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A Moment of Inspiration - To the Mom Who Doesn’t Always Believe in Herself
By: Laura Spiegel – Paint Her in Color
We mamas don’t always believe in ourselves. We don’t trust our intuition. We second guess whether we are good enough, strong enough, or just plain “enough.” We question ourselves far more than we question others. We are sometimes our own worst enemy.
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For years, I worked with doctors and nurses who were trying to help people fit the day-to-day management of chronic illness into their busy and hectic lives. Their biggest stumbling block? When people didn’t believe that what they did really mattered.
They could have all the skills in the world, but if they didn’t believe that they could “do it” – or if they didn’t believe that their actions would make any sort of meaningful difference in their lives – they often failed. It’s like that old Henry Ford quote. “Whether you think you can or you think you can’t…you’re right.”
How many other mamas can relate?
Some days I feel like an imposter in my own life. Can I really raise my daughter to be both diligent in her self-care and unrestrained by her health? Will my son grow to resent me for the allowances I grant his sister? Should I even be writing this article, or should I be spending this time with my family?
Why do we do this, mamas?
Why do we reserve some of our harshest words – our deepest criticisms – for ourselves? Why do we resist reaching out for help when we need someone to lend a hand or lift us up? Why don’t we just accept that life is messy and that we are doing the best we can?
What we do matters, mamas, and we are making a difference every day.
Changing feeding tubes. Changing diapers. Challenging doctors. Challenging preconceived notions. Counting pills. Counting bills. Calculating insulin doses. Calculating insurance payments. Dressing kids. Dressing PICC lines. Doing therapy. Doing homework. Weeping, laughing, shouting, soothing, smiling, fearing, hoping, planning, and all the while, loving. Building memories, building bridges. Shaping futures, shaping lives.
We are doing a good job. We are loved. And above all, we are not alone.
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