WEDDING TRADITIONS TO CONSIDER

Wedding Traditions To Consider (or Not)

+ Flowers.

Pretty? Yes. Expensive? F*ck yes. If flowers don’t fit into your budget, have small bouquets made for yourself, your mom and MIL, and your bridesmaids. For everything else, decorate with greenery (cheaper), lots of candles, or in a location that doesn’t call for much decoration.

+ Bridal party.

There can be sooooo much drama around the damn wedding party! To us, it made sense to have those that were the very closest to us (my sisters and Lily). I didn’t feel the need to have all my close girlfriends in the party and it was honestly a lot easier that way. Keep in mind one thing: Someone can still be your close friend and not be in your party.

+ First dance.

Looking back, I wish we skipped this (hear about why here). Honestly, it was VERY uncomfortable for me and I don’t see a huge significance.

+ Cake.

If you’re not a cake person, f*ck it. Get creative with desserts or if you’re keeping things budget-friendly, ask the women in your family or friends to make something so there’s a variety.

+ Speeches.

These can also be very cringe-worthy so if you’re someone who is going to stress over what someone might say, save these for the rehearsal dinner when there are less people (or skip entirely!).

+ Seeing each other before the ceremony.

This is a really personal decision and I’d talk to your partner about it before making a decision on autopilot. Maybe you’d like to wake up to them on the day of and have a quiet breakfast before the craziness of the day begins. Or maybe you like the tradition and want to wake up next to your girls. I’d think about how you want your day to go from the start and go from there.

+ Pictures + video.

I’d obviously suggest getting pictures taken but I do think some people go overboard. I did not want to spend an hour after our ceremony taking pictures so we kept it decently moderate. And when it comes to videographers, they’re expensive but to me it’s something you’ll have for life and be able to look back on with your partner and children. I’d rather budget something else out and prioritize a videographer, personally.