
If your family gathers each evening to share dinner, include a brief moment of thanks before you eat. Invite your family to go around the table and each person mention one thing for which they are thankful. Write a short note of gratitude on a white or chalk board hung near the dinner table. Designate a special evening meal each week at which each family member chooses to perform a deed of gratitude. Show gratitude to your sibling by refilling their drink.
You might need a nudge or two to openly express gratitude for life’s little things. Show your gratitude for simple, everyday gifts. Mention your thankfulness for your cuddly puppy, a toasty fire in the fireplace or the beauty of a snowfall. Make your own spontaneous displays of thankfulness. Look at the world through a lens of gratitude and acknowledge your appreciation for the simple things in life: your favorite pair of jeans, a hot shower each day or your best friend’s quirky laugh.
Thank-you Notes You may not know or care about Emily Post, but it could help you learn the courtesy of writing thank-you notes. Though Post recommends a handwritten note as the proper way to thank someone for a gift, begin with emailing thanks, especially to close family and friends with whom you correspond regularly by email. A festive or funny box of cards and some glittery pens could take the hassle out of note-writing. You might not like writing notes, but handwritten thank-you notes are nice, completing them at Christmas and your birthday will help instill the habit as you grow up.
evil and welcome good.” -Maya Angelou
nightly prayer. And let faith be the bridge you build to overcome
• “Thankful” by Mary Mary Lord I'm thankful for my blessings Everything that you gave Times when danger was around me My life Lord you saved Where would I be without Your love Where would I be without Your grace You didn't have to do it but I'm glad You did
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Holiday Gift Thoughtful gifts let someone know that you thought about THEM
For many of us, holiday time is a season of joy, family togetherness and renewal. We celebrate one another through all types of celebrations, festival, and activities no matter our religion or race. Many of us celebrate the holidays through giving gifts of all kinds. These can be thoughtful sentimental gifts specifically geared to the passions and likes of each person. Most of the time though, these holiday gifts are rushed, last minute trinkets that many of us grabbed off the sale rack because we have a hundred dollars that betta stretch out for seven people’s gifts…oh boy!
THIS year, instead of joining the consumer rat race at the mall as the holidays approach, maybe we can take some time and really think of what each person on our gift-giving list may REALLY like. I’m sure dad doesn’t need another bottle of cologne to clutter his dresser, and mom definitely doesn’t need another blouse hanging in her closet with the tag on it. Let us consider getting a sheet of paper, writing down things that each person likes to do, or their favorite colors, or foods, or sayings. Let us tune in to what makes that person unique. Here are some examples of gifts to give our loved ones that cost very little money, but truly come from the heart.
For Dad
For Mom
Does Dad regret not finishing carpentry school because he was pressured to be a teacher instead? Buy him a hammer, and write “Dreams are always alive,” or something like that on it. Or look on ‘You Tube’ and make him a miniature bookshelf.
Does mom have a colorful personality, but has been told that bright colors are ‘too much?’ Buy Mom a bright colorful scarf that she can wear with a lot of her outfits, and hand make a card saying something like, “The world needs to see all your beautiful colors,” or something like that.
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Giving Guide personally. So take some quiet time and tune into your heart. For Friends Does your BFF Nina have a ‘thing’ for pigs (You don’t get it, but whatever)? Get her an assortment of pig figurines, or a pig purse, or a pig calendar, and make her a card that says ‘Oink, oink, oink.’ Of course she will stare at it and you will translate it. It says, ‘I love you!’
For Your Boyfriend Does your boyfriend love Sci-Fi? Okay, so the box set of ‘Battlestar Galactica’ is way out of the budget. Do some research online, and print out some information, including picture with full color, about the characters of his favorite show, or some behind the scenes stuff. You can do this for a few of his favs, and bind the pages or put them in a folder. Bam! He has his own custom made magazine, and you can write something like, “You are out of this world.”
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Education Feature
Getting Ready
This college prep timeline provided by http://www.getreadyforcollege.org/
7th & 8th Grade
Freshman/Sophomore Year • Take interest and skills assessments to help you explore careers options
activities
• Begin thinking about the high • Talk with your school counselor school classes about career options and the that will prepare education required for those careers you for college. Take the most • Talk with your parents about saving difficult classes and paying for college you can handle • Talk with friends, teachers, • Develop good counselors and your parents about study habits college
• Review your high school class plan. Take the most difficult classes you can handle. Stay focused on your schoolwork
• Volunteer in your • Participate in extracurricular community
• Enroll in a summer enrichment program
• Practice setting and reaching goals • Take interest and skills assessments to help you think about possible career options
• Talk with your school counselor and parents about careers that interest you
• Create a tentative high school class plan • Enroll in a summer enrichment program
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• Check if your school requires 10th graders to take the PLAN to prepare for the ACT
• Sign up for classes that will earn college credit during your junior year through Advanced Placement, International Baccalaureate, Postsecondary Enrollment Options or College in the Schools • Explore internships and apprenticeships
Junior Year
• Attend college and financial aid events
• Mentor others and have a mentor for yourself
Schools
• Register for and take the ACT and/or SAT in the spring
• Participate in extracurricular activities
• Review your high school class plan. Take the most difficult classes you can handle. Stay focused on your schoolwork. Make sure you are meeting your high school graduation requirements
• Request admissions and financial aid forms
• Enroll in a summer enrichment program
• Sign up for classes that will earn college credit during your senior year through Advanced Placement, International Baccalaureate, Postsecondary Enrollment Options or College in the
• Get a job to earn and save money for college, or explore your skills through an internship or apprenticeship.
• Arrange campus visits to those schools that interest you
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• Research private scholarship options.
For College will show you what you need to do to get ready for college.
Senior Year
• Stay focused on your schoolwork and take the most difficult classes you can handle
• Take career interest assessments and determine the education needed for careers that interest you
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• Participate in extracurricular activities
• Volunteer in the community.
ATTENTION SENIORS!!!!!
Here is a month-by-month breakdown of what you need to do during your last year of high school to make sure that you are ready for college & beyond. September-November 1.
Arrange campus visits to those schools that interest you. It’s okay to go more than once
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Take or retake the ACT and/or SAT
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Meet with your school counselor to review your high school class plan & transcript
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Select the schools to which you will apply. Make a list of deadlines for each school
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Create a resume of your academic, athletic and work activities as well as other achievements. Prepare a portfolio if you’re interested in the arts
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Ask for recommendations (if required) from teachers, counselors and others who can comment on your abilities and talents Attend a financial aid event. Review a copy of Paying for College Check if there is still time to sign up for spring classes that will earn college credit through Advanced Placement, International Baccalaureate, Postsecondary Enrollment Options or College in the Schools
already done so. Review a copy of Paying for College 3.
Apply for scholarships offered by the colleges to which you have applied.
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Apply for financial aid by completing the Free Application for Federal Student Aid (FAFSA) as soon as possible after January 1.
March - May 1.
Have your final high school transcript sent to the colleges to which you’ve applied.
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Choose a college and notify in writing those you don’t plan to attend.
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Send in any required forms or deposits.
Summer 1.
Get a job to earn money for college.
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Review orientation materials from the college you selected.
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If living on campus, check with the college for a list of what’s provided by the school and what the school expects the student to provide.
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Contact your roommate.
December - February 1. Apply to four or more colleges that interest you. Some may have earlier or later deadlines. (Make copies of each application.) 2.
Attend a financial aid event if you haven’t
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Continued on pg. 44 making a few healthy changes at a time. Try to add new, nutritious foods to your diet and find some new activities that interest you and provide a good workout. If you monitor your food intake and eat a well-balanced diet while staying physically active you greatly reduce your risk for breast cancer. In addition to watching what you eat, you also need to watch what other substances you put into your body. Smoking and drinking alcohol significantly increases your risk of developing any cancer, including cancer of the breast. Avoiding these substances can help you to decrease your risk of cancer as well as a ton of other destructive diseases. Lastly, include your doctor in your prevention! Work in conjunction with your doctor to give yourself the best chance of detecting, treating, and beating breast cancer if it does strike. Have regular physicals and seek medical attention when you feel that something is not quite right with your body, even if breast cancer is highly unlikely. Once you reach the appropriate age of 40 (or sooner if you have a family history), begin having annual mammograms to be sure you have the best picture of your health. Remember that while you should do what you can on your own to prevent cancer, combining your habits with your doctor’s resources will give you the best picture of your personal health and the best chance to maintain it.
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Black Women In History
Alice Walker Pulitzer Prize-winning author of the classic novel, The Color Purple
Walker is the author of the book that one of my favorite movies is based on, The Color Purple. She is a national literary treasure who has brought us some of the best stories ever told.
• 1944: Born February 9th in Eatonton, GA • 1961: Graduated high school and leaves for Spelman College in Atlanta, GA • 1962: While in college, she became actively-involved in civil rights demonstrations • 1963: Invited to Martin Luther King’s home and hears his famous speech at Washington • 1964: Transfers from Spelman to Sarah Lawrence College in New York City • 1982: The Color Purple is published and Walker becomes an over-night literary success • 1983: Awarded the coveted Pulitzer Prize and writes In Search of Our Mother’s Gardens • 1985: Participates in the making of the film The Color Purple by Steven Spielberg • 1986: Given a hero’s welcome after The Color Purple is screened in her hometown 46
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By eighth grade, only half as many girls as boys are interested in math, science, and engineering careers. If each of us gives a girl our time and support today, she can find the courage, confidence, and character she’ll need to build a better tomorrow.