ETIQUESTIONS

Dr. Barbara Baggerly-Hinojosa

I recently received an invitation that asked for an RSVP. Do the hosts really expect that? It is a lot of trouble, and I am really not sure if I can make the event or not.

When an RSVP is requested, it is very important to respond. An RSVP serves as a planning tool for the host to determine the amount of food, seating, place settings, flowers, etc. It is a good idea to immediately commit to either attending or not and letting the hostess know. If you do not RSVP, then the hostess is not expecting you to attend. Find some beautiful stationery and send out your RSVP. It is important!

Tea Parties are a lot of fun, for sure! You ask such a good question because I think many of us think we should stick our pinkie finger when we are drinking tea. However, the actual etiquette is to keep your pinkie finger in and hold the cup by the handle. Additionally, you always want to keep your cup with the saucer when you are drinking tea, so hold your saucer with one hand and your teacup with the other...pinkie finger in.go to the bathroom before reaching for your phone. plan accordingly so that they can be present on the big day!

I agree with you; we do have some amazing restaurants in the RGV. While some places are still short staffed, and it may take a while for the wait staff to attend to you fully, always remember to let the staff do their jobs. Don’t stack or move your plates. Patiently wait for someone to do that for you. Enjoying a good meal at a nice place is about patience and grace. Enjoy the extra time chatting with your friends or family dining with you, and always show appreciation to the wait staff.