Mary Lou Bates

Reflections from the Skidmore community in recognition of 49 years of service.

JUNE 20, 2023

I have so, so much respect for you, Mary Lou. That’s all I have to say... and, congratulations!

— Luke Meyers

“People will forget what you said and will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” (Maya Angelou)

— Debby and Mike Mullaney

50 years is epic! There will never be shoes big enough to fill your void.

— Jill N. Gully

You have been the face of Skidmore for uncountable numbers of applicants and a leader in building Skidmore as the institution it is today. You have done all of this with good humor and professionalism, and I bet you are the head guardian of institutional knowledge. We will all miss you.

— Beverly Harrison Miller ’67

Cheers to the Amazing Mary Lou! Wishing the best in your next magnificent chapter. We are all so proud of you. Love always.

— Lucy (Lucinda Landon)

Congratulations to Mary Lou! Your devotion to Skidmore and your people is unparalleled. I am grateful to have called you (then) colleague and (always) friend. Wishing you many happy moments in your next chapter.

— Barbara Krause

Enjoy your new career at Life Is Good Academy!

— Daniel Evans

I simply wanted to express how bummed I am to miss the celebration of this extraordinary woman, leader, and consummate professional. Mary Lou is a legend among us and will be dearly missed!

— Toni Miranda

As a former chair of the Skidmore College Board of Trustees, I was able to see up close the extraordinary impact Mary Lou had on the College. Year after year, she constructed each class, mindful of the importance of intellectual curiosity, the appetite to learn and explore, and the chance to provide opportunity to those without it. We will be forever grateful for all her contributions to Skidmore.

As a Skidmore tour guide in the 80s, and a first-gen kid who was unsure what to do with my English degree, I found a home and community within the Admission Office. Mary Lou, as my original (and still!) mentor, was a great role model for me then and remains one to this day. It is hard to overstate the impact she has had on so many students, admission and guidance professionals, and Skidmore College. With great admiration, affection, and gratitude, I congratulate Mary Lou on a tremendous career and exemplary service to my alma mater.

— Monica Inzer

I am truly sorry that I cannot attend, as Mary Lou deserves all the celebration in the world. I will never forget my first admissions interview at Skidmore and how kind and encouraging she was. Throughout the years, she has been a mentor and someone who has the best travel stories! I wish her all the best in this next chapter.

— Alison Almasian

Congratulations on your retirement Mary Lou! All of your hard work over the years has no doubt made a huge impact on Skidmore College, and I’m genuinely grateful that I was able to be a part of your team. I will always remember how welcoming and friendly you were to me when I started at the Office of Admissions. I hope that the tradition of having regular social events throughout the admissions cycle continues and that I’ll see you in attendance!

— Eriko Fujita

Your warmth and graciousness in welcoming me to New York Expendables in 1998 perfectly represents how generously you have welcomed and mentored new members of our profession. The enrollment profession is forever improved because of your involvement and commitment. Enjoy retirement! Gratefully,

— Terry Cowdrey

By hiring me, Mary Lou gave me the professional opportunity that also guided my trajectory in life. In this new job and in the Skidmore community I also met my wife, raised a family, bought and sold a house or two (with the help of Bill Bates!), and enrolled our oldest child in Skidmore College. Mary Lou taught me so much about developing relationships, building community, the landscape of admissions and financial aid, and a work ethic that gets our job done year, after year, after year. Skidmore has grown and matured and prospered thanks to her leadership in enrollment over these decades. I sometimes can’t believe how many years I have been affiliated with Skidmore since Mary Lou gave me my first job in this profession, but it is even more amazing to know I was hired at her half-life of her, illustrious career at Skidmore College.

Thank you, Mary Lou!

— Darren Drabek

Congratulations, Mary Lou! Welcome to retirement!

— James Minter

Best 13 years part-time employment ever for me!

— Mary Sanders Shartle

Best wishes for many happy days ahead in the retirement you so deserve!

— Diana Murphy

I am so proud of my baby sis and my best friend!

— Jamie

Wishing you the retirement you’ve dreamed of!

— Jo-An Simone

Best wishes for a retirement that is as rewarding as your career at Skidmore. Thank you for all of your support over the years!

— Lisa Tuttle

Mary Lou is the ultimate role model and someone I aspire to be as an enrollment professional! For over 20 years, she has supported me and countless other admission professionals. She brings her whole heart to her work and cares deeply about the students, staff, and faculty around her. She’s fun, funny, caring, and dedicated, and I will miss seeing her on the conference and college fair circuit. I feel so lucky to know her and to have her as a friend and mentor. Congratulations, Mary Lou, on your many accomplishments at Skidmore. Thank you for all you have given to the admission profession and to me personally and professionally. Much love and gratitude,

— Jo (Joana May)

I still remember Rookie Camp at Skidmore back when I started at Columbia, and all the fun visits you and Dale made to LA. While you actually have your own kids in the field, it feels like you are mom to so many of us. Thank you for all your dedication to the world of college admissions and your professionalism and friendship through the years. You are a true legend! We will miss you. Wishing you all the best in your well-earned retirement. I hope to see you around.

With great admiration...

Love,

— Terry Kung

Congratulations, Mary Lou!

We’ve known each other for over 40 years, dating back to my time at Union when we were neighbors in Niskayuna. We worked together on several projects over the years, and I also got to work with your son, Alex, many years later at Lafayette. You have been professionally steady as a rock — a “go-to” person in our still noble profession and a beacon of integrity that is so welcomed in this ultracompetitive world in which we live. Thank you for being a great colleague all these years, but most of all, for being a friend. My very best wishes to you and Bill as you begin this next chapter of life.

— Bob Massa

Dear Mary Lou,

Your dedication to Skidmore and your incredible longevity in the field of admission are inspirational. You have succeeded through demographic declines, recessions, a global pandemic, and ever-changing technology, all with your signature humor, grace, confidence and vision. You have enriched our profession, and I am grateful to be part of your circle of admirers. All the best to you as you shift your focus and learn to move to a different gear! I look forward to spending more time with you near home, but will miss you at the annual CIS conferences!

Fondly,

— Amy Markham

Mary Lou Bates is a legend. She is the consummate professional. When I began in admissions, she was my teacher and mentor. She taught me about NYSACAC and NACAC. Through her, I became involved and learned how to be a professional. She continued to provide sage information and advice over the years. It was always a pleasure to attend the Summer Institute at Skidmore because I looked forward to having a conversation with her. She will be truly missed by me personally and professionally.

— Diane McKoy

I so wish I could be in beautiful Saratoga Springs on June 22 to share in the celebration of your incredible admissions/enrollment management career at Skidmore College. We first met at the 1981 NACAC Conference, my first one. My sister, Sarah, was already in the field and said I needed to meet the best and most fun people in the profession. No surprise, then, that she introduced me to you! Of course, you likely recall that I inserted a foot (or both feet) in my mouth choosing to rail on a Lafayette alumnus in the Albany area who would only interview athletes (and preferably golfers) in his role as an alumni-admissions volunteer!

Since that first meeting, we have shared many professional opportunities on panels, etc., and swapped book titles from time to time. You brought such common sense, good humor, and a genuine interest in young people to the important (and grinding) work of admissions. Thank you for being a trailblazer and a true friend!

Warmest Regards,

— Bill Conley

Congratulations on your long career and important contribution to Skidmore. Wishing you all the best during this next stage of your life. I hope to see you soon!

Much love,

— Andrea Johnson

It was always a great pleasure working with you. Your humor and your wisdom made for great conversations and times spent together. Wishing all the best in your well-deserved retirement.

— Rochelle Calhoun

Congratulations on your retirement and your wonderful career. Wishing you good health and happy times with your family and friends.

Love,

— Sandy and Fred

A friend, a mentor, and an admissions phenomenon, you are, indeed, extraordinary! With love, admiration, and wishes for good health and happy times in your next adventures.

— Di (Dianne Crozier)

Congratulations on a career that has meaningfully impacted thousands of young people, their families, and their futures. Well done, Mary Lou. We are proud to be here to celebrate with you and your legions of friends and colleagues.

— Rit (Richard Fuller)

Your dedication to Skidmore College, its many students, faculty, and staff has been unyielding. You are a true beacon of light to the staff members on your team and the Skidmore community members who have had the pleasure of meeting you. I remember sitting at the faculty meetings and listening to you provide the updates on incoming classes. I could tell that the work you and your team had put into developing a class for Skidmore meant so much to you.

I also remember speaking with you and Bill at sporting events about all the teams, but in particular about our women’s basketball team and the growth we were able to make on a yearly basis. We will forever be thankful for that support.

You are a true legend and pioneer in admissions at Skidmore College and across the globe in higher education. Good luck as you begin a new chapter in your life. Skidmore was lucky to have you be a part of its legacy and a part of creating legacies for generations of Skidmore Thoroughbreds!

— Darren Bennett “DB”

Dearest MLB, You’ll never know how grateful I am for how you’ve taken me under your wing. You truly were the first adult woman I looked at and could imagine my own future. From Christmas shopper to mentor to friend to colleague, your presence in my life and the evolution of our relationship follows one of my life’s greatest, steadiest, and most impactful arcs. Thank you. Congratulations on all you’ve accomplished at and for Skidmore, and on the many new adventures to come.

Love you, Mindy

I have had the pleasure of knowing and working with Mary Lou for more than 40 years. Her sensitivity, professionalism, and concern for students stand out as a model of her concern for doing what is best for students and families alike. Always accessible and willing to take my calls about potential candidates, she has embodied all that is right and appropriate within the college admissions profession. The hole that she will leave in the admissions and counseling world will be massive, but her work will always stand out as a model to be emulated by all those who will follow in her footsteps.

— Terry Giffen, Director of College Counseling at Choate Rosemary Hall, Montgomery Bell Academy, and The Taft School

I know of no one who has given more credit to the profession of college admissions than Mary Lou. I so respect her consummate professionalism. And I feel honored to call her a good friend. She is a generous and wonderful person.

— Terry Ward

I owe my professional career to Mary Lou. When I applied for the position to work on her team in 2001, I had no admissions experience whatsoever. She hired me, even after knowing later that I was competing for the position against a person who had fit the profile perfectly. If Mary Lou didn’t hire me, I wouldn’t be in this profession that I have flourished in all these years. Thank you, Mary Lou for giving me a chance and staying connected with me all these years — and believing in the underdog. You have been an incredible asset to Skidmore and the profession!

— Dennis Vasque

Sometimes, you just know you’ve met someone you will remember forever. There aren’t quite the words to express that in the moment, but rather a feeling ... that this was meant to be. I have so enjoyed our years together and as I continue to walk around this place we all love – Skidmore – I am so very grateful that, in many ways, it is what it is because of you. With admiration and appreciation, congratulations on your retirement!

— Julia Marco

What adventures we have had! From holidays in Clinton to Summer Institutes at Skidmore to manual cars in Switzerland that you had to push to taxis in Greece trying to dump us off on the road to many evenings at the “Bates Motel” when I was at Union to our membership in the BGOLAS! Oh, and don’t forget the SUCH Christmas parties. I could go on and on. You have been a mentor and wonderful friend to so many and shown us how to do admissions with fairness, sensitivity, warmth, and humor. Now that you are joining me in retirement, I look forward to many more adventures. I treasure our friendship and love you, friend.

— Mary Karen

From chairing the board of Common App and signing its application to become an independent 501c3 to serving an unprecedented two full terms on the board at very different times in the organization’s life, Mary Lou has left an indelible mark not only on the lives of the thousands and thousands of students she admitted to Skidmore, but also on the lives of millions of students applying to college who benefited from her leadership in the admission profession.

Not only has Mary Lou supported students in their journeys, she has also served as a mentor to so many of her colleagues in the profession, including myself. Her wisdom, thoughtfulness, courage, levelheadedness, good sense, and unfailing sense of humor are rare and valuable gifts that Mary Lou has generously shared with so many of us. Thank you, Mary Lou! What an inspiring career you have had, making a positive difference for so many different people who have crossed your path.

— Jennifer Rickard

Imagine the thousands of students admitted to Skidmore on Mary Lou’s watch! (Imagine the tens of thousands of folders read.) Infinitely a better place for her presence and leadership, Skidmore and her colleagues will long remember Mary Lou’s impact. I am delighted to be counted as former colleague and fortunate friend! Now, Mary Lou, about that glass of chardonnay …

— Chris Hoek (CRH)

It was such a pleasure to be an interviewer for you Mary Lou. Best wishes for the next chapter in your life.

— Don Brooks

It has been a pleasure to be a member of your part-time interviewing team. Congratulations on a long and successful career at Skidmore. Wishing you a fun and full retirement. Perhaps I’ll see you on the pickleball court.

Sincerely,

— Marny Skinner

You have been the most joyful practitioner of our…trade? art? (Probably not science) Your good work, and your friendship, have been an inspiration to us all. Skidmore was so lucky to have you! Proud to have known you and worked with you,

— Ted (Ted O’Neill)

It is an honor to celebrate with Mary Lou her many accomplishments during her career. She has influenced thousands of students, parents, alumni, colleagues and friends. Her warmth, compassion, and sense of humor are supported by her professionalism and commitment. Whether you are a friend, a business colleague, or a neighbor, Mary Lou demonstrates care and genuine concern for you. She values her special relationships and supports each person to become better at whatever they are attempting.

I am blessed to call Mary Lou a friend and colleague. She has and continues to make my life more meaningful. Congratulations on your retirement and your next journey!

— Pat Taylor

Sorry to miss toasting you today. Congratulations on your beautiful and meaningful career. You have done it right. Cheers to you, and thank you,

— Chris Gruber

I was hired in Admissions in October 2010. For the next 9 1/2 years I grew under the guidance and tutelage of the entire staff led by Mary Lou. The last six years in Admissions was spent specifically as her senior admin where we honed our professional relationship, but also expanded our personal one as well. Mary Lou was always ready to listen when things in my personal life weren’t going as I had hoped. She offered me countless ways to manage my sadness, my frustration, my anger, my confusion, my worry. She was also always there to share all of my joyous and proud moments as a mom.

I will forever treasure the time I’ve spent in Admissions. Mary Lou is a treasured and renowned storyteller who cares deeply about what she does and the people she loves. I truly hope she enjoys her retirement. No one deserves it more.

— Lynn DiMenna

I once helped Mary Lou shop for blue jeans in California. We were attendees at a college admission/college counselors’ conference at the Cate School there—a conference that this school hosted for several years. Somehow, Mary Lou had ripped the one pair of jeans she’d brought to the conference. I provided advice and consultation on this shopping venture. After one of these conferences (I think we were there together more than once, along with others), we encountered a flight delay at the Santa Barbara Airport. This is (or was) a charming small airport with, as I recall, two baggage bays and an open-air rooftop bar. To reference Hemingway, Mary Lou and I “utilized” that bar as we waited.

Mary Lou also generously facilitated a recommendation-writing workshop (actually, two workshops?) at Skidmore for several of us, including Anne Ferguson and Marcia Hunt, among others, some years ago. Somewhat made up for the fact that the Skidmore woman I dated over my last couple of years in college dumped me just after I’d gotten a teaching job on the East Coast in order to remain near her.

Cheers to Mary Lou!

— Dick Tobin

There is no one with a greater heart for this work than you. From the first day of NYSACAC Summer Institute to the nights spent over cocktails on your visits to Jeff in the city during the NYU days, you have always been an inspiration of true enthusiasm for this work. I admire you in all that you do and am thrilled to celebrate with you!!

— Emily Livelli

Mary Lou! You’re an inspiration! Happy retirement!

— Mary Ellen Haase

I’ve loved the time we have worked together and have so many great memories (Spain! Road trip from Colgate! Recruiting in LA!) You have shared your expertise, wisdom, and humor with us for so many years, and now it is time for you to enjoy a retirement full of good health, happiness, family, and friends.

Skidmore will not be the same without you.

Love,

— Dale and Jon (Dale Nemer)

Mary Lou - You are my hero!!

Can’t imagine the admissions world without you, but I hope you have lots of betting, “spa-ing,” and fun in your upcoming plans! Congrats to you!

XOXO,

— Kelly Richards

It is hard to know the right words in a tribute to Mary Lou and all that she has done for our profession and for our friendship. I have so many great memories of time with her from serving on a NACAC committee together many years ago to her mentorship as I joined the Common App Board. Mary Lou Bates is simply the best. She is an amazing friend, colleague, and a person with a good soul. She brings joy to everything she does and shares her knowledge and experience freely with younger admission counselors and college counselors. Mary Lou, the folks you have mentored are too many to count, and our work is better for your mentorship. My hope is that you will find joy in having the luxury of time — time to spend with Bill, your children, and grandchildren. Time to travel with Bill and time to enjoy whatever the next chapter brings! You will be missed in the profession, but you have left your mark in the most positive way possible! Congratulations on your outstanding career.

Much love,

— Lee Ann Backlund

49 years! What incredible service to Skidmore and to all those students whose lives changed for the better because you gave them the opportunity to attend an amazing institution. Although I only worked in Admissions part time for a few years, I was so impressed with your leadership.

A man named Douglas MacArthur once said, “A true leader has the confidence to stand alone, the courage to make tough decisions, and the compassion to listen to the needs of others.” While working for Skidmore, I saw Mary Lou exhibit all those attributes. There wasn’t anything she wouldn’t do to be sure the school admitted the most talented students possible. Her heart was devoted to helping students who were a good match for Skidmore to attend, and her record shows she did an excellent job fulfilling that goal.

— Cindy Phillippe

I have more than 40 years of experience working in the field of undergraduate admissions. Those years have created many memories and experiences, identified mentors and provided a host of colleagues, many of whom are now friends. Mary Lou certainly fits into all of these categories. I always looked forward to seeing Mary Lou in New York City for the spring fairs and some time to socialize. My favorite memory, though, is the time spent with Mary Lou and Nancy M in LA during the spring case studies in the mid-90s. They both were supportive friends and colleagues to me personally at a time that I needed lots of TLC! And, we may have had some fun during our free time :). Thank you, Mary Lou, for all that you have given to our profession, but I’m most appreciative for you being a role model as a woman in a leadership role who was also raising a family in this oftentimes challenging profession (I know there are many others who would echo this sentiment). I will miss seeing you in all the usual haunts but hope to see you in your next chapter!

— Susan Garrity Ardizzoni

Congratulations on your retirement, Mary Lou! You inspired many of us with your grace and professionalism. Cheers!

— Martha Merrill

It was pleasure to work with you! Your accomplishments during your time at Skidmore are quite remarkable! I wish you all the best in your next endeavors!

Fondly,

— Linda Healy

Mary Lou is (and always will be ...) one of a kind! She is the BEST in many ways. Her patience, sense of composure, and unique sense of humor make her one of our favorite people. It has been a privilege and an honor to have been friends for so many years! We are hoping to see much more of her in retirement years!

— Denis and Brita Chagnon

Mary Lou is a legend — in every sense of the word. She will long be remembered as one of the most dedicated, caring, considerate, and fun admission deans of our time — long after her retirement. I look forward to many more years enjoying her company!

— Shawn Abbott

Mary Lou is a visionary and a legend in the world of higher education and admissions. She is well known for and respected for her professionalism, insight, candor, wit, humor, and intelligence. Thousands of students benefited from her dedication to Skidmore College, me being one of those former students. As a boss she was a leader, an educator, a guide, and a friend. Cheers, Mary Lou!

— Ken Dunbar

Has anyone embodied college admissions more fully than Mary Lou Bates? Simple answer: No! Funny, compassionate, wise, strong, and oh-so-committed to the kids and to her college, Mary Lou embodies the best of this profession. Integrity and commitment guided her every day, through every decision. She had an absolutely stellar career, and there’s no doubt she’ll have a meaningful and equally stellar life after Skidmore. Best wishes, congratulations, and thanks for being a North Star for so many.

— Jennifer Delahunty

Mary Lou has been one of the true giants in college admissions. She has been a mentor for many who have made a career in Admissions and an inspiration to students, parents, and high school counselors.

— Ed Graf

Thank you for all you’ve done at Skidmore, for the support you’ve provided. You will be missed.

— Caryn Marlin

Mary Lou is an inspirational leader, revered both nationally and within our own Skidmore community for her transformational work. We owe her immense gratitude for the talented, diverse, and accomplished students she has brought us for almost five decades.

— Susan Kress

Mary Lou, you were always more like a friend to me than just a colleague, and I look forward to staying in touch. That said, the college admission landscape will surely not be the same without you. Congratulations on this milestone!

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Dan-O (Roldan Sarmiento)

Mary Lou is an example of the very best the field of admissions has to offer. An example to those of us growing in our careers, a friend, and a support system. She has shown us how to work hard and play hard, all while making time for family and friends and truly living life to the fullest. She will be missed. Congrats, Mary Lou and cheers to your next adventure!

— Maggie Lucas

Mary Lou is simply the best and will be sorely missed in the college admissions profession. But there’s no doubt in my mind that she will be as successful in retirement as she has been in her legendary career. Let’s face it—she can do anything!

— Lora Schilder

Mary Lou! I feel so lucky to have known you since shortly after my entry into the admissions world 25 years ago. Full of kindness, warmth, and humility, I always look forward to seeing you at various events throughout the years. Thank you for all the knowledge, friendship, and expertise you have lent to our field over the years. Wishing you all the best in your retirement!

— Ilse Abusamra

I’ve been fortunate to be a colleague of Mary Lou’s for 14 years. Her energy, wisdom and warmth are well-known within and outside of Skidmore. Her gently self-deprecating wit puts folks at ease quickly, which no doubt has been one of the keys to her professional success. Mary Lou keeps the big picture — the goals of both her division and the college — in mind as she leads, and for that she has the deserved respect of her colleagues.

Her national reputation as a knowledgeable, dedicated and empathetic Admissions leader is also well-deserved, and has kept Skidmore in the minds of hundreds of high school counselors across the country as they help guide students toward colleges that make sense for them. I consider myself lucky to have worked closely with her. She will be missed!!

— Beth Post

Mary Lou Bates is a shining example of what a dean and admissions director should be. Her passion for Skidmore and college admissions was palpable. In a profession where relationships are paramount, Mary Lou always take time at conferences, college fairs, or junior programs—no matter your title or school—to ask you about how you were doing. I would always see her going up to introduce herself to the new admissions counselors (which she did with me in my first year). She was an incredible person to talk to, always warm, gracious, and funny. I am confident Skidmore College would not be where it is without Mary Lou shaping its future and the futures of generations of Skidmore students. Her presence will be missed!

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Peter Wilson

Mary Lou has been an exemplary leader and dear colleague for many of us. Her tireless work in admissions and financial aid has brought the College’s strength and reputation to prominence on the national map. I sincerely hope that her outstanding work ethic and her dedication and loyalty to the College will remain as an inspiration for many generations to come. I wish you all the best, Mary Lou!

— Mao Chen

I am so sorry that I will not be there to celebrate your amazing career and what, 25 years, of friendship? You were always a role model to me of how someone could stay at an institution for many years and continuously move the institution forward. I was even more grateful when we became friends. I will miss our travels, our conversations, and our chardonnays. Enjoy your retirement! You have earned it!

Love,

— Thyra Briggs

Mary Lou, you are a Skidmore treasure! I can’t imagine what possessed you to say “yes” to a job at a school under construction with the unproven possibility of coeducation hanging in the wind during an era of sex, drugs, and rock ‘n roll! But take it you did and made it your own, thoughtfully increasing enrollment while improving the academic quality and building a sense of community. You are respected and highly regarded nationally for your insight and understanding of admissions. We have been so lucky to have been the beneficiary of your talent and commitment. I miss those dinners in Wellesley with Kim when you were recruiting in Boston! Enjoy the next chapter! XO

— Susan (Susan Donahue)

You have been an inspiration and role model to many in our field. You worked hard and played hard. Hope to stay in contact during your next episode.

— Audrey Smith

Congratulations Mary Lou! It’s been such a pleasure both getting to know and learn from you over the past number of years. Best of luck in this next exciting phase of your life!

— Walker Coppedge

Mary Lou Bates is truly a force of nature. An example of professional wisdom, dedication, and commitment in the field of college admissions, Mary Lou has led, mentored, and inspired literally thousands. On a personal level, Mary Lou has a wicked sense of humor, is a devoted friend, creates a sense of adventure in every “coming together,” and is a model of womanhood, motherhood, and peoplehood as she inspires, encourages and empowers all of those who are fortunate enough to share her path, if only for a small portion of her magnificent journey. Mary Lou, go forth and continue your mission as you embrace new worlds and carry on with those you have so lovingly created around you. A toast to your future and to your legacy!

— Marjorie Jacobs

You are an inspiration to everyone who knows you. Truly a leader, visionary and icon in the world of college admissions, you will be missed. Never forget our time at FASWWL! Those long meetings were so inspirational!

— Marcia Hunt

You were so supportive of me as a new counselor, and I’m incredibly grateful to have counted you as a friend over my 27 year (so far) career! I’ve always loved talking with you and admired your frankness, your common sense, and the way you lead from the heart. Congrats on your retirement and best wishes for some exciting new adventures!

— Dana Boocock Crowell

It has been such a privilege to be one of your cabinet colleagues in my first two years at Skidmore. I will miss your Skidmore insights, our monthly lunches at Eddie F’s, our work together with the Student Life and Admissions Board Committee, and much more. I wish you the best in retirement and do hope we can squeeze in an occasional Eddie F’s visit :o)

— Adrian Bautista

Wishing you all the very best in the next chapter of your life. Thank you for all that you have done for us and the greater Skidmore community. You are truly a trailblazer! Sabrina came to Skidmore in early decision and you and your team saw something in her. She came in as a “shy” person and graduated from Skidmore as a “young lady” full of ambition and wisdom. She is graduating from Fordham Law School in June 2023 and joining a law firm thereafter. Sabrina credits you for all your valuable insight, help and guidance during her time at Skidmore. With all our best wishes,

— The Das Family

I’m sorry that I can’t make it. Here is my tribute: Congratulations on a job well done. Your impact on the field has been tremendous. Thank you for your dedication to increasing access to education and to recruiting the young people who will save the world. Your work is incredibly important work that is not recognized nearly as much as it should be. It takes a powerful, meticulous, and open mind to lead for so long. We will continue to learn from your contributions for decades to come. Brava!

— Mich Harvey

Congratulations on your well-deserved retirement. What a career and what a legacy you have left to so many of us. I met you my very first day of my college admission career in August of 1992, at Summer Institute. It took less than that week to catch the bug and know that this would be more than a job—largely based on the energy, enthusiasm and passion that you and the other mentors shared with us. I wanted in! That was 30+ years ago and we’re still both going strong!! And getting to know two of your amazing sons along the way has been so great —as they were just little boys when I met them way back when. Best wishes for a healthy, happy and RELAXING retirement. Cheers to the sun always shining, a good book ready to read, and a bottle of wine nearby. Enjoy! Much love,

— Heidi Green

You have been a gift to Skidmore for almost five decades, and the College, the Board, our students and your colleagues are all the better because of you. I have always been in awe of your ability to be an incredible relationship-builder, respected leader among your peers around the country as well as at Skidmore, team player, and someone who always looks at the glass as half full. It is so rare to be so totally committed to an institution that you’ve stayed for all of your adult life. You are an inspiration to countless individuals, including me. Enjoy every moment and memory of your newfound time. You have certainly earned it!

With gratitude and admiration,

— Linda Toohey

One of the ways NFL coaches measure their impact is via the “coaching tree,” the subsequent generation of coaches who worked for the OG Coach. In the world of college admissions and college counseling, Mary Lou Bates’s coaching tree is a spreading oak-a full blown, decadesold live oak (I’m from the South) and she has shaped the careers of many, many people in this profession. But above and beyond Mary Lou’s venerable coaching tree, she set the standard for kindness, warmth, honesty, and general humanity. In a world that so often seems to lack those traits, Mary Lou Bates stood as a titan who modeled the best of what the profession can be, the best of what ALL of us can be.

— Steve Soud

Very early on in my career, I learned that there was an all-star team of admissions deans-people who were great leaders because they had integrity, cared deeply about students and families, and managed to do so with a sense of joy. Mary Lou’s name was one of the first names I heard associated with this mythical team. “You will want to work for her someday.” Yes, I’ve spent a career wanting to do that, and while the opportunity never presented itself, I’ve been inspired by her work, have appreciated the multitudes she has mentored, and have been lucky enough to spend time with Mary Lou and witness her influence on many. Our profession has been blessed.

— Peter Jennings

There are very few who can claim to have earned as much respect in our profession as Mary Lou, either because they did not give themselves so fully to this singular pursuit over a period of almost fifty years... or because they did not welcome the challenges of leadership she has accepted at the local, regional, and national level...or they lacked the commitment to embrace change and stand up for what they believe to be fair and just... or they didn’t have the creativity to bring together people the way she can and has. NYSACAC has its Summer Institute because of her, thousands can claim Skidmore as their alma mater, and she has colleagues all over the world. And, those of us who benefitted from Mary Lou’s mentorship, like me, will think of her model of professionalism, her pride in her family, her sense of humor, and her kindness as we look back on her career.

Enjoy your well-earned retirement, and know what a difference you have made in so many ways, to so many people personally and professionally, which is all any of us can hope to do in our life’s work.

— Jane Mathias

Mary Lou is someone I’ve always admired because she’s been able to synthesize all of the qualities I think are needed to be successful in this profession. She has a keen sense of purpose and a well-developed sense of humor, is both student-focused and attentive to Skidmore’s institutional needs, and someone with a wealth of experience who is always looking ahead and seeking to innovate. You can’t go wrong aspiring to be like Mary Lou.

— Heather Beveridge

Congratulations on your retirement and thank you for your 25+ years of advocacy for applicants from Oakwood School, many of whom who went on to become devoted Skidmore alumni. From my first year of college counseling back in 1997, you have been generous and inclusive, funny and warm, devoted and accessible. I always looked forward to our conversations and impromptu meetings at professional development events where you had an Emma Willard update and/or a wonderful book recommendation. I will miss seeing your face in the Oakwood college counseling office and moving your rental car (full of discarded coffee cups) when parking was scarce and a room full of seniors were waiting to see you. You gave so much heart and intelligence to the world of college admission, and served as such a fine example to the generations bringing up the rear. I hope that you enjoy a fantastic retirement filled with leisurely visits with grandchildren, travel, excellent health, and even more books! Lots of love,

— Melissa Palmer, Oakwood School

Thanks so much for hiring me in 2000. It’s been a life—changing, wonderful experience.

— Matt Cohen

You are the best! Enjoy not commuting and start playing golf with the boys!!

— Laura McConkey

What a woman! What a career!

— Leslie Brennan North

While I received my degree at Skidmore, I learned what I needed to know in life from working with Mary Lou in the Admissions Office. There’s a reason why folks who have worked with Mary Lou Bates continue to find success and joy after moving on! Thank you, Mary Lou, from the bottom of my heart.

— Nat Smitobol

You have been an inspiration and role model to many in our field. You worked hard and played hard. Hope to stay in contact during your next episode.

— Bonnie and Ted

You are one of a handful of people who have made significant contributions to Skidmore, transforming the College I never could imagine 50 years ago. Bruce and I thank you from the bottom of our hearts for your tireless hard work and wish you all the best in your well-deserved retirement.

— Judy and Bruce Eissner

You are a model to us all, especially to working women. On your shoulders, many of us are elevated into leadership positions in college admissions and college counseling. You demonstrated that it is possible to balance a demanding job with a rich family life. Thank you so much for inspiring so many! We will miss your good cheer, care for others—especially students—and professionalism. Your leadership is legendary, and Skidmore is the amazing school it is today in large part because of your steady leadership in admissions. What a legacy! Enjoy your newfound freedom, Mary Lou! We love you!

XOXO

— Rhody

Mary Lou’s rare combination of intellect, energy, generosity, and professionalism, sustained over many decades, has provided Skidmore with extraordinary leadership in one of its most critical and successful administrative areas. Skidmore’s dramatic progress as a national leader in higher education begins with its admissions experiences, and more than anyone Mary Lou has shaped, sustained, and inspired their many excellences. ML, Skidmore owes you a huge debt of gratitude! Warmest best wishes upon your retirement,

— Dave Marcell

You have been a wonderful mentor to me for so many years. I was so fortunate to have learned from the best in our profession. Your dedication to our work with students was so inspiring. Wishing you only the best in this next chapter of your life! Thanks,

— Lisa Rinaolo—Johnson

Mary Lou, you’ve always been my hero! Love,

— MJ (Mary Jane Casavant)

There are no colleagues more generous with their time or more caring for others in the profession than Mary Lou. Twenty five years ago, I contemplated a move from prep school to college admissions and sent out an inquiry to just a few colleges. Mary Lou was gracious in response before I ever met her and has proven a wonderful mentor throughout my career. I will miss our car rides together for sure —my drive in the evenings, hers in the day.

— Matt Malatesta

Throughout my 20+ years at Cate, you have served as a mentor and source of guidance. I’ve always appreciated our conversations and the opportunity to tap into your experience as a college admissions professional and as a mom who has juggled many responsibilities. Thank you for all that you do and the great work you have done with countless students and families over the years! Hoping to see you in the fall for dinner, lunch, or coffee when you return to Santa Barbara! With appreciation and gratitude,

— Margot Dorion

So wish I could be there and join the Skidmore family and fellow admirers as you are honored and your years of service recognized. The accolades you receive have been earned, are well deserved, and fully warranted. The scope and value of your influence and leadership in helping Skidmore achieve its place among leading institutions cannot be overstated. You have been a consummate admissions professional, and it has been my privilege and good fortune to know you.

— Spike Gummere

There is a lot to be said about THE Mary Lou Bates, but what stands out in my mind is that no matter where we were, whether it be her office, a chance meeting around campus, or at a conference across the country, she always engaged with me as if I was the only person in the room. She always made me feel like an equal. For someone who has been in the field for as long as she has, that is saying something. Enjoy your retirement, Mary Lou!

— Aaron Ray

There is no space between Mary Lou and Skidmore. She has modeled the college’s essential qualities for decades: selfless service, tender care for others, and eagerness to meet new challenges (and, sometime, kerfuffles). She represents all that is best about the college. We will miss her. Her legacy, however, will always be more precious than rubies.

— Grace Burton and Ron Seyb

How well I remember one of my first conversations with Mary Lou! We were attending a meeting somewhere in the Boston area, both mothers of young children. What started as a professional conversation quickly drifted into the personal. Mary Lou was a tad ahead of me with her family. Her sage advice to me about work/life balance (although I’m not sure we knew that label at the time) was so helpful. We stayed in touch over the years, always greeting one another with genuine affection. We hold friends and memories of friends in common. Thinking about Skidmore without Mary Lou at the helm is difficult. Mary Lou: you have been an incredible leader, colleague, friend to so many. May all your days ahead be filled with good health, adventure, the continued love of family and friends, all so richly deserved. With the fondest regards,

— Gail Berson

When Mary Lou joined the Admissions staff, Skidmore had just begun admitting men and the new campus was actually new. Arguably, no one has played a more sustained and central role in the College’s growth and transformation. She has done so with her trademark combination of keen intellect, high standards, winning modesty about her own talents, and sense of humor and joy that make her possibly the planet’s most fun person to be with. She’s both respected and beloved—not an easy thing to pull off. Kathleen and I join everyone in wishing her a richly deserved happy and fulfilling retirement.

— Larry Lichtenstein

WE LOVE YOU MIMI!!!

— Alex Bates

WOW, I cannot believe Mary Lou has made the difficult decision to retire. I have enjoyed interacting with Mary Lou during my tenure at Marlborough School in Los Angeles. Thank you for being so kind, thoughtful, and knowledgeable. You have always been a guiding light for me and I know for many others in the world of college admissions, too. You know how to treat people, and each and every interaction I’ve had with you made me feel seen and important, thank you. Mary Lou, you are an outstanding individual and I will miss seeing you on our campus, but I know this next chapter will be another great one. Thanks for the memories, and in the words of one of my favorite writers, Dr. Maya Angelou, “Life is not measured by the number of breaths you take but by the moments that take your breath away.” Each of my interactions with you have taken my breath away because of your warm and accepting personality. Thank you for being YOU! Happy retirement my friend.

Cheers,

— BK Smith

I met Mary Lou in 1974 when she joined the Admissions staff to take my place when I left to move to Maine. Our friendship has grown steadily as I’ve watched her soar while she represented Skidmore and I became increasingly involved as an alumna. What she has accomplished is not remarkable to me, as I know her strengths and her personality, but it is awe-inspiring. As Mary Lou grew in the job, Skidmore grew with her and because of her. Mary Lou is greatly responsible for our esteemed place as one of the best colleges in the U.S. Thank you, my friend. My admiration for you has no limits, my gratitude is deep and broad, and our lovely friendship will forever give me joy. How fortunate I am to have known you all these (nearly 50!) years.

— Sibyl Haley ’71

I’ll never forget the day in 2006 in the middle of March when I opened my mailbox and opened my “yes” letter from Skidmore. As I opened my admit package to a handwritten note from Mary Lou welcoming me to the Skidmore community, I knew it was the place for me. What I didn’t know at the time was how integral to my life and career Mary Lou would become. Not only did she see my potential and believe in my abilities, but she also served as a mentor and friend, guiding me through my professional journey and offering invaluable advice and support every step of the way. I can safely say that my life would be completely different had it not been for the offer of admission and years of mentorship and friendship that have followed.

Thank you for everything, Mary Lou! Thank you for shaping the community that is so dear to my heart and for being a professional mentor to me. Skidmore won’t be the same without you! May your next chapter be filled with joy, fulfillment, and endless creative thought. Love,

— Becca Larson ’10

I won’t recognize the field of college admissions without you! Your career at Skidmore, your impact on so many students and colleagues, your extensive involvement in professional associations beyond Saratoga Springs—it’s impossible to summarize your contributions and the positive influence you’ve had. I am grateful to have been your colleague in upstate New York through SUCH great presentations to students and counselors, through NYSACAC events, and through our shared time on the Common App Board. I’m always delighted to see you, to learn from you, and laugh with you. May those moments not end with your retirement! In fact, while I’ll miss you on the 22nd, I hope to see you soon thereafter, and always when in town, at the track or the Surrey! Hope you enjoy all the well-deserved time away from admissions to be with family and friends, and celebrate a truly remarkable career and legacy. Well done my friend!

— Mary Hill

Mary Lou was my mother’s friend before she was mine and that meant that she was one of the first people I met when I joined NYSACAC in 1997. From the very beginning, Mary Lou has been a mentor whose guidance has impacted my career beyond measure. I am lucky enough to have many memories of time spent with Mary Lou, but one stands out. Years ago, we presented together on a NYSACAC panel called “Admissions and Counseling: A Family Business.” My mother was there and so was Mary Lou’s son, Jeff. It was more laughs and storytelling, but we did show attendees that our profession is something to be treasured and passed to new generations — whether they are related to us or not. It is hard to imagine Skidmore College without Mary Lou, just as it is hard to list all the ways she has influenced the college, our profession, and our future. Congratulations on your retirement, Mary Lou!

— Lisa Sohmer

Mary Lou has been a quintessential professional in our field. She has impacted many younger admissions professionals to stay in the field and make a difference in young people’s lives. When I think of Mary Lou Bates, I think of pure class and kindness. I’m so disappointed I can’t be at the celebration this evening. However, I wish Mary Lou the very best in her retirement!

— Kent Rinehart

My first job out of college was as an assistant director of admissions under the leadership of Mary Lou. She took a chance on me as a new college grad, and I thank her for the positive leadership and work environment that she promoted at Skidmore. I learned a lot under her leadership and grew as a professional in my three years at Skidmore. I enjoyed my time with the admissions team and am grateful for the mentorship and opportunities I was able to have to propel me forward in my career now as a college counselor. I recall many wonderful holiday gatherings in the office and conferences together which were always a memorable and exciting time. Wishing Mary Lou all the best as she moves ahead into retirement, and I thank her for paving the way for women in higher education. Sorry to miss the celebration!

— Jade Schult

To say Mary Lou Bates is the epitome of the finest the college and university admission profession has ever had to offer is still an understatement. Mary Lou’s work ethic, integrity, and her genuine desire to help others is second to none. In a field where, due to its demanding nature and excessive working hours, it is not at all uncommon for those early in their admissions career to be a recent college graduate—after all, they still have the energy to get through crazy travel schedules, along with the long days and nights that the job typically entails. Maybe that is the case, but it is also true that after just about 50 years, no one—no one—will out hustle Mary Lou Bates. No one will get more done and done well on any given day than Mary Lou Bates. No one, more than Mary Lou Bates, will be ready on a moment’s notice to do even more if it means she can be helpful to someone else. In addition to all of this, anyone who knows Mary Lou for even five minutes knows she has a magnificent sense of humor and she is a true joy to be around. Many states run lotteries with tremendous amounts of money going to the grand prize winners. For any of us in admissions who have had the privilege of working with Mary Lou Bates, congratulations! We have won the lottery for the admissions profession. There is no better grand prize than being able to say that you have had the honor working with Mary Lou Bates. It is a prize that will pay tremendous professional and personal dividends every day of your career.

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Gary Ross

My first “real” job out of college was working in the Skidmore Admissions Office. I have held several jobs since then, but even after all this time I still refer to Mary Lou as “boss lady.” This was the OG (original boss lady) and had such a profound impact on my life.

At 22, how lucky was I to get my professional training and mentoring from one of the giants in the admissions field? It was here that I honed communication and organizational skills, not to mention establishing a strong work ethic. No matter where I have worked since, the foundation that I established by learning from Mary Lou has remained. Mary Lou shared her admissions experiences and gave me both personal and professional advice. In watching her example, I learned how to become a professional woman. Mary Lou has established such a reputation that even to this day, more than 20 years after I left admissions. Anytime I mention that I worked at Skidmore, someone will inevitably say something like, “You worked with Mary Lou? She’s one of the best.”

Indeed, she is. Her accomplishments and long-standing reputation in this field is a testament to her creativity, dedication, and hard work. She helped blaze a trail for many who came after her. Sending all my best wishes as she begins this new chapter. She leaves behind an impressive and impeccable legacy. It was an honor and privilege to get to work and to know MWB!! Love,

— Roz Estrada

We have enjoyed Mary Lou’s kind attention and attendance at our annual Southern California Case Studies, making her bright and cheerful trek to Ojai, California, for many years. Without fail, each year our students have chosen to include Skidmore College in their college lists undoubtedly through Mary Lou’s proud description of the school and its surroundings. We wish her all the best in her well-deserved celebration and in the years of upcoming travel— just for fun this time! All the best,

— Jill Manfredi, administrative assistant, The Thacher School

As a professional, mentor, colleague and friend, you have been a beacon of light and laughter. You’ve inspired and buoyed me for decades. Thank you for all that you’ve been and done for the world of college admissions. I cherish our friendship and wish you all the very best as you (finally!!) retire. XOX

— Holly Burks Becker

Mary Lou Bates is one of icons of our admissions profession. She has steered the enrollment fortunes of Skidmore compellingly with fervor, fairness, and finesse while always remaining open, cheerful, and candid with her colleagues, school, and college alike. She has mentored countless admissions counselors, many of whom have gone on to senior leadership positions. And, throughout her long tenure, many of us have come to cherish Mary Lou, not just as a comrade in arms, but as a friend.

— Larry Momo

SO sorry to miss this wonderful and fitting tribute to Mary Lou. I first met her when I attended admissions rookie camp at Skidmore (quite a few years ago!). I feel so blessed to have known her throughout my career and to have hosted her many times at the high schools where I led the college counseling team. I remember once when she was on a college dean panel at Choate: a number of parents told me that the program was good, “but Dean Bates could have run the whole program on her own” — and they were right! She combines wisdom, vision, and humor, and exudes a sense of calm in a way that reassures everyone in the room. I’ve also been privileged to have been colleagues with Jeff Bates at Rye Country Day School and also to have hosted Alex Bates for admissions events over the years at RCDS and Dwight-Englewood. What a wonderful tribute to her that her children followed in her footsteps into the field of education and counseling. Although I can’t be here to honor Mary Lou in person, I wish her ALL the best for a fulfilling retirement, and hope to share a glass of wine with her in the not-too-distant future!

— Rosita Fernandez-Rojo, retired Dean/director of college counseling at Choate Rosemary Hall, Rye Country Day School, and Dwight-Englewood School

A consummate professional in every sense: leadership, relationship building, dedication to college ideals and goals, critical thinking, collegiality, and of course deep knowledge of her craft. Mary Lou was an absolute and constant pleasure to deal with, and a true inspiration.

— Paul Calhoun

The Ballad Of Mary Lou Bates

(With apologies to Ricky Nelson)

Hello, Mary Lou.

It’s July ’74. Sweet Mary Lou, Skidmore welcomes you.

Who knew, Mary Lou, What you would start? You were so young, Mary Lou, And so smart!

You arrived when times were dark. At Skidmore you have made your mark. Oh, Mary Lou, we never will forget. You kept your eyes on the prize; The College grew in strength and size. We will be forever in your debt.

We say, “dear, Mary Lou, We love the charts That document The magic that you do.”

We know, Mary Lou, Admissions’ an art, To your team You ably impart. Your creativity mattering, Enrollment records shattering. Mary Lou, you calmly led the way. You built a team that all admire. Now you get to retire. And, we are here to say:

“Goodbye, Mary Lou. You’re in our hearts. Sweet Mary Lou, How much we will miss you.

We know, Mary Lou, We have to part! So, goodbye, Mary Lou, Goodbye heart!”

With love and admiration

— Susan Gottlieb Beckerman – Class of ’67